30 Times People Hilariously Failed To Notice That Someone Was Obviously Hitting On Them
However perfect or imperfect your lives are, dear Pandas, there’s one thing that unites us—regrets. These come in as many flavors as Bertie Bott’s Every Flavor Beans, but probably the nastiest of all are regrets related to missed relationship opportunities. It’s sad and hilarious at the same time to realize how many times people missed out on love and passionate kisses because they naively misread the situation.
New York-based comedian David Drake shared how he completely didn’t get the very obvious hint back in a high school sleepover that the girl he liked was trying to seduce him by tickling him. He only realized the truth later and keeps thinking about the lost opportunity. His Twitter followers then shared their own similar experiences, and the combined awkwardness and secondhand embarrassment are so big, you might just say ‘oh no, no, no, no, no, no no!’ aloud, Pandas.
Scroll down for the most powerful romantic situation misreads, upvote the ones that got to you the most, and let us know in the comments if you’ve ever not gotten heavy hints that someone was into you. When you’re done with this list, Bored Panda has another post about obvious hints that people failed to notice right here.

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Guys might still not get the hint cause a girl telling you directly that she wants to f*@K U might be so unbelievable to some they think it is a prank.
Totally. Late at night studying for an exam a girl I liked said 'Kiss me passionately'. I thought it was so direct she must be messing with me, so I said 'I think you've had too much coffee'. It killed the moment, and we were never both single at the same time again.
Load More Replies...The reason you did not get the hint is because you really are a decent guy who does not sexualize everybody and everthing someone says. You are not stupid, you are one of the nice guys. The world needs more of those types. It certainly will be a safer place for women. I can only praise this kind of naivity.
THESE are the true "nice guys", not the whiny ones who insist they're nice but have all kinds of expectations.
Load More Replies...I'm not a guy and it happens to me once in a while so it's not only ladies thing, heh. I'm unable to read any signal until it's too late.
If you want to f**k us grab our hand and out it in your boobs or coochie.
So true, we are very slow. As a guy, if you are not use to getting hit on, most clues go right over our heads and out the window... My wife says that I am the dumbest person that she knows when it comes to picking up on clues... I am.
This is true. If the universe worked this way though, we'd be living in some sort of weird utopia!
Load More Replies..."We're in the same TYPE of boat, you're in your boat over there and I'm in my boat over here..."
It was crowded. Maybe there wasn't enough room to rotate the hips and generate enough power.
Load More Replies...I would have done the same thing so don't feel too bad about it.
Comedian David’s post got more than 95.4k likes and was retweeted several thousand times. But the biggest victory wasn’t the impressive numbers. No. The victory was getting people to open up about the moments of regret that still haunt them to this very day. And let’s not forget the comedy gold hidden between the lines of these tweets.
The thread is perfect proof that far more people have the types of regrets that sometimes keep us awake at night than you’d think.
To all the people commenting that he should’ve gone for it, just reverse the roles. Make it some random guy knocking on a girl’s door and saying the same thing—-where saying it didn’t sound safe then shutting the door on him would also be exactly the right thing to do. If that’s not enough, just imagine if she was mentally unbalanced and he had invited her into his room, and therefore into his life, and she then assumed they were in love and proceeded to stalk him and make his life hell—-which can also happen if you reverse the roles. In this case, he acted appropriately.
Why would you send a girl out or any person anyway in the cold alone at night?
I'm sorry about my friend, he's a little slow. The town is back that way
Load More Replies...Flirting with someone is one thing, but it’s also important to consider where the relationship might go afterward. Previously, Bored Panda spoke with dating and relationship expert Dan Bacon about how to tell if the person you met is someone that you would like to marry.
“When you meet your wife, you know you want to be with her and only her. There’s no question in your mind about that. However, that doesn’t mean that you know you want to marry her from day one though,” he explained to us.
Yeah. Cause McDonald's or other fast food restaurants are known for customer services...
I know this wasn't intentional but costumer services. Especially having the mascot a clown makes this 10x funnier.
Load More Replies...Ok, this one time is a missed hint... Not "obvious" but dubious at most.
boy even i know they don't do this this is a big forehead slap moment
that's why you join a cult, so you don't have to die alone.
Load More Replies...Well, you’re **definitely* still single!
Load More Replies...I was around 14/15yrs old working at a retail store. This girl I friended (who was I think maybe 17 or so and gorgeous) wanted to go back to her place for lunch. I said "sure". We get there and her place was amazing. Unfortunately, she lost me when we went into the basement and I saw she had a video game cabinet. TWO in fact. Needless to say, we went back to work with me only jabbering about how cool her house was. What? I was a 14 year old boy. LOL
"No, I've seen them" bahahahaha this dude. "Wanna come in and have sex?" Nah, I had sex before, I'm good. Edit: Just to clarify, I wasn't any smarter when I was younger, I've got a couple of those stories myself, but this was so much more than just a hint come onnn lol
At this rate, girls will need to start saying. "I want to have sex with you right now" instead of very obvious hints
Omg some men are lucky that so many women are straight and have no other options.
“You know you are ready to marry a woman if you have never thought of breaking up with her for real. I say ‘for real’ because sometimes a couple will have fights in the early days and threaten a breakup, or temporarily think about breaking up in the heat of the moment, but then change their mind,” the expert noted.
“It’s only a problem if a guy secretly wishes he had a different woman, regularly imagines breaking up with his girlfriend and falling in a love with a new woman, or worries that his girlfriend probably isn’t the right woman for him,” Dan told Bored Panda.
After I read this I hug a chair in my room for 5 minutes with my hands arround it. Than I kissed it and it kissed back. After 5 minutes of huggin even chairs are kissing back. But we can never know if she'd get mad. You are right... :)
She would probably have been mad, which is understandable after a sexual assault.
some of these are innocently adorable, you my dude, are dumb as a box of rocks. THREE TIMES???
....and the tenacity on her end! She must have been thinking, "Let me try this, he's sure to get it this time"
Load More Replies...le sigh…. I remember beautiful young men like him in my art classes; they were not put on Earth for ladies, but it didn’t stop us from trying!
Wait, if you were just taking pictures of her then why were you nude also? And you probably wrecked her self esteem
I know you did not just guilt someone for not having sex
Load More Replies...And us girls, as we think it was SO OBVIOUS and, therefore, have been rejected, never try again because we think that was your polite way to reject us... :(
I’ve been thinking this throughout the whole thread 😂 yep!
Load More Replies...Notice this guys: he went to grab another beer, and she LEFT. She didn’t get pissed off, call him names, insult him, or use violence to force him to have sex with her. She. Just. LEFT. Now that’s how you do that. Memorize this and do the exact same thing from now on. Added bonus: if you pass it on to all your guy friends, you can end all the articles about the horrible things men do to women who reject them. Because none of them will happen if you just take the rejection and leave
Yeah, right... A house party... When you were in high school... It's totally a thing... Not just in bad movies from the 80s... /s
“In cases like those, she’s not the one for him and he will almost certainly not be willing to do what it takes to make the marriage work in the long run, which will result in cheating or a divorce at some point.”
For the dating expert, marriage means finding the right person to be with for life. He also shared with us that it’s vital not to give in to peer pressure.
So, I have said 'time to go' in similar situations, but massively coz I'm freaking out and feeling nervous. Is this what's happening here or are these boys really that clueless?
Anyone notice how all these posts are from dudes? Some are jerks and some are oblivious. Amazing!
I almost had a story but every time a girl came onto me, let’s just say I seized the opportunity; even when I was already involved with someone else. I understand that doesn’t make me a great guy and I’ve since learned (decades ago) that even though I was popular with women (definitely due to my personality than my looks) I had low self esteem. Once I realized I was worthy of love and how to appreciate the love of one woman, I never needed to stray to make myself feel better about myself. Been married 26 years and never, ever strayed & would never today.
This could be the most obvious one of all this stories... Oh man at least be a concern gentleman and see if it is benign...
Yes. I hate when it happens. Why oh why there is no game called strip - hide and seek...
“If you’re going to get married, it has to be with the right girl. You shouldn’t ever marry just for the sake of it, to impress family or friends, or to do what others are doing,” he warned.
“A family member of mine got married because his friends were all getting married, so he followed along with their lead. He then ended up going through a painful divorce 5 years into his marriage after having two children. He and his ex-wife still aren’t on good terms to this day because she is bitter about what happened.”
A Gentleman is what you are. A dumb, stupid, idiotic, moron of a gentleman, but a gentleman nevertheless.
Then let’s encourage such gentlemanly behavior, instead of backhandedly insulting it.
Load More Replies...Because what kind of creep would a guy have to be to assume the payback for a minor favor would be sex?
In all honestly, you could still ask for a kiss and just mention that if they did not like that idea, you would just be ok with a coffee. I have to admit, i'd never have the gut to do be this bold, but that would still be considered decent.
Load More Replies...And even after first two coffees you did not awake the situation. Apparently cafein doesnt work on you...
A part of the story is clearly missing. Where is the so-called "obvious hint"?
This is bad advice in general though even if it worked for them. I've met many guys who think I'm just playing "hard to get" when I'm really not interested. If you don't say yes it's generally a no, and you should take it that way (even if a clear "no" is better).
You are right. On the other hand, asking for the clear "no" wouldn't have been a bad move in their situation. "Would you mind if I kissed you now?" rather than going for it. Sometimes people really might not be interested, other times they might not be confident enough to act on just a hint and therefore rationalize the hint into something more innocent as all the above examples. Just asking straight, scary as it may be, will avoid any misunderstanding and perhaps lead to something nice... Or at least to clearer boundaries.
Load More Replies...Sometimes you women need to be just a little more direct. Some of us guys were raised with manners and taught respect for women and don't automatically assume your hitting on us.
They're not a woman- Their username is literally "another enby named sam"
Load More Replies...So sexual assault is ok if the perpetrator is a female and the victim is a male? That's sus...
So she asked him to stop, and he stopped? There is nothing wrong with that, you sick bastards!
Application to heaven, it's a long vetting process
Load More Replies...Most of the teenagers would pass out after hear crush and hot tub in same sentence... And here you had declare yourself the king of the friend zone. Cudos :)
You are rude and vulgar. Plus, her statement could've been legitimate. Furthermore, if she was offering herself to him, she should've just said "You wanna have sex with me here in your car?"
Load More Replies...The assumption underlying many of these is that all guys should be DTF anytime a woman wants to, even if she's a stranger. That seems kind of gross.
Agreed. It's a little disturbing that the idea behind this thread is that guys are stupid if one of these scenarios goes over their head because it's not something they're thinking about or interested in with this particular woman. Don't get me wrong, some of these are funny but some of these I'm like, if he's not interested he's allowed to not be interested. It doesn't make him stupid.
Load More Replies...Ok, i got to say he sounds quite rude. How do you bring home someone, let them sit alone and make food only for yourself?
When you don't tell the entire story, people can't understand it... There are too many plot holes so it does not make sense.
Load More Replies...I went over to my now ex's apartment one evening around 6:30 pm. A bunch of us were going to go to a party later that night. I show up and ask my ex what he wants to do for dinner. He tells me he and his roommate just finished eating some pizza they ordered from [my favorite place]. Dude did s**t like that ALL THE TIME.
This will be your ghost and haunt you forever when you try to sleep...
"Seni aptal çocuk!" That's "you silly boy" in Turkish... There read this...
Girls come lots of different ways. I hear the Kama Sutra is good to researching them
Load More Replies...He should have asked her why she didn't ask him out if that was what she wanted. I think we are long past the days when only men could ask women out. If you want something to happen in your life take some initiative and make it happen.
Well, if she is disappointed she should have made the first move. Don't just wait without even giving hints.
Yeah, I once had a crush call me while I was playing FIFA at uni with some friends and she wanted to hang out so I invited her to come chill with us while we played FIFA. I don't think she enjoyed it. Lol. Oh young niave me....so disappointing.
She just needed someone to help her look l for something she had lost.
Uhh, no, this could've been legitimate. Once, my family had a party. I was in my early 20s and a virgin. My 2 single siblings and I were friends with a married couple in their late 20s. The wife was elsewhere in the party while my sister and me were speaking with the husband. My sister and me were saying to the husband that our bedroom is so cool, with the walls full of pictures of singers, and we asked him did he want to see it. He got all embarrassed and said "I don't think your parents would like that." My sister and me are like, "Oh no, it's ok, my parents won't mind." He said, "No, I better not." My sister and me were so innocent that we were like, "Why do he start acting all nervous all of a sudden?"
So "upperclassman" means she was a junior or senior in high school. I'm not positive, but I think your comment was implying social-economic class?
Load More Replies...You are right. You did the right thing. And there was absolutely no other alternative.
I can understand you don't want to see a lady in the tub. But man... A swiming cat is once in a life time scene...
Very cute girl that I thought was out of my league left a very flirty message along with her phone number in my yearbook. 15 years later my wife and I are looking at our yearbooks and she sees that message. We've talked about previous bf and gf and she says I don't remember this girl how long did you date? I said we didn't she wasn't in to me. Wife laughed and said read that note again. wow that one went over my head
Guilty of something similar. Got off a bus 2 stops early at my stop rather than escorting the girl I really fancied all the way into town to make sure she got her bus, because I was meeting friends for a LAN party that night. And they didn't show up. Though it worked out OK in the end as reader, I married her (many many years afterwards when I woke the heck up!)
As someone in that grade: ew ew ew ew ew ew ew ew CALL THE PRINCIPAL ew ew ew ew ew TELL YOUR PARENTS FOR GOODNESS SAKE!
Nothing happened, nobody expected something to happen, and then she went missing?
Backpacking trip? Friends? Skinny dipping? Yeah, that's a real thing that really happened /s
I like cream pies as well, but the dessert ones. Not the...*ahem*...man-made ones.
Oh, aren't you precious. Ask Google for a Creampie video. ;-)
Load More Replies...Guys - obviously you didn't ~feel~ it in these situations. There's nothing wrong with going home, turning down an invitation from a girl, not getting hints. You were obviously not ready. Don't see it as a "missed chance". You both didn't vibe, and just making out or f*cking just because there's this opportunity is not really cool or manly.
Yea. I kinda had a situation like this. There was a girl in a school course, and they did attendance of all classes every morning, so we only saw eachother there. One morning our eyes met and kept meeting. And we both smiled and blushed. Later that week a friend of hers asked for my number. Which I rejected, since I was so afraid of anyone doing prank calls or fooling with my number, that I didn’t give the number. That was that. I am not that sad though. Around that time I got to know another girl, which I fell in love with 1 1/2 months later, and she became my first girlfriend. We are together 16 years now, and to us we were glad that we actually never had anyone else before us. Sometimes I do this butterfly effect thinking, but my now wife brought me to places (literally and metaphorically) I am sure no one on earth could have achieved that. Also moved countries which might have saved my life, long story. So sometimes it’s just meant not to be?
Load More Replies...Actually I like this a whole lot more than the polar opposite, where a woman can't talk to a guy about the weather without him thinking she is really into him and absolutely wants to do him in the club bathroom right now. Guys, just because you are male doesn't mean you have to jump at every opportunity to get laid or you are somehow "unmanly". As Kaa said, something about the situation obviously didn't work for you, so you subconsciously passed. That is perfectly fine, too!
Given the number of posts about guys who mistake someone being nice for leading them on and then can't take no for an answer, this was wholesomely refreshing.
This is so much better than the creepy "prev in the dms" kinda posts
In most of these it's obvious that the guy didn't want to but felt bad about saying no because it goes against what they "should do/want". I see nothing wrong with a guy just don't want to f**k even if "the whole class was into her" or "she was super hot". It's ok to say no anyway.
Thank you, Veronica! There's this insane notion out there that any guy is going to be dtf whenever there's an opportunity.
Load More Replies...My son is 14 and on the autism spectrum. , I've told him, if he likes a girl, to tell her. "Hey, I like you. I think you're cool" (or whatever similar to that) and then if he doesn't understand her answer to tell her specifically, "Ya know, I'm autistic and don't understand, I genuinely don't want to make you uncomfortable, can you clarify for me, please." Honestly more people need to do this. Males and females and whatever inbetween and ALL ages
Oh boy do I relate to a lot of these. Lol. Sadly, I'm in my 30s and I still find it hard to read signs.
Same but I feel that as women get older they stop trying to flirt like this and are a lot more upfront.
Load More Replies...My best friend had just finished studding to become an electrical engineer and landed a great contract abroad for 3 months. The first night he was away we were hitting the clubs and decided to invite his girlfriend to keep her company. Because of distance she ended up crashing at my place. She came into my room and said, 'I'm not used to sleeping alone, can I get in and cuddle up with you?', because I have the emotion of a paper clip I said yeah. She striped naked, climbed into my bed and shuffled her back into me. After a few minutes she starts moving her backside, rubbing it against me. I said, 'Can you stop moving please, it's really distracting and I'm trying to sleep'. Next day I called my friend so see how he's settled in, he said 'It was had trying to sleep without [girlfriend] with me', I responded with 'I would have thought it was easier, she fidgets all night!' He, knowing me well enough, said, 'Talk me me through last night, from the beginning!'. I felt stupid afterwards.
"Talk me through last night," is an amazingly rational response. I hope you're still friends with this guy.
Load More Replies...Guys - obviously you didn't ~feel~ it in these situations. There's nothing wrong with going home, turning down an invitation from a girl, not getting hints. You were obviously not ready. Don't see it as a "missed chance". You both didn't vibe, and just making out or f*cking just because there's this opportunity is not really cool or manly.
Yea. I kinda had a situation like this. There was a girl in a school course, and they did attendance of all classes every morning, so we only saw eachother there. One morning our eyes met and kept meeting. And we both smiled and blushed. Later that week a friend of hers asked for my number. Which I rejected, since I was so afraid of anyone doing prank calls or fooling with my number, that I didn’t give the number. That was that. I am not that sad though. Around that time I got to know another girl, which I fell in love with 1 1/2 months later, and she became my first girlfriend. We are together 16 years now, and to us we were glad that we actually never had anyone else before us. Sometimes I do this butterfly effect thinking, but my now wife brought me to places (literally and metaphorically) I am sure no one on earth could have achieved that. Also moved countries which might have saved my life, long story. So sometimes it’s just meant not to be?
Load More Replies...Actually I like this a whole lot more than the polar opposite, where a woman can't talk to a guy about the weather without him thinking she is really into him and absolutely wants to do him in the club bathroom right now. Guys, just because you are male doesn't mean you have to jump at every opportunity to get laid or you are somehow "unmanly". As Kaa said, something about the situation obviously didn't work for you, so you subconsciously passed. That is perfectly fine, too!
Given the number of posts about guys who mistake someone being nice for leading them on and then can't take no for an answer, this was wholesomely refreshing.
This is so much better than the creepy "prev in the dms" kinda posts
In most of these it's obvious that the guy didn't want to but felt bad about saying no because it goes against what they "should do/want". I see nothing wrong with a guy just don't want to f**k even if "the whole class was into her" or "she was super hot". It's ok to say no anyway.
Thank you, Veronica! There's this insane notion out there that any guy is going to be dtf whenever there's an opportunity.
Load More Replies...My son is 14 and on the autism spectrum. , I've told him, if he likes a girl, to tell her. "Hey, I like you. I think you're cool" (or whatever similar to that) and then if he doesn't understand her answer to tell her specifically, "Ya know, I'm autistic and don't understand, I genuinely don't want to make you uncomfortable, can you clarify for me, please." Honestly more people need to do this. Males and females and whatever inbetween and ALL ages
Oh boy do I relate to a lot of these. Lol. Sadly, I'm in my 30s and I still find it hard to read signs.
Same but I feel that as women get older they stop trying to flirt like this and are a lot more upfront.
Load More Replies...My best friend had just finished studding to become an electrical engineer and landed a great contract abroad for 3 months. The first night he was away we were hitting the clubs and decided to invite his girlfriend to keep her company. Because of distance she ended up crashing at my place. She came into my room and said, 'I'm not used to sleeping alone, can I get in and cuddle up with you?', because I have the emotion of a paper clip I said yeah. She striped naked, climbed into my bed and shuffled her back into me. After a few minutes she starts moving her backside, rubbing it against me. I said, 'Can you stop moving please, it's really distracting and I'm trying to sleep'. Next day I called my friend so see how he's settled in, he said 'It was had trying to sleep without [girlfriend] with me', I responded with 'I would have thought it was easier, she fidgets all night!' He, knowing me well enough, said, 'Talk me me through last night, from the beginning!'. I felt stupid afterwards.
"Talk me through last night," is an amazingly rational response. I hope you're still friends with this guy.
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