“Neighbors Didn’t Give A Damn About My Sick Dad So I Didn’t Give A Damn About Their Renovation”
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Having good neighbors is a godsend. If you know for a fact that the local community has your back when things get tough, it’s far easier to live with confidence. Though many folks win the social jackpot, others aren’t as lucky. They end up living next to people who only care about themselves—everyone else be damned.
One redditor, user u/n0sek, went viral after revealing how they got revenge against their neighbors who were renovating their home and spreading a bit of chaos. They kept blocking the OP’s sick dad’s driveway, so the Reddit user finally had enough and decided to get teach them a lesson. Check out the petty revenge story below and keep in mind that sometimes, actions really are louder than words.
We got in touch with the author of the viral post, Reddit user u/n0sek, and they were kind enough to tell us more about what happened and shared what their ideal neighbors would be like. Check out Bored Panda’s interview with them below.
Everyone wants to live next to neighbors who respect all of their boundaries. Unfortunately, some people are just too selfish
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A person shared how they decided to take immediate action after their neighbors blocked their dad’s driveway
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The neighbors behaved properly after getting a taste of petty revenge
The author of the post, who lives next to their parents, shared how they got hold of one of the trailers that belonged to their neighbors and dragged them out into the nearby fields in the middle of the night.
This tactic seemed to work. According to the OP, in the past few weeks, their neighbors haven’t dared block anyone’s driveway again.
It’s not like the redditor started by moving trailers and other equipment from the get-go. They had a chat with their neighbors about how important it was that their dad’s driveway isn’t blocked. In fact, they were very reasonable and pointed out that all the equipment needed for the renovation could be left in the driveway during the day while everyone was out.
Unfortunately, things took a turn for the worse after just a few days. Unwilling to tolerate this kind of disrespect, redditor u/n0sek thought that some action would send a clearer message than trying to be diplomatic again.
“At the end of the day, there was a trailer in a place where it did not belong”
Bored Panda wanted to get the author’s thoughts as to why their post made such a big splash on Reddit. “I think the people liked it because it was an everyday incident. Everyone with a driveway or a designated parking spot can relate to getting blocked in/out at some point in their life,” they told us.
“I didn’t expect my story to go through the roof like this. But maybe it got so much attention exactly because everyone can relate to it,” u/n0sek said that the virality of their story took them completely by surprise.
They also believe that how they tackled the problem may have caught the internet’s attention as well. “I did not look for direct eye-to-eye confrontation, did not damage any property, and did not hurt anyone. In the end, there was no harm to anyone in any form,” they explained.
The OP pointed out that they don’t actually know for a fact that their neighbor was unwilling to be considerate toward their dad. “Maybe he forgot to tell the workers he hired or his workers forgot it themself or they ignored it after they got told,” the redditor mused about some of the possible ways how there might have been a breakdown in communication.
“And this might sound harsh, but in the end, I don’t care whose inability was the source of this. At the end of the day, there was a trailer in a place where it did not belong, and that [angered] me,” redditor u/n0sek told Bored Panda.
“I didn’t want to just leave the trailer on the street or put it in front of the door. I clearly wanted to deliver a message without committing a crime. No one besides him gave a [damn] about this trailer standing next to the field around 1.5 km [0.93 miles] away.”
Meanwhile, we were interested in what qualities the redditor values the most in any neighbor. “They are quiet at night and mind their own business,” they shared what the ideal people to live next to would be like.
You have a much better chance of changing your neighbors’ attitudes if they don’t think you’re blaming them
Ideally, nobody would have to resort to getting revenge against the people they live next to. However, we don’t live in an ideal world. But before you start concocting petty revenge plans in the dark, it might be worth talking to the neighbors again. Explain to them just how serious the situation is and how it affects you and your family.
If they’re even slightly reasonable and understanding, they’ll probably apologize and adjust their behavior. However, a key point here is that you don’t seem like you’re blaming them. Oh, they might totally be in the wrong, but anyone who feels attacked or judged is likely to go on the defensive.
Your goal is to convince your neighbors to change their ways and have more respect for your boundaries. That’s the priority. So you shouldn’t bring up their past behavior or go on ranting about how disrespectful they are.
Being diplomatic, polite, and strategic will serve you far better than sparking a shouting match on the pavement. Arguing might feel good because you get to vent your (justified) anger, but it’s not a viable long-term solution for, well, anything. You’ve got to stay cool. Don’t let them see you sweat.
Asking for a mediator to step in can help if the situation becomes very charged
Of course, some neighbors aren’t going to be reasonable. The world is full of selfish people who don’t care who they hurt, so long as they get what they want. In that case, it might be worth having someone mediate the entire conflict. Say, a building manager or a high-ranking member of your local neighborhood’s association. They can help resolve the issue by bringing their authority into the fray.
Alternatively, if your quality of life is really going down the drain because of your neighbors’ actions, you may have to get in touch with the police or seek legal representation. However, that’s something left as a last resort because of how much time and nerves you may have to sacrifice.
Probably the best way to avoid bad neighbors is to spot them and avoid them early on, before you move into a new house or apartment.
According to ‘Today,’ you may want to consider spending some time in the neighborhood during different times of the day, to get a feel for the atmosphere and see any potential disturbances.
Next, you could talk to the locals and store owners to see whether there are any problematic people living on the block. It’s also a great opportunity to connect with your neighbors very early on.
The better your relationship with them, the more support and fewer arguments you’re likely to have, even if there’s some friction in the future.
The author shared some more background in the comments of the viral post
Some readers felt inspired to share similar stories
Neighbors can be such jerks. When my dad was in the final weeks of in-home hospice for cancer, and I was sleeping on the floor of his senior living condo to help take care of him, his neighbor kept harassing me over parking in the designated visitor parking space. Her problem? She had to be more careful backing her car out of her own assigned spot, and wanted me to park in someone else’s assigned spot (thus getting me in trouble with condo management, which was otherwise fine with me being there because they understood my dad was dying). My presence was disruptive to her daily drives to church, and even me pleading for her to show some “Christian empathy” for myself and my cancer-ridden father fell on deaf ears. It culminated with me standing in the front door of my dad‘s condo pleading with her to go away and let my father die in peace, while she screamed at me over parking in the visitor spot loud enough that my dads other neighbors came out to watch. 🤦
I would have gone to her church and donated a little amount and asked the priest to do a sermon in his name. THAT would have hit home like a ton of bricks! If you do that, the priest will sit down with you and ask you questions about your father, as it is common if people donate a service. Even if you're not of faith most of them are very kind and friendly in such situations. Then you could tell about your situation and how cruel people keep harassing you, mentioning people demanding that you don't park in that spot, then asking for the parish to pray for your father. Don't mention that woman's name though. And then she'd have to sit through the next sermon and listen to her own priest preaching about kindness and forgiveness and not making your next of kins life harder and then having to bend her head down when the priest asks the parish to pray for you and your father!
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This entire story could have been, "I moved a trailer so the driveway was empty". Instead of that long pile of nothing. BP you all need to get on the same page here. I feel like your website is fracturing all over and losing any form of direction.
At least Ingas hasn't popped in to tell us what Kyleigh Kardashian thinks about it lol
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Neighbors can be such jerks. When my dad was in the final weeks of in-home hospice for cancer, and I was sleeping on the floor of his senior living condo to help take care of him, his neighbor kept harassing me over parking in the designated visitor parking space. Her problem? She had to be more careful backing her car out of her own assigned spot, and wanted me to park in someone else’s assigned spot (thus getting me in trouble with condo management, which was otherwise fine with me being there because they understood my dad was dying). My presence was disruptive to her daily drives to church, and even me pleading for her to show some “Christian empathy” for myself and my cancer-ridden father fell on deaf ears. It culminated with me standing in the front door of my dad‘s condo pleading with her to go away and let my father die in peace, while she screamed at me over parking in the visitor spot loud enough that my dads other neighbors came out to watch. 🤦
I would have gone to her church and donated a little amount and asked the priest to do a sermon in his name. THAT would have hit home like a ton of bricks! If you do that, the priest will sit down with you and ask you questions about your father, as it is common if people donate a service. Even if you're not of faith most of them are very kind and friendly in such situations. Then you could tell about your situation and how cruel people keep harassing you, mentioning people demanding that you don't park in that spot, then asking for the parish to pray for your father. Don't mention that woman's name though. And then she'd have to sit through the next sermon and listen to her own priest preaching about kindness and forgiveness and not making your next of kins life harder and then having to bend her head down when the priest asks the parish to pray for you and your father!
Load More Replies... This entire story could have been, "I moved a trailer so the driveway was empty". Instead of that long pile of nothing. BP you all need to get on the same page here. I feel like your website is fracturing all over and losing any form of direction.
At least Ingas hasn't popped in to tell us what Kyleigh Kardashian thinks about it lol
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