Nowhere on this earth do you expect to feel as safe as in the doctor’s office. It’s where we come at our most vulnerable, looking for genuine help and understanding.

But according to some women on TikTok, this is not always what you find there and they’re now sharing the most inappropriate things they were told by a doctor. The trend started when one TikToker, @kristamackenziee, shared an incident during her skin checkup.

“He was an older man and I was intimidated by him,” the woman recounted and proceeded to talk about taking her shirt off to show him the affected area. At this point, the doctor dropped a comment that left her speechless and made her feel super uncomfortable.

Turns out, she was not the only one having experienced a disturbing comment from a medical professional. So let’s see what other women have shared in response to @kristamackenziee’s question “What is the most unprofessional thing a doctor has ever said to you?”

@kristamackenziee

Creepy AF!! Mom gave him shit afterwards. ##doctor ##psoriasis ##foryoupage ##fyp ##follow ##foryou

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#1

20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I was 15 when I was raped. I didn't tell nobody but I still went to go get checked with a doctor for std's/sti's but they didn't know that. While they were swabbing me down there I started to cry cause it hurt and I was scared. And the doctor said "don't cry now you're the one who decided to open your legs at 15"

justsad258 , loilamtan Report

K Witmer
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1 month ago

Jesus Christ this is what misogyny does to people. They knew better and didn't care

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Bored Panda reached out to Krista Wiseman, a social media content creator and mom of three girls sharing her journey through motherhood with her Instagram, TikTok and YouTube followers. Krista was also the TikToker who got women sharing the most inappropriate things they were told at the doctor's office after she posted this viral video.

“It is very unfortunate, but I think some doctors feel they are 'above' their patients because of their title and their education,” Krista told Bored Panda. “Maybe they feel they can get away with more because of that, or they feel they are entitled to speak their mind because they have worked hard to get to where they are.”

The author also said that “obviously this isn’t true for all doctors, but I’ve had many bad experiences myself and so have the women who came forward on TikTok!”

#2

20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them My husband and I had a miscarriage within the first year we were together. I was bleeding so we went to the ER. They were like 'there's nothing wrong with you'. I went to the bathroom and ended up birthing our baby in the toilet. I ring the emergency bell. They come in. And they look... they flush the baby down the toilet. I, in shock, walk out to my husband. He says 'what just happened?'. And I', like 'the doctor just flushed out baby down the toilet'. He [the doctor] came in and said 'Well what else were we supposed to do, it was already dead'.

ogpeelar , Jonathan Borba Report

Hilary Mol
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1 month ago

Tell me there's a lawsuit.

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them So I had to start seeing a brand new doctor because I was having a bunch of issues with my skin. Turns out it was psoriasis, but we had no idea what was going on. So I got referred to this new doctor. He was an older man and I was a little bit intimidated by him at first. So the appointment starts and he's asking me all kinds of questions and then he asks to see the rash. And one of the issues I was having was in my armpit. So I was trying to show him like through my shirt. And it was kind of hard to show the whole thing. So I was like, oh, should I just take off my shirt? And this man sits back in his chair and says, yes, excite me. What? I honestly didn't even know what to say at this point. I took off my shirt and I felt extremely uncomfortable. I had a lacy bralette on and this man is just like staring at me. Anyways, after the appointment, my mom ended up going back in and giving him sh*t.

kristamackenziee , granderboy Report

Mazer
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1 month ago (edited)

Yeeeeaaaah MOM!!! Creepy a-hole doctor, Inappropriate as all get out. no excuses

Tee Witt
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1 week ago

My mother would have told me to not be so silly, that is why I never told her anything from the age of 7

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Lovin' Life
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1 month ago

How inappropriate! I think I would have reported him. Who knows what other inappropriate comments he makes.

A B C
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1 month ago

Or if it stays with just comments...

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Fluffy Griffin
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1 month ago

When I was around 18 years old I had a skin condition under my breasts, and I went to take my shirt off to show the Dr, he said "wait! " and called in a nurse as chaperone. I was a little surprised but appreciated the gesture.

T Lee Mac
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1 month ago

My family doctor does that too. I’m thankful to have a great one. I don’t know what I’m going to do when he retires.

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Iapetos
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1 month ago

"I don't deal with unprofessional idiots. Goodbye."

Aisling Raye
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1 month ago

You should have been asked to change into a gown. You should have had a chaperone there (or at least offered one.) Not a single bit of your interaction with that provider was near protocol. I hope you filed a grievance with whichever licensing board your country has. That sort of behavior is unacceptable no matter the situation but ESPECIALLY of you're a minor. (I'm only guessing that you are a minor because you had your mother there. You very well could be an adult. Legit no judgment if you are, I take my mom to most of my appointments and I'm *grumble mumble cough* years old lol)

Leo Domitrix
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1 month ago

Report every incident to the AMA and state licensing....

Jay James
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1 month ago

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Brian Bennett
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1 month ago

Went to a new Doctor (was told by female patient always wear a bra) had a tank top on- no bra- told him my knee hurt got out the stethoscope - told him my heart was ok without a word he whipped up my top and proceeded to "listen" to my heart for what seemed like a long time. I told him never to do that again because if he was close to my breasts I was close to his balls and it would be squeeze, twist and yank! Bye Doc!

E. Rangel
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1 month ago

Good 4 mom, so glad u told her & not kept quiet.

Carmen Sandiego
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1 month ago

Please tell me he got fired.

Eppe
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1 month ago

What?! Not all men, but definitely some men

AspieGirl88
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1 month ago

Hell no ... I would’ve told him to f*ck off if he can’t even remain professional! 🤨

Lynn Morello
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1 month ago

Good on you mom. He deserved that.

Princess Toadstool
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1 month ago

Your doctor is a pervert

Kawaii user
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1 month ago

Ughh that was so uncomfortable to read

Leslie Burleson
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1 month ago

That is so messed up.

Kimberly Buchanan
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1 month ago

Go mom!!!

Linziaj
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1 month ago

Now this is a good result. Get ma in to sort it out. Still awful for you

Iʕ •ᴥ•ʔ
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1 month ago

Creep . Go mom !

backatya
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1 month ago

you should have not taken your shirt off and left dummy. Then report it to police

JJM
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1 month ago

Sometimes, people (anyone) say inappropriate things without meaning any harm. They think they're being funny, however, the trick is to know the difference which can be difficult.

Lisa Reuss
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1 month ago

I don’t mean to be unsympathetic ~ because this guy was way, way out of line, clearly a pervert, and should not be practicing medicine ~ but if a doctor said that to me I would have gotten up, walked out, and told his staff what just happened. You know it wouldn’t be the first time a patient complained about that doctor. Her mom giving the doctor s**t was a good-for-Mom moment, but didn’t change anything. He should have been reported to the AMA. There is no excuse for that, and women being intimidated and scared to do or say anything is why these older, perverted, misogynistic doctors continue to get away with this s**t. He’s probably sexually assaulted patients, too. Ladies: SAY SOMETHING. Don’t just skulk away.

Eva Verde
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1 month ago

Yes he was completely creepy and unprofessional. But about your "lacy bralette" - you could've thought about possibility of having to show your skin condition to the doctor, I mean, he still has to see it to recognise what it is, right? When you go to the doctor, wear a full cup not-seethrough bra, so you don't feel uncomfortable when you have to undress. It's just common sense.

Monday
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1 month ago

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This one seems less malicious and more like a really poorly thought out joke. The best doc in our town is like this with patients too, and it's one of the reasons he's so popular. Obviously there are people that don't like this kind of humor and they'll choose a different doc, but for those of us that respond well to it, it makes the whole thing less stressful.

Misty Tree
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1 month ago

It's vile and you should be ashamed for defending him.

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them The doctor that I was going to for my birth control was checking it. And I had mirena (spiral), and I could tell that it had moved, it was uncomfortable, that she needed to check it better. She said, well, let's check it, come in. And checked it. She was like, nope, it didn't move. And I was like, well, how about taking it out? Because I'm having a lot of issues. And she says, no, you don't need any more kids. You're young, you have enough. Then proceeds to tell me after ab ultrasound, oh, no, you really do need it removed, because it moved. So we're gonna get you into surgery. Then, doesn't tell me or the doctor that is performing the surgery that I'm pregnant. And then, after I have already found out that the pregnancy was terminated after the surgery, calls and says, oh, I'm sorry, I didn't realize that you were pregnant.

jadehersley1993 , Kristine Wook Report

Hilary Mol
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1 month ago

I really hope they got fired for every bit of that.

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When asked if she’d handle the situation differently now, Krista said that she definitely would if it happened again. “I’ve been making an effort to speak up for myself more, especially if I feel I’m not being treated properly.”

“When the doctor made the comment telling me to 'excite him' I think I was in shock, which is one of the reasons why I chose not to say anything. Being a survivor of sexual assault, I froze and didn’t know what I should say or do.”

Krista said that being in therapy, she learned that this response is normal. “I would hope that if I was faced with the situation again I could gather the courage to speak up and tell him that what he is saying is inappropriate, and that he shouldn’t be speaking to women that way in this professional setting.”

#5

20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them what he said wasn't really unprofessional. It was more how he handled it. Big back story. I was having pain in my pelvis for about a year and a half. Had every test you can imagine. I was referred to the doctor because he was a specialist and knew my family history. I waited a year and a half to see him. He did not review my file. Asked me a few basic questions. In total spent less than 15 minutes with me. Examined me, didn't order more tests. Looked me dead in the face and said: Oh, you're constipated. You just need to take a laxative. And left. Waited a year and a half for that. He did not take me seriously in any way, shape or form. Fast forward to another specialist. She happens to be female. She ordered some tests. I get diagnosed with endometriosis. I'm now on a wait list for surgery. So was the problem that he was a male doctor and it was a female problem, or that I was female and he didn't take me seriously, or that he just didn't care?

lunar_moon_witch , Sharon McCutcheon Report

Ozacoter
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1 month ago

Most doctors dont recieve the sufficient training about womens health. So even female doctors often dont take women seriously. I have endometriosis too and most of the doctors that dismissed me were women :(

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them "You aren't married, right? This miscarriage is probably a blessing in disguise, huh?"

mlt92119 , Clay Banks Report

Hilary Mol
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1 month ago

What the actual eff.

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#7

20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them It was a nurse. I'm well, I'm sexually active. And I was like, OK, maybe I should get tested for STDs because that's what people who are sexually active do. So I went to a clinic that specializes in STDs and pregnancy, and the nurse looked at me completely disgusted and and said, you should practice abstinence. I'll be praying for you. Then she grabbed my hand and started praying. I never went there ever again.

taylortottok , MedicAlert UK Report

JennyLaRue
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1 month ago

It's concerning that such a centre would employ someone with those views or not have realises what they were saying to patients.

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The woman also said that she was surprised to see that so many women have experienced unprofessionalism from doctors. “I wasn’t expecting the TikTok to blow up, or to have so many responses. Something needs to change!”For anyone who’s wondering if a medical professional has crossed the line during an appointment, Krista says: “I think if a patient is uncomfortable in any way during an appointment, a line has been crossed.”

Moreover, “If someone comes forward saying they felt uncomfortable, the doctor should take accountability for the situation and apologize and try to learn from it,” she concluded.

#8

20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them OK, so when I was 18, I went to the doctors to follow up on like a bunch of symptoms that I was having. And when I was there, much to my surprise and shock, I found out that I was pregnant. I hadn't considered as an option. And I was 18. So I was understandably shock. So I because I was in shock, I started crying in an attempt to console me. My doctor said to me, don't worry, you are still really early on in the pregnancy. And sometimes this early on, people have miscarriages. And for people like you, that may be a good thing. The fact that I'm a medical professional, I thought it was her place to wish a miscarriage upon me. Anyway, this year, my daughter is going to be 10 and her dad and I are still together.

shannoona , DebMomOf3 Report

Mazer
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1 month ago

I’m glad that you have a wonderful family and a pox on that medical “professional” and I use that term professional very lightly… OK no scratch out professional and just put worker

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#9

20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I stopped getting my periods at the age of 17. I went to my doctor who said it was because I was fat. I was told this multiple times by multiple doctors at the same hospital. Finally went somewhere else and was told its because I have PCOS. I'm 23 and finally got them back and now working on having my own family

pcoswarrior97 , valelopardo Report

TmKhr
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1 month ago

So unprofessional. You can't blame something like that on being overweight. I'm glad she got the correct diagnosis eventually.

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#10

20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them One time I went to go get my blood drawn. [The doctor] was looking at my arm and she ended up saying that she couldn't find a vein prominent enough in the normal spot to draw blood. So she started looking higher up on my arm and she's pressing around and I'm like, you know, that's really weird. I've never really had anyone go up on my arm this far to get blood. And she was like, well, it looks like you've had needles there before. She was like, yeah, you have little needle marks on your arm. I've never used a needle a day in my life. This woman was accusing me of using hard drugs

hheyyjustine , Trnava University Report

DC
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1 month ago

... a bit aside - accusing someone of this already is part of the problem, as this contributes to the stigma drug users have to face. They're not criminal, they're sick. And if they're not addicted, not even that.

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I was having really bad stomach pains after I had had my daughter and I went to the doctor to find out what the pains were. They did ultrasounds and all of that stuff. I go back to get the results. The doctor comes in, she she tells me that she didn't see what was wrong. And then she goes, but you do have gallstones. So I proceed to ask what are gallstones, you know, all of that stuff. She tells me the best thing I can tell you is Google it.

cosmeticgenie , National Cancer Institute Report

Nash Nopper
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1 month ago

WTF?!

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#12

20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them My doctor took off his mask and said "I already had Covid I can't give it to you"

makpdog , pixabay Report

Jo Johannsen
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1 month ago

Jerk.

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#13

20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I went in for a horrible rash in an area. My doctor tried fighting me saying either I was cheating or my bf was since she said it was an STD.. Ends up I have shingles. I also had a doctor refusing to check out my son's who I brought in with hfm until I answered questions about my income and sex life. Safe to say I just walked out and that clinic closed

kennafam , ExplorerBob Report

Mazer
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1 month ago

Unfortunately that doctor is victimizing other people someplace else. These people need to be reported they are horrible

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#14

20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them When I was younger, I went to a checkup with my doctor and just had mentioned that I wish I was a little taller. And a literal pediatrician responded: Men don't date tall women.

medicalherstory , José Pablo Domínguez Report

K Witmer
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1 month ago

Believe it or not women aren't on earth to please men so gross

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#15

20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I went to the doctor at 17/18 so I could get updated on my vaccines. I need 4. I also got an std test because my narcissist boyfriend at the time had cheated on me. she came into the room with FIVE needles. I asked what the 5th one was. she said it was the DEPO shot! Mind you I was openly against birth control for myself and told her before. she said "I thought you'd be okay with it since you're active" I feel like if I didn't ask she would have given it to me.

blissful.surviving , whitesession Report

James016
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1 month ago

So the doctor was wanting to give you a shot you did not consent to and wouldn't have said what it was if you didn't ask......

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#16

20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I have chronic back pain because of a broken disk. This old doctor told me it's because I'm too fat. I needed to lose weight

_forever_blue_ , National Cancer Institute Report

Valisbourne Spiritforge
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1 month ago

If you are overweight & female, you can go to a doctor with a broken arm and they have a 50/50 chance of just telling you to lose weight.

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I had a miscarriage and was told my only option was a DNC (which now with a new OB I know that I had more options). The OB [messed] up and didn't remove all that needed to be. I got very sick. The excuse was "well you did have a lot of tissue". The a week after she asked me when I was gonna try for another. 3 WEEKS AFTER I MISCARRIAGED

redheadwitha420attitude , Sharon McCutcheon Report

Mazer
Community Member
1 month ago

OMG!! It’s so sad that our culture expects us to just blow these horribly abusive people off and continue to go see them and continue to be their patients and continue to be abused over and over and over and over and over again.

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#18

20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them Well it hasn't just been one dr, it's been multiple, plus other health care professionals. "It would be easier on everyone if you killed yourself". "If you don't take oral antibiotics we will not admit you for IV antibiotics and are happy for you to die at home", "you are pretty bad at sewer slide, cause if you were good it at you would of succeeded already". "we have given up, you are unhelpable" those are probably the worst that has been said. I have chronic mental health issues and have been in the hospital system since I was 12. These things they have currently been saying have literally broken me

recoverygirl1998 , Zohre Nemati Report

Jihana
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1 month ago

What the f?

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them 1. the doctor was about done, it was just a normal check up and he looks at me and he's like "your eyes are kinda droopy" and I was like "yeah I've been up since 6am" cuz of school. So then him and my step mother start talking about eye lifts!

2.another check up. So after they do the heart thing ig my heart rate was weird and he asked me (this is a different doctor btw) if I felt anxious and I said "yes" and he was like "no you dont" like you asked if that's how I felt and I said yes, and now you're telling me that's not right like what?

riotlynn , Li Lin Report

The Dave
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1 month ago

Give doctor number one a sock in the eye, maybe he’ll forget about eye lifts.

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#20

20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I went to the hospital because I fainted when I was like in my eighth month of pregnancy. And the doctors told me that I needed to put more ranch or my salads because I had only gained 13 pounds during my pregnancy and they were making a big deal that I wasn't gaining more. So they're like, don't be afraid to put in your salads. My ob-gyn said my weight was perfect

miraonyourwall , Helena Lopes Report

Nadine Debard
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1 month ago

Yeah pretty sure ranch dressing contains all the valuable nutriments that a baby needs. Brilliant.

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