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Aggressive Guy Wants To “Track” 8YO Son As He Goes On Trip With Ex, Folks Warn Her To Be Cautious
In many cases, after couples are divorced, they don’t really want to be associated with their ex-spouse, but sometimes, it becomes difficult with co-parenting kids. Especially when such partners have an aggressively violent past, the whole thing can turn into a nightmare.
The original poster (OP) is still struggling with her aggressive ex-husband, who demands that she put an AirTag in their 8-year-old son’s shoe when she takes him on a trip. However, Reddit user Historical-Safe-7262 thinks that this is just his excuse to control her and refuses to budge!
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The poster is going on a trip to Europe with her 8-year-old son, but her ex-husband insists on putting an AirTag in the kid’s shoe
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He says he wants to track the kid, but it doesn’t make sense, as he will be 10 hours of travel away with a 7-hour time difference
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She refuses to listen to him as she feels like he is just using the kid as an excuse to spy on and control her
Today, we see quite a short story, but when you read between the lines, you realize the giant issue that OP is currently facing. She has a trip planned with her 8-year-old son (Jack) this year, but her ex-husband (Richard) is brewing up unnecessary trouble by demanding putting an AirTag in the kid’s shoe so he can track Jack on his phone.
This badgering has created a lot of tension between the ex-spouses, and our poor OP is doubting herself. She also added that Richard refuses to let her register the AirTag on her phone, and she thinks it’s quite ridiculous. Considering the fact that he will be 10 hours’ travel away with a 7-hour time difference, we can’t agree more with her.
Besides, she drops a shocking bomb that Richard has an aggressive history, and all their exchanges with Jack only happen in the police station due to the man’s behavior in the past! She also adds that he can’t stop her from going on the trip or force her to carry the AirTag, but she still suspects that he is trying to be controlling.
When she vented online, folks were quite alarmed by his violent past and nodded along that he is definitely trying to control her as well as spy on her. Some also enquired whether she is traveling to an unsafe place, but OP clarified that they are not, which further confirmed netizens’ doubts about Richard.
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Multiple studies have shown that controlling behavior is associated with a higher likelihood of physical aggression. The fact that even the cops are involved in this case is a big warning sign about how deep Richard’s behavior actually runs.
Research also suggests, “Violence is viewed as an expression of social power and is used as a way for men to control and dominate their female partners.” It might be that Richard is feeling powerless about the fact that mother and son are traveling without him, and that’s why he’s enforcing this control.
It has been observed that people with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) often display controlling and violent behavior. Such people use manipulative tactics to make others doubt their own self-worth, and if you see, that’s just what happened with OP as she started doubting herself due to his constant badgering.
Many people warned her that he might try to hide an AirTag whenever their son visits him and that she should watch out for that. Others also expressed concern about their safety if he finds out their location while on the trip, and warned that he might try to bring about an accident or something tragic.
Honestly, we agree with everything that Redditors are saying because you can’t really put anything past a person who has a history of violence, can you? If you were in the poster’s shoes, how would you handle this situation? Let us know your thoughts in the comments section!
After hearing about the ex’s aggressive past, netizens said that the AirTag sounds like a big NO-NO, and asked her to be cautious
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FreeTheUnicorn 7 months ago
I don't understand how he can still have unsupervised visitation rights if he's so dangerous the exchange has to take place at a police station. He's not allowed at his son's school or house but still has access to the boy? What kind of agreement is this?
Janelle Collard 7 months ago
Leave the shoes on the plane, at an airport, throw them away at some other place - there a lots of places to dump those shoes. Watching the ex's meltdown would be fun. :)
Michael Largey 7 months ago
You're too kind. The OP should mail her son's shoes to North Korea by way of Katmandu. Since there's no one there to accept the package, the return address should be Tierra del Fuego.
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Sue Ellen Bowen 7 months ago
I'd take the air tag and leave it on a train or mail it back to the ex from Europe.
Lee Gilliland 7 months ago
For every new technology, there is a downside. I remember when trackers were exotic and used by 007. Now they're common and used by misogynists. What a comedown.
Mark Bayliss 7 months ago
My first thought was to ask some nice person at the airport to take it on another plane with them and dump it either on the plane or at their destination
Earonn - 7 months ago
He's been aggressive, handover of the child only at the police station, but sure, let that unhinged animal see his son because it's soooo good for the child, yeah? Also because of his aggression, who would want him to know where mother and child are in another country, possibly in an area far away from any help? FFS...
b65dcdw6cg 6 months ago
I would not allow it. For one knowing a violent history absolutely not and two have y’all seen people harm the ex and kids and then themselves they are not together nor do she has to answer to him and his angry behavior. If he’s mad oh well he will get over it and it says in the order he cannot stop her and don’t have to. He just want to keep tabs on her not the child I mean clearly he just wants control. Do not give him that control nor do not doubt yourself keep doing what your doing and just pray for him. And to the FreeTheUnicorn they won’t deny him visitation for unsupervised because he didn’t harm or hurt the child which is why the stipulations are in place with the parenting app and police. So I would not do it nor would I care how he feels period
Sandra Moon 7 months ago
I would be worried that the ex would use the tracker to be able to grab the child at a busy place and disappear with him. Finding a kidnapped child in a foreign country would be a nightmare
Stannous Flouride 7 months ago
I absolutely LOVE that so many of my fellow Pandas had the same idea of ways to get rid of the tracker! I like the idea of it going to North Korea.
Charles McChristy 7 months ago
I would definitely report this to family court. thus is obscene. There is no reason he should have your location. In fact, there are several reasons he SHOULDN'T have access to your location. if you have to do exchanges at the PD then he's probably unhinged enough to follow you over seas.
JB 7 months ago
Instead of arguing about it, I think OP should have simply accepted the paired tag, followed AH’s instructions, then as soon as her and kid got beyond security at the airport, chuck it in a garbage can. If Dıck complains, she has no idea what happened but Jack did mention a time or two that it was uncomfortable, so maybe he took it out and lost it.
V 7 months ago
Context is key. If it was the first time she had gone travelling with the son, or they had run into trouble on previous trips, and he didn't have a history of aggression to the point where they have to interact in a police station I would say "sure". But in this case it is very obvious that he's just being a controlling jerkface.
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FreeTheUnicorn 7 months ago
I don't understand how he can still have unsupervised visitation rights if he's so dangerous the exchange has to take place at a police station. He's not allowed at his son's school or house but still has access to the boy? What kind of agreement is this?
Janelle Collard 7 months ago
Leave the shoes on the plane, at an airport, throw them away at some other place - there a lots of places to dump those shoes. Watching the ex's meltdown would be fun. :)
Michael Largey 7 months ago
You're too kind. The OP should mail her son's shoes to North Korea by way of Katmandu. Since there's no one there to accept the package, the return address should be Tierra del Fuego.
Load More Replies... Sue Ellen Bowen 7 months ago
I'd take the air tag and leave it on a train or mail it back to the ex from Europe.
Lee Gilliland 7 months ago
For every new technology, there is a downside. I remember when trackers were exotic and used by 007. Now they're common and used by misogynists. What a comedown.
Mark Bayliss 7 months ago
My first thought was to ask some nice person at the airport to take it on another plane with them and dump it either on the plane or at their destination
Earonn - 7 months ago
He's been aggressive, handover of the child only at the police station, but sure, let that unhinged animal see his son because it's soooo good for the child, yeah? Also because of his aggression, who would want him to know where mother and child are in another country, possibly in an area far away from any help? FFS...
b65dcdw6cg 6 months ago
I would not allow it. For one knowing a violent history absolutely not and two have y’all seen people harm the ex and kids and then themselves they are not together nor do she has to answer to him and his angry behavior. If he’s mad oh well he will get over it and it says in the order he cannot stop her and don’t have to. He just want to keep tabs on her not the child I mean clearly he just wants control. Do not give him that control nor do not doubt yourself keep doing what your doing and just pray for him. And to the FreeTheUnicorn they won’t deny him visitation for unsupervised because he didn’t harm or hurt the child which is why the stipulations are in place with the parenting app and police. So I would not do it nor would I care how he feels period
Sandra Moon 7 months ago
I would be worried that the ex would use the tracker to be able to grab the child at a busy place and disappear with him. Finding a kidnapped child in a foreign country would be a nightmare
Stannous Flouride 7 months ago
I absolutely LOVE that so many of my fellow Pandas had the same idea of ways to get rid of the tracker! I like the idea of it going to North Korea.
Charles McChristy 7 months ago
I would definitely report this to family court. thus is obscene. There is no reason he should have your location. In fact, there are several reasons he SHOULDN'T have access to your location. if you have to do exchanges at the PD then he's probably unhinged enough to follow you over seas.
JB 7 months ago
Instead of arguing about it, I think OP should have simply accepted the paired tag, followed AH’s instructions, then as soon as her and kid got beyond security at the airport, chuck it in a garbage can. If Dıck complains, she has no idea what happened but Jack did mention a time or two that it was uncomfortable, so maybe he took it out and lost it.
V 7 months ago
Context is key. If it was the first time she had gone travelling with the son, or they had run into trouble on previous trips, and he didn't have a history of aggression to the point where they have to interact in a police station I would say "sure". But in this case it is very obvious that he's just being a controlling jerkface.
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