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In 1995, Cindy Cashman published a book under the pen name Dr. Alan Francis and titled it Everything Men Know About Women. In reality, the book was a gag – all 150 pages of the book were blank, insinuating that men know absolutely nothing about women.
While today, the implication might seem a tad misandrist, it holds a certain amount of truth. In our society, boys grow up socializing with boys, and girls grow up socializing with girls, so, it's natural that one side doesn't know everything about the other.
There's no shame in asking the opposite s*x about their experiences. So, when one netizen asked: "Men of Reddit, what's something you've always wanted to ask a woman but thought it would be too embarrassing to ask them?", many guys came to find the answers to questions that have been bothering them for a long time. From how periods and peeing outside work to how women like to be comforted – the gals finally explained the particulars of being a woman.
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#1
Does it appear weird that I have pads and stuff ready, even though I dont need any? My mother once said that would be very nice when I have people over and periods just happens. I agreed to that thought, so I have some in the bathroom.
COVID_KISSES: Nah that might be a lifesaver.
zladuric: Also, clearly mark them in your bathroom. "Spare hygiene products for emergencies". Someone may need it but not know you well enough to ask.
The Doom Song 8 months ago
Oh yeah. It's never fun when aunt flo decides to make a surprise visit. Your female friends will silently thank you if you have something on hand for us.
StrangeOne 8 months ago
Absolutely. It helps for any female that is visiting, whether it's your mom, sister, auntie, cousin, girlfriend, female friend friend, niece.
Dusty's mom 8 months ago
I stockpiled them when on sale. They had a shelf in the supply closet. You know mensturation is gonna happen. Just don't know exactly when. They don't expire, and you can offer some to friends in emergencies.
Geoffrey Augusto 8 months ago (edited)
This is a great idea that I, as a single man, would never have thought of. That’s some great advice from your mom and thank you for sharing. I’m going to do this now too.
Crystalwitch60 8 months ago
So glad I’m past all the painters visiting now lol , but my daughter is 23 n there’s always some here , n she carries spare at work even when it’s not that time just in case others need em , oh n actually loads of women get mid period bleeds to so always safer to have tampons or pads ready !
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#2
Do you really like men that knows how to cook? 👩🍳.
[deleted]: Absolutely
[deleted]: Of course! It shows you are independent and not relying on me to cook for you.
The Doom Song 8 months ago
We love a guy that knows his way around the kitchen. It's incredibly s**y watching guys cook
Aidan Pite 8 months ago
... okay I am drawing a complete blank on what that censored word could be.
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Scott Rackley 8 months ago
I do probably 90% of the cooking. The kitchen is my happy place. It helps I'm quite good at it due to my grandmother and my uncle both being excellent cooks. I'm not allowed in the laundry room, which is fine by me. Turns out you turn some white stuff pink ONE time and you get banned. (It was a mistake, I didn't see the red rag that was wrapped up in a bedsheet, not intentional)
Charity Angel 8 months ago
You know, I genuinely thought you said "red flag" for a second, and was deeply amused by an actual red flag existing. (I know they do, but you know what I mean)
Load More Replies... Panda Kicki 8 months ago
As long as you actually cooks, not just puts something in the grill ans leave the rest of prep and cleaning to me.
Warren Peece 8 months ago
What if he is a microwave chef? How does that work for you? Since I retired, I have been learning how to use a microwave for actual cooking (rather than just heating). It is quick, easy, and turns out great if you do it right.
Definitely a Human 8 months ago
I've used a microwave to make boiled potatoes, but that's about it
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Sheena Leversedge Wood 6 months ago
also, who doesn't enjoy good food that you didn't have to cook yourself
#3
I always assumed periods were a constant stream of blood (like a cut, as another redditor put it). Apparently this is wrong, so how does it work? Small gushes?
takethetrainpls: Imagine you've got some runny jam that has a few bits of strawberry. Put it in a funnel and move it around.
sterlingrose: And if you’ve been sitting or lying down for a while and you stand up, it’s like a jam tsunami.
The Doom Song 8 months ago
Just imagine your cut suddenly gushes if you stand up. Most of the time it's fine but sometimes yeah you can feel a gush
Huddo's sister 8 months ago
It's definitely a feeling I don't think you can fully understand unless you feel it yourself. It's not just periods either, every so often you feel regular discharge too.
Sarah 8 months ago
The blood clots.. oh my gosh the worst. Amd it’s not clean bright red blood like a cut- this is lining coming from inside your body. It’s revolting.
Auntriarch 8 months ago (edited)
Clots the size of half a tangerine, I mean, how??
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Beak Hookage 8 months ago
I tend to get it most heavily in the morning. I'll wake up, and the moment I stand up I can feel it coming out. It's SO disgusting. I told my mother I wished I could just have my stupid womb removed and she said menopause is worse. Gee, thanks, good to know there's something to look forward to.
Don't listen to me 8 months ago
Well i didn't find menopause worse. Lots of women don't, possibly the majority.
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Savannah Newman 8 months ago
Every woman's body will be different. Mine have always been very light and only last 3 days tops. Sorry ladies, not trying to brag or nothing haha. I had a friend who would get hers so severely she would start hemorrhaging. There were other health issues but I feel for you sisters that have long heavy flows. My heart goes out to you.
Elin Sandman 8 months ago
I am just glad for you! Mine is like that elevator scene in The Shining.
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Peter Bear 8 months ago
That is disgusting but very good information to know. As a man, thank you for sharing that. I'm not sure I wanted to know, but I also feel like it's something I should have known.
Andie Day 8 months ago
Good man. Facing the somewhat unpleasant facts of life in a mature way.
Load More Replies... Dusty's mom 8 months ago
They can last from a few days to weeks. Medical issues like fibroids can really mess up the process.
Mook The Mediocre 8 months ago
"Jam Tsunami" I can't understand why that's not already a band name or a dot com.
#4
Oh boy here we go.
***ahem***
HOW DO YOU LIVE WITHOUT DEEP POCKETS IN YOUR PANTS??
BookWormBookStorm: IT'S HORRIBLE AND IT MAKES US SAD!
And we have to spend money on handbags!
Blah Blah Blah 8 months ago (edited)
Have you ever seen any woman's reaction when someone says "cute shirt/dress" if it has pockets they dam near yell at you in excitement and say "IT HAS POCKETS!"
Savannah Newman 8 months ago
Pockets on dresses are the absolute best. You can fit so much and it is rarely visible from the outside.
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Bonesko 8 months ago
I have a pair of pants with fake pockets. They're literally sewn shut. WHY?!
Lisa 8 months ago
I bought a dress today. It has pockets! I almost always don’t buy without pockets.
The Nessie 8 months ago
and if anyone comments on it you shout IT HAS POCKETS while ( and this is important) you put your hands in said pockets and flair the dress out in its full whidt
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Anacan 8 months ago
Lady here. Men's shorts and zipper hoodies are the best! Not only deep pockets but a separate small pocket for a (debit) card! The 1st women's clothing company to do this will get my $£.
Sue User 8 months ago
I have a jacket with a zippered outside breast pocket thst i carry my card in. Except sometimes i forget to grab it if i wear another coat.
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HeavyMetalHeart 8 months ago
Even when I have pockets I rarely put anything in them. I hate the feel of bulky stuff in my pockets and it spoils the line of the clothes. I much prefer to use a bag.
Dusty's mom 8 months ago
We WANT deep pockets. Fashion mavens don't listen. Often, pockets are completely fake!
Warren Peece 8 months ago
Okay, but I occasionally see women wearing cargo pants. Even with all those pockets available, they carry everything in a purse and put NOTHING in their pockets. Can you explain that to us?
Betsy S 8 months ago
Because those pants are the only ones they own with pockets and it doesn't make sense to have to empty your purse into those pockets for the day and then restock your purse when you get home. If all our clothes had reliably sized pockets, we'd always have places to put things and then could ditch the purse, but until that time, the purse contains our lives.
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April Pickett 8 months ago
Deep pockets should be on every pair of pants/slacks/jeans a woman buys. I'll accept no pockets on underwear, but even short/long pajamas should have pockets.
Andie Day 8 months ago
Hmmm, pockets on underwear? Now that's a thought....
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What should I do to not make you feel threatened when I walk behind you at night? Cross the street?
iiredgm: Try not to walk fast and definitely not directly behind us. Crossing the street sounds like a safe bet in any situation. It'd also help if you took out your phone to play some game or call someone to chat, show you're casual and not a threat
StPaul9 8 months ago (edited)
Would you accept, 'I know I'm behind you but my hotel/home is in this direction?' Just to show you have good intentions? And then cross the road?
Blah Blah Blah 8 months ago
Better off saying: I don't want to walk behind you and make you uncomfortable do you mind if I pass you real quick. But don't talk or say anything after that if it's dark just go about your day. IE: Don't hit on her or try and strike up a conversation. Again, especially if it's dark or even dusk out.
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Tyranamar Seuss 8 months ago
Please cross the street. And if you come up behind me at a faster pace, know that I am going to turn to the side and allow you to pass so we don’t get in that weird spot where it feels like you’re chasing me.
JenniB 8 months ago
I (female) was out walking about 7-8pm but it was autumn so dark already. I was near an old age home where the residents are still able to come and go as they please. A small lady about 80ish hopped off the bus about 50-100 feet ahead of me. I was walking behind her but not super close. I sensed she was uneasy (I am tall(ish) and had a black winter hat on covering most of my hair. I instinctively changed sides of the road to ensure she felt comfortable but kept an eye that she made it home it safe as well.
Auntriarch 8 months ago
Do what you like. I will cwtch in a doorway while you pass me, and I will get out my hanky and make disgusting snotty noises while you do so.
Nikole 8 months ago
Yes with the disgusting noises! Snorting and then spitting is my thing when I’m trying to make myself look unattractive.
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Crystalwitch60 8 months ago
Never bothered me when I had to live in a town eugh n walk home from work , I’d just stop n let em pass n carry on but watch em after , I don’t expect you to cross the road , cos even the ones after you will do that to make you relax !! just walk past us calmly n carry on with your day etc ,
Lena Flising 8 months ago
Crossing the street, walking a bit faster on that side, so that you are ahead, not behind. Then we can see you, without having to turn around.
#6
Other than the obvious (lying, cheating, rude to you or your friends)what’s the quickest way for your S.O, or someone you’re interested in, to lose your respect?
[deleted]: How they act towards strangers and animals
sopranobanjo: Being unkind to people you aren’t attracted to, especially other women
tired-students-club: Not contributing to household things to the point of having to remind you to do basic tasks. I’m your partner, not your mother.
Blah Blah Blah 8 months ago
Weaponized incompetence and unresolved childhood issues. Personal development is your friend!
DaisyBee 8 months ago (edited)
Weaponized incompetence makes me so angry. You know d**n well how to do whatever it is or find whatever it is, so just do it!!
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The Doom Song 8 months ago
Us women love when a guy will just do household stuff without us having to "nag" you about it. It shows us that you care.
Liz Butt 8 months ago (edited)
Yes we do. And we need to tell them that we appreciate what they are doing so they will keep doing it. Nothing worse than a guy trying to do something, only to have the wife or girlfriend b.i.t.c.h about how they are doing it. It doesn't have to be perfect. Just be thankful they are doing it. My husband does lots of things for me and I always thank him for doing it. It's not that hard and they appreciate the recognition and are much more willing to do more for you without you asking.
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When we were courting, my opinion of Mr Auntriarch went through the roof when he phoned to apologise for not turning up for a date, because he had found a kitten in his car by the engine and it took an hour to get it out and then he took it to the vet to be checked over. And he's not a cat person.
SouthernGal 8 months ago
Can’t stand a cocky man, strutting around like he’s better than others and bragging about his accomplishments. His poop stinks just like everyone else’s.
Crystalwitch60 8 months ago
Hell no they are so vile ! Mind you anyone acting like this ain’t welcome in my world lol they are just toxic
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TruthoftheHeart 8 months ago
How you act when angered or feeling challenged. I can't handle a man who can't control his emotional outbursts and anger
Crystalwitch60 8 months ago
This I’ve been a beaten wife ! One wife of that again I’m gone faster than u can say goodbye ! Also never shout at me cos that always precedes a beating , I,ll either stand up and fight back or fall on floor n go hide behind something out the way !
Load More Replies... StrangeOne 8 months ago
High expectations of s*x and putting out on demand, especially after having a baby. Giving me gifts and treats only if s*x is involved. I'm all for fairness, give and take. But I'm not a prostitute, and I won't allow someone to treat me like a s*x slave.
Liz Butt 8 months ago
Oh yes. I hate that. I was out with a guy once and he was the epitome of that guy. Clicked his fingers at a waiter to get his attention (who fkg does that???) and proceeded to tell me all the stuff he had. Had a business erecting fences, only he had a guy do it for him and decided to stop working when the guy quit. Wore driving gloves.
Load More Replies... Crystalwitch60 8 months ago
How they treat animals !! I don’t like people myself lmao so hmm but would def be animals , if they can treat a defenceless animal or a child tbh like s**t , it’s get the f**k outta my world ! Never trust em
#7
Do you really like it when men roll up their sleeves?
LJGHunter: Yes. Can't really tell you why. Something about the forearms. It's important to note that it's a phenomenon specific to having long sleeves that are rolled up; a shirt with three quarter sleeves does not produce the same effect.
zoeydoey: Roll up sleeves, lift something, reach for something, whatever. Just show me those forearms.
SouthernGal 8 months ago
Rolling up the sleeves is so much more appealing than just having a short sleeve shirt on already. Exposing the forearms let’s everyone know that he’s about to get seriously busy.
Lena Flising 8 months ago
If it's comfortable for you, go ahead. I don't really mind either way.
Sarah Léon 8 months ago
Works with women too ! I'm a woman... just after I came out, when I was in my early 20s, I was always wearing long sleeves shirts on my t-shirts (90s kid anyone ?) and my father told me to roll up my sleeves and showed me how to do it good to catch up women... and it works ! Still working actually ! I'll always cherish this advice :D
keyboardtek 8 months ago
W**g is a Chinese last name! Why would that be censored?
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What's a good vibe/attitude that makes you feel good?
[deleted]: I can’t speak for every woman, but be yourself. Don’t make everything sexual, actually engage in conversation about something. One thing that just kills the vibe for me, is trying to make everything sexual.
LisaFrankTattoo: Piggybacking on this. Dudes, we know if you’re talking to us, you’re probably interested. You don’t have to sexual innuendo the f**k out of us.
Skara Brae 8 months ago
"So, how did you two meet?" "Well, she just likes my dog. I'm the dog's friend."
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Lena Flising 8 months ago
Relax the flirting, s*xing. Just be interested in people as persons, not as objects to pursue.
#9
When you are really upset, how would you like your partner to respond or comfort you?
MelanisticCrow: Be empathetic, hold her(if she's comfortable with that), listen, and ask if she wants your advice. If she doesn't, just be a good listener and don't make her feel like she's to blame or that her feelings aren't valid.
[deleted]: “Do you want me to listen or are you looking for advice?” has been a game changer in my relationships.
Sergio Bicerra 8 months ago
The "ask if they want advice' really hit me, I'm all ears and then I give advice, but never asked if they wanted it. So much to learn.
Jill Rhodry 8 months ago
I think - in general - women tend to process by talking, so often we just need to vent. If we want advice and you've not said anything most would probs say something like: so, what do you think/what would you do-what should I do - if you don't get the question simply support and validate
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Scott Rackley 8 months ago
I use "Is this a solving thing or a listening thing?" I'll do either, I just need to understand where we're going.
SouthernGal 8 months ago
Bring me wine, chocolate and a hug. You get extra points for telling me I’m beautiful, but more important is telling me that the feelings I’m having are completely valid considering the circumstances.
Ellinor 8 months ago
The [deleted] comment is right, sometimes I just want to vent about what made me upset, then once I vented I'm open for advices.
Blah Blah Blah 8 months ago (edited)
It's legit that easy with that one simple question. That is assuming the woman you're asking is emotionally intelligent enough to understand her needs. That being said more often than not they are. Not everyone, note I said more often than not.
Load More Replies... Savannah Newman 8 months ago
If we are getting passionate in our venting please don't take it personally.
Lena Flising 8 months ago
Start by listening, hugging, huming in agreement. Get her a glass of water, rubb her back or her shoulders. Only if she ASKS for advice or solution do you present advice or solution.
Auntriarch 8 months ago
I'd say I like solutions, but generally by the time I've finished spouting, I'm ready to hear them. And I suppose he knows me pretty well by now
#10
Have heard what not to do on a date mostly but what are the top things a guy can do on a date? Without coming off as awkward or weird?
LJGHunter:
Your looks will count for a little more in the beginning because I don't know you very well. But if you come across as decent, charming and confident, looks start to fade into the background.
My husband is never going to win any 'hot guy' awards. He's a bit overweight, going grey, wears glasses and has more hair on his back than on his head. But I immediately fell in love with his personality; he's everything I've ever wanted in a man on the inside, so I honestly don't care what the outside looks like.
Tyranamar Seuss 8 months ago
Just be a decent conversationalist. That means talk that goes back and forth. Makes a huge difference. And be your genuine self. That kind of confidence is s**y.
Becca not Becky 8 months ago
If conversation doesn't come as easily to someone, listening and showing interest in what the other person has to say really goes a long way too
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Grandma Shark 8 months ago
Be interested! Ask about work, hobby’s etc. And then really listen to what is been said en go from there. Don’t answer questions with just “yes” or “no” but with whole sentences. Be genuine and honest. And do not try to impress; we will see right trough that.
Maggie Fulton 8 months ago
I believe in a system of “cute points.” Sure, you might initially think some guy is cute because of his looks, but if he’s a jerk, then the cute points are subtracted. Another guy might not seem conventionally attractive, but if he’s funny and thoughtful and kind, he gats all the cute points! Definitely go for the guy with the great personality.
DC and S 8 months ago (edited)
And by looks, it doesn't mean you have to be the hot guy, it means put effort in. Showered, clean clothes that fit and suit you... After that, as said many times already.(and can't be said enough), be genuinely interested in getting to know your date as a person. Because, looks may be intriguing, but it's personality that seals the deal. And we would like to think it comes down to the same for you; yeah, we want you to like our look, but we want you to like who we ARE so much more.
Sarah 8 months ago
The amount of dates I went on in my expensive little dresses.. high heels, perfect blow dry. And the amount of men who turned up in trainers , hoodies and jeans where they were all Scragggled at ends from trailing on the grounds. We were in our 30’s…
Load More Replies... DC and S 8 months ago (edited)
This... This is what is lacking 99% of the time. If you don't show any interest in getting to know who I am as a person, the message is clear that you only want the package (looks) and I am simply an object to look at for you that you hope to maybe play with.... Which is exactly as demeaning and off-putting as that sounds.
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Untamed Snark 8 months ago
You don't have to look like a male super model, but taking care of your appearance is important, wear clean cloths, make sure you have showered and brushed your teeth. Be attentive, ask questions and listen to the responses but be willing to share info about yourself in return.
Renate Stargardt 8 months ago
Intelligence, humor, kindness, and a healthy self-confidence are key... at least for me. Appearance is just "a bridge" and only as important to me, as it is to you.
#11
What is the obsession with m****r? The whole serial k****r book/podcast industry seems largely female oriented. Ironically many females I know who love this stuff also hate fake violence in fictional movies?
Glowingrose: I’m taking notes so I don’t make the mistakes they made that got them caught.
Honestly though, it’s a combination of the psychological aspect (why did they do it, what was going on in their head, what made them the way they are) and the forensic/investigation side of things. I also know some women who watch them in part to learn in some way how not to be the victim of crimes likes those featured.
Sergio Bicerra 8 months ago
Makes sense. I watched the whole S*x & The City series and thought "Ok, not this."
Tucker Cahooter 8 months ago
My wife's current watch list: Midsomer Murders, Vera, Death in Paradise, Father Brown...
Pittsburgh rare 8 months ago
Midsomer Murders and Vera are my mum's and l comfort watches 😄 she loves them so l watch them with her
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TruthoftheHeart 8 months ago
I watch the shows about people who have survived the worst, since they obviously did something right to make it and you never know what type of survival knowledge you need these days.
Savannah Newman 8 months ago
Here is why I watched it. I am fascinated why people do the things they do, the nature vs nurture debate. I enjoyed learning about the historical development of the response to the different types of killers and criminal profiling. I also found it important to understand how law responds to these crimes and that evolution over time. Over the last year I went down that rabbit hole, yeah, you know the one. It was scary at the bottom but allowed me to see the highly organized, calculated, and wide spread nature of the source points informing extreme crime, murder, human trafficking etc. I stopped watching true crime about a month ago, except 1 channel that I watch to give them support because they are doing great work. I have no more use, and frankly, I am a bit of a murderpedia, so much knowledge up there about this stuff. Understanding how monsters are made allows me to show more empathy towards my fellow humans. We dont break kids, we dont feed them to monsters.
Binny Tutera 8 months ago
I like true crime podcasts because, at least in the ones I listen to, the villain gets caught.
ILoveMySon 8 months ago
Same. If the crime hasn't been solved, I don't watch/listen.
Load More Replies... StPaul9 8 months ago (edited)
Come on guys. Some of us do this as well. I just watch Hudson and Rex (also male)
DaisyBee 8 months ago
I only learned Hudson & Rex existed like a month ago - which is crazy considering it’s my 2 favorite things; an attractive man in uniform and a dog!!
Load More Replies... Breadcrumb. 8 months ago
How to get away..I mean how not to get caught..I mean! How not to happen to me.
DaisyBee 8 months ago
For me, it’s just nice to see justice prevail. I love seeing bad people be held responsible for their actions, for the “good” side to win. It’s satisfaction. I also want to learn about the victims tbh, as if my just knowing who they are means something to them idk. Acknowledgement at the very least
#12
Would you like to build Lego Star Wars sets with me.
[deleted]: Damn you must be rich
Luke Branwen 8 months ago
Some of the SW sets are surprisingly affordable... with the right girl, I know I could be working on the $60 midi-scale Home One and feel like I'm building the $700 UCS Millennium Falcon.
Tyranamar Seuss 8 months ago
I do not wear bras anymore. The world can suck it. Bras suck. Now if I was running or something I’d need a sports bra. But just do go about life I guess I’m small enough my floppy b***s don’t bother me.
Sarah Bailey 8 months ago
Yes some ladies would love to or learn to love. All kinds of ladies to match all kinds of gents.
CamiCamilion 8 months ago
Lego builds together is awesome. Husband and I get the home decor kind of sets. The nonverbal communication and how we create teamwork is super bonding. I imagine how well the process goes would tell a TON about the potential of any partnership
Blah Blah Blah 8 months ago
General rule: Do something she likes, especially if you don't like it but she does. And don't act like a toddler or make fun of her liking it. Suck it up and fake like it or at least tolerate it with zero attitude. She'll reciprocate once she feels comfortable and not ridiculed for it being one sided.
#13
How do you do the math and physics for when you pee outside ? Some of my female friends took postures straight out of a yoga book and never made a mess.
Enragedfrog: Squat making sure your feet are not down hill or in any low points. Pee
The_Nice_Marmot: Make sure the back waistband of your pants isn’t in the line of fire. Learned that the hard way.
Ellinor 8 months ago
And DON'T FORGET to look if there are not nettle where you were planning to pee. But yeah, pee in direction of the bottom of the hill, widen your legs as much as you can.
Victoria Elizalde 8 months ago
Also, make sure you’re not squatting near poison ivy. Having poison ivy there changes a person.
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The Doom Song 8 months ago
Haha the awkward squat... making sure your pants/undies and shoes are not in the line of fire
Lexi 8 months ago
Empty bottle and a crisp bag with a corner removed and then put in the bottle to form a funnel to pee into. An emergency form of a shewee
Auntriarch 8 months ago
You should have put that on yesterday's post about things not being used for their original purpose 🤣
Load More Replies... StrangeOne 8 months ago
I try to avoid these situations as best I can. I'm not flexible nor coordinated enough. The pee always tends to dribble up around. I wouldn't trust just moving the fabric to the side lol. Then you have to wipe. So you have to make sure there's something to wipe with, otherwise it's leaves, and you have to make sure it's not a poisonous plant. I'm not a camper.
Savannah Newman 8 months ago (edited)
Can't forget to do the little b*m shimmy if you don't have access to tp. If you have good privacy doing a squat with your forearms resting on your thighs for balance and stability. Oh and as wide a stance as your body will allow. One of my favorite memories is teaching a new friend from New York city how to pee in the woods in MT.
Andie Day 8 months ago
Upvote for reminder about doing the b*m shimmy/shake.
Load More Replies... Binny Tutera 8 months ago
It’s important to squat or sit. Women aren’t made to go standing up, hahaha
marianne eliza 8 months ago
Due to injuries to both ankles long ago, I can't achieve and maintain a squat. A small rock or log can provide the necessary support. Or holding on to a small tree or branch. Signed... a former Search and Rescue K9 handler. Means lots of outdoor/wilderness peeing required
Betsy S 8 months ago (edited)
Find a good, not too wide tree on a slope. On the lower side, drop your drawers all the way to your ankles, loop your arms around the tree and hang your butt out down the hill to pee. That way all the pee runs away from your feet and your pants. Use the tree to pull yourself up and put yourself back together.
Andie Day 8 months ago
Yeah, at 71 I appreciate a friendly tree, not so much the slope.
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Do you pee every time you poop too?
1jooper: I pee before I poo, then poo, then do a little finishing up post poo pee
Huddo's sister 8 months ago
I have wondered the opposite for men. Do you know when you need to do both and sit down, or do you pee standing up and then sit?
Ace 8 months ago
Well of course some of us are civilised enough to sit down anyway, but yeah, in general, of course you know.
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KatSaidWhat 8 months ago
Hahahahaha, I read on BP some kid saying you can pee without pooping but you can't poop without peeing and that comes to mind every single time I go to the loo now.
#15
What do period pains feel like?
happyjeep_beep_beep: A Charlie horse cramp but in your lower abdomen.
QueenOfSleeping: Differs from person to person, but they feel like someone is grabbing the inside of your stomach and squeezing it to a pulp inside their fist, while also shoving a knife in and out of your gut. And you can’t forget about the random back pains throughout. Really fun times 😅
Blah Blah Blah 8 months ago
Get a e-stem, they're pretty cheep, put it on your lower stomach (based on 1-12 level machine) set it to pulse at a 5-6 that's a normal cramp day for a lot of women. Some women have 1-3 days where it'll be a 10-12 or even higher than the machine goes. Also the machines are targeted and a lot of women get both targeted pain as well as back pain, migraines, diarrhea, vomiting as well as all over pain. Then labor x all that by a trillion for 10-30+ hrs straight. S**t is NO JOKE! Have some f*****g empathy women are bad a*s tough!
Maggie Fulton 8 months ago
I got all of it plus sensitivity to light and sound. Fun times.
Load More Replies... Tyranamar Seuss 8 months ago
More achy than diarrhea cramps. But just as strong. Only it doesn’t stop. It goes on the whole first 2-3 days. While you bleed chunks out at the same time. Honestly I thought it was similar to labor at times.
Maggie Fulton 8 months ago
Don’t forget that you have to go to work or school and smile and pretend you don’t want to die.
Load More Replies... SouthernGal 8 months ago
Feels like someone has squeezed and tied your abdominal organs together and then they try to pull them out of your body through your v****a. The organs are too big, so they just keep tugging and tugging, causing more and more pain. Stop trying to rip my uterus out, bring me 12 boxes of chocolate, set the tv to Bridgerton, hand me the remote, tell me I’m beautiful and look like I’ve lost weight and then leave me the heck alone.
Sparkle 8 months ago
I went through menopause in my twenties so I can't have kids but darn not only are grocery bills cheaper but I don't miss the pain!
Load More Replies... Crystalwitch60 8 months ago
Seriously if men had these !! There would have been a cure long ago ! Think labour but constantly for days n days every month for decades and no baby at the end of it !!! Thank god for the menopause is all I can say I love being 60 ,
The Doom Song 8 months ago
Think of a leg cramp but in the lower stomach region and sometimes on the inside of your thighs and where your balls are. And it's constant
Lexi 8 months ago
Mine feel like Freddie Kruger trying to hack & slash his way out of my womb. It often throws me to my knees without warning, add to that I've had worried people phone an ambulance due to turning grey or passing out. I've tried everything to easy it and nothing works not even implants, I asked for a hysterectomy but was told that my husband may want kids!!!! I'm not married, never have been, I've never wanted kids & am now in my 50s. And yes, it was a male doctor who spouted that sexiest cr@p.
Holly Herr 8 months ago
I used to have cramps so bad in my teens and twenties that I would *vomit*
Load More Replies... Becca not Becky 8 months ago
Anything from an annoying ache to the descriptions above. Different for everyone though.
Lena Flising 8 months ago
Similar to upset tummy pain, a squeezing feeling. But period pain was not just stomach, it was from bre*st to knees, for several days. Makes you want to roll up into a ball with a hot water-bottle or a heat-pad, and just moan. I was one of the lucky ones, I never passed out or vomited from pain.
Maris madness 8 months ago
I hate everything else about menopause but not having a period each month is amazing
#16
According to popular culture girls want the bad boys and they want to "fix" them.
How true is this and granted that there is any truth to it. What success rate do you have?
suspicious_succubus: Ages 14-18 it's pretty true
Above 18 ( unless mentally stupid or still childish) not true at all.
As young girls we get the feeling ( from books and movies) that any bad boy will change for you cause they love you so much.
When you grow up reality hits you and you know that most people stay the same. So once a bad boy always a shitty a*****e. And we do not need a shitty a*****e as our partner
Isabelle 8 months ago
For me, it’s the guys who look like bad boys (tattoos, piercings) but aren’t that I wanted. Hubby looks mean as hell but won’t shout for me from another room because it scares the cat. lol
V 8 months ago
I have a friend who was in a gang before I met him, so he has all the gang and prison tattoos. However after prison he completely turned his life around. I wish I was attracted to himas more than a friend because boy is he very good looking, lol. But the thing that makes him most attractive is how generous he is. He has literally given clothes off his back to a homeless person during a blizzard.
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Aidan Pite 8 months ago
And, sometimes, you think you can 'save' them. But you cannot help someone who doesn't want to help themself. Instead of raising them up to your level, they will drag you down to theirs.
Saint_Zipcodus 8 months ago
We're socialised to think it's what we want. As with a thousand other things. Does not actually overlap a lot of times with what we really want. But it's hard to find out what we really want over all the constant noise from the outside. I think this applies to most people though, regardless of gender.
Amy S 8 months ago
I think this is more important that many people realise. We're also socialised to think it's our job to 'save' them.
Load More Replies... Lena Flising 8 months ago
GIRLS might like "bad boys". Women, not so much. We want a decent person, we don't want to "fix" anyone; it's hard enough to manage ourselves.
DaisyBee 8 months ago
Omg teenage me saw a red flag and thought it was a party. I look back at the boys I fancied back then and I’m like “ugh, dodged major bullets.” Now I just want an old fashioned, hard working man. He can look mean, but if he is mean, he’s not for me. Ain’t nobody got time for that
Savannah Newman 8 months ago
Indeed Daisy. Love the look but if it comes with the behavior, out the door you go.
Load More Replies... Auntriarch 8 months ago
The only time it might work is if you both grow up; he realises there's no mileage in badness, and she realises she doesn't actually want a bad boy.
Pandapoo 8 months ago
Sorry, I originally read badness as baldness. Both could be true. Lol
Load More Replies... Heather Menard 8 months ago
Not at all I always wanted the nice guy that was going to treat me well
Crystalwitch60 8 months ago
No ty I love tats hell got 17 myself not an issue but bad boys tend to mean u end up breaten n abused ! Been there done that , n I’m staying alone now it’s safer ty ! being 60 means I do not need a man to define me but we do not like bad boys !!
Beak Hookage 8 months ago
This guy's wasp tattoo is SO COOL. And no, it is not your job to "fix" some guy. It's his job to get help and fix himself.
#17
What’s the deal with peeing together?
thickthighs20: Do you remember in Harry Potter when Hermione went by herself and got attacked by a TROLL.
DI93: Safety in numbers. Also we like to reapply make up or have a little gossip by ourselves, sometimes it just nice to go with someone else and continue whatever conversation you were previously having.
S 8 months ago
There's also a line quite often, this way we have someone to pass the time with instead of awkwardly standing between people in silence or trying to strike up conversations with strangers.
Holly Herr 8 months ago
It’s different if it’s with one friend or a group.
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LilliVB 8 months ago
Also because of our anatomy, it's usually more of a hassle to pee. And if the toilet isn't exactly the cleanest (hence you can't sit), if there's not a hook to hang your purse and/or Jacket etc, it's easier if a friend can help you
Charity Angel 8 months ago
Don't forget the classic "the door won't lock". My arms are way too short to do the bending over and holding it closed trick.
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Isabel Galvez 8 months ago
A friend of mine was attacked in the bathroom and none heard anything because of the music.
DC and S 8 months ago (edited)
Because we have to pee too! --- if someone mentions they need to pee, I probably have to pee too. Or we're leaving a place and want to pee before hitting the road. And, especially if it's somewhere public we are unfamiliar with, it feels more comfortable/safe being with others. Or to continue our conversations. ... Do I mind going to the movie theater alone? No. But do I prefer going with others? Yes. And I'll watch movies alone at home all the time. This is oddly the same idea.
Savannah Newman 8 months ago
Right, and we wanna talk about something privately that we would rather not share with the group, if with a group you are.
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Sarah Andrews 7 months ago
Don't forget holding the door if the lock is broken or passing loo roll under the door if someone finds themself without.
#18
If bras give support then why does it feel good when you take them off? Would it feel good to never wear a bra?
Extension_Drummer_85: Have you ever worn really tight jeans? They hold everything in place but the firm contact all day gets a bit much. Not wearing a bra if you have larger breasts can be pretty uncomfortable. It hurts your back (bras help a little by holding everything in centre so your gravity isn’t too funky), your breast hurt if you move too much, you get sweat under your b***s where they touch your skin. Not fun for everyone. Also it can be uncomfortable when your nipples rub against your clothes from excess movement.
Huddo's sister 8 months ago
If you have a good bra it shouldn't be uncomfortable and have you desperate to take it off. One that fits properly should be comfortable. Sometimes you have sensory issues and don't like underwire, for example, but there should be alternatives that are more comfortable. I can't take my bra off until just before bed, because my breasts are too heavy to just leave hanging!
Mari 8 months ago
Same problem. And it is very hard to find a decent bra.
Load More Replies... emlab kerba 8 months ago
"support" is code for not swinging in the breeze. Free boobing so to speak.
Rachel Reynolds 8 months ago
I think it depends on b**b size. I like wearing a bra, but I'm a member of the little bitty titty committee.
Neon_Pickles 8 months ago
I am stealing that phrase! Absolutely brilliant lmfao
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Don't listen to me 8 months ago
B***s have no muscle, only tendons to support them. If you let heavier b***s swing free then they will soon start to sag because tendons stretch & you will never get the shape back. Saggy for life!
StrangeOne 8 months ago
I have bruising and and discolouration around my rib cage from the underwire. I don't even wear bras that are too tight. I have indentations on my shoulders from the straps. I think the jeans analogy is a good comparison.
Stephanie Did It 8 months ago (edited)
Allow me to show you the bone spurs and inch-deep grooves in my shoulders from the weight pressing on my shoulders. I'm 5 feet tall, small boned and since my teens have gone from a 32D to a 38G, while weighing under 135 lbs. The best bra in the world is never going to be comfortable, and forget underwires, which caused some bad cuts. Now that I'm older, they're less massive but the damage is done and I can't go braless in public because Gravity and I don't want to injure anyone.
#19
If a man offered you a fresh ham, instead of flowers, how would you feel? Would you stop dating him?
raptor_of_truth: Would prefer a fresh rotisserie chicken.
Auntriarch 8 months ago
My opinion of him would instantly rise. Thinking outside the chocolate box.
Tyranamar Seuss 8 months ago
Depends on if it’s prosciutto or just plain old ham. And if you think prosciutto takes the same as plain sliced ham I’ll be sad to eat around you. Bc it means you just don’t know the joys of good food. Everything would be wasted on you. I had a BF who kept referring to prosciutto as “ham.” It was sad.
DC and S 8 months ago (edited)
Depends. If it's a first date and ham/cooking/food had never been mentioned, then maybe wait until date 2. If there's context... Maybe she mentioned her love of ham, it simply good quality meat (and it wasn't a euphemism)... Then it shows you listen and care about what she says. So yes! Are you giving it to her expecting her to cook it for you? DON'T.
Panda Kicki 8 months ago (edited)
Fresh like raw meat I have to cook? Would love a prosciutto. But with meat prices soaring any.meat is welcome.
Huddo's sister 8 months ago
No flowers or meat for me thanks. Or candles! Chocolate, cheese or books :)
Crystalwitch60 8 months ago
Wow miserable much lol ,I’ll take all of em happily jeez pity your fella or who ever 😂
Load More Replies... marianne eliza 8 months ago
If he already knows you well enough to know your likes and dislikes and dietary restrictions, if any. Otherwise it's inappropriate.
Holly Herr 8 months ago
I would def wait til you know her wants/likes better.
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If I were a woman, I think I'd hate having men try to flatter me by referring to my beauty. Would you rather have men talk about your intellect, personality, and accomplishments before your beauty?
hannahrichter: on a surface level interaction, you should compliment things they CHOSE. like, hey cool shirt, sick shoes, awesome tattoo. don't use creepy adjectives like hot, sexy, I had some guy refer to me as nubile. don't do that stuff.
Tyranamar Seuss 8 months ago
I don’t mind a compliment like I’m cute or attractive or have great eyes. Telling me you liked my b***s before I actually agreed to let you touch them would be awkward.
Karen Bryan 6 months ago (edited)
Complete stranger said something like that to me in a grocery store years ago. Creepy.
Load More Replies... Auntriarch 8 months ago (edited)
We were several months into access level 3 before Mr Auntriarch confessed that he'd appreciated my boobage at first sight. Which was the right time to mention it.
Paulina 8 months ago
Yeah, but use those words exactly! "You look good/great" - NOT you look s**y/hot, i could eat you, you make me hard or any other creepy stuff like that 🙃
Load More Replies... Holly Herr 8 months ago
I like the idea of complimenting things they CHOSE, like what they’re wearing, what food they picked, things that are not too personal. But always be truthful! You don’t want to compliment on something you don’t like.
zxj7rfyqqw 8 months ago
I think a bit of everything, it’s nice to know you look good but it’s just a small percent of what makes a person. I really like how kind you are or I think you’re great to talk with or I love listening to you or something like that would go far with me. Think of a person as a whole, looks, clothing, moral traits, intelligence etc etc and mix it up with the compliments so you hit all the bases. Obviously don’t lie, but if you’re talking to a woman and you enjoy something about her that isn’t just physical then tell her.
StrangeOne 8 months ago
You have to get to know someone before knowing the invisible stuff to compliment on. I don't mind compliments about my appearance. The older you get, the less you get them. I didn't get them too much growing up, but when I did it was a big boost to my confidence that I needed.
Holly Herr 8 months ago
Like “I like how that blue blouse matches your eyes.” But nothing too personal.
Load More Replies... Saint_Zipcodus 8 months ago
If you compliment on looks, make it a) no creepy and b) creative. Some examples: You and your toxic eyes (okay, admittedly, might not translate too well). Or: You're deceptively cute.
maaike martens 3 months ago
don't compliment beauty, but the look... chic, festive, happy, sparkling, exhilarating etc...
#21
Why has the female clothing pockets rebellion not started yet?
Naalbindr: I’m starting it! I make kits so that you can DIY your own pockets on anything that has a side seam.
Scott Rackley 8 months ago
My mom is a quilter/seamstress now that she retired. First thing she does after buying pants is get out the thread ripper.
Dusty's mom 8 months ago
Buy pockets at any sewing outlet and replace the dinky things. Mail the old pockets to the designers.
StrangeOne 8 months ago
When I was a kid my pockets were stuffed full of stuff. Usually candy wrappers, pocket money and whatever other random stuff I want to take with me. I have jeans with pockets. The thing is, it's incredibly uncomfortable to sit down when I got my wallet and cellphone in my pockets. I'm afraid my phone will snap in half. But I'll use pockets in a bunnyhug or cardigan. However, with all the stuff I have to bring with me (hand lotion, inhaler, wallet, phone, Tums, gum/mints, nail file, dental floss, lip chap) I might as well bring my purse.
the sixthgirl 8 months ago
What I really want to know is why the clothing industry hasn't freaking responded to this very clearly expressed desire for appropriate pockets for women.
Panda Kicki 8 months ago
Because, in the end, women tends to buy flattering items that has a maximal slim line. Studry pockets ruin that impression and is rejected. There has been attempt to sell pants with good pockets. They dont sell enough.
Lyoness 8 months ago
They should market at older women (like myself) who have zero f*cks to give about slim lines.
Load More Replies... 1LittleGranny64 2 months ago
The best selling wedding dresses in North America for the past few years have had big pockets. I don’t know why this is so hard to get through to designers.
maaike martens 3 months ago
I just look very hard for pants (and skirts, ladies!!) with pockets... YES!!!
#22
What‘s the most neutral and comfortable to start a conversation (maybe at a bar), without being too shy or too agressive/rude?
General_Organa: For me commenting on what’s going on around us. If you’ve tried the cocktails before and want to share opinions, if there’s a game on and I’m looking up at the tv, if there’s a couple on a first date nearby, whatever. The really important thing is to get a good read on if the response is polite vs engaged. If I give you a “yeah” with nothing else stop trying lol even if I smiled or whatever
butterbewbs: This is the only answer I agree with. The others are too “I like your hair, you’re pretty etc” and compliments creep me out bc I know where that conversation is going. Talk to me like you would another man sitting at the bar. (I’m a bartender, I listen all day) Don’t immediately come for my looks. My boyfriend is my best friend & was before he was my boyfriend.
Catmom 8 months ago
They have to mean it. And listen to the answer. And build on it.
Load More Replies... Lena Flising 8 months ago
The most neutral is probably the same things you would say to a man sitting beside you at the bar.
#23
Do you agree that ”guys” and ”dudes” are gender neutral?
[deleted]: In certain contexts, yes. In others, no. English is weird in which some words can have different meanings or connotations depending on how you use them. “Hey you guys!” mostly means “hey you people of no specific gender” but when someone says “I’ve f**ked two guys in the past week” they’re obviously talking about men and not anyone else.
Victor Botha 8 months ago
I always use folks if I'm referring to a mixed gender group, but then again I'm quite old so there's that.
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Anne Young 8 months ago
'Guys' is fine by me. I think 'dude' and 'fanboy' is offensive as that's misgendering. Fanpersoning? It sounds weird but it's also all inclusive.
KatieMal 8 months ago
I call my friends "dude" (I'm a girl and some of my friends are girls) if a guy I don't know refers to me as "dude" I'd initially feel a bit off, but as I gain a better understanding on his personality and speech mannerisms, if he refers to his friends or others as "dude", I'd feel more comfortable around him, but if it's just me, I'd try to get away discreetly.
Anna Drever 8 months ago
I think they’re gender neutral but if someone says they don’t like that then I’m going to respect their wishes, because it costs me nothing to be kind.
#24
Can you cover your urethral hole with your finger, and direct the concentrated spray, liked with a tap?
splashysoup: I have no idea, but what I know is that if you kind of "lift" your stuff from above the clit and spread the labia you can aim better and also further.
I like your thinking BTW
saucy-Mama: Tested:
Result: No you just get p**s on your finger.
Observation: it drips down your finger, then your hand is just warm and smells like p**s.
Conclusion: i don’t recommend trying but if someone has a better outcome we can compile our research.
Oh and don’t forget to wash your hands or you’ll smell like pee and make people uncomfortable (also tested)
Huddo's sister 8 months ago
I don't know which is a bigger why- why would you think of doing that? or why would you test it? I get curiosity but...even if it did work, you still put your finger in your pee on purpose...
emlab kerba 8 months ago
I think the question is because boys can do that with their urethral holes
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Panda Kicki 8 months ago
Yes you can. I tried that when I was doing a lot of urine tests during pregnancy and started for some tests on filling that annoying little tub.
Auntriarch 8 months ago
My fingers are not going anywhere near my urethral meatus thank you very much, I've had too many UTIs even thinking about it...
Apatheist Account2 8 months ago
Censors having a day off? High is censored but clit and labia are not?
Verfin22 8 months ago
Ok first, why ask? Second, it's easier to lean forward a bit, and fire away like you've been holding it forever.
Cecil 8 months ago
Because boys have done everything with their stuff short of putting it through a meat grinder
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Lesley Relph 8 months ago
It depends on what you've got down there. Women's bits vary a LOT but I'd speculate it's not possible for most of us.
#25
When we are laying in bed and I turn to face the other direction, I’m not avoiding you. I want you to big spoon me. Can we please make that a more normal thing?
QueenOfSleeping: Just ask her to be the big spoon when you turn over. She’ll probably like the chance to get to cuddle you too
[deleted]: Just tell her you wanna be hugged. I guess most girls don't do that because we're usually smaller than our bf so we don't really feel like a big spoon, but a backpack
Peter Bear 8 months ago
Open, honest communication is always the best advice.
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Melanie Filmer 8 months ago
I prefer to be the big spoon and my hubby loves it. I don't like being breathed on!
maaike martens 3 months ago
if you turn away without a word, it feels like a rejection... just ask if you can be the BIG "little spoon".... will certainly get a giggle!
Sheena Leversedge Wood 6 months ago
I like to be the big spoon. last night, I was big spoon to my husband, and our cat was big spoon to me
#26
How much do appearances count compared to personality, when it comes to being asked out?
sslyn94: Me and my friends always joke about how “medium” guys go to “hot” when you start liking their personality. This might mean it’ll take more time to get a girl there, but just think how ugly a “beautiful” person becomes when you hate their personality. It works the opposite way as well
S 8 months ago
IMHO Regardless of how you look, being clean, smelling good (soap and deodorant are very acceptable scents) , and looking halfway put together (hair either cut within the last few weeks or styled in some way that doesn't look like you rolled out of bed), clothing that is decent fitting, no stains/holes, and age/location appropriate clothing - the shirts with cartoons or games on them are great but if you are looking to connect with someone new, don't limit yourself to only people who would appreciate that shirt- adds a few 'points' to your looks and then you can let your personality shine after you get past the initial connection.
Luke Branwen 8 months ago
I personally use graphic tees / hoodies on purpose, to connect with people who appreciate it. A common nerdy interest is a great starting ground.
Load More Replies... Susie Elle 8 months ago
A package can be beautiful, but if the contents are disappointing, the product sucks.
Huddo's sister 8 months ago
I personally barely notice looks until after I have spoken to someone
Becca not Becky 8 months ago
It's less about looks and more about body language. Are your hands out or hiding in pockets? Are you slumped over or in a comfortable but confident posture? Are you strutting up like Gaston or are you approaching me gracefully and collected?
Knittin'Kitten 8 months ago
In college one of our classmates was a kind of ugly guy, still almost every one of us had a crush on him because he was so nice, smart and had a great humour. Personality always wins on the long run.
1LittleGranny64 2 months ago
You know what attracted me to my husband? His eyes. They were kind and smiley. His sense of humour was evident in his eyes. Then I watched how he treated service people. Next week we celebrate forty years of marriage. He’s bald and needs a nap everyday, but those eyes still smile at me the same way. When he looks at me, the kids, or the grandkids the love shines right through.
maaike martens 3 months ago
on a date, clean clothes and nice smell are very important.. no wrinkles or stains or a shirt you wore the entire week... (TIP: don't test out new fragrances on a date... let your friends or colleagues test how it works with you)
#27
How do you all make those little towel hats when you get out of the shower?
78Carnage: Imagine you have your towel across your back, both ends in each hand, flip you hair forward so you're bent over roughly 90°, being the towel forward so it's completely draped over your head until the edge of the towel that was touching your thighs, is now at the base of your hairline on the back of your neck, the towel is now draped over your head, grab the drape and twist it a few times, then toss it back. Give it a try! You don't even need hair to do it!
WayoftheStarPrincess 8 months ago
BUT, my sweet brother on earth, if there is hair under the towel hat, do not yank the towel hat! The hair is also twisted into it and it huuuurts.
StrangeOne 8 months ago
I use a T-shirt now. Less bulky and heavy. Apparently it's better for your hair.
Charity Angel 8 months ago
Definitely if you have curly hair. I used one for a good while.
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Magenta Blu 8 months ago
I have the same question... Never understood it. The towel always falls
#28
How do many of you have such nice skin?
I want to be silky smooth too.
TerrifyinglyAlive: Women have about twice as much subcutaneous body fat as men, and thinner skin. It makes you soft.
mothwhimsy: Part daily moisturizer part the magic of estrogen
DC and S 8 months ago
These 2 key together: exfoliate and moisturize. Regularly.
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StrangeOne 8 months ago
I have very high maintenance but terribly dry skin, even with heavy, expensive lotions. I've tried them all. Skin disorders suck. Men seem to expect women have nice, smooth skin all the time and are not shy to point out the flakes, roughness and scaling. I've done very abrasive exfoliation, to rid of the scaling and dead skin build up. But now that type of exfoliating gives me painful rashes and micro-cuts all over. Ichthyosis Vulgaris is a never-ending demon. I've met men with very soft skin, I guess, in comparison to me. At least I've found some who are not bothered too much. So, there is hope for us, rough-skin gals.
Beak Hookage 8 months ago
In my case, probably just good genetics. I don't have a beauty routine and I get quite a bit of sun, but I apparently still look like I'm in my twenties thanks to the lack of wrinkles.
#29
In a book/piece of writing, what do you think is the best way to describe a woman in a sexual context without being too crude or cliche or getting into the whole "she breasted boobily down the stairs" thing?
(i'm a writer but i would feel WAY too awkward asking any of my girl friends this 💀 writing women characters isn't hard for me per se, you just give them goals, development and make them add to the story like anybody else. but i'm always second guessing myself when it comes to writing stuff in an intimate context)
peachpinkjedi: Focus less on describing the physical attributes and more on the feeling of being in her presence. Focus on things she does consciously in the scene, or at least things that aren't gratuitously cliche (ie breasting boobily). When you do go for the physical description it'ss always neat to see a male character's physical attraction to a female character center on less obvious things (maybe her neck, her hands, her jawline, even her eyes would work in this context despite being somewhat stereotypical).
Amanda Fondaumiere 8 months ago
I laughed so hard at the breasted boobily thing that i knocked down a bunch of stuff near me.
The Other Guest 8 months ago
Have you read the full paragraph? It's a hoot! https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/breasted-boobily
Load More Replies... Beak Hookage 8 months ago (edited)
Me too. Stupid big b00bs. I hate them, and especially when they're collecting crumbs at lunchtime.
Load More Replies... StrangeOne 8 months ago
Yes, wholeheartedly. There's so much more about us that can be s**y than just t**s and a*s. If you want to make a cheap p**n, you focus on t**s and a*s. If you want classy literature with s*x peppered in it, focus on the qualities that make her uniquely s**y that women see in men. Trust us when we say, we find more features on men super s**y than even know. The back of a neck, calves, their backs. I don't know why, myself, but those are huge turn ons.
Beak Hookage 8 months ago (edited)
I write too and I find the best way to make any character attractive is to give them an attractive personality. And, if they're s e x y, show them acting sexily eg by giving their partner a sensual backrub. I once wrote about a particular character who I never once described as being hot, or even good-looking. I just gave some neutral details about his facial features, hair and eye colour, etc. But after a certain point, once they'd been reading about him for long enough to get to know him, my readers all started talking about how handsome and s e x y this character was. It was his personality and actions they found attractive; I didn't have to hold their hands and tell them "he is a hot guy". Another time I set out to write about a woman who I wanted to portray as s e x y, so on her first appearance she's cuddling with her girlfriend and making flirty comments while the girlfriend feels all turned on and the reader call fill in the details for themselves. Most readers are good at that
Liz Butt 8 months ago
This is why I prefer to read a book rather than watch a movie. You have your imagination of how they look and how they talk. I have read books before and then watched the movie where the actors are nothing like I have imagined them. I find that really disappointing.
Load More Replies... Paulina 8 months ago
Looking at a person through feelings they evoke in others is such a great advice for any writer! (And I teach writing sometimes 🙃) The "her beautiful curves made him mesmerized and wanton" is always better than "she had perfect breasts and a*s to die for" ;)
zerofoxgiven 8 months ago (edited)
Please give some lessons to Sarah J Maas and authors on her level. She writes female protagonists like a hōrny male. I tried to read House of Earth and Blood and got sick of her describing the female MC Bryce like "she has a perfect round āss and nice b○○bs" in every single chapter. And that's the best one of her books, the other series are much worse. And she's somehow one of the most popular authors of our time... A woman writing female characters aimed at female audience, and all she can focus on are āsses.
Load More Replies... 1LittleGranny64 2 months ago
Don’t use s*x to replace actual plot. The s*x should be a natural outflow of the storyline. You’d be surprised how many s*x scenes I cross out of a book when I’m editing.
David Farmer 3 months ago
For what it's worth, ""she breasted boobily down the stairs" is sheer poetry...
Liz Butt 8 months ago (edited)
I much prefer a good story with some s e x added into the story at intervals. But if the whole story is just about s e x, nothing turns me off the story more than that. I want a story that has some substance. Most of the books are with the women being the most beautiful woman they've ever seen and no other woman compares. That is ludicrous. Just once I would like to read a story where the woman is not over the top beautiful, but kind, generous, intellectual with girl next door kind of feel. S e x y and smart but also flirty and attractive in her own way. I like stories where they start out ignoring each other but getting to know each other over the story due to circumstances.
#30
How on earth are you sexually attracted to any of us?
FightWithTools926: I am only sexually attracted to one of you and it was mostly his rolled up sleeves that did it.
Derpazor1: Thought about this a lot as kid. Women are beautiful but men were not. Then puberty hit. Those “manly” features are super attractive now. I really love men shoulders and arms. Especially the way they look when my husband is on top of me holding himself up. I also love male butts. The long shape is amazing. Why? No idea.
lovemy suffolk 8 months ago
The least s**y part on a man is his d**ck. Arms, shoulders, chest, butt, forearms, quads...yeah, not the d**ck to just look at. ,
Neopet22 8 months ago
They are actually quite attractive when erect but it also depends whose it is. If it's a random creep online,yeah they are mostly disgusting lol
Load More Replies... CamiCamilion 8 months ago
There's definitely a male sexiness. I've always thought women were sexier, though. Why'd it take me until I was 33 to realize I'm bi? 🤣
Ellinor 8 months ago
I kinda think hands can be really attractive, and weirdly it's better if the person wear a bracelet. No idea why though, but it just does it.
Space Invader 8 months ago
I think the bracelet visually separates the hand from the arm and allows better appreciation of the hand's proportions and features.
Load More Replies... Lyoness 8 months ago
For me, being attracted to someone actually has nothing to do with s*x, at first. Who they are, how they behave, their sense of humor, how we connect, all those things are what leads to sexual attraction (again, for me). When I first read the definition of demisexual I was hugely relieved because I'd never met someone else like that.
Jill Rhodry 8 months ago
The fact that we still are in these days of bro-ology should be considered proof that orientation is definitely not a choice😂
1LittleGranny64 2 months ago
1. How do you treat people you aren’t attracted to? 2. Are you a mamas boy? No one needs that. 3. Are you interested in us or are you going to spend an hour bragging about your finance job? 4. Do you have a sense of humour or do you take yourself too seriously? 5. Did you bother to shower? Yes, the bar really is that low for some guys. 6. Are you a redpilled misogynist? Doors over there…if you’re an Andrew Tate devotee go home and leave us alone.
Magenta Blu 8 months ago
I'm not.. I kinda understood interaction as the only way to receive affection.. so I mostly endure it.. because otherwise no one would ever show any affection towards me.
#31
What do you want guys to do when your upset or mad about something. When I asked what happened I got no answer. When I asked how I can help I got no answer. When I asked if we were ok no answer. So what do I do in that situation if you won’t explain what you need, even if it’s for me to get list for a couple of days.
MothsEyesOfHorror: Everyone is a bit different with this, but my general tip or trick is to offer 3 things.
1."Do you want a distraction?" Then offer something like a movie, a game, puzzle, who knows if you are brave mby even offer to do her make up/nails for fun, or find some fun facts about animals and talk to her about those.
2."Do you want to talk about it?" If yes then there needs to be a follow up question. "Do you want me to problem solve with you or just listen?". Problem solving is when you listen and then offer some solutions to what happened. Listening means, sitting down and speaking mostly in "Yeah" "I get that" "That sucks", try not to insert yourself more than short answers.
3."Do you want some space?" Then you ask for how long or even offer something like "I can come back in an hour and check on you.". Its nice to add something along the lines of "Just text me if you need anything"/"I'll be in the next room if you need me"
This generaly works for everyone even on children, man, sometimes confused and angry adults. Just maintain calm and welcoming face.
Tyranamar Seuss 8 months ago
Women who do this are expecting their partners to be mind readers. I usually tell the male partner to explain to the woman that he has something wrong with his ability to pick up non-verbal cues. And that he can only understand things that are wrong if they are directly spoken to him. In reality, most people prefer actual words to the silent treatment.
Blah Blah Blah 8 months ago
Make her a cup of tea, camomile or whatever she likes (ask her when you're normal if you don't know and REMEMBER what she said) set it next to her and say I'm here for you whenever you're ready to talk. Then tell her what room you'll be in and be patient. Also ask her what she's like you to do when the two of you are "normal".
Jay Scales 8 months ago
Also depends whether she's mad about something YOU did, or something unconnected.
Paulina 8 months ago (edited)
Also, don't ask "WHAT I can do to help?", but rather "Is there something I could help you with?" or even "Do you want my help?". Asking for a specific instructions/description of a task you could perform puts yet anther problem for us to solve, extra burden in an already overbearing situation. In many cases, if we knew, we would do it ourselves ;) And if someone is stonewalling you, especially for a longer periods of time, tell them how it makes you feel! But not "You treat me like trash/You're acting like I did something to you" - that's about them, what they did, and it's supposed to be about you, your feelings. So: "I feel worried and useless when I don't understand what's going on with you"/"Not getting any answers from you makes me feel like you don't want or love me anymore".
DC and S 8 months ago
His approach was just bad. It also doesn't say how long he waited for a reply or if it was in person or by text. It reads like it was by text. So maybe she was busy, or processing and couldn't reply yet. Otherwise, a "I not ready to talk about it. I will let you know if I do need to talk" would be appropriate from her. His questions are off putting. *What happened?" Sounds like a mom about to get mad at whoever broke the vase. Then to follow it up with "are we okay". If I was dealing with something And now had to deal with someone making it about themselves, I'd be upset. It doesn't sound like he is someone she trusts to be open with. WHAT TO SAY instead: "Would you like to talk about (followed with "would you like to work together to problem solve this or do you just need me to listen?) or do you just want some time and space? (Followed by, "I'm here if you need to talk/need anything")".
Anne Young 8 months ago
Just. Like let me be put out. Otherwise I feel invalidated and like the guy's a jerk. 'It's ok you're fine'. No, damnit.
Lena Flising 8 months ago
She might not know what she wanted. She might have been in a freeze mode and just shut off. Perhaps get a cup of tea or hot cocoa, (but place it a bit from her, so she doesn't push it away or throws it at you). Rub her shoulders. Place a blanket over her shoulders and back. If you know she likes the heat, light a fire if possible. If she likes fresh air, open a window or door. Just try to be kind but unobtrusive
#32
Does men wearing makeup look decent? Asking for both just the little bit of make up and the times it's full flamboyant greatness.
Asking for... A friend... Yeah, let's go with that.
jessicuzzz: makeup looks great on anyone as long as it’s done well! i say go for it, practice makes perfect
Auntriarch 8 months ago
Don't even ask. Just do it. Because you want someone who's comfortable with the real you. Just don't borrow mine.
KatSaidWhat 8 months ago
Depends on the make up - don't go clown face - this applies to everyone.
Lena Flising 8 months ago
Happy people usually look decent, or at least happy. If you (or your friend) like wearing make-up, it will make you (them) happy to wear it. Try to learn from someone, or check out You-Tube demos so you (they) can do it well. If you (they) don't have a clue, it can become a bit clownish.
April Pickett 8 months ago
Makeup on a man is interesting. I don't think whether a lot or just a little matters. It's how you feel with it on. You're comfortable and love the look, I admire you.
whiterabbit 8 months ago
Do what makes you happy, a person who loves you will support and appreciate it.
#33
“Do you actually answer the s*x questions aimed at women on AskReddit or is it all men?”.
TipiTapi: The correct answer is: they answer but its the 80% male population that decides what gets upvoted.
I think you know what this causes...
Atom_B**b_Bullets: As a woman, this is 100% true. The number of times I have to scroll through walls of bad advice to get to the good stuff near the bottom is astounding.
Luke Branwen 8 months ago
True that... I've seen a thread where WOMEN were asked what should men do to capture their interest, and one of the top comments was a dude recommending a book written by some condescending (male) "evolutionary psychologist".
#34
So...how do you feel about guys you find attractive wearing thongs and g-strings?
theswamphag: I find them very uncomfortable so I don't understand why you would want to.
Ellinor 8 months ago
I personally love it, it shows that a man is comfortable enough with his masculinity, with himself, and trust me enough to tell me without being scared of my reaction. They I'd ask how can he bare the sensation because I think thongs are awful, we'd laugh about that and go back to whatever the hell we were talking to before that, but with a smile of understanding and renewed trust on our faces.
#35
Does offering cheese really work?
Edit: fascination levels have been elevated.
papayaseth: Only if it's gouda
Edit: the amount of people that know what movie I'm referencing makes me so freaking happy
Theo Blackwood 8 months ago
If you give me blue cheese (Cashel Blue to be exact) and a baguette, I will follow you into Mordor.
DC and S 8 months ago
Who would ever turn down cheese? Unless you are lactose intolerant (or casein intolerant) or have a dairy allergy. Even then, half of those people would still take the cheese and pay the price
1LittleGranny64 2 months ago
Since I make cheese…yes. If you come to my house and don’t get a piece of cheese, you don’t need to bother coming back…lol.
#36
How do you shampoo long hair? I've always had short hair, so lather and rinse is pretty easy, but with long hair I feel like it would get complicated quickly.
COVID_KISSES: With shampoo you basically get used to massaging it directly on your scalp and the rest of your hair kinda rinses out along with any dirt as you wash away the shampoo. You focus on your scalp because that's where things get greasy and you don't want the bottoms of your hair to get too dry. This is why you also focus the conditioner towards the ends of your hair.
Nikole 8 months ago
Yep. Unless you’re covered in mud, there’s no reason to shampoo your ends.
Load More Replies... marianne eliza 8 months ago (edited)
I 64f have hair down to my butt cheeks. So I do rub shampoo through it. Just hold the hair between your hands and rub your hands together as you go down.
#37
Is there really a couch in the ladies room?
Sanchastayswoke: It depends. In some nicer places or old school department stores or churches. Women sometimes use them to sit & breastfeed their babies.
inmyelement: Fancy places
Huddo's sister 8 months ago
The old movie theatre I used to love going to (now they mostly just do private functions) had a restroom with couches and mirrors and the toilets and sinks were in a connected room. It was very art deco. People rarely sat on the couches though because the lines were always really long and everyone was rushing to get to the toilet before the intermission ended (and hopefully have time to get choc tops too).
Jay Scales 8 months ago
Our old cinema had a room like this - a couch, a wall of gilt mirrors & ONE toilet :D
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AlithenewMC 8 months ago
I never understood the couch in the bathroom thing- there's no way that thing is cleaned properly or often. The floor is probably cleaner🤢
#38
I’m a straight guy that has a lot of female friends! If I were to guess, I’d have like an 80/20 ratio of female to male friends.
I’ve always been that way because I can’t talk about emotional/deep stuff with males.
What would you, as a woman think, especially if I may be romantically interested in you?
Edit: Poor question on my part. What would you think if you are a woman I just met that I am romantically interested in but found out that I have all these female friends?!
Thriving-confusion: Friends are one thing. The issue isn’t about having female friends. The issue is more of having appropriate boundaries with your female friends. Men are sometimes oblivious to their “friends” liking them. And these women tend to seek attention on purpose to try and make you see they are better than your “girl.” And if you don’t set this straight instantly, then there is an issue.
Blah Blah Blah 8 months ago
Completely works both ways! And if you've got jealousy issues (no matter the gender) you should really see a professional about it. It almost ALWAYS is due to unresolved trauma. Same goes for wanting to make someone else jealous.
Auntriarch 8 months ago
If a man's female friends are literally just that, no problem, in fact if a woman can't cope with you having woman friends, that might make you want to think twice.
Luke Branwen 8 months ago
I've heard someone saying something like "Picking a guy with a lot of female friends is picking a good quality, peer-reviewed man" 😁
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Poppy 8 months ago
I always find lots of female friends to be a green flag as they wouldn't put up with any c**p otherwise. My last bf had lots of female friends, they were mostly in committed long term relationships. I could see they all trusted him and their partners were friends with him too.
Emilu 8 months ago
I'm fine with a dude having more girl friends than guy friends, but if you LIKE like a girl then you need to treat her differently to the rest of your friends so she can see that you want to date her etc. Sounds obvious, but I know many that didn't and then were like "but I liked her so why did she reject me?"
Barong 8 months ago (edited)
That works both ways. The classic Friend Zone scenario. Usually men so I’ll use that example. Men can some times be a friend or pretend to be hoping she’d see him for something more but doesn’t want to broach the subject and face rejection or risk losing the friend relationship. This desire for a romance combine with pretending to be just a friend just makes them miserable. Don’t stay in the friend zone. Express your interest. Then you’ll know where you stand. Dated a girl that had a friendzoned friend. She had no idea until her previous boyfriend clued her in. She asked him and he confessed his interest. Unfortunately for him she wasn’t interested but, he knew where he stood and he moved on. They’re still friends as far as I know. He had moved on and found a girlfriend that he was with when I met them and apparently married her. She said their friendship after the reveal was awkward at first but they got over it.
#39
If someone respectfully confesses they have had a crush on you but don't really expect anything out of it how would you react?
cf-myolife: If they don't expect anything and I am not in love, just stay friend and move on. But once one of my friend suddenly told me he was in love while I made really clear that I absolutely didn't want to date anyone at this point, I tried to stay friend but after that he was acting like we were a couple wtf?? So I had to block him, hopefully we aren't on the same campus.
zxj7rfyqqw 8 months ago
Oh gosh. It changes everything. So you have to weigh up the chance that you might alter your relationship forever against the chance they feel the same way.
Ruth Watry 8 months ago
I hate it when I let them know that I will never be romantically interested in them, and they keep trying (so NC)
Lyoness 8 months ago
I agree with the original answer but want to add that if you never try, you'll never know. I was friends with my partner for EIGHT YEARS before we got together because both of us were clueless and afraid of ruining our friendship. A good friend will stay your friend if you confess your feelings, but they could also return them and you'll never know unless you say something.
KatSaidWhat 8 months ago
Timing is everything. And it's usually best to not tell us. Maybe mention it to a friend?
Neopet22 8 months ago
I am a woman but I had this happen with a guy friend. He rejected me,I asked to take a break from our friendship so I can move on (at that time we were very close),he treated it more like me saying "let's stop being friends" and said he would date me because he didn't want to lose my friendship. I declined that because I don't want to date someone because of something silly like that . This post above though makes me wonder if.i started acting like we were dating because he ended up blocking me out of nowhere and disappearing from my life. I don't think that I did but who knows how he saw ig
Alex Schneider 8 months ago
Be kind,ask if it's possible to stay friends or if it hurts him too much.Good friend of mine told me he has a crush on me,but he agreed as I told him, he has to solve his problems first instead of trying to get healed by some love of me or any woman.
#40
What are pads used for ? (I wanted to ask this when I was a child coz I just knew that it was something related to their private parts).
CashDecklin: To soak up the blood, the menstrual blood.
Slaytanic_Amarth: I read this to the tune of the Monster Mash, and I can't stop laughing now. Truly I am a child at heart lol
Apatheist Account2 8 months ago
There was nothing about this in the 1970s. One cartoon on relationships and the basic act, and that was it. It was an all-boys school, but we were told nothing about how girls function. I didn't even know these things existed.
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Saint_Zipcodus 8 months ago
And an important detail, becase it seems not everybody knows it: Pads are for sticking to the underwear, not the genital.
Judy Reynolds 8 months ago
And then you get old, and there is no more menstrual blood, but there is random pee...
Lena Flising 8 months ago
We stick them to the inside of our underpants, and use them to soak up period blood. They are not stuck to the skin.
KatieMal 8 months ago
The sticky part on the pad sticks to the underwear and you wear your underwear as normal (to clarify, the soft part of the pad's meant to be between the female private and the underwear, not the outside of the undies) and it soaks up the blood like the white, cushiony part of a band-aid
Don't listen to me 8 months ago
And in any case most women use tampons these days. They fit inside so less mess outside.
Rachel Pelz 8 months ago
Menstrual cups and period pants are neat too. Wish I had them earlier but at least they are widely available in my country now.
Load More Replies... Anne Young 8 months ago
No also for after pregnancy expellings. And if someone has an ovarian cyst. That kindof thing.
KatSaidWhat 8 months ago
Google is not always your friend. also it would take the same amount of time for you to respond nicely instead of being sarcastic.
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Do women play with their own breasts out it boredom? Like randomly squeeze them.
Apozerycki1: I do and it actually helped me!
I was just laying in bed one day, playing with my b***s and I noticed a lump. Eventually went to the doctor and they were like, “oh, were you doing a self exam when you found it?” And I had to be like, “well, no…”
I ended up getting a biopsy and it was a fibroadenoma (benign common tumor in younger women) but I basically had to skirt around the fact that I found the lump from feeling my t**s in bed. No one ever asked directly, I just avoided being specific when they asked how I found it.
MothsEyesOfHorror: Absolutly. Sometimes you just hold them c its comfy.
Ellinor 8 months ago
Yes. Don't know why, but it's not in a sexual way at all. Just a blob of soft fat and skin that you can squeeze once in a while.
Aidan Pite 8 months ago
Yup. And sometimes I'll just put my hand under one and just rapidly wiggle because it's funny when they jiggle.
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marianne eliza 8 months ago
If you're a side sleeper with big breasts it can help to cup the lower breast while you sleep so it doesn't get mashed painfully if you move a bit.
CamiCamilion 8 months ago
I did a lot more before I had kids. It's been long enough now to be well separated from feeding, and they're not nasty saggy or anything. I just don't often now. This post makes me miss it 😅
#42
How important is manscaping on a scale of 1-10.
erinnteeter: As long as everything is clean I'm fine with it. Unless the hair is out of control.
mothwhimsy: If you're trying to get your d**k s**ked, at least a 9. No one wants pube teeth. If not, eh. Looking somewhat groomed is nice but I personally am not too worried about it.
Blah Blah Blah 8 months ago
Just f*****g shower! Use soap, scrub it all down and wear deodorant for f**k's sake.
Beth Wheeler 8 months ago
Why are people so obsessed with shaving their c****h? Everybody male or female just be clean.
zxj7rfyqqw 8 months ago
IMPORTANT. hygiene and being nice for your partner. Just clipper it, think groomed and neat. You don’t need to go crazy with it, it’s mainly hair length that is the issue. Just put a low ish grade on some clippers and tidy up a bit.
The Doom Song 8 months ago
Well as long as everything is clean it doesn't really matter. I don't mind a bit of hair as long as it's not a wild bush
maaike martens 3 months ago
the neck area and nose hairs should be well trimmed... the others... well clean and fresh is the most important. personally i'm not a fan of fluffy beards, only when they're well groomed/maintained...
#43
If you have a wife, there is no question too embarassing to ask.
OhNoTokyo: If you have a wife, they will answer the embarrassing questions when just talking about their day, before you even thought to ask them.
Eric Rossman 5 months ago
I think this is one of the consistent lessons I've learned from being married 20+ years. Listening is a skill and it's never a bad idea to practice it.
Load More Replies... #44
As far as I can tell, leggings are one of the most universal / flexible pieces of clothing a woman can wear and still remain as casual as jeans, but as comfy as pjs, YET you always manage to look hella good regardless of what top you pair with leggings.
What the f**k do you wear with leggings / how do you always seem to pair it correctly? (Correctly being it never looks like something you wouldn’t pair with it).
peachpinkjedi:
Leggings are super versatile and actually come in a bunch of different styles! I like to balance leggings, which are of course tight to the body, with looser and flowy tops or even dresses (and if I wear baggy sweats or flowy pants, I'll do a tighter top. I like that balance).
Huddo's sister 8 months ago
I don't like wearing leggings with something that doesn't come down below my butt (after stupid comments I can't escape from). Usually I just wear them under dresses because I get cold easily but still want to look summery.
MonsterMum 8 months ago
Me too, I see a lot of ladies with cheap, thin leggings and short tops. It's not flattering, even on very attractive ladies
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1LittleGranny64 2 months ago
I’m old, saggy, and incredibly short. Leggings make me look like a sausage.
KatSaidWhat 8 months ago
I'm new to the leggings game having put on some abdo weight and you can pair almost anything with them.
Savannah Newman 8 months ago
Leggings are like the evolution of what comes after pantihose. Yet we feel much more covered and comfortable than we would if we were wearing hose. Also we don't have to struggle to find the right fit, they just fit.
#45
Do you get the pee shivers too?
23san: Yes
Naalbindr: What are pee shivers?
exoxe: When you are peeing and your body shivers/shakes at a certain point during the process. Can't remember the last time I had it happen but I do remember it when I was younger.
Khavrinen 8 months ago
Here's the wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-micturition_convulsion_syndrome
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meow point1 8 months ago
I sometimes get random shivers, not when I'm peeing but just... because.
Jeffery Gorgonzola 8 months ago
Oh yes, this happens to me all the time, wierd, but not really unpleasant.
Trophy Husband 8 months ago
Sometimes when I'm peeing, especially if it's the middle of the night, I'll feel light-headed and dizzy and start to shake. I'm assuming that's what this person's talking about. They've been times when I've had to sit down to finish peeing, or where I finished and then had to sit on the bathroom counter or on a chair just outside the bathroom, before I could make it back to bed. I recently had this happen and I blacked out and woke up on the bathroom floor. So I was worried, and I looked it up. Apparently it's actually very common, particularly with men going bathroom in the middle of the night. We're standing up while we're peeing, so it takes more effort to manage that. On top of that, standing up from a deep sleep causes a drop in blood pressure and then the effort of standing up and peeing makes that even worse. It's not dangerous, but if you fall and hit your head then it's suddenly becomes dangerous.
Trophy Husband 8 months ago
To any men out there who have this problem, the biggest advice that I found was to sit in bed for a minute or two before you walk to the bathroom, and then sit down to pee. It's uncommon during the day, mostly it just happens at night because of the suddenly standing up when the sleeping.
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#46
Why do you match on dating apps, then ghost after one message? I didn't even get the chance to blow it yet.
bulbousbirb: I wouldn't ghost after one message but I would if the conversation was going nowhere. I can kind of tell early on how engaging they're going to be.
finallymakingareddit: Honestly we just don't have time. Usually when you match a bunch of people you end up just prioritizing the few you were really interested in/had a really good start to a convo. Sometimes you were iffy about swiping on the person and then their first message was meh, so you decide against them.
Tyranamar Seuss 8 months ago
If your first message is “Hi!” I’m sorry, but it’s over. Whenever I message a man I make sure to read his profile and ask or comment on something related. Usually leaving enough room for a nice open answer back. And all the work you can put in is to say “Hi!” Ugh. “hi.” Now what?
Peter Bear 8 months ago
We're trying to be polite and not creepy. I would start a real conversation with 'hi', so I would start a text conversation the same way. Give us at least a little credit. And for the record, my wife and I matched online, so apparently whatever I did worked. Make of that what you will.
Load More Replies... DC and S 8 months ago
This works both ways, happens to women too, so in general my guess is mainly that it's online and there's absolutely no sense of connection or compatibility yet so it's really easy to nope out for any or no reason. It takes time and effort to get to know someone to see if you have a connection, so there needs to be a solid, and continuous draw. ----------- More specifically, either that first message didn't click with them or was off-putting for them and their wants/tastes, or didn't engage them personally in any way. So they simply stopped trying to connect. ---- Some will argue they should send a "not feeling it but good luck" message, but I would guess that if they don't feel any draw or tie to you early on, they're not going to feel the need to send "break up" message either.
maaike martens 3 months ago
if you sound reserved, talk only about yourself or are overly interested in meeting up right away... (those red flags and emergency bells come hollering...)
Ruth Watry 8 months ago
When 10 or 20 guys link, and you have a fulltime job and a life, you cannot converse with all of them - so you pursue the ones who you connect with.
Space Invader 8 months ago
I heard that part of the problem is the algorithm of dating apps, since it gives far more "suggestions" to women, meaning they have more options and less time.
#47
I hate these threads because a lot of the questions assume that women are part of a hive mind. Like we can’t give you the secret to dating women when we’re all different, bro.
[deleted]: I feel like this one is very respectful. I've spent a few hours here lol
mikess314: The thing is, it doesn’t matter that you aren’t a hive mind. Go to the AskWomen sub. It’s impossible to ask women anything in AskWomen. You get downvoted and chastised for daring to utilize the sub for its intended purpose and then the mods have their fun.
Now go ask anything you want on AskMen. Massive diversity of opinions. Nobody shitting on OP unless they genuinely deserve it. No sticks up any butts.
So please, enough with the “wE’Re nOt A hiVE mINd” reactions. The diversity of responses is what we want.
Auntriarch 8 months ago
Even if the questions assumed that, the answers will show different. Keep the conversation going, that's how you get to know stuff
#48
Will you be my girlfriend.
Rainshine93: Sure
[deleted]: No, but you can be my girlfriend.
#49
How do you feel about the apparent avocado shortage in the United States?
Tera-chan: There’s an avocado shortage?
Auntriarch 8 months ago
I'm a bit annoyed at the rising price of chocolate though, nearly doubled in the last year
ROSESARERED 8 months ago
Considering its one of the important food groups🤣🤣🤣very annoying
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marianne eliza 8 months ago
We've never had a shortage here in CA because CA grows so many. Between 75% and 92% of the USA avocados. And the farmers can get a bigger profit if they don't have to ship them long distances. During the season, we can get avocados 3/$1.00. They're the smaller ones but at that price you can buy a lot of them. Sometimes cheaper at farm stands in the growing regions.
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Do you guys get 2 streams of pee like us sometimes.
OliveRyder: Sometimes
StCecilia98: Sometimes it’s like the flat/mist setting on the hose
Blah Blah Blah 8 months ago (edited)
Pelvic floor tears from childbirth can be a cause, also medical issues like bladder stones, prolapse, etc. Not good though Dr. needed usually.
Savannah Newman 8 months ago
Fun fact. Since we sit to people we rarely even see the actual exiting of our bladder. Maybe, but I don't care to know or start checking every time.
maaike martens 3 months ago
2? a plethora of fashionable ways it can squirt.... instead of a watergun we have 2 loose flaps around it half blocking the flow... ;-)
Charity Angel 8 months ago
Um, can we have a guy opinion on this? Because this doesn't seem normal. One urethra should mean one stream
"Disembodied voice" 8 months ago
Sometimes there's a blockage or the urethra is stuck partially closed, the stream can split. It's usually fine but can be from a medical condition
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Michael P (Perthaussieguy) 8 months ago
Oh, yes. Often one goes into the toilet bowl and the other at a tangent :(
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Blah Blah Blah 8 months ago
These are excellent and needed. I truly hope questions like this are asked more often as well as read and legit heard.
Ellinor 8 months ago
It was fun, I answered to everything I could ! And if some of you have more questions, do not hesitate to ask !
Jill Rhodry 8 months ago
Maybe there needs to BP list of the guys asking the girls and then another of girls asking guys
Dr. Aftershave 8 months ago
Gay man here, and I appreciate these questions and answers immensely!
Neopet22 8 months ago
It's better to ask and learn than to keep being a jerk who doesn't care. While all women are different,I do think most of us on the fundamental level,want similar things. I think it's also important to remember that women are human just like you. Sometimes considering what makes you feel nice with a woman can help you understand how to treat a woman.
David Farmer 3 months ago
It's good to see WOMEN answering them, not just dumb males answering FOR women. As if they'd know! It's just as bad as women answering the question, "What do men want?!" Hahaha...
Tom De Paul 6 months ago
Why are there SO many posts about women sh*tting everywhere but on a toilet? I get less bowel control after a birth, but there also seems like a more general lack of control paired with the unfortunate occurrence of loose stool. Some, but not all, of these stories seem to happen when the woman is drunk. Any comments?
Blah Blah Blah 8 months ago
These are excellent and needed. I truly hope questions like this are asked more often as well as read and legit heard.
Ellinor 8 months ago
It was fun, I answered to everything I could ! And if some of you have more questions, do not hesitate to ask !
Jill Rhodry 8 months ago
Maybe there needs to BP list of the guys asking the girls and then another of girls asking guys
Dr. Aftershave 8 months ago
Gay man here, and I appreciate these questions and answers immensely!
Neopet22 8 months ago
It's better to ask and learn than to keep being a jerk who doesn't care. While all women are different,I do think most of us on the fundamental level,want similar things. I think it's also important to remember that women are human just like you. Sometimes considering what makes you feel nice with a woman can help you understand how to treat a woman.
David Farmer 3 months ago
It's good to see WOMEN answering them, not just dumb males answering FOR women. As if they'd know! It's just as bad as women answering the question, "What do men want?!" Hahaha...
Tom De Paul 6 months ago
Why are there SO many posts about women sh*tting everywhere but on a toilet? I get less bowel control after a birth, but there also seems like a more general lack of control paired with the unfortunate occurrence of loose stool. Some, but not all, of these stories seem to happen when the woman is drunk. Any comments?
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