13YO “Vegan” Eats Meatloaf At Friend’s Home, His Parents Go Livid Once Finding Out About It
Interview With ExpertSome dinners just hit different—you know, the kind that make you question your diet, your morals, and maybe even your mom’s plant-based preaching. Being vegan is a lifestyle, sure, but when a perfectly golden meatloaf shows up looking like it came straight from flavor heaven, even the most loyal tofu fan might start sweating.
One Redditor thought she was just serving a cozy, no-fuss family meal, but when her son’s supposedly vegan friend took one bite and never looked back, the real heat wasn’t in the oven—it was in what came after dinner. Let’s just say, things got extra crispy.
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Some people fight over parking spots, others fight over tofu and carrots
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One mom allows her son’s “vegan” friend to eat meat at her house when he asks for it, but his parents go ballistic and end their friendship
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The woman’s son invites his friend over, but he ends up staying for dinner as his parents are running late for pickup
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The woman informs the parents she doesn’t have many veggies in the house, but the parents tell her to just cook anything plant-based
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The mom offers to cook some roasted potatoes for the teen, but he asks to have some meatloaf instead, which she agrees to
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The teen’s parents go ballistic over their “vegan” son eating meat, accusing the mom of being “a bad influence” and banning their son from seeing his friend
The OP’s (original poster) 13-year-old son invited a friend over, and the plan was simple: keep it casual, hang out, and share a meal. But the kid’s family is vegan. So, when the teen asked if he could stay for dinner, they reminded the OP to serve something vegan-friendly.
Our meat-lover OP was honest with the parents, telling them veganism isn’t really in her culinary wheelhouse, unless you count buttered corn and cheese-smothered broccoli as plant-based options. Still, she offered to whip up some roasted carrots and potato wedges for the teen.
But when he saw the juicy meatloaf, buttery mashed potatoes, and buttered corn on the table, he waved goodbye to tofu and said, “I’ll have what you’re having.” Apparently, this wasn’t a one-time meat lapse either. The kid casually dropped that he already eats meat at school. So, the OP figured, hey, if he wants it, we’re good, right? Wrong. So, so wrong.
When the boy’s parents picked him up and asked what he had for dinner, he didn’t lie. And let’s just say… it wasn’t a happy meal moment. They were furious and accused the OP of corrupting their child, sabotaging their beliefs, and practically throwing tofu into the garbage disposal of morality.
And, to add extra salt to the meatloaf, they’ve even banned their son from hanging out with OP’s son. Punishing the kids by pulling the plug on their friendship just because a 13-year-old wants a slice of meat? Now that’s just cruel. Veganism should be a choice, not a duty.
To find out more about the pros and cons of vegan nutrition, Bored Panda reached out to Amy Reed, spokesperson for the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics, for some comments. She told us that a lot of people transitioning to a vegan lifestyle tend to underestimate how much protein they need or limit themselves to only a few protein-rich foods.
According to Reed, there’s a wide variety of plant-based protein options out there—like tofu, tempeh, lentils, beans, nuts, seeds, and nut butters—but people often stick to just one or two and miss out on the rest.
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We wanted to know if a vegan diet can provide enough protein and iron without relying on supplements. Reed explains that with proper planning, a vegan diet can supply sufficient amounts of both protein and iron. She points out that plant-based iron—called non-heme iron—is found in foods like tofu, beans, and leafy greens such as spinach.
We asked Reed if a well-planned vegan diet is safe and nutritionally adequate for young children and teens. She believes that children can absolutely thrive on a vegan diet, provided it’s diverse and well-balanced. However, the expert also recommends that families considering a vegan diet for their children work closely with a registered dietitian.
“It is possible that a vegan diet may not be appropriate for all children, depending upon other health issues, and any concerns for growth need to be discussed with a primary care provider before starting or continuing a vegan diet on a young child,” Reed explained.
We wanted to know what nutrients parents should pay close attention to when feeding their child a vegan diet. Reed highlights that parents should focus on making sure their children get enough plant-based protein and healthy fats. She also points to several important micronutrients to monitor, including iron, zinc, vitamin B12, and potentially calcium and vitamin D.
Finally, we asked Reed what the long-term health benefits (or risks) of vegan nutrition are. The expert shares that well-structured vegan diets are linked to a lower risk of heart disease. She attributes this to the high intake of fiber from fruits, vegetables, and legumes that are common in vegan eating patterns.
However, she cautions that a poorly planned vegan diet can fall short on key nutrients—especially those typically found in animal products, like vitamin B12 and DHA (an omega-3 fatty acid). Thankfully, there are vegan-friendly supplements available to help fill those nutritional gaps when needed.
So, dear readers, what do you think of this story? Would you have served the meatloaf or stuck to the carrots? Drop your thoughts and comments below!
Netizens side with the woman, saying she is not a jerk for feeding her son’s vegan friend meat when he asked for it
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The parents are awfully dogmatic in restricting their son's friendships. It seems their beliefs take precedence over their child's social life. The vegan/vegetarian parents I've met are willing to compromise: dietary restrictions in the home, but freedom to choose outside the home.
People call their kind "veganazis". 100% intolerant, and completely hateful towards people who aren't just like them. It's not a diet chy, or lifestyle, it's a drink the Kool aid cult.
Load More Replies...Imo bacon should be in it's own food group. Especially from Nueskes. Killer corned beef hash too.
Load More Replies...NTA - the kid isn't vegan, his parents are. However - if he WAS vegan, eating meat could make him sick. His body isnt used to that kind of protein and freaks out.
Didn’t mention him getting sick, so may be safe to assume his system is completely adjusted to eating meat. His parents should respect his choices at his age.
Load More Replies...I have a vegan mom friend, single mom of an 11YO. While she cooks vegan meals at home, she doesn’t require him to follow the same diet as her. She told me “while he’s living under my roof he can eat the meals I cook, but I’m not going to stop him from eating meat elsewhere if he wants to.” Now she has a kid who not only LOVES veggies, is curious and excited about trying new foods, but ALSO is very kind and tolerant of others’ dietary preferences/needs :) I think she’s a great mom, he’s the most chill kid ever.
The writer made a dinner the child was happy to eat. It's a private matter between the child and parents what was eaten. However, the writer seriously needs to up their veggie-game for the health of their own family! Buttered corn, mashed potatoes, brown sugar carrots, broccoli and cheese, and mixed veggies is not enough. Eat a rainbow of veggies, and you will get a far larger range of nutrients.
I'd get the kid some gift cards for nearby fast food places so he can eat whatever he wants on the sly.
If the kid is eating meat at school then he isn't a vegan or even a vegetarian, despite what his pathetically deluded parents think. If they demanded that he stop seeing your son they should also take him out of that school and enrol him in the nearest Vegan School. No, wait ... there aren't any.
I truly believe the parents are creating a huge wedge between themselves and their son. He obviously doesn't want to be vegan, and the more they push him; the more he's going to rebel.
These people were just trying to be accommodating hosts to a guest. Please, my fellow pandas who are vegan, don't take offense to this but it seems like veganism is becoming a religion or cult rather than just a lifestyle choice.
My daughter had her vegetarian phase. I was NEVER cooking vegan... for anyone! But her idea of vegetarian was to strain the meat out of the spaghetti sauce type vegetarian. She refused to eat the lentils, beans, tofu, other incomplete proteins, etc to fill in the "holes" from a non-meat diet. And every so often she'd hint around that she NEEDED an Arby's to "keep her iron levels up". She was a teen. Could make reasonable decisions on what she ate, so I was not telling her no about meat. She also refused to eat TVP (textured veggies protein). Fortunately that particular phase did NOT last long. This kid too seems to plan to eat what he wants and that doesn't include being vegan. Perhaps his friend should encourage him to discuss this issue with the school dietician and school counselor.
Food is a very personal choice. No one should tell anyone else what to eat, even a parent to a kid, unless they're about to eat something dangerous or otherwise shouldn't be eaten. Great way for the parents to get defensive and dig in their heels, which ultimately leads to the kid going no contact as soon as he leaves home.
Even without meatloaf, those "buttery" potatoes were non-vegan anyway. Why not parental freak out over that?
The son's friend should talk to his parent about it and get their point of view on why they are vegan. I am not vegan or vegetarian, but I try to eat as little meat as possible, because I am upset when they k**l the animals, but I don't tell other how they should eat, if they love to eat meat, it is fine with me, I don't tell them it is wrong or whatever.
I feel bad for OPs kids that they aren't getting a balanced diet if she thinks that buttered corn is a vegetable side... hopefully they can develop healthily eating habits on their own but often kids who don't grow up eating veggies become adults who don't eat veggies and the cycle continues. Meatloaf with mashed potatoes and corn would be a treat/cheat meal for us, it's not awful but not very well balanced either.
We don't know if the kid actually eats meat at school. He might have made that up so he could have a taste of that meatloaf. This is a lot of fuss about nothing. When I was a child, you ate what was served or nothing at all.
First, OP could have easily taken some of the potato out before the butter was added and not add the butter to the corn. Not making any effort is sort of jerky. If the friend had been presented with the vegan option and still chose the dishes with dairy and the meat dish, then you were actually providing options. It only takes a little effort; I know, I DIL can't have gluten, dairy, egg, apple, mushrooms, and more. That said.he's old enough to have made the choice and even though the parents want to stick their heads into the denial bucket, he's been eating meat for a while. Last, and this may make me the AH - OP really needs to add some variety into the family meals - boring, uninspiring food choices are just that.
All parents involved are stupid. As a vegetarian for ethical reasons, I have never forced it on my children; especially not when they tried to provoke me by eating meat. But when other children are with me, I respect their parents' restrictions. I also have no problem explaining to the children that I can't interfere in their relationship with their parents. They understand that.
There are several layers to the story so... - feeding a child something against explicit parents' instructions: YTA - forcing a child into veganism: YTA I really do prefer eating vegetarian for a lot of reasons (not the point here) and because I became severely intolerant to dairies (not lactose only), I have to avoid dairies, which makes a lot of my food choices vegan. However, my sons have always gotten to choose. One is vegetarian and won't touch meat. The other likes to try sometimes and I absolutely let him. They know why I made the choices I made and they know they can decide what they do based on those informations with no jugement (one limitation is that I personally won't cook meat). Interestingly, they both eat fish. I firmly believe that if you forbid something, you just make it mysterious and more desirable. Kids need to explore for themselves, learn, get info and decide. And extremes are never good. I don't feel anyone in the story are particularly respectful.
I'm going to go against the grain and say YTA. The friend is 13 - not 18. His years are still formative, and his parents are trying instill in him certain values that aren't amoral or objectionable, but really just have a reputation for being inconvenient and obnoxious. But more importantly, the parents clearly communicated their desires with OP, - even were like "yeah just don't serve him whatever you are eating if it has animal products in it" - and OP AGREED to their request! . Only to about-face at when faced with a rebellious teenager! I wonder how OP would feel if someone did the same thing respective to their child?
My mom gave pork to a friend's child who wasn't supposed to have any for religious reasons. When she realized her mistake, she told the mother and apologized. No shunning was involved - the kid's mom simply accepted the apology and the kid was none the wiser. Sh*t happens, but it doesn't have to hit the proverbial fan.
Load More Replies...The parents are awfully dogmatic in restricting their son's friendships. It seems their beliefs take precedence over their child's social life. The vegan/vegetarian parents I've met are willing to compromise: dietary restrictions in the home, but freedom to choose outside the home.
People call their kind "veganazis". 100% intolerant, and completely hateful towards people who aren't just like them. It's not a diet chy, or lifestyle, it's a drink the Kool aid cult.
Load More Replies...Imo bacon should be in it's own food group. Especially from Nueskes. Killer corned beef hash too.
Load More Replies...NTA - the kid isn't vegan, his parents are. However - if he WAS vegan, eating meat could make him sick. His body isnt used to that kind of protein and freaks out.
Didn’t mention him getting sick, so may be safe to assume his system is completely adjusted to eating meat. His parents should respect his choices at his age.
Load More Replies...I have a vegan mom friend, single mom of an 11YO. While she cooks vegan meals at home, she doesn’t require him to follow the same diet as her. She told me “while he’s living under my roof he can eat the meals I cook, but I’m not going to stop him from eating meat elsewhere if he wants to.” Now she has a kid who not only LOVES veggies, is curious and excited about trying new foods, but ALSO is very kind and tolerant of others’ dietary preferences/needs :) I think she’s a great mom, he’s the most chill kid ever.
The writer made a dinner the child was happy to eat. It's a private matter between the child and parents what was eaten. However, the writer seriously needs to up their veggie-game for the health of their own family! Buttered corn, mashed potatoes, brown sugar carrots, broccoli and cheese, and mixed veggies is not enough. Eat a rainbow of veggies, and you will get a far larger range of nutrients.
I'd get the kid some gift cards for nearby fast food places so he can eat whatever he wants on the sly.
If the kid is eating meat at school then he isn't a vegan or even a vegetarian, despite what his pathetically deluded parents think. If they demanded that he stop seeing your son they should also take him out of that school and enrol him in the nearest Vegan School. No, wait ... there aren't any.
I truly believe the parents are creating a huge wedge between themselves and their son. He obviously doesn't want to be vegan, and the more they push him; the more he's going to rebel.
These people were just trying to be accommodating hosts to a guest. Please, my fellow pandas who are vegan, don't take offense to this but it seems like veganism is becoming a religion or cult rather than just a lifestyle choice.
My daughter had her vegetarian phase. I was NEVER cooking vegan... for anyone! But her idea of vegetarian was to strain the meat out of the spaghetti sauce type vegetarian. She refused to eat the lentils, beans, tofu, other incomplete proteins, etc to fill in the "holes" from a non-meat diet. And every so often she'd hint around that she NEEDED an Arby's to "keep her iron levels up". She was a teen. Could make reasonable decisions on what she ate, so I was not telling her no about meat. She also refused to eat TVP (textured veggies protein). Fortunately that particular phase did NOT last long. This kid too seems to plan to eat what he wants and that doesn't include being vegan. Perhaps his friend should encourage him to discuss this issue with the school dietician and school counselor.
Food is a very personal choice. No one should tell anyone else what to eat, even a parent to a kid, unless they're about to eat something dangerous or otherwise shouldn't be eaten. Great way for the parents to get defensive and dig in their heels, which ultimately leads to the kid going no contact as soon as he leaves home.
Even without meatloaf, those "buttery" potatoes were non-vegan anyway. Why not parental freak out over that?
The son's friend should talk to his parent about it and get their point of view on why they are vegan. I am not vegan or vegetarian, but I try to eat as little meat as possible, because I am upset when they k**l the animals, but I don't tell other how they should eat, if they love to eat meat, it is fine with me, I don't tell them it is wrong or whatever.
I feel bad for OPs kids that they aren't getting a balanced diet if she thinks that buttered corn is a vegetable side... hopefully they can develop healthily eating habits on their own but often kids who don't grow up eating veggies become adults who don't eat veggies and the cycle continues. Meatloaf with mashed potatoes and corn would be a treat/cheat meal for us, it's not awful but not very well balanced either.
We don't know if the kid actually eats meat at school. He might have made that up so he could have a taste of that meatloaf. This is a lot of fuss about nothing. When I was a child, you ate what was served or nothing at all.
First, OP could have easily taken some of the potato out before the butter was added and not add the butter to the corn. Not making any effort is sort of jerky. If the friend had been presented with the vegan option and still chose the dishes with dairy and the meat dish, then you were actually providing options. It only takes a little effort; I know, I DIL can't have gluten, dairy, egg, apple, mushrooms, and more. That said.he's old enough to have made the choice and even though the parents want to stick their heads into the denial bucket, he's been eating meat for a while. Last, and this may make me the AH - OP really needs to add some variety into the family meals - boring, uninspiring food choices are just that.
All parents involved are stupid. As a vegetarian for ethical reasons, I have never forced it on my children; especially not when they tried to provoke me by eating meat. But when other children are with me, I respect their parents' restrictions. I also have no problem explaining to the children that I can't interfere in their relationship with their parents. They understand that.
There are several layers to the story so... - feeding a child something against explicit parents' instructions: YTA - forcing a child into veganism: YTA I really do prefer eating vegetarian for a lot of reasons (not the point here) and because I became severely intolerant to dairies (not lactose only), I have to avoid dairies, which makes a lot of my food choices vegan. However, my sons have always gotten to choose. One is vegetarian and won't touch meat. The other likes to try sometimes and I absolutely let him. They know why I made the choices I made and they know they can decide what they do based on those informations with no jugement (one limitation is that I personally won't cook meat). Interestingly, they both eat fish. I firmly believe that if you forbid something, you just make it mysterious and more desirable. Kids need to explore for themselves, learn, get info and decide. And extremes are never good. I don't feel anyone in the story are particularly respectful.
I'm going to go against the grain and say YTA. The friend is 13 - not 18. His years are still formative, and his parents are trying instill in him certain values that aren't amoral or objectionable, but really just have a reputation for being inconvenient and obnoxious. But more importantly, the parents clearly communicated their desires with OP, - even were like "yeah just don't serve him whatever you are eating if it has animal products in it" - and OP AGREED to their request! . Only to about-face at when faced with a rebellious teenager! I wonder how OP would feel if someone did the same thing respective to their child?
My mom gave pork to a friend's child who wasn't supposed to have any for religious reasons. When she realized her mistake, she told the mother and apologized. No shunning was involved - the kid's mom simply accepted the apology and the kid was none the wiser. Sh*t happens, but it doesn't have to hit the proverbial fan.
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