“I Called It Quits”: Man Leaves His GF Of 25 Years Over Menopause, Gets Called Out Online
If any long-term relationship is going to last, the couple needs to be in agreement about questions regarding things like where they will live and having kids. The latter in particular is something there has to be mutual agreement on, otherwise the relationship is going to be particularly unhappy for one of the partners.
A 57-year-old man with criminally poor self-awareness asked the internet if he was a jerk for ditching his girlfriend of 25 years because she was menopausal and he suddenly wanted kids. People online gave him a reality check and told him exactly how horribly he had screwed up.
As long as everyone is in agreement, having or not having kids are both a valid choice
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But one man at the age of nearly 60 suddenly decided that he wanted kids and dumped his long-term girlfriend
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Not having kids is becoming the new normal
Slowly, almost unnoticeably, the general trend among couples is to simply skip having children. While over the last few decades, this might have been the default, it seems that in this day and age, couples instead weigh the pros and cons of having kids first before deciding. The result, like in OP’s story, is that many chose to forgo having kids at first. After all, if you can barely sustain yourself, giving a kid a horrible childhood is irresponsible and dumb.
By itself, OP’s story wouldn’t even be that bad. He and his girlfriend were in agreement. The idea of possibly having kids later when you have a more comfortable life is entirely rational and noble, compared to what some couples do. What is absolutely ignoble is to suddenly have a change of heart at a time when it’s quite impractical.
In general, it is good to split up when it comes to these sorts of questions. If one partner really insists on having or not having a child, the other can go along with it, but if they don’t agree with the choice, they will carry this resentment for the rest of their lives. Resentment can be suppressed for a time, but it will always find a way to rear its ugly head.
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People are often somewhat dishonest about what they actually want
Research on this topic is sporadic, as couples that vehemently disagree on this question tend not to stay together (as is the case with OP’s story.) At the same time, one partner in a relationship might have an opinion that differs from the other one. Knowing that his information could harm the relationship, they keep it to themselves.
Indeed, in OP’s story, he described it as an internal crisis, which was probably eating away at him for longer than he would have admitted. Research into this topic does suggest that generally, the final veto does go to the woman. Unless there is some significant coercion, ultimately they can comply or not comply with the demand to have a child. This doesn’t mean that every woman with a child wants it, but that in a healthy relationship, a woman tends to have the final say.
What complicates this issue is that our opinions are, for better or worse, not static. Research shows that both genders will often change their mind at some point. An opinion isn’t binary, you might have a preference but not a strong desire for something. This can at times be the ultimate test of a relationship, the ability to find common ground, compromise and hear each other out.
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We still have to be realistic about what we want from our partners
However, our desires, particularly towards our partners, still need to be grounded in reality. In a vacuum, leaving a relationship, even a longer one, due to irreconcilable differences is not a bad thing. However, OP is nearly 60. Even if he was quite healthy, he would not live to see his child’s thirtieth birthday. While it would be possible to adopt an older child, the fact that his girlfriend’s in menopause being such a deal-breaker also indicates that it’s important that he have a biological child.
Ultimately, OP made a mistake and either needs to realize his delusions, apologize, and attempt to make amends or learn to now live without the person who supported him through thick and thin. He stated that they were literally selling plasma at some point, and this woman didn’t leave him yet. While a relationship isn’t and shouldn’t be transactional, he should have perhaps been more content with what he has and not thrown away nearly three decades of work.
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Readers called out OP for his disastrous thinking
Hey now, you all are forgetting that he's letting her stay for a whole month so she can find a place! Excuse me while I go vomit.
25 years together and you would think he would care about her feeling a bit. Nope. A month in the holiday home and gone. He could at least give her the holiday home if he has an extra house.
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I hope she can legally be recognised a his common-law spouse, and take half his assets. She built the life they shared with him, from selling plasma to giving up her career to travel and volunteer with him, she should get half of everything. I hope this jackass wakes up to find himself single, sixty, and only half as wealthy, and no woman anywhere gets conned into having his midlife-crisis panic baby. Dumbass. As for the woman, get a lawyer, 25 years together outweighs the "no marriage license". You were his common law wife, and a lot of countries/states will recognise you as such, and give you a settlement. Then get yourself therapy if you need it, make yourself fabulous, and live your best life without the a*****e.
Probably depends where they live, but yes, she should be able to get something from this relationship beyond just a month in the spare house.
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From reading the comments, I get the feeling people are not entirely on this gentlemans side.
What gentlemen? That asshat doesn't deserve such respect.
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So they can’t explore fostering, adoption, or even a surrogate if he’s hell bent on passing on his asshat DNA, so they could raise the child, or children, together? He has to throw away the woman who spent her childbearing years helping him get rich, including selling her plasma to bankroll his business, while he was adamant he didn’t want kids, then once it is guaranteed she won’t get pregnant m he dumps her to go find himself a younger babymaker? This is mid life crisis/looking for a trophy wife territory. What do you want to bet he still doesn’t want kids, but is using that as an excuse to go find a younger piece of eye candy for his arm? Bastard. I hope his angry inch shrivels up and falls off.
Damn!!! I'm outraged on the ex-gf's behalf! I can't even express how/what I feel as I'm sure BP would ban me for life! So she sold her plasma to help him get his business thriving? She has wasted a majority of her life on the biggest POS I've ever read on here! Because they were together so many years, I hope she can get some kind of financial restitution thru the courts! What an absolute selfish, shïtty thing to do to someone that he claims to "love"
Oh but he would be a great father because he would totally respect and be committed to the mother *snort*. What a piece of utter doggy Doo Doo. Also, he either already has a replacement in mind for his long term girlfriend or he thinks he is gonna click his misogynistic fingers and one will coming running pronto. I hope all they see is the selfish dirty old man he is...
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This is the most disgusting thing I have read in a while. I hope no woman touches this pathetic excuse for a man ever again. I hope he dies alone and forgotten, while his poor girlfriend finds true happiness with someone who really loves her.
The comments on the actual reddit page... No amount of aloe or skin grafts will save those burns.
Someone please cut his balls off so he can't breed. He doesn't even want children who grow into themselves, he Literally said he wants to see himself in them.
Ladies this is what "real men" do, anytime a guy says "I'm a real man" run, run far, run fast. or End up with an Andrew Tate wannabe like this a*****e.
No, this is what inconsiderate overgrown children who have no consideration for other people or willingness to take responsibility for the consequences of their decisions do.
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This man is out of his effin' mind. How can be so selfish an discard his partner who *checks notes* even sold her plasma to help his business? Wow. Just wow
So he argued with her and even took her to therapy to get her to change her mind about wanting kids. I don't know how their relationship even survived that because in most people the maternal instinct is incredibly strong but she eventually does and then when she's physically unable he decides to abandon her with nothing!? AH isn't a strong enough word to accurately convey what a complete POS this person is.
It was sad to read she didn’t have to worry about “phantom pregnancies” anymore. Which implies she was having them, which means she wanted children very much. When I first started menopause I dreamt I was pregnant a lot and waking up sad because I wasn’t. I don’t want anymore kids, but it’s a real grief to know you can’t anymore.
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I'm not one about wiping the other person financially clean after a divorce. But in this case, I'll give an exception, and I do hope this lady gets the chance to do just that to this MAJOR AH. She gave up so much, just to cater to him and fulfill all his wishes; sold her plasma just so HE can start his business. What did she get? He dumped her like a wet rag. I do wish that she finds a much, much better man who'll treat her very nicely and whom she'll be happy to spend the rest of her life with. I'm just so happy that this narcissistic d@uche-bucket did NOT spawn any children. I'd hate to see another one like him. ... For crying out loud, man - give her that vacation home. The least you could do, especially, after how you've treated her.
And I hope if he has any money left after that it all gets taken by young women he wants to impregnate and he's left with nothing - no baby maker, no baby, and no money.
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Meanwhile, if a kid were to come from this, by the time that child is 25, OP will be over 80. So you're going to be too old to do anything of significance with your child due to your age. And you'll probably pass away while they're young, too. Now I know this is a risk with any parent at any age, but it truly sucks to have a parent that's technically more a grandfather and then by the time you're trying to spread your wings they're REALLY old, perhaps requiring aid because of geriatric illnesses or whatever. It's bad plan.
I'm 56. Lost my father at 84 a year ago. This was after a sharp decline, covid sure didn't help. I cared for him for nearly 3 years...it was heart breaking but, I have enough hard earned life experience to put the necessary steel in my spine and get through it...A 20 ish son or daughter dealing with the issues of vascular dementia, incontinence, seizures, broken hip, vomiting, unable to swallow on and on..really?
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Oh my goodness yes yta. She's actually very lucky to be clear of you and I hope she appreciates that. I cannot believe your selfish demands. I wish her nothing but the best in the future.
Even though they're not legally married, they're likely considered common law husband and wife and she may actually have a legal claim to half of his business. I hope she pursues that. Wouldn't it be hilarious if he later actually found someone willing to have children with him & she couldn't get pregnant because he shoots blanks?
Whenever I think I see the extremes of narcissism, something new hits. She sacrificed everything to help him build his dreams, now he's tossing her aside? I hope she can take him for everything he's got. Because she helped build it. I also wonder who, after hearing what he did, would ever hook up with him and attempt to have kids with him. I think he's about to spend the rest of his life quite lonely.
And don't forget that he has to find a suitable woman WILLING to have kids with a man his age, that just dumped his partner of 25 years after her WANTING kids. He maybe 90 by the time the kid(s) graduate.
If he's got enough money to wave in front of younger women, someone will bite. She'll have, raise, take care of his kids so he can display them to his buddies. She'll nurse him as he's dying, and when he's gone, they'll read the will, and she won't get a thing.
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So he strung her along for 25 years claiming he didn’t want kids then he bails when she’s no longer fertile because all of a sudden he decides he wants kids at 57. For the love of God I hope this idiot is sterile because I would feel incredibly sorry for any child he brought into the world at this point.
Red flags from the very beginning "she wouldn't pull my arm towards marriage like others", going to therapy to have it HIS way, discarding her when she's not longer fertile but being "gracious" enough to let her stay at a house for a month...after 25 f*****g years. I don't know why he thinks ANY woman will be willing to procreate with a narcissistic douche reaching 60. How delusional.
What and absolute tŵat. She wanted kids and he didn't, so they didn't have them. Now he wants kids and she can't have them, so he's dumping her. Entire bag of dịcks.
All this is based on how his FRIENDS had happy kids "easily" and he's saying he would never take their mother for granted? But he would, the woman that's been by his side for 25 years and gave up HER chance to have kids. I went thru something similar. Kids was a dealbreaker for me, so I was promised we could have 1. Then there were always reasons why we couldn't have
Can you imagine how his partner feels? What a disgusting POC! I can't wait for fertile women to laugh at you trying to form a relationship. The ones who do oblige will be in it for your $$$ and I hope they take you to the cleaners. You don't have anything to offer. A has been is how you've treated your partner, and "A HAS BEEN" when you describe how lonely your life was in your latter part of your sad life!
And people have the audacity to ask why older women are so angry and bitter towards men.
Not all older women are angry and bitter, and not all men are like this one. In fact, very few of them are.
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I can’t believe he wants biological children to see his own ‘quirks’, but I’m glad he said quirks rather than qualities because he has none. The fact that he sees it as his house and his business shows what a narcissistic, misogynistic twatbasket he is. Hopefully women of childbearing age will never take their trainers off in his vicinity so they can run fast enough to get away from him.
Let's try this, shall we OP. Start dating, and just for fun, on the first date tell a potential date WHY, exactly why, you left your life partner after 25 years. See what they say, before you find yourself sitting alone. An AH? Oh yes!!. Deluded, most likely. Demented, probably. Completely full of yourself thinking anyone would want such a loser as you, definitely. Hope you live in a common law state and your ex sues you for whatever she can get from the equal partnership.
And this dear friends is why marriage is still valid and important. Of course guys don't want it if they don't really love you as a person. Not being married makes it easier to throw you out of your home if they so happen to desire a younger model. Never stay without any form of legal protection ladies! And definitely don't make any concessions that profit him but hinder you!
Did you seriously think anyone worth knowing, would support your "Grand Plan"? Your Wife's whole adult life was designed by and controlled by you! Now she should just quietly comply with your 2.0 version. You will be shredded in Court because you aren't as smart as you think you are, luckily for her!
Woooow. The fact that he goes straight to "dump my girlfriend" instead of "suggest we get a surrogate" says a lot about this man's state of mind. And children aren't a cure-all for feeling empty. Plus they'll be going through their rebellious phase/leaving the nest right when you're hitting the age that you need more help.
He's leaving out a part of the story. He already has someone, and that is why she has a month to find another place to move. I know that it might mean anything to the next person, but why does she have a month. She has a month to move because he told the new lady that she will be gone in a month, and then he can move her in. I am certain, he's already found someone else.
Made me furious for her. I hope she cleans him out.
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Having children when you are too old to see them into adulthood is incredibly selfish.
U say u won't take the mom of ur kids for granted but u can take ur gf for granted bcz she is not giving u what u want??? Do u think she is a thing to give whatever u want a******? Actually not just u... I have seen many males being selfish like this, in relationships. Do ur chips stop working after a while in life? Actually after ur post, ur gf shud only dump u horribly
OP so you have a holiday house, I assume you both own it. She, if she wants it, should have it. Plus half of what you both own. She has put her life and her plasma into helping you attain your business. She deserves at least half of everything. She has been your 'Common law wife" for those 25 years, through the good and bad. The very least you should do is give her half, and the summer house or the home you are currently in, if she wants that instead.
Unless he’s going to live to 120, this cannot be described as a midlife crisis. What a deluded jerk.
This whole post makes a super strong case for marriage. 25 years and a life invested with that p.o.s. and cant even demand her half.
This a**hat doesn't deserve to have or be ANYTHING! Not a partner, not a father, not a rich business owner, because he's not a human -- he's an evil robot with money.
This is why being married is important. She gets nothing now and is headed straight to poverty when she should be retiring. Being the "cool girl" who doesn't pressure for marriage leaves you screwed over. I bet whatever greedy young thing he finds to be his baby momma will insist on a ring or no kids.
I suspect you are very young, and will likely feel different when you get older. Men much older than this can be sexually active, and there's nothing wrong with it. There is much wrong with the "man" who tossed aside his girlfriend of 25 years because he decided now he wants children.
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He went to Reddit and asked for advice. Regardless of the nuance, he told the story from HIS point of view, which he thought 'nuanced' it in his favor. He hasn't got the self-awareness to realise what an absolute p*** he is. But he did get told, lol. Asked and answered.
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Hey now, you all are forgetting that he's letting her stay for a whole month so she can find a place! Excuse me while I go vomit.
25 years together and you would think he would care about her feeling a bit. Nope. A month in the holiday home and gone. He could at least give her the holiday home if he has an extra house.
Load More Replies... I hope she can legally be recognised a his common-law spouse, and take half his assets. She built the life they shared with him, from selling plasma to giving up her career to travel and volunteer with him, she should get half of everything. I hope this jackass wakes up to find himself single, sixty, and only half as wealthy, and no woman anywhere gets conned into having his midlife-crisis panic baby. Dumbass. As for the woman, get a lawyer, 25 years together outweighs the "no marriage license". You were his common law wife, and a lot of countries/states will recognise you as such, and give you a settlement. Then get yourself therapy if you need it, make yourself fabulous, and live your best life without the a*****e.
Probably depends where they live, but yes, she should be able to get something from this relationship beyond just a month in the spare house.
Load More Replies... From reading the comments, I get the feeling people are not entirely on this gentlemans side.
What gentlemen? That asshat doesn't deserve such respect.
Load More Replies... So they can’t explore fostering, adoption, or even a surrogate if he’s hell bent on passing on his asshat DNA, so they could raise the child, or children, together? He has to throw away the woman who spent her childbearing years helping him get rich, including selling her plasma to bankroll his business, while he was adamant he didn’t want kids, then once it is guaranteed she won’t get pregnant m he dumps her to go find himself a younger babymaker? This is mid life crisis/looking for a trophy wife territory. What do you want to bet he still doesn’t want kids, but is using that as an excuse to go find a younger piece of eye candy for his arm? Bastard. I hope his angry inch shrivels up and falls off.
Damn!!! I'm outraged on the ex-gf's behalf! I can't even express how/what I feel as I'm sure BP would ban me for life! So she sold her plasma to help him get his business thriving? She has wasted a majority of her life on the biggest POS I've ever read on here! Because they were together so many years, I hope she can get some kind of financial restitution thru the courts! What an absolute selfish, shïtty thing to do to someone that he claims to "love"
Oh but he would be a great father because he would totally respect and be committed to the mother *snort*. What a piece of utter doggy Doo Doo. Also, he either already has a replacement in mind for his long term girlfriend or he thinks he is gonna click his misogynistic fingers and one will coming running pronto. I hope all they see is the selfish dirty old man he is...
Load More Replies... This is the most disgusting thing I have read in a while. I hope no woman touches this pathetic excuse for a man ever again. I hope he dies alone and forgotten, while his poor girlfriend finds true happiness with someone who really loves her.
The comments on the actual reddit page... No amount of aloe or skin grafts will save those burns.
Someone please cut his balls off so he can't breed. He doesn't even want children who grow into themselves, he Literally said he wants to see himself in them.
Ladies this is what "real men" do, anytime a guy says "I'm a real man" run, run far, run fast. or End up with an Andrew Tate wannabe like this a*****e.
No, this is what inconsiderate overgrown children who have no consideration for other people or willingness to take responsibility for the consequences of their decisions do.
Load More Replies... This man is out of his effin' mind. How can be so selfish an discard his partner who *checks notes* even sold her plasma to help his business? Wow. Just wow
So he argued with her and even took her to therapy to get her to change her mind about wanting kids. I don't know how their relationship even survived that because in most people the maternal instinct is incredibly strong but she eventually does and then when she's physically unable he decides to abandon her with nothing!? AH isn't a strong enough word to accurately convey what a complete POS this person is.
It was sad to read she didn’t have to worry about “phantom pregnancies” anymore. Which implies she was having them, which means she wanted children very much. When I first started menopause I dreamt I was pregnant a lot and waking up sad because I wasn’t. I don’t want anymore kids, but it’s a real grief to know you can’t anymore.
Load More Replies... I'm not one about wiping the other person financially clean after a divorce. But in this case, I'll give an exception, and I do hope this lady gets the chance to do just that to this MAJOR AH. She gave up so much, just to cater to him and fulfill all his wishes; sold her plasma just so HE can start his business. What did she get? He dumped her like a wet rag. I do wish that she finds a much, much better man who'll treat her very nicely and whom she'll be happy to spend the rest of her life with. I'm just so happy that this narcissistic d@uche-bucket did NOT spawn any children. I'd hate to see another one like him. ... For crying out loud, man - give her that vacation home. The least you could do, especially, after how you've treated her.
And I hope if he has any money left after that it all gets taken by young women he wants to impregnate and he's left with nothing - no baby maker, no baby, and no money.
Load More Replies... Meanwhile, if a kid were to come from this, by the time that child is 25, OP will be over 80. So you're going to be too old to do anything of significance with your child due to your age. And you'll probably pass away while they're young, too. Now I know this is a risk with any parent at any age, but it truly sucks to have a parent that's technically more a grandfather and then by the time you're trying to spread your wings they're REALLY old, perhaps requiring aid because of geriatric illnesses or whatever. It's bad plan.
I'm 56. Lost my father at 84 a year ago. This was after a sharp decline, covid sure didn't help. I cared for him for nearly 3 years...it was heart breaking but, I have enough hard earned life experience to put the necessary steel in my spine and get through it...A 20 ish son or daughter dealing with the issues of vascular dementia, incontinence, seizures, broken hip, vomiting, unable to swallow on and on..really?
Load More Replies... Oh my goodness yes yta. She's actually very lucky to be clear of you and I hope she appreciates that. I cannot believe your selfish demands. I wish her nothing but the best in the future.
Even though they're not legally married, they're likely considered common law husband and wife and she may actually have a legal claim to half of his business. I hope she pursues that. Wouldn't it be hilarious if he later actually found someone willing to have children with him & she couldn't get pregnant because he shoots blanks?
Whenever I think I see the extremes of narcissism, something new hits. She sacrificed everything to help him build his dreams, now he's tossing her aside? I hope she can take him for everything he's got. Because she helped build it. I also wonder who, after hearing what he did, would ever hook up with him and attempt to have kids with him. I think he's about to spend the rest of his life quite lonely.
And don't forget that he has to find a suitable woman WILLING to have kids with a man his age, that just dumped his partner of 25 years after her WANTING kids. He maybe 90 by the time the kid(s) graduate.
If he's got enough money to wave in front of younger women, someone will bite. She'll have, raise, take care of his kids so he can display them to his buddies. She'll nurse him as he's dying, and when he's gone, they'll read the will, and she won't get a thing.
Load More Replies... So he strung her along for 25 years claiming he didn’t want kids then he bails when she’s no longer fertile because all of a sudden he decides he wants kids at 57. For the love of God I hope this idiot is sterile because I would feel incredibly sorry for any child he brought into the world at this point.
Red flags from the very beginning "she wouldn't pull my arm towards marriage like others", going to therapy to have it HIS way, discarding her when she's not longer fertile but being "gracious" enough to let her stay at a house for a month...after 25 f*****g years. I don't know why he thinks ANY woman will be willing to procreate with a narcissistic douche reaching 60. How delusional.
What and absolute tŵat. She wanted kids and he didn't, so they didn't have them. Now he wants kids and she can't have them, so he's dumping her. Entire bag of dịcks.
All this is based on how his FRIENDS had happy kids "easily" and he's saying he would never take their mother for granted? But he would, the woman that's been by his side for 25 years and gave up HER chance to have kids. I went thru something similar. Kids was a dealbreaker for me, so I was promised we could have 1. Then there were always reasons why we couldn't have
Can you imagine how his partner feels? What a disgusting POC! I can't wait for fertile women to laugh at you trying to form a relationship. The ones who do oblige will be in it for your $$$ and I hope they take you to the cleaners. You don't have anything to offer. A has been is how you've treated your partner, and "A HAS BEEN" when you describe how lonely your life was in your latter part of your sad life!
And people have the audacity to ask why older women are so angry and bitter towards men.
Not all older women are angry and bitter, and not all men are like this one. In fact, very few of them are.
Load More Replies... I can’t believe he wants biological children to see his own ‘quirks’, but I’m glad he said quirks rather than qualities because he has none. The fact that he sees it as his house and his business shows what a narcissistic, misogynistic twatbasket he is. Hopefully women of childbearing age will never take their trainers off in his vicinity so they can run fast enough to get away from him.
Let's try this, shall we OP. Start dating, and just for fun, on the first date tell a potential date WHY, exactly why, you left your life partner after 25 years. See what they say, before you find yourself sitting alone. An AH? Oh yes!!. Deluded, most likely. Demented, probably. Completely full of yourself thinking anyone would want such a loser as you, definitely. Hope you live in a common law state and your ex sues you for whatever she can get from the equal partnership.
And this dear friends is why marriage is still valid and important. Of course guys don't want it if they don't really love you as a person. Not being married makes it easier to throw you out of your home if they so happen to desire a younger model. Never stay without any form of legal protection ladies! And definitely don't make any concessions that profit him but hinder you!
Did you seriously think anyone worth knowing, would support your "Grand Plan"? Your Wife's whole adult life was designed by and controlled by you! Now she should just quietly comply with your 2.0 version. You will be shredded in Court because you aren't as smart as you think you are, luckily for her!
Woooow. The fact that he goes straight to "dump my girlfriend" instead of "suggest we get a surrogate" says a lot about this man's state of mind. And children aren't a cure-all for feeling empty. Plus they'll be going through their rebellious phase/leaving the nest right when you're hitting the age that you need more help.
He's leaving out a part of the story. He already has someone, and that is why she has a month to find another place to move. I know that it might mean anything to the next person, but why does she have a month. She has a month to move because he told the new lady that she will be gone in a month, and then he can move her in. I am certain, he's already found someone else.
Made me furious for her. I hope she cleans him out.
Load More Replies... Having children when you are too old to see them into adulthood is incredibly selfish.
U say u won't take the mom of ur kids for granted but u can take ur gf for granted bcz she is not giving u what u want??? Do u think she is a thing to give whatever u want a******? Actually not just u... I have seen many males being selfish like this, in relationships. Do ur chips stop working after a while in life? Actually after ur post, ur gf shud only dump u horribly
OP so you have a holiday house, I assume you both own it. She, if she wants it, should have it. Plus half of what you both own. She has put her life and her plasma into helping you attain your business. She deserves at least half of everything. She has been your 'Common law wife" for those 25 years, through the good and bad. The very least you should do is give her half, and the summer house or the home you are currently in, if she wants that instead.
Unless he’s going to live to 120, this cannot be described as a midlife crisis. What a deluded jerk.
This whole post makes a super strong case for marriage. 25 years and a life invested with that p.o.s. and cant even demand her half.
This a**hat doesn't deserve to have or be ANYTHING! Not a partner, not a father, not a rich business owner, because he's not a human -- he's an evil robot with money.
This is why being married is important. She gets nothing now and is headed straight to poverty when she should be retiring. Being the "cool girl" who doesn't pressure for marriage leaves you screwed over. I bet whatever greedy young thing he finds to be his baby momma will insist on a ring or no kids.
I suspect you are very young, and will likely feel different when you get older. Men much older than this can be sexually active, and there's nothing wrong with it. There is much wrong with the "man" who tossed aside his girlfriend of 25 years because he decided now he wants children.
Load More Replies... He went to Reddit and asked for advice. Regardless of the nuance, he told the story from HIS point of view, which he thought 'nuanced' it in his favor. He hasn't got the self-awareness to realise what an absolute p*** he is. But he did get told, lol. Asked and answered.
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