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“Is This Normal?”: Woman Tells BF’s Family She’s Jewish, They Start Putting Bacon In Everything
Navigating dietary restrictions when meeting your partner’s family can be tricky. That’s especially true when you come from a different religion. For Jews, pork can become a test of patience: with 40% of American Jews abstaining from it, family dinners start to feel more like battlegrounds than cosy time with family.
This Jewish woman, however, started wondering if her boyfriend’s family was putting pork into meals on purpose. After having to suffer through several get-togethers where she was unable to eat anything, chocolate chip cookies with bacon from her potential mother-in-law were the last straw. So, she turned to the internet for some advice.
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A Jewish woman has had it with her BF’s family serving her bacon every time she visits
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When the mom offered her chocolate chip cookies with bacon, she started wondering whether they’re doing it on purpose
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Those with dietary restrictions might find it stressful to participate in family gatherings
Diet can be a contentious topic, especially when meeting your significant other’s family. Not eating the meal they’ve prepared for you can seem rude and inconsiderate, but nowadays, many people have a good reason to say, “No, thank you.”
According to Statista, roughly four in 10 Americans follow at least one nutritional rule. Be it a vegan, gluten-, lactose-free, or low-carb diet, almost half of Americans might not be able to eat something on the family feast table.
A 2022 study about people with celiac disease found an interesting side effect that their diets had on their relationships. 70% of the respondents claimed they were hesitant to date, saying it was hard to find someone who would be compassionate and understanding.
Similarly, other people who have some sort of dietary restriction clash with their families during the holidays, shared meals, and even when eating out together.
MSU assistant professor of philosophy Megan Dean, who studies the ethics of eating, says that it is stressful to participate in family gatherings when you are bumping up against expectations. “Some people just don’t go to shared meals anymore because this process is so exhausting for them emotionally and socially,” she explains.
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Eating together is not just about the food, but about fostering relationships, too
It’s okay to not attend family dinners if you don’t like spending time with that family. Still, these dinners are not only about the food that is on the table. As Dean explains, eating together does a lot more for us:
- It builds and strengthens family relationships;
- It makes us feel closer to the community;
- It allows us to partake in shared religious or cultural identities;
- It’s a chance to take care of others by providing them nourishment.
One of the most important things about having dietary restrictions and eating at somebody else’s house is letting them know well in advance what kinds of ingredients you can’t tolerate. As the OP did that already and it didn’t work, what other solutions are there?
As parenting coach Beverley Cathcart-Ross explains, it’s about setting the tone in that family dynamic. “Start behaving more self-respectfully within your family dynamic and slowly your family dynamic will change. Because when one person changes, that person’s relationship with all the other family members changes.”
There’s also nothing wrong with setting a boundary and refusing to visit until the family members start taking your dietary restrictions seriously. Cathcart-Ross calls this “dual respect”. “Mutual respect”, according to her, is often one-sided.
“The flaw in mutual respect is you have no control over whether the other person will respect you back. If you’re trying to treat your relatives with respect but they are not respecting your condition, it’s time for a change in approach.”
That’s why some people choose to stop going to family gatherings altogether. They feel like they’re not being seen or heard, and sometimes, they’re flat-out being ignored. Much like the woman in this story, they just grow frustrated over time.
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In the comments, the author mentioned how the mother makes her uncomfortable and makes rude comments about her appearance
Many commenters felt it was the boyfriend’s responsibility to stand up for his girlfriend
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Ellie Ahmed 8 months ago (edited)
They're doing it deliberately, 100%. It's not that hard to cook without bacon. My husband is from a muslim family, I do it all the time when his dad or relatives that are more devout visit. If it was one time they did it, then maybe its inadvertent, but not if they do it every visit. And if that's the case, they need to grow up. I don't personally believe that a God exists and he told everyone to not eat bacon, but if my muslim in-laws want to avoid it then that's up to them. It's not my place to tell them they're required to eat it, and I don't have an issue with doing the absolute bare minimum as a host by picking one of the MANY things I can make that don't require it
Nikole 8 months ago (edited)
Yeah, I’m also an atheist, and if someone had eating restrictions based on their religion or any other reason, I would completely honor that. Hell, I’m a vegetarian and would be pissed (and probably sick) if someone put meat in general in my food.
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Upstaged75 8 months ago
She's making too many excuses for them. She should be furious! His mom is definitely doing it on purpose because she's antisemitic. It's quite obvious. No matter how much I liked someone I wouldn't stay if they had a family like that and wouldn't stand up to them. I love bacon, but NO ONE puts it in cookies! That's just nuts.
PeepPeep the duck 8 months ago
I was thinking the same thing about the cookies 😂 no one does that, not even teenage stoners. It’s def a jab at her heritage and beliefs.
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Lyone Fein 8 months ago
The boyfriend’s mother is an anti-Semite. And he’s no prize either. She should run away as fast as she can!
justme 8 months ago (edited)
I did not know about the not mixing dairy with meat thing until I read this, but I did know about the no pork products thing. However, if someone told me a dinner guest was kosher I would Google what foods they could eat and make sure that what I made was appropriate. It's a bare minimum respect thing. This mom definitely seems like she's doing it on purpose because she wants her son to be with a "good Christian girl" and not a Jewish woman.
Ellie Ahmed 8 months ago
I think that's the other thing here. If people eat very strictly kosher there can be a lot of lesser known requirements, or ones you just wouldn't think of. Of course there are degrees of strictness too amongst Jewish people. But the point I'm trying to make is that if the boyfriend's mum was messing up on some more obscure points of dietary law, you could argue she just didn't fully understand or realise. But if you ask somebody to name the number one thing they know about kosher, I feel like surely "no pig meat" would be overwhelmingly the most common answer. It's the most well-known requirements and also one of the easiest to facilitate.
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Paul C 8 months ago
Clearly a boyfriend issue here, probably a terminal one for their relationship. He should be making sure his girlfriend has something to eat at his family, then leaving to take her out for a meal if his prejudiced mother won't accommodate. Instead, he refuses to cut the umbilical cord.
TerathNinir 8 months ago
There is not a single one of us goyim who does not know Jews don't eat pork. Especially bacon. Definitely a widely prolapsed ásshole.
Lauren Caswell 8 months ago
The answer is in the thing MIL says to her about 'cult' and 'could be fixed but...naturally like that' etc" 1000000% antisemitism
FreeTheUnicorn 8 months ago (edited)
This isn't anything but antisemitism. They are either being hostile in an uncomplicated way or they are trying to see what boundaries they can push so that they can reassure themselves she "isn't that Jewish". If the boyfriend doesn't mind this disrespect and boundary pushing, he's also antisemitic or just hateful. But if he truly doesn't understand his own family, their intentions and motivations by 21, he won't make an effort to understand his partner. DTMFA
Emilu 8 months ago
That is just rude/anti-sematic. As other people have mentioned; it's not hard to cook without bacon. I'm not Jewish and I *never* cook with bacon (I will occasionally order it out. Very occasionally. With people I know that won't mind.) If you don't want it, don't eat it. End of; don't listen to the haters. Again, so many of these threads could be ended with a simple "respect others the way you'd like to be respected".
Michael Largey 8 months ago
This is indeed all about forgetting. OP should forget about this boyfriend. He won't stand up to his family's deliberate abuse of her, and so there is no future in this relationship.
Another Panda 8 months ago
I love American style bacon and would probably eat it on everything if I could - but if someone has dietary restrictions, allergies, sensitivities, preferences, or simple dislike around certain foods or drinks, I would cater to that as a host. Our bodies can react with discomfort at the very least to a food we do not normally eat to life-threatening anaphylaxis. Do not mess with what people eat.
Michael MacKinnon 8 months ago (edited)
The boyfriend's family is doing this so that when she complains about it and calls them out as racists, they can act all outraged and say that she's just woke.
Ge Po 8 months ago
It's usually my husband, because he's the better cook and actually likes it. Whenever we have guests with dietary restrictions, no matter if it's medical or preference, he will get out of his way to find something that follows the restrictions and still tastes (as) good (as possible), even if it's new for him. You're our guest, we will serve you right. An honest mistake can be made, especially with kosher, like maybe you grilled the chicken in butter instead of oil, not realizing the mixup of meat and diary, but at least you got chicken instead of pork and you will apologize profusely and try to find something else that will do. And make sure you don't make that kind of mistake by checking beforehand next time.
Ghostpotato 8 months ago
That's some passive aggressive s**t, no way the mom "just forgot". And I say this as a person that still has to remind certain members of my family that I've been a vegetarian for 15 years.
KatSaidWhat 8 months ago
Please tell me there is an update where she dumped this guy because at this point it sounds like he is using his mother as a way to break up with her and then blame her religion as the problem. 100% deliberate.
Crystalwitch60 8 months ago
You most defo have a bf issue , and his toxic family ,I’m not in the least bit religious , but I can assure you op if either of my two kids bought home a partner with dietary restrictions, I would never ever forget , but then I have respect ,it appears bf n his family don’t even know the ,meaning of the word ! as for bacon in cookies wtf 🤦♀️couldn’t be more obvious if that vile woman tried ! your young , n there will be a partner out there for you who truly respects you , and who’s family do as well, me I’d be asking you for recipes lol I love to cook n Jewish food is lovely , blessed bex
Sarah Léon 8 months ago
Years ago, my dad was dating a muslim lady, and when they came to eat at my mom's (my parents were separated and stayed best friends) for the first time, my mom made ratatouille with sausages (she totally forgot about the pork thing). My father reminded her gently and she apologised and made eggs because it's very good with ratatouille and never forgot after that. Once is a mistake. Twice is on purpose.
Wild Cream 8 months ago
Stories like this make me so grateful for my MIL (she’s so friendly and loves hanging out with me - all her kids are male so she’s so happy to have girl time with me. We go shopping and get our nails/hair done etc, I genuinely enjoy her company and I didn’t realize how rare that is until I got older 😅)
Gerry Higgins 8 months ago
This is great for her! Now she can see that if they married her Mother-in-law would be a total b***h so best to decide if OP wants to put up with that or dump him and find a man with a spine.
Cronecast AtTheRisingMoon 8 months ago
Micro aggression has entered the chat. There is no way she is forgetting to that extent.
CK 8 months ago
No, in general, Orthodox Jewish people keep the full kosher laws, not just abstaining from pork and the other things she listed, and they wouldn't date someone non-Jewish.
Load More Replies... Lady Eowyn 8 months ago
100% they're doing it deliberately. Not all Jews keep kosher, I for one adore bacon, but even I wouldn't put it in a chocolate chip cookie! Totally not normal.
A S Mora 7 months ago
I just love learning from Reddit time and time again that the art of bullying really does begin at home. That mother is a domestic terrorist in the most literal sense and for whatever reason this is how she is choosing to assert dominance. Please dump this fool before his mom ramps it and starts calling you sluts as a "joke."
Inservio Smurf 8 months ago
I would bring cookies with strychnine and then feign ignorance "oh you don't do that here? It's a delicacy in my religion!"
DC 8 months ago
They don't like you, maybe due to being antisemits, maybe it's personal, or doesn't have much of a reason at all. I've seen similar things acted out to annoy vegetarians - a few relatives, once they knew they had to deal with two of us, brought it up every time, endlessly talking about how hard that is, and at the celebration they held, there was ... some sad excuse of canned soup for us, the most posh, sopisticated, even hipsterish meat dishes to chose from. They'd NEVER gone even half the length to supply omnivores alone, they'd only do so if there were vegetarians attending - 45 varieties of meat, 3 or 4 soups to chose from including meat, you get the picture. Nothing makes humans so dedicated than annoying somebody. Fück them. Don't go there hungry, never rely on them, that's about the best, the only, option you really have - unless you like arguing. Then, there's more option.
Carl Roberts 8 months ago
Anti-Semitic red flags galore. This young woman needs to get OUT of that relationship, sooner, rather than later.
Sparkle 8 months ago (edited)
1st time around I can see it being a mistake, but repeatedly adding bacon to everything even cookies that's done on purpose. Bf needs to stand up to mom. Tell her to cut it out. She's not only disrespecting the gf and her religion but their relationship. Even if she doesn't like the girl at least show some respect. She's not even being needy. Asking for separate utensils. She's respecting that her diet is different and asking for one simple thing. Plus why not use the opportunity to try new dishes.
tl gmc 8 months ago
I love bacon, but I can't see how you'd put it on everything. The vegetables do not need bacon, and on cookies it sounds disgusting. A mistake would have been offering ice cream right after the meal or in a float while eating. I didn't know about the dairy and meat rule, so it seems like an easy mistake to make. But if someone says I can't eat pork, than they do this it's on purpose
Mike F 8 months ago
This could have been my mom, but with onions. I personally hate them and I'm convinced that we aren't supposed to eat them, that's why they are in the ground. Anyway, my mom put onions in EVERYTHING, think raw onion slices with pinto beans. I would not have been surprised to see them on her corn flakes. I turned against eating so many growing up because onion was always added. I finally figured out that it was ingrained in the way she learned to cook, sort of like cajun recipes with the initial step being "first you make a roux..." that was what she was taught, possibly because it was the depression, there was a metric 💩 ton of people to feed, they grew them so they were plentiful. The initial reactions to something of this nature is "on purpose, anti semite, narcissistic, gaslighter..." when the answer could just be that she simply doesn't care. She is cooking the way her family eats and expects the OP to adapt or eat elsewhere.
*raspberry sound 8 months ago
I would find out what's on the menu, bring a dummy meal and eat it in front of them, when they comment "I thought you couldn't eat bacon," I'd say "I thought you forgot." These arsehh@les are doing it on purpose.
Kate Johnson 8 months ago
His family is obviously bigoted and vile and there's simply nothing he could ever bring to the table that would make it worth having to deal with this POS family. Dump the chump!
talliloo 8 months ago
it would be normal for the first time to have been an oversight. maybe he didn't share that info with his mother/family prior to the first dinner. but since he asked her why she wasn't eating it would seem that if he really cared he would have informed his family prior to the second dinner. after that, it seems that it is being done intentionally. i am also jewish and have been in situations where there have been foods that are restricted served. so while it may not be correct i pick around and try to eat what i can so not to offend. hopefully g-d understands my motive
Devin Schmitt 8 months ago
Bacon cookies? Never heard of it, but here's a recipe: https://honeyimhungryblog.com/browned-butter-bacon-chocolate-chip-cookies/
Laure Miller 8 months ago
If someone has a sensitivity or allergy, I will do anything possible to avoid contamination. If someone has a strong preference, I will make sure there is something they DO like. If someone claims they can't eat whatever due to religious tomfoolery, I pay zero attention and make no special efforts one way or another. Medical issues are one thing, perfectly valid. Personal taste is also pretty valid. Turning down food because of superstition? GFTO with that nonsense.
Marnie 8 months ago
They are doing it deliberately and it's horrible. But on a side note, these dietary rules are stupid and I don't know how a modern person would continue to abide by them. Many people, of many different religions of thrown out old, out--dated religious beliefs and practices. Seems like it's time to throw this one out. (I don't necessarily mean the practice of not eating bacon, but rules about when to eat certain foods in relation to each other. I mean, come on! Why even do that to yourself and perpetuate that through the generations. Stupid.)
DC 8 months ago
... applies to any and every religion. You're right, these rules aren't based on reason to begin with, so the expectation of them carrying themselves in a reasonable world would be adventurous to say the least. But still, the other part that is to this is, to never mess around with peoples' food, and never use it in order to annoy. Which I do see here, it isn't that the crazy jewish professional in complainery would do their tricks, and then, everyone else is miserable or so, it's deliberately used by them to reinforce (or create) a division. They suck, the rules suck, but the rules, however unreasonable they are, are only applied to and by herself, ...
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nm 8 months ago (edited)
The possible future MIL is a antisemitic PoS. On the other hand, if OP is so fanatically following her religion, she should not mix up with goyim.
Upstaged75 8 months ago
Ben, you're an a$$. Go get some therapy. Who cares why she doesn't eat bacon? That's her personal decision. Not every religious person is as screwed up as you are.
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Ellie Ahmed 8 months ago (edited)
They're doing it deliberately, 100%. It's not that hard to cook without bacon. My husband is from a muslim family, I do it all the time when his dad or relatives that are more devout visit. If it was one time they did it, then maybe its inadvertent, but not if they do it every visit. And if that's the case, they need to grow up. I don't personally believe that a God exists and he told everyone to not eat bacon, but if my muslim in-laws want to avoid it then that's up to them. It's not my place to tell them they're required to eat it, and I don't have an issue with doing the absolute bare minimum as a host by picking one of the MANY things I can make that don't require it
Nikole 8 months ago (edited)
Yeah, I’m also an atheist, and if someone had eating restrictions based on their religion or any other reason, I would completely honor that. Hell, I’m a vegetarian and would be pissed (and probably sick) if someone put meat in general in my food.
Load More Replies... Upstaged75 8 months ago
She's making too many excuses for them. She should be furious! His mom is definitely doing it on purpose because she's antisemitic. It's quite obvious. No matter how much I liked someone I wouldn't stay if they had a family like that and wouldn't stand up to them. I love bacon, but NO ONE puts it in cookies! That's just nuts.
PeepPeep the duck 8 months ago
I was thinking the same thing about the cookies 😂 no one does that, not even teenage stoners. It’s def a jab at her heritage and beliefs.
Load More Replies... Lyone Fein 8 months ago
The boyfriend’s mother is an anti-Semite. And he’s no prize either. She should run away as fast as she can!
justme 8 months ago (edited)
I did not know about the not mixing dairy with meat thing until I read this, but I did know about the no pork products thing. However, if someone told me a dinner guest was kosher I would Google what foods they could eat and make sure that what I made was appropriate. It's a bare minimum respect thing. This mom definitely seems like she's doing it on purpose because she wants her son to be with a "good Christian girl" and not a Jewish woman.
Ellie Ahmed 8 months ago
I think that's the other thing here. If people eat very strictly kosher there can be a lot of lesser known requirements, or ones you just wouldn't think of. Of course there are degrees of strictness too amongst Jewish people. But the point I'm trying to make is that if the boyfriend's mum was messing up on some more obscure points of dietary law, you could argue she just didn't fully understand or realise. But if you ask somebody to name the number one thing they know about kosher, I feel like surely "no pig meat" would be overwhelmingly the most common answer. It's the most well-known requirements and also one of the easiest to facilitate.
Load More Replies... Paul C 8 months ago
Clearly a boyfriend issue here, probably a terminal one for their relationship. He should be making sure his girlfriend has something to eat at his family, then leaving to take her out for a meal if his prejudiced mother won't accommodate. Instead, he refuses to cut the umbilical cord.
TerathNinir 8 months ago
There is not a single one of us goyim who does not know Jews don't eat pork. Especially bacon. Definitely a widely prolapsed ásshole.
Lauren Caswell 8 months ago
The answer is in the thing MIL says to her about 'cult' and 'could be fixed but...naturally like that' etc" 1000000% antisemitism
FreeTheUnicorn 8 months ago (edited)
This isn't anything but antisemitism. They are either being hostile in an uncomplicated way or they are trying to see what boundaries they can push so that they can reassure themselves she "isn't that Jewish". If the boyfriend doesn't mind this disrespect and boundary pushing, he's also antisemitic or just hateful. But if he truly doesn't understand his own family, their intentions and motivations by 21, he won't make an effort to understand his partner. DTMFA
Emilu 8 months ago
That is just rude/anti-sematic. As other people have mentioned; it's not hard to cook without bacon. I'm not Jewish and I *never* cook with bacon (I will occasionally order it out. Very occasionally. With people I know that won't mind.) If you don't want it, don't eat it. End of; don't listen to the haters. Again, so many of these threads could be ended with a simple "respect others the way you'd like to be respected".
Michael Largey 8 months ago
This is indeed all about forgetting. OP should forget about this boyfriend. He won't stand up to his family's deliberate abuse of her, and so there is no future in this relationship.
Another Panda 8 months ago
I love American style bacon and would probably eat it on everything if I could - but if someone has dietary restrictions, allergies, sensitivities, preferences, or simple dislike around certain foods or drinks, I would cater to that as a host. Our bodies can react with discomfort at the very least to a food we do not normally eat to life-threatening anaphylaxis. Do not mess with what people eat.
Michael MacKinnon 8 months ago (edited)
The boyfriend's family is doing this so that when she complains about it and calls them out as racists, they can act all outraged and say that she's just woke.
Ge Po 8 months ago
It's usually my husband, because he's the better cook and actually likes it. Whenever we have guests with dietary restrictions, no matter if it's medical or preference, he will get out of his way to find something that follows the restrictions and still tastes (as) good (as possible), even if it's new for him. You're our guest, we will serve you right. An honest mistake can be made, especially with kosher, like maybe you grilled the chicken in butter instead of oil, not realizing the mixup of meat and diary, but at least you got chicken instead of pork and you will apologize profusely and try to find something else that will do. And make sure you don't make that kind of mistake by checking beforehand next time.
Ghostpotato 8 months ago
That's some passive aggressive s**t, no way the mom "just forgot". And I say this as a person that still has to remind certain members of my family that I've been a vegetarian for 15 years.
KatSaidWhat 8 months ago
Please tell me there is an update where she dumped this guy because at this point it sounds like he is using his mother as a way to break up with her and then blame her religion as the problem. 100% deliberate.
Crystalwitch60 8 months ago
You most defo have a bf issue , and his toxic family ,I’m not in the least bit religious , but I can assure you op if either of my two kids bought home a partner with dietary restrictions, I would never ever forget , but then I have respect ,it appears bf n his family don’t even know the ,meaning of the word ! as for bacon in cookies wtf 🤦♀️couldn’t be more obvious if that vile woman tried ! your young , n there will be a partner out there for you who truly respects you , and who’s family do as well, me I’d be asking you for recipes lol I love to cook n Jewish food is lovely , blessed bex
Sarah Léon 8 months ago
Years ago, my dad was dating a muslim lady, and when they came to eat at my mom's (my parents were separated and stayed best friends) for the first time, my mom made ratatouille with sausages (she totally forgot about the pork thing). My father reminded her gently and she apologised and made eggs because it's very good with ratatouille and never forgot after that. Once is a mistake. Twice is on purpose.
Wild Cream 8 months ago
Stories like this make me so grateful for my MIL (she’s so friendly and loves hanging out with me - all her kids are male so she’s so happy to have girl time with me. We go shopping and get our nails/hair done etc, I genuinely enjoy her company and I didn’t realize how rare that is until I got older 😅)
Gerry Higgins 8 months ago
This is great for her! Now she can see that if they married her Mother-in-law would be a total b***h so best to decide if OP wants to put up with that or dump him and find a man with a spine.
Cronecast AtTheRisingMoon 8 months ago
Micro aggression has entered the chat. There is no way she is forgetting to that extent.
CK 8 months ago
No, in general, Orthodox Jewish people keep the full kosher laws, not just abstaining from pork and the other things she listed, and they wouldn't date someone non-Jewish.
Load More Replies... Lady Eowyn 8 months ago
100% they're doing it deliberately. Not all Jews keep kosher, I for one adore bacon, but even I wouldn't put it in a chocolate chip cookie! Totally not normal.
A S Mora 7 months ago
I just love learning from Reddit time and time again that the art of bullying really does begin at home. That mother is a domestic terrorist in the most literal sense and for whatever reason this is how she is choosing to assert dominance. Please dump this fool before his mom ramps it and starts calling you sluts as a "joke."
Inservio Smurf 8 months ago
I would bring cookies with strychnine and then feign ignorance "oh you don't do that here? It's a delicacy in my religion!"
DC 8 months ago
They don't like you, maybe due to being antisemits, maybe it's personal, or doesn't have much of a reason at all. I've seen similar things acted out to annoy vegetarians - a few relatives, once they knew they had to deal with two of us, brought it up every time, endlessly talking about how hard that is, and at the celebration they held, there was ... some sad excuse of canned soup for us, the most posh, sopisticated, even hipsterish meat dishes to chose from. They'd NEVER gone even half the length to supply omnivores alone, they'd only do so if there were vegetarians attending - 45 varieties of meat, 3 or 4 soups to chose from including meat, you get the picture. Nothing makes humans so dedicated than annoying somebody. Fück them. Don't go there hungry, never rely on them, that's about the best, the only, option you really have - unless you like arguing. Then, there's more option.
Carl Roberts 8 months ago
Anti-Semitic red flags galore. This young woman needs to get OUT of that relationship, sooner, rather than later.
Sparkle 8 months ago (edited)
1st time around I can see it being a mistake, but repeatedly adding bacon to everything even cookies that's done on purpose. Bf needs to stand up to mom. Tell her to cut it out. She's not only disrespecting the gf and her religion but their relationship. Even if she doesn't like the girl at least show some respect. She's not even being needy. Asking for separate utensils. She's respecting that her diet is different and asking for one simple thing. Plus why not use the opportunity to try new dishes.
tl gmc 8 months ago
I love bacon, but I can't see how you'd put it on everything. The vegetables do not need bacon, and on cookies it sounds disgusting. A mistake would have been offering ice cream right after the meal or in a float while eating. I didn't know about the dairy and meat rule, so it seems like an easy mistake to make. But if someone says I can't eat pork, than they do this it's on purpose
Mike F 8 months ago
This could have been my mom, but with onions. I personally hate them and I'm convinced that we aren't supposed to eat them, that's why they are in the ground. Anyway, my mom put onions in EVERYTHING, think raw onion slices with pinto beans. I would not have been surprised to see them on her corn flakes. I turned against eating so many growing up because onion was always added. I finally figured out that it was ingrained in the way she learned to cook, sort of like cajun recipes with the initial step being "first you make a roux..." that was what she was taught, possibly because it was the depression, there was a metric 💩 ton of people to feed, they grew them so they were plentiful. The initial reactions to something of this nature is "on purpose, anti semite, narcissistic, gaslighter..." when the answer could just be that she simply doesn't care. She is cooking the way her family eats and expects the OP to adapt or eat elsewhere.
*raspberry sound 8 months ago
I would find out what's on the menu, bring a dummy meal and eat it in front of them, when they comment "I thought you couldn't eat bacon," I'd say "I thought you forgot." These arsehh@les are doing it on purpose.
Kate Johnson 8 months ago
His family is obviously bigoted and vile and there's simply nothing he could ever bring to the table that would make it worth having to deal with this POS family. Dump the chump!
talliloo 8 months ago
it would be normal for the first time to have been an oversight. maybe he didn't share that info with his mother/family prior to the first dinner. but since he asked her why she wasn't eating it would seem that if he really cared he would have informed his family prior to the second dinner. after that, it seems that it is being done intentionally. i am also jewish and have been in situations where there have been foods that are restricted served. so while it may not be correct i pick around and try to eat what i can so not to offend. hopefully g-d understands my motive
Devin Schmitt 8 months ago
Bacon cookies? Never heard of it, but here's a recipe: https://honeyimhungryblog.com/browned-butter-bacon-chocolate-chip-cookies/
Laure Miller 8 months ago
If someone has a sensitivity or allergy, I will do anything possible to avoid contamination. If someone has a strong preference, I will make sure there is something they DO like. If someone claims they can't eat whatever due to religious tomfoolery, I pay zero attention and make no special efforts one way or another. Medical issues are one thing, perfectly valid. Personal taste is also pretty valid. Turning down food because of superstition? GFTO with that nonsense.
Marnie 8 months ago
They are doing it deliberately and it's horrible. But on a side note, these dietary rules are stupid and I don't know how a modern person would continue to abide by them. Many people, of many different religions of thrown out old, out--dated religious beliefs and practices. Seems like it's time to throw this one out. (I don't necessarily mean the practice of not eating bacon, but rules about when to eat certain foods in relation to each other. I mean, come on! Why even do that to yourself and perpetuate that through the generations. Stupid.)
DC 8 months ago
... applies to any and every religion. You're right, these rules aren't based on reason to begin with, so the expectation of them carrying themselves in a reasonable world would be adventurous to say the least. But still, the other part that is to this is, to never mess around with peoples' food, and never use it in order to annoy. Which I do see here, it isn't that the crazy jewish professional in complainery would do their tricks, and then, everyone else is miserable or so, it's deliberately used by them to reinforce (or create) a division. They suck, the rules suck, but the rules, however unreasonable they are, are only applied to and by herself, ...
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The possible future MIL is a antisemitic PoS. On the other hand, if OP is so fanatically following her religion, she should not mix up with goyim.
Upstaged75 8 months ago
Ben, you're an a$$. Go get some therapy. Who cares why she doesn't eat bacon? That's her personal decision. Not every religious person is as screwed up as you are.
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