I'm 34f am getting married in a year to a wonderful man. We've been working out the guest list for who we want to come and including SO and kids if they have any. Well, my dilemma is that my nana 70 has a "bf" in his 50's with teenage daughters and I refuse to invite him or them. The reason I feel is legitimate, he hit her. Grant it she did whoop his a**, but that's not the point, he hit her I have zero respect for him. And his daughters are stuck up that's why I won't invite them. I'm being told that it isn't right to not let my nana bring him and that their relationship isn't my concern. First off anyone puts hands on anybody in my family, it is my business especially if it's a man putting his hands on a woman. My nana hasn't said that she won't come if he doesn't, but I'm afraid she would end up not coming because of him. I also know they will start the guilt tripping when the time gets closer. I really want her there but I don't want him there because I would end up whooping his a** a second time just for the principle of the matter. I was in a very abusive relationship and I don't take it lightly. I finally stood up to my ex and whooped him and walked away. So, am I being unreasonable for not inviting them, should I just let it be so she can be there? I just don't want to be a hypocrite allowing a woman beater to come to my wedding. As well the rest of the family knows what he did and would probably get to him before me.
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Ok so not really my place. But my opinion is, invite your Nana. Just your Nana. Don’t invite the bf and his daughters if u don’t like them. There’s no point. It’s your wedding so u choose who goes. Also with everything he did he shouldn’t be invited. I’d just invite your Nana cuz you want her there. If anyone disagrees don’t downvote me please..I don’t wanna get banned again..but again, just my opinion.
Thank you, well luckily she broke it off with him because he was cheating on her recently while she was in the hospital (she had a heart attack). But, now she's on some website for biker hook-ups. 🤦🤦 I love her to death but she has the worst choice in men. What I mean is they all drink, now I'm not against drinking. What I am against is alcoholism, because my dad WAS an alcoholic (clean 20yrs now). But, these guys always have a beer in their hand and only ever want to go to bars. I think just in general I may not give her a plus one if that's all she's going to be dating. Everyone I'm inviting drinks, but none become lushes(thank god). I just don't know I love her and want her there but I know I'll get c**p from everyone if she doesn't get a plus one.
