You can never be sure what’s happening inside someone’s head. Even if you’ve known them for a long time.
A Reddit user named aManFilledWithRegret just shared his story with the platform’s community on r/TrueOffMyChest. He married his college sweetheart when they were still students and the couple had gone through thick and thin together. They had been together for over a decade and, despite his family’s suspicions, the man thought that was only the beginning.
But when he was laid off, he realized it was the end.
This man loved his wife and made sure she had everything that she needed
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But when he started making significantly less, their relationship hit the rocks
Eventually, she divorced him
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The man clearly hasn’t recovered yet
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The leading reasons for divorce have fluctuated over the years and vary by country, often heavily influenced by cultural beliefs and practices. In Denmark, for example, a 2019 study revealed the top causes were:
- lack of love and intimacy;
- communication problems;
- lack of sympathy, trust, and respect;
- growing apart because of different interests and activities.
A national survey from 2005 remains the most recent large-scale report about the leading causes of divorce in the US. According to this survey, the 12 top reasons for divorce from most to least common are:
- lack of commitment;
- constant arguing or conflict;
- infidelity;
- marrying too young;
- unrealistic expectations about partner or marriage;
- inequality between partners;
- inadequate preparation for marriage;
- domestic violence;
- financial problems;
- conflict about domestic work;
- lack of family support;
- religious differences.
Americans are hesitant to share how much they make with their partners
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However, more couples might be heading down the same path as aManFilledWithRegret. About 1 in 5 Americans don’t tell anyone how much their salary is, including their spouses or partners, according to a 2018 survey from Aspiration, a California-based financial services firm.
Only 60 percent of women and 52 percent of men share their salaries with their significant others. American adults’ hesitancy to share how much they make can hinder healthy financial growth as a couple, said Andrei Cherny, co-founder and CEO of Aspiration.
“Money has traditionally been a taboo topic in America and people don’t like to discuss it because it makes them uncomfortable,” Cherny told CNBC. “However, this, unfortunately, results in many Americans having limited financial literacy — how are people supposed to learn how to deal with their money in a responsible way if nobody ever wants to talk about it?”
While some people support the man
Many think there might be more to the story
Here’s what the others are saying
This was no gold digger. She was with him when he had nothing but debt and supported him through a health crisis. They were married for 10 years and had 2 children. He is projecting his personal frustrations at her imo. Any marriage of that length would be 50/50 split. I wonder who has custody of the children as he doesn't talk about child support. Did they agree not to do that? If so then how is she a gold digger? She could could have gotten more if she is the primary care giver. Again this is resentment at a failed marriage and excusing his part in that by making it about the money. I want to hear her side, especially about how her disapproving in laws made her feel and treated her.
He admits that the field of work he got into is "dwindling" - so why did he expend so much time and energy pursuing it?
Probably didn't seem like it was dwindling at the time.
Load More Replies... This was no gold digger. She was with him when he had nothing but debt and supported him through a health crisis. They were married for 10 years and had 2 children. He is projecting his personal frustrations at her imo. Any marriage of that length would be 50/50 split. I wonder who has custody of the children as he doesn't talk about child support. Did they agree not to do that? If so then how is she a gold digger? She could could have gotten more if she is the primary care giver. Again this is resentment at a failed marriage and excusing his part in that by making it about the money. I want to hear her side, especially about how her disapproving in laws made her feel and treated her.
He admits that the field of work he got into is "dwindling" - so why did he expend so much time and energy pursuing it?
Probably didn't seem like it was dwindling at the time.
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