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Hubby Mocks Wife Over Mispronunciation While She Shares Surgery Details, Leaves Her In Tears
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When you take a vow to stay with your partner in “sickness and in health”, of course, you expect them to stick to it and always be supportive. After all, that’s the whole point of marriage, right? Being there for each other, no matter what?
This woman, however, felt that her husband was very unsupportive and insensitive when she was telling him about her surgery that was going to happen soon. He started arguing over something completely silly, and just added to the anxiety that the original poster (OP) was facing. Here’s what she’s contemplating after this…
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Everyone expects their partner to stay true to the “in sickness and in health” vow that they take
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The poster is going to surgically remove a noncancerous lump in her breast, and has had a mammogram done
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She called her husband to tell him that the surgery had been scheduled, but instead of supporting her, he started arguing over something silly
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He even hung up on her out of frustration, and she was extremely hurt by his insensitive reaction when she is going through a health crisis
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She was contemplating whether to leave him or not, so she vented online and sought some advice, which netizens showered her with
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Finally, she had a proper conversation with him, where he apologized, and they are now planning to pursue couples therapy
Today, we dive into a couple conflict that the poster was stuck in with her husband of over a year. She had a mammogram, which showed that the non-cancerous lump in her breast had grown, so she scheduled the surgical consultation and wanted to update her husband about it. No matter how trivial, all medical procedures induce anxiety, don’t they?
It’s natural that OP was anxious, and anyone would want their partner to comfort them during such a time. Sadly for her, the poster’s husband got into an argument about how he thought she mispronounced a word. We know it sounds ridiculous, but the man escalated the argument a lot by bringing up some mistake she made in the past and then hung up in anger.
The poster was absolutely devastated, and can you really blame her? She also vented about how he was emotionally unsupportive throughout the breast cancer scare. In fact, the guy was also absent when she did the biopsy, and she drove herself home. The woman sought advice online as she couldn’t bring herself to forgive him, and netizens were quite sympathetic.
She was doubtful whether she really wanted to be with him after his insensitive reaction, and folks also advised her to really think about it. However, she updated that they sat down, he apologized, and said it was all because he was stressed that he reacted like that. Well, she has decided to give him another chance, and the couple is going to work on themselves, with the help of couples therapy.
Netizens still advised her to be cautious, and that’s fair enough because humans tend to repeat their behavior. To gain a deeper insight into the impact such conflicts can have on couples, Bored Panda interviewed Eden Lobo, a counselor and psychology professor. She stressed that such conflicts are unavoidable if a person doesn’t receive emotional support from their partner.
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“It’s not just about the doctor visits or surgery, it’s about knowing your partner has your back when you’re feeling scared and vulnerable. When your spouse shows up for you, it builds trust, calms your nerves, and actually brings you closer. But when they don’t, it can leave you feeling alone and make you wonder if you can really count on them long-term,” she explained.
Well, we can understand how difficult it must be for OP to handle, but it’s a good thing they talked about it. We spoke to our expert about how the poster’s husband is finding it difficult to adapt to the “us vs problem” mode instead of the “you vs me” that he does. She believes it can be resolved when they both focus on the fact that they are on the same team.
She elaborated that they should talk about the problem like it’s something outside of both, not a flaw in one of them. Prof. Lobo stressed that little shifts help a lot: like saying “we’re getting stuck here” instead of “you never listen,” or pausing to cool down before it turns into a showdown.
“Even just validating each other with a quick ‘I get why you feel that way’ can change the whole vibe. At the end of the day, it’s about asking ‘what do we both want?’ and working toward that together. Think of it less like a boxing match and more like tag-teaming the problem side by side,” she concluded.
If the couple really wants to make things work, the husband needs to step up and think about all these things. More importantly, he should also be supportive during any health crisis, no matter what. Don’t you think so, too? Also, if you were in the poster’s shoes, what would you do about it? Let us know in the comments!
Folks online said that his timing was awful, as he should’ve supported her instead of arguing over something that she was actually right about
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Sue Ellen 3 months ago
The husband focused on the wrong thing. Pronunciation of a word is not important. What's important is that the wife is having surgery and he needs to be supportive and informed of what the procedure entails. He ignored the medical procedure for a vocabulary lesson.
tori Ohno 3 months ago
He ignored the medical procedure so he could tell his wife how stupid she is. The fact that he doubled down on it concerns me, and then actually pulled up a recording of her being "stupid", concerns me even more. I don't think he's autistic, I think he's just an a*****e.
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Nils Skirnir 3 months ago
Unless hubby has been diagnosed with autism by a medical professional, he’s not not necessary autistic. Folks throw this term around a lot, along with neurodivergent. He could just be an a*****e
Anthony Elmore 3 months ago (edited)
On the flip side of that coin he could also be an undiagnosed autistic. The problem with getting diagnosed as autistic is that it's not cheap and there is literally 0 benefit to the person being diagnosed. The things you do to cope with autism can be done, with no health risk, even if it turns out you're not autistic and they're behavioral tricks, so it's not like you need a prescription to use them. I can't really blame people for not seeking an official diagnosis, because it's basically just throwing money away. It may be beneficial EARLY in life, so that the parents can adjust their parenting style, but for someone who slipped through the cracks? There's just no benefit. I certainly don't blame them for not getting diagnosed just so that they can defend themselves if someone doesn't think they have a real problem.
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Janelle Collard 3 months ago
Poor OP. I hope the couples counseling and hubby's individual counseling help. And that her surgery goes well.
Sue Ellen 3 months ago
The husband focused on the wrong thing. Pronunciation of a word is not important. What's important is that the wife is having surgery and he needs to be supportive and informed of what the procedure entails. He ignored the medical procedure for a vocabulary lesson.
tori Ohno 3 months ago
He ignored the medical procedure so he could tell his wife how stupid she is. The fact that he doubled down on it concerns me, and then actually pulled up a recording of her being "stupid", concerns me even more. I don't think he's autistic, I think he's just an a*****e.
Load More Replies... Nils Skirnir 3 months ago
Unless hubby has been diagnosed with autism by a medical professional, he’s not not necessary autistic. Folks throw this term around a lot, along with neurodivergent. He could just be an a*****e
Anthony Elmore 3 months ago (edited)
On the flip side of that coin he could also be an undiagnosed autistic. The problem with getting diagnosed as autistic is that it's not cheap and there is literally 0 benefit to the person being diagnosed. The things you do to cope with autism can be done, with no health risk, even if it turns out you're not autistic and they're behavioral tricks, so it's not like you need a prescription to use them. I can't really blame people for not seeking an official diagnosis, because it's basically just throwing money away. It may be beneficial EARLY in life, so that the parents can adjust their parenting style, but for someone who slipped through the cracks? There's just no benefit. I certainly don't blame them for not getting diagnosed just so that they can defend themselves if someone doesn't think they have a real problem.
Load More Replies... Janelle Collard 3 months ago
Poor OP. I hope the couples counseling and hubby's individual counseling help. And that her surgery goes well.
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