Woman Fails At Stealing Friend’s Baby Name As His Wife Lied About Her Options
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Friendships are essential to our well-being, offering a source of support, joy, and companionship. But when those friendships involve our spouse’s friends, things can get messy, especially when boundaries become unclear. This Redditor finds herself in a sticky situation with her husband’s best friend after convincing her to give her own baby a unique name which she didn’t expect her to take seriously.
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Selecting the right baby name is quite hard, you are not just naming a baby but a person
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The poster had to deal with an annoyed friend of the family after she gave her baby a very “unique” name
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She named her son DeLonquious after the OP jokingly suggested it
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Hubby’s BFF claimed she was tricked, her husband and the OP’s hubby back her up
The author started on quite an interesting note, claiming that her husband is not romantically attracted to his best friend, who, however, often gives the vibe that she might be interested. The author got pregnant around the same time as the BFF, whose husband goes to great lengths to fulfill her every need.
While discussing baby names, the author mentioned she had a list, which the BFF said she wanted to see. The author initially refused, but eventually allowed the BFF to pick any name she wanted on the condition that she wouldn’t give her child the same name.
This deterred the friend for a while, until she asked for the most likely candidate. The author told her that her husband wanted to name their son after a deceased college friend, “De’Lonquius,” as a joke. The author didn’t expect the BFF to take it seriously, yet she ended up giving her son the same name. The friend seemed pleased because the author’s husband confirmed it reminded him of his friend.
When the author’s son, Daniel Alden, was born, the husband’s best friend wanted to know why they chose that name. The author explained that they named him after one of her grandfathers.
The BFF was furious, feeling tricked by the author into giving her white son an African American name. The author’s husband thinks she is a jerk for allowing this to happen, but is also upset with his best friend for wanting to steal a baby’s name.
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The OP’s husband lets his best friend do what she wants, clearly not establishing clear boundaries and refusing to prioritize his wife, as one of the commenters pointed out. Setting boundaries is essential for keeping relationships healthy and fulfilling. “Healthy boundaries with friends ensure that the sanctity and intimacy of the marital relationship are preserved, allowing both partners to thrive together,” according to Marriage.com.
In an article by Kevin A. Thompson, it is noted that married men and women can have friendships with one another and with their single counterparts, but those friendships should be fundamentally different than the ones they have with people of the same sex or the relationships they had with others before they were married. Friendship is built around shared time and/or attention. Two or more people focus on something outside of themselves, and this creates a connection.
Dr. Sara B. Moore, Associate Professor and Chairperson of the Sociology Department at Salem State University, spoke to Bored Panda about the importance of clear communication and respecting boundaries in any friendship. She notes, “Conflict in any friendship is unavoidable, but clear communication and a willingness to apologize can go a long way in helping to mend broken fences.”
“Without knowing all the details, it sounds like this woman could have been clearer about not wanting to share her list and reiterated that the continuous pressure was threatening their friendship.” She continues “At the same time, there were likely plenty of opportunities for her clarify the “joke” she was playing, so it sounds like her willingness to let her friend give their baby a unique name was a bit mean-spirited. It sounds like both women need to apologize for their part in the conflict and decide whether this situation is going to strengthen or end their friendship”
AlloHealth writes that “Boundaries are essential to safeguard your relationship and ensure that your opposite-gender friendships don’t cross a line.” Boundaries can include things like not engaging in physical contact with your opposite-gender friends or avoiding spending alone time with them.
However, it’s important to note that setting boundaries doesn’t mean you have to cut off all communication with your opposite-gender friends. It’s possible to maintain a platonic friendship while still respecting the boundaries that you and your partner have established.
One of those boundaries could be baby names as the OP clearly didn’t like the husband’s friend’s interference while he never noticed anything wrong. That left redditors concerned about his reaction. Many stated that he really needs boundaries and seemingly don’t understand why he would react that way since he was also part of the naming process of his child.
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Good gods, this is dumb. You can't "steal" a baby name. It's a name. Not a copyright. OP is not responsible for the sheer dumbth of Hubby's BFF.
So, they obviously liked the name to call the baby that, but now it’s not good enough because it wasn’t “stolen” from OP? There is something seriously wrong with that woman, she needs help.
Serious help. Enough OP & hubby should be distancing themselves. If she’s that jealous about her BFFs baby’s name (trying to steal it) she’s going to project that jealousy and resentment onto their newborn. For the baby’s sake, get away from Delonquious’ mom fast!!! Also, can’t parents amend birth names?
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I would just tell her "I thought it was pretty obviously a joke, besides I never thought in a million years you would want your baby to have the exact same name as our child? Why would you do that? Don't you want your baby to have his own name, one that you and your husband picked out?"
Totally a d**k move from the BFF, if I was the OPs husband I would laugh like crazy that the other woman fell for it.
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Well, the op shouldn't have forced that woman to put that name on the birth certificate. Oh, right, she didn't. Her husband needs new friends.
Maybe the BFF wishes she was naming the baby with your husband instead of her own.
It’s easy enough to get changed so bff needs to do this. But this is an interesting data point for op. Now she has proof that bff is actually bonkers and needs to deal with her hubby problem. P.S. never share your baby names, it’s an invitation to problems.
That line OP says, "He'll do anything she says," makes me a little nervous. It sounds like DH is under his BFF's thumb. OP should be on her guard around this chick; it sounds like she's determined to one-up OP by any means. Better yet, like the song says, "If you see somebody standing in your own backyard, she's out to get your man." The problem is that Hubby doesn't see it. OP needs to sit him down and INSIST that he starts setting up, establishing, and enforcing boundaries with his friend. Clearly she's biding her time until she can move in for the kill.
Isn't that line talking about the BFF's husband, not OP's?
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If it's real someone has issues and should get therapy. If it's not someone has issues and I'm not sure what they should do about them
Also, I remember a pretty similar post not too long ago, pretend name was grenadine or something
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This crazy bff had the chance to name her child something that she and her husband liked but instead was so transparent about stealing your name. You did good work. I would have made up a phone list and shown it to her: Joe Stalin Jones, Prince Jones, Lord Nelson Jones.... you get the picture!
At least she didn't claim it was he husband (Pontius Pilate)'s best friend Biggus Diccus who had died... https://www.reddit.com/r/MovieDetails/comments/dnfibg/in_monty_pythons_life_of_brian_the_soldiers/?rdt=45017
Why are the husbands blaming OP? She didn't force BFF to use that name. In fact, she said it was a name SHE was considering. Blame BFF for stealing it.
You cannot steal a name. You don't own the name you choose to give your child. If you don't want anyone to COPY your child's name, don't tell anyone that you've picked a name. Tell them you won't decide on a name until after your child is born.
You have a point, but the copy cat behavior makes this a bit different. If this is was a situation where both couples happened to for example really like the name Evan, then I'd say it wouldn't be a big deal for them to both name their kids Evan. But since the BFF only named her kid DeLonquius because she thought OP's husband was naming his kid that and is now acting like they forced/tricked her into naming her kid DeLonquius the situation is different. BFF and her husband are grown adults who signed the birth certificate and apparently do not like that name, but thought that copy cat behavior was a good idea.
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I disagree with the poll question. OP did not "trick" this woman and her husband into naming their kid DeLonquius. BFF is doing some creepy copy cat sh!t that normal people grow out of by adulthood and decided that she would name her kid the same name that OP and her husband had picked out for their kid no matter what. OP and her husband have no obligation to tell anyone else the name they picked for their baby in advance. I'll venture a guess that this isn't the first weird creepy boundary crossing thing BFF has done. No one made BFF name her kid that. She and her husband are grown adults with a baby to care for, but she decided naming her kid the same name her friend allegedly wanted for his kid because she's into her friend and wanted to one-up them was more important than considering whether she or her husband actually liked the name and her husband was stupid enough to agree.
My mom's cousin did the same thing: both were pregnant at the same time & my mom told everyone in her family (notorious baby name stealers!) what she was going to name me. Surprise! Her cousin stole the name. I later asked my mom why she didn't tell everyone she was going to name me Gertrude or Agnes, but she didn't think to do that!
So had it been a girl and the OP had said she was going to choose Yvonne Chiffon and that idiot named her daughter that, it would have been OP's fought? I don't think so BFF is an idiot.
This will be funny if the BFF changes it to something else. Otherwise, that kid's in for school hell.
You can't steal a name, just because someone uses a name for their kid doesn't mean you can't also use it. Hell I have 2 cousins with the same name. First and last. Different middle names though. They were both named after their (separate) grandfathers who had the same first name. No one took issue with it.
I have 3 cousins named Rachel. They were all born with in a 2 year period. I was originally supposed to be a Michele, but I have 3 cousins and 3 of my mom's friends named their girls Michele in the 3 years surrounding my birth. She changed my name 2 weeks before I was born, just so I wouldn't be part of the thundering herd.
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What you should have done is come up with a list of names to give her and say these are the names I think am naming my son. Make sure there is no connection to the name you are actually going to name your son. Then let her pick a name and say that is what I am going to name my son thinking she is stealing your sons name. But make sure your husband is on board with this.
Wow. You couldn't think of a name. I'm almost impressed at how disappointing that is.
And they could always go an change it. Or name him Dellon or whatever. But yeah she was looking to steal your names. If you had said you were going to use family names and left it at that I'm sure she prob would have named him after your husband. As a tribute. lol
Alas, I do not have the IQ, or the money, to set up an equivalent to BP, that only allows cute pets, decent hacks, recipes, pictures of sunsets, whatever, and will not permit Reddit, AITA, TicTok, IG, X or any other cut and paste articles other than those strictly relevant. It's a shame, but I'm not smart enough.
Here's a brilliant thought: you could just NOT read the articles you're not interested in. I prefer to read Reddit posts here because I like how it's laid out. No one is forcing anyone to be on this site.
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Good gods, this is dumb. You can't "steal" a baby name. It's a name. Not a copyright. OP is not responsible for the sheer dumbth of Hubby's BFF.
So, they obviously liked the name to call the baby that, but now it’s not good enough because it wasn’t “stolen” from OP? There is something seriously wrong with that woman, she needs help.
Serious help. Enough OP & hubby should be distancing themselves. If she’s that jealous about her BFFs baby’s name (trying to steal it) she’s going to project that jealousy and resentment onto their newborn. For the baby’s sake, get away from Delonquious’ mom fast!!! Also, can’t parents amend birth names?
Load More Replies... I would just tell her "I thought it was pretty obviously a joke, besides I never thought in a million years you would want your baby to have the exact same name as our child? Why would you do that? Don't you want your baby to have his own name, one that you and your husband picked out?"
Totally a d**k move from the BFF, if I was the OPs husband I would laugh like crazy that the other woman fell for it.
Load More Replies... Well, the op shouldn't have forced that woman to put that name on the birth certificate. Oh, right, she didn't. Her husband needs new friends.
Maybe the BFF wishes she was naming the baby with your husband instead of her own.
It’s easy enough to get changed so bff needs to do this. But this is an interesting data point for op. Now she has proof that bff is actually bonkers and needs to deal with her hubby problem. P.S. never share your baby names, it’s an invitation to problems.
That line OP says, "He'll do anything she says," makes me a little nervous. It sounds like DH is under his BFF's thumb. OP should be on her guard around this chick; it sounds like she's determined to one-up OP by any means. Better yet, like the song says, "If you see somebody standing in your own backyard, she's out to get your man." The problem is that Hubby doesn't see it. OP needs to sit him down and INSIST that he starts setting up, establishing, and enforcing boundaries with his friend. Clearly she's biding her time until she can move in for the kill.
Isn't that line talking about the BFF's husband, not OP's?
Load More Replies... If it's real someone has issues and should get therapy. If it's not someone has issues and I'm not sure what they should do about them
Also, I remember a pretty similar post not too long ago, pretend name was grenadine or something
Load More Replies... This crazy bff had the chance to name her child something that she and her husband liked but instead was so transparent about stealing your name. You did good work. I would have made up a phone list and shown it to her: Joe Stalin Jones, Prince Jones, Lord Nelson Jones.... you get the picture!
At least she didn't claim it was he husband (Pontius Pilate)'s best friend Biggus Diccus who had died... https://www.reddit.com/r/MovieDetails/comments/dnfibg/in_monty_pythons_life_of_brian_the_soldiers/?rdt=45017
Why are the husbands blaming OP? She didn't force BFF to use that name. In fact, she said it was a name SHE was considering. Blame BFF for stealing it.
You cannot steal a name. You don't own the name you choose to give your child. If you don't want anyone to COPY your child's name, don't tell anyone that you've picked a name. Tell them you won't decide on a name until after your child is born.
You have a point, but the copy cat behavior makes this a bit different. If this is was a situation where both couples happened to for example really like the name Evan, then I'd say it wouldn't be a big deal for them to both name their kids Evan. But since the BFF only named her kid DeLonquius because she thought OP's husband was naming his kid that and is now acting like they forced/tricked her into naming her kid DeLonquius the situation is different. BFF and her husband are grown adults who signed the birth certificate and apparently do not like that name, but thought that copy cat behavior was a good idea.
Load More Replies... I disagree with the poll question. OP did not "trick" this woman and her husband into naming their kid DeLonquius. BFF is doing some creepy copy cat sh!t that normal people grow out of by adulthood and decided that she would name her kid the same name that OP and her husband had picked out for their kid no matter what. OP and her husband have no obligation to tell anyone else the name they picked for their baby in advance. I'll venture a guess that this isn't the first weird creepy boundary crossing thing BFF has done. No one made BFF name her kid that. She and her husband are grown adults with a baby to care for, but she decided naming her kid the same name her friend allegedly wanted for his kid because she's into her friend and wanted to one-up them was more important than considering whether she or her husband actually liked the name and her husband was stupid enough to agree.
My mom's cousin did the same thing: both were pregnant at the same time & my mom told everyone in her family (notorious baby name stealers!) what she was going to name me. Surprise! Her cousin stole the name. I later asked my mom why she didn't tell everyone she was going to name me Gertrude or Agnes, but she didn't think to do that!
So had it been a girl and the OP had said she was going to choose Yvonne Chiffon and that idiot named her daughter that, it would have been OP's fought? I don't think so BFF is an idiot.
This will be funny if the BFF changes it to something else. Otherwise, that kid's in for school hell.
You can't steal a name, just because someone uses a name for their kid doesn't mean you can't also use it. Hell I have 2 cousins with the same name. First and last. Different middle names though. They were both named after their (separate) grandfathers who had the same first name. No one took issue with it.
I have 3 cousins named Rachel. They were all born with in a 2 year period. I was originally supposed to be a Michele, but I have 3 cousins and 3 of my mom's friends named their girls Michele in the 3 years surrounding my birth. She changed my name 2 weeks before I was born, just so I wouldn't be part of the thundering herd.
Load More Replies... What you should have done is come up with a list of names to give her and say these are the names I think am naming my son. Make sure there is no connection to the name you are actually going to name your son. Then let her pick a name and say that is what I am going to name my son thinking she is stealing your sons name. But make sure your husband is on board with this.
Wow. You couldn't think of a name. I'm almost impressed at how disappointing that is.
And they could always go an change it. Or name him Dellon or whatever. But yeah she was looking to steal your names. If you had said you were going to use family names and left it at that I'm sure she prob would have named him after your husband. As a tribute. lol
Alas, I do not have the IQ, or the money, to set up an equivalent to BP, that only allows cute pets, decent hacks, recipes, pictures of sunsets, whatever, and will not permit Reddit, AITA, TicTok, IG, X or any other cut and paste articles other than those strictly relevant. It's a shame, but I'm not smart enough.
Here's a brilliant thought: you could just NOT read the articles you're not interested in. I prefer to read Reddit posts here because I like how it's laid out. No one is forcing anyone to be on this site.
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