This Woman Gives Tips On How To Treat A Loved One During A Depression Episode

I lost one of my best friends because of her saying them. She ment well but after that I was too selfconcious to tell her anything important... So I became super akward (after all I felt I had nothing important/positive enough to say) and we started talking less and less...

The part about always complaining and being grumpy really infuriates me, because I experience it on daily basis. My face looks bad most of the time and when I have someone tell me: "Hey, smile! Why are you angry?", I wanna punch them in the face. Well, I'm "angry" partly because I just look like that and partly because I hate people who do this and therefore I don't like you! I'm also complaining a lot, but you know what? I never complain for no reason. I complain because I have OCD and everyone are so messy. I complain because we don't do anything efficiently and always cancel good plans. I complain because people are sh*t and doing sh*t and I don't see anything good about it, except maybe as a good example of how you shouldn't be. But I already know how I definitely don't wanna be. People who could learn from such a display of idiocy wouldn't, usually because they are stupid af themselves.

Because people, depressed or not, are complicated?

DEPRESSIVES: give them a lot of room, but not too much room, understand their plight, offer support, but not too much support, and make sure it's the right support, don't mind it when they're a pain in the a*s, or shut off, or too involved, or under involved, acknowledge their needs, but in the right context, ask if you can help, but don't assume they want your help, sometimes they don't, other times they do, and respect their sadness, it's all consuming, but other times not that consuming, understand they can function and are strong, but not when they're weak, or overly introverted, or pretending to be extroverted, support their needs................BECAUSE THEY ARE SOME NEEDY SONS OF BITCHES, except when they're not, they're really just like everyone else, but not comparable to 'everyone else' literally of course.

While that is true, everyone has to take some responsibility for their own illness. A diabetic shouldn't expect you to supply them with insulin, or keep track of their treatment. If a diabetic expected me to come to their house and cook low-carb foods for them, I would not feel obligated to do so. If they asked me for help with menu planning, I would admit I am not qualified to do that and they should seek professional advice. It is the same with depression. I will try to love you and support you, but I cannot be in charge of your recovery or your treatment. If you ask me for help, I will help you with what I can and I will tell you to seek professional help for things I cannot assist with. You can't get rid of depression simply by trying harder, but you still have to put in some effort. If you give up, why should expect me to pull your weight? I will be there to encourage you, while you work at it.

Love doesn't fix mental illness. - cannot emphazise this enough. Cannot count the conversations, where friends, family and strangers told me c**p like this and believe the fairy tale of love making everything allright..

No medication should not be the first resort. A lot of things can be cured without them and you don't know what kind of effects the medication can have on them, it could make them worse!

This comment has been deleted.

I feel your pain so much. This year has been a bad one for mine too, and in the middle of my latest really low episode my partner of over 2 years also decided he couldn't cope any more. In some ways, I don't blame him. In others, I want scream and shout that I'm still me; I have my blips but we've got through them before. I think it's cos the last two have been really close together, and I tried to explain suicidal thoughts vs suicidal intentions and it scared him. I don't have intent any more, I haven't had a suicide attempt in 8.5 years. And I'm getting much better at "thought challenging" (Anything from I want a family of my own - can't have a baby if you're dead! to who would feed the cats?!) but to try and explain to someone else that although you regularly think about suicide you have no intentions to do it is hard. I always tried not to let it impact on our relationship too much, but I guess it did more than I realised.

I am sorry to hear this. I hope you can find what you need to heal you. Life is beautiful, I have learn't that by being grateful for the little things. The fact that I can use my hands and eyes for new found hobbies is my biggest blessing. I wish you everything of the best and hope things turn around for you soon.