Homeless Man Rejects Tea From Stranger As He Prefers Coffee, Story Reaches Twitter And Goes Viral
No doubt that you’ve heard Jerry Belson’s infamous catchphrase “never ASSUME, because when you ASSUME, you make an ASS of U and ME.” Despite many of us being well aware of this, we still, every once in a while, fall into this trap because c’mon, we’re all human.
One of the more unorthodox assumptions that have been drawing Twitter’s attention was @MilkyLazarus’ recent tweet about how she wanted to share some tea with a homeless man, but he ended up refusing the offer because he simply preferred coffee.
And this sparked a bit of a polarizing debate among many Tweeters on whether the homeless man actually had a choice in this situation.
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The internet’s full of debates, and there was one on Twitter about whether the homeless can actually be choosers
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Around a week ago, Twitter user @MilkyLazarus shared a thing that happened to her—she wanted to get something to eat for a homeless man she had stumbled upon in the street.
Based on her tweets, it seems she had asked the man what he wanted, and as it turned out that what he wanted was part of a meal deal that also included a drink. So she got that for him with some tea.
It started with this Tweeter sharing how a homeless man reacted to her giving him some tea along with a meal she bought for him
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To her surprise, the homeless man refused the tea because he simply preferred coffee. In her tweet, Milky said that this was a humbling experience to her as she shouldn’t have assumed he’d like tea and should have asked beforehand. In her defense, she assumed everyone liked tea.
And this sparked a bit of a heated debate among people on Twitter. In particular, people began debating if the homeless man actually had a choice here—if he could have been able to be a ‘choosing beggar’ here or not because of the situation that he was in (at least face value).
This has sparked a huge debate, with one side defending the homeless man’s actions
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You see, there is this assumption that if a person is homeless, any help is better than no help at all, even if that homeless person doesn’t necessarily like it. And this is where two major sides formed.
On the one hand (and the seeming majority), you have people saying that yes, the homeless man can and should express his choice here because he is still a human being and taking that away is effectively dehumanizing him—something we as a society shouldn’t do.
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Others however were of a different opinion, arguing that the homeless man was in the wrong
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Others also added that people should consider a situation where the role would be reversed—would you, in a position as a victim of poverty, appreciate people forcing their charity upon you without consideration for things like allergies, needs, and whatnot?
The debate also spun off from ‘beggars can’t be choosers’ to ‘are you doing this to help someone or to make yourself feel good?’
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On the other hand, there were people who argued that no, the homeless should be happy with whatever they get, and this particular man probably wasn’t hungry or thirsty enough as he’s so picky.
Others argued that the man did not appreciate the gift and the effort that Milky put into all of this, and he was just being rude at that point.
Yet others put it this way: once you give something to someone, it is no longer yours, and it is for them to do as they wish with this gift of yours, and you can’t say anything about it at that point.
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Yet others shared their own stories of helping homeless people with mixed results
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There was also a camp consisting of people who just shared stories of times they did something good for homeless people with mixed results. But regardless of the side of the debate, the tweet went viral, garnering 137,000 likes with nearly 13,500 retweets.
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So what do you think of this? Which side of the debate do you take? Let us know in the comment section below!
I worked with the homeless for over 10 years. Most of them will refuse to take food or beverage that is not in a sealed container right from the grocery store. This is not pickiness, it's survival. Horrible people sometimes do unspeakable things to food or drinks before giving it to homeless people. I've heard stories from some of my clients about people peeing in their drinks, hiding cat poop in a hamburger, or even worse. If you want to give a person on the street a hamburger or a cup of coffee, invite them into the place to order for themselves and you pay for it.
i'm surprised no one in these tweets said this, i 100% agree with you. one tweet was even offended and said "why didn't he trust me?" excuse me? you could have put anything harmful in the food/drink, how are they supposed to know? these people lack empathy so much.
Load More Replies...Because they're making their charity about THEM, not the people they are "helping". Dollars to donuts these people will also be the ones filming their acts of " charity" for Tiktok or Insta or whatever in order to gain likes for their altruism.
Load More Replies...I literally cringed reading the title, like, omfg, homeless people are people too
When you have no money, one of the first things to disappear is choices, even about the most basic of things. Asking people what they want or need is far more helpful than just shoving something at them and being offended if it's not something they want.
But the OP wasn't offended. They were humbled. I think they learned a lesson and I'm glad they took the time to share it.
Load More Replies...People are weird...I've been homeless for years.ive got my own place now. The gentleman sounded like he was polite. And the lady felt like she was appreciated. Her comment about and her defense was worrying about the trolls on the internet. The homeless man let her know he preferred coffee in case he was about to make a new friend.
Only a few weeks for me, and that was a life lesson that's never faded. We're people. Be kind, y'know?
Load More Replies...Maybe he didn't want the tea? Just because he needs a home doesn't mean he needs the tea. And you shouldn't get upset when he refuses. Now you have tea.
Or they could have even been deathly allergic to tea, there's many possibilities
Load More Replies...I don't recall him begging in the first place. He was homeless; that doesn't put him under any obligation to anyone. And as Tracey Hirt points out, there are truly horrible people out there who make accepting unsealed food a danger.
Just had this type of argument with my friend. We were in a restaurant and she couldn't finish her sandwich. She said she wanted to give her half eaten sandwich (cut in half) to a homeless person. I told her that was rude and gross. If she wanted to give them something to eat she should find out what they want and buy it for them. Or better yet, give them amount of cash she would have spent on a meal and just give that to them. But, to give them a half eaten meal was so completely wrong. She didn't get it. I don't know how else to explain it to her.
Her heart was in the right place, and she sounds like someone who is genuinely kind enough not to immediately suspect the worst in someone that they would taint food. Always try to be kind when helping someone learn life lessons!
Load More Replies...In defense of the "ask them first" vote, I generally CAN'T drink tea. Some herbal and especially fruity tea is great (I love hibiscus) but black tea, green tea and many others actually make me throw up. I think my body just says "NOPE this water is dirty as hell!" On another note, I've always wondered if the common gesture of buying a cup of coffee is good for people with such irregular diets and oral hygiene.
YES! I have the same issue. Black tea in particular makes me vomit like clockwork about 10 min after consumption, as if there is an allergic reaction with my stomach. It's awful, and apparently not uncommon. Some people are oddly offended when you don't care for their preferred drug delivery system to consume caffeine. Personally, yerba mate is the superior beverage.
Load More Replies...This reminded me of a singaporean yt vid in which how some struggling families were rightfully growing tired of the same kinds of economic rice options (limited & repetitive) offered by a charity & one asked the charity if the families could get some other choices but was told off with “beggars can’t be choosers” crap. Some old guys stopped taking these meals. It really opened my eyes & made me think more of the dignity of people on the receiving end.
This is why I hate canned food drives and don't donate to them or buy those food bags at the grocery store for donations. People don't want that nasty can of beans you have had in the back of your pantry for 6 years. Donate money and let people shop for themselves rather than being left with a box of mac and cheese and a can of crushed tomatoes. With money they can go get fresh food that they actually want. Just don't donate food, donate some dignity. Damn.
Most homeless people will be thankful for your generosity. They will take what they want and pass along the rest. Homeless look out for over another. They'll trade for what they want. But not a morsel will go to waste!
I don't have a problem just giving people cash (I try to keep some loose bills in my pocket, since my own sense of survival tells me not to get my wallet out...). But that's mostly when I'm not likely to meet the person on a return trip. If I pass someone outside a place that has food/drink, I will ask what they would like, and the request is almost always canned goods (soup, chili, etc.).
Bingo. Or a jar of peanut butter. Thank you, on the behalf of long-ago me and all the others who didn't have my good luck!
Load More Replies...Man standing in the middle of the street. I had change to give him. He turned it down. Only wanted folding money.
There's ways to tell those who want money and those who are in need of money. Look at the shoes. Clean new shoes, in good shape? Biggest red flag. If you're really homeless, your shoes go to sh*t in very little time, and while you *may* get new from a charity/shelter, odds are they don't stay nice mmore than a few days. Homeless will sleep on or in their shoes to prevent them being stolen. Well-fitted clothing is another warning. Clean shiny hair and jewelry not made of stainless steel? Red flag. I learned a lot of the tricks in a few weeks ----- who's panhandling to pick up cash ---- vs who needs five bucks to stay alive another day. I'll get crap for saying this, b/c yes, you can have good shoes/clothes, but it doesn't last long if you're SLEEPING in them. And, no, the homeless don't change into pajamas. Be careful you don't get suckered by BEGpackers ---- backpacking twits who panhandle/beg when they could pay and just think it's funny or whatever. The qualify of luggage is a tip
Load More Replies...It's important to realize when you say "homeless person" you are not talking about a homogeneous group where an answer applies to all. From my experience over the years I would say that a substantial percentage of people in that situation are dealing with problems that create "challenging" behavior. They may be drug or alcohol addicted, or suffering mental illness (two of the leading causes of homelessness) or they may be suffering serious stress from, you know, being homeless. It all tends to create a situation where there is no "normal" behavior or response, you just try to work with what you get and help as you can. If they say "I won't take that", (you should have asked first, really) the appropriate response is "Oh, sorry. Hope things get better for you." I very rarely give money, and seldom buy food or anything for an individual any more, I find that organized programs actually do a much better job of getting my help to people who really need it. I will take time to talk though.
Bingo. After 2007-8, homelessness went up b/c people lost jobs. And, yes, talk. I always give, b/c a five dollar bill fed me for a week when I was homeless (PB & bread). If they use it for booze/drugs, hey, what can they get with a fiver? Most often, homeless will live in self-made "groups", and pool resources, and there might only be five dollars to feed four-six people for the day, out of what they can get that requires no cooking or refrigeration, etc. It's not that *simple*.... and sometimes, you can't break the homelessness loop. You need an *address* to get a job! I was blssedly lucky.
Load More Replies...There was the situation where an youtuber or influencer replaced oreo cookie filling with toothpaste and gave it to a homeless person. That's one documented situation. Imagine how many of these types of things go undocumented. If you get butthurt because a homeless person refused something you offered them, that says way more about you than them. How dare they not make you feel good about yourself for doing the bare minimum? If you want to help, ask the person what you can get them. If they ask for money, you can choose to give them some or not. Or if you really want to help, volunteer at food banks and shelters. Though those options won't allow you to feel as good about yourself nor do they look as sexy in the obligatory tweet about how good a person you are.
This makes me think of the time I was out with my sister and we stopped on the way home so she could get coffee. She comes back to the car with an extra large milk shake cup, she hands it to me and says here see if you like this... I was really excited, I thought she'd gotten me some kind of fancy milkshake. I just about spat out what I drank, while my sister about pissed herself laughing at the face I pulled. My sister had given me a milkshake cup full of milk with a sprinkling of coffee in it. Turns out the barista began making a mocha and then realised it wasn't the right order. My sister wasn't trying to trick me she honestly thought I'd be able to drink it because it was so weak. Anyway point is some people have really strong taste buds, you can be a the nicest, sweetest angel on the earth I will not be able to drink a cup of coffee if you give it to me. Your chancing getting coffee accidently spat at you and I will insist on you buying me a second drink to save me from the first.
I just give them money, with a hug and a blessing. As semi-autonomous beings, they can do what they like with it. The only time I involve food directly is at the Food Bank or "soup kitchen" for the holidays, when they come to eat voluntarily because they want the food that is being served.
Ask that person if you can get them anything first. Don't assume you know what they want, need or like!
This man WAS NOT BEGGING, SHE OFFERED........HUUUGE FREEKIN DIFFERENCE!!!! And even at that, he has his right to like and dislike what he wants! Even if he WAS begging, SHE accepted the position of getting him something he WOULD eat and drink. She wasted her money by NOT bothering to ask what he wanted. EVERYBODY has choices.......even homeless people!!!
Had a lady, don't know if she was homeless or not, come be-bopping over to my vehicle as I sat in a fast-food parking lot. She tells me about how good the Lord is and all, then asks if she can have some money to get some food. I explain that I don't carry cash, but I'd be willing to buy her breakfast from an open restaurant. She replied that she doesn't eat fast food. I said ok, I'll get you some food from a market. She replies no, I just really want cash. At that point, I just wished her a nice day and drove off. Maybe I have no pride, but in a similar situation, I would take what was offered if the person was trying to accommodate my request.
In many states it is illegal to hand out food if you are not a licensed organization. While the sentiment is thoughtful it raises a liability issue. What happens if that person takes your well meaning offer and is allergic and gets sick and dies? Or worse what if someone purposefully [universe forbid] did something intentional to hurt that person. Please, if you are going to be kind and give, find an organization that works with the homeless, get them a giftcard to a store nearby.
Where I'm from, I'm not asking jack because too many times, it's turned into a request for a full-blown meal with extras ... sorry, not sorry ...
The woman that commented about a homeless man rejecting her offer of junkfood bc he'd rather have money annoyed me. Homeless people, just like the rest of us, have needs other than food. Medications cost money, as do things like deodorant and things to wash with. Clothing and laundromats do too. In my city is a secure pay toilet facility with showers and even storage but they all cost to use. Giving food is wonderful, but often not enough so don't get mad if they ask for a few bucks as well
Wait a minute. She offered to buy him a meal. He agreed. If you ask somebody to buy you a meal and don't say what exactly you want - it's implied it doesn't matter to you what exactly it is and they can choose what they see fit. If you didn't express your preferences beforehand, it's kinda unreasonable to complain that the person didn't guess them right afterwards. It doesn't even have anything to do with homelessness.
But the person didn't complain, they just said no thank you. Plus they didn't ask for it, as the op states, they asked for something else, which the op got for them, but they got the tea extra because there was a special deal. Why should anyone be obligated to accept something they didn't ask for?
Load More Replies...I can’t get humble or accepting on this. When you visit a foreign country where you see hungry children who literally ask you for table scraps, even if you took a bite from it, you’ll turn your nose up about someone being a choosy beggar.
Ya know honestly nobody here is wrong. Everyone had valid points in their own right. There are homeless people that dont need pity or charity because they literally want to be homeless. No rent. No responsibilities. No expectations. Yeah they are mentally unintact so to say BUT. They have reached a sort of peace in certain cases that they could not find otherwise.
You remidn me of a guy who flipped out at me that homelessness was "a state of Zen". No. Fear, hunger, pain, cold, heat, sickness.... but not "Zen". You may have romanticized it somewhat. And, yes, some choose. B/c it's the only dignity left ---- to CHOOSE.
Load More Replies...With respect? I hope karma is kinder to you than you are about the homeless. Shelters are great places to be attacked, and have your last pair of socks stolen; they can't afford prescribed meds; most resort to alcohol b/c they can't get meds; and many are victims of abuse, trauma, lack of psychological care. Or, like me, they were tossed out by a psycho in the family.
Load More Replies...I worked with the homeless for over 10 years. Most of them will refuse to take food or beverage that is not in a sealed container right from the grocery store. This is not pickiness, it's survival. Horrible people sometimes do unspeakable things to food or drinks before giving it to homeless people. I've heard stories from some of my clients about people peeing in their drinks, hiding cat poop in a hamburger, or even worse. If you want to give a person on the street a hamburger or a cup of coffee, invite them into the place to order for themselves and you pay for it.
i'm surprised no one in these tweets said this, i 100% agree with you. one tweet was even offended and said "why didn't he trust me?" excuse me? you could have put anything harmful in the food/drink, how are they supposed to know? these people lack empathy so much.
Load More Replies...Because they're making their charity about THEM, not the people they are "helping". Dollars to donuts these people will also be the ones filming their acts of " charity" for Tiktok or Insta or whatever in order to gain likes for their altruism.
Load More Replies...I literally cringed reading the title, like, omfg, homeless people are people too
When you have no money, one of the first things to disappear is choices, even about the most basic of things. Asking people what they want or need is far more helpful than just shoving something at them and being offended if it's not something they want.
But the OP wasn't offended. They were humbled. I think they learned a lesson and I'm glad they took the time to share it.
Load More Replies...People are weird...I've been homeless for years.ive got my own place now. The gentleman sounded like he was polite. And the lady felt like she was appreciated. Her comment about and her defense was worrying about the trolls on the internet. The homeless man let her know he preferred coffee in case he was about to make a new friend.
Only a few weeks for me, and that was a life lesson that's never faded. We're people. Be kind, y'know?
Load More Replies...Maybe he didn't want the tea? Just because he needs a home doesn't mean he needs the tea. And you shouldn't get upset when he refuses. Now you have tea.
Or they could have even been deathly allergic to tea, there's many possibilities
Load More Replies...I don't recall him begging in the first place. He was homeless; that doesn't put him under any obligation to anyone. And as Tracey Hirt points out, there are truly horrible people out there who make accepting unsealed food a danger.
Just had this type of argument with my friend. We were in a restaurant and she couldn't finish her sandwich. She said she wanted to give her half eaten sandwich (cut in half) to a homeless person. I told her that was rude and gross. If she wanted to give them something to eat she should find out what they want and buy it for them. Or better yet, give them amount of cash she would have spent on a meal and just give that to them. But, to give them a half eaten meal was so completely wrong. She didn't get it. I don't know how else to explain it to her.
Her heart was in the right place, and she sounds like someone who is genuinely kind enough not to immediately suspect the worst in someone that they would taint food. Always try to be kind when helping someone learn life lessons!
Load More Replies...In defense of the "ask them first" vote, I generally CAN'T drink tea. Some herbal and especially fruity tea is great (I love hibiscus) but black tea, green tea and many others actually make me throw up. I think my body just says "NOPE this water is dirty as hell!" On another note, I've always wondered if the common gesture of buying a cup of coffee is good for people with such irregular diets and oral hygiene.
YES! I have the same issue. Black tea in particular makes me vomit like clockwork about 10 min after consumption, as if there is an allergic reaction with my stomach. It's awful, and apparently not uncommon. Some people are oddly offended when you don't care for their preferred drug delivery system to consume caffeine. Personally, yerba mate is the superior beverage.
Load More Replies...This reminded me of a singaporean yt vid in which how some struggling families were rightfully growing tired of the same kinds of economic rice options (limited & repetitive) offered by a charity & one asked the charity if the families could get some other choices but was told off with “beggars can’t be choosers” crap. Some old guys stopped taking these meals. It really opened my eyes & made me think more of the dignity of people on the receiving end.
This is why I hate canned food drives and don't donate to them or buy those food bags at the grocery store for donations. People don't want that nasty can of beans you have had in the back of your pantry for 6 years. Donate money and let people shop for themselves rather than being left with a box of mac and cheese and a can of crushed tomatoes. With money they can go get fresh food that they actually want. Just don't donate food, donate some dignity. Damn.
Most homeless people will be thankful for your generosity. They will take what they want and pass along the rest. Homeless look out for over another. They'll trade for what they want. But not a morsel will go to waste!
I don't have a problem just giving people cash (I try to keep some loose bills in my pocket, since my own sense of survival tells me not to get my wallet out...). But that's mostly when I'm not likely to meet the person on a return trip. If I pass someone outside a place that has food/drink, I will ask what they would like, and the request is almost always canned goods (soup, chili, etc.).
Bingo. Or a jar of peanut butter. Thank you, on the behalf of long-ago me and all the others who didn't have my good luck!
Load More Replies...Man standing in the middle of the street. I had change to give him. He turned it down. Only wanted folding money.
There's ways to tell those who want money and those who are in need of money. Look at the shoes. Clean new shoes, in good shape? Biggest red flag. If you're really homeless, your shoes go to sh*t in very little time, and while you *may* get new from a charity/shelter, odds are they don't stay nice mmore than a few days. Homeless will sleep on or in their shoes to prevent them being stolen. Well-fitted clothing is another warning. Clean shiny hair and jewelry not made of stainless steel? Red flag. I learned a lot of the tricks in a few weeks ----- who's panhandling to pick up cash ---- vs who needs five bucks to stay alive another day. I'll get crap for saying this, b/c yes, you can have good shoes/clothes, but it doesn't last long if you're SLEEPING in them. And, no, the homeless don't change into pajamas. Be careful you don't get suckered by BEGpackers ---- backpacking twits who panhandle/beg when they could pay and just think it's funny or whatever. The qualify of luggage is a tip
Load More Replies...It's important to realize when you say "homeless person" you are not talking about a homogeneous group where an answer applies to all. From my experience over the years I would say that a substantial percentage of people in that situation are dealing with problems that create "challenging" behavior. They may be drug or alcohol addicted, or suffering mental illness (two of the leading causes of homelessness) or they may be suffering serious stress from, you know, being homeless. It all tends to create a situation where there is no "normal" behavior or response, you just try to work with what you get and help as you can. If they say "I won't take that", (you should have asked first, really) the appropriate response is "Oh, sorry. Hope things get better for you." I very rarely give money, and seldom buy food or anything for an individual any more, I find that organized programs actually do a much better job of getting my help to people who really need it. I will take time to talk though.
Bingo. After 2007-8, homelessness went up b/c people lost jobs. And, yes, talk. I always give, b/c a five dollar bill fed me for a week when I was homeless (PB & bread). If they use it for booze/drugs, hey, what can they get with a fiver? Most often, homeless will live in self-made "groups", and pool resources, and there might only be five dollars to feed four-six people for the day, out of what they can get that requires no cooking or refrigeration, etc. It's not that *simple*.... and sometimes, you can't break the homelessness loop. You need an *address* to get a job! I was blssedly lucky.
Load More Replies...There was the situation where an youtuber or influencer replaced oreo cookie filling with toothpaste and gave it to a homeless person. That's one documented situation. Imagine how many of these types of things go undocumented. If you get butthurt because a homeless person refused something you offered them, that says way more about you than them. How dare they not make you feel good about yourself for doing the bare minimum? If you want to help, ask the person what you can get them. If they ask for money, you can choose to give them some or not. Or if you really want to help, volunteer at food banks and shelters. Though those options won't allow you to feel as good about yourself nor do they look as sexy in the obligatory tweet about how good a person you are.
This makes me think of the time I was out with my sister and we stopped on the way home so she could get coffee. She comes back to the car with an extra large milk shake cup, she hands it to me and says here see if you like this... I was really excited, I thought she'd gotten me some kind of fancy milkshake. I just about spat out what I drank, while my sister about pissed herself laughing at the face I pulled. My sister had given me a milkshake cup full of milk with a sprinkling of coffee in it. Turns out the barista began making a mocha and then realised it wasn't the right order. My sister wasn't trying to trick me she honestly thought I'd be able to drink it because it was so weak. Anyway point is some people have really strong taste buds, you can be a the nicest, sweetest angel on the earth I will not be able to drink a cup of coffee if you give it to me. Your chancing getting coffee accidently spat at you and I will insist on you buying me a second drink to save me from the first.
I just give them money, with a hug and a blessing. As semi-autonomous beings, they can do what they like with it. The only time I involve food directly is at the Food Bank or "soup kitchen" for the holidays, when they come to eat voluntarily because they want the food that is being served.
Ask that person if you can get them anything first. Don't assume you know what they want, need or like!
This man WAS NOT BEGGING, SHE OFFERED........HUUUGE FREEKIN DIFFERENCE!!!! And even at that, he has his right to like and dislike what he wants! Even if he WAS begging, SHE accepted the position of getting him something he WOULD eat and drink. She wasted her money by NOT bothering to ask what he wanted. EVERYBODY has choices.......even homeless people!!!
Had a lady, don't know if she was homeless or not, come be-bopping over to my vehicle as I sat in a fast-food parking lot. She tells me about how good the Lord is and all, then asks if she can have some money to get some food. I explain that I don't carry cash, but I'd be willing to buy her breakfast from an open restaurant. She replied that she doesn't eat fast food. I said ok, I'll get you some food from a market. She replies no, I just really want cash. At that point, I just wished her a nice day and drove off. Maybe I have no pride, but in a similar situation, I would take what was offered if the person was trying to accommodate my request.
In many states it is illegal to hand out food if you are not a licensed organization. While the sentiment is thoughtful it raises a liability issue. What happens if that person takes your well meaning offer and is allergic and gets sick and dies? Or worse what if someone purposefully [universe forbid] did something intentional to hurt that person. Please, if you are going to be kind and give, find an organization that works with the homeless, get them a giftcard to a store nearby.
Where I'm from, I'm not asking jack because too many times, it's turned into a request for a full-blown meal with extras ... sorry, not sorry ...
The woman that commented about a homeless man rejecting her offer of junkfood bc he'd rather have money annoyed me. Homeless people, just like the rest of us, have needs other than food. Medications cost money, as do things like deodorant and things to wash with. Clothing and laundromats do too. In my city is a secure pay toilet facility with showers and even storage but they all cost to use. Giving food is wonderful, but often not enough so don't get mad if they ask for a few bucks as well
Wait a minute. She offered to buy him a meal. He agreed. If you ask somebody to buy you a meal and don't say what exactly you want - it's implied it doesn't matter to you what exactly it is and they can choose what they see fit. If you didn't express your preferences beforehand, it's kinda unreasonable to complain that the person didn't guess them right afterwards. It doesn't even have anything to do with homelessness.
But the person didn't complain, they just said no thank you. Plus they didn't ask for it, as the op states, they asked for something else, which the op got for them, but they got the tea extra because there was a special deal. Why should anyone be obligated to accept something they didn't ask for?
Load More Replies...I can’t get humble or accepting on this. When you visit a foreign country where you see hungry children who literally ask you for table scraps, even if you took a bite from it, you’ll turn your nose up about someone being a choosy beggar.
Ya know honestly nobody here is wrong. Everyone had valid points in their own right. There are homeless people that dont need pity or charity because they literally want to be homeless. No rent. No responsibilities. No expectations. Yeah they are mentally unintact so to say BUT. They have reached a sort of peace in certain cases that they could not find otherwise.
You remidn me of a guy who flipped out at me that homelessness was "a state of Zen". No. Fear, hunger, pain, cold, heat, sickness.... but not "Zen". You may have romanticized it somewhat. And, yes, some choose. B/c it's the only dignity left ---- to CHOOSE.
Load More Replies...With respect? I hope karma is kinder to you than you are about the homeless. Shelters are great places to be attacked, and have your last pair of socks stolen; they can't afford prescribed meds; most resort to alcohol b/c they can't get meds; and many are victims of abuse, trauma, lack of psychological care. Or, like me, they were tossed out by a psycho in the family.
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