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Hey Pandas, What’s The Most Hurtful Thing You’ve Accidentally Overheard About Yourself? (Closed)
I believe most of us have that one moment when somebody said something that hurt us to the core, unaware that we could hear it. Or worse, did it intentionally for us to hear.
Let's have a little relief by sharing.
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#1
People say I'm racist because I either ignore or tell off the boys who bully me. Most of them are just tanned; the one who started the rumor is black. People, I don't care about your race. But I'm not dealing with you being a jerk to me for every day for four years.
Final score:
48points
Trisha Howson 3 years ago
People amaze me when I was in school there was a boy that sexual harassed me, would not leave me alone. And I would stand him with pencil and a teacher once told me quite being love birds. And I'm like what the heck. The teachers knew what was going on they would just talk to him. An it get worse. He once was suspended for three days didn't help. Nothing helped. Than he finally left me alone after he found out I had a boyfriend I was very serious with
Coco 3 years ago
This is unrelated but may I ask where you live because for me it was 6:00 when you responded and it is impossible to wake up at that time for me. (I live in San Francisco)
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thEBOrdeSTpaNDA 3 years ago
I hate people who's automatic defence when someone responds to them being annoying is 'that's racist/sexist/homophobic etc'. Like, you're discriminated against by some, i understand, but don't use it in your defence to justify being a b***h
Weed in the Garden 3 years ago
Set them straight! There should be no grace for a#&hole misogynists. TELL them why. It's easier for them to blame you as racist than accept the truth that they are bullies!
Charlotte Richards (Submission author) 3 years ago
Okay I know this is way later but trust me, I know. This is actually the first post I made on Bored Panda, and me being confused because I wasn't sure if it had submitted, accidentally submitted it three times. Got rid of the third one. Am surprised this one got the top place.
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#2
I was always a chubby kid. I was bullied horribly for it (in hindsight, I wasn't grotesque, I wasn't lazy, I had just grown very fast in a short amount of time and my body hadn't worked it all out yet). I was laying in bed one morning and heard my parents in the kitchen. My dad asked my stepmother, "Did ItsJess get her fat a$$ out of bed yet?". I have never forgotten the way that sounded, hearing such hurtful words from someone who's supposed to support you. My dad denies ever saying it. It definitely contributed to the way I feel about how I look, even today, many years later. When I hear a voice in my head, denigrating me, it sounds like my dad.
Final score:
40points
Trisha Howson 3 years ago
I'm so sorry. He should have not done that. I don't like it when people do that to there children. I think is so sad.
Hagen Radcliffe 3 years ago
I really don’t think parents, especially fathers, have a clue how much their words hurt. Even if said in jest or not meant to be heard, the damage is the same. Especially when it’s a daughter & body image. 54 years later & I can still hear it. Parents need to get a clue!
AK to LV 3 years ago
I was a junior in HS and had a friend over. I went to the living room and was excited about something. My dad was sitting there and said, in a sad tone, 'I wish you hadn't quit playing basketball!' I asked him what he meant by that and he tried to back pedal it. He was looking right at my stomach when he said it. I was beyond hurt and embarrassed. My friend heard it but at least she never said anything about it. I already felt self conscious about my body and this didn't help. I look back at those pictures and can't believe it. I would kill to be that size again!
Rylee Evergreen🦋 3 years ago
Oh my word, that last sentence- I am so so sorry. That was really not okay of him to do and I hope you know you are much, much more than your weight or appearance or what other people say about you. Hugs! <3
Weed in the Garden 3 years ago
There are thousands, maybe tens of thousands of people just like you on BP. One of them will read this post and give you exactly the insight you need. I'm here to acknowledge how painful that comment (and, I'm sure, many others) was and still is and that yes, you never forget these tossed off assaults on your psyche. They are internalized and stay with you forever. I think people are mean because it makes them feel better about themselves. They bully, insult and shame others in an attempt to elevate themselves by rationalizing that no matter how bad they are, at least they're not (whatever ) so they're still better than the person they just bullied, insulted or shamed.
#3
TL;DR version-- I overheard my friends agreeing not to be friends with me anymore because they were afraid of getting bullied as bad as I was just by association. What happened: When I was in junior high school, I was bullied unmercifully. I was very quiet and didn't know how to stand up for myself. It was really severe. I had cigarettes burned into my back, I had a group of boys drag me into the bathroom and rip my clothes off, I had my locker set on fire, I was beaten with a field hockey stick. A kid hit me in the head with a book once right in front of a teacher and when I yelled at him, *I* got sent to the office for swearing. I had stuff stolen from me. It was horrible. 2 teachers actually got in trouble for what they allowed to happen to me. A girl squirted lighter fluid on me and lit a match. Thankfully I was not hurt but my mother called the police about that one. And all of this because I dared say the name of a popular girl's boyfriend. (back in the 90s there was this thing where you didn't say the name of another girl's boyfriend. I happened to babysit a boy with the same name and she thought I was talking about him...I went through 2 years of hell because of it.) I had a small group of 'friends' who I'd hang out with. We used to meet up at one girl's house who lived on the corner right near the school and we'd walk over when we heard the bell ring. One day I got to her house and as I walked to her room I overheard the girls all talking about how they wanted to tell me not to hang out with them anymore. They were so scared that by hanging out with me THEY would start getting bullied, too, so they wanted to tell me to leave. It was one of the few times I got violently angry. I was so hurt. They were my only friends and wouldn't stand with me. It made me really untrusting of people even to this day. Thankfully high school was much better.
Final score:
37points
Caro Caro 3 years ago
Kate, I'm so sorry you had to go through this. What an awful thing to happen to you. Bullies are cowards and those so called friends are also cowards. I hope you have found happiness now and believe in yourself. You are not at fault - you are lovely and kind and deserve happiness and love. I'm sending you a whopping big hug.
Kate Jones (Submission author) 3 years ago (edited)
To be honest, I was a coward, too. I didn't know how to stand up for myself or deal with this- I was a kid. I wish I wouldn't have let them affect me the way they did. I eventually got through it but the problem with people saying kids needs to learn to deal with it is that there’s a domino effect that isn’t as easy to recover from. I got depressed at a critical period in my development. I stopped doing sports and activities to avoid those girls, then I gained weight. I felt self-conscious, so I stayed home. I lost friends. I became sedentary. I ended up struggling with my weight for years because of this 2 years short period and that’s what parents need to understand. We aren’t trying to make kids weaker or snowflakes by curbing bullying—the long term effects of a short term issue are real. Stop telling kids to 'get through it' - you may not know how bad it is.
Load More Replies... Hagen Radcliffe 3 years ago
It sounds like there were adults-in positions of authority- who were aware and yet did nothing. As awful as the so-called friends & bullies were, they were children. They were guilty and age was no excuse. BUT the grown-ups who looked away?! Truly monsters. If authorities haven’t taken care of them, I can only hope in karma for justice. A special circle of hell and a lifetime of guilt & shame to proceed the fiery pit.
Kate Jones (Submission author) 3 years ago
I think the hardest thing for me about all of this was how not a single adult in my life really did anything about it. My mother went to the police about the lighter fluid incident only because my clothes were ruined as a result. The teachers really played a role in what was going on, if only with their indifference. I feel for teachers in what they have to deal with but to allow what they allowed to happen to me on a daily basis and even in some cases participated... I really wish my parents had sued the school. Something I didn't know as a kid was that adults sometimes never grow up and still want to be a part of the 'popular kids'. Grown women, teachers, would still gravitate toward being part of the clique of high school kids. Not sure if anyone else has ever seen a teacher like that but...as an adult it's infuriating. As a kid I didn't understand it. I really wish my parents had sued.
Load More Replies... Kate Jones (Submission author) 3 years ago
Thank you to everyone for their kind words. It was a long time ago. I'm in my 40s now. But it was hurtful enough for me to still think about it occasionally. Kids can be horrible; as an adult, I honestly blame the adults in the situation more. I never saw those girls again after junior high, thankfully. Hopefully they grew up and had kids of their own and recognized how horrible that was.
cloudninejen 3 years ago
Holy s**t hon. That is absolutely terrible. My heart is going out to you. I truly hope you have at least one person in your life that you can trust completely.
Trisha Howson 3 years ago
They don't deserve a strong friend like you. You will over come this. Now you know how to pick your friends. Go on being strong
#4
I didn't actually HEAR it, it was written on a piece of paper. My paternal grandmother had made a list of everything that was "'wrong" with me. I don't believe in god. I didn't talk enough. I wasn't friendly enough. I was too skinny. My skin was too dark (I'm Filipino, she's white). My clothes were too dark. I didn't wear dresses. All kinds of stupid sh*t. I lived with her at the time and I found it in her BIBLE. I was even more quiet and unfriendly after that lol. I was 17 at the time. Oh, and her bridge club friends, all little old white-haired ladies, asked why I looked like a N-word. Southern Baptists, all of them.
Final score:
36points
HarriMissesScotland 3 years ago
I lived in a very small town and was surrounded by people who were just as bad. I'm sorry that you are going through this torture. I hope things have gotten better for you.
cloudninejen (Submission author) 3 years ago
Oh I'm just fine. That was 24 years ago. Thank you for your concern though <3 My grandma actually has dementia now and it's quite sad. She made me a quilt and gave me one of her diamond rings. I still remember the pain, but it was a long time ago.
Load More Replies... Hagen Radcliffe 3 years ago
Nuthin like “good Christian folk” to be the most vicious. Glad you got away from them
Trish Smith 3 years ago
Wow.......just WOW!! I'm so sorry that you had to experience that! Especially, from family! :(
ollie.anid 3 years ago
As a Christian, I am so so sorry. That is not at all Biblical or in line with what Jesus preached. He preached about loving all people and broke racist and sexist boundaries (as a Jew He was not supposed to interact with Samaritans, but did, and he frequently taught women and treated them as equals). I’m so sorry that you were treated so horribly
Weed in the Garden 3 years ago
It makes them feel superior to put other people down. This could have been written 200 years ago - nothings changed. You sound strong and confident now. You win!
#5
My therapist called me manipulative and a jerk. He also told me that being trans was selfish to my family because they would have to live with other people knowing that they were related to the tr@nny. It really messed me up, I had a lot of trouble trusting my next therapist and still haven't told her about my preferred name and pronouns because of how awfully it went last time. Every time I think back to the younger me sitting in that office, my heart hurts
Final score:
30points
Hagen Radcliffe 3 years ago
WHAT ????? That jerk needs to be shut down! Medical board at the very least! Go get ‘em
thEBOrdeSTpaNDA 3 years ago
I saw a thing which was a doctor asking medical students what they would do if they had to treat a lgbtqia+ patient (as a test). One of the students said 'What if we don't feel comfortable treating someone with that lifestyle?' The doctor said 'Then you'd better find a new job'
Himory TheDreamer 3 years ago
Sadly very relatable, it really leaves a mark to suffer prejudice from doctors. My bf is afraid of psychologists for very similar reasons and I'm afraid of all doctors for similar reasons and plus.
AK to LV 3 years ago
I'm so sorry that someone you're supposed to trust turned on you and hurt you so badly. Tell your new therapist what happened, if they say one thing wrong, dump them and try again. I had to go through a couple of therapist before I found the right one but I never had a betrayal like you did. I can understand why you are so wary.
Gigi Madison 3 years ago
What the hell!!!??? You need a therapist that will help, not give you more reasons you need therapy!!!!
#6
My mother's ex told her I was stupid and should be put in asylum. This was after I discussed an argument we had, and he walked away in the middle of it. F**k him. She is safe and happy now in a good marriage, whom I can argue and disagree with freely LOL
Final score:
27points
KENOBI 3 years ago
Lol this is a really good ending I’m glad that your mother dumped him I’ve heard stories of people like that not getting dumped and the kids having a terrible childhood
Sarah (Submission author) 3 years ago
She didn't dump him right away but it wasn't too long after that. She ended up finding her high school boyfriend, they both matured from their on and off relationship days. I believe she is the happiest she's ever been.
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AspieGirl88 3 years ago
That’s awful, I’m so sorry. I feel I can somewhat empathise, though. My mum used to have a BF during my teen years & he often called me “Miss Piggy” (I had weight issues at the time), but he also was very insensitive about my disabilities/illnesses, saying I was faking for attention. Eventually, my mum found out how he was treating me, after she was curious & read what I’d written about the way he treated me for ages, so she broke up with him, feeling bad that she hadn’t seen it sooner (me being autistic, I wasn’t very good at speaking up for myself at that age). Things have changed so much in my life & my mum mentioned seeing him in town just recently, after many years. We got satisfaction from the fact that he was shocked that I’m now an amputee, how my life turned upside down by a sepsis infection that almost killed me when I was 25 & I’m now skin & bones from post-sepsis complications. I only hope he feels remorse now, but only he knows that for sure. 🤷♀️🥺
Sarah (Submission author) 3 years ago
Im glad you survived such a horrifying infection! My bf is autistic, and his own lifelong struggle with physical hints actually taught me how to better communicate verbally. Im glad your mom dumped his a*s when she finally realized/accepted that he was hurting you. In my case, I'm now aware that my mom was working through her own acceptance issues; it still always hurts when moms ignore what you consider the obvious signs. I hope you and your mom are doing okay!
Load More Replies... Leeca Aldrich 3 years ago
You were obviously winning the argument. Glad that loser is gone, and you now have a good person in your life, to replace "it".
Sarah (Submission author) 3 years ago
I don't remember the arguement but I'm pretty sure it was, "you repect me, so do what I told you to," b***h I'm 16 and you're my mom's rebound as she learns how to date after children. He was a POS in many ways, and i still get anxiety seeing strangers that look like him.
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A few years after my dad died I heard my stepmom telling her friend that my dad wasn't sure if he was biologically my dad or not. He raised me, he was my hero, and now I can't even talk to him about it. Yeah that hurt.
Final score:
26points
María Hermida 3 years ago
Even if he wasn't your biological dad he loved you. If he wasn't sure, all it means is his wife (your mother) cheated on him, but even if he didn't know for sure he chose to love you.
Hagen Radcliffe 3 years ago
Man, that is really horrible. Maybe talk to a counselor? Getting it out might help. Sending you hugs.
Trisha Howson 3 years ago
I'm so sorry. I know it may not help a lot. But I'd go to his grave even though hurts and it hard. I talk to my mother at her grave site. I know it may not help a lot but it helped me a little. Your mother should have talked to you about this way before though and it is on her. You may have to someday bring it up to her.
jessica huth (Submission author) 3 years ago
Thanks to everyone. My mother passed away 20 years ago so that's not an option. My dad never let on he felt that way. And I do take solace in the fact that he loved my 2 kids through and through, no doubt. My sister offered to do a DNA kit together. I'm not sure I want to know.
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Overheard my family members ranting to each other about what an attention seeker I am and how there's clearly something wrong with me if I've been faking my depression for two years straight; that I should be sent to an asylum; that I should be given placebo pills; that they're so sick of me and I'm "driving [them] up the wall"; and all these other lovely names sprinkled liberally in between these statements like "idiot" "stupid" "annoying". All from the people who are meant to support me.
Final score:
25points
cloudninejen 3 years ago (edited)
That's horrible, to have your entire family against you when you need them the most. Some people truly have no empathy and it baffles me. I think those of us that have been hurt the most have the most empathy toward others.
Hagen Radcliffe 3 years ago
Family. Sheesh, wadda bunch of losers. Throw them away & make your own family with loving, accepting people. Walk away & don’t look back(except to flip the double bird!)
Jeffery (Submission author) 3 years ago
Haha, if only. Unfortunately I’m underage, so not happening anytime soon. I do love them, and I know they love me, but this was crossing the line for me.
Load More Replies... Caro Caro 3 years ago
Jeffery, what a horrible thing to hear. You were already struggling and then this .... I hope you are ok now, have found help and support.
Jeffery (Submission author) 3 years ago
Unfortunately I haven’t, but thank you :) It means a lot
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Someone asking me if my friend was my wingman to meet guys because she was so pretty. Meaning I was not and needed the help I guess.
Final score:
21points
#10
I live in subsidized housing, there are about 60-70 other apartments. One of my neighbors recently sexually assaulted me (I asked him to leave so I could pass out, as I'd been drinking. He didn't leave and I woke up to him groping me). Out of embarrassment and shame, I haven't told most ppl here. That neighbor was charged with lewd& lacivious conduct, a restraining order was issued. Other neighbors have come to me, to say that this pervert is spreading rumors about me; that I'm just a s**t, that he had done sex acts with me prior to this incident, that I have an std, and that I drink and drug while my young son is home (he was not home when I was assaulted). The detective says to keep a journal and document it, to tell the court how badly this has ruined my life. But nobody will stop him from slandering me to all of my neighbors! As an added bonus, the neighbor that I'd had a crush on, now refuses to talk to me because I didn't instantly call the police about these rumors.
Final score:
21points
Caro Caro 3 years ago
Bloody hell. I hope you are ok and can get through this. Processing something like this really messes with your head. Document every single thing and bring that bastard down. We are here for you if you need support. X
Hagen Radcliffe 3 years ago
Yes to Caro Caros comment. Keep coming here & we’ll be here for you.
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Leeca Aldrich 3 years ago
It's called - the best defense is a good offence. F**k him and the horse he rode in on. As for the neighbor you had a crush on? Same statement applies to him, he's another loser.
#11
This wasn't accidentally overheard, my father literally told me "why should I get to know him when you live far away and we rarely see each other?" about my son. P***es me off every time I think about it
Final score:
20points
Hagen Radcliffe 3 years ago
Sorry, your Dad is an as*hole. Better off without him in you life.
No Thankyou 3 years ago
Sorry. You aren't going to ever have it be different. Find a compete TV
No Thankyou 3 years ago
So, you have for a father, a self absorbed individual that takes pleasure out of hurting others, snd also
JinxBox 3 years ago
He could just be hurt and hearthbroken that daughter lives far away. Sounds like something to cover up own hurt, and protecting from more by not getting close to grandson.
micca (Submission author) 3 years ago
He does have my sister, who has 2 kids and the situation with them is not much better either. They live in the same town. So somehow I don't believe distance is his issue
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Once in third grade, me and 2 of my friends were planning a sleepover at my house. While we were planning I said that we can play my wii but I only had 2 controllers. Then I said we can alternate whose playing. The one of them said they would just shoot me and play the game with the other friend. The sleepover never happend. P.s. he probably ment it as a joke but I still find it kind of offensive.
Final score:
19points
Logan Garwacki (Submission author) 3 years ago
I think that he meant it as a joke because where would he get the gun from.
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#13
I was in school, going to lunch when I saw some friends. I said hi, talked, and I said a joke. I forgot it because of when I was pretty young, bit I think that was pretty offensive, because they yelled at me. I was popular at the time, and the girls I were talking to were the popular too, so everybody hated me. Soon I got over it, When I overheard a huge group call me names. Not "dumb" or "ugly", it was names that were bad word names, like N***r and A*****e. I overheard, and at the end of school my eyes were full of tears. But soon enough I learned my friends were in the group, and they pretended to be my friend. I moved schools, and even now, I still cry a little when I think of that time.
Final score:
18points
Hagen Radcliffe 3 years ago
School is awful. Work hard, graduate & go into the real world. It’s not perfect, but I promise it’s better than school (especially middle school)
Trisha Howson 3 years ago
You are a tough person don't forget what you overcame. You know who are true and who ant. You where way stronger and bigger than them. They where weak.
#14
Years ago I was at a family party and I was saving up money to buy my own house. I didn't make much money at the time and my mom sometimes did my laundry and shrunk alot of my clothes. I went to the local good will and found better fitting outfits and I over heard my cousins at the table acrossed from me laughing and saying "wtf is she wearing ? Omg she's so weird." It was a white polo and khaki shorts... I'm not into designer clothes. Also I don't talk to them anymore.
Final score:
18points
Leeca Aldrich 3 years ago
Your cousins sound like superficial bimbos, whetherthey are male or female.
Hagen Radcliffe 3 years ago
Good for you! I wish more people were like you- brave & strong & not putting up with stupid bu**sh*t.
Rebecca Taylor 3 years ago
Just shows that some people don’t know what’s truly valuable! Go you for becoming a home owner!
Danniee Gyrl 3 years ago
I always find it weird how some people think "designer clothes/shoes/bags" suppose to make you happy or popular or better... I am so happy that you do not talk to them any more...
#15
30-something years ago but still stings when I remember it... at a party with friends, boyfriend-at-the-time, his brother + his girlfriend. Overheard the g/f (who I had known by then about a year) talking to one of MY friends about ME: "hmmm, no, I don't think she's what I would call "pretty"...she's really just a very plain-Jane..." in a very disgusted kind of voice. Not at all even pretending to be nice or gentle about it to MY friend. My friend did not disagree or say something to stand up for me, and didn't even come to tell me about the sh*t-talk happening behind my back. If I hadn't overheard it, I'd never have known. Fast forward 4 more years....we became sisters-in-law (married the brothers). Always, ALWAYS felt "less-than" in her company. She had an affluent childhood, I came from poverty and abuse. Never ever felt fully, truly accepted as a valued family member. Faster forward... divorced 20 years now, still hear that awful message repeating in the background of my brain at times. Terrible thing.
Final score:
18points
Danniee Gyrl 3 years ago
I hope you dropped that so called friend. Awww... I hope that you know, you are NOT what she said about you...(((((HUGS)))))
Leeca Aldrich 3 years ago
That girl sounds like a nasty, insecure beeaitch. Your friend may very well have felt intimidated by her, as it sounds like you were, because of her "priveleged" background. Easy to say, but hard to do - please, put a higher value on yourself, stand proud, and find someone who values you to have a good relationship with. You deserve it.
Emily Hunter 3 years ago
I know how you feel. When I was about 9 yrs old I overheard my Mom tell my Grandma that it would be unfair for her (my Grandma) to enter my Sister and I into a department store modeling contest (this was back in the 90's) because I wasn't as pretty as my Sister and would lose. When I was 13 my Mom told me to that sometimes Mother's have to accept that not all their daughters can be "model pretty". Never feeling like I was good enough or deserving of a good life messed me up for a very long time, especially during my teenage yrs and 20's. There are still times those feeling's threaten to ruin my happiness. Sometimes they win, sometimes they don't, but I keep trying:)
#16
that as a baby, i used to always vomit a fair amount after being fed. everyone didn't want to feed me/hold me. it's always been consistently brought up by family at family gatherings, usually at a meal in front of a lot of people. it actually explains a lot of my mental issues
Final score:
16points
KENOBI 3 years ago
That has got to hurt 😢 try getting a mental counselor to talk to them about it and your effects on you if they won’t listen to you asking them to stop
James Tartaglione (Submission author) 3 years ago
if i could afford to, i would. it definitely had a negative impact on me. best i'm doing is limiting contact with them, and focusing on the areas of my life where i feel love and respect
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Courtney Christelle 3 years ago
I got puked on all the time by babies, still doesn't stop me from holding them. Peed on too.
msminnie 3 years ago
My son was the same way. We just always kept a bib on him-NO big deal! I'm sorry people are so awful and continue to be. Talking about someone's eating habits should be as taboo as talking about their bathroom habits. It's nobody's business and it can lead to disordered eating and other problems. Find someone to talk to about this. Good luck.
#17
Sarah and Jane - good friends Lola - mean girl Jocelyn - victim of Lola I had two really good friends from 2-5th grade. (Let's call them Sarah and Jane (not real names.)). One day in 4th grade, a new girl named Lola (not her real name) came to school and put herself in our friend group. A bit awkward, but ok. Then, Lola began bullying Sarah, Jane, and another girl, Jocelyn (not her real name.) Lola began stealing Jocelyn's lunch money, calling her names, and getting on her for being poor. Slowly, Lola, Sarah, and Jane began bullying me. One day, Lola passed a note to me. It roughly said: "We don't like you anymore." Signed Sarah, Jane, and Lola. Sarah and Jane wouldn't make eye contact with me. The next day, they came up to me and said their truth. They didn't actually know that Lola had written the note, and she had forged their signatures. I no longer have any contact with any of them.
Final score:
15points
Call Me Mars (Submission author) 3 years ago
She absolutely is. I went to Jr High in America with her and Jocelyn and she would make Jocelyn come over to her house so she could beat her up. It was sad. Jocelyn wasn't even poor. It was sad and i hope that Lola gets help.
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#18
my ex's mother to my ex "does she even know what commen sence is?"
Final score:
14points
Patriciaenola 3 years ago
There are many people who believe it is their life's work to go arounnd pissing off people off I avoid THEM
AspieGirl88 3 years ago
That’s highly ironic, as it’s hardly common sense for a person to speak that way about someone they know very little about to begin with. If anyone has little grasp on common sense, I’d say your ex’s mother fits that category. 🤦♀️
#19
My mom told someone she didn't love me because I took too much of my dad's attention.
Final score:
14points
Caro Caro 3 years ago (edited)
This must have hurt like hell. Mykidsartrocks (cool name), I have a friend who's mother is jealous of her (daughter) because she gets on better with her father than the mother. Some women can't handle this and see the daughter as some form of competition. I hope you are ok now.
Mykidsartrocks (Submission author) 3 years ago
It did hurt a lot. But it truly is her loss.....and yeah I let my daughter pick my name. It is true though. She paints, draws and photographs. In my eyes, her art is the best in the world and one piece is more priceless than a whole museum.
Load More Replies... msminnie 3 years ago
My dad's wife told me she was jealous of my relationship with my father. She thought by telling me it excused all her shitty behavior towards me. She was a counselor by trade! It was mildly irritating to me but not devastating because she wasn't my own mother. I am sorry for you.
Mykidsartrocks (Submission author) 3 years ago
It was very hurtful to ten year old me. Thirty five year old me really sees it as her loss. When my daughter was born I swore I would love and support her through anything. I support her in everything. I tell her multiple times a day I love her.
#20
Not really overheard, but something I’ve been told recently. My now ex gf of 4-5 months started dating someone else whilst we were having a break. She won’t tell me how long for but it put a lot of things together, such as why she asked my to tell everyone we weren’t going to get back together. Her and her new partner who just came out as NB today used to be in my huge friend group but now idk who to trust because most of them knew and she’s friends with most of them closer than I am so I just feel so isolated. My bestie found out and we were hanging out and she told me. Idk if this counts but yeah, that hurt
Final score:
13points
Hagen Radcliffe 3 years ago
Oh this counts alright! Don’t let them gaslight you. You were not treated well. Narrow down the friend circle to those you CAN trust, & dump the rest. Give it some time & maybe get some counseling. It’ll get better, I promise!
#21
At my now ex-brother in laws engagement party, mother in law's bestie had no idea who I was or that I had been living with my now ex bf for nine years. The look on her face was priceless, made me angry though. For the 15 yrs. we ended up being together, he barely worked or walked the dogs. F***** him and his mommy darling.
Final score:
13points
Leeca Aldrich 3 years ago
Glad you lost that loser. Life is too short to surround yourself with negative a**holes who don't appreciate and support you.
Teresa Peluso (Submission author) 3 years ago
You missed the point about being ignored and made to feel unimportant. Despite paying the bills and giving a lot of opportunities for hi to find his path. Also bought all the Christmas gifts etc.
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That I look 58 or in my forties when I am 28
Final score:
11points
Notnow 3 years ago
Smile, that remark was made by an insecure and jealous. If you hear that again please smile back at them
Hagen Radcliffe 3 years ago
Somebody’s got a big old case of jealous of you. The smile is a great idea- maybe even make it a little condensending. The best revenge is to pity the poor thing!
#23
"That girl's grandfather" - I am in my 40s.
Final score:
9points
#24
In primary school Buncha kids who hated me, mostly girls Over heard one pf them saying they would rather me be six foot under than standing in front of them We moved away but that s**t hurt
Final score:
9points
Dashooman (Submission author) 3 years ago
Also, qfter we moved, have an teacher who consistently says i have tourettes and somethings wrong with me, always says it loud and in front of the entire class, somekids have started saying now. Been going of for almost 3 years
Caro Caro 3 years ago
Dashooman, I'm sorry. Can you report this to someone at school?
Load More Replies... Leeca Aldrich 3 years ago
Nasty. Only one question - do you, in fact, have Tourette's? Am asking because I have a godson who was bullied like you were, until he was diagnosed with autism. His teacher at that time explained his condition, and his classmates underwent a major attitude adjustment, and were supportive of him once they knew this.
Dashooman (Submission author) 3 years ago
No i dont, i jus love to talk, and have weeks where i lose qll motivation to do work and stuff and teacher sya i have a major attitude issue but i try so hard to change but my classmates jus expect me to be disrespectful and that makes it really hard. I go to the bath room n cry, then leave and gp back to class
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TL;DR I moved into a new area and a bunch of people spread rumors about me so a church leader thought she needed to straighten me out and then 6 months later a friend spreads rumors about me resulting in me having a name for myself only 9 months into an area. I had church leader go on a rant to my face in which she called me a horrible person without saying it. She said she wanted to make sure I "didn't lose friends." I had only moved in recently so I didn't have friends. She went off on me for rumors that she didn't bother checking the truth. Now yes I had said some offensive things but I tried to apologize each time I realized I hurt someone's feelings, but there were things she brought up that were utter lies. Now I don't like hurting others and feel devastated when I learn I hurt someone, but I'm frank and I really have been working on not offending people so learning people thought I was this terrible person felt horrible. To this day my sister who saw 30 seconds of the encounter is scared of that lady. I felt like a terrible person and almost stopped talking entirely (I was an extreme extrovert before). Then what hurt almost as bad was people said they liked the new me and I felt even worse. I am better 6 months later I talk like an extrovert (with a better filter) but some days now I just don't feel like talking randomly so I don't. I am trying to improve so no one can blame me of what she blamed me of without being entirely wrong, but I'm grateful that I have the ability to improve. Also my friend who knows that I went through some stuff at the start of the school year and that plenty of rumors about me already circulate thought after I said I saw us as friends not more, that it would be great to start spreading rumors that me and another friend were being romantic behind her back. (I may be the only guy in a friend group, but I see them all as friends) Because of the two things above and other people hating me when I first moved here some people at school who don't know me think I am horrible person and have a crush on half the girls in the school🤦🏼♂️. It has been interesting, I'll introduce myself to other people and sometimes people tell me that I have crazy rumors and laugh about them then others just start looking at me weird(honestly this helps me determine if I want to be friends with someone or not). (No I'm not popular but some people in school say I am) P.S. Sending love to those who posted here and everyone who's to shy to share. Everyone has their struggles and I hope you get through yours❤️.
Final score:
8points
Leeca Aldrich 3 years ago
Am glad to know you are doing so much better now. So-called "Christian church leaders" can be some of the nastiest, most hypocritical people on the face of the earth.
Hagen Radcliffe 3 years ago
Leeca ! boy o boy, you hit that nail right on the head!! 👏🏼
Load More Replies... Hagen Radcliffe 3 years ago
You sound like someone who is working through a very tough situation with insight, wit and clearsightedness. Just remember- school will not last forever. You will move on & meet people that you’ll connect with. These days will pass!!!
ollie.anid 3 years ago
Oh boy I am so sorry. I’m a christian and i cannot stand hearing about other Christians hurting people like this. This is not what Jesus preached
#26
“Your ugly,” and “slow poke.” I know it isn’t as bad as the rest but these were said straight to my face.
Final score:
7points
Debrina Blackmoon 3 years ago (edited)
Saying they move slow and/or ARE, possibly.
Load More Replies... Hagen Radcliffe 3 years ago
It’s bad enough. It’s mean & said just to hurt. The person who said this is ugly inside. If at all possible, ignore & kick that person outta your life.
#27
When I was in middle school (more than 45 years ago), I was in a school play as part of a chorus. A kid next to me said to the kid on the other side of him - change places with me, this kid stinks. That hurt my feelings - could have been my singing, or costume or how I took it - smell. Not devastating but hurtful nonetheless.
Final score:
6points
Hagen Radcliffe 3 years ago
Middle school. Sigh. Why are we, grown a*s adult people, still haunted & hurt by middle school? There should be a study! Anyway, my kid had a horribly sensitive nose. just could NOT stand strong smells (good or bad didn’t matter) She made a little boy cry in nursery school saying he smelled. It was his hair gel! I explained to him, the teacher, the class & his mom. My kid was so sad that she hurt his feelings. They were friends through to hs graduation- still talked about his “smelly hair”!!!
#28
I live in subsidized housing, there are about 60-70 other apartments. One of my neighbors recently sexually assaulted me (I asked him to leave so I could pass out, as I'd been drinking. He didn't leave and I woke up to him groping me). Out of embarrassment and shame, I haven't told most ppl here. That neighbor was charged with lewd& lacivious conduct, a restraining order was issued. Other neighbors have come to me, to say that this pervert is spreading rumors about me; that I'm just a s**t, that he had done sex acts with me prior to this incident, that I have an std, and that I drink and drug while my young son is home (he was not home when I was assaulted). The detective says to keep a journal and document it, to tell the court how badly this has ruined my life. But nobody will stop him from slandering me to all of my neighbors! As an added bonus, the neighbor that I'd had a crush on, now refuses to talk to me because I didn't instantly call the police about these rumors.
Final score:
3points
Brandie Litchfield (Submission author) 3 years ago
I'm not sure how this double-posted, sorry Pandas
#29
People say I'm racist because I either ignore or tell off the boys who bully me. Most of them are just tanned; the one who started the rumor is black. People, I don't care about your race. But I'm not dealing with you being a jerk to me for every day for four years.
Final score:
1point
#30
Final score:
0points
Jeffery (Submission author) 3 years ago (edited)
Sorry, I haven't done this before, something went wrong. I'm going to repost. Sorry again
#31
TL;DR I moved into a new area and a bunch of people spread rumors about me so a church leader thought she needed to straighten me out and then 6 months later a friend spreads rumors about me resulting in me having a name for myself only 9 months into an area. I had church leader go on a rant to my face in which she called me a horrible person without saying it. She said she wanted to make sure I "didn't lose friends." I had only moved in recently so I didn't have friends. She went off on me for rumors that she didn't bother checking the truth. Now yes I had said some offensive things but I tried to apologize each time I realized I hurt someone's feelings, but there were things she brought up that were utter lies. Now I don't like hurting others and feel devastated when I learn I hurt someone, but I'm frank and I really have been working on not offending people so learning people thought I was this terrible person felt horrible. To this day my sister who saw 30 seconds of the encounter is scared of that lady. I felt like a terrible person and almost stopped talking entirely (I was an extreme extrovert before). Then what hurt almost as bad was people said they liked the new me and I felt even worse. I am better 6 months later I talk like an extrovert (with a better filter) but some days now I just don't feel like talking randomly so I don't. I am trying to improve so no one can blame me of what she blamed me of without being entirely wrong, but I'm grateful that I have the ability to improve. Also my friend who knows that I went through some stuff at the start of the school year and that plenty of rumors about me already circulate thought after I said I saw us as friends not more, that it would be great to start spreading rumors that me and another friend were being romantic behind her back. (I may be the only guy in a friend group, but I see them all as friends) Because of the two things above and other people hating me when I first moved here some people at school who don't know me think I am horrible person and have a crush on half the girls in the school🤦🏼♂️. It has been interesting, I'll introduce myself to other people and sometimes people tell me that I have crazy rumors and laugh about them then others just start looking at me weird(honestly this helps me determine if I want to be friends with someone or not). (No I'm not popular but some people in school say I am) P.S. Sending love to those who posted here and everyone who's to shy to share. Everyone has their struggles and I hope you get through yours❤️.
Final score:
0points
Memere 3 years ago
Your post isn't the only one that's showing up more than once. It seems to be a glitch on the BP page.
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Notnow 3 years ago (edited)
Ever since I was about 15 I've always been told I look like a b***h. I embrace that. It keeps away the type of people I don't want to have anything to do with. If you bother to get to know me you would find out different. It's very freeing actually.
Dashooman 3 years ago
Same here, but hey, they dont know you inside and out and im sure ur a wonderful person. I kinda like being called a b***h cos it means you have character right Im almost 15 n have been called that by kids at school since i was about 8
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ZeroCapacity 3 years ago
The more I know of him the more respect I lose for him. Overheard that about me on a phone call my s/o was having. Right then and there decided the person wasn't worth my time and have not lifted a finger to help them anymore.
Thecoolbonnie 3 years ago
Not trying to be a jerk, but I feel like most of these posts were made by kids?
Caro Caro 3 years ago
Lots of issues start at a young age. Does it matter how old the posters are?
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Notnow 3 years ago (edited)
Ever since I was about 15 I've always been told I look like a b***h. I embrace that. It keeps away the type of people I don't want to have anything to do with. If you bother to get to know me you would find out different. It's very freeing actually.
Dashooman 3 years ago
Same here, but hey, they dont know you inside and out and im sure ur a wonderful person. I kinda like being called a b***h cos it means you have character right Im almost 15 n have been called that by kids at school since i was about 8
Load More Replies... ZeroCapacity 3 years ago
The more I know of him the more respect I lose for him. Overheard that about me on a phone call my s/o was having. Right then and there decided the person wasn't worth my time and have not lifted a finger to help them anymore.
Thecoolbonnie 3 years ago
Not trying to be a jerk, but I feel like most of these posts were made by kids?
Caro Caro 3 years ago
Lots of issues start at a young age. Does it matter how old the posters are?
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