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#1

The people comparing the corona related social restrictions to being Jewish during WW2 deserve to spend a week in a recreation of Auschwitz. I cannot fathom the lack of empathy one must have to be able to speak the words "This is what the Jewish went through during the German occupation!" and feel justified.

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Artemis
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anyone who compares the two should read Night by Elie Wiesel. It’s beyond horrible to compare the two.

Freya the Wanderer
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anti-masker crybabies don't even know the meaning of oppression. They're just mewling that they have to wear a piece of cloth over their noses and mouths. So a mask is uncomfortable? A ventilator is a LOT MORE uncomfortable! Stop whining and take one for the team.

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4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand how people think being dragged into the streets to be executed is comparable to Brenda having to test for corona before entering Ikea. (Sorry to any Brenda's) In the Netherlands a big part of the discussion is that people feel that the vaccine causes society to become devided. Everyone calls it the obligation to vaccinate and how you don't have a choice anymore, which impacts their freedom. What everyone seems to forget is that there is no obligation to vaccinate. It's still a choice and if you choose not to, then the consequence is that you have to test. We've had incidences of people wearing the star of David to make a point, it's dispicable.

Stephanie IV
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s the parties on the far ends of society trying to get a foot into the door. Divide and conquer. There’s no reasoning with them because reason has never been the issue. It’s free airtime and public unrest they’re after.

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BlackPearltheSeaWing/NightWing
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This frustrates me a lot too. It's extremely disrespectful.

Eppe
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, this!!! Incomprehensible lack of empathy and historical awareness.

Mari
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We are too spoiled. If they ask for following the rules, it's already too much for certain people. Is this the future for humanity? It's scary.

BetweenTheCracks
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tiddy babies have a tendency to lapse into hyperbole when they don't get their way.

Sylvanticx
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a Jew who had family members dead in Auschwitz, I 100 percent agree

Caro Caro
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG Sylvanticx, what a terrible and sad thing to happen to your relatives. Bless you.

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karla Meixnerová
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my country, and I am absolutely horribly ashamed of this, some people are wearing yellow star with "Not vaccinated" on it. This is absolutely disgusting.

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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my country, some parties are considering using wristbands to wear at restaurants after you've been checked for either proof of vaccination or a negative tests. Y'know, like at a festival, so you don't need to be checked over and over again at the same restaurant on the same night. Now some people are whining that the wristband might as well have been yellow because "it's so discriminatory!" Ffs

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oddkiddo
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let's remember that mentally ill, homosexuals and gypsies were treated even worse. In fact even the jews saw them as lesser beings...

Viviane
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gay men liberated from the camps were put in prison after the war, so the oppression continued for them.

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    #2

    I'm gay. I'm gay I'm gay I'm gay I'm gay I'm gay I'm gay I'm gay I'm gay I'm gay I'm gay I'm gay I'm gay I'm gay I'm gay I'm gay I'm gay I'm gay I'm gay I'm gay I'm gay

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    Eppe
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've always been good at reading between the lines, and I have a sneaking suspicion that you may be gay.

    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, folks... No homophobes in the comments yet! Thank you. It's hard to tell people. I also live in the VERY republican and conservative south. So.

    HooowlAtTheMoon
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    you're welcome up here in Washington state anytime, much less republican and homophobic :)

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    Dandelion Patch
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hello gay, I'm your queer family! I love you! Welcome to the Rainbow Tribe! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

    Caro Caro
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who's downvoting ? You mean sh!t for downvoting.

    VeninTheNonBinaryRogue
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yayyyyy I’m gay too 🏳️‍🌈❤️🏳️‍🌈

    Pink Floydian Panda
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's cool. You are here, you are queer, and we are used to it. I am sure there are obnoxious jerks out there but everyone I know now fully accepts gay relatives, friends, and professionals. But keep on fighting until you are 100% accepted.

    Luka Verheijen
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hello gay, I'm a transgender lesbian. Let's wave the rainbow flag

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    #3

    I'm just profoundly concerned with how our humanity progresses. Like, I think we're getting more and more doomed.

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    Steve Barnett
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We are doomed. Your concern is justified.

    Sam rice
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We're getting dumber. See the movie idiocracy. 😅

    Boudica
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Brilliant film, and so scarily accurate!

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    DUN DUN
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    By 2035, we're gonna need personal OXYGEN tanks and masks. So, yeah, we're doomed

    Danwise
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And you know Apple will buy the rights.

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    Helderder
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm trying to be optimistic. There is allways some good in every person.. But yeah I feel more and more everything is money related. Even if a big company like Johnson and Johnson or Unilever decide to stop using palm oil, some opportunist will see a way to make money..

    Luka Verheijen
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, not much support we can give here

    Mari
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I totally agree with you.

    albernistuff 4sale
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    hhmmm let's see... Vaccines? check! Electricity? check! Infant mortality down? Check! Mother surviving birth? Check! Highest level of education for majority? Check! Central heating? Check! Instant communications? Check! Shall I continue?

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    #4

    I’m a public health nurse and I have a lot of knowledge on this pandemic and the vaccines!! I’m serious when I tell y that NOBODY wants to put poison in your body!! It’s a safe prevention and has been in the works for decades! I got it and I trust it enough that all 4 of my children got it!! The nonsense that is coming from people with no knowledge base or expertise to be able to do any kind of research is astounding. They’re unaware of what research in-tales, and I just don’t get what they are doing. It’s the most unintelligible thing I’ve ever been a part of. Weird

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    KellyO
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    cannot upvote this enough!

    Susie Elle
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is literally no point in wanting to poison everyone. Like, why? Who benefits from killing lots of people? People who work and contribute to society, if those are removed you're only left with problems!

    Essex Eagle
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YES YES YES, i have a family member who is a "you-tube expert" and what really concerns me is that impressionable people listen to his rants about vit d and a positive outlook is all you need crap.

    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Me too! I can't even bring up my profession around her... so she is not a regular in my life anymore

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    Luka Verheijen
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm actually more scared of the morons spreading paranoia and bullshit tgan the actual disease

    Nay Wilson
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i always wonder if the surgeon general came on tv and said the black death was making a resurgence and there's a new vaccine that could save your life would people bitch and whine about that? every vaccine was experimental at some point but its well known they save lives. covid has killed nearly 5 million people worldwide in less than 2 years. to all you idiots wanting to risk your lives with the illness you carry on, i'm vaccinated and glad of it!

    Della Greymane
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The current SG is very ineffectual. Nice guy and all that, but we need someone with a more charismatic and outspoken leadership style like C Everett Koop right now. And let's not even start on what he and his immediate predecessor have done to the once proud Public Health Service. They should be at the forefront of this fight like they were during the smallpox campaign. Instead they labor in the shadows, being pelted by useless and stupid regulation changes that have demoralized the corps.

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    Miss Frankfurter
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not enough research? mRNA research started decades ago. The really important discovery was made by a Canadian when he figured out how to get the cell wall to be made to be resistant to the protein on the spikes of the virus and thus prevent it from getting in the cell where it multiplies, bursts the cell apart and moves on to other cell, rinse and repeat. A major step forward in making mRNA vaccines. The vaccines are safe. Getting covid is not!

    Dandelion Patch
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Right. Like suddenly all these doctors, nurses, microbiologists, epidemiologists, immunologists, public health organizations, and governments all worked for decades to trick a bunch of people into taking a poisonous shot. And of course we want to poison the people who will listen to us, so that the ones not under our evil sway are the only ones who live. And thousands of people are in on this conspiracy.

    Ace Mccloud
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    *entail* not in-tale. I am wondering how the COVID-19 vaccine has been in the works for decades when COVID-19 is named after the year 2019?

    Pieter K
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because it's an mRNA vaccine, which is based on revious mRNA research that started in the 1960's.

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    Gabi
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    4 years ago

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    Nurse, lol. You can lie on this page whatever you want about yourself.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Haha!! I'm sorry you're brain is broken!! I'm sure you're not aware of how much you sound like an uneducated idiot

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    #5

    Cancel culture. So over it. If I disagree with you it DOES NOT MEAN I HATE YOU. We simply disagree. I disagree with a lot of people who remain in my life and I in theirs.

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    Helen Haley
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are some things that if we disagree. I will hate you. Unapologetically. Racists, biggots, those who think people who are exactly like them are the only ones that matter. Those who vote as such. This isn't a simple disagreement. This is a fundamental difference in values. If your values come with a body count, or destroy lives, I'm not going to throw up my hands and say 'oh well guess we'll agree to disagree, lets be friends'. This goes for those who passively accept the evil, or those who actively support these aholes.

    Dandelion Patch
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Right there's a difference between boycotting somebody's movie because they said something dumb on Twitter 10 years ago and between somebody who actively is racist right now.

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    KellyO
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    plus, the 'cancelers' if you will, act as if they've got nothing to hide...i'm betting they wouldn't want anyone digging through their social media and/or personal lives from 10-20 years ago...

    Miss Frankfurter
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They think their skeletons won't be found. They will. There's always a record or hard evidence somewhere. And people WILL talk if the price is right.

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    Calyfan Yelood
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    we need people to disagree with us because let's face it, everyone does or believes something wrong. It's hard to see our own ones though because of pride

    Helderder
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Very true. That's the problem with modern day internet research.. YouTube will show you things based on previous searches and viewings. So does Facebook. So people get in a bubble of people and videos and links that all confirm their believes..

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    Susie Elle
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People cannot handle criticism anymore, in any shape, way or form. "You have no right to judge!" - Yes I do! It's up to YOU to have at least a backbone to just shrug and go on with your life without my opinion being in the way of happiness. I mean, Jesus Christ, I know some words can hurt but ti give someone else that much power over you that you go into hysterics just when someone else disagrees with you is really pathological.

    Miss Frankfurter
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was in grade 6 my parents went to a school meeting where the principal told the parents not to criticize their child. My mom went to talk to him. She said "If they've never heard criticizism before how are they going to be able to handle hearing it when they grow up and go out into the world. Theyre definitely going to hear it." He told her that's one thing they haven't figured out yet. Nope. People can't handle criticism. And critical thinking was gone long ago.

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    Bacony Cakes
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cancel culture has a bodycount.

    Stormblessed&Stressed
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a few unpopular opinions and I agree with this so much. This needs more upvotes because it is SO true and SO important

    v
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Try convincing someone that you can in fact love them and not like them.

    An Co
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The words "Cancel Culture" are words invented by the GOP to object to liberals that Object to conservative behavior.

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    #6

    I’m fed up with everything being so hard Hard getting support to look after my youngest daughter who’s autistic Hard to get help for my oldest daughter’s mental health issues Hard to balance helping my oldest and youngest daughters without letting my middle daughter down Hard to support my first responder partner who has seen too much and struggled with so much extra stress these last two years Hard to get through the day with thinking of all the family I lost during the first lockdown Just bloody Hard to get out of bed in the morning

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    Blue Royale
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have Autism and mental health issues and i know its hard to take care of kids like us but we really appreciate our moms 💗

    Mari
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What you are doing is so courageous. Helping your daughters, giving enough attention, supporting your partner ect... It's hard, it sometimes too much but you are doing it. Respect! Isn't there any help at all? At school or someone in the family who can look a couple of hours to the kids, so you can take a bit time of your own. I hope you can find someone. Did you talk about this with your partner, friend, the doctor or family member? There will be better times, I wish you all the best.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you fir your kind words we're trying our best we are talking but unfortunately there is no one who can look after her other than her school we are supposed to have regular help on the weekends and respite monthly but there's no one it's got to the point that we're having to look into her being a resident at the school during the week and only home on weekends- a bit like boarding school it breaks my heart but it's no longer healthy for her sisters or her to continue unsupported school

    Caro Caro
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh no, that's horrible. God I wish I could do something to help. X

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    Caro Caro
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Laura, this is heartbreaking. A hug for your whole family.

    Terilee Bruyere
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just know that no matter how hard it is today there is always a tomorrow, and that day may be better yet. You are a hero.

    Colin Matthews
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hwng in rhere..my daughter is on the spectrum too.its tough

    James016
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel you. My son is autistic and some places just do not want to know. Particularly some primary schools as he has an EHCP. However the school he is in is amazing. They said to us to send him there and they will look after him. They have been. He is thriving

    Dandelion Patch
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm so sorry your family is going through all this. Please reach out and get as much support as you can from support groups, any mental Health resources available to all of you, and any referrals from your primary care physician if you can. Your partner is a hero for working so hard for others, and so are you. All I can offer is some words of appreciation from an internet stranger.

    Bacony Cakes
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Life's a b*tch, like those seagulls as described on that poem on that one causeway pier thing.

    Rockstar
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's hard but the fact that you're still doing it to help others makes you an amazing person.

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    #7

    Ironically going to get downvoted for this, but the comment culture on BoredPanda is getting more toxic. I've seen some pretty heinous comments lately with dozens of upvotes. Like telling someone to kill themself, or that they deserve to be harmed or abused over their demographic (sex, race, diet, etc), or that they shouldn't be allowed to speak because of said demographic. I don't care what your disagreement is, that's not cool. And there has been a surge in comments (and upvotes) justifying animal cruelty, too, and downvoting people for correcting misinformation. A lot of the threads have become a very disturbing place. One of the recent posts had two comments that were the same - one, from a person who often gets heavily upvoted, had dozens of upvotes and replies of praise. The other, from a person who often gets heavily downvoted, had two dozen downvotes and replies of insults and told to die. It doesn't even make sense - is it a clique mentality?

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    Iris
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm newer to reddit and I haven't seen this as much, but literally just saw a post on another app I look at where a little girls science experiment was she had three plants. Each plant had tiny speakers at their bases that played a loop of her voice, one saying negative mean things and one saying nice sweet things, oh and third no speakers, sorry that was the control plant. Mean things loop didn't even grow. Control plant medium growth and nice loop plant grew the most. Same seeds, same care otherwise. Words are powerful, written or spoken.

    Francis
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i saw that post and the first comments were like "she should have used pre grown plants for a real comparison" or "the biggest plant got so much more light than the others" or "yeah science already knows that some kinds of vibration helps plants growning." like wtf people? just enjoy that a girl tries to do science with a bigger meaning. i was for a school project. she didn't want to get a phd with that (sorry for the rant)

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    Luka Verheijen
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For serious issues, I'm surprised how mature this comment section can be, considering you can get a lot of downvotes and hate from people who don't know you, especially if you're like me and things often just not come out right

    jellybeb
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i've noticed this recently too... let's make this comment section a positive one 🤗 : how was everyone's day?

    Aroace tiger (any pronouns)
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's amazing it's been raining so i didn't have to go on a walk I was way too warm and comfortable to go on

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    BetweenTheCracks
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's nice to be positive, but this submission does not deserve to be so sweetly swept under the rug. What are you people so afraid of around this that you can't discuss it?

    Yoga Kitty
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bored Panda had several trolls and stalkers lately, there are some people who are absolutely dead set at being offended by everything, others try to force their bad mood onto everybody else and then there are of course those who always want to discuss either politics or religion, knowing very well that this will cause havoc each and every time. On the other hand, I see lots of really nice, uplifting and compassionate comments every day and this is what I come here for.

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    Yup
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It upsets me how much is being viciously political. It wasn’t sunny today? It was that evil swine Trump/Biden/Kermit who did this to destroy the world and take away the sun and anyone who follows them is an idiot. Just everyone calm down, please. I want to hear your voice, not your hatred.

    Jennifer Briscese
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to come on this site when I couldn't take the ugliness on other sites, but I noticed not only the comments are increasingly toxic, some topics the site puts up for discussion are divisive and encourage the infighting. I wish I could find just one thing that isn't about politics and ideology. It's really messing with my head

    Stormblessed&Stressed
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's so sad that so many mean people are on the internet today, I know exactly what you mean :(

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    #8

    I’m not yet 40 but so f*****g sick and tired of a society where everyone seems to be offended by everything. It’s pathetic. We’re going to be so PC in due course, the safest course of action will be no interaction. We’ll all life in hermetically sealed bubbles with no connectivity to the outside world, so that we needn’t be offended but can continue to be as horrendously narcissistic as society is making the next generation.

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    Troux
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One thing making it hard is that more people have a voice now, so smaller groups who always felt offended are taking their chance to say "x was always a hurtful word and it's time to change!" Even if they are all valid, it's a LOT of new information and new blind spots to check for the rest of the population.

    BetweenTheCracks
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Smaller" groups also being the less-fashionable ones that those calling themselves woke tend to overlook.

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    deathrose
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am Nordic and Hispanic. I also have Aspergers. I have called myself mixed, biracial, and American mutt. I am not offended by any of these terms, they're all true. It's more annoying to watch people struggle to find words that they think won't offend me then it is if they just called me a mutt. In fact I usually just laugh about it. I also don't offended when someone refers to my Aspergers as autism. Until recently they were lumped together. Do I expect everyone to know they've been differentiated? No, few people actually keep up with that. I think everyone needs to relax. If someone says something that is totally inappropriate then say "Excuse me but I think that's inappropriate and here's why...." Talk, don't scream. Some people just need to be educated not belittled for their lack of interaction with nuro-divergent or mixed race.

    Freya the Wanderer
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's one thing to avoid using slurs (will not provide any examples!) and change the name of a sports team because it belittles some ethnic group. It's quite another to nitpick over the least things. Political correctness has been described as trying to pick up a turd by the clean end. In fact, some PC language is considered offensive - for example, deaf people don't like the term "hearing impaired." It suggests that they are defective. Besides, even the most sharp-eared human is hearing impaired in comparison to a dog, which can hear sounds much higher than we can.

    Troux
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is my biggest peeve, only seems to happen with clinical terms. Idiot, moron, dumb, crippled, etc. were clinical terms which were hijacked as insults, so they decided to move to things which sounded more technical, politically correct or caring: mentally retarded, differently-abled, wheelchair-bound, and even 'special needs'. These - of course - were then taken as insults, so are no longer politically correct. Feels neverending, like it's driven by the malicious and perpetuated by the well-meaning.

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    Luka Verheijen
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, THIS is one of my biggest complaints with society. I'm all for spreading peace and delete the hate, but some things are not hate; they are small things that isn't worth looking at, but yet, drana intensifies

    Tami
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good point, being too sensitive to every little encounter probably contributes to the rise in mental health problems.

    Viviane
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The mental health issues can also cause the sensitivity. Sometimes they feed each other.

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    Helen Haley
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Usually, people complaining about this are ones who are upset they can't upset others indiscriminately anymore. They'd just prefer everyone keep their discomfort and despair to themselves.

    Daisychain
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eh, I see people offended for things that don't even concern them. Don't be offended for me because you think I should be offended. I'm the only one who can determine that.

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    Zombiii
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You're spot on. Most of it, like 99.99% is fake outrage. People seem to want to pick everything apart and be nasty to each other.

    Zombiii
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm really tired of people being offended on someone else's behalf.

    Stormblessed&Stressed
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know! Just because somebody says something that you disagree with (or even that's plain wrong or mean) does not mean you have to freak out about it! You don't know what their situation is and there is nothing you can do about it. Just let it go.

    Pieter K
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And yet the irony of being so offended by and whining about people being offended escapes people who say stuff like this. Grow some thicker skin. You are the people you complain about.

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    #9

    I hate people staring at my self harm scars/occasionally commenting on them. Stop it. Just stop. I know what I did to myself. I’m a month and two days away from being clean of sh and I’ve already gotten a tattoo to cover the worse of them (With plans for more) just please stop mentioning them to me. I know they’re there.

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    Troux
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know what people have been saying to you, but for any visible sign of something wrong, people will be curious, and it's probably with good intention. It's not their business and you don't owe them an audience, but even strangers will care about you. I've always been silent to a stranger or casual friend when I've noticed them, but I also didn't feel like that's the best thing I could do. I'm glad to hear you're clean and moving forward now!

    Rens
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wear my self-harm scars with pride, I went through Hell and came out the other side. I'm going to get a tattoo with this quote: "She wore her scars like wings" People will always state at things that they perceive to be different; some will judge, some will sympathise, some will be able to relate. You don't owe anyone anything,

    Rens
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Posted before I was finished... You don't owe anyone anything, this is your journey and you can share whatever you choose, or not. Well done getting your life back on track, and may you be blessed 💙🌹💙

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    Samantha Lomb
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just blame the cat and then people will shut up

    Rosemary Booth
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I noticed someone's scars I would immediately think they have a cat. And probably that their cat is an asshole.

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    Kimmy Reedy
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Amen amen amen amen amen amen !!!!!!! Thank you. Please don't ask me about the burns either. These scars are on my thighs and ankles for a reason. And congratulations! I will have three years clean from it and I am seven years sober

    Julia Cargile
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am very proud of your progress.

    Helderder
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Really proud of you that you are getting help to get clean! Every step is a step and it's easy for people to judge. Many of them hide their true colors.

    Sheila Stamey
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Remember this. The ones who look, and look into your eyes, and say nothing, understand, probably because they've done it. ( Points at self)

    Yup
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes we may look at them and think about whether we are brave enough to let people see ours. Or that maybe you could be someone I could talk to about mine. Or that I am not the only one suffering. I didn’t go to my best friend’s wedding because some of the scars were really livid - wrist cutting, serious attempts, with lots of stitches - and it was summer so impossible to hide everything. Most of those attending were doctors and I knew they would know what they were. It didn’t occur to me that they would be empathetic or sympathetic, just that I felt I looked pathetic. It is 20 years later and I still wish I had gone and I still wish I had given them more credit.

    Luka Verheijen
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People give victims so much hate... When you're depressed, you are a weakling it seems

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    #10

    This is something that still irritates me from a month ago, a girl in my homeroom asked another girl what ocd was she replied with “its a disease where you have to make sure everything is clean.” Not only does the fact she is spreading misinformation get to me but also ocd is not a disease its a disorder, second ocd is different for everybody. I do not have ocd but I see how much it affects people, everybody who is struggling with ocd is very strong.

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    Mary Rose Kent
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why didn’t you simply tell her all this?

    Frog
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They probably did ,this girl just seems to dumb to retain the knowledge

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    Community Member
    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For all of you asking why I didn’t tell her this I tried to correct but she continued talking and ignored me, and continued to be ignorant. She obviously did not care one bit she was wrong.

    Tiny Dynamine
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Then you can conclude that she is not worth knowing. There are lots of people like this and it's best just to shut them out of your life (and allow them to know you've done so).

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    Wise beauty
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am sick & tired of people who think that they have ocd & that it makes them special. No. No no no no. OCD sucks. For example, if I don’t make a certain sound that I think of (meow, fart sounds, etc.) I will think that someone is out to get me for the rest of the day. I know that it’s unreasonable to think that & do those things but I CAN’T HELP IT!!! I get a lot of weird looks when I do those things.

    Mari
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Do you take medication? OCD is a serious condition.

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    Artemis
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This! I suffer/ed from severe debilitating OCD. It got to the point where I would hold my breath for very long amounts of time and was having panic attacks nearly every day. It controls your entire life, and because its a common phrase no one really gets it. It’s scary because you know it’s unreasonable but you can’t stop. Thank you for saying this, and observing its effects on people.

    Skyler Sage Tang
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Her: ocd is a disease where you have to keep stuff clean Me, (diagnosed since age 11) and my pigsty room: do I not exist

    GaeFrog
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have ocd and I think if I don't do some super specific and random thing like step over the next 3 cracks with my left foot the society of people in my brain will send its agents to kill me. It is not a quirky or funny disorder where I just keep everything neat and clean and im tired of people thinking it is and spreading more misinformation

    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are absolutely right there is nothing funny or quirky about any disorder.

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    Rice and beans 🤠
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My friend has ocd. I remember that on sports day at primary school one of the activities were beanbags on cones. She screamed at everyone to put the orange beanbag with the orange cone, the green beanbag with the green cone and so on. When it was my turn i was one of the last to finish because i put all the colours together like she wanted. It was worth it :)

    Blue Royale
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Its so annoying when people completely just make something seem so little when it affects everyhing

    Bacony Cakes
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Motherf*cking mind disorder fetishists.

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    #11

    im a month an a half with no self harm and i want to break the necks of all those kids at my school that ask me for a wrist check cuz i wear bandanas around my wrists even tho the scars are mostly faded

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    Caro Caro
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A month and a half is excellent Moon. Well done you.

    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    idk how to edit but uh this would be it: i f****d up again and now the month and a half is gone im gonna try to get to at least two months this time after i get myself under control, good luck to anyone else struggling

    Tiny Dynamine
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've said this to someone else on here, but it is basically inevitable that it will happen again. Just try to think of it as a blip and be defiant to go for long periods without self-harming. It's a bloody hard thing to get through, so don't expect yourself to be a superhero. It's good that you set yourself targets though as it shows you will fight this damn thing till you finally beat it. But again, it's tough and it can take a long time.

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    Keiley Ball
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Keep going strong, my daughter has not harmed for 3 years, it can be done. Well done!!

    Rockstar
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    First off, congratulations! A month and a half is fantastic! Second, it is absolutely none of their business. Next time someone asks for a wrist check tell them to F off. They have no right to ask, even if it's with good intentions.

    Francis
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i would ask them to show me their phd in psychiastric before i would show them anything. i'm proud of you :)

    Kika González
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Moon, if you see this. People who ask for a risk check care about you. 2nd, get a crochet stick and color yarn and make yourself a scarf, this will distract you from touching your wrists. I did, and it triggered creative ideas instead of self criticism. Peace be with you

    Steve Barnett
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A neighbour of mine self-harmed; it was clear because his upper, left arm had numerous horizontal scars. But he didn’t hide them. I was proud of that and never enquired. I think it was because I emphasised with him, being someone that self-harmed as well. A tacit thing.

    Bacony Cakes
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No, you should punch them in the heart instead.

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    #12

    I don't need to hear from people I don't really know what is going on with my ex. It's one thing for his mother, whom I have a decent relationship with and is staying in her grandchildren's lives to tell me what happened at a court date because it stresses her and I care how she is doing. It's a completely different thing for someone I've talked to twice to somehow either get my number or find me on some social media I forgot I had to say "Did you hear that his GF left him? Did you hear he got 5 years?". I DON'T CARE. I've gotten rid of that drama, stop trying to bring me back into it.

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    blugeagua
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh geez. That sucks, I'm sorry you have to deal with that. I would HATE to deal with that.

    #13

    I’ve been starting to have suicidal thoughts and that scares me. I don’t want to commit suicide, it would tear my family apart and I know me sister would be heart broken, and it really scares me that I’m having these thoughts. But then what’s the point when the world might end either in my lifetime or my kids lifetimes if I choose to have them. I feel like I’m segueing with myself here and I’m terrified that I might commit suicide some time when I’m not thinking clearly or when I’m at a particularly difficult time. I’m scared to tell my mom anything about this because I’m worried she’s either not going to take it seriously or she’s gonna make me take medication. If medication would fix it, then maybe, but I don’t want to be treated like I’m sick. But I don’t want to think of this as something that needs to be “fixed” I never talk about feelings that way feelings need to be come to terms with and reconciled, not “fixed.” I’m just thinking aloud at this point but you see my dilemma. I’m having some suicidal thoughts, I’m scared of that, and I’m scared to tell my parents, and I definitely won’t tell my siblings.

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    KellyO
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    your thoughts no matter how big or small should be shared with a professional. I've no idea if you're here in the States, but if you are, please call this number: 800-273-8255 - National Suicide Hotline

    Helen Haley
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh honey, medication, don't fear it. Just like any other organ in your body sometimes it goes wonky and needs some help. Would you feel bad if you had to take insulin? Especially when your body is still growing and changing. Meds and time passing would help you just a bundle. No fear or embarrassment is needed. Next time you're at the doc for a checkup, go in without a parent and talk to the doc.

    Helderder
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Been here too. Medication helped me see more clearly and gave me headspace to deal with the overwhelming feelings. I also had suicidal thoughts for a long time but I also did not want to die I just could not handle all the s**t in my life anymore and did not know how to solve it. While there is nothing to solve, I've got a chronic disease that turned my world upside down.

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    Moosy Girl
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The biggest proof that suicidal thoughts without suicidal urges can be caused by a chemical imbalance, for me, was the fact I usually got them around my period but they became non-stop when I started a new kind of hormone pill, and they stopped as soon as I stopped taking it. So if you are going through hormonal changes (growing up or other), or are on the pill (or any other kind of hormonal treatment/anticonceptive), and have suicidal thoughts, consider consulting a doctor. Not all irrational feelings should be reconciled or come to terms with if there are other options, we struggle enough with the rational ones.

    Pink Floydian Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It breaks my heart to read this. I hope you find your reason to keep on living. Because you are wanted and needed and the would is a better place because you are in it. Those hotlines are a great resource. There is no weakness, shame, or stigma in what you are feeling and definitely not for seeking help. I am just a stranger, but I have been there before as have many people on this site. If you want to talk or need help, just reach out and myself and dozens if not hundreds of people here will be there for you. But please, please get help if you need it. Hopefully there will be better, brighter days ahead.

    Jill Bussey
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you are in the UK, please speak to the Samaritans. They will help you.

    Yoga Kitty
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love your point that feelings need to be come to terms with and reconciled, not "fixed" - this is such a healthy and sensible attitude! We are all constantly bombarded with horrible news from every corner of the world. It is absolutely fine to react with some kind of Weltschmerz to it from time to time! Not everything is rainbows and butterflies as children are often lead to believe but not everything is destruction and disaster either - catastrophes just sell better on the media than good news! There are still wonderful things happening everywhere every day which make life absolutely worth living. The world may be crazy - is, has always been, will always be - but you do not need to fix the whole world, just try to live your own life as good and happy as possible; that's enough! If the suicidal thoughts keep coming up please seek help; look up suicide hotlines in your country RIGHT NOW and save the numbers in your phone to always have them at hand immediately - stay safe! <3<3<3

    Stephanie IV
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Speak to a professional. Intrusive thoughts are a thing.

    Dandelion Patch
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If medication fixes it then it very well may be a brain chemistry issue. Just like diabetic people have to take medication, and that doesn't mean that they are less than. It's just a chemistry thing. Please reach out and ask for help. Hugs

    cpo109
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please, please, please tell your family, tell a counselor, check yourself into a hospital. Medication and therapy can help. We are trying to just survive after a loved one took their life. Please reach out for help. If one person/place doesn't help, try another.

    Andreea Morosanu
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please seek help there is a lot to live for. Go to your GP and find some relief. My best friend got her life back ❤. She was in your situation. PILLS ARE YOUR CRUTCH NOT YOUR ENEMY. Stay away from toxic relationships, alcohol and drugs at the moment. You will get through this, act as your own best friend when you have dark moments. (student counsellor here)

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    #14

    I hate is when people scream because I have a blot of blood on my trouser or skirt during a period. I’m one of those people with incredible amounts of heavy shedding and to make it through one day without an episode is a luxury I’ve never experienced. So cut us some slack… periods are a human rights issue.

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    Vanta Black
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Scream back because they have mouths full of s**t.

    Helderder
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Did you see a doctor? Usualy somethings off when you have this heavy periods all the time.

    Pink Floydian Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most guys can and do learn to deal with menstrual issues. Eventually. With a very strong emphasis on "eventually" as we are certainly the weaker sex in such matters. But have faith, most guys really can handle it and be supportive. I grew up with 3 sisters and thought one of them had bled to death when I saw what was in the trash one morning. I sprinted and took the evidence to my mother as I was genuinely concerned one of my sisters needed immediate medical attention. I got a frank, no holds barred talk about menstruation and what women had to go through each and every month from my mother that morning. She did not sugar coat any of the terms or images. And while my childhood certainly ended that cold winter morning, I did learn to be compassionate and kind to my sisters when it was time for their menstrual cycle. I was 9 and not brave so my initially reaction was less than heroic. But it was never a taboo topic in our house and I always admired my mother for that.

    Petros Vrasivanopoulos
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    4 years ago

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    well a lot of people hate the sight of blood. i dont care but you cant control what people say or feel. you can choose to be around people that arent bother or choose your reactions to what they say. human rights issue LOL no

    #15

    I sometimes wonder if I'm a sociopath. I would never deliberately do anything harmful to another person but i don't seem to have the same feelings other people do. I don't get jealous, sad, feel grief upon someone's passing (to me it's a natural process), angry etc. I have nothing in common with my family so choose to not be a part of their shallow "oh what the neighbors must think" kind of life. I do have my own chosen family of friends with common interests. I perform random acts of kindness, buying food for a vet, paying for gas for a single mother, helping stranded motorists etc because those are the only times i feel what must be a normal person's "happy"... But i prefer to do it anonymously.

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    Troux
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You sound like a very reasonable person who has a solid grasp on what matters to you and a stable emotional state. Keep going your own way!

    oddkiddo
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You sound great! Rule #1: If you ask yourself the question "Am I a sociopath?", then you probably aren't. Sociopaths do not have the ability of self reflection. ;) If anything you might be neurodiverse. And I mean that as a compliment. <3

    Tiny Dynamine
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You aren't a sociopath as it sounds like you're not actively trying to hurt people. It's okay to not have things in common with your family. We each find our own ways of what makes us tick. You sound more altruistic with your acts of kindness, so don't worry, you're just finding who you are, but it's not a bad thing to feel differently to others.

    moon
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i can relate to this a lot

    Susie Elle
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Isn't a sociopath someone who consciously manipulates people to their benefit?

    Tiny Dynamine
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Kind of. Think of conservative politicians. They are sociopaths. It's about wanting to make lot of people suffer.

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    Calyfan Yelood
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    good that you do good not for the sake of being seen by others! I could learn a lot from you

    Pink Floydian Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You do not sound like a sociopath to me. It just seems like you process the world differently than most other people. But you have enough insight to know that you think and feel things differently and are working on empathy and personal interactions. And whatever the reason and motivation you have for helping other people, YOU HELP OTHER PEOPLE. Without being asked and without asking for anything in return. That is the opposite of a sociopath as far as I am concerned, academic definitions be damned. The world would be a better place if more people were like you, that is for sure.

    Essex Eagle
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nope, i dont think you are and totally agree about the kindness bit, far to often it only seems to be done so the person can say "look at me"

    Bacony Cakes
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's pretty neat. Keep making people's days better.

    albernistuff 4sale
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Definitely not a sociopath. You would likely do well as an EMT or surgeon. You care about reducing stress or pain, but would not let that stop you from doing the right thing. I would rather have a medical professional who tells me straight that I need an amputation to stop (pick cancer/disease here) than one who tip-toes around my feelings.

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    #16

    I really want talking about periods to be normal. And talking about them in a really nice, supportive way. It happens to half the world’s population and still we feel the need to hide the fact they happen? And also not making them seem like not a big deal. Before I got mine I was terrified that I wouldn’t be able to do this, that, or that somehow I’d be different, but honestly they’re not bad. It’s not the end of the world. So normalising talking about them, yeah, I’d like that a lot, thanks.

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    Jill Bussey
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am SO proud of my daughter and how she has dealt with this for her daughter. The subject is discussed openly and whenever it crops up. It is not hidden or whispered about. I believe her son (slightly younger) also knows almost as much as his sister.

    Luka Verheijen
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can't stand taboos. Even if things are hard to talk about, they still are important. This is natural and I don't get *like with most taboos) why people seem to make it bigger than it is

    Vanta Black
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The only people who shut down and shame discussions about periods are d***s.

    Stormblessed&Stressed
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. My mother was amazing and explained them to me at a young age. It's incredibly stupid that it's a taboo subject.

    Tiny Dynamine
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it is getting better but as always, change is very slow. It's great that they don't affect you much. I guess the best people to talk about them with are other women/ girls as of course, they understand.

    #17

    corona virus of course i totally want to get rid of it right now

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    Luka Verheijen
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even the officials make it feel like it's the end of the world. And with all these moronic conspiracy nuts, it might as well be

    Yoga Kitty
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, although the virus itself is (at least to me) not as bad as certain kinds of behaviour it triggers in some people - it surely has been an eye opener...

    BetweenTheCracks
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This. It's a disease that could have been at least manageably under control by now. But no, the useless cvnts among us just had to-- and keep having to-- be their stupid malignant selves. And, as it turns out, there are a lot more of them than people originally surmised. At least a third of humanity is resource-grabbing walking cancer.

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    SBW71
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unfortunately the longer these morons stay in office the longer this crap keeps getting dragged out

    Terilee Bruyere
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not to be 'that' person, but I'm thinking you means COVID-19 or SARS-CoV-2. There are many coronaviruses across a wide range of different species. COVID-19 is a newer one that has mutated to become zoonotic (it can jump species). Others are a seasonal respiratory virus (like the one specific to felines that causes Feline Infectious Peritonitis or FIP for short).

    Artemis
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Very true. Also, love your profile photo.

    #18

    I despise religion, I don't despise those that have been indoctrinated, because those that indoctrinate have been indoctrinated themselves. The Bible, etc, how can any rational mind believe in such absurd nonsense? Also, don’t push your fairy tales on me. I can’t attach a scan of a letter I recently received, because it doesn’t allow me, but I’ll attach it in a comment to this post.

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    jellybeb
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I believe that true Christians will respect all beliefs, sexualities, identities, religions, race, etc, and love everyone for who they are. I'm sorry about everyone who gives the religion a bad name, and force it down people's throats.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    (Part Two) Adam and Eve, Tower of Babel, creating Heaven and Earth without the light on (personally I cannot see a thing without some light! Let alone create planets!) Perhaps create light first? Then there’s Mahalalel who lived a total of 895 years, and then he died. Personally, I think he died a lot sooner, but his relatives kept on collecting his pension. Oh, and forsaking his only son, what a great dad! (But that’s in the sequel!) Jesus died for our sins?! That’s like saying I hit myself on the head with a shovel to pay off your mortgage. Where’s the correlation? Yours, a rational human being that doesn’t believe in a sky fairy. But, you know, each to their own.

    Kim Steffen
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The trouble with monotheism is that you only get one imaginary friend to play with.

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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As the submission author, I don’t know whether or not if this comment will take precedence over all comments, but I want to nip this in the bud. I despise religion, I do. But that’s my prerogative. I’m in no way telling anyone else how to live their life: You're entitled to believe in whatever floats your boat and helps you through this demanding journey through life. But don’t try and persuade me to believe in it too.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    (Part One) I’ve obviously blacked out certain parts. These would be my responses, but I’m not entertaining this muppet. How did life begin? I’m sure it has something to do with water, chemical reactions etc. You know, the sort of stuff that Science explains very well, but religion glosses over with a fable or two.Why do innocent people suffer? Why not? What makes someone ‘innocent’, is there a checklist?What happens when a person dies? That one’s easy. Their body decomposes. But then I’ve watched far too many Zombie films, so who knows!What will happen to the earth (sic) in the future? In approx. 4 billion years from now the Sun will die slowly engulfing Mercury, Venus and us, in that order! Sleep tight! The best bit is referring to The Bible; it’s like Shakespeare, difficult to comprehend, ambiguous and the jokes are rubbish. Also, there’s some nasty stuff in it and God’s a bit of a twat TBH.

    Luka Verheijen
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To me, the idea of religion is good. There are some legit good people there. Tge problem is that their books are too old, too long and too complicated, and people interpret the weirdest things from a vague text that might just be written by an ancient tolkien or something

    Sue Bradley
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My thoughts - it would be wonderful to believe there was a god, but it is very unlikely. It is an an ancient folklore, fairytale, used from early times to placate and control populations. There were likely wise folk who advised people, they were given authority because they were wise. This became a version of law. Time enhanced and spread these theories. The end.

    Mari
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everyone has the right to believe.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes they do, but that's not the point I was making. Please see my reply to Vibe Check.

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    Caro Caro
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, it's a pity I can't hold the lettre to the light. But Steve, I think of myself as a christian (maybe I'm not a good one but I try to be). Does this mean you don't want to be my friend anymore :(

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    ok i get that most of these are serious things and all but im just kinda excited and yeah... my boyfriend held my hand under the desk during school yesterday and for the first time i felt like a boy actually loved me

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    HooowlAtTheMoon
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh gosh yes, my girlfriend held my hand for the whole class period the other day and then we held hands as i walked her to the bus and i had so many butterflies it was so great

    Luka Verheijen
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Adorable! I had someone too who finally showed me I'm worth something. While that turned out to be a total jerk and broke up with me and... Okay I need to stop talking now

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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This one deserves to be higher. Please, never underestimate that first love. Please don't read further if you wish to maintain the JOY of OP. I am gay and I grew up in small town conservative U.S.A. during the early to mid 80's, with the specter of AIDS in full force, so being publicly gay wasn't even an option. I've never felt what OP has felt. More importantly, I never learned how to actually love another person in that way. By virtue how I exist and of how and where I was brought up all I ever learned was love (read, sex) by one night stand. I've lived so much of my life alone that I don't know how to give any portion of my life over to any other person. I hope that my generation, maybe the one after, will be the end of this type of existence. I hope that any person finding love with the person they choose is able to finally, without question or equivocation, to fully REAP the benefit of that love and show that benefit to the rest of society.

    albernistuff 4sale
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is never a need to be 100% serious about anything

    Stormblessed&Stressed
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We need more wholesome things like this on the internet :)

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    #20

    I hate that Bored Panda has inconsistent submission character lengths. This is all I can submit

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    Terilee Bruyere
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Worded slightly differently it would make a lovely haiku.

    Troux
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just hate that we can't separate by line/paragraph in comments.

    Freya the Wanderer
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also, what's with BP arbitrarily truncating lists? A 100+ submission list is reduced to the first 50 - but why is a list of 42 items reduced to 40?

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    Look how long i can make my comment when i edit it! Listed building From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Jump to navigationJump to search This article is about the law in the United Kingdom. For listing in other jurisdictions, see List of heritage registers. The Forth Bridge, designed by Sir Benjamin Baker and Sir John Fowler, which opened in 1890, and is now owned by Network Rail, is designated as a Category A listed building by Historic Environment Scotland. A listed building, or listed structure, is one that has been placed on one of the four statutory lists maintained by Historic England[a] in England, Historic Environment Scotland in Scotland, Cadw in Wales, and the Northern Ireland Environment Agency in Northern Ireland. The term has also been used in the Republic of Ireland, where buildings are protected under the Planning and Development Act 2000. However the statutory term in Ireland is "protected structure".[1] A listed building may not be demolished, extended, or altered without special permission from the local planning authority, which typically consults the relevant central government agency, particularly for significant alterations to the more notable listed buildings. In England and Wales, a national amenity society must be notified of any work to a listed building which involves any element of demolition.[2] Exemption from secular listed building control is provided for some buildings in current use for worship, but only in cases where the relevant religious organisation operates its own equivalent permissions procedure. Owners of listed buildings are, in some circumstances, compelled to repair and maintain them and can face criminal prosecution if they fail to do so or if they perform unauthorised alterations. When alterations are permitted, or when listed buildings are repaired or maintained, the owners are often required to use specific materials or techniques.[3] Although most sites appearing on the lists are buildings, other structures such as bridges, monuments, sculptures, war memorials, and even milestones and mileposts and the Abbey Road zebra crossing made famous by the Beatles,[4] are also listed. Ancient, military, and uninhabited structures, such as Stonehenge, are sometimes instead classified as scheduled monuments and protected by much older legislation, whilst cultural landscapes such as parks and gardens are currently "listed" on a non-statutory basis.1Background 1.1Heritage protection 2Eligibility 2.1Listing and delisting procedure 3England and Wales 3.1Legislation 3.2English heritage protection reform 3.3Categories of listed building 3.4Statutory criteria 3.5Emergency measure 3.6Certificates of immunity 3.7Alteration 3.8Examples of Grade I listed buildings 3.9Examples of Grade II* listed buildings 3.10Examples of Grade II listed buildings 3.11Mixed designations 3.12Locally listed buildings 4Northern Ireland 4.1Examples of Grade A listed buildings 4.2Examples of Grade B+ listed buildings 4.3Examples of Grade B1 listed buildings 5Scotland 5.1Examples of Category A listed buildings 5.2Examples of Category B listed buildings 5.3Examples of Category C listed buildings 6Records 7Equivalent statuses outside the United Kingdom 8See also 9References 10Notes 11External links Background WWII bomb damage advanced the move to preserve architecturally significant buildings. Although a limited number of 'ancient monuments' were given protection under the Ancient Monuments Protection Act 1882,[5] there was reluctance to restrict the owners of occupied buildings in what they could do to their property. It was the damage to buildings caused by German bombing during World War II that prompted the first listing of buildings that were deemed to be of particular architectural merit.[6] Three hundred members of the Royal Institute of British Architects and the Society for the Protection of Ancient Buildings were dispatched to prepare the list under the supervision of the Inspectorate of Ancient Monuments, with funding from the Treasury.[7] The listings were used as a means of determining whether a particular building should be rebuilt if it was damaged by bombing,[6] with varying degrees of success.[7] In Scotland the process slightly predated the war with the Marquess of Bute (in his connections to the National Trust for Scotland) commissioning the architect Ian Lindsay in September 1936 to survey 103 towns and villages based on an Amsterdam model using three categories (A, B and C).[8] The basis of the current more comprehensive listing process was developed from the wartime system and was enacted by a provision in the Town and Country Planning Act 1947 covering England and Wales, and the Town and Country Planning (Scotland) Act 1947 covering Scotland. Listing was first introduced into Northern Ireland under the Planning (Northern Ireland) Order 1972. The listing process has since developed slightly differently in each part of the UK. Heritage protection In the UK, the process of protecting the built historic environment (i.e. getting a heritage asset legally protected) is called 'designation'. To complicate things, several different terms are used because the processes use separate legislation: buildings are 'listed'; ancient monuments are 'scheduled', wrecks are 'protected', and battlefields, gardens and parks are 'registered'. A heritage asset is a part of the historic environment that is valued because of its historic, archaeological, architectural or artistic interest.[9] Only some of these are judged to be important enough to have extra legal protection through designation. However, buildings that are not formally listed but still judged as being of heritage interest are still regarded as being a material consideration in the planning process.[10] The Grade II listed Mappin & Webb building (L) was controversially demolished in 1994 to make way for No 1 Poultry (R) which was itself listed in 2016 As a very rough guide, listed buildings are structures considered of special architectural and historical importance whereas ancient monuments are of 'national importance' containing evidential values and can on many occasions also relate to below ground or unoccupied sites and buildings.[11] Eligibility Almost anything can be listed – it does not have to be a building. Buildings and structures of special historic interest come in a wide variety of forms and types, ranging from telephone boxes and road signs, to castles. Historic England has created twenty broad categories of structures, and published selection guides for each one to aid with assessing buildings and structures. These include historical overviews and describe the special considerations for listing each category.[12][13] However, in 2020 the Supreme Court ruled in Dill v Secretary of State for Housing, Communities and Local Government and another that buildings in the scheme must meet certain criteria – "a three-fold test which involved considering size, permanence and degree of physical attachment" – referred to as the Skerritts test in reference to a previous legal case in England.[14] Both Historic Environment Scotland and Cadw produce guidance for owners.[15][16] Listing and delisting procedure In England, to have a building considered for listing or delisting, the process is to apply to the secretary of state; this can be done by submitting an application form online to Historic England. The applicant does not need to be the owner of the building to apply for it to be listed.[13] Full information including application form guidance notes are on the Historic England website. Historic England assesses buildings put forward for listing or delisting and provides advice to the Secretary of State on the architectural and historic interest. The Secretary of State, who may seek additional advice from others, then decides whether or not to list or delist the building. England and Wales For lists of buildings, see Listed buildings in England and Listed buildings in Wales. Legislation In England and Wales, the authority for listing is granted to the Secretary of State by the Planning (Listed Buildings and Conservation Areas) Act 1990. Listed buildings in danger of decay are listed on the Historic England 'Heritage at Risk' Register. In 1980 there was public outcry at the sudden destruction of the art deco Firestone Tyre Factory (Wallis, Gilbert and Partners, 1928–29), which was demolished over the August bank holiday weekend by its owners Trafalgar House who had been told that it was likely to be 'spot-listed' a few days later,[17] and the government undertook to review arrangements for listing buildings.[18] After the Firestone demolition, the Secretary of State for the Environment Michael Heseltine also initiated a complete re-survey of buildings to ensure that everything that merited preservation was on the lists.[19] In England, the Department for Culture, Media and Sport (DCMS) works with Historic England (an agency of the DCMS), and other government departments, e.g. Department for Communities and Local Government (DCLG) and the Department for the Environment, Food and Rural Affairs (DEFRA) to deliver the government policy on the protection to historic buildings and other heritage assets. The decision about whether or not to list a building is made by the Secretary of State, although the process is administered in England by Historic England.[20] In Wales (where it is a devolved issue) it is administered by Cadw on behalf of the Welsh Parliament[21] and in Scotland it is administered by Historic Environment Scotland on behalf of the Scottish Ministers.[15] English heritage protection reform Ambox current red Asia Australia.svg This section needs to be updated. Please help update this article to reflect recent events or newly available information. (June 2020) There have been several attempts to simplify the heritage planning process for listed buildings in England, which has still (as of May 2011) to reach a conclusion.[22] 100 King Street, Manchester was constructed in 1935, and granted Grade II* listed building status in 1974. The review process was started in 2000 by Alan Howarth, then minister at the Department for Culture, Media and Sport (DCMS). The outcome was the paper "The Power of Place" in 2000[23] followed by the subsequent policy document "The Historic Environment: A Force for Our Future" published by the DCMS and the Department of the Environment, Transport and the Regions (DTLR) in December 2001.[24] The launch of the Government's Heritage Protection Reform (HPR) report in July 2003 by the DCMS, entitled "Protecting our historic environment: Making the system work better",[25] asked questions about how the current designation systems could be improved. The HPR decision report "Review of Heritage Protection: The Way Forward", a green paper published in June 2004 by the DCMS, committed the UK government and English Heritage to a process of reform including a review of the criteria used for listing buildings. The Government also began a process of consultation on changes to Planning Policy Guidance 15 (PPG 15) relating to the principles of selection for listing buildings in England. After several years of consultation with heritage groups, charities, planning authorities and English Heritage, this eventually resulted in the publication of Planning Publication Statement 5 "Planning for the Historic Environment" in March 2010 by the DCLG. This replaced PPG15 and sets out the government's national policies on the conservation of the historic environment for the England.[10] PPS5 is supported by a Practice Guide, endorsed by the DCLG, the DCMS, and English Heritage,[10] which describes how to apply the policies stated in PPS5. The government's White Paper "Heritage Protection for the 21st Century" published on 8 March 2007 offered a commitment to sharing the understanding of the historic environment and more openness in the process of designation.[12] In 2008, a draft Heritage Protection Bill[26] was subject to pre-legislative scrutiny before its passage through UK Parliament. The legislation was abandoned despite strong cross-party support, to make room in the parliamentary legislative programme for measures to deal with the credit crunch,[27] though it may be revived in future. The proposal was that the existing registers of buildings, parks and gardens, archaeology and battlefields, maritime wrecks, and World Heritage Sites be merged into a single online register that will "explain what is special and why". English Heritage would become directly responsible for identifying historic assets in England and there would be wider consultation with the public and asset owners, and new rights of appeal. There would have been streamlined systems for granting consent for work on historic assets.[28]Categories of listed building The redundant Holy Trinity Church, Wensley, in North Yorkshire, is listed at Grade I. Much of the current structure was built in the 14th and 15th centuries. There are three types of listed status for buildings in England and Wales:[29] Grade I: buildings of exceptional interest. Grade II*: particularly important buildings of more than special interest. Grade II: buildings that are of special interest, warranting every effort to preserve them.[30] There was formerly a non-statutory Grade III, which was abolished in 1970.[31] Additionally, Grades A, B and C were used mainly for Anglican churches in use – these correspond approximately to Grades I, II* and II. These grades were used mainly before 1977, although a few buildings are still listed using these grades. Listed buildings account for about 2% of English building stock.[32] In March 2010, there were about 374,000 list entries[20] of which 92% were Grade II, 5.5% were Grade II*, and 2.5% were Grade I.[33] Places of worship play an important role in the UK's architectural heritage. England alone has 14,500 listed places of worship (4,000 Grade I, 4,500 Grade II* and 6,000 Grade II) and 45% of all Grade I listed buildings are places of worship.[34] Some of the listed churches are no longer in active use; between 1969 and 2010, some 1,795 churches were closed by the Church of England, equaling roughly 11% of the stock, with about a third Listed as Grade I or II.[35] There are estimated to be about 500,000 actual buildings listed, as listing entries can apply to more than one building. Statutory criteria Built in 1841, St Peter's in Stretton-on-Fosse in the Cotswolds is a Grade II listed building. The criteria for listing include architectural interest, historic interest and close historical associations with significant people or events. Buildings not individually noteworthy may still be listed if they form part of a group that is—for example, all the buildings in a square. This is called 'group value'. Sometimes large areas comprising many buildings may not justify listing but receive the looser protection of designation as a conservation area.[36] The specific criteria include: Age and rarity: The older a building is, the more likely it is to be listed. All buildings erected before 1700 that "contain a significant proportion of their original fabric" will be listed. Most buildings built between 1700 and 1840 are listed. After 1840 more selection is exercised and "particularly careful selection" is applied after 1945. Buildings less than 30 years old are rarely listed unless they are of outstanding quality and under threat. Aesthetic merits: i.e. the appearance of a building. However, buildings that have little visual appeal may be listed on grounds of representing particular aspects of social or economic history. Selectivity: where a large number of buildings of a similar type survive, the policy is only to list the most representative or significant examples. National interest: significant or distinctive regional buildings; e.g. those that represent a nationally important but localised industry. The state of repair of a building is not deemed to be a relevant consideration for listing.[36] Additionally: Any buildings or structures constructed before 1 July 1948 that fall within the curtilage of a listed building are treated as part of the listed building.[37] The effect of a proposed development on the setting of a listed building is a material consideration in determining a planning application. Setting is defined as "the surroundings in which a heritage is experienced".[10] Although the decision to list a building may be made on the basis of the architectural or historic interest of one small part of the building, the listing protection nevertheless applies to the whole building. Listing applies not just to the exterior fabric of the building itself, but also to the interior, fixtures, fittings, and objects within the curtilage of the building even if they are not fixed.[38] De-listing is possible but rare in practice. One example is the 30 November 2001 de-listing of North Corporation Primary School, Liverpool. Emergency measure In an emergency, the local planning authority can serve a temporary listed "building preservation notice", if a building is in danger of demolition or alteration in such a way that might affect its historic character.[38] This remains in force for 6 months until the Secretary of State decides whether or not to formally list the building. Certificates of immunity Until the passing of the Enterprise and Regulatory Reform Act 2013 an application for a Certificate of Immunity from Listing (CoI) could only be made if planning permission was being sought or had been obtained in England. However, the changes brought about by the Act means that now anyone can ask the Secretary of State to issue a Certificate of Immunity in respect of a particular building at any time. Alteration In England and Wales, the management of listed buildings is the responsibility of local planning authorities and the Department for Communities and Local Government (i.e., not DCMS, which originally listed the building). There is a general principle that listed buildings are put to 'appropriate and viable use' and recognition that this may involve the re-use and modification of the building.[10] However, listed buildings cannot be modified without first obtaining Listed Building Consent through the relevant local planning authority.[39] In Wales, applications are made using a form obtained from the relevant local authority.[40] There is no provision for consent to be granted in outline. When a local authority is disposed to grant listed building consent, it must first notify the Welsh Parliament (i.e. Cadw) of the application. If the planning authority decides to refuse consent, it may do so without any reference to Cadw. In Scotland, applications are made on a form obtained from Historic Environment Scotland. After consulting the local planning authority, the owner, where possible, and an independent third party, Historic Environment Scotland makes a recommendation on behalf of the Scottish Ministers.[41] Carrying out unauthorised works to a listed building is a criminal offence and owners can be prosecuted. A planning authority can also insist that all work undertaken without consent be reversed at the owner's expense.Examples of Grade I listed buildings Buckingham Palace, the official London residence of the British monarch, listed Grade I. Royal Festival Hall, London, was the first postwar building to gain Grade I listed status. The Grade I listed King's College London Chapel on the Strand Campus was redesigned in 1864 by Sir George Gilbert Scott. See also Category:Grade I listed buildings for more examples of such buildings across England and Wales. Royal Albert Dock, Liverpool Birmingham Town Hall, Birmingham Blackpool Tower, Blackpool Cenotaph, London Clifton Suspension Bridge, Bristol Humber Bridge, East Riding of Yorkshire / North Lincolnshire King's College London Chapel, London Liverpool Cathedral, Liverpool Lloyd's building, London Manchester Liverpool Road railway station, Manchester Montacute House, Somerset Norwich Castle, Norwich Palace of Westminster, London Pontcysyllte Aqueduct, North Wales Portchester Castle, Hampshire Quarr Abbey, Isle of Wight Tower Bridge, London Warwick Castle, Warwick York Minster, York Examples of Grade II* listed buildings The Bank Hall mansion house is a Grade II* listed building, due to the 17th-century clock tower, which features an original oak cantilevered staircase. The Johnny Haynes stand at Craven Cottage is a Grade II* listed building. See also Category:Grade II* listed buildings for examples of such buildings across England and Wales. Battersea Power Station, London Capel Manor House, Horsmonden Cleveland Bridge, Bath Coliseum Theatre, London Liverpool Metropolitan Cathedral, Liverpool Manchester Town Hall Extension, Manchester Middlesbrough Transporter Bridge, Middlesbrough Rise Hall, Rise Shibden Hall, Calderdale St John's Jerusalem, Sutton-at-Hone Trellick Tower, London Examples of Grade II listed buildings See also Category:Grade II listed buildings for examples of such buildings across England and Wales. BT Tower is a Grade II listed communications tower Abbey Road Studios, London Adelphi Hotel, Liverpool Broomhill Pool, Ipswich BT Tower, London Birmingham Back to Backs, Birmingham India House, London Kursaal, Southend-on-sea[42] Surbiton railway station, London Whitechapel Bell Foundry, London Footbridge just south of Wokingham railway station, Wokingham, Berkshire[43][44] Mixed designations In 2002, there were 80 seaside piers in England that were listed, variously at Grades I, II* and II. Cobham Park in Kent is a Listed Landscape (Humphry Repton and older landscape) containing both Grade I structures (Cobham Hall and Darnley Mausoleum) and Grade II structures (ornamental dairy etc.) as well as a scheduled monument (a buried Roman villa). Derwent Valley Mills includes 838 listed buildings, made up of 16 Grade I, 42 Grade II*, and 780 Grade II. A further nine structures are scheduled monuments. Golden Lane Estate in London is an example of a site which includes buildings of different Grades, II and II*. Manor Farm in Ruislip is made up of buildings that are both Grade II* (the Great Barn) and Grade II (the other buildings). West Norwood Cemetery is a Gothic Revival cemetery and crematorium which contains 65 structures with Grade II or II* designations, mainly sepulchral monuments but also boundary structures and mausolea. Additionally it is listed Grade II* on the Register of Parks and Gardens. Locally listed buildings Many councils, for example, Birmingham City Council and Crawley Borough Council,[45] maintain a list of locally listed buildings as separate to the statutory list (and in addition to it). There is no statutory protection of a building or object on the local list but many receive a degree of protection from loss through being in a Conservation Area or through planning policy. Councils hope that owners will recognise the merits of their properties and keep them unaltered if at all possible. These grades are used by Birmingham: Grade A: This is of statutory list quality. To be the subject of notification to Historic England or the serving of a Building Preservation Notice if imminently threatened. Grade B: Important in the citywide architectural or local street scene context, warranting positive efforts to ensure retention. Grade C: Of significance in the local historical/vernacular context, including industrial archaeological features, and worthy of retention. Crawley Borough Council judges buildings on five criteria: historic interest, architectural interest, group and townscape value, intactness and communal value. As of November 2010, there were 59 buildings on its local list.[45] Northern Ireland For lists of buildings, see Listed buildings in Northern Ireland. The Grade-A-listed Mussenden Temple, County Londonderry[46] Listing began later in Northern Ireland than in the rest of the UK: the first provision for listing was contained in the Planning (Northern Ireland) Order 1972; and the current legislative basis for listing is the Planning (Northern Ireland) Order 1991.[47] Under Article 42 of the Order, the relevant Department of the Northern Ireland Executive is required to compile lists of buildings of "special architectural or historic interest". Since 2016, the responsibility for the listing process rests with the Historic Environment Division of the Department for Communities,[48] which took over the built heritage functions of the Northern Ireland Environment Agency (formerly the Environment and Heritage Service) following the break up of the Department of the Environment.[49] Following the introduction of listing, an initial survey of Northern Ireland's building stock was begun in 1974.[50] By the time of the completion of this First Survey in 1994, the listing process had developed considerably, and it was therefore decided to embark upon a Second Survey, which is still ongoing, to update and cross-check the original information. Information gathered during this survey, relating to both listed and unlisted buildings, is entered into the publicly accessible Northern Ireland Buildings Database.[50] A range of listing criteria, which aim to define architectural and historic interest, are used to determine whether or not to list a building.[47] Listed building consent must be obtained from local authorities before any alteration to a listed structure.[51] There are about 8,500 listed buildings in Northern Ireland,[52] divided into four grades, defined as follows: Grade A: "buildings of greatest importance to Northern Ireland including both outstanding architectural set-pieces and the least altered examples of each representative style, period and type."[47] Grade B+: "high quality buildings that because of exceptional features, interiors or environmental qualities are clearly above the general standard set by grade B1 buildings. Also buildings which might have merited Grade A status but for detracting features such as an incomplete design, lower quality additions or alterations."[47] Grade B1: "good examples of a particular period or style. A degree of alteration or imperfection of design may be acceptable. Generally B1 is chosen for buildings that qualify for listing by virtue of a relatively wide selection of attributes. Usually these will include interior features or where one or more features are of exceptional quality and/or interest."[47] Grade B2: "special buildings which meet the test of the legislation. A degree of alteration or imperfection of design may be acceptable. B2 is chosen for buildings that qualify for listing by virtue of only a few attributes. An example would be a building sited within a conservation area where the quality of its architectural appearance or interior raises it appreciably above the general standard of buildings within the conservation area."[47] Examples of Grade A listed buildings See also: Category:Grade A listed buildings Gosford Castle, County Armagh[53] Grand Opera House, Belfast[54] Belfast Castle[55] Examples of Grade B+ listed buildings See also: Category:Grade B+ listed buildings Necarne, County Fermanagh[56] Scrabo Tower, Belfast[57] Examples of Grade B1 listed buildings See also: Category:Grade B1 listed buildings Campbell College, Belfast[58] Old Bushmills Distillery, County Antrim[59] Bank Buildings, Belfast[60]Scotland For lists of buildings, see Listed buildings in Scotland. The National Gallery of Scotland, Edinburgh, designed by William Henry Playfair, is a Category A listed building.[61] In Scotland, listing was begun by a provision in the Town and Country Planning (Scotland) Act 1947, and the current legislative basis for listing is the Town and Country Planning (Scotland) Act 1997.[62] As with other matters regarding planning, conservation is a power devolved to the Scottish Parliament and the Scottish Government. The authority for listing rests with Historic Environment Scotland (formerly Historic Scotland), an executive agency of the Scottish Government, which inherited this role from the Scottish Development Department in 1991. Listed building consent must be obtained from local authorities before any alteration to a listed structure.[62] The scheme for classifying buildings is: Category A: "Buildings of special architectural or historic interest which are outstanding examples of a particular period, style or building type."[63] Category B: "Buildings of special architectural or historic interest which are major examples of a particular period, style or building type."[63] Category C: "Buildings of special architectural or historic interest which are representative examples of a period, style or building type."[63] There are about 47,400 listed buildings in Scotland. Of these, around 8 percent (some 3,800) are Category A, and 50 percent are Category B, with the rest listed at Category C.[64] Examples of Category A listed buildings See also: Category:Category A listed buildings in Scotland Dunrobin Castle is Category A listed Craigellachie Bridge, Moray[65] Glasgow City Chambers, Glasgow[66] Glasgow Cathedral, Glasgow[67] Palace of Holyroodhouse, Edinburgh[68] The Kirna, Walkerburn Ravelston Garden, Edinburgh[69] St Peter's Seminary, Cardross[70] Examples of Category B listed buildings See also: Category:Category B listed buildings in Scotland The 18th century Garrison House in Millport, Cumbrae is Category B listed Harbourmaster's House, Dysart, Fife[71] Sabhal Mòr Ostaig, Isle of Skye[72] Examples of Category C listed buildings See also: Category:Category C listed buildings in Scotland St John's Cathedral, Oban, Argyll[73] The Belmont Picturehouse, Aberdeen[74] Craigend Castle, East Dunbartonshire[75] The George Cinema, Portobello, Edinburgh[76] Records Although the 2008 draft legislation was abandoned, English Heritage published a single list of all designated heritage assets within England in 2011.[77] The National Heritage List for England is an online searchable database which includes 400,000 (most but not all) of England's listed buildings, scheduled monuments, registered parks and gardens, protected historic wrecks and registered battlefields in one place. The legislative frameworks for each type of historic asset remains unchanged (2011).[78] In Scotland, the national dataset of listed buildings and other heritage assets can be searched online via Historic Environment Scotland,[79] or through the map database Pastmap.[80] To find a listed building in Wales, it is necessary to contact the appropriate local authority or Cadw. Also British Listed Buildings (website)[81] has sections on England, Wales and Scotland. It can be searched either by browsing for listed buildings by country, county and parish/locality, or by keyword search or via the online map. Not all buildings have photographs, as it is run on a volunteer basis. The Northern Ireland Buildings Database contains details of all listed buildings in Northern Ireland.[82] A photographic library of English listed buildings was started in 1999 as a snapshot of buildings listed at the turn of the millennium. This is not an up-to-date record of all listed buildings in England – the listing status and descriptions are only correct as at February 2001.[83] The photographs were taken between 1999 and 2008. It is maintained by the Historic England archive at the Images of England project website. The National Heritage List for England contains the up-to-date list of listed buildings.[78] Listed buildings in danger of being lost through damage or decay in England started to be recorded by survey in 1991.[84] This was extended in 1998 with the publication of Historic England's Buildings at Risk Register which surveyed Grade I and Grade II* buildings. 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Text is available under the Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike License; additional terms may apply. By using this site, you agree to the Terms of Use and Privacy Policy. Wikipedia® is a registered trademark of the Wikimedia Foundation, Inc., a non-profit organization. A bit stupid, isn't it?

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    Tres D
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    You must make right of center comments because liberals can spew paragraphs of their hatred!

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    #21

    I'm appalled with poor, rude phone mannerisms people have today. I am referring to businesses, especially. Yes, I understand people text and email more often today. However, phone calls are still relevant and necessary today, and a bit of polite etiquette goes a long way to maintain a good rapport with clients and customers. This is what I've witness and put up with, AT BUSINESSES: Eating on the phone loudly and speaking with their mouth full. Hangs up with no proper farewell, no replies to "thank you" or just a "mhmm". Answers with "What do you want?" Swearing. Receptionists hanging up on people before knowing who is on the other line, or hanging up just because the caller has a wrong contact name without offering further assistance or information. The list is long. Even if the call is not wanted, or unexpected, they just don't know how they're rude attitude may be an impact on their business and the companies the business deals with.

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    Troux
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That sounds like a toxic company/industry you're in. Sorry to hear that! I have the opposite problem where every call starts with 5 minutes talking about the weather and ends with 2 minutes of us trying to invent new ways to bid farewell.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    LOL Sounds like Canadians. We're dealing with American businesses, trying to get through to specific people. Huge contrast in comparison, in general, but even some Canadian businesses can be just as rude, usually in the west. We're in the business of helping companies solve efficiency and service problems, and the person we need to speak to could be expecting us. But the first people that answer the phone tend to think it's we're telemarketers or just too unimportant to bother with. I get hung up on with just "This is Leigh..." *click*, I'll think it's an accidental disconnect, call back and they'll immediately hang up again. I could be a big client, a representative of their best customer. If I were their boss I would seriously have them take an etiquette course or have them fired if I caught someone being rude like that.

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    Vanta Black
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Yellow? You'll have to speak up, I'm wearing a towel."

    #22

    The firsts few months with a newborn baby are hard.

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    Helderder
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You'll get trough this. You will. Just inhale and exhale.

    Caro Caro
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All the best Stefanie aaand congratulations !

    Robin Roper
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If necessary, and you really need a break, if you know there is nothing wrong with the baby but her or him in a safe place such as a crib and walk way. Go outside and sit in the shade or sun, whichever you need that day and relax, or cry, or laugh, whatever you need that minute. The baby will be fine; no lasting harm will come if he or she cries and you don't respond immediately. Also, if anyone asks what you need, the proper response is: "Dinner one day next week would be great, but we've had a lot of ______ lately so it would be great to have some _____. We try to eat at ___o'clock." or "I'd love it if you would come one afternoon around 1:00 and stay until 3:30, so I can have a nap, or take a bath, or sit by myself. What day can I put you down for?" Or, "It would be great if you could help me with laundry. I've overwhelmed and so tired." Seriously, people who offer to help need to be told how they can help. Don't be shy and tell people what you need and how they can help.

    Crystal Anderson
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes it is. I had a REAL hard time with my son and he was a great baby but as Helderder said just breathe and don't be so hard on yourself. You're doing great! And the best piece of advice that helped me was not to compare to other moms and do things that work for you and your family unit.

    #23

    I have a crush on a girl, and I'm also a girl. I´ve never felt this way for another female before

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    Tiny Dynamine
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't worry about a thing! you will have seen by now that everyone is different with how they feel and who they are attracted to. Let me give you an example. My ex-gf who is now 48 has just started a relationship with a woman for the first time. She's never been interested before but has fallen for her. she and I still get on very well and I've supported her to take time to understand being in a different kind of relationship. It's been a few weeks now and she seems totally cool with it. For me, I prefer women but can still see a guy and think he's good-looking. I just have no desire to have a boyfriend though, and that's how I am. Have a think about how you feel about her, what you would like to happen. If you could see yourself being intimate and in a relationship, then that's cool. You're just discovering something new about yourself and it takes time to get your head around.

    Anna McHugh
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely fine! Next time you may have a crush on a guy! Next time it may be a different girl! Each person is unique, as are you - enjoy every experience and treasure the fact that you're attracted to other humans :)

    Luka Verheijen
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Girl love is beautiful, as every (real) love is. Be proud

    DuchessDegu
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's perfectly normal, don't let anyone tell you otherwise! She might feel the same, or not, that's absolutely normal as well. Hopefully you'll find the perfect, wonderful person very soon!

    Yoga Kitty
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even if you never tell her or if she does not feel the same for you - love is always wonderful. Don't overthink the whole situation, just enjoy the love!

    Crowley The Snake
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't worry. Feelings will make sense after time.

    #24

    Everyone involved with the production and distribution of Baby Shark should be punched in the face really hard.

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    Moosy Girl
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Punch yourself, you just added to the distribution! Do do do dodoDANGIT.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anti-Plague Deploying. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dQw4w9WgXcQ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fJ9rUzIMcZQ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b4bEuDd9djY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=couKu2v_Dm0 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gh4zvQfDhi0 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RPjL909DiVI

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    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    idk but it involves destroying the headquarters of whatever hellspawn created it

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    #25

    I don’t know if I can still believe in God. I grew up in a Cristian home but at this point of my life I don’t know if I can still believe

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    Helen Haley
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Read the literature. And by that, i mean, read the bible. Multiple versions of the bible. If you come out the other side still believing, it'll probably be for life. If you don't, at least you'll have solid knowledge and be able to articulate why you don't.

    v
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The bible is touted at the truth. No one should have to read multiple versions of the thing so they can find their Goldilocks combination of versions. There shouldn't even be different versions. Truth doesn't work that way. Was that articulate enough for you?

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    Justy
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hey...I get it. I also grew up in a christian home, and several times I've questioned whether I still believe in God and I have had some doubts about if He's real and if I should keep believing in Him. It's your choice, if you feel something isn't right, you don't have to believe in it.

    Luka Verheijen
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At least you do think about it. Better that than blindly follow a god who might just be nade up by crazy people

    Reynard
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I went through the same thing about 15 years ago. I was brought up in a very religious family. Problem is, everyone in my family never actually read the bible, they got what was fd to them in church. I picked it up and read it intently from cover to cover. Seeing the contradictions, the cruelties, the things that are utterly impossible, and things that were just outright absurd made me question and leave religion behind. I then started to question almost all of my beliefs (I was brought up a conservative). Suffice it to say, that I'm no longer a conservative conspiracy theorist.

    Calyfan Yelood
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    it is a big question, so it's good you're thinking about it and not just going with what everyone tells you. Since it's a big issue, I suggest you research from both perspectives, see both sides' arguments and make a decision what to believe. If you want to chat to a Christian about why they believe what they do, I'm always here :-)

    Stephanie IV
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Look into what THE BIBLE PROJECT is putting out on YouTube.

    Tiny Dynamine
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Read The Age of Reason and you will know what you should think then. It's the best book ever written.

    Tami
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe you should clarify: "The Age of Reason" a novel by philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre, or "The Age of Reason" a philosopical work by Thomas Paine. I'm thinking you mean the Paine book.

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    Essex Eagle
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thats a hard one and i can understand it, i think that many people feel the same due to the amount of grief going on in the world, trouble is the huge amount of good that is also around is not news worthy so rarely gets reported. Its hard for people to understand why God would subject his flock to this hurt and misery.

    v
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The thing most religious people, talking about the big three of judaism, christianity and muslim here, won't acknowledge that the vast majority of the good that does happen, unreported/unrecorded or not, in the world is performed by people of no religious affiliation, implied or inferred. The good is done, from one to another, simply because one doesn't wish to be an asshole to another. No god needed. It's a simple reaction to the human condition. I'm having a bad day, for ABSOLUTELY F*****G SURE!, but this person is having a worse day than I am. Maybe I can make their day slightly better? Maybe I can give something of or from myself that will make their day slightly better. No god, whichever version or face you wish to put on it, need be involved for simple human compassion. The most evil thing about religion is that it actually removes simple human compassion and replaces it with "thread the eye of the needle" admittance to heaven. A heaven that is a construct of mankind.

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    Stormblessed&Stressed
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everyone has trials of their faith sometimes. It's okay to have doubts! God believes in you and he loves you, as long as you remember that everything will turn out ok.

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    #26

    I'm disappointed in Biden. Most anyone would have been a better follow-up to that sh*t show from the last four years, but I had hope for him and for more. It feels like the episode of The Office where Michael makes them work late but promises them a surprise at the end of the day, and then.....nothing. It's that kind of disappointing.

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    Terilee Bruyere
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think of it this way: If you take an already pretty house and give Martha Stewart free rein that house will be amazing in no time. If you put her in a dilapidated shack even SHE couldn't make it great in the length of time that Biden has been given. The entire world is rather skewed at the time and while he definitely isn't the best the US has had, he isn't the worst.

    Troux
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The president's administration is more important than the president alone. He's kind of a damp rag but there are much better people in the important positions under him. Take the status quo as a breath of fresh air until we get another winner.

    Mari
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Step by step the USA is regaining the respect of the world. It can not be fixed in a couple of months. Trump destroyed all the relations with other nations, it takes time and a lot of work to fix all this.

    SBW71
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What TV were you watching? LMAO He destroyed nothing Biden did and that's why no other countries want nothing to do with Biden. They know he's joke just like Obama was. Try paying attention.

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    Helen Haley
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He could just sit in a chair all day doing nothing and it is still a step up. I do wish we would've had a more inspiring choice on the dem side, but I'll take anything over the last administration.

    Bacony Cakes
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At least we didn't get Bozo-Hitler.

    v
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What we need is a President and a Congress that will actually lead the people of the country to a better future. All we've got now is a political machine that dictates its members to toe a particular line and those members only care about getting the likes of their respective followers so that they can show that "they're doing a good job". If anyone, anywhere along the political spectrum, were to speak honestly they'd acknowledge that society works best in the middle. Any society that is too far one way or the other will, ultimately, fail. It's just a matter of time. Look at every time this has happened. The society that rises in the ashes is in the middle. Then one of the groups gets bored and ends up f*****g it all up again. We're human, we're stupid and we're bound to repeat the errors of our predecessors.

    Reynard
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, it doesn't help that Senate Republicans are blocking nearly everything. The rules are outdated and absurd. Even with the Dems having a majority, the Republicans can block whatever they want unless the Dems have a 60-40 majority. In short, it's not Biden's fault it's Senate Republicans' fault.

    Tiny Dynamine
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's a hell of a big job and it takes a long time to undo the work of a sociopath. Also, you'll never change the minds of those who shut out the facts and they make up half of your country. There's only so much that can be done and one person can't do it in the flick of a switch.

    Stormblessed&Stressed
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Our government is already so messed up anyway there's not much anybody can do.

    Luka Verheijen
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There were so many forgettable presidents. Few were so awful as Donald mcdonald

    SBW71
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why don't you explain how awful he was? Oh wait because he told the truth and lefties can't handle it?

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    #27

    So this happens this summer. It was a hot day out and I was hanging out with a friend for a sleepover and we decided to go to one of the local dollar trees. While we where walking there a man (over the age of 30 if I remember correctly) came up behind us and started cat calling us and asking us if we had weed or wanted any. My friend and I decided to ignore him and walk away he kept following us and at one point we split from him after a while he realized that and came back. That made us decide $/?& it let’s call the police. He got really close to us luckily we crossed the street fast but he touched my friend and continued to follow us. He moved away from us and we thought he left. We ducked into dollar tree to wait for the police. As we where talking to nice officer my friend and I noticed the man from before walking closer to us WHILE we are talking to the police. The police goes to talk to him, he gets arrested. This man is a homeless fugitive from Texas. This is terrifying to me since my friend and I aren’t even 15 yet.

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    Tiny Dynamine
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's horrible but you did really well with how you acted.

    Caro Caro
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maaaaan that must have creeped you out. Good you called the cops !

    Yoga Kitty
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This must have been a traumatic experience but you reacted absolutely right - well done, you two!

    jellybeb
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    really sorry this happened to you, this world is messed up :(

    Robin Roper
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely get to a safe place and call the police or ask the staff to call for you.

    #28

    Please don't laugh, but I recently had a nightmare about..... a sinister penguin. The best way to describe it. It bit my face off. Is that normal? (I'm not joking.)

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    Helen Haley
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't pay attention to the imagery in dreams, pay attention to the underlying emotional content in the dream.

    Pumpkin Spice
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Compared to my fever dreams, I think you're fine. Don't worry

    jellybeb
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i am sorry but the thought of a sinister penguin makes me want to laugh. and it also scares me a little bit too

    Stormblessed&Stressed
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    haha!!! I'm one of those people who has weird dreams as well, don't worry about it. once I had a dream that I went rock climbing in a schoolbus. And another time someone got arrested but instead of handcuffs they just go mittens put on them.

    Yup
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a lot of nightmares - since childhood - and many are so realistic that when I wake up I am confused as to what is real for a little while. The very bad dreams can set me off kilter for the entire day. It’s not entirely normal to have these but not extraordinarily abnormal either. Plus beaks can be very frightening. Let alone bird tongues!

    Luka Verheijen
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, the penguin was a scary dude sometimes.

    Chrissa Gordon
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a long history of crazy vivid dreams, finally started to look into meaning behind them and it helps. I often dream of torturously exposing public restrooms. As a child I had 3 separate dreams that family members were abusing me. Dreams can also just be your brain doing its chemical thing and it doesn't mean anything about you or have a reflection on you as a person.

    Caro Caro
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not laughing. What's been going on in your life lately ...think about it, maybe there's a connection between the negative things going on and your nightmare?

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    #29

    Manners. Common or garden courtesy. Please and thank you. And stop using "excuse me" as a demand for attention. If you are needing someone's attention, try good morning/afternoon, or I wonder if you can help me? If you make a mistake or realise the item you were looking for is right under your nose, make it into a joke, laugh, whatever! If you see someone struggling with a high shelf, offer to help. If you are short like me, I am always grateful for the taller people in this world. Make someone's day - say thank you.

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    Luka Verheijen
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As someone with autism, a lot of manners seem unnecessary to me, bjt I'm often shocked how rude people are these days. At least treat others with respect

    R Carson
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Courtesy never goes out of style.

    A
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Excuse me" is taught as a polite way of asking for help.

    Yup
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Except some people use it as a way to interrupt what you are saying to deliver their own opinion in a bombastic way.

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    Robin Roper
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Rather than "excuse me" what do you suggest? I'm a super polite person and use this all the time. How does one get the attention of a waitstaff or store attendant? Does one say "pardon me."?

    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I should have clarified this, perhaps. The words "excuse me" are perfectly fine. It's the tone in which they are said, with special exclusions for the entitled people who seem to think the world revolves around them.

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    #30

    A big thank you to all the lunatics in the area I live in meaning that I had to get up at 5am to fill my car and to the other head cases that meant that a 5 min journey home from an appointment took an hour. STOP BLOCKING UP ROUNDABOUTS

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    Terilee Bruyere
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bad and/or inconsiderate drivers can be trying at the best of times, worse so early in the morning or when struggling to get home after a long day. I feel for you.

    Caro Caro
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, I feel you James. bloody twats.

    Pink Floydian Panda
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How do they block roundabouts. We do not have them here in the US of course, but I thought they were designed to prevent traffic blockages?

    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The queues are so long that they spill into the roundabouts and people don’t leave gaps so some of the roads are blocked by petrol station traffic. Some cars can’t join the roundabout and some can’t get off at the exit they need.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Talking about the U.S. here...driving is arguably our most abundant and potentially dangerous daily interaction and the vast majority of the drivers drive as if they're trying to get their first asshole badge or make it to black belt asshole driver status. My belief is that, as anonymous as this interaction is it sets the stage for every participants day, twice a day at least...sometimes more. Imagine if people weren't already on a knife's edge before they actually interacted with another person.

    An Co
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you have a 5 minute drive home than use a bicycle and take 15 minutes.

    Robyn Shonfeld
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not everybody is able to use a bicycle. For example my disability means that I'm not able to ride a bike, or wall very far, so even small journeys need to be made by car.

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    #31

    I really just want to come out as pan, but I can’t even say it in the mirror without getting nervous. Maybe it’s just my social anxiety but I’m talking with my REFLECTION it shouldn’t be this hard IMO.

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    Yoga Kitty
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is no need to make a big deal of "coming out" if it makes you nervous; you do not have to fit into a certain box, you do not have to put a label on yourself; you do not owe anybody any kind of explanation - just be yourself! Everybody who needs to know something about you will figure it out in their own time anyway, tell what you need to who you need to hear it when the time is ready, you will do just fine! Good luck, all the best! <3

    Cats and anime love ️
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I support I myself am pan or at least believe that is what I am currently

    TheBlackPanda (JustABlackBear)
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Straight people don't have to come out. You don't have to come out either. Normalise not coming out if you don't really want to. Also, I wouldn't advice you to come out if it'll put you in danger. I lived in a hellish situation for years because I came out to the wrong people and if I could go back in time I would've just kept my mouth shut and not go through all the traumatic stuff I went through that left physical and mental scars on me

    DuchessDegu
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's fine, it's not easy but you can do it!

    Caro Caro
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Take your time Happi doggi. You do what is best for you, don't feel pressured.

    Jeannie Bristow
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are YOU. That is enough. You love whomever you love, and you are still YOU and that is still enough.

    Helderder
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Love is love. You are you, and that's enough.

    #32

    YouTube influencers and their followers.

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    Vanta Black
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Any "influencer" and their mindless drones.

    Luka Verheijen
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hate most vloggers, I hate most influencers, they're often just narcists who have nothing to say. When did media become so selfish

    v
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Quit watching YouTube.

    #33

    wish unvaxxed covid patients would stay home to die. you made your choice. thank you. next.

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    Vicki Corlett
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish people would stop blaming everyone who isn’t vaccinated for the Covid issues. I’m on steroids for an autoimmune disorder and probably will be for another 6 months or more. Because the steroid I’m on interferes with vaccines I can’t get any vaccines. None. Including Covid. My husband and son are both vaccinated, which I appreciate, but stop blaming everyone who isn’t vaccinated for this issue! Some of us can’t be vaccinated and I’m getting sick of being told what a bad, stupid idiot of a person I am for not getting vaccinated. And because of mandates, I can’t go anywhere with my husband. Just because I happen to be unable to be vaccinated. Go throw your slams at something else for a change, please. I come to Bored Panda to get away from this stuff and read stuff I can enjoy for a change.

    Reynard
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People aren't blaming people who can't be vaccinated. People are blaming people who can be vaccinated, but instead believe and spread absurd conspiracy theories. As a person with an autoimmune condition and cannot get vaccinated, you should be more angry at these people than most. They put your life at risk far more than vaccinated people. That's why herd immunity is so important. Anti-vaxxers literally don't care about you.

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    Helderder
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ok, but what about the people that allready went trough covid before vaccins were ready. Why should they be vaccinated if they have antibodies in there plasma? I've been vaccinated, but I can understand why people that are healty and went trough covid are opposed to be vaccinated

    BetweenTheCracks
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the ICUs would FINALLY take a hard line and prioritize non-morons over screeching horse paste eaters who suddenly cain't breathe good no' mo', maybe some actual headway in this direction would happen. QUIT ENABLING THE FUCKTARDS AMONG US!!

    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Trust me we would if we could but we are not allowed to do so. Under our state's crisis standards of care there are even scenarios where we might have to take someone who was vaccinated or who is hospitalized for something entirely different (like a car wreck) off of a ventilator and give it to an unvaxxed if they are deemed to have better survivability. Nauseating.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish hospitals, doctors offices, urgent care clinics or any other type of health service of the sort would implement a triage of patients with those who can prove vaccination being bumped to the top of the list and those who can't prove vaccination being made to wait in the wings. We're too far into this thing for Covid patients to be taking up so many valuable resources unnecessarily.

    Leeds Lass
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Should the vaxxed covid patients stay home and die too?

    Reynard
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No because they at least took reasonable steps to take care of themselves. 99% of the people in ICU wards are not vaccinated. These people are rejecting a safe and effective treatment and are prolonging the pandemic. They are also filling up ICU beds that should be occupied by people who aren't there because they belive in absurd conspiracy theories.

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    Terilee Bruyere
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Unvaxxed covid patients who were legitimately able to get the vaccine'. Too many unvaccinated children are dying from this. Some of them are simply too young to, at the moment, get the shot.

    Luka Verheijen
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The dumbest people scream tge loudest. I wish our media didn't focus on the loud idiots and instead listen to people actually worth that title. So people like antivaccers (and kanye) should jyst dade into obscurity like before

    SBW71
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So far it's the vaccinated that are "dying". Go figure.

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    #34

    I used to be very suicidal. Not safe on my own suicidal. I’m not anymore and everyone thinks I’m ok now. However some days I quietly sit and wish I could kill myself. Life is so hard and painful. I have daily flashbacks of things that happened in my childhood. I take my pills, see my therapist, have a job, a house, and loving partner and a beautiful child. I live only for that child, so they will not have the trauma of losing a parent.

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    Helderder
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel you. You've asked for help, taking your pills. Doesn't mean stuff will go away. Did you get trauma therapy like EMDR? Really helped me with the flashbacks

    Helderder
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sorry, maybe you just wanted to share your story without me or someone else trying to solve or help. This is my default..

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    Öz Deniz Boro
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes a behavioristic aproach of a therapist is not enough to cure the root problems.I lost my sister when I was 18 years old. It effected my life eversince. (40 years now). Just check out on your doctor. Maybe it is not the right antidepressant or the right doctor. Tell you what, life is still good. Think about that child's growing up.

    Anna McHugh
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I personally disagree with having kids, but I think you're doing a good thing, to recognize the responsibility you've taken on and to tough it out for your child. I hope you begin to rise back up to the surface; I'm also a depression sufferer and I know that it's like being down a well and you're just trying to bubble back up to the surface.

    Helderder
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same here. Theres like a maximum time now people get treated. I think I've been in therapy for about 5 years, first part on and of, then 3 years in a row started with EMDR and after that group therapy to recognize and change my patterns. A lot of work and really rewarding. Currently for the first time on antidepressants. I feel so much better, I went back to my default mode when coping with a disease that turned my life upside down. For the first time in my life I'm truly accepting s**t as it is stopped trying to controle the situation etc etc. I've started enjoying my life even though I'm not working at this moment etc.

    #35

    My ti**ies (im agender)

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    Tami
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm straight female and don't care for mine either! I hate having to wear a sports bra when exercising, but they just bounce around too much otherwise.

    Crowley The Snake
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was waiting for this Post. This is the only reason I clicked on this Thread. I knew I would recive this quality Trans/Queer Humor.

    DuchessDegu
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I really hate mine as well. Useless. Can't call those stupid meat bag titties anyway, they're cow udders. Way to big, get in the way of everything. Having to buy shirts 2 sizes larger or I'd pop the buttons and give everyone a free show. Constant neck pain. Having to remortgage the house to buy good quality, supportive bras. underboob sweat, oh my effing god, the underboob sweat and heat rashes on my cleavage even in the middle of winter.

    Helderder
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well I've allways hated having small tities. Now at 35 I'm happy that I've never had surgery.

    Skyler Sage Tang
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Samee - your local genderqueer succulent

    Pumpkin Spice
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Damn titties. (I'm a demiboy and I hate my C cups)

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    #36

    There's this kid that I know and he can be so annoying sometimes. He's convinced I'm dating literally every person I talk to and he'll yank on my backpack sometimes as a joke. Sometimes his teasing can be funny, but it can also get a bit out of hand. I wish I knew why he keeps targeting me and wish he would take it back a bit.

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    Mary Rose Kent
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, I’m gathering from what you posted that you’re both in high school or maybe middle school, and if that’s the case, this is probably his version of flirting because boys lag big time in social graces and their ability to use their words to convey their feelings. If you’re both out of high school, then he’s just never learned any social graces or is intent on annoying you, in which case I would advise to hanging out with others as much as you can so as to be less of a target.

    Tami
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He has feelings for you that he doesn't know how to process. Like a little puppy, he probably wants to play with you, but doesn't know how to approach you in a mature human fashion. If you think this guy is pretty much ok, maybe you could start by letting him know when his behavior is unacceptable in a way that doesn't embarrass him. Like looking at him and saying gently, "Ohhh, don't do that."

    Rosemary Booth
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tell him to knock it the F off! Even if he does like you and he just doesn't know how to express himself, doesn't mean that you have to continuously put up with his behavior.

    Tiny Dynamine
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You could arrange a meeting between you, him and one or two adults that you trust to have a calm conversation with the objective of asking him to stop. If you did the opposite and lashed out at him, it will probably make him laugh because he wants you to react, but doing things calmly is more likely to make him think differently.

    Michael Payne
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He likes you. But does not know how to let you know. He is insecure.dosent think you will like him back.

    #37

    That we are absolutely screwed and hey! Look! More things that I will have to deal with because everyone before me screwed up! We had our chance to get rid of Covid and we blew it! Now we’re stuck in this hell hole and I’ll have to fix it all! Oh also because I am female I don’t get taken seriously! Well I’m going to have an AMAZING LIFE!

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    Moosy Girl
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Too bad because I was really hoping you were gonna fix it all for all of us. But fine, we’ll help, or try to. ;)

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "because everyone before me screwed up!' Assuming, by the language of your post, that you're one of the younger generations. I can also only assume that, by virtue of being one of the younger generations, that you're also of one of the generations that won't go to work for less than X$ per hour as well as the "there's no need to work 40+ hours per week" group. While you're judging and condemning the generations before for your existence will you also judge and condemn yourself and your generation for what you lay at the doorstep of the children which your generation bears and sets up for failure? I, with everything within me, doubt that you will have the integrity to accept this.

    Helderder
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We're never getting rid of covid. It will stick like the influenza virus we've dealt with the last 120 years. We need to get immune.

    Luka Verheijen
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, that's the spirit. And yes, we must listen more to the smarter people, cuz these idiots are still destroying everything

    #38

    reminder that the author requested this to be a safe place! hope everyone is having a good day, happy reading/scrolling! I put random questions in the comments if you want to stay for a bit

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    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    how was everyone's day? (vent if you need to lovelies)

    Artemis
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You know if I’m being honest, it’s probably going to be bad. Things have been really difficult for me lately due to a serious illness and I am having to make decisions I really don't want to make. I hate that I am causing others that I love to suffer. The thought that I am despite what they say is killing me. I just wish I could do something that would bring them joy. I also have felt so isolated and alone form my peers lately. I always kinda have but not on this level. I can be in the room with someone and feel like I’m universes away. I think its because I’m scared of making connections because I don’t want to disappoint them with my illness. Anyway, sorry about all of that, I know it’s not what you probably wanted to hear, but thanks for providing an outlet. Please have an amazing day. :)

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    WritingSatyr
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I miss my friends. I’ve moved away from them and it’s been a few weeks and I’d really like them to be here with me.

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    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    what are your pronouns? (I won't judge!)

    Call Me Mars
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mine are they/them, but I want to try he/they. But for now, they/them.

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    #39

    I'm a lesbian transwoman with autism, health issues, mood issues, and serious bad luck.

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    Mallory m. Brewer
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Here is some good luck: 🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀

    Stormblessed&Stressed
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    God loves you, try to love yourself. Don't worry about the bad luck part.

    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thanks, I tried to type more details but couldn't type more for some reason

    #40

    I'm sick of kids in my school being homophobic because it's "cool" to hate gays. The other day I was sitting outside the GSA room just chillin because I didn't feel like going in but i wanted to wait for my friends who were inside and a group of straight guys walked by and started very loudly talking about how gross it was to be gay and debating over whether it was fair that there was a group for gays but not one for just straights. I got so mad but they looked like seniors or juniors (grades 12 and 11) and I am just a freshman (grade 9) so i didn't want to say anything and risk getting in trouble with them, I told the teacher who runs the GSA about it and she said she'd try to deal with it but she seems to be the only adult at the school who cares And as i've gotten more open with my classmates about my sexuality/gender and stuff i have been finding more people who I thought were allies but aren't. I've never been bullied very bad before this but I'm afraid that's whats going to start happening if I continue to not do anything, but idk what to do.

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    Alexa Strand
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That must be so hard to go through! I’m a very forward and open person and a lot of times I feel it makes people not like me and also make fun of me. It hurts a lot but I decided it doesn’t matter if some people won’t understand how I am or who I am. I just want to be myself and I am so much happier even through the judging because at least I am me! And the people who love me I can trust very much and I know they are there for me. It’s so dumb but I guess what I’m saying is I think you’re really strong and you should just be yourself!

    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    sorry that was a kind of a rant that strayed from "homophobic bc trying to be cool" to just "homophobes"

    #41

    Hair! I hate chest hair! I have regular plucking sessions but it just keeps coming back.

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    Dee on bikes
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Laser is relatively cheap and effective....

    Mary Rose Kent
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m with you! Years ago I had a boyfriend who was (and still is 😁) Native American, and he had very little body hair and it was heaven!

    Helderder
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But whyyy. I love chesthair on a guy

    Tami
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not sure how long you've been plucking, but if you keep it up for long enough the hair won't come back. "Long enough" could be many years though.

    Terilee Bruyere
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Chest hair can be lovely but if it bothers you have you thought about either waxing to going to a professional for laser hair removal?

    #42

    All my close family. I also want to get them out of my life. I am 58 years old. I've took care of my manic-depresive sister, her son and my now 89 years old mother eversince I was 33 years old. They treated me like s**t and accused me of being alcoholic. Now, my 27 years old nephew got married and moved into my mum's house (valued at a price which could buy 4 houses) without paying rent. I am getting financial aid from my friends for taking care of my semi-bedded mum (who pees and shits on the ground) in my 1+1 rented house. They accuse me for getting angry and drunk nowadays.

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    Pink Floydian Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You need a lawyer to get that situation sorted out. I do not know where you live, but I cannot imagine the laws would not be on your side not matter how much they huff and puff about your so called alcoholism. Document! Keep copies of records and even use cameras if you legally can to demonstrate what is going on.

    Luka Verheijen
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They say family lasts forever... but that's a shame if your the black sheep (or the opposite) in your family

    Caro Caro
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is terribly wrong. You are mistreated while taking care of others and that sucks. Who owns your mum's house? Sell it?? Anyway, a hug and thank you for taking care of your mum.

    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's the funny part Caro Caro. Mum owns the house. She is not in mental decline and seems to approve what is going on. She just cannot resist the wishes of her grandson.

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    #43

    Seeing that some answers have been hidden, I get very discouraged here, but in a nutshell, I keep seeing facts getting ignored in favour of feelings, and I think it is getting worse, leading to all the other disasters we face.

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    BetweenTheCracks
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THIS, THIS, THIS. Feelings are part of who we are as humans, but so is, oh I don't know, a vestige of intelligence.

    Caro Caro
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think some need lots of attention and keep on pushing their beliefs as facts. I'm not talking about religion. With beliefs I mean a quick google and then a w***y-nilly copy paste. If you call them out they start ranting. I've said this before but being too pc/woke can be very dangerous if that means you don't want to hear the other side of the story. A fact is not an emotion.

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    #44

    My parents keep ignoring me. They talk over me as if I'm not even there. But when they want me to do something they can't stop telling me to do it. I get blamed for things I didn't do, and zero praise (or even acknowledgement) for my achievements. I'm 33 but I can't live independently at the moment - possibly never - so I am stuck. No wonder I have this core belief that they don't love me, or even like me.

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    Caro Caro
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm sorry ejfs. How about a hug ... here it comes.

    Karl Geisel
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh my gosh that's horrible well whatever your achievements are congratulations

    #45

    I really wish I was born male sometimes. I don’t want to have to deal with a period. I don’t want to have children, and even if I do later I’ll adopt. It’s just a lot of s**t I dont want, and I’m scared/nervous about it. Also I’m moving at my moms house in three weeks, and my dad wants to move too. So both of my houses will move at the same time. I’m not looking forward to it, and I like both of my houses right now. And I think my dad wants to get married. I honestly don’t even know if they’re dating , but something he mentioned kind of suggests it I guess. I don’t dislike her, it would just be weird and I just don’t really know how I would feel about that. Also I need to move a fish to my new house and idk how to do that. He’s a nice fish. His name is Roomba

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    Luka Verheijen
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Being a man isn't all that either. While that's easy to say for a trans woman, men have big problems too. The problems of all genders need attention, not just one at tge time

    Shelley Dee
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    🤗🤗🤗🤗That’s a lot to deal with! Sometimes just talking about things like that with a trusted friend can help, even if it doesn’t change things. I love your fish’s name😊

    Scxd Face
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would suggest talking to someone who works in that department at a pet store, since they help out with fish and stuff like that they may know a way to safely transport the fish without hurting him

    #46

    I don’t know if this has been said, but the vilification of conservatives. We’re not all crazy, maniacal, homophobic, racist assholes. Some of us aren’t even white. Who knew? Most of us don’t really care what other people are doing, and aren’t standing around screaming in front of abortion clinics. One thing a friend told me was, just because I don’t agree with something doesn’t mean I don’t think others shouldn’t have the freedom to do it. Do what you want. Doesn’t affect me any. Just allow me the same courtesy.

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    Reynard
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Then stop supporting candidates who are trying to pass laws to prevent minorities from voting. Stop supporting candidates who push racist and homophobic policies. Stop supporting candidates who lie that the election was stolen.

    R Carson
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We all have gifts to share and things to learn from one another. Humankind-be both.

    albernistuff 4sale
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    small c conservative....nothing wrong with that. I am more left-centrist but have many conservative friends. Just a matter of accepting that friends don't always have to agree 100%

    Tiny Dynamine
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So if you're none of those things, why are you conservative? Everyone has reasons why they vote the way they do.

    Yup
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am a fiscal conservative, social liberal who genuinely believes that capitalism is the best means of raising sufficient funds to look after everyone. I don’t think everyone will be equal because humans are innately competitive but I do think it is an excellent aim. I don’t think people who disagree with me are sociopaths or stupid - they have the right to disagree. It hurts me - truly - when you write that conservatives are sociopaths because I know it is untrue, unkind, and seems maliciously designed just to make people agree with you.

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    Stormblessed&Stressed
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THANK YOU!!!! I don't know why so many people like to make fun of conservatives. JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE HAS A DIFFERENT OPINION THAN YOU DOES NOT MAKE THEM AN IDIOT. People nowadays are so self absorbed sometimes!

    #47

    I was sexually molested by my play dates father when he was drunk. My family are only concerned about their family reputation then seeking justice. Subsequently I left him a letter in his post and told him I what he did to me whilst drunk. He moved back to the city where I live and I cry myself to sleep at night reassuring myself that I’m safe and secure in my house and he can’t come back to hurt. I am sending letters to all the community telling them what he did to me so every time they see him they’ll stay far away.

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    Helderder
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm really sorry you went trough this. I hope you have other people around you who can support you and where you feel safe.

    #48

    I dont know if this will ever be seen, but I hate how hard it is for me to work through my trauma. I have some nasty horror stories from childhood, but I cant work through them fast enough. I'm trying to take it slow so I don't get overwhelmed and frustrated, but it's just frustrating me more because of the fact that some of my friends are pushing me to work faster. It's hard. I don't like it. I have panic attacks and breakdowns and meltdowns because of the memories of things I've gone through and so I'm trying to take it slow but it's not good enough for my friends and I hate it. I want to go at my own pace but they keep shoving it on me and I want it to stop. I want it all to stop. If I hadn't failed at sewer slide so many times, I hate to say I might consider trying again, but I can't. I just..can't. I'm trying. I just want someone to be patient with me and to encourage me, not shove my entire past in my face all at once...

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    Helderder
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with AutisticPat. It's your past. You decide the how, when what etc. You're a strong person. You've lived trough your trauma. Take your healing proces one step at a time.

    albernistuff 4sale
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hopefully you are working with a good therapist. That being said, it takes time

    #49

    I'm in love with someone (or at least, I'm fairly sure, it's stronger than I've felt with anyone else I've dated) and have been for several years. They got married a while ago, and I hate their wife. I have no reason to besides being jealous and I feel bad about it, but I can't help it. I know he cares for her a lot, and everyone else enjoys being around her, but I can't do it without feeling sick to my stomach and mad.

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    Helen Haley
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unsolicited advice, extricate yourself from this situation immediately. It will destroy your mental health. There is no good down this road.

    Yoga Kitty
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe stay away from both of them then as it will not do you any good to watch them together. If you really like this man please respect the choice he made.

    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have stayed away from them. Was around him in person for the first time in almost six years when I went to a funeral. Just wanted to get it off my chest, wasn't looking really for people to tell I needed to leave him alone when I know that already

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    A
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nothing good comes from being the other woman/man. True love doesn't blossom from betrayal.

    Luka Verheijen
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All you can do is move on, no matter how hard that is. Otherwise, it might burn you up and destroy someones life, either yours or theirs

    #50

    I hear so many people say “ if I go somewhere else I don’t even need to learn any of their language because everyone in the world already speaks English.” Let me just say that even though English is one of the most spoken language, only about 13% of the world can speak it, and a lot of those people to a small extent. Americans are so confident that they don’t need to learn any language, but most people from other places would try their best to learn English for us! The places that speak English really well are Scandinavian countries, Netherlands, Ireland, UK, India, and Philippines. I think many Americans assume everyone speaks English because when they travel internationally, they don’t leave the tourist area where everyone has to speak English. But in reality, we should be supporting and giving respect to the the languages of people all over.

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    Jill Bussey
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had to laugh at this one. "People in the UK speak English really well." Yes, it's our native tongue and Americans speak English because a large percentage originated from Britain. America does not have its own language.

    Terilee Bruyere
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not only that, the US doesn't have an official language. I get so sick of those jokes or complaints about the "press one for English, press two for (insert random language here)". Too many people whining about how "You're in America, speak English!"

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    Susie Elle
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You win zillions of friendship points if you just try to learn the basics of the language of the country you're visiting. Nobody cares it's not very good, nobody cares if it's broken - you're trying and that is such a delight to see. To show goodwill I don"t think there's a better and more genuine way than show that you're trying to learn someone's native language.

    Daisychain
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is why I won't travel internationally. I really don't want to learn another language for a week or two holiday, and I don't feel right going to another country without speaking some semblance of the language. So, in the US I'll stay.

    Caro Caro
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you try to learn some basic words, yes, no (no is very important for a woman to learn) please, thank you, stuff like that the the people will respect that and do their best to speak english.

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    Luka Verheijen
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Americans still have the reputation of people who think they rule the world, and that idea really has some truth to it. You were the savior a few times, the rest of the world depends on you, but that doesn't mean the rest of the world is americas doormat

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, I put UK because it is one of the places where English speaking people don’t have to worry about learning another language if they travel there.

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    #51

    I really just want people to have the will to understand each other and be in harmony...maybe this world could be a better place,because this place is a mess and problems just spring up more problems...it needs to stop,im really tired,people just hurt each other and it just goes on and on and on,sometimes i wonder why its hard for people to simply just say the truth...i really want this to stop...i dont very much know if i still like people anymore,...they hurt you like its okay and still make you feel bad for it...im scared for the world my children will come into💔

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    Luka Verheijen
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We went up, up, up... Then we screwed everything up...

    #52

    I'm fed up with explaining my fatique to people. My manager asked if it could be measured....

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    Tiny Dynamine
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ask your manager if ignorance can be measured.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good one XD. But tbh I don't think it would make any difference. If they can't see you're sick they will ask stupid questions. My disease is rare, only 0,04 percent of the population has it. I've been on and off work in the last year, doing a rehabilitation programme, seeing my doctor regularly, took steroids for 9 months etc etc. I'm an overachiever by nature and I don't need manager to get me back to work I'm learning to set boundaries now. :)

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    #53

    I wish people would cut the homeless some slack. Most homeless people aren't mentally-ill or drug addicts, they are just people whose lives got upturned, mostly due to a job loss. And more importantly, people have no idea how ridiculously difficult it is to get out of being homeless. Even with the help of shelters and homeless programs, it can take years to get into housing. Also, homeless people are PEOPLE, just like you and me. Stop de-humanizing them.

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    Tiny Dynamine
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    100% right. Nothing more to add to this.

    #54

    I’m biromantic asexual I want to emancipate and travel the world and be free, and not be stuck in an office all day and even though i tell people i want to be an animator i feel that is not true, i just want to he a kid again, and live my life full of fun and happy memories but that can't happen as long as i am here, i need to be free i just need to breathe

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    Luka Verheijen
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We all want to travel these days, but we are more locked up than ever. At least we have fantasy were we can just travel without any trouble

    #55

    I feel broken inside

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    Tiny Dynamine
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Do you want to explain this in more detail? I'm trying to help people on this thread if you want to see my other comments. Reply to this so I will be aware of it.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hi, I'm in high school and sometimes things are just too much. I am taking all honors and I have had high expectations set for me ever since kindergarten. Any failure that happens is magnified like 100x for me. Mt dad recently got COVID the same day my boyfriend broke up with me. I'm the oldest sibling so all responsibility falls on me. On top of that I'm struggling with depression, anxiety, undiagnosed ADHD, and trichotillomania, which my dad thinks is just a phase. I also am in the band and on the swim team, and I have a job. Every time I try to talk about this, my parents bring up that they did the same things and "I did it with straight A's." I just don't know what to do. I've already cut myself twice, and once two years ago contemplated suicide.

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    #56

    Hi parents: 1. I’m queer and you can’t just tell me to ‘forget about it’. It’s a part of me. Just like how I know medicine and caring for people is my calling. Why is one celebrated and the other shamed? I find it hilarious how I’m not allowed to even think about that pride and lgbtq s**t anymore. Mind control anybody? 2. No, I’m not ok. Just because you told me to ‘be more happy’ and ‘don’t think about it’ doesn’t and didn’t miraculously cure my mental illnesses. Why is that you tell me to talk to you when I need to about mental health, and turn and say ‘no, you’re making it up. We are having none of this crap. Don’t try to trick us. You are so privileged, you can’t possibly be mentally ill.’ when I try to ask them for help. They canceled my therapy sessions by the way - because I was talking too much about gender diversity. Also, please don’t invalidate my pain. Just because you washed your family’s laundry from age 5 or that you broke a mirror and you dad slapped you doesn’t make it okay to tell me ‘we had it way worse and we turned out fine’. 3. On a more positive note: I have been completely self harm free for 3 days! It’s been a daily thing since probably when I was 5 or 6 but I finally got 3 days. It’s been hard, but I am proud of myself. If you have a similar achievement, congratulations to you. I’m really proud.

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    Tiny Dynamine
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even though acceptance is getting better in general, there is still a lot of division between people on this. It's s**t that you have to deal with the bad ones, but they really aren't people that you should give any time to. I know it's not as easy as saying that, but try to think of yourself being a better person than they are. Seriously well done on the self harm progress though. It means you want to get through it. Stay strong and keep telling yourself that you're doing great, even if it's every hour (even better to reinforce it). I hope you don't have a relapse but if you do, think of it as just being a blip. S**t happens and our mood changes, but I really hope you keep doing well.

    #57

    Asking for help in a store and being greeted with, "what's up?"

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    #58

    I hate all the online ads nowadays. Any game developer can take two seconds to make some dumb rip-off of a game (ex: fallguys) and make a crappy ad for it. There are so many examples of other dumb ads, but the one I hate most is those stupid youtube ads claiming they have a 6-second trick that can save someone with diabetes. It always starts with "award-winning doctor" and proceeds to not even give a name. Just sounds like a 4th-grade writing assignment.

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    Stormblessed&Stressed
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ads kinda suck but if watching/listening to them means that something is free, I don't really care.

    Luka Verheijen
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, ads are terrible. Especially game ads, who are cringe intensified. Or they look good and it's just another crappy rpg that just looks like all tge others

    #59

    Crop tops. I don't mean people wearing them- that's totally okay, you do you! Personally, I'd just like to be able to find more regular length shirts in stores ;u;. I don't wear crop tops myself so it's a little disheartening to find a really cute top only to discover that it's cropped. Of course, there are simple solutions such as thrift stores, online shopping, generally looking harder in a store, etc, but I'd love it if they had also had uncropped versions of things.

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    #60

    How inconsistent people are with "acceptance". My opinions and beliefs are not less valuable than yours. If I'm Christian and don't support your decisions, it's okay! Support does not equate with my view of you as a human being. If I decide to have a different opinion than you, I'm not automatically a bigot. If I don't want to affiliate myself with something, I'm not racist, -phobic, etc. "Safe space" means anything, right? So please, for the love of pizza rolls and anything holy, don't shut others down for their thoughts. Before you say anything, ask yourself, 'who is being stupid?' It could be you. "Acceptance" isn't just for the majority, "progressive" ideas. Acceptance is for everyone.

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    Pieter K
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Except when that acceptance would require acceptance of rejection. I think you mean tolerance. If someone is of the opinion that eg. homosexuals shouldn't be allowed to adopt, I am under no obligation to accept or respect that opinion. I can tolerate it, as I have to accept that I most likely won't be able to change their mind.

    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Respect does not equal acceptance. I'm talking about people who automatically throw words like "racist" or "bigotry" at me when I make a simple comment. A definition of acceptance is "willingness to tolerate a difficult or unpleasant situation." If everyone was accepting, there wouldn't be businesses being sued over a wedding cake or churches and Christians being attacked. Not with just words, with assault and firepower. I've nearly been beaten up for saying I'm Christian. By a gay person. I didn't say anything wrong, it wasn't even to them. But the idea of someone having a conflicting view is too much for them.

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    Stormblessed&Stressed
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    oh. my. goodness, I have never agreed with something more, thankyouthankyouthankyouthankyou for both writing this and being able to express yourself so eloquently. People can't make the distinction between "I don't really support pride but you do you" and "homophobic". So thanks. :)

    #61

    I used to stalk my now boyfriend's IG account. He was a stranger to me, and we didn't run in the same circles. I randomly came across his account and developed a huge crush on him, would go down the rabbit hole and look into his history, his exes, etc. I learned some superficial things about his hobbies. Two years or so later, to my surprise (and after my crush had lessened) I matched with him on a dating app and made my move. I never told him about my internet stalking. I feel like it's far too late in the game to do so now.

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    Tiny Dynamine
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It seems that you know that what you did was unethical and that's the main thing. Telling him could end your relationship but if you are honest with yourself and tell yourself you shouldn't have been like that, it can help to clear your conscience. Alternatively, as it was 2 years ago, you could say that you think you might have seen his account and remember some things about him. That way, you can get some of it off your chest without seeming like a stalker and get closure on it. Have a think first about exactly what things you would bring up and limit it to one or two so it seems like you barely remember.

    #62

    I already posted something but I have two more things to add, however they both irrelevant to the other post. 1) I have a huge crush on a youtuber who's older than me and have no idea what to do 2) I really want a moustache and a beard and had a dream where I had grown both (a curly handlebar moustache and a goatee. They were really impressive) and was forced to shave them off. I was more scared of this than my nightmares. Is this normal?

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    Blackadams
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you love someone,tell em...but be patient,dont go out to tell em first,show em and let them feel the love,rhen when youre sure,tell them...but dont feel too bad if they say no

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    #63

    I’ve got anxiety and depression and whenever life is going ok, I constantly think that something bad is just around the corner. I keep wondering when the next bad was going to happen. I’ve been on this happy high for 4 months and the next bad thing has just happened. And it’s probably going to last for the next few months. I’m just so tired. I wish I could press a fast forward button to when everything is alright again.

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    Tiny Dynamine
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To be honest, it's a really hard journey and bad things seem to knock you back when you least expect it. Part of it is due to the fact that you are expecting that to happen and it's not your fault. It's how anxiety and depression affect you. If you're not already, try to see a therapist. They can make a significant difference, but like I said, it will still be hard to shake the bad feelings off. When they come back, try to tell yourself that these things are bound to happen sometimes, but things will allso be okay for a while too. Try to focus on when you feel good and make sure that you pay attention to them so you will remember what it's like to feel better.

    #64

    Earliest s*icidal thoughts I remember were when I was 6. I legit can't remember a time pre-meds where I wasn't depressed. I've made so many suicide plans (never gone through, but I've come close). I'm on my third med. First one caused suicidal thoughts (screw you Prozac) although it helped my mood. Lexapro did nothing. My new med appears to be helping a bit, not as much as Prozac did in terms of mood, and while I am not suicidal I have troubles with s*lf h*rm. I probably have about 30 open cuts/scars. If I don't get better I may not live to see 20. If I had to guess what kills me I'd say myself. I hope I get better, but I'm not sure if I will.

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    HooowlAtTheMoon
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am so sorry, that sounds horrible. I believe in you, you can get better <3

    Terilee Bruyere
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was misdiagnosed (at least that is what my PCP believes, haven't been evaluated though) with Borderline Personality Disorder and was put on Lexapro. Before that I was misdiagnosed as Bipolar and placed on Lithium. Both really screwed with my head. But not everyone reacts the same way to each medication. If you are not having any relief with the one you are on you need to talk to a psychiatrist. Don't stop searching until you find the right one.

    Skyler Sage Tang
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Omg I'm currently on fluoxetine (Prozac, Lovan etc) and it is messing me up.

    Tiny Dynamine
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Have you had therapy? Sometimes it's hard to connect to therapists but if you can find a good one it's going to be more useful than meds. They do have their place but they mainly just mask the negative feelings rather than solve them. There is always a way that people can get through this. I know that probably sounds worthless to you but I've seen a lot of cases where people finally got through it. Please try to get therapy and expect that you might have to keep changing them until you find one that you feel you can trust.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i've been in therapy for the past year and a half. i recently switched therapists bc my parents didn't like what my old one had to say about them and their parenting, i don't know my new one at all yet.

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    #65

    I'm trying hard not to turn into a total racist. I'm white and I tutor Chinese high schoolers in Australia. I know that lots of non-Asian families put pressure on their kids to perform well, but by the time I see these kids at 16-18 years old there's almost nothing left of a personality, optimism, or creativity. They're exam-drones and I absolutely hate tutoring them. I have two PhDs and almost every day I sit at work trying to explain to kids why they can't just 'formularize' an essay about literature (if they want to get top marks - and they ALL want top marks), and I hate myself and I hate them, and I hate the home culture that has done this to them. I feel like I've failed in life to have ended up doing this, because I've got medical/energy problems and I hate noise so I've basically bombed out of working in schools and there are no jobs in universities.

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    Tiny Dynamine
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is NEVER a valid reason to become racist. I've also taught Chinese students and known about the same issues, but it's not their fault or their parents. The Chinese dictatorship demands that school is like that so they won't have independent thought and therefore question what they government is doing. I despise the government but I've also seen in the students' eyes how much they wish they didn't have to live there.

    Angela Jester
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm so sorry you're dealing with these feelings. It's common to feel resentment and hopelessness when you encounter children who've been spirit broken and feel there's nothing you can do to help. Adding chronic illness and the complications it brings to the life we have and how different it is from where it was supposed to be can intensify those feelings. They're misdirected, though,and I think you need to find something else before you end up hurting them by spilling this feeling all over them. You need to talk to a professional who can help you work through these feelings so you can love yourself and others again.

    #66

    What's old is new again...sucks. Vinyl sucks (it sounds better the first time you play it; after that, it sounds like crap). Rotary phones suck. Typewriters suck. I grew up with these things and lovingly embraced the technology that replaced them. And another thing about modern technology: I was in a job interview, and the person interviewing me gave me a condescending look and asked, "Are you comfortable with computers?" Lady, I took programming classes in the 80s and saw computers sweep through the office scape. I was there for the first car phones, cellular phones, satellite phones and smart phones, and I could program a VCR/DVR/whatever else, thank you. I've been working with computers full time as a profession since 1984. Don't act like modern technology was invented by your generation--it came from mine! We aren't as mystified by technology as you may like to think.

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    Pink Floydian Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are crazy if you think vinyl sucks. The difference is not in the material but in analog recordings being replaced by digital recordings and quality loss due to compression of digital recordings. Listen to a favorite album on analog vinyl and then listen to the digital recording and tell me they are even remotely the same.

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    I have The Wall on vinyl. Bought it when it first charted and loved it. When it came out on gold-plated CD, the vinyl went into the basement. Still enjoying the CDs. And BTW, the best way to listen to music is live. There is no recording medium that can compare.

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    albernistuff 4sale
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Too many folks assume: Old person=technophobe and young=computer whiz. Not true. I work IT for a UNIVERSITY, and a good majority of students DON'T understand computers very well. They just learn the rote steps to get to FB/Twit/insta/ticktok, and push their fear of the black magic in the box under the covers

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    IKR? I taught my kids how to use computers. I've taught others how to use various programs. And I'm the one who supposed to be bothered by tech. I'm not intimidated by it as much as I think some of the stuff is dumb. I don't know the ins and outs of smart appliances, and am not interested. I know how to do laundry and make up a shopping list, thank you.

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    Tiny Dynamine
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Vinyl is the best quality audio there is. It is as simple as that and the consensus will always tell you the same thing.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You and the consensus can have my share of all of the vinyl releases. Enjoy!

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    Stormblessed&Stressed
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    actually typewriters are really fun-- just not to use long term or for anything thats not recreational.

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    #67

    I’m so sick and tired about how real life/world change is unreachable and never seems to come. So I always hope for a full blown anarchistic society to begin that even government can’t touch.

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    Stormblessed&Stressed
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Changing the world is only unreachable when people who want change like you and me decide that there's nothing they can do and sit back and do nothing. Do anything you can to make the world a better place. Even if you only make a tiny fraction of the world better, you can know that you did something good. And then maybe someone else will see what you did and decide to make the world just a little bit better too.

    #68

    I want to slap my mother in law and throw her out of our lives. I'm 3 months pregnant with our first child and she's sent me to my parents Over the SIN that I TURNED HER INLAWS PICTURE DOWN coz it was reflective and making me nauseous. The inlaws she separated from after 1 year of marriage. Ps. I'm south asian, we live in joined family, with inlaws after marriage, it's common

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    Terilee Bruyere
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think I am misreading what you are saying. A picture was reflective? I totally get the making you nauseous part.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's a freamed photograph, that reflects light and since I'm 3 months pregnant, it worsen my nausea

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    #69

    Don’t allow hurtful people to rent space in your head!

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    #70

    Because of immigration issues I have not seen my children or my husband in nearly 19 months. I’m fairly certain I’ve become a functioning alcoholic.

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    #71

    I’m starting to hate myself. I’m angry and confused and anxious. I had depression and anxiety two years ago and I thought it was gone, it even worse now. My parents don’t listen to me. I’m midway through a conversation and something else is more important. The only time they notice me if when they’re fighting, and they try to get me to side with one of them. I’m losing friends at school, all they want is the be popular. I’m suddenly the weird kid, everyone looks at me weird when I talk to them. I don’t know my sexuality. Three years ago I think I fell in love with another girl but I keep denying what I feel. I’m hating myself more and more. I started hurting myself, I’m having panic attacks where I’m in tears and I can’t breathe. I haven’t had suicidal thoughts but I want to suffer. I feel like I deserve it. What’s wrong with me?

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    Artemis
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m so sorry that you are having to go through this. I can’t even imagine the pain you must be feeling. Please know that you do not EVER deserve to suffer. From what I hear you are a good person who is going through sh*t. I don’t know where you are from, but this is the suicide hotline for the United States 1-800-273-8255. You do not have to be suicidal to use it, if you need someone to listen it is there for that too. Please know that I and your fellow pandas have your back. You are loved. <3

    Elise Hansen
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    you. are. valid. you. are. great. this happens to many people, you will be all right.

    #72

    Hair.

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    #73

    People need to stop fakeclaiming systems because of fictives. Michael is a fictive in our (possible. Under 18 so can't be diagnosed) system and he's faced the most discrimination, fake memories and self-doubt than any of us. Fictional introjects (fictives) are real. It doesn't matter if they're super canon conforming or don't conform to canon at all. They're very real and very valid. Mike, we're proud of you. Remember, you're real dude! You matter so much to us!!!

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    Anna McHugh
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Literally none of this made sense to me.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm talking about Other Specified Dissociative Disorder, Dissociative Identity Disorder and Unspecified Dissociative Disorder systems. A fictional introject (fictive) is an alter that is based around a fictional character, e.g if someone with D.I.D gets triggered and uses Super Mario Bros to comfort them, they could split a Mario fictive. Hope this helped :)

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Michael is a fictive in our (possible) system. We haven't asked permission to mention his source though, sorry

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    #74

    today my wife told me she has fallen out of love with me. after her breakdown a year after our

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    #75

    In a couple of weeks I’m due to have minor surgery. I still have to be knocked out. Over the years, I’ve had issues with my bp. I do what I can to keep it in check. I’m still nervous about the surgery and my bp causing an issue to where I may not wake up or I could have a stroke. We tried once to do the surgery, in August, but bp was too high and had to post pone. It doesn’t feel like that big of a deal, but deep down, I feel like I’m kidding myself and and very nervous. I know that doesn’t help my bp either.

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    #76

    The pelt that is growing on it!

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    #77

    People over-apologizing. If you did something wrong, you need to say you're sorry once. JUST ONCE. I heard you the first time, I accept your apology. Put it behind you. Everybody bungles.

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    littlesaresare
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Overapologising is the sign of someone with serious social anxiety, especially someone who is used to being abused and raised to think they are worthless and incapable of value. Perhaps you should talk to this person and reassure them that you see them as a person and that they don't need to feel so much shame and fear that they feel the need to constantly apologise to you. Something like that can really do a lot for someone.

    Don't read my username
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It *could* also be autism. (Emphasis on could) I'm suspected to have autism and I repeat the word sorry when I do something wrong because it's comforting to me because the word sorry isn't confusing, it's just saying you didn't mean to hurt someone's feelings and you want their forgiveness

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    Terilee Bruyere
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    *cries in Canadian* but joking aside, I get what you mean.

    Stormblessed&Stressed
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    haha... sorry. I'm one of those people who does that, I'm trying to break the habit!!!

    Luka Verheijen
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is more to it here than meets the eye, people can be very insecure, and no wonder with all the violent people who jyst won't forgive

    #78

    When I was a kid my parents got me a teddy Ruxpin I loved it until his eye fell out one night think he fell out off my bed I was gutted my mum fixer of all glued his eye back in so he resembled a stroke victim soon after that his other eye got knocked out again my mum glued it back in. His eyes would twitch and quiver like he was having a seizure and never fully closed. Creeped me right out! Can recall it vividly my mum thought she was doing a good deed and would never have told her any different but really teddy Ruxpin became the thing of nightmares.

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    #79

    My cat.

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    #80

    I AM DONE WITH COVID! CAN WE JUST FORGET ABOUT IT PLEASE? LIKE I KNOW ITS NOT THAT EASY BUT PLEASE, I AM DONE WITH MASKS, IM DONE WITH SOCIAL DISTANCING, I. AM. DONE. PLEASE.

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    Tiny Dynamine
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Okay. Just stay away from other people then. That'd be great.

    R Carson
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The fear is worse than the disease.

    Odin Schmidt
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your are done. Done with living if you don't take precautions!

    #81

    I was responsible for a cosplayer leaving Facebook = Zero f*#%ks given

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