So I know I barley talk about my.problems but I just f****** hate my parents. They aren't physically abusive (other than the occasional spanks when I was younger) but they always make me feel like I'm worthless and so paranoid about myself.
I lately find myself to slowly withdraw from the world, even from my friends. Nobody understands me and I wish I can just run away.
Any tips for things I can do without any socializing? Or like things I can do to get out of my parents grasp other than my room?
Thanks!
-A Berry Thankful Nightingale
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Hey Pandas just to clarify- I think I sounded quite angry in my post description.
My parents are not physically abusive at all, I just value my independence and freedom more than they think and I'd love to be able to venture on my own without them eyeing me all the time.
Please upvote so everyone can see :)
Hey Black Nightingale!
I would really encourage you not to seek to be isolated from your parents. The scriptures tell us that not only does God expect us to honor our parents, but that there is blessing to be found in doing so. I would encourage you to deal with them first in courage and humility as expressed in “I” statements, such as “I feel unloved or embarrassed when this happens”. That approach can often take the edge off what could be combative (I’ve done it both ways). If they are truly unreasonable, then try to be at peace as much as you are able, and show them as much honor as you can. In the long run, it will be worth it, even if only for the experience and grit you gain by striving to honor difficult people.
Obviously if it becomes a situation of violence, sexual abuse, denial of food, or other criminal acts, call the police yesterday.
Hope this is helpful :)
Thank you :) Thankfully, my parents aren't physically or that emotionally abusive. I just fell that um naturally independent and wish they could've been so accepting. Even in my schools, they're huge on teamwork lol.
Is there another family member you could go live with? You might find your relationship with your parents improves if you're not living in the same house.
I know you said no socializing, but please consider volunteering to a worthy cause. I find volunteering less stressful, people are much nicer and more forgiving when they are not paying for your help.
I feel your pain. I am 45 years old and my mother still emotionally abuses me. I hope you are able to see the light at the end of the tunnel and are able to get out. It might be too late for me, but I hope and pray you are able to escape. Hang in there and good luck!
