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Hey Cishet Pandas, In Honor Of Pride Month, Do You Have Any Questions For The LGBTQ+ Community? (Closed)
Please only be supportive, I will try to answer the questions I can, but I don't want to deal with bigots.
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HWY IS IT SO HARD TO BE GAY IN HIGHSCHOOL
it says write your answer, so i might be in wrong spot.... question, my uncle has been gay since as far back as i can remember (he would be in his 70s today). i recently used the word queer to discribe him. i got jumped on for using it. my uncle never had it issue with it, why is it suddenly so taboo?
Queer used to be a slur against the LGBTQ community, but that was a long time ago and it has been reclaimed, so it's not a slur anymore. Some people still believe it is, or some people believe that it's offensive for non LGBTQ people to use it to describe a queer person, but I and probably most other members of the community are okay with you using it. Just make sure that you aren't using it in a derogatory way. Sorry you got backlash for that. Also, you're in the right spot, bp just calls all the responses answers.
And if you don't know someone's sexuality except that they aren't straight, you can automatically call them queer! Its the umbrella term.
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It used to be a pretty bad slur, so I think ur uncle, who by the description is about 50, mistook you just saying he's part of the community to be basically calling him the f word
no, my uncle would have been 70. he used the word queer to discribe himself.
Load More Replies... How bad is it to trip up on pronouns? Like when I see someone born female and they introduce themselves as something other than she/her and my old lagging brain keeps crashing and refererring to them as she/her like how much understanding and or empathy exists with an average
LGBTQ person? Am I going to burn in flaming rainbows for this sin for all of eternity or will trans Jesus forgive me? It's so annoyingly embarrassing stumbling over it everytime I'm talking to or about a trans person but it's like my brain will not pick it up, it just won't stick! Also is it brutally insensitive of me to wish we could all just switch to one non-gender specific universal pronoun set so I don't have to relearn pronouns on an individual basis? How much on a scale of 1-10 does it hurt you personally when someone gets it wrong? Is it mildly annoying or slowly crushing your spirit everytime or causing instant psychological trauma? I have a non binary 12 year old and she's really understanding but 50% of the time I'm getting her friends pronouns wrong and it's kinda driving me crazy and I'm worried about having them over to visit because they're just kids and I don't want to like damage them or something. Is this happening to anyone else or is my brain just broken?
it’s ok to mess up on pronouns if you don’t mean to. if it helps call them by their preffered name until you get used to it. something that helps me sometimes if think of a person and thinking something like “i spoke to them the other day, their really kind” or something like that, just thinking about them and using their preffered pronouns can help :))
Why can’t you let rainbows be rainbows!?
We're not saying they can't be just rainbows, we just use the rainbow to represent our community. It's the non queer people who treat everything with a rainbow as if it were gay, and we're not trying to gatekeep or take anything away. If you don't like rainbows because of us, that's a you problem
