GF Takes Shots At BF’s Shortcomings In Front Of Her Friends, He Tells Her She’s Welcome To Leave

My experience in life--and my advice to my (now adult) kids is this: Smart and funny wears better than cute. Words to live by.

Dump her, I am a women and I say Dump her you deserve better

Hon, she has absolutely nothing nice to say about you or to you. She only came up with the " you make me feel safe * comments to save her a** . She treats you like an emotional/ verbal punching bag and ridicules you. She's shallow. She's superficial and phony. You want someone who will treat you right and who is a genuine caring person. Get out of the relationship. Look,if you think she hurt you now, believe me, she's going to do a lot more. You deserve better. Let her and her stuck up " mean girls" walk off into the sunset. They all will one day face the consequences of their bad behavior. Say good bye and Good Riddance.

Been there, got the scars. Dump her now, before she has the series of affairs with people who look as good as her. There are plenty much better people around. Get to know them and give them a chance. Never have truer words been said than "Don't judge a book by its cover".

Fella, if she has nothing good to say about you other than you make her feel "safe", it's time to pack the relationship up, tell her to pack her stuff and ship her and all of it out for good. Getting your first ex ain't a good feeling, but know you'll come out of it stronger and find someone better. As for her, she and her miserable friends can enjoy their miserable existence together and perhaps fail to find a great guy like yourself together, while you find the best girl and live your best life. Sheesh!!!

I bet she was a bully in high school and never grew out of it. She probably thinks it makes her look good to her friends. If that is the case, they're probably just as awful as she is.

You would have to be a real idiot to not dump a Bi@tch like that!

She verbally abused you (yes, constant insults are abuse) and then gaslighted you instead of acknowledging her treatment of you. As someone who was trapped in a cycle of abuse for 10 years before escaping, THIS IS HER TRUE FACE and it will not get better. You deserve someone who will treat you with respect. Dump her, learn to be happy with yourself, and the right person will be there when you least expect it.

Safe? Tell her to get a Doberman and head for the door.

Unfortunately you've just witnessed what she usually says about you all the time to her friends, behind your back. This won't last I'm afraid, and you'd be better off getting out now than staying in a relationship with someone who feels like this about you.

When someone shows you who they are, believe them. She's not out of your league, you're out of hers cuz she's a bìtch. Dump her.

Straight up NTA DUMP HER! SHE SOUNDS SHALLOW with all her tlk bout about material n surface s**t. Go one step further, tell her that she needs an attitude adjustment bcz looks fade and b****y vain snobs end up alone and wrinkly

AITA for sticking up for myself and having a modicum of self-respect? No, no you're NTA.

She doesn't actually like the guy. He's a bookmark. She's had some bad relationships and doesn't want that drama right now. But he's 'OKAY' for now. Seen it many times. When someone likes you, they like something about you, and they know why and what it is. They'll talk about that, even if they make jokes about other shortcomings.

Sounds to me like she's the one out of her league and she belongs in the shallow end of the pool.

Sounds like her inner mean girl comes out around her friends. Now ask yourself, do you want to be with a mean girl? Maybe have some adult conversations about your feelings, and boundries, how her friends treat people, why she treated you like that around her friends, and where she sees this relationship going? It sounds like she's embarassed about your status/hotness not being up to her friends standards. If she's not like that when they're not around, it may be highschool mean-girl habits that she's growing out of. If she can do some introspection, apologise, and distance herself from toxic friends, she may be a nicer person. If not, there's no point in being with someone who makes you miserable, hot or not.

Actually you should have told her she was free to leave at the bbq in front of her friends. That would have had the most impact (for better or worse) then waiting until they were alone as it seems she was trying to somehow impress her loser friends.

Time to walk away.

Dude I'm sorry she did that. Partners should lift eachother up not slam them ifo friends. What she did was not even close to joking. I suspect that's how she feels and you likely make her feel financially safe. He reaction when you called her on it tells me she has no respect for you. Make her your first ex. Buddy I don't know you but you sound like a reasonable lad and lots of us date outside our league but the other person usually loves you for genuine reasons. Go out and find a woman who will not disrespect you like a bunch of teenage girls in a gossip circle. You arw worthy of love and it sounds like you are capable of giving love. Don't regret staying with her cause she is cute.

She says you make her feel safe because she thinks you won't cheat because no one would have you. Don't settle for her, there are great girls that are pretty inside and outside.

There is no excuse for insults, dump her a*s.

This expression "out of my league" never sat right with me. You are either a good person or not. Looks matter, but are always trumped by personality, character, kindness, and integrity. If anyone is going to be "out of their league" it's the one who lacks these things.

"Anyways, afterwards I asked her why she took so many shots at me and she said she was just joking and I was being a child." Ah yes, if you take it the wrong way it's a "jjjoooookkkkeeee." Whenever they say they're joking, they're not. All that s**t she rubbed in your face as a "joke" does bother her, but she has to address it like she's the good person for looking beyond all of it.

When men choose solely based on looks, this is what you get. Either put up with it or walk, your choice