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Guy Gets Screenshots Proving Girl He’s Dating Is Using Him For Money, Plans A Revenge Date
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Guy Gets Screenshots Proving Girl He’s Dating Is Using Him For Money, Plans A Revenge Date

Dating is hard. Especially the beginning. I mean, watching The Notebook together isn’t enough to figure out the other person and whether they have the same expectations for the relationship as you do. These things don’t happen overnight. They take time and effort.

Recently, redditor redberryberry had been spending a fair amount of time with this one girl. She seemed nice and they were still getting to know each other, but it suddenly turned out that she was interested only in his wallet. Of course, it’s better to learn these things sooner rather than later, so you could say redberryberry dodged a bullet before taking any serious damage. However, he still wanted to make her pay for it. After getting back at the sneaky miss, redberryberry shared the story on r/ProRevenge and their post quickly went viral, receiving over 16K upvotes! Continue scrolling and see everything for yourself.

“I liked this girl mainly because she was sarcastic and beautiful, two things I look for a lot in dating,” redberryberry told Bored Panda. “She seemed really interesting and I wanted to get to know her more so that’s when we exchanged numbers and socials.”

Their dates would always be restaurants or places that sold food and stuff like that. “I tried to recommend other things like taking a walk or just coffee or something, but it would always be met with an excuse as to why she couldn’t or she would just say she didn’t feel up to it. But whenever it was a nice place or something she would be more than eager.”

Reflecting on their conversations, the guy thinks most of the trickery was over text. “She would often say she likes me a lot and can’t wait to see me and things like that, but when we were actually together she seemed disinterested and withdrawn,” he explained. “This would make me self conscious, and she would assure me over text (lying) that there was something between us.”

“Even though I could tell she seemed uninterested, I was blinded by lust admittedly and the texts she would send me, so I would always end up seeing her again just to repeat the cycle. Some of it was definitely my fault for being stupid and keep letting her drag me on.”

After all the texts after their date that he walked out on, he sent her the screenshot and everything and how he found out she was using him. He then told her to fuck off. She blocked him and they haven’t talked ever since.

People had a lot to say about the situation

There are a lot of different opinions when it comes to splitting the bill on a date. However, according to Emily Post’s Etiquette, the “official” rule states that, “for a first date at least, the person who asks for the date should pay unless both parties agree in advance to share expenses.”

Candice Jalili, the Senior Sex + Dating Writer at Elite Daily, seconds this. “As far as I’m concerned, the guy should pay for the first date. And if he really wants this to go somewhere, he should pay for the second as well,” she wrote. “After that, I’ll be more open to splitting the bill. But those first couple of dates are the time for me to be courted a little.”

But this line of who asks who gets a little blurry in the modern age of online dating. Or if the people already know each other and at least one of them isn’t sure whether they’re going out on a date or something more casual.

A possible solution to the tricky situation could be “the reach”. Patricia Garcia wrote, “More than half of the staff [at VOGUE] agreed, you should always reach inside your bag once the check arrives—even if you don’t intend to pay.”

“You do the fiddling, the shuffling, and give them enough time to reach for their own wallets to take care of the bill,” one of the magazine’s editors said. “Or else what’s the option? Just sitting there and staring at them, waiting? No, that’s too awkward.”

So the guy provided us with more information

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Luisa Vasconcelos
Community Member
2 years ago

I know I will have a lot of down votes but why is always expected that men's pay the bills of a date ? Why? Why? Normally I always offer myself to split the cost specially on first dates and if I'm sort this month I explain to the person and if he still want to go, he knows before and don't expect me to pay. You have no idea how much men's appreciate that I'm different from other girls. This way I never left nobody thinking that I'm going on a date because "girl have to eat" and avoid any kind of gold digger test. This make first dates so much easier and we can really focus on knowing each other.

Dilly Millandry
Community Member
2 years ago

Upvote from me. It all stems from when women didn't have their own money to pay for things. We do now and so should share the costs. Dating is about getting to know one another - not about getting what you can from another person.

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Community Member
2 years ago

"She was absolutely gorgeous and honestly I couldn't even think that she would be manipulative at all." About sums up most men's idiot response to pretty girls. So many good looking girls treat men badly because they think their looks account for everything and make their manipulative behaviour okay. True beauty is inside, as so many people discover too late.

Candace Fitzpatrick
Community Member
2 years ago

I was gonna comment on that too. He said he really liked her, even tho she was never engaging on dates or was interested in doing anything that didn’t cost money... but she was absolutely gorgeous. Other than her looks I wonder what about her it was that he really liked?

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Biljana Malesevic
Community Member
2 years ago (edited)

Hm, I am going to get a lot of hate for this but honestly there were such obvious signs and red flags from the beginning this man described but he just brushed over it because she was gorgeous??? She was quite obvious judging by what he wrote about her, she wasn't even subtle about her intentions. She knew men would handle anything for a girl as long as she is quite beautiful and she was right wan't she? And he reacted and "saw the truth" (which he could see much much before that) when she bruised his little ego over some social media post. If she wasn't gorgeous would he even bother with her from the start? Men can handle anything from girl as long as she is very pretty. My opinion is not popular so downvote me as you want but this is kinda lame. And yes, why not just talk to her from the start, ask her in subtle way about her intentions and why is he paying everything and why isn't relationship moving forward. Talk to her, get to know her as person, not take her out hoping paying for everything why obviously noticing her Channel bag. Is talking to each other dead now? Pulling pranks is ok but just having normal communications is lame? What is wrong with this society?

Craig Lee
Community Member
2 years ago

You're 100% correct, but this guy sounds pretty young, so this is just a lesson learned hopefully. I think it's just as much his fault, because if someone is genuinely interested in you, you'll know it. The same can be said for someone who's not into you, it's usually pretty obvious.

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Luisa Vasconcelos
Community Member
2 years ago

I know I will have a lot of down votes but why is always expected that men's pay the bills of a date ? Why? Why? Normally I always offer myself to split the cost specially on first dates and if I'm sort this month I explain to the person and if he still want to go, he knows before and don't expect me to pay. You have no idea how much men's appreciate that I'm different from other girls. This way I never left nobody thinking that I'm going on a date because "girl have to eat" and avoid any kind of gold digger test. This make first dates so much easier and we can really focus on knowing each other.

Dilly Millandry
Community Member
2 years ago

Upvote from me. It all stems from when women didn't have their own money to pay for things. We do now and so should share the costs. Dating is about getting to know one another - not about getting what you can from another person.

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B
Community Member
2 years ago

"She was absolutely gorgeous and honestly I couldn't even think that she would be manipulative at all." About sums up most men's idiot response to pretty girls. So many good looking girls treat men badly because they think their looks account for everything and make their manipulative behaviour okay. True beauty is inside, as so many people discover too late.

Candace Fitzpatrick
Community Member
2 years ago

I was gonna comment on that too. He said he really liked her, even tho she was never engaging on dates or was interested in doing anything that didn’t cost money... but she was absolutely gorgeous. Other than her looks I wonder what about her it was that he really liked?

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Biljana Malesevic
Community Member
2 years ago (edited)

Hm, I am going to get a lot of hate for this but honestly there were such obvious signs and red flags from the beginning this man described but he just brushed over it because she was gorgeous??? She was quite obvious judging by what he wrote about her, she wasn't even subtle about her intentions. She knew men would handle anything for a girl as long as she is quite beautiful and she was right wan't she? And he reacted and "saw the truth" (which he could see much much before that) when she bruised his little ego over some social media post. If she wasn't gorgeous would he even bother with her from the start? Men can handle anything from girl as long as she is very pretty. My opinion is not popular so downvote me as you want but this is kinda lame. And yes, why not just talk to her from the start, ask her in subtle way about her intentions and why is he paying everything and why isn't relationship moving forward. Talk to her, get to know her as person, not take her out hoping paying for everything why obviously noticing her Channel bag. Is talking to each other dead now? Pulling pranks is ok but just having normal communications is lame? What is wrong with this society?

Craig Lee
Community Member
2 years ago

You're 100% correct, but this guy sounds pretty young, so this is just a lesson learned hopefully. I think it's just as much his fault, because if someone is genuinely interested in you, you'll know it. The same can be said for someone who's not into you, it's usually pretty obvious.

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