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Thankfully, we are not the ones on the receiving end of these comebacks. Some of them are so brutal that it is hard not to wince for the person getting roasted. From the safety of the sidelines, though, we get to sit back and enjoy the exchange. 

Of course, taking pleasure in someone else’s embarrassment can seem a little cruel, but according to researchers, the reaction itself is surprisingly normal.

In fact, there is a German word that describes this exact feeling: schadenfreude. It refers to the satisfaction we sometimes get from another person’s bad luck, failure, or humiliation.

The concept is a little more complicated than simply wanting something bad to happen to someone. We do not have to cause the misfortune ourselves to experience schadenfreude. Most of the time, we simply witness it or hear about it afterward. 

What triggers schadenfreude often depends on who the other person is and what led up to their misfortune.

Psychologist Christian Cecconi told Science News Explores that the feeling can appear when someone who has hurt us finally seems to get what they deserve. 

In those moments, watching things go wrong for them can feel strangely satisfying because, as Cecconi puts it, “It’s like justice has been restored.”

But the person on the receiving end does not necessarily have to be someone who hurt us or whom we truly hate. Sometimes, we may simply dislike them a little.

Other times, competition can play a role, especially when someone makes us feel insecure or inferior. Seeing them stumble can then bring a small sense of relief.

We do not even have to know the person personally. The popularity of celebrity scandals, reality television, and online fail videos suggests there is plenty of entertainment to be found in watching complete strangers have a very bad day.

A big part of understanding schadenfreude comes down to what we do with the feeling. Experiencing it does not automatically make someone cruel.

Still, Science News Explores notes that when it goes unchecked, it can sometimes lead to more harmful behavior, including bullying or revenge.

There is a big difference between laughing at a clever comeback and joining others in relentlessly attacking someone. Once the goal is to cause genuine pain or humiliation, the joke has gone too far.

With the right intent, roasting can actually be good for our relationships, psychologists say. After all, playful teasing is hardly unusual among close friends. 

In that setting, it can become a sign of closeness because it shows how well people know one another. A good friend usually knows which joke will make you laugh and which subject is better left alone.

Roasting a friend can also show that you accept each other’s flaws and feel comfortable enough to joke about them. It can even be a lighthearted way of pointing out when someone has done something wrong or gone a little too far.

Peter Gray, a psychology professor at Boston College, told The Swaddle that this kind of pro-social teasing can act as a form of social control by “deflating egos and encouraging humility.”

Sometimes, a gentle roast from someone who genuinely cares can get the point across more easily than a serious lecture.

So perhaps our love of a good roast is not quite as mean-spirited as it first appears. There can be real satisfaction in watching someone get called out when they deserve it, and playful teasing can bring friends closer when everyone is in on the joke. 

The line comes down to knowing when the laughter is shared and when someone is genuinely being hurt. As long as that line stays clear, a well-placed burn can be one of life’s smaller pleasures.