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Woman Leaves Pet Care In Friend’s Hands As She Travels, Mortified After Learning She Never Checked
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Woman Leaves Pet Care In Friend’s Hands As She Travels, Mortified After Learning She Never Checked

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Leaving your pets in someone else’s care can be stressful, even when you trust them completely. For pet owners, ensuring animals receive proper food, water, and attention is not just a matter of convenience, it’s a matter of their health and well-being.

In this story, today’s Original Poster (OP) left for a vacation, relying on her friend to care for her bunny and cat. Despite detailed instructions, videos, and even pre-prepared food, she was left disappointed when she returned.

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    The author left for a vacation Sunday-Friday, leaving their cat and bunny in the care of a friend who agreed to feed and let the bunny out

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    Text showing a friend agreeing to care for a bunny by letting it out, refilling water, and feeding foliage during a vacation.

    Text describing detailed bunny care instructions given to a trusted friend who later goes missing during vacation.

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    She prepared detailed instructions, videos, and prepped the bunny’s foliage to make care as easy as possible

    Text message describing friend sick during vacation, owner trusts bestie with bunny care but goes MIA before damage happens.

    Text expressing frustration over bestie with bunny care who went MIA and failed to communicate during the entire vacation.

    Text asking if a sinus infection can last five days and prevent making phone calls due to severity of symptoms.

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    Text message conversation showing concern about bunny care as the bestie goes MIA and delays texting until damage occurs.

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    Young woman lying in bed, looking upset and holding tissues, illustrating trust issues with bunny care during vacation.

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    However, unknown to her, the friend failed to show up for the scheduled visits, later claiming she was too sick with a sinus infection to notify anyone

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    Text showing an explanation about a friend’s stay schedule during bunny care and a late Thursday night return.

    Text about bunny care neglect due to water spill causing hay and pellets to become dry and uneaten.

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    The author then returned home to find the bunny lethargic and dehydrated, realizing the friend neglected responsibilities

    Before leaving for a Sunday-Friday vacation, the OP made detailed arrangements for her cat and bunny. The cat was easy as there was food and water left out. The bunny, however, required more hands-on care, including fresh foliage, water refills, and time outside the cage to hop around.

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    To make things foolproof, she went all out. Her friend agreed to stop by on Tuesday, and instructions were thorough. There were written details, meal-prepped greens in the fridge, and even step-by-step videos made by her daughter explaining how to access the cage and supplies.

    As the vacation wrapped up and she was heading home, she received a message from the friend who explained she had been sick right from the beginning of the OP’s vacation with a severe sinus infection and had been mostly bedridden all week. She claimed a fever, exhaustion, and difficulty even looking at her phone.

    The OP wasn’t upset that her friend was ill, rather it was that she had everyone’s phone numbers and multiple ways to reach out, yet never communicated that she wouldn’t be able to care for the bunny until the very end of the trip. Thankfully, both pets survived, however the bunny was clearly affected, lethargic, thirsty, and not its usual energetic self.

    Woman stressed while reading phone messages about bunny care after friend goes MIA during vacation and causes damage.

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    The situation in this story highlights just how critical proper care and communication are for rabbits. According to Everypaw, a lethargic and dehydrated rabbit is a serious warning sign that should never be ignored. Rabbits are highly sensitive to dehydration and can deteriorate rapidly without proper care, making even subtle signs of lethargy an urgent signal for immediate veterinary attention.

    Delaying treatment can lead to rapid decline or even death, as rabbits can become critically ill much faster than many other pets. Everbreed reinforces this urgency, noting that lethargy paired with dehydration can indicate potentially life-threatening conditions like GI stasis, heatstroke, kidney issues, or severe infection, all of which can become fatal within hours if not treated promptly.

    This makes clear communication equally vital. As PetDesk explains, when multiple people share responsibility for a pet, unclear expectations can result in missed feeding, overlooked medications, or delayed responses to subtle signs of illness, all of which could have serious consequences for a rabbit’s health.

    They recommend establishing shared routines, emergency plans, and responsibilities help prevent misunderstandings and ensures that critical care is never neglected. In the context of this story, the lack of communication from the friend left the bunny at real risk, illustrating how both medical vigilance and clear communication are essential to keeping pets safe and healthy.

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    Netizens sided with the OP, saying the friend’s failure to communicate was unforgivable and potentially deadly for the bunny. They stressed how serious dehydration can be for rabbits and argued that sickness was not a valid excuse for total silence.

    What would you do if you were in the OP’s shoes? Would you end a friendship over this, or is this something you’d forgive? We would love to hear your thoughts!

    Netizens echoed that the friend had shown she could never be trusted again and that this alone was grounds for a friendship breakup

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    Ifeoluwa Adesina

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    I'm a writer and bookworm (eyes glued to an e-book, more accurately) who happens to have a suspiciously deep knowledge about pop culture. When I'm not writing, I can most likely be found taking yet another online quiz to find out which soda matches my personality.

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    Ifeoluwa Adesina

    Ifeoluwa Adesina

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    I'm a writer and bookworm (eyes glued to an e-book, more accurately) who happens to have a suspiciously deep knowledge about pop culture. When I'm not writing, I can most likely be found taking yet another online quiz to find out which soda matches my personality.

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    Smeghead Tribble Down Under
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This makes my blood BOIL. This sort of thing is why I feel like I could never trust anybody with my animals. If I were in charge of someone else's pets, I would crawl out of my frikkin GRAVE to make sure they were looked after.

    Emilu
    Community Member
    Premium
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So would I. Unfortunately not everyone thinks this way. A friend offered to my mum to look after my birds when I was in ICU as my Mum was working a lot and was going to struggle to look after them + her dog, and Mum said yes and thanked her. The next day she gets a message from my friend saying "oh sorry, wasn't able to check in on the birds after all". Luckily Mum went above and beyond for me and somehow managed to get everything done, but... it still irks me. I get it if people are sick (see my other comment), but I *personally* couldn't leave someone's animal in potential hunger/distress after I'd said I would do otherwise, even if I needed someone/something to give me a big starting kick up the rear.

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    Blue Bunny of Happiness
    Community Member
    4 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Advice in the UK is to use water bowls rather than bottles for rabbits. Mine have large heavy ceramic bowls they can’t tip over. Rabbits are prone to gut stasis which can be fatal. They need to be checked at least twice a day to make sure they’re eating as early treatment is vital. Rabbits are not an easy pet, but if you spend time interacting with them and give them space to display natural behaviours, they’re amazing. Source: 25 years of sharing my life with rabbits,.

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    ElfVibratorGlitter
    Community Member
    4 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My cat, Rosie, is not doing well rn. 😔 I'm currently unhoused because of a domestic violence situation and just found out yesterday that she's possibly having heart failure. Lots of tests and needs to see a specialist. I put the GoFundMe info on my profile if anyone would be willing to share that around. It's been a really rough few weeks. Thanks.

    Me
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hi, ill share your GoFundMe around as well. I had a look, your cat Rosie is adorable. I hope youre in a safe place and away from the domestic violence situation and the person hurting you. I was in your place 10 years ago. It gets better. My email is in profile if you ever need another person to talk to. Give Rosie the cat a cuddle from me.

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    Mel
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Okay, so this one hits hard - I'm currently setting up alarms for every hour during the night to check on my 14yo disabled bunny - it's been a few months, I've been bedridden ill since then and still made sure she's taken care of, still have to carry on with my daily life. This made me a bit sick. I understand that illness can happen at any moment, but if anyone else's well-being is at stake, you make arrangements. If you're ill before they even leave, you call them and let them know. You don't leave them on their own for five days if they're dependent on you.

    Sara Frazer
    Community Member
    4 weeks ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had pneumonia back in October and was about in that state for 2 weeks; had a fever that wouldn't go under 100° for a week, got as high as 103°. All I could do was lay down and listen to podcasts or just sleep, I couldn't look at my phone for more than 10 minutes. That said, I still managed to text people back! There is noooo excuse for not sending at least one small text, heck if you can't type it do voice to text! No excuse!! Or just leave a quick voicemail!! NO EXCUSE!!

    UnclePanda
    Community Member
    Premium
    4 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can attest that rabbits, among other critters, can and will play with, and eventually empty, their water bottles. I thought the blasted things were leaking.

    Firstname Lastname
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Part of the reason I refuse to take any extended trips is because I don't want to entrust my bunny with a long time sitter. I have thankfully found awesome people who let him play and give him food and water, but he is labor of love.

    Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd catch a bullet for someone else's pet I'm sitting w*f is wrong with some people.

    Emilu
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    3 weeks ago

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    Non-popular opinion! When I'm sick, the absolute *last* thing I want to be doing is texting everyone saying "hey, I'm sick. Can you do XYZ while I'm under the weather?" In fact, the last thing I want to do is touch my phone because generally when I fell sick, it makes me feel worse. It reminds me of all the responsibility I'm 'shirking' whilst self-absorbed me indulges in being sick. ... this is absolutely not what happens, but it feels that way. I absolutely understand the OP being angry/upset etc because she trusted her friend with her beloved pets but I've also been in the friend's position (not looking after animals, as such, but needing to reply to messages but you *just can't*). I don't think anyone is TA here as such, but OP and the friend need to communicate a lot better if OP is willing to trust her pets to her friend again (and frankly, if she doesn't I wouldn't blame her).

    spacer
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    the pets were relying on this friend for FOOD and safety, their comfort and needs come before any of yours if you have agreed to pet sit. its one text, it takes maybe 1-2min to type it out and gives op a chance to fix it for the friend. i dont understand how one would even be able to relax knowing those pets might be hungry. anything can happen while an owner is away. the friend is definitely the a*****e and i hope she at least apologizes for not reaching out sooner.

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    Smeghead Tribble Down Under
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This makes my blood BOIL. This sort of thing is why I feel like I could never trust anybody with my animals. If I were in charge of someone else's pets, I would crawl out of my frikkin GRAVE to make sure they were looked after.

    Emilu
    Community Member
    Premium
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So would I. Unfortunately not everyone thinks this way. A friend offered to my mum to look after my birds when I was in ICU as my Mum was working a lot and was going to struggle to look after them + her dog, and Mum said yes and thanked her. The next day she gets a message from my friend saying "oh sorry, wasn't able to check in on the birds after all". Luckily Mum went above and beyond for me and somehow managed to get everything done, but... it still irks me. I get it if people are sick (see my other comment), but I *personally* couldn't leave someone's animal in potential hunger/distress after I'd said I would do otherwise, even if I needed someone/something to give me a big starting kick up the rear.

    Load More Replies...
    Blue Bunny of Happiness
    Community Member
    4 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Advice in the UK is to use water bowls rather than bottles for rabbits. Mine have large heavy ceramic bowls they can’t tip over. Rabbits are prone to gut stasis which can be fatal. They need to be checked at least twice a day to make sure they’re eating as early treatment is vital. Rabbits are not an easy pet, but if you spend time interacting with them and give them space to display natural behaviours, they’re amazing. Source: 25 years of sharing my life with rabbits,.

    ADVERTISEMENT
    ElfVibratorGlitter
    Community Member
    4 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My cat, Rosie, is not doing well rn. 😔 I'm currently unhoused because of a domestic violence situation and just found out yesterday that she's possibly having heart failure. Lots of tests and needs to see a specialist. I put the GoFundMe info on my profile if anyone would be willing to share that around. It's been a really rough few weeks. Thanks.

    Me
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hi, ill share your GoFundMe around as well. I had a look, your cat Rosie is adorable. I hope youre in a safe place and away from the domestic violence situation and the person hurting you. I was in your place 10 years ago. It gets better. My email is in profile if you ever need another person to talk to. Give Rosie the cat a cuddle from me.

    Load More Replies...
    Mel
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Okay, so this one hits hard - I'm currently setting up alarms for every hour during the night to check on my 14yo disabled bunny - it's been a few months, I've been bedridden ill since then and still made sure she's taken care of, still have to carry on with my daily life. This made me a bit sick. I understand that illness can happen at any moment, but if anyone else's well-being is at stake, you make arrangements. If you're ill before they even leave, you call them and let them know. You don't leave them on their own for five days if they're dependent on you.

    Sara Frazer
    Community Member
    4 weeks ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had pneumonia back in October and was about in that state for 2 weeks; had a fever that wouldn't go under 100° for a week, got as high as 103°. All I could do was lay down and listen to podcasts or just sleep, I couldn't look at my phone for more than 10 minutes. That said, I still managed to text people back! There is noooo excuse for not sending at least one small text, heck if you can't type it do voice to text! No excuse!! Or just leave a quick voicemail!! NO EXCUSE!!

    UnclePanda
    Community Member
    Premium
    4 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can attest that rabbits, among other critters, can and will play with, and eventually empty, their water bottles. I thought the blasted things were leaking.

    Firstname Lastname
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Part of the reason I refuse to take any extended trips is because I don't want to entrust my bunny with a long time sitter. I have thankfully found awesome people who let him play and give him food and water, but he is labor of love.

    Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd catch a bullet for someone else's pet I'm sitting w*f is wrong with some people.

    Emilu
    Community Member
    Premium
    3 weeks ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    Non-popular opinion! When I'm sick, the absolute *last* thing I want to be doing is texting everyone saying "hey, I'm sick. Can you do XYZ while I'm under the weather?" In fact, the last thing I want to do is touch my phone because generally when I fell sick, it makes me feel worse. It reminds me of all the responsibility I'm 'shirking' whilst self-absorbed me indulges in being sick. ... this is absolutely not what happens, but it feels that way. I absolutely understand the OP being angry/upset etc because she trusted her friend with her beloved pets but I've also been in the friend's position (not looking after animals, as such, but needing to reply to messages but you *just can't*). I don't think anyone is TA here as such, but OP and the friend need to communicate a lot better if OP is willing to trust her pets to her friend again (and frankly, if she doesn't I wouldn't blame her).

    spacer
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    the pets were relying on this friend for FOOD and safety, their comfort and needs come before any of yours if you have agreed to pet sit. its one text, it takes maybe 1-2min to type it out and gives op a chance to fix it for the friend. i dont understand how one would even be able to relax knowing those pets might be hungry. anything can happen while an owner is away. the friend is definitely the a*****e and i hope she at least apologizes for not reaching out sooner.

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