“Don’t Like My ‘Silly’ Job, You Don’t Get Its ‘Silly’ Perks”: Woman Is Appalled At Soon-To-Be MIL After She Made Fun Of Her Job
Recently, a woman who works in technical theater as an assistant stage manager shared an incident she had with her future mother-in-law.
“This season, Aladdin is coming to town, a show my future mother-in-law has been dying to see. She asked me if I could possibly get her and a friend a seat so they could go see it,” the author who goes by the handle Littleredbird1991 explained in a post on the Petty Revenge subreddit that amassed 12.6k upvotes.
Littleredbird1991 was kind enough to arrange the tickets with a huge discount and reserve them in her name. However, “fast forward a couple of weeks and FMIL invites me and my fiancé over for dinner.”
During the conversation, the mother in law dropped a bomb: “FMIL laughed at me and said what I did wasn’t real work and that it was just a ‘silly side gig’ and that maybe if I got a real job I would know what it is like to really work,” the author recounted.
As you can imagine, this didn’t sit well with Littleredbird1991 who decided to teach her ungrateful FMIL a lesson she’ll remember.
A woman shared how her ungrateful future mother-in-law called her job “a silly side gig” despite the fact that she arranged discount theater tickets for her
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Good for her! I worked at mcdonalds when I was younger, and sometimes I would get c**p from people who looked down on me for it. My brother was unemployed and had asked to borrow 400 dollars for an emergency so I told him I would and would give it to him the next day. That was a lot of money to me but it was important. Later that night, my family was in the living room and my dad was trying to give my brother tips of places he knew were hiring so he could start working asap, and one of the places was wendy's. He was like "I'm not doing that! I'm not mopping floors and flipping burgers. I want a real job." And I was like, WHAT? And he says, 'you want to do that then that's your choice but I'm better than that.' So I was like, 'my money seems real enough to ask for. You're literally poor and just got out of jail with no job, begging your little sister for money. But the type of job I do is beneath you?' Suffice it to say I didn't give him the money- which of course was 'unfair' to him.
GOOD FOR YOU! There's a reason your brother was in jail. He needs a bigger dose of humility!
Load More Replies...Stage management is a real job that requires exceptional organisational skills as well as the ability to manage people and their varies quirks ego, forgetfulness etc. That said, I'm sure there was much of a story here to share, mother in law was rude so you took back the present you got her.
When I hear these MIL stories it just makes me smh. I have 2 daughters in law and I always try to not interfere nor be anything but helpful. Good relationships are vital. Why teach sons that they walk on water? I'm so happy that your husband has your back.
how to determine if something is a "real job". Do you get paid to do it? - if YES, then it is a real job.
As someone who personally knows a stage manager those jobs are no joke! There is so much going on to make sure everyone is where they need to be. They're not just watching the show backstage, they are giving cues, making sure everything is running smoothly. Next time you see a show, give the stage managers their credit, clap extra hard for us techies lol
I have no words for how stupid and entitled FMIL is. That is a real job.
Finally someone does something at the start to set the tone for respect in an in-law type relationship
I guess MIL doesn't think nursing or medicine is a real job, or pilots, or office cleaners, or EMTs, or - well - you get the picture. What a low IQ she is.
Let me guess, the fmil is an entitled older white woman... Shocking😂 and I say that as a white man.
Why bring colour into it at all then? Oh no, wait, what you're actually 'attacking' is women, isn't it?
Load More Replies...It seems as though anyone who doesn't have a close friend or family that do the "techie" side of theatre (manager, lighting, costume, makeup, stage, etc) has no clue about the actual working hours, or number if hours involved. It was an eye-opener to me when my son got into lighting design.
Anything related to theatre, is an exceptional job. It can pay well, good benefits, etc. I've done high school and middle school musicals, and it's a full time job, school or an actual theatre, that isn't a 9 to 5, it's more than that, especially as an assistant stage manager where the roles that need to be done overrules a lot of jobs.
It always annoys me when someone has the gall to tell someone else something isn't good enough. Like dude, where are you? On my a*s? On my back? How would you know anything about it then??
I would have told her right then and there rather than through a text but either way that woman got the message. Lol sucks for her. I went through a Similar situation with my half sister. She was getting married and asked me to talk to my blood sister about getting her into Disney for free. I told her no and she cried like a baby, threw a fit and told her mommy and I got screamed at by my stepmother and father. I laughed in their faces and told them to shove off. Then my step mom tried saying she was only joking about wanting tickets for free. Yeah, sure. Lmao
Good For You! Stand up to her ignorance now or it will only get worse. She's saying your job that covers your expenses is a joke and still wants to use your perks? I pray that it doesn't continue. Trust me. Their are some really weird mama's out there. Some of these mama's need to back off and let their sons be the men they portray them to be. UGH!!! MILaws can be the worst! Trust me! I know! Mine does!
I'm very happy that she had the balls to cancel those tickets. How dare that cow of a FMIL diss the job of ANYONE~~Nevermind that she begged tickets for one of the productions in advance! That woman would be lucky to see FDIL at all after that nasty ungrateful behavior! I'd love to know what FMIL's friend thought about it, if she even heard the truth.
I teach headstart and people looks down on that. It's a lot of work I am not just a teacher we are also therapists counselors etc. We have to observed 20 kids to see how they are developing, mentally emotionally physically. We teach math science reading English etc.. how to work together with others. Some kids needs potty train still we have to do it. We goes into the homes of the kids and work with the family. If parents don't have highschool diploma we work with them making sure they can provide and support their children. Help them understand any learning handicap that their child may present. Encourage them to be hands on with their children education and every day life experience. We write more reports recommendations than anything. We do this to give make sure we can give every child a chance to have a successful life.
Basically put, every job is an important one, even if it may not seem so to others. You know what you do and you know what would happen if you didn't, so kudos and whatever your work, know that you are appreciated.
What job does FMIL have? Many people don’t believe teachers work full time,(FSIL) not me I know the good ones work more than full time.
Wow, so glad i had a nice mother in law if i had one like that i would disown her for sure, i got on well with my ex mother in law she was so down to earth. Sadly my marriage didn't last because of his affair, but i guess he regrets it now because the girl he is with now takes all of his money off him and gives him an allowance. To say his mother told him you had it good when you were with Lin, needless to say he said yeah i did. Miss her she was one fine lady.
If someone in my family worked at a theatre i would brag about it. Wtf is this attitude she has
if you really want to marry this bloke, be sure to move as far away as possible from M-I-L
Since this woman is going to be in your life for the rest of her life (hopefully), I wish that you had handled it more tactfully. I'm sure it felt good to stick her nose in it, but I doubt that she learned a thing from that. However, you two get along now will only get magnified if you and your future husband have children. If your husband gets into the position of choosing between you two, it won't end well.
Round of applause for OP! Also, props to the fiancé for being a supportive partner. We all know that most posts in AITA usually include a not so supportive partner who has a horribly controlling mother that has molded him into a mamas boy. So I'm happy to see that her partner wasn't one of them
Talk about a true MONSTER-in-law! Ouch! Curious what the SIL felt at that moment, too. It also feels like the MIL asked the SIL the question as a set up for this OP. What a horrible thing to say to anyone. No class at all.
Shoot I was the stage manager in 5th grade for a play we put on. It was stressful I can only imagine what she has to deal with. But if it's what you love than its easier for you than someone like me. So proud of you standing your ground. I would of invited her to try it out for a day. Trust me she would cry, I can't stand people that looks down on people because they don't have jobs or careers that they understands. I am so proud of your SO he must know how much of an a** his mother is and don't support it.
Yeah her future MIL is an asshat. But I wonder how their relationship will be now. Probably stinky. I don't blame her, but maybeit would work out better in the l9ng run if she spoke up fot herself and confronted these medieval ideas, and then pointed out that the perks were enviable, and she was responsible for them.
Anyone, please help. Who is FSIL? I know FMIL is future mother in law, but FSIL? I thought there were 3 people at dinner and now am confused.
Why did she need your help if her husband is on the board? Anyway NTA
FMIL is the one who needed a lesson in respect, and an apology requested from someone who'd be snarky like that is meaningless. OP has set a benchmark for how she expects to be treated, and THAT'S what will set them up for a decent relationship in the future.
Load More Replies...I take "cover my expenses" to mean "can afford to live independently". By your definition, a lot of low paid service sector jobs are not "real jobs". Would you tell someone who worked as a cleaner for minimum wage that they didn't have a "real" job?
Load More Replies...Good for her! I worked at mcdonalds when I was younger, and sometimes I would get c**p from people who looked down on me for it. My brother was unemployed and had asked to borrow 400 dollars for an emergency so I told him I would and would give it to him the next day. That was a lot of money to me but it was important. Later that night, my family was in the living room and my dad was trying to give my brother tips of places he knew were hiring so he could start working asap, and one of the places was wendy's. He was like "I'm not doing that! I'm not mopping floors and flipping burgers. I want a real job." And I was like, WHAT? And he says, 'you want to do that then that's your choice but I'm better than that.' So I was like, 'my money seems real enough to ask for. You're literally poor and just got out of jail with no job, begging your little sister for money. But the type of job I do is beneath you?' Suffice it to say I didn't give him the money- which of course was 'unfair' to him.
GOOD FOR YOU! There's a reason your brother was in jail. He needs a bigger dose of humility!
Load More Replies...Stage management is a real job that requires exceptional organisational skills as well as the ability to manage people and their varies quirks ego, forgetfulness etc. That said, I'm sure there was much of a story here to share, mother in law was rude so you took back the present you got her.
When I hear these MIL stories it just makes me smh. I have 2 daughters in law and I always try to not interfere nor be anything but helpful. Good relationships are vital. Why teach sons that they walk on water? I'm so happy that your husband has your back.
how to determine if something is a "real job". Do you get paid to do it? - if YES, then it is a real job.
As someone who personally knows a stage manager those jobs are no joke! There is so much going on to make sure everyone is where they need to be. They're not just watching the show backstage, they are giving cues, making sure everything is running smoothly. Next time you see a show, give the stage managers their credit, clap extra hard for us techies lol
I have no words for how stupid and entitled FMIL is. That is a real job.
Finally someone does something at the start to set the tone for respect in an in-law type relationship
I guess MIL doesn't think nursing or medicine is a real job, or pilots, or office cleaners, or EMTs, or - well - you get the picture. What a low IQ she is.
Let me guess, the fmil is an entitled older white woman... Shocking😂 and I say that as a white man.
Why bring colour into it at all then? Oh no, wait, what you're actually 'attacking' is women, isn't it?
Load More Replies...It seems as though anyone who doesn't have a close friend or family that do the "techie" side of theatre (manager, lighting, costume, makeup, stage, etc) has no clue about the actual working hours, or number if hours involved. It was an eye-opener to me when my son got into lighting design.
Anything related to theatre, is an exceptional job. It can pay well, good benefits, etc. I've done high school and middle school musicals, and it's a full time job, school or an actual theatre, that isn't a 9 to 5, it's more than that, especially as an assistant stage manager where the roles that need to be done overrules a lot of jobs.
It always annoys me when someone has the gall to tell someone else something isn't good enough. Like dude, where are you? On my a*s? On my back? How would you know anything about it then??
I would have told her right then and there rather than through a text but either way that woman got the message. Lol sucks for her. I went through a Similar situation with my half sister. She was getting married and asked me to talk to my blood sister about getting her into Disney for free. I told her no and she cried like a baby, threw a fit and told her mommy and I got screamed at by my stepmother and father. I laughed in their faces and told them to shove off. Then my step mom tried saying she was only joking about wanting tickets for free. Yeah, sure. Lmao
Good For You! Stand up to her ignorance now or it will only get worse. She's saying your job that covers your expenses is a joke and still wants to use your perks? I pray that it doesn't continue. Trust me. Their are some really weird mama's out there. Some of these mama's need to back off and let their sons be the men they portray them to be. UGH!!! MILaws can be the worst! Trust me! I know! Mine does!
I'm very happy that she had the balls to cancel those tickets. How dare that cow of a FMIL diss the job of ANYONE~~Nevermind that she begged tickets for one of the productions in advance! That woman would be lucky to see FDIL at all after that nasty ungrateful behavior! I'd love to know what FMIL's friend thought about it, if she even heard the truth.
I teach headstart and people looks down on that. It's a lot of work I am not just a teacher we are also therapists counselors etc. We have to observed 20 kids to see how they are developing, mentally emotionally physically. We teach math science reading English etc.. how to work together with others. Some kids needs potty train still we have to do it. We goes into the homes of the kids and work with the family. If parents don't have highschool diploma we work with them making sure they can provide and support their children. Help them understand any learning handicap that their child may present. Encourage them to be hands on with their children education and every day life experience. We write more reports recommendations than anything. We do this to give make sure we can give every child a chance to have a successful life.
Basically put, every job is an important one, even if it may not seem so to others. You know what you do and you know what would happen if you didn't, so kudos and whatever your work, know that you are appreciated.
What job does FMIL have? Many people don’t believe teachers work full time,(FSIL) not me I know the good ones work more than full time.
Wow, so glad i had a nice mother in law if i had one like that i would disown her for sure, i got on well with my ex mother in law she was so down to earth. Sadly my marriage didn't last because of his affair, but i guess he regrets it now because the girl he is with now takes all of his money off him and gives him an allowance. To say his mother told him you had it good when you were with Lin, needless to say he said yeah i did. Miss her she was one fine lady.
If someone in my family worked at a theatre i would brag about it. Wtf is this attitude she has
if you really want to marry this bloke, be sure to move as far away as possible from M-I-L
Since this woman is going to be in your life for the rest of her life (hopefully), I wish that you had handled it more tactfully. I'm sure it felt good to stick her nose in it, but I doubt that she learned a thing from that. However, you two get along now will only get magnified if you and your future husband have children. If your husband gets into the position of choosing between you two, it won't end well.
Round of applause for OP! Also, props to the fiancé for being a supportive partner. We all know that most posts in AITA usually include a not so supportive partner who has a horribly controlling mother that has molded him into a mamas boy. So I'm happy to see that her partner wasn't one of them
Talk about a true MONSTER-in-law! Ouch! Curious what the SIL felt at that moment, too. It also feels like the MIL asked the SIL the question as a set up for this OP. What a horrible thing to say to anyone. No class at all.
Shoot I was the stage manager in 5th grade for a play we put on. It was stressful I can only imagine what she has to deal with. But if it's what you love than its easier for you than someone like me. So proud of you standing your ground. I would of invited her to try it out for a day. Trust me she would cry, I can't stand people that looks down on people because they don't have jobs or careers that they understands. I am so proud of your SO he must know how much of an a** his mother is and don't support it.
Yeah her future MIL is an asshat. But I wonder how their relationship will be now. Probably stinky. I don't blame her, but maybeit would work out better in the l9ng run if she spoke up fot herself and confronted these medieval ideas, and then pointed out that the perks were enviable, and she was responsible for them.
Anyone, please help. Who is FSIL? I know FMIL is future mother in law, but FSIL? I thought there were 3 people at dinner and now am confused.
Why did she need your help if her husband is on the board? Anyway NTA
FMIL is the one who needed a lesson in respect, and an apology requested from someone who'd be snarky like that is meaningless. OP has set a benchmark for how she expects to be treated, and THAT'S what will set them up for a decent relationship in the future.
Load More Replies...I take "cover my expenses" to mean "can afford to live independently". By your definition, a lot of low paid service sector jobs are not "real jobs". Would you tell someone who worked as a cleaner for minimum wage that they didn't have a "real" job?
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