Father Disowns Son Over False Allegation, Tracks Him Down Years Later To Say Sorry
Although it’s a bit more rare to see, just like all relationships, sometimes families fall out. There are many reasons for it; sometimes people simply don’t get along with each other, as it often happens elsewhere, and at other times it’s a little more… explosive.
With that in mind, today’s story is pretty crazy, but not very happy. A man fell out with his family years and years ago because of false and damning accusations, but now they want back in.
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No matter how important family relationships are, once the ties are cut, they should sometimes stay cut
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A guy went to the advice community to get some input on what to do about his father reaching out to him in person after disowning him years before
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His dad and the rest of his family had taken an ex’s side after she made false accusations to protect herself from backlash over her own cheating
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The dad eventually found out the allegations were false and decided to track his son down to apologize and beg for forgiveness
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In an update, the poster let people know that he would not be reconciling with his father and the rest of his family
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In a final post, he revealed that he actually flew back to his home town to discuss it all and finally bury his past
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The parents apologized profusely, but the poster was adamant and did not agree to even attempt to restore their relationship
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The ex also apologized, saying that she regrets it all daily and that she’d like to “fix things”
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At that moment the poster showed her and the family pictures of his own happy life out of incredible spite for all of them
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Although the ending is bittersweet, the poster did agree to reconnect with his brother, who didn’t give up on him despite all those years
So, yeah. There you have it. If you’ve honestly made it all this way, patiently reading the entire story, hats off to you.
The most insane part of the story is most likely the person who caused the entire debacle – the ex. Instead of owning up to her cheating like a normal person would (although you have to be quite a bit off to cheat on people to begin with), she doubled down in the most destructive way possible, accusing the poster of assaulting her.
Although there was no evidence, his parents and friend immediately distanced themselves from the guy, probably as a knee-jerk reaction of disbelief and not wanting to be associated with him if it was actually true. If you’re an avid fan of true crime, you’ll understand how often it happens that a person is accused without any evidence at all, but they will be demonized and outcast for it.
It’s almost impossible to believe that anyone would bounce back half as well as the guy did, finding a stable job, a wife, having kids, and even achieving true happiness with his life.
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The girlfriend, not wanting to give up the position of being the craziest person, though, hasn’t let go of the poster, saying that she regrets it all and would reverse things if she could.
The poster refuses this, though, along with any chance of reconciliation with his family. His brother is the only person to gain something out of this entire thing, as it turns out he had tried to contact the poster many, many times, but was prevented by his mother. Perhaps some silver lining could be found in this entire thing.
At the end of the day, it’s up to you to decide the veracity of anyone’s testimony in this story.
The poster’s story grossed over 4.7k upvotes in the Best of Redditor Update community. Among the hundreds of comments, many expressed support for the poster and wished that he and his brother would begin healing their relationship.
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The comments encouraged the poster to connect with the brother and offered loads of support for him
This story reeks of unbelievability to me .. the girl?? The phone?? It would have been so old by the time he'd moved away, got his degree and had kids of his own old enough to play video games .. come on BP!
Perhaps. But… if you have an iPhone, and simply migrate your profile to the next one you get, and the next, and the next, old messages will carry over. It’s wholly possible.
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His father didn't track him down because he believed him. He tracked him down because he stumbled onto the proof of his innocence.
I cut my brother out of my life for raping his then-wife. I learned it from his death wifes diaries. No one believed me and he just said that she was dead so what does it matter. There were other things as well. He wasn't a good guy and if you didn't make excuses for his despicable behaviour it was pretty clear he'd do something like that. On the other hand, I overheard my cousin (by marriage) boasting how she had falsely accused a guy of rape who refused a date with her and called her a stalker-wh0re, which she definitely was. I told her if she didn't come clean, I'd personally find out when her court date was to tell what she had done and also tell the whole family. So in my opinion, everyone at least deserves a fair chance to defend themselves. I really can't understand why that family jumped so quickly to total damnation. My brother is a horrible person and I never liked him, but had I not seen those diaries after my SIL had died, I'd at least been willing to listen to his side.
I don't care if you're Ted Bundy. Everyone deserves to have someone in their lives who believes them innocent of any accusation, who takes their word, who trusts them, who gives them the benefit of the doubt. For many it's at least their mother. Alas, some of us don't get even that. It hurts like hell when you find yourself alone, especially if innocent. And yes, even the guilty should have some support. I understand having doubts, but if you are close to someone & know them well, if you love them, you shouldn't need proof. If you need it, then don't claim you're sorry for your doubts. Be honest & say you thought them capable of whatever they got accused of. Ask for (but don't expect) forgiveness for your *mistake* but don't try to gaslight your way out doubting. The honesty would hurt a little less.
Nothing about this is believable. It's like OP took 3 different stories and mashed them together or something. He never says how old he was when this happened or why his parents were so quick to believe he was guilty, he changed his name, moved to a different country on the other side of the globe and his dad found him and he doesn't elaborate on how dad managed that. The ex cheated accused him of grape, but stayed in contact with her grapists family and nobody thought that was sus? I would think she'd say the other dude graped her not the bf especially if (as she claims yrs later)she still wanted to be with him. The phone thing has multiple problems unless they're all morons, if you need me to elaborate I will but come on, it's obvious. Anyway, idk. Like I said, seems like parts of a bunch of stories were Frankenstein-ed together and isn't quite believable. But what do I know
To be clear, I'm not saying she should have accused the guy she cheated with instead of accusing her bf (OP). Falsely accusing anyone of grape is beyond disgusting and anyone who does this is a garbage human being and should be held accountable
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The mandatory minimum sentence for falsely accusing somebody of a crime should be the maximum sentence the falsely accused would have received.
Of all the things that didn't happen, this didn't happen the most... now why is sharing bs stories like this a problem? Cause it downplays victims on both sides. It is statistically FAR more common a rape is not reported and/or prosecuted than false accusations, which make no mistake happen and should be punished hard. But bs stories like this make the latter seem like the bigger problem, with all women being pure evil, always easily believed and the stand-up good guy being the victim without a voice. Again, false accusations happen and should be punished, justso we're clear.
You took the right decision. They deserve to be treated like scum, as they behaved like scum, and still do – it’s obvious the GF is putting on a grand Academy Awards performance and still lying through her teeth. That they’re still in contact with her after finding out she ruined your life on purpose is eloquent – they are no better than her. Birds of a feather flock together. They're all cahoots even now, and I don't doubt they would pull another stunt on you at one point if you were stupid enough to let them back into your life. Don’t. The best revenge is success. Glad you managed to move on. More power to you!
OP, please write your life story and make into a movie I would love to watch it, mostly because you found happiness and that is a great ending to me.
Another bullshít story from Reddit - but on the one in a million chance that it *is* true, ESH, and I will die on that hill. ;-)
There are countless examples if this being absolutely not true. So many men who were not just accused if rape but actually did it, are still public figures.
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This story reeks of unbelievability to me .. the girl?? The phone?? It would have been so old by the time he'd moved away, got his degree and had kids of his own old enough to play video games .. come on BP!
Perhaps. But… if you have an iPhone, and simply migrate your profile to the next one you get, and the next, and the next, old messages will carry over. It’s wholly possible.
Load More Replies... His father didn't track him down because he believed him. He tracked him down because he stumbled onto the proof of his innocence.
I cut my brother out of my life for raping his then-wife. I learned it from his death wifes diaries. No one believed me and he just said that she was dead so what does it matter. There were other things as well. He wasn't a good guy and if you didn't make excuses for his despicable behaviour it was pretty clear he'd do something like that. On the other hand, I overheard my cousin (by marriage) boasting how she had falsely accused a guy of rape who refused a date with her and called her a stalker-wh0re, which she definitely was. I told her if she didn't come clean, I'd personally find out when her court date was to tell what she had done and also tell the whole family. So in my opinion, everyone at least deserves a fair chance to defend themselves. I really can't understand why that family jumped so quickly to total damnation. My brother is a horrible person and I never liked him, but had I not seen those diaries after my SIL had died, I'd at least been willing to listen to his side.
I don't care if you're Ted Bundy. Everyone deserves to have someone in their lives who believes them innocent of any accusation, who takes their word, who trusts them, who gives them the benefit of the doubt. For many it's at least their mother. Alas, some of us don't get even that. It hurts like hell when you find yourself alone, especially if innocent. And yes, even the guilty should have some support. I understand having doubts, but if you are close to someone & know them well, if you love them, you shouldn't need proof. If you need it, then don't claim you're sorry for your doubts. Be honest & say you thought them capable of whatever they got accused of. Ask for (but don't expect) forgiveness for your *mistake* but don't try to gaslight your way out doubting. The honesty would hurt a little less.
Nothing about this is believable. It's like OP took 3 different stories and mashed them together or something. He never says how old he was when this happened or why his parents were so quick to believe he was guilty, he changed his name, moved to a different country on the other side of the globe and his dad found him and he doesn't elaborate on how dad managed that. The ex cheated accused him of grape, but stayed in contact with her grapists family and nobody thought that was sus? I would think she'd say the other dude graped her not the bf especially if (as she claims yrs later)she still wanted to be with him. The phone thing has multiple problems unless they're all morons, if you need me to elaborate I will but come on, it's obvious. Anyway, idk. Like I said, seems like parts of a bunch of stories were Frankenstein-ed together and isn't quite believable. But what do I know
To be clear, I'm not saying she should have accused the guy she cheated with instead of accusing her bf (OP). Falsely accusing anyone of grape is beyond disgusting and anyone who does this is a garbage human being and should be held accountable
Load More Replies... The mandatory minimum sentence for falsely accusing somebody of a crime should be the maximum sentence the falsely accused would have received.
Of all the things that didn't happen, this didn't happen the most... now why is sharing bs stories like this a problem? Cause it downplays victims on both sides. It is statistically FAR more common a rape is not reported and/or prosecuted than false accusations, which make no mistake happen and should be punished hard. But bs stories like this make the latter seem like the bigger problem, with all women being pure evil, always easily believed and the stand-up good guy being the victim without a voice. Again, false accusations happen and should be punished, justso we're clear.
You took the right decision. They deserve to be treated like scum, as they behaved like scum, and still do – it’s obvious the GF is putting on a grand Academy Awards performance and still lying through her teeth. That they’re still in contact with her after finding out she ruined your life on purpose is eloquent – they are no better than her. Birds of a feather flock together. They're all cahoots even now, and I don't doubt they would pull another stunt on you at one point if you were stupid enough to let them back into your life. Don’t. The best revenge is success. Glad you managed to move on. More power to you!
OP, please write your life story and make into a movie I would love to watch it, mostly because you found happiness and that is a great ending to me.
Another bullshít story from Reddit - but on the one in a million chance that it *is* true, ESH, and I will die on that hill. ;-)
There are countless examples if this being absolutely not true. So many men who were not just accused if rape but actually did it, are still public figures.
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