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Woman Bends Over Backwards To Care For Autistic Bro, Snaps When Entitled Parents Demand Even More
Let’s be real: you’re pretty much expected to go the extra mile for family, but there have got to be some limits, or you’ll soon find yourself being taken advantage of. That only leads to resentment, and possibly a full-blown family feud. Nobody needs that noise.
One woman turned to an online community to vent after she spent the last three years bending over backwards to take care of her autistic brother while her folks didn’t lift a finger. When she put her foot down, though, things went south fast.
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You’re basically expected to put family first but, without boundaries in place, things can get complicated fast
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One woman moved back home to take care of her autistic brother, not expecting to be saddled with full-time caregiver duty
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She’s made all kind of sacrifices to make sure her brother gets the kind of care he needs, but her parents have barely lifted a finger to help
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When she finally pushed back, though, her parents accused her of being selfish and her aunt even sent her text that was basically a shameless guilt-trip
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Crushed under the weight of being on call 24/7, the woman realized she was headed for a complete burnout
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Things finally blew up at a family dinner, leading to her walking out, so now she’s turned to netizens to ask whether reclaiming just a tiny piece of her life was a jerk move
When the original poster (OP) moved back to her hometown, she imagined helping her autistic younger brother “for a little while.” Instead, she became his full-time crisis manager, chauffeur, emotional anchor, and general fixer of anything life threw at him. Her parents, overwhelmed, unsure, and in their sixties, leaned on her for every emergency, big, small, and sometimes barely real.
Three years later, OP was burning out fast. Balancing a full-time job, online classes, and a relationship, all while being on 24/7 standby left her exhausted. The breaking point came when her mom asked her to take her brother to urgent care for a sore throat… on a day when she could barely drag herself home. For OP, saying no wasn’t rebellion, it was a survival tactic.
Her parents, however, didn’t see it that way. They grew cold, relatives chimed in with guilt trips, and a tense family dinner reached boiling point when her mom openly implied she was selfish. For the first time ever, OP firmly said she couldn’t be the only adult stepping up, and that setting boundaries wasn’t a luxury, it was long overdue self-preservation. Then she got up and walked out before dessert even hit the table.
Leaving the dinner sparked drama, silence, and even more accusations, but her brother quietly supported her. Now she’s left wondering if finally protecting her mental health makes her the villain, or if this was simply the moment she stopped drowning to keep everyone else’s heads above water.
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To be honest, OP’s parents sound like entitled jerks who refuse to even try to pull their weight when it comes to what should really be a team effort. OP’s attempt at creating some reasonable limits went down in flames, so how can she put an end to the relentless guilt trips her family keeps trying to send her on? We went searching for solutions.
The pros over at PsychCentral say signs of a guilt-tripping parent include passive-aggressive behavior, giving you the silent treatment, reminding you of your past mistakes, recalling all the things they’ve done for you, disagreeing with most (if not all) of your decisions, and becoming emotionally distant. Pretty much ticks every box on OP’s parents’ list, right?
Writing for VeryWellMind, Kendra Cherry suggests a few ways you can shut down a parental guilt trip in its tracks, like responding with genuine empathy, telling them honestly how their attempt at manipulation makes you feel, and clearly explaining your limits, as well as the consequences they’ll face if they keep trampling all over them.
We’d say OP is already halfway there. By walking out of the dinner, she drew a line in the sand that surely can’t be ignored. Here’s hoping she’ll take netizens’ advice to heart and claw back the kind of life she can actually enjoy again. We’re pretty sure her brother will understand.
What’s your take? Is OP being unreasonable, or is it time her parents get a badly needed reality check? Drop your thoughts in the comments!
In the comments, readers all agreed that the woman was not the jerk in the whole mess and slammed her parents for being such slackers when it came to helping out
What do you think ?
sweet emotion 49 minutes ago
What OP needs to do is get out of that "group chat" nonsense and let them all talk behind her back - because they will stop when they realize she isn't reading their criticisms. She was right to tell her brother he could contact her if HE needed something, and now she needs to tell mom and dad that the interfering aunt can step up for "family" assistance. Letting a few calls go to voicemail and ignoring text messages would help, too.
sweet emotion 49 minutes ago
What OP needs to do is get out of that "group chat" nonsense and let them all talk behind her back - because they will stop when they realize she isn't reading their criticisms. She was right to tell her brother he could contact her if HE needed something, and now she needs to tell mom and dad that the interfering aunt can step up for "family" assistance. Letting a few calls go to voicemail and ignoring text messages would help, too.
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