Guy Does A Hilariously Spot-On Analysis Of Dating Perpetually Single Women And Ladies Love It

If you don't have anything to offer that's better than what she's already got, go work on yourself until you can offer something. Volunteer, lean hobbies or languages, join a team or a read a ton. Be interesting because a partner doesn't need you for survival, they want their lives to be richer for having you with them. If you are looking to date someone who needs you for survival, you're looking for a pet.

42 yo F, single and thriving here! I am actually not opened to dating atm. I did date for awhile after my divorce and it was exactly as the OP explained. As soon as I sensed some need fo control, dominance, over/codependence or any evident big red flag, I just noped out. Why would I do that to myself? I mean, It would be awesome to have an adventure and life partner, but without invading our time and spaces. However, if I don't find that partner, I still have a great life on my own 😉 (booking my next solo Rock festival as I write). Just a correction to OPs post: my cat is the one sleeping in diagonal in my bed. She kindly gives me the corner 😂.

"ladies, there's been a security breach" rofl! my thoughts exactly!

Women who have been single a long time are women able to support themselves successfully, so don’t need a man to keep a roof over their heads. They love the autonomy that comes with having their own homes, all to themselves. And their pets if they have any. They will not be trad wives or SAHMs, they will not subordinate themselves to any man, ever. They will be working women, each one capable of supporting their family should they lose their partner’s second income for whatever reason. They do not NEED a man in their lives for anything. No, not even that. However, when the right man comes along, they will WANT to be with him. The distinction is really important. She won’t need to be with him, she will want to be with him. See the difference? So he has to be aware of that, have no issue with that, and strive every day with her to live up to that and to deserve her. Because if he doesn’t, she’s very capable of booting him out and going back to being very happily on her own again. Wanting to be with someone is so much better and healthier than needing to be with them, whether emotionally or financially. Wanting to be with someone comes from full consent to be with them. I would rather have someone want to be with me of their own free will than to have to be with me because they can’t otherwise support themself or they’re emotionally clingy and needy. I’m not a control freak, I don’t need, or even want, to force someone to change into something they’re not, I don’t need to make someone else feel bad about themself so I can feel good about myself, I will not put on an act to fool someone into being with me then change into a completely different person once they’re hooked. No. I don’t need to be with anyone. I can support myself just fine, and was just as happy single as I am married. I want my husband to want to be with me like I want to be with him, and he does. Him exerting his free will in deciding to be with me also keeps me on my toes and being the best person I can be, because if I slack off and turn into an a*****e, he has every right to be GONE. But it will all be my own fault, and not at all his. That’s also a two-way street, so he continues to be the best person he can be too, because he knows I can leave and be just fine without him. BTW, on May 25 this year, we will have been married 24 years.

I feel like that is where I am at as a single man. I don't need anyone in my life to feel content. If you can add to my contentment , come on in. if you can't life is too short to waste my time.

Unless you’re in a long term relationship, who shows up unannounced?

LOL! This was a great read. And probably true.

Chairman Meow!

I don't like the equation of "being single" with "being alone". It's not like romantic relationships are a woman's only option in life. I know lots of single women who are extroverts, socialize a lot with friends, and plan trips with friends. I'm introverted, so I spend a lot of time alone, but I get together with family regularly, and we sometimes take trips together. And there are plenty of single women who choose to have children and raise a family. I just don't like the underlying assumption that a single woman must thereby be lonely and do everything "solo," or that she doesn't still have to learn how to coordinate and compromise with other people.

I love my husband and I got a really good one, a partner in life. But if something were to happen...no way would I date again. Ew.

This is exactly the correct starting point for women (and, I'd argue, men). If your life is ticking along nicely already and someone turns up that makes it even better, this is a good sign. If you are searching for someone to make your life complete you run a high risk of ending up making a big mistake.

Oh, lil boy is bitter because he thought he's god's gift to women and a couple of them laughed in his face because they prefer their peaceful single life over his entitled attitude. :D

😆 i got married at 38. I did tell my husband that his rivals are Gojo Satoru and Coach Ukai. Only loss that came with this marriage was sharing a king size bed compared to sleeping alone in my double bed. However it was actually good because I am very prone to nightmares.

I don't like living alone, but I'm also not designed for social interactions. That's why I find my happiness in being a SAHW: I love spending time with my partner, but I also love to be home alone most of the day while they're at work. Cleaning is fun when I can have music or podcasts playing, and I truly enjoy moving things around and changing the look of the whole place within a day.