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Daughter Tells Dad About Her Sexist School Policy, So He Shuts It Down In Best Way Possible
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Daughter Tells Dad About Her Sexist School Policy, So He Shuts It Down In Best Way Possible

In the small village of Wongarbon, Australia, about 381 km northwest of Sydney, a strange phenomenon has taken place; a 12-year-old girl named Ruby Callaghan has apparently traveled back in time during a routine school day. Her father, in a state of disbelief, has written a letter demanding an explanation from the educational institute, claiming that his daughter left the house on Tuesday morning in the current year of 2017, was transported back to 1968 upon entering the school building, and was returned to him endowed with harrowing tales of gender-segregated field trips. “My reaction was one of disappointment,” Stephen Callaghan told Bored Panda.

According to Dubbo West Public School’s latest newsletter, ahead of the its self-proclaimed Boy’s And Girl’s Day, girls will be “treated to fabulous hair and light make-up,” while boys will be “going to Bunnings [hardware store], activities and a BBQ lunch.” Though a Department of Education spokesperson has stated that any student can choose either activity, Ruby’s father told us that she “specifically asked her teacher if she could go to Bunnings instead and was told it was only for the boys.” Could the space-time continuum have been breached, or are kids still being subjected to such forms of casual sexism in 2017?

“I feel the school has a responsibility to break down these gender divisions,” Mr. Callaghan said further on the matter. As a father to 3 girls, the issue is especially dear to him, and he added that he and his wife wish to give their daughters “the confidence to speak up when they feel they are being discriminated against because they are female.”

Just like most of us back home, Ruby reportedly saw both the humor and the sad reality in her dad’s letter, and was glad he sent it. Scroll down to read it for yourself, and don’t forget to add your view in the comments.

A father in Australia is accusing his daughter’s school of unauthorized time-travel after a ‘serious incident’

“Dear Principal,

I must draw your attention to a serious incident which occurred yesterday at your school where my daughter Ruby is a year 6 student.

When Ruby left for school yesterday it was 2017 but when she returned home in the afternoon she was from 1968.

I know this to be the case as Ruby informed me that the “girls” in Year 6 would be attending the school library to get their hair and make-up done on Monday afternoon while the “boys” are going to Bunnings.

Are you able tos earch the school buildings for a rip in the space-time coninuum? Perhaps there is a faulty Flux Capacitor hidden away in the girls toilet block?

I look forward to this being rectified and my daughter and others girls at the school being returned to this millenium where schools activities are not divided among gender lives.

Sincerely,

Stephen Callaghan”

We contacted Mr. Callaghan for comment, and he revealed that Ruby “specifically asked her teacher if she could go to Bunnings instead and was told it was only for the boys”

Some people, perhaps blind to the perils of space-time continuum fractures, stood behind the school

Others, however, were quick to commend the father on his stance against bygone eras and their mindsets

He even came forward to brilliantly sum up the entire dialogue

What do you think? Should time-travel be reserved for the big screen and Doc Brown? Tell us below!

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frederic eeckman
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't get the people who disagree with him. Especially the one saying that there is nothing wrong with that because SHE wouldn't have liked it... Self centered vision of the world ? It's not really about what the school did, of course a majority of the girls enjoyed the make-up activity, and most of the boys probably loved their trip to the DIY store, it's about the CHOICE. Like it's said at the beginning, she wasn't ask to choose, THAT is the issue...

Wanda Queen
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That was my first thought, too. Sheesh.

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Talia Johnson
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Know any male hairdressers?"....um yes!!!! For heaven's sake.

Alusair Alustriel
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My question is what was the principal's answer.

Pseudo Puppy
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

being based in Australia, I'm seriously considering calling the school myself, to find out! (hopefully, they changed their criteria to "you can choose one of 2 activities: DIY class, or grooming class"... because boys need to know how to present themselves well too, if they ever want to get a job or a date when they grow up)

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BREAK YOUr perceptions
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

talk about missing the bleeding point! all these people who dont get what the problem is, (YOU ARE THE PROBLEM) not everyone wants to do make up, i know plenty of women who would much rather go to a workshop then some forced makeup BS. enforcing gender stereotypes is beyond its time, it needs to DIE.

Beth Gael
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mr Osbourne, I was 12 in 1983, and we had similar gender-based activities. I was pretty effing offended at not being "allowed" to do the boy things and I don't like makeup. Just as well my dad taught me that stuff, because I ended up having 5 sons and a daughter and speaking as a Mother, it is good that I had a more rounded education than just how to put on my bleeping mascara. I taught my boys how to build a treehouse.

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Elizabeth Lord Cary
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with the Dad, if they have a policy of allowing students to pick which activity they want to participate in they should actually follow that policy. I'm a female who works in tech, I would have had and still have no interest in the hair and make up but the building session would have been of great interest to me.

Judith Finch
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I did my work experience (back in the day) the school told you to write down your choice of where you'd want to go work. Being a bit of a lad, I wrote down car mechanic. They refused and sent me to be a carer at a disabled childrens home. Now don't get me wrong that was a worthwhile thing to do, but I'd rather have learned about cars!! Sad to see nothings changed!

alwright
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey Judith, please ignore the troll that replied to your comment. You have a good point and I am sorry you could not choose your area of study. And yes, there is still sexism in the world, but it has gotten much better and will hopefully continue to do so. It is just important to not let closed minded people like that take control.

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Carol Paulsen
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was a little girl, I didn't want dolls--however, that was the gift I always received! I wanted a gas station like my little brother got! It did things! Dolls didn't DO anything! However, I grew up to have a very nice collection of power tools and know how to use them! But I can also wear a dress and makeup, and do my hair appropriately. Women can have both worlds!

Shannon McKee
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I grew up with both "boy" and "girl" toys. I played with Barbie, Littlest Pet Shop, and Polly Pocket but I also loved playing with Hot Wheels and Micro Machines.

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Marnee DeRider
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let's teach girls how to be pretty! That's SUPER important. It's what they are there for, obviously, to be looked at.

alwright
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sarcasm. Funny, but not always translated well in text.

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Adria Rhodes
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The right to choose. That is all.

Weeping Willowz (WeepingWillowz)
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At my primary school (which was mixed, I go to a single sex school now) for year six, we had two end of year courses. The boys were going to a really fun videogaming and chemistry course while the girls got to look after toddlers and learn to make pancakes. We didn’t even get a choice. And the whole thing had a 1930s vibe to its.

alwright
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey Weeping Willowz, please ignore the troll that replied to your comment. You have a good point and speak truth. Obviously it's too thoughtful for some people.

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Nichol Leonardo
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think there's anything wrong with the activities per se it's just really sad that it still suit gender-based. All people what is choice without judgment and if that means boys want to play with make up and some of them are amazing at it and girls want to do boys activities and I happened to be really good at it without judgment that's the bottom line

alwright
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey Nichol, please ignore the troll that replied to your comment. You have a very good argument and open minded perspective. It is clearly too advanced for some people on a lower level.

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未周 陸
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To tell the truth, all students should attend BOTH Activities for educational purpose: To better themselves with knowledge and practical [LIFE] Skills Learnt from home and schools in order to be Self-Sufficient/Independent as an adult in the future! Sure, it's understandable that, in this case, Both Activities are pre-arranged to take place at the Same Time but at Different Locations. So, WHY NOT Give a sign-up sheet for ALL students to CHOOSE which activity to attend?! WHY Can't ALL student Have A CHOICE to decide which activity to go?!

alwright
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey 未周 陸, please ignore the idiot that replied to your comment. You have a good argument and a progressive attitude. Clearly it makes TOO much sense for some people to handle.

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Sally Lindsey
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The school should have followed through with giving them a choice. I have 3 granddaughters and I know which each of them would have chosen. One would get her face painted, one would go do DIY stuff, and the third would skip school that day because both of those choices are pretty lame for 6th grade outings.

Jean-luc Picard
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hahahaha. I'm in the same boat and what's more, their parents would support their decision 100%.

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Shana
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Know any male hairdressers?" Really? Most hairdressers I've been too were men, or there were men working in the place too. Should just give the kids the option to choose and end the day together with the bbq lunch. (seeing as there isn't any food mentioned for the girls?)

Shana
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've been to,** (Give us an edit comment option BoredPanda :P )

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Kiahna
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Like at my school. The girls got a high tea with hair, jewellery and little pot plants- while the boys got a barbecue with games and a guest speaker.

Darlon Shelter
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What most people do not know, is that times and the world have changed. I do not see anything of abnormal when a 6-year-old girl enjoys soccer practice, and a 7-year-old boy likes the hairdressing profession. We parents have to leave them at ease in the chose of their activities, professional or not. The same criterion if applies to homo-affective relationships. Let them be happy the way they think that's better for them. Freedom of choice will be eternally grateful.

alwright
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey Darlon, please ignore the troll that replied to your comment. You have a great point and a very positive message. Clearly it is too open minded for some people.

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Hollie Newton
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tbh my issue with all of this is girls doing make up at 12 and school a encouraging it wtf!! I didn't wear make up until 14 even now I dont give too much of a crap over it. If my child came home with a face full of slap saying the school let us do it I would be fuming children are growing up far too fast these days

alwright
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hollie, please do not listen to the idiot that replied to your comment. You have a good point and not caring about makeup is a strong way of liking yourself the way you are. And no amount of makeup can fix the attitude of that hateful person.

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Maria Myrback
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My youngest son does hair. He did my husband's and mine over Thanksgiving. I've had other male hair stylists and colorists, too. These people disagreeing with the Dad are either stuck in that time warp or they're too caught up in themselves to recognize that this is the 21st century.

alwright
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey Maria, please ignore the brainless imbecile that replied to your comment. You have a good point and a very progressive attitude. Clearly it is too much to handle for closed minded individuals. :/

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Cassie
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate makeup and school is for learning. I don't mind that they do fun activities at times, but I would have been utterly miserable being made to sit through makeup. The boys' activity sounds way more interesting to me.

lala la
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously, if they're making some kind of event for make-up I'd probably just leave the school for the day.

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Lianna Valdez
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe the school was too afraid to let them pick. Because they probably did not want the boys getting their hair and makeup done. They would not know how to handle that situation.

Daria B
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's exactly the problem. Enforced gender roles.

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Maureen Anderson
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have to agree with this father and daughter...because in 1968, I was one who broke the barrier in our school. Canadian..Grade 9: choose an elective ( extra course to make up the year. I wasn't interested in Typing( already failed that once), Home Ec( cooking and sewing..already did that) Coral ( can't carry a tune in a bucket even with the lid on) BUT...I was interested in Wood working or Automotive. After much fighting and hardship, I did get into Automotive, and did that right up until Graduation. Can't work on todays' cars to well due to computer stuff......but give me a Classic and I can do almost as well as any male.

TheMsLollidella
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd be the kid in the back like "I don't like either , can i just go home ?" Lol

Jean-luc Picard
Community Member
4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Back in my day (long time ago) I would have just stayed home that day with some dangerous virus or something lol

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Kara Blumenthal
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't forget the guys who want their hair and makeup done instead of a DIY workshop.

Gerry Higgins
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Give the kids a choice between which one they want to do. Is that so complicated?

Louis Viegas
Community Member
4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They should just let the kids chose what they want to do. I might have preferred the hair thing1 :) :)

Master Markus
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What is Bunnings? You mean the hardware store? That's a weird place to take kids (maybe they had an event set up though?).

alwright
Community Member
4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey Master Markus, please do not listen to the troll that replied to your comment. That stupidness was completely unnecessary.

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SnoopyCereal
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have tried to sneak in with the guys because I wear jeans and T-shirt and have real short hair...

alwright
Community Member
4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey SnoopyCereal, please ignore the troll that replied to your comment. I think what you said made perfect sense and honestly I would have tried the same. :)

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Daria B
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One day she will build a time machine that will push us all forward into a better future! You go, little doctor! Don't let anyone shape your interests into something you find boring. As for the school, I seriously don't understand why they didn't let the students choose in the first place. They could make 2 or 3 various kinds of activities and let the students sign up to what they prefer, making groups accordingly.

pusheen buttercup
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also, I do know some male hair dressers, and I've worked with them. From what I have observed, some are feminine, some are not, both have done a good job. I also know of some male make up artists, equally as skilled. Depending on the area that you live in, you may not find these things to be very likely, but they do in fact happen, and are not as rare a thing in other parts of the country. It's mostly cultural, in my opinion. If you tell someone they are likely to be bad at something, they have a higher chance of being bad at it. I don't encourage that practice though, as you could wipe a gem from the face of the earth.

Eframit Orozco
Community Member
4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I totally agree with this parent. Even more, I'm a teacher in a school in a country where I'm a foreigner and I was sooooooooooo shock when I learnt that in MY OWN SCHOOL girls are taught how to sew or cook while boys how to fix things around the house. What???? Why???? Doesn't boys eat??? Doesn't girls have problems with leaking taps or lamps???? Now I understand, I just didn't travel geographycally, I even travelled in time!!!

alwright
Community Member
4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Eframit, please so not listen to the idiot that replied to you comment, you have a very valid argument and your grammar is nothing like that mindless stupidness written.

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Mike Miller
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my 1960s junior high in Casper WY the boys took wood and metal shop while the girls took "home ec" (cooking and sewing). But during each semester we swapped for a few weeks. By high school we could choose electives. We're we terribly enlightened, or we forward time travelers? I don't know. On the other hand, in high school, the girls dress code was wbite blouses and navy skirts to the knee. Boys rules were button shirts and slacks of choice. So they had "uniforms", we just had rules. There was usually a senior end of year party for girls at which uniform skirts were bonfired. I have observed that many modern public schools require uniforms for school, a policy generally applauded by parents and students alike. So this time travel thing is getting a bit confused. Is Stewie driving the time machine?

Mike Miller
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh. I forgot. In the spring we had a uniform holiday. My senior year, I wore my cousin's navy skirt, a shirt, and a gold blazer - the uniform of the girls' service club. Oh, and black socks and plain going-to-church shoes. This was 1967, mind you. There were many screams in the halls that day. I visited the office, and the vice principal (with whom I was on very good terms) took me into the girls' counselor's officer and told her "This is why girls should not wear short skirts." When she didn't understand what he meant from her seat behind her desk, he told her to stand up. She howled and collapsed in laughter. At our 30th reunion, she didn't remember my face or name, but she remembered the skinny, hairy legs. 🤣😂😁

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Nicole Goodfellow
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sick of the sexism in the world. It has to end NOW. Good on this guy - a great dad

Lori Jansen
Community Member
4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

On the whole, I would prefer to go to the hardware store than be bored to death by hair and makeup tips. Zzzzzzz. The hardware store actually is an interesting place to visit.

Michelle Dodson
Community Member
4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good on you, Dad! More fathers need to "get the memo" about raising their daughters. Yes, we're girls. Not all of us like pink and pretty and horses. Some of us don't like worms or spiders or snails. BUT - we matter. We're not "less than" because we lack a penis. We can be so much MORE if we get the guidance, love and support from our Fathers. I basically blew up my HS chem lab (turpentine+iodine crystals=really sticky purple smoke). They wanted to expel me, but my Dad argued that I was simply engaging in an experiment I had learned in my English class. He was very persuasive. and I was allowed to remain in school (I had to clean the residue off the ceiling and walls, which took FOREVER). I got grounded at home for being a pain in the ass, but I gained such a deep respect for my Father. He stood up for me. 40 years later - it still makes me proud.

Lydia Johnson
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let the students select or opt-out. So simple. What was the school's response? How old are Australian year 6 students? I'm in the US.

Leoninus Fate
Community Member
4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

how about they just let the kids do wut they want? that was the problem, everyone is like "oh its boys and girls stuff" NO ITS BECAUSE ONE CHILD WANTS TO DO SOMETHING AND OTHERS ARE BEING ASSHOLES AND THINKING THAT ONE TYPE OF KID WANTS ONE TYPE it doesn't matter if it's for boys or girls, they should have just put both activities up and just let any kind that wanted to sign for wut they wanted THAT IS WUT THE DAD WAS WANTING THAT IS WUT WAS BEING ADDRESSED HERE ALL YOU IDIOT MAKING IT ABOUT BOYS AND GIRLS GENDER .....JUST FUCKING LET PEOPLE DO AS THEY WANT IT Won't HURT THEM

manowce
Community Member
4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Markus, how is sex "pretty usual" for 12-year-olds?! where the hell do you live?

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