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Woman Explodes In Slurs After 15YO Daughter Comes Out As Bi, Husband Looks For Divorce Papers
Parenting is one of the most rewarding things a person can do, but it’s probably also one of the hardest. And when two parents aren’t aligned on big values, like how to support their children through life’s different moments, those cracks can turn into deep rifts.
That’s exactly the crossroads today’s Original Poster (OP) found himself at. When his teenage daughter came out as bisexual, he was ready to offer her love and reassurance. However, his wife’s reaction was anything but supportive, and it left him feeling like he had to choose between standing by his child or holding his marriage together.
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The author had been married to his wife for fifteen years, and also had a very close relationship with his daughter
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One night, the daughter came out to them as bisexual and his wife began to rant about how she’s now an embarrassment to the family
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He wasn’t entirely shocked at her reaction because she grew up in a super religious home, however, he was deeply upset at her words to their daughter
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The author had been rejected by his parents when he was younger due to some trouble he got into, so he vowed never to treat his children like that
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His wife definitely wasn’t happy about this, and then threatened to divorce him since he supported their daughter’s “lifestyle”
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The wife also blamed him for raising her that way, but he made it clear that he would choose their daughter over her in this situation
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The author clarified that while he doesn’t necessarily believe homosexuality is right, he will always love and support his daughter regardless
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In an update, the author revealed that he has served the wife divorce papers and this left the daughter feeling distraught as she felt bad for “ruining the family”
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However, he told her that it would be unfair of him to let her grow up in a home that could affect her mentally and emotionally
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The wife didn’t take it well and expressed her disappointment in him for choosing their daughter over her
The OP and his wife have been through 15 years of marriage, and he shared a close relationship with his daughter. However, when their daughter came out as bisexual, his wife, raised in a strict religious household, exploded with hateful slurs and threats of disownment that shocked him. While he knew she was conservative, nothing prepared him for the level of hostility she displayed.
The dad shared that he had a rocky past of his own. After getting in trouble as a teen, he was abandoned by his parents and forced to live with his grandparents, and the emotional scars from being rejected shaped his outlook on parenting in that no child of his would ever feel that kind of betrayal.
So his wife’s reaction didn’t sit well with him and he snapped. She then accused him of raising a “sinful child” and threatened divorce if he continued to support their daughter. However, he didn’t back down and eventually told her to “shut the hell up,” which only worsened the tension between them.
The OP began questioning whether the marriage would survive the situation, but eventually stated in an update that he would be divorcing his wife as he was bent on providing a loving home for his daughter.
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According to Better Marriage, when couples hold fundamentally different values, especially around deeply personal issues like parenting or religion, it can lead to serious conflict and long-term damage in the relationship.
If neither partner is open to compromise or understanding the other’s point of view, it often results in more arguments, reduced communication, and emotional strain. Over time, this can spiral into resentment, anxiety, and a breakdown in mutual respect.
Manochikitsa, on the other hand, explains that coming out can be a deeply vulnerable moment for LGBTQ individuals, especially when faced with the fear of rejection by family. This rejection often stems from cultural or religious beliefs, societal pressure, or a simple lack of understanding.
They highlight that this rejection can show up as emotional withdrawal or even outright abandonment which could take a psychological toll on the person rejected, as it fuels anxiety, chronic stress, low self-worth, and deep emotional pain.
As Charisma Magazine highlights, Christian families navigating relationships with LGBTQ loved ones are often faced with a difficult emotional and spiritual balancing act. However, the faith itself offers clear guidance that believers are called to embody love, kindness, patience, gentleness, and self-control in all interactions as it creates a more compassionate and accepting environment.
Netizens stood in support of the OP for choosing his daughter’s well-being over his now ex-wife’s harmful actions. They praised him for his unwavering commitment to raising his daughter in love, while fully condemning the ex-wife’s behavior. Many urged the OP to fight for full custody, emphasizing that he was doing the right thing by protecting his daughter from bigotry.
What do you think about this situation? Do you think the OP made the right call by prioritizing his daughter over his wife? We would love to know your thoughts!
Netizens applauded the author for defending his daughter and commended him for being a great father
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Janelle Collard 7 months ago
OP absolutely did the right thing, sticking up for his daughter + divorcing his wife. How many stories have we read about parents who refuse to accept their children AS THEY ARE?
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
OP is a good dad. I had a dad like OP. When I was having my own issues in my teen years (clinical depression, su!cidal ideation/urges) my mom was like "mental illness isn't real" and "su!cidal people just want attention" (literal quotes - I still remember them clearly, decades later.) My dad was wonderful and he found a therapist for me and snuck me to my therapy appts. (He was a good man, but he wasn't a strong man - my mother called all the shots in our family; she was abus!ve to him as well, including physically attacking him, and he never tried to stop her/fight back.) The therapy and medication (which I also had to hide from my mom) basically saved my life - I would have unalived myself if my dad hadn't been there for me. That's why I chose to stay living at home after his accident to be his primary caregiver for 21 years - I loved my dad and I would have done anything for him. OP's daughter will absolutely remember her dad's words, actions, and his love for the rest of her life.
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Nichole Harris 7 months ago
I have NEVER agreed with one of these posts more..... What a witch.....
Stannous Flouride 7 months ago
Leave Wiccans out of this. /s (I am guessing you were avoiding the frequent and often nonsensical censorship here of words like b¡t¢h)
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Janelle Collard 7 months ago
OP absolutely did the right thing, sticking up for his daughter + divorcing his wife. How many stories have we read about parents who refuse to accept their children AS THEY ARE?
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
OP is a good dad. I had a dad like OP. When I was having my own issues in my teen years (clinical depression, su!cidal ideation/urges) my mom was like "mental illness isn't real" and "su!cidal people just want attention" (literal quotes - I still remember them clearly, decades later.) My dad was wonderful and he found a therapist for me and snuck me to my therapy appts. (He was a good man, but he wasn't a strong man - my mother called all the shots in our family; she was abus!ve to him as well, including physically attacking him, and he never tried to stop her/fight back.) The therapy and medication (which I also had to hide from my mom) basically saved my life - I would have unalived myself if my dad hadn't been there for me. That's why I chose to stay living at home after his accident to be his primary caregiver for 21 years - I loved my dad and I would have done anything for him. OP's daughter will absolutely remember her dad's words, actions, and his love for the rest of her life.
Load More Replies... Nichole Harris 7 months ago
I have NEVER agreed with one of these posts more..... What a witch.....
Stannous Flouride 7 months ago
Leave Wiccans out of this. /s (I am guessing you were avoiding the frequent and often nonsensical censorship here of words like b¡t¢h)
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