30 Revealing Signs Of Behavior That Indicate Someone Had A Traumatic Childhood

I am also scared that asking if someone is mad at me will make them mad at me, if they weren't already mad at me.

I had a friend who got mad at me all the time. For everything. At least three days a week. I just thought it was normal. Now I seriously can’t handle people being upset with me. I feel physically sick, am generally terrified. Looking back I have no idea how nobody… idk… noticed?! Said anything?! Sry for venting (please don’t be mad lol)

Apologizing for everything even if it's not your fault.

My best lesson was learning not to care what people think, unless they are important-- like my grandkids

I grew up walking on eggshells around my family. Anything could set them off.

I find it easy to detach myself from people, I don't get attached to people easily. I avoid doing so much, keep them at a safe distance, so that if something happens i'm affected minimally.

Why would I ask for something when I'm strong enough to do/get/do without it myself? Even if I'm not, I know I'll become strong eventually. Works fine for me.

This is just cause I don't want other people to leave me because I ask too much. Anxious/avoident attachment style

I had no one to depend on as a child, so why I even think to ask anyone for help? I'm ALWAYS surprised when someone is kind to me or even TALKS to me or, even better, LISTENS to me!

Yep

This has just stuck with me, always. I can immediately tell when someone is angry, I can detect changes in their tone, the way they walk, their facial expressions, their body, all of it.

There’s a concerned looking face on the tree

Im not sure if this is actually is a thing. I feel negative energies quick, and due to my adhd and stuff, i feel other peoples energies and they get blown up so i feel anger, anxiety and stuff, just by being near people.

I've had to condition myself NOT to do this bc it was completely exhausting me. Now, I really don't care what people think and, quite simply, I don't really like being around other people bc then I don't have to react to their moods or dramas.

Fr tho

I do both. I'm like "f**k they didn't need to know that, now they're going to think _____" when I do talk, or I just don't talk about my emotions or feelings at all.

opening up too much to a guy i just met ended up being good for me. something that made me akward and afraid to b social ended up in me panicing. asked if he had an extra cigarette and he ended up sitting with me, i paniced basically told him my whole life story except where i lived, 8 years weve been married for 3 years this october. apparently my akwardness was adorable and hes happy i wasnt just guest at the hotel we met infront of wen he realized i live in the gated community behind the hotel lol. my trauma got me a husband in the end lol

I've always been in the oversharing camp, but most times I don't think much about it. I've been scolded a time or two from friends or family, but I just shrug it off. In the immediate aftermath, I don't feel ashamed or embarrassed, etc. No, that cringe waits until the next day! In the end though, in the long term, I think it's a good thing. If someone connects with anything I say, if it helps in any way, I call that a win. I wish more people overshared, because it would definitely help us all to realize that we're not as strange, weird and cringe as we think we are.

both at the same time, don't ask me how

I'm both sort of? There's something things about me that most people who I'm friends with are aware of that they probably shouldn't be and then some stuff I haven't told anyone, even the people closest to me

Never hopeful for anything. Anxious, worried about so much, depressed about all of it.

I'm a bit overweight and don't consider myself pretty and I always think people outside are judging me regardless of what my family tells me.

Literally me. I don’t tell my friends stuff I’m worried they tell the school counselor and they’ll call my parents, I hate myself there’s nothing good about me I’m annoying lazy irresponsible messy and a crybaby. I’m so quiet and reserved I’m so scared of being judged.

Yes

Lol who has good self esteem these days? Not me

This one is true, well, in most cases they are

I know mine is. I love how loved she is. Sometimes I treat her as my own inner child, giving her the love and affection I so needed but never got when I was small. I especially think of this when she trots over when I'm in the middle of something, and I give her a cuddle no matter what. I will never ever physically push her away from me when she is simply showing affection. That left some deep marks on me. I'm glad I have a way to try to heal that part of me.

Truth...many people just suck!

Yup. An animal has never betrayed me & the only time they've broken my heart is when they've crossed that rainbow bridge.

Absolutely. My little Boston Terrier, Mia, has been the best relationship I've even had. Complete love.

OR secretly longing for people to make a really big deal out of things like your birthday, but not being able to ask for it.

I don't like awards, not that I get them often, because then every move I take after that feels like so much less.

I do all I can to avoid photos.. and never use or even make social media accounts. This is soo accurate

Omg this post just exactly described me!!!!

that’s me

Me *trying to fall asleep* Head: "Let's review every conversation you had today and figure out what you said and did wrong!"

Lmao this is normal tho it happens to everyone

Yeah, I 'zone-out', especially lately now that I've learned things about my ex-husband and his family. I'll also do it when I remember traumas from my childhood or marriage.

I never realized this was a trauma thing I always think “oh c**p that was weird” about anything I do. I dissociate often and my teachers get worried.

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It's because I'm yelled at for every single mistake I make. So when I do make a mistake, I spend forever thinking about it and criticizing myself for it.