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“Always Play Along”: 40 Women Reveal The Strict Rules Of Girl Code That They’ll Never Break
Interview
What makes women special? Perhaps it’s true that they’re made of sugar, spice and everything nice. Or it could be their unwavering dedication to anything they set their minds to. Or maybe, it’s the fact that they follow a strict code that unites them all together.
Women on Reddit have recently been sharing sacred, though often unspoken, laws of “girl code” that they would never break. We’ve gathered their rules below, from helping out any woman in need, even if she’s your enemy, to putting friends before men. This list is a crash course in how to be an ally to all women. So enjoy scrolling through, and be sure to upvote the pieces of girl code that you wouldn’t ever break either!
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#1
If a random woman I do not know comes up to me and starts talking to me as though we’ve been homies for years, then we’ve been homies for years.
I’ve had quite a few women come up to me and my friends for safety to get away from someone. I will ALWAYS play along.
Michael Largey 2 weeks ago
And guys, if a random woman you do not know comes up to you and starts talking to you as though you’ve been homies for years, then you’ve been homies for years. And for the same reasons.
Sarah Belt 2 weeks ago
my memory for faces is so bad, i would think i actually knew them and be very confused...
Chilli 1 week ago
I brought up that this was part of girl code and my brother immediately jumped in to say "UM, WELL, ACTUALLY MEN DO THIS MORE BECAUSE THEY'LL PRETEND TO BE WOMEN'S BOYFRIENDS SO THIS ISN'T GIRL CODE"
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#2
I am a middle aged woman who was at my doctors surgery waiting my turn. Saw a much older lady in a wheelchair with a man old enough to be her son with her. She looked distressed but it was a doctors surgery so I did not think much of it. I then realised that the lady was trying to make contact with me - she gestured towards me - took me a while to realise - so I went over . She asked me to accompany her to the toilet. The gentleman with her was her son and she was embarrassed. She sobbed because she was so relieved that a woman realised her situation- she did not want her son in the toilet with her. This is the code we should never break - no matter how old you get - let’s hope a sister is there to help you keep your dignity.
Papa 2 weeks ago
I can't reply to Anne, but I would like to point out that, while I also get frustrated with people's grammatical and spelling mistakes, and comment on them, calling them stupid is uncalled for.
Carol Culhane 2 weeks ago
The girl code here is we ignore the Annes of the world after calling them out on their b******t. You Papa and Vinnie are girls for this one. Looking good girl.
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Trillian 2 weeks ago
I understand her not wanting her son to actually accompany her, but I find it a bit weird that she was too embarrassed to even ask him to push her over when she can ask a complete stranger (and not the staff of the place).
Min 2 weeks ago
She likely needed more assistance than a push to the door.
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David McDonald 2 weeks ago
This is no different for Men, my Father was living with my Sister(as she wanted) and he was getting to an age where the tub/washroom was proving to be more than a hindrance. We arranged Male in home care to help with this, I was his Youngest and I would help when I was there but that was seldom. It BOTHERS us to have one of our children do this with/for us.
Crystalwitch60 2 weeks ago
Anne you are one horrid person , freaking hate grammer cops like you GET OVER YOURSELF LADY !
Puck 2 weeks ago (edited)
It's wonderful OP could help another woman. I (F48) would also, but i also help my father regularly. It's not something i enjoy, but it's not embarrassing for me and i think my father got used to it too. Would it be more embarrassing for a son to help his mother than for a daughter to help her father? No judgement here, but i do wonder if it makes a difference.
KatSaidThat 1 week ago
FWIW, it's called a doctor's surgery because they do minor surgery - like stitching, removing stitches, cryogenically removing warts, removal of small foreign objects etc. So now who looks stupid, Anne?
#3
One of my girl code things from way back:
If a guy cheats on me with a girl and she didn't know about me when it happened, then she and I are not enemies. It's 100% on him and not her. I met one of my best friends this way. She had no idea about me and she apologized to me when she found out. Like girl, I don't want to fight you, and now he has two women mad at him. He did us both dirty.
Apatheist Account2 2 weeks ago
It's always on the person cheating. They have an agreement with you, the other girl doesn't. Even if she instigates it, he can say no, and not get involved.
tw 72 2 weeks ago
I agree. He is supposed to say NO - even if she knew he was attached to another woman and she initiated the contact. Would she and I become friends? NO. Do I respect her? NO. But he is the one person in the world who can guarantee his fidelity.
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Melissa Hollowell 2 weeks ago
Funny enough when my then husband was lying to me about his affair, he was also lying to his AF about his marriage. Liars lie!
Blondie23 2 weeks ago
The woman that my now ex-husband cheated with tried to reach out to me. She apologized after they broke up realizing what a scum bag he was. I had no interest in being friends with her so I don't believe in this "girl code rule" She didn't know he was married when she got involved with him so that's not her fault, but still... not interested in being kind to her. I am not rude to her just not feeling empathy for her. This happened in 2015 and she could have done a little bit of research and she would have known he was married. It's on her.
To find out how this thread started in the first place, we got in touch with Reddit user Lady_Opiniosa. She was kind enough to have a chat with Bored Panda and share what inspired her to start this conversation.
"I was having a chat with my colleague, and she said something like 'she won't break a girl code over some boy,'" the author noted.
We also asked if there were any girl code rules that she would never break. "There are many, but I will list a few," she said. "First, no dating taken men. Second, helping out with creeps and predators is a must. Third, helping out with period-related concerns is non-negotiable."
#4
I always tell a woman if I think an item of clothing or hair style or hair colour or accessories look stunning on her. I lack positive feedback in my life so much that I just want to give it - yes girl, I love your shoes, they look awesome on you and pair well with your clothes. Lady, your absolute mane of red hair is gorgeous, have a great day, I wish I could paint you! Miss, your red earrings complement your white hair so well, lovely detail!
And then I smile and leave because I'm a straight married woman that just wants to show a little appreciation for the details that people put in their appearance. It's a shame not too many people do that in a way of pure aesthetic appreciation.
roddy 2 weeks ago
When people see that you are noticing them they are rarely prepared for a compliment, so it's nice to see how much it cheers them up that you really like their hand-knit scarf or unusual umbrella. Your choices are a part of your personality, and it's always nice when other people respond well to them.
Sally-Ann 2 weeks ago
On a train once sitting next to the doorway and this older couple came up and stood waiting for the upcoming stop. She was wearing dark navy pants, a white boat neck top and the most gorgeous chartreuse wool coat. It looked amazing, especially with her silver hair. I tapped her on the arm and said, “I just wanted to say I love that coat, it’s gorgeous.” She pinked up and thanked me and her husband commented “See, I told you it looked good”, he turned to me and said, “She was worried the colour was too young.” “Oh god no! – in fact the whole outfit is stunning.” She lit up like a xmas tree, and as they got off the train her hubby nodded to me and said “Thanks, she’s gonna be smiling all day.”
Sarah Belt 2 weeks ago
I love complementing jewelry - I hear a lot of neat stories that way. (I'm a big fan of antique costume jewelry)
Living Example 1 week ago
I'm a 74 year old man. I'm always afraid of complimenting women because I just know that if I tell a woman how great her hair looks or that her outfit is well put together, she will be offended by being approached by a stranger making a comment about her looks.
Barbara Deskins 1 week ago
I complimented a woman on the lovely emerald green dress and how well it went with her complexion. She looked like she would cry and said that she really needed to hear that today.
Huddo's sister 2 weeks ago
Is this something people have to make a conscious effort to do? I just blurt it out without thinking, often when in the middle of another conversation. Just like when someone compliments my clothes etc, I can't help telling them it was an op shop (thrift/charity store) find.
#5
If I see a super drunk or incoherent girl being led somewhere by a strange man, that's my friend. I'll get her home safe, thanks.
Crystalwitch60 2 weeks ago
w*f is Anne’s problem on this thread , girls DO NOT GO TO HER if u ever need help ,cost ain’t gonna get it clearly , she’s a right mardy mare 🙄
Michael Largey 2 weeks ago
If he says that he, too, is just trying to get her home safe (which is possible), offer to help. If he's genuine, he'll accept gladly. (Drunks can be real work to handle.) If he tries to get rid of you, stick like glue and wave over some other people.
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#6
If they have something in their face or if their skirt is tucked into their underwear… TELL THEM!
KrazyChiMama 2 weeks ago
I’ve done this one…I have told many discretely about lipstick on teeth and stopped a bridesmaid from walking around a casino with her skirt tucked in her pantyhose.
BookFanatic 2 weeks ago
Yep. I stopped a lady who had one end of the toilet paper tucked into the waist of her skirt and the other attached to her shoe. I always figure it's better to be momentarily embarrassed by one person than to get home at the end of the day and wonder how many people saw and didn't say anything.
KatSaidThat 1 week ago
Recently stopped a bloke who had toilet paper under his shoe. I had been walking behind for a while before it sunk in that I should tell him. Did not however tell the young guy with his c****h near my face on the tube that his zip was down. I wanted to but it would have made things really awkward.
marianne eliza 2 weeks ago
And if there's something peeking out from their nostril, just make steady eye contact and give your own nose a little squeeze.
Finally, we asked the author what she thought of the replies to her post. "I absolutely enjoyed reading through the comments and replies," Lady_Opiniosa said. "I was so happy that women were coming forward and most of us agree on the same things. I also felt bad that some guys were unable to handle those types of conversations."
#7
If someone asks for a pad/tampon and you have a spare? You. Give. It. To. Them. Doesn’t matter if they’re your No.1 enemy. You give it to them.
Bartlet for world domination 2 weeks ago
I even got a tampon from a stranger in a tram once. Aunt Flo has been an irregular visitor (I'm in my fifties) so I was caught off guard and I looked for the woman with the biggest bag. She had one, and of course it was no problem.
Farah (she/her) 2 weeks ago
FR! Once I saw one of the girls that used to bully me standing at the empty pad-dispenser and looking distraught so I silently whipped one out and gave it to her
quentariel 2 weeks ago
Also, if it's a bathroom with several people, there is always someone who has an extra and is willing to give it. Like I've never heard of anyone asking and not getting a spare pad or tampon.
Jocelyn Webster 2 weeks ago
Just did this at work. Our stupid "free" machine wasn't filled. Gave her one of mine and few extras. Went out and bought a few different ones for the rest of the ladies at work. Regretted not purchasing something like Tena for the older ones though.
#8
Visibly overwhelmed mom at the store? Offer help or reassurance that she’s doing a great job.
The day before Christmas Eve I did this to a woman in line at the grocery store
with two toddlers, an overflowing cart at the front of the line, and realization she’d forgotten something. I asked her if I could run and get it as a friend could hold my spot in line. The place was packed. I came back with a green onion cheeseball, picked up a dropped toddler shoe, and let her know she was doing great. She crumbled into tears. Moms support moms. Always.
Earonn - 2 weeks ago
I'm not even a mom, but I'm a middle-aged woman, so I use that to "comfort" stressed moms. I just nod wisely and say "yes, it's one of those days, hm? That's just part of it.", as if it was no biggie (and let's be honest - 10 minutes of noise in a bus are nothing, in terms of actual problems).
Laura Spring 2 weeks ago
I came across a man holding his sleeping toddler with one arm holding her slung up over his shoulder, with a full cart staring at the baby's jacket which had fallen on the floor. Yup, grab jacket, gently place over sleeping baby, asked him if he needed any other help. Yes, he did, took his cart over, got him to checkout, all without the baby waking up.
Ali 2 weeks ago
As I'm not a mother, it took me a while to notice the logistics of getting kids and shopping in to a car and returning the trolley. It was while my husband and I were complaining with each other about the amount of abandoned trolleys that I wondered if people had to lock kids alone in the car to manage. Once noticed, we see it all the time now and help out straight away. This often leads to extra requests for help loading the car. A couple of extra minutes for us, massive help to others. I can't believe how old I got before I noticed this.
Crystalwitch60 2 weeks ago
Anne u nasty troll, who hurt u so bad , eugh I loath people like that one , negative nancy we call em in uk , toxic with it malround awful person to be around given its comments
Cee Cee 1 week ago
You're hardly a shining beacon of positivity given your numerous unpleasant comments.
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Even if we aren't friends anymore, I'll never spread your secrets. They go to grave with me one day as I promised.
Michael Largey 2 weeks ago
If you spread an ex-friend's secrets, you may lose your current ones if they're wise.
Jake Bertz 2 weeks ago
This should go for literally everyone. If someone tells you something private, and you break that confidence, you are an awful person.
Andrew Keir 1 week ago
Although ... greater good ... some things we're required by law to pass on. It's never easy, mixing morality with laws.
Load More Replies... Blondie23 2 weeks ago
I actually really agree with this. This woman I know from college... we were tight and now we are not. In fact I don't really like the woman she has become. However.. what happened between us is staying there. The world doesn't need to know. That's just petty to do that and I don't play those games!
#10
I will never give out someone's contact information without their permission.
Laura Spring 2 weeks ago
This goes both ways - I never give out anyone's personal information without their explicit permission. I love it when telemarketers try every possible scam to get my boss's cell phone number. Nice try, sorry, no.
Robert Larson, LPN, JD 1 week ago
Sorry, this isn't just a girl thing. Don't ask me, ask that person. But sure, I'll give the person YOUR contact information.
#11
Several years ago I was getting gas after going to the dog park. I remember seeing a lady who happened to be there getting gas. As I was coming back outside she starts talking to me like we know each other. We start talking about our dogs and stuff. After a few minutes, she thanked me saying some creepy guy wouldn't leave her alone.
Andrew Keir 1 week ago
Glad you helped he out of that situation, just a shame there is no available way of dealing with the creepy guy
#12
I will never ever ask a woman when her baby is due, unless she tells me she is pregnant.
Justanotherpanda 2 weeks ago
This, never ever assume. It's so very painful for everyone involved.
Kitty 🥀 2 weeks ago
BP actually chose a fitting picture! Maybe she’s 3-4 months along, maybe she ate lunch at a Mexican buffet. Who knows?
KatSaidThat 1 week ago
I think it was Victoria Beckham - skinny minney - who said that if she has pasta for lunch, the press publish a picture and speculate on how far along she is.
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Charlie the Cat 2 weeks ago
I've done that. It was very awkward when she said she wasn't pregnant.
Michael Largey 2 weeks ago
And never tell a woman that you don't like the smell of her perfume. She may not be wearing any.
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I get terrible bloating and have taken a seat kindly offered to me rather than both of us be embarrassed.
Andrew Keir 1 week ago (edited)
And it's not a blame situation, either - unless you are their doctor
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If a guy asks when a female coworker gets off work or whether she is working today, I've never heard of a living soul by that name. If she wants you to know, you'll know.
quentariel 2 weeks ago
In our work it's forbidden to give any information about any of our workers to anyone. We can't tell even whether the person works there, or are they currently there or anyrhing. The genders of the people don't matter.
Michael Largey 2 weeks ago (edited)
"Is Mary working today?" "Did you have an appointment? No? Well, I'm sure our manager, Big Bruno, can help you out with whatever you need. I just hope he's not in one those irritable moods of his today."
#14
No woman left behind. Ever. It’s a broad one that covers a lot;
1) walking *all the way inside* during a drop off to home
2) we came to the bar together, we are leaving together
3) we didn’t come to the bar together, but you’re clearly drunk and alone and I found you? We’re together until I find you a safe person or you sober up
4) you’re being harassed? Hey girl! It’s been so long, how are you?
5) there’s a physically dangerous situation I see happening? I’m intervening. Sometimes if I’m smart I’ll call cops first. I’ll be honest though, in an emergency the most responsible and logical move of “calling cops *first*” doesn’t kick in until it’s over.
6) I will 1000% make ***everyone uncomfortable*** to protect someone from a bad situation.
I teach my sons these rules, too. I don’t want them caught off guard when other women do this for each other. I also want them to protect their friends - male and female - that they go out with or happen upon while out.
Desanera Starling 2 weeks ago
People sometimes need backup. Or a witness. Or an alibi. Doesn't always have to be a guy.
Earonn - 2 weeks ago
Interfere. If it turns out you made your a*s of yourself, so what? Her (or him, for that matter) being ra.ped is worse.
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
This , better to make a fool of yourself , than ignore it n find out said lass is badly harmed or worse right .
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Ffs Anne cut it out u vile troll , ur past a joke now m n clearly a man !!
#15
Never leave a woman behind.
A few incidents spring to mind, the time I saw a woman alone crying, cornered by two men outside at night, I put myself between the woman and the 2 blokes, walked her to a nearby club with doormen, called her a taxi and paid for her to get home.
Saw a woman being mugged in the wee small hours of the morning, a group of about 5 or 6 blokes were on the opposite side of the road and ignored the whole thing & walked off, so I ran down the road to her, stayed with her to try and comfort her until her husband arrived.
I know I've not made the smartest moves in these situations, and it could have gone very badly, but not leaving a fellow woman alone in a situation that could or already has escalated to physical harm is deeply ingrained .
Andrew Keir 1 week ago
This starts with being sufficiently alert and aware, to spot potentially bad things going down.
#16
If another woman asks me for the name of my perfume/where I bought my dress I will always tell her.
Gives me the ick when people gatekeep those things.
Regitse Jensen 2 weeks ago
If someone ask me for the recipe of some thing I made, I will write every little detail down for them.
#17
If any women asks me to do a “check” with their pants , I’ll always check. I’ve had strangers ask before and I’ve had to ask strangers.
Child of the Stars 2 weeks ago
Love it. Most of these are about safety (I'm not complaining, just observing), but these are my favorites. Helping out our fellow people with just normal human stuff, not just physical or emotional safety.
Lukas (he/him, it/its) 2 weeks ago
Checking to see if they have blood on their pants from a period.
Load More Replies... Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
No Anne ur no woman !, your a selfish inhuman !! But far from female ,!!
#18
If I know another woman's SO has cheated, I'm telling her. Doesn't matter who she or the cheater are to me.
Blondie23 2 weeks ago
I agree with this, I lost a couple of friends over this because they were not ready to hear it. One time I told a girl her boyfriend was cheating she got so mad she stop talking to me... fast forward about 15 years and she found me on facebook and apologized to me. She ended up marrying that dude and he cheated the whole time and they got divorced. She realized I was right. I told her no need to apologize and that I was sorry I couldn't have prevented that. Long story short..ALWAYS tell the women if you know. It's better in the end!
Jake Bertz 2 weeks ago
This should go both ways. If you know SHE is cheating, you should tell her partner.
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
100% ,cos she’s gonna be far more p I s s ed with you later on if she found out u knew n said nothing ,
#19
I was in a public restroom the other day and went into a stall where the door wouldn’t lock, and a girl standing in the restroom just came and offered to hold it closed for me lol.
Andrew Keir 1 week ago
And make a thing about reporting it. Tell them you live locally and will check it in a few days. Sometimes the world needs temporary Karens - just don't make a habit of it.
Trillian 2 weeks ago
So? Still need someone standing in front of it so no one walks in?
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Met a girl in an airport in NZ who was scammed out of a ticket on a fake airline website. English wasn’t her first language. It was March 2020 so the airport was chaos, everyone trying to get home, flights getting cancelled as counties were closing borders. I stayed with her as long as I could going counter to counter trying to sort it out before I had to run to my gate for my flight out. I couldn’t help her more than that but sometimes girl code is just making sure another woman isn’t alone when it gets really scary. She did get it all sorted out and got back home.
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
FFS ANNE WILL U SHUT THE F UK omg one day you WILL fine ur self in one of these situations,and i hope to hell NO ONE HELPS YOU !cos u sure as hell wouldn’t play it forward , honestly ur getting worse as thread goes on CAN IT troll
Andrew Keir 1 week ago
Just downvote her to the 7th circle of Hell, then ignore her. She's not worth the Blood Pressure.
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If a girl compliments me, I will smile and compliment her back.
Jean Jacket 1 week ago
Yes! And/or maybe an extra detail like where the complimented item was purchased or if it has pockettssssss
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#22
If a girl brings her new beau to the group, you only ever tell stories which show her in the best light possible, even embellishing slightly to make her shine. Leave all the embarrassing stuff out and if anyone else in the group tries to bring it up, you shut them down. Never be a crab in a bucket.
Sally Moen 2 weeks ago
Oh I remember reading that story! The bucket of crabs, all stretching to reach the lip of the bucket to escape, then a small group form a chain to stand on top of each other, so that others can crawl over them, until one crab knocks the bottom crab over so the chain collapses. It's a depressing story until I recognized it was a cautionary tale of what NOT to do with your life
#23
Believing them when they say they were victimized. I mean, I believe men too because it affects everyone.
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
Yes always belive men to , cos if does happen to them , but I loath the word victim!! If we made it out alive WE ARE SURVIVORS ❤️
Angel Brockett 1 week ago
Absolutely! I hate people who gaslight you into "It wasn't that bad" "You're at fault too". If you feel like a victim, that is all that matters.
#24
If I saw them stealing pads/tampons or baby products, I didn’t see anything.
Blondie23 2 weeks ago
100%! I am not afraid to admit that I saw someone steal baby food one time and I just looked the other way. Life is hard enough without the essentials being too expensive!!
KatSaidThat 1 week ago
I would be willing to drop a bottle of wine to create a distraction.
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 2 weeks ago
Some necessary stuff is too big to shoplift. If you can afford it, the magic words are "Put everything you need in your cart. I'm paying today."
Deborah B 2 weeks ago
No one sees you steal babyfood. I have legit seen a security guard at the supermarket clock a woman slipping babyfood under the baby's blanket. We made eye contact. I knew he saw, he knew I knew, we both kind of made that, "what can you do?" face, and neither of us saw anything. You didn't scan that pack of diapers on the bottom of your cart in the self-checkout, and the whole shop is bare necessities? No one saw that either.
#25
1. Never hit on your (girl) friends' male interests or boyfriends.
2. Never use something said in confidence "against" them.
3. Your friends hold a special place in your life and heart that is only theirs and should remain theirs, unaffected, even when you have a family, husband or kids.
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
Yes Anne n we know why u have no friends !! eugh troll will u crawl back under that freaking inhuman bridge u shuffled out from 🙄🤬
#26
My house is available for you at any time.
You need a night away from toxic family? Your living situation is tied up with a bad partner? You want a spot that's just quiet and you don't want to interact with me at all? You didn't plan on getting drunk while you're here but now you are? Your house doesn't have aircon and it's hell degrees outside? You just want company or a cuddle or somebody to lend an ear and a shoulder while you cry?
Even if I'm not home, if I get that call, I'm telling you where my spare key is and mi casa is su casa.
Elmina 2 weeks ago
My BFF and I have this arrangement. Any. Time. No questions asked. If you don't feel like talking, that's cool. If you need a cuddle and a cry, I'm here. If you want a snack or 7 bottles of wine, I'm in! Can I run you a bath with loads of bubbles? Whatever you need, whenever you need it. We've been besties for 26 years now.
Earonn - 2 weeks ago
A friend of mine was kicked out when her parents found out that she was pregnant. We all were students / apprentices and lived at home. She was moved from one to the other for one or two nights, until a solution was found. That taught me how valuable a place of my own where I can decide about these things is. It's a privilege, and I will use it!
KatSaidThat 1 week ago
my ex-bestie was running around a park one night having "fled" from the boyfriend who pinned her down. So I reminded her to go to another friend who lived a few blocks away and let herself in with the spare key. Sent a message to that friend to let her know. Then phone bf to have it out - yes, he did pin her down, but that was because she was literally punch drunk and hitting him. Told him to let her sleep it off, she's safe. She got mad at me the next day because I told her I had let him know he was safe but that I now had the full story and to not lie to me about that kind of s**t ever again. You'll notice the second word in this post.
#27
If a woman is crying in the bathroom, she gets a hug (if she wants).
Laura Spring 2 weeks ago
Always! Then ask if there's anything you can do to help. Call an Uber? Intervene if creepy/a*****e dude waiting for her.
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
SNNE SHUT IT WILL YOU we get it we ain’t helping you troll , don’t blame us when u end up in icu !! Cos no one helped u when u desperately needed it !!
#28
If we're close to each other at a bar, and you don't have any other women with you, I'm keeping an eye on your drink as much as I'm keeping an eye on mine.
Kitty 🥀 2 weeks ago
@Anne, you’re being a complete c-word. And I use that word/euphemism very rarely. Women who *actively refuse* to have other women’s backs disgust me.
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
Ok Anne we get it ur a nasty low life pos !! n we wouldn’t rescue u ,no matter what ,enjoy ur selfish arrogant pig head life , n one day irl your gonna act like u do on here to THE WRONG PERSON !! n u know what we ain’t helping u !!
#29
I won't date or sleep with your ex, even if you say you're ok with it.
Edit: Please stop replying to this comment that you think it's ok to do. I don't care. The question asked the code that *I* follow. I don't care if you follow it or not, I follow it. That's it.
Trillian 2 weeks ago
Almost everyone is someone's ex. Or does this only apply to close friends?
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
Only close mates , your inner circle so to speak ,
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BrownEyedGrrl 2 weeks ago
I agree. My "best friend" slept with my ex-husband. I never spoke to her again.
KatSaidThat 1 week ago
I'm not telling my bestie that I drunk snogged her ex-husband last month. They have been divorced for about 4 years though, and I knew him first. I did also apologise to him and say it was inappropriate. And will also not be making NYE because I can't guarantee it wouldn't happen again.
#30
Whenever i’m at the club in the girls bathroom and there’s a girl in there asking if she should get back with her ex, the answer is always NOOOOO.
Michael Largey 2 weeks ago
If you have to ask strangers for a reason to get back with that ex, you shouldn't get back with that ex.
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
It’s always best to ask a stranger ,it’s far easier to open up to an outsider ,and get a totally unbiased answer
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One time i was teaching a yoga class and a girls leggins had ripped without her noticing. She was not wearing any underwear and there was a guy behind her. Bless the guy, he was also uncomfortable and didn't know what to do. As soon as I noticed and was sure that the leggings had really ripped, I guided the rest of the class to "find child's pose and close your eyes" kind of thing. Then went over to her and told her super quietly. To be fair, she took it reeeaaally well and we even laughed and then she got up and left the class with her yoga mat covering her behind. The guy behind her was visibly relieved too.
Things like that... aaaalwaaays.
#32
Putting someone else down to elevate myself or make myself feel better. Actually this is in general for any person. Something I would never do, it goes against what I stand for and my morals.
#33
I will yell at a man for you. Your boyfriend, a stranger, your friend with benefits, doesn't matter. You're right and if you want me to have your back, I will.
If a guy friend of mine was creepy to you, you're right and he's blocked (after i've yelled at him).
If you feel unsafe, I'll sit or walk with you wherever you need me to go.
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
Right Anne ur pathetic now !! seriously , when someone else is in trouble my safety don’t matter !! I’m helping ,or sorting it out , ( hospitality work for well since I was 16 , untill 14 yrs ago I’m 60 ) the amount of time I had to jump the bar n play bouncer ,I lost count ,so wind ur neck in ,someone needs help IM HELPING unless it’s u then ur own ur own troll
#34
Fanning and commiserating with coworkers or strangers when they have hot flashes. Nobody teaches you about perimenopause or menopause, you’re just thrown to the wolves to suffer. I’m just like “I got you, girl” and get them cold water, fan them whatever. I feel like treating it like it’s normal and not embarrassing or taboo helps us all.
Ali 2 weeks ago
I heard it referred to a few weeks back as having 'hagitude'. I think it was ment as an insult, but I have been embracing it. I am old enough to be annoyed 'manners' require me to behave like it's not happening. I was of a generation where girls were expected to stay silent about puberty issues and that was wrong. Most of us cope better knowing we are not alone.
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
Lmao I loved those , I’ve been thru the menopause n out other side now , n the hot flushes are well handy in the winter , but when I was going thru those , n say for eg I’d gone down outer little village pub my eldest works in , I’d be like ,I’ll be back ,n go stand in the cellar ,lol or I’d go thru the kitchen to the walk in freezer with a don’t mind me lads to the chefs 😂I’d get ahh hot flushes yup lol my entire menopausal journey was easy ,but I don’t half feel sorry for those that it’s not , (bar Anne of course )
#35
If a guy messages me and I've seen evidence that they already have someone I will screenshot and ask if they are in an open relationship.
#36
I had a friend who made out with a guy at a bar, exchanged numbers etc. The day after, his fiancée calls, asking why she's in her fiancé's call log. My friend lied and said it was whatever innocent excuse, something about her helping him find his phone. It would've cost her 0 to save that girl from a marriage to a cheater and a liar, but she chose the option that made her look less bad to a complete stranger and worse to us that knew her.
Blondie23 2 weeks ago
yeah that's a tough one. I remember in college a friend of mine slept with this guy that I worked with. I thought he was engaged but he kept acting like they broke up so I was like whatever.... fast forward a couple of week and he and his fiancé were at the bar. Turns out they had not broken up she was just out of town for a couple of weeks. I told her about what he did and he was pissed at me. I didn't care, she needed to know. They eventually broke up and I like to think I saved her from marring a d****e bag!
Michael Largey 2 weeks ago
The option she chose did not make her look "less bad" because she did nothing bad at all. She was an innocent victim of his deceit just as much as the fiancee and should have laid it all out.
KatSaidThat 1 week ago
I've been on the end of that phone call when my ex-fiancee forgot to tell me that when he moved to Ireland (I'm London) and was trying to sort out a weekend visit, that he has a wife and kids. I sent him a birthday message and she phoned back telling me to stop trying to destroy their marriage. I explained that I was not aware of her existence and that he got my number from my mother and I would be blocking him right after that call. She and I made peace, he and I did not.
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
See I’d have been so apologetic,n told her the truth , girl needs to know what he’s really like , cos once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat ,
#37
Let her know if gym leggings are see through!
#38
Getting involved with someone who's already taken. I've always walked away no matter how much i liked them or even when they begged me to stay.
tw 72 2 weeks ago
Ex-friend of mine was dating a married man. He divorced, they got married. She was sooooo shocked when he had a new girlfriend about 2 years later. Karma.
Craig Reynolds 2 weeks ago
Once a cheater, always a cheater. You will not be the exception; you will be next...
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My best friends husbands are not my friends! We can be cool but at the end of the day I have my girls backs and that’s all.
GalPalAl 2 weeks ago
I have a friend whose husband died and she got remarried. I am not fond of her new husband. Whenever I visit her, he tries to buddy up with me (platonic), but I am not there to visit him and we are not friends. Her former husband had enough sense to not try to dominate the conversations when he was allve and I visited.
Michael Largey 2 weeks ago
Your relationship with someone and and your relationship with their spouse are two entirely different and independent deals. And that's a good thing for everyone concerned.
#40
I always use a hand dryer whenever my friends are using the bathroom.
GalPalAl 2 weeks ago
Using a hand dryer just blows around bacteria and fecal matter in the space. I avoid those when possible
Andrew Keir 1 week ago
The alternatives seem to be 1) - using one of those roller towels that you just know have al sorts of muck on them, or 2) using paper towels that pollute and use up trees.There's no perfect answer, we all just go with the one that 'yucks' us least.
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Sally Moen 2 weeks ago
Or flush repeatedly, over and over. After washing up I make like a tree and leaf
What do you think ?
Earonn - 2 weeks ago
I really wish attention wh0res like anne would find something useful to do with their lives.
marianne eliza 2 weeks ago
I don't think it's a female. Sounds like an incel to me.
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Strack Attack 1 day ago
Who is this Anne that everyone is talking about? Sounds insufferable 😂
Earonn - 2 weeks ago
You could have wondered why it is so important for women to develop this code, especially in terms of mutual protection. But no, you rather would sh/t on others because they don't protect you enough in your opinion. Get ra.ped as often as we are and we will discuss this, you t**t.
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Earonn - 2 weeks ago
I really wish attention wh0res like anne would find something useful to do with their lives.
marianne eliza 2 weeks ago
I don't think it's a female. Sounds like an incel to me.
Load More Replies... Strack Attack 1 day ago
Who is this Anne that everyone is talking about? Sounds insufferable 😂
Earonn - 2 weeks ago
You could have wondered why it is so important for women to develop this code, especially in terms of mutual protection. But no, you rather would sh/t on others because they don't protect you enough in your opinion. Get ra.ped as often as we are and we will discuss this, you t**t.
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