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Woman’s Twitter Thread Explains Why Many Women Fear Men
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Social Issues3 years ago

This Woman's Scary Story Shows Why Women Feel Fear In Everyday Situations, And Something Has To Change

The #MeToo movement and the debate it has given rise to is everywhere at the moment, and has become so politicised and partisan that it is at risk of losing all of its original message: highlighting the fear and uncertainty that women are subjected to every day by predatory men.

This story, told by SaraSuze on Twitter, has gone viral for the way it perfectly highlights that and has women everywhere nodding along with empathy. Empathy is the key word here because no matter how long this debate rages on, there are still those that just don’t get it, most men have never experienced this kind of fear and are unable to put themselves in the shoes of women who do. We as an individualistic, competitive society are experiencing a chronic disconnect of empathy that is damaging in so many ways.

Scroll down below to read the heartbreakingly real story below for yourself, and let us know what you think in the comments.

Twitter user SaraSuze shared a powerful story recently, that has gone viral for the way it highlights the everyday fear and uncertainty many women face

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Laugh Fan
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3 years ago

I think I've been lucky, though it does worry me. I've never had this happen in my home and I've had quite a few tradespeople in for various reasons and not been able to have my husband there. They have always been from a genuine company and so far they have been unfailingly polite and helpful. Outside of my house - at work, in shops, walking my dogs the comments are frequent. I don't want to know what you think of my face or hair thanks, you make me feel uneasy. Compliment your friends and family but leave strangers alone.

diane a
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3 years ago

I have no issue at all about being alone with tradesemen - they have their jobs and liveliehoods to consider and never had an issue. However - If i was selling something online and a man was coming to my house I would Facebook his ID to friends

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Shari Conley
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3 years ago

I HATE that feeling. The “assessment” is so natural to us. That sudden TERROR when we realize the situation could turn within seconds is filled with so many internal components. We freeze. Be mindful of our eyes. Don’t widen them. Don’t look. Look away! Just laugh. Was that a fearful laugh? Does he know my alert system is going off? What can I grab? Please stop saying stuff! He keeps glaring at me. Oh Sh!t! He knows I’m scared! I’m repeating my words. I just stuttered. Oh yeah, he knows. Please please please let me be ok....just get through this and Get away from him. Don’t look....why won’t he stop saying that? Oh that’s so gross. Really, dude? No. Just NO!!! Stop it!

ZombieGirl5591
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3 years ago

Yep...the "assessment" is all too real!

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snoozy womble
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3 years ago

I know there are decent men in the world. I am married to one after all. But trying to get some men to understand this stuff is hard work. It is almost as hard as the damn assessing in some cases. It is either they don't want to believe us or they just think we're exaggerating. It is bloody frustrating and we wouldn't keep having to tell these stories if the men who don't believe us (not necessarily the perpetrators because you know they don't care anyway) started paying some attention to what women are saying. I have done martial arts in the past, but I still don't take that 5 minute short cut to my house after dark because I don't want to die. I have stuff to do. It doesn't matter what we do to protect ourselves it is never enough or classed as too aggressive...like that time I threatened to shank a man with my keys after he followed me home and tried to get into my house. Leave me alone was not a clue to this guy.

diane a
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3 years ago

I would be more comfortable with a gas fitter or a repairman in my house than my ex partner

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Laugh Fan
Community Member
3 years ago

I think I've been lucky, though it does worry me. I've never had this happen in my home and I've had quite a few tradespeople in for various reasons and not been able to have my husband there. They have always been from a genuine company and so far they have been unfailingly polite and helpful. Outside of my house - at work, in shops, walking my dogs the comments are frequent. I don't want to know what you think of my face or hair thanks, you make me feel uneasy. Compliment your friends and family but leave strangers alone.

diane a
Community Member
3 years ago

I have no issue at all about being alone with tradesemen - they have their jobs and liveliehoods to consider and never had an issue. However - If i was selling something online and a man was coming to my house I would Facebook his ID to friends

Load More Replies...
Shari Conley
Community Member
3 years ago

I HATE that feeling. The “assessment” is so natural to us. That sudden TERROR when we realize the situation could turn within seconds is filled with so many internal components. We freeze. Be mindful of our eyes. Don’t widen them. Don’t look. Look away! Just laugh. Was that a fearful laugh? Does he know my alert system is going off? What can I grab? Please stop saying stuff! He keeps glaring at me. Oh Sh!t! He knows I’m scared! I’m repeating my words. I just stuttered. Oh yeah, he knows. Please please please let me be ok....just get through this and Get away from him. Don’t look....why won’t he stop saying that? Oh that’s so gross. Really, dude? No. Just NO!!! Stop it!

ZombieGirl5591
Community Member
3 years ago

Yep...the "assessment" is all too real!

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snoozy womble
Community Member
3 years ago

I know there are decent men in the world. I am married to one after all. But trying to get some men to understand this stuff is hard work. It is almost as hard as the damn assessing in some cases. It is either they don't want to believe us or they just think we're exaggerating. It is bloody frustrating and we wouldn't keep having to tell these stories if the men who don't believe us (not necessarily the perpetrators because you know they don't care anyway) started paying some attention to what women are saying. I have done martial arts in the past, but I still don't take that 5 minute short cut to my house after dark because I don't want to die. I have stuff to do. It doesn't matter what we do to protect ourselves it is never enough or classed as too aggressive...like that time I threatened to shank a man with my keys after he followed me home and tried to get into my house. Leave me alone was not a clue to this guy.

diane a
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3 years ago

I would be more comfortable with a gas fitter or a repairman in my house than my ex partner

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