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“Please Help”: Late-Night Message From Coworker Reveals Woman’s Suspicions Of BF Were True
“Please Help”: Late-Night Message From Coworker Reveals Woman’s Suspicions Of BF Were True
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“Please Help”: Late-Night Message From Coworker Reveals Woman’s Suspicions Of BF Were True

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A relationship without trust is hardly a relationship at all. At best, it’s a misunderstanding. And at worst… Whatever the case might be, it’s a predicament that needs to be resolved.

So when a woman who goes on Reddit by ThrowRA_unheardcat got a feeling that her boyfriend was cheating on her with a coworker, she decided to confront him.

However, the man denied it and immediately shut down the discussion. But later, she found out the answer anyway just by looking at his phone.

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    But this woman began to suspect that her boyfriend was getting a little too comfortable with his female colleague

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    Eventually, the boyfriend’s coworker replied to the woman’s text

    And confirmed her suspicions

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    For most, what happened is a pretty clear case

    With the share of Americans who are single on the rise, YouGov recently asked Americans about their attitudes toward monogamy and their experiences with cheating or being cheated on by a partner.

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    Three in four said they have been in a monogamous relationship at some point in their lives and 51% said they were at the time of the survey.

    While monogamy is generally understood as both people agreeing not to have any other partners, opinions on what constitutes infidelity vary.

    So YouGov also asked Americans which hypothetical actions they would consider cheating and saw the following:

    • Having sex with another person (93%);
    • Sending nude photos of themselves to another person (90%);
    • Sending suggestive messages to another person (83%);
    • Falling in love with another person (82%);
    • Kissing another person (81%);
    • Lying about spending time with another person (80%);
    • Forming an intense emotional attachment to another person (73%);
    • Holding hands with another person (64%);
    • Flirting with another person (55%);
    • Sharing your most private thoughts and feelings with another person (46%).

    As we can see, at least 8 in 10 people would consider that the woman’s boyfriend was unfaithful to her on at least a few different occasions.

    More than half (57%) of cheaters say that their partners found out about it. In most cases (71%), they did not want that to happen.

    Most people who were broken up with because they cheated appear to have been given a second chance: 58% of them say they eventually got back together with the person. Do you think the author of the post will do that too? Let us know in the comments what you think.

    As the story went viral, its author joined the discussion

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    lenka
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He is cheating and from the reddit post, looks like he has been doing so for at least a year. He is gaslighting and using DARVO. She needs to leave. Now.

    Leslie D
    Community Member
    1 year ago

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    Using something that is comparable to sexual assault is unacceptable DARVO is not what he is doing that's to sexual offenders what he is doing is toxic behavior

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    kath morgan
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “Oh you have a new work friend?” “IM NOT CHEATING UR TOXIC”. Lol he may as well have confessed. Just ditch him, he’s a loser.

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    Happy_Pandalover
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She went by her gut feeling and unfortunately he actually tried to cheat on her. This Addy person seems plausible and honest. Asking him to show her his messages is invading his privacy though, so he had a reason to decline. However his reaction was totally overboard and suspicious.

    KatSaidWhat
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thing is, if he didn't have anything to hide, he could have just shown her their message stream. But he did so he hid behind "invasion of privacy" and called her toxic.

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    Jane
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "if he finds out what i did, we may break up." Why would you want to stay with someone who is seeing another woman on the side? JFC

    BeesEelsAndPups
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think we all have a right to privacy, and I also think we shouldn't let our insecurities ruin our relationships. However, her request to look at his IG isn't unreasonable at all. I have always made my phone's passcode my SO's birthdate (except once when I dated somebody born on Oct 10, I used our anniversary instead). This way they are confident that they know they can access my phone at will. And I am confident I won't forget their Birthdate ;-).

    marcelo D.
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    unpopular opinion: The boyfriend is cheating and is an Ah, however, he is not wrong about her being toxic. She just happened to be right but "If you have nothing to hide why can´t he just show me" is literally the same defense they use to go over peoples right with the PATRIOT act and other b******t laws that demolish peoples rights, but they shouldn't worry about the invasion of privacy since they are not doing anything wrong.

    lenka
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A boyfriend is not a government and a relationship is not about "rights". It's about trust. He breached that trust when he lied to her about being with the other girl. A girl she SAW him with at work and he denied. At that point it is not unreasonable of her to seek to re-establish that trust. His refusal and accusations were the end of the relationship, not because she tried to go over his "rights" but because he didn't feel it necessary to reestablish trust and instead sought to blame her for his wrongdoing.

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    Fox with a Dragon Tattoo
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everything in this story is so ridiculously convenient and cliche it hurts.

    Schmebulock
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He is gaslighting garbage. Never fall for that s**t where your SO says you can't see their communications because it's invading their privacy or some BS. She may have dodged a bullet with this POS and now needs to dump him and move on. Once a cheat always a cheat.

    Parmeisan
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a little surprised how many assume that he and Addy went further than she said. I mean it's not really relevant to the convo - if he tried to kiss her, then he tried to cheat, and it's time to leave. But women reject men's advances all the time, it's not the least bit implausible that she thought they were friends and didn't want more. Especially since she worked with him, lots of people don't want to cross that line with co-workers. Just because a women goes with a man to a restaurant or otherwise hangs out, it does NOT mean that she is looking for a relationship with him.

    Parmeisan
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also, her deleting him off of insta isn't evidence of anything either. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone who had tried to make a move on me while in a relationship with somebody else, either.

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    KatSaidWhat
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If someone calls you toxic and refuses to show you the chat, they're generally hiding something.

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    lenka
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He is cheating and from the reddit post, looks like he has been doing so for at least a year. He is gaslighting and using DARVO. She needs to leave. Now.

    Leslie D
    Community Member
    1 year ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    Using something that is comparable to sexual assault is unacceptable DARVO is not what he is doing that's to sexual offenders what he is doing is toxic behavior

    Load More Replies...
    kath morgan
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “Oh you have a new work friend?” “IM NOT CHEATING UR TOXIC”. Lol he may as well have confessed. Just ditch him, he’s a loser.

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    Happy_Pandalover
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She went by her gut feeling and unfortunately he actually tried to cheat on her. This Addy person seems plausible and honest. Asking him to show her his messages is invading his privacy though, so he had a reason to decline. However his reaction was totally overboard and suspicious.

    KatSaidWhat
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thing is, if he didn't have anything to hide, he could have just shown her their message stream. But he did so he hid behind "invasion of privacy" and called her toxic.

    Load More Replies...
    Jane
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "if he finds out what i did, we may break up." Why would you want to stay with someone who is seeing another woman on the side? JFC

    BeesEelsAndPups
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think we all have a right to privacy, and I also think we shouldn't let our insecurities ruin our relationships. However, her request to look at his IG isn't unreasonable at all. I have always made my phone's passcode my SO's birthdate (except once when I dated somebody born on Oct 10, I used our anniversary instead). This way they are confident that they know they can access my phone at will. And I am confident I won't forget their Birthdate ;-).

    marcelo D.
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    unpopular opinion: The boyfriend is cheating and is an Ah, however, he is not wrong about her being toxic. She just happened to be right but "If you have nothing to hide why can´t he just show me" is literally the same defense they use to go over peoples right with the PATRIOT act and other b******t laws that demolish peoples rights, but they shouldn't worry about the invasion of privacy since they are not doing anything wrong.

    lenka
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A boyfriend is not a government and a relationship is not about "rights". It's about trust. He breached that trust when he lied to her about being with the other girl. A girl she SAW him with at work and he denied. At that point it is not unreasonable of her to seek to re-establish that trust. His refusal and accusations were the end of the relationship, not because she tried to go over his "rights" but because he didn't feel it necessary to reestablish trust and instead sought to blame her for his wrongdoing.

    Load More Replies...
    Fox with a Dragon Tattoo
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everything in this story is so ridiculously convenient and cliche it hurts.

    Schmebulock
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He is gaslighting garbage. Never fall for that s**t where your SO says you can't see their communications because it's invading their privacy or some BS. She may have dodged a bullet with this POS and now needs to dump him and move on. Once a cheat always a cheat.

    Parmeisan
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a little surprised how many assume that he and Addy went further than she said. I mean it's not really relevant to the convo - if he tried to kiss her, then he tried to cheat, and it's time to leave. But women reject men's advances all the time, it's not the least bit implausible that she thought they were friends and didn't want more. Especially since she worked with him, lots of people don't want to cross that line with co-workers. Just because a women goes with a man to a restaurant or otherwise hangs out, it does NOT mean that she is looking for a relationship with him.

    Parmeisan
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also, her deleting him off of insta isn't evidence of anything either. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone who had tried to make a move on me while in a relationship with somebody else, either.

    Load More Replies...
    KatSaidWhat
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If someone calls you toxic and refuses to show you the chat, they're generally hiding something.

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