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Woman Called A “Greedy Witch” By Ex’s Mistress For Refusing To Take Her 3 Kids On A Trip To Italy
When you get divorced, probably the last thing you expect is to constantly be contacted by your ex’s new significant other. People prefer to have healthy boundaries and move on with their lives. However, some entitled, desperate, or even delusional individuals might see those boundaries as optional.
A woman asked the internet if she was wrong to refuse to take her ex-husband’s kids on a family trip to Italy. The ex’s wife, whom he cheated on the author with, wouldn’t take ‘no’ for an answer. She decided to use every scummy strategy in the book to try to get her way. You’ll find the full story below.
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Generally, most people prefer to avoid their exes and, by extension, their families
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But one woman had to repeatedly tell her ex-husband that she would not take his kids on vacation
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Shared custody can be full of pitfalls
In general, the author has been trying to do the right thing. With “shared” kids, joint custody tends to be the best option, unless one of the parents is downright dangerous. Research suggests that children who go through shared custody tend to do better than kids of single parents in nearly every single sphere, from mental health to academic success.
However, the findings aren’t all uniform. Certain studies suggest that co-parenting only brings these benefits when both parents actually like each other. We don’t know that much about this relationship, but the ex did cheat on the author, and she does seem to have some boundaries, so it’s unlikely that they are best friends.
At the same time, the couple does have to navigate some pretty complicated boundaries. A lot has to be done on trust since there are fewer legal obligations. However, it’s surprising that the woman has the amount of contact she does, given that her ex is with the woman he cheated on her with. People will compromise on quite a bit for their kids, which is generally an admirable thing.
It can be hard to navigate the ex’s new partner’s motivations
Grace is one thing; going full no contact with this person would probably be seen as acceptable by most of the population. Instead, the author is taking the time to allow these kids and hers to be half-siblings and contact their father. The fact that she is doing the right thing seems to have slipped past the other woman.
There is a cynical possibility that this woman is actively trying to remove the author from her husband’s life. After all, the woman is successful, this man’s first partner, and appears to be a good and desirable person. Deep down, past all the delusion, anyone who helps someone cheat must know that they could be cheated on next.
Entitled people often end up ruining things for themselves
However, this is probably reading too much into a much more common malaise, entitlement. Some people, with little to no evidence, simply assume they have a right to demand things that are not theirs. For example, asking the author to pay for (and look after) three more kids, just because, well, this couple has decided it makes sense.
On top of this, as shared in the author’s update (which can be found below), the mother started to use some serious manipulation tactics. If the situation were different, we would perhaps applaud a mom going above and beyond to get her kids a cool experience, but instead, she is basically removing their one source of cool Christmas presents.
Given the fact that most courts don’t look kindly on cheaters, the author’s threat to litigate likely has some teeth, plus the fact that she can actually afford the expenses of lawyering up and dragging things out in a legal battle. As she herself says below, her ex needs to work out something soon, or the woman will cut contact.
Most people sided with the author, and she answered a few questions
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Later, she shared a somewhat shocking update
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Commenters shared some words of support for the woman
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KatSaidThat 3 hours ago
F**k them - he cheated, and now he is reaping what he sowed - as is his mistress. They are not your kids, not your problem.
UnclePanda 44 minutes ago
For the spouse: "Next time, have an affair with a successful married man."
thecellardooropens 1 hour ago
Would you be willing to pay for her contraception? She got your husband not your bank account. She expects to wrangle 3 more kids in another country! or do they expect a free trip as well. No just no. Go low/no contact with the new wife, she is a LONG term issue.
KatSaidThat 3 hours ago
F**k them - he cheated, and now he is reaping what he sowed - as is his mistress. They are not your kids, not your problem.
UnclePanda 44 minutes ago
For the spouse: "Next time, have an affair with a successful married man."
thecellardooropens 1 hour ago
Would you be willing to pay for her contraception? She got your husband not your bank account. She expects to wrangle 3 more kids in another country! or do they expect a free trip as well. No just no. Go low/no contact with the new wife, she is a LONG term issue.
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