Woman Chooses Her Elderly Cat Over Fiancé And His Pregnant Daughter, Gets Full Support Online
We can put up with a lot for family, entitlement, rude behavior, unreasonable demands, and selfishness. The societal pressure to look after family at all costs can be oppressive, but everyone has their limits.
One woman kicked her fiancé’s pregnant daughter out of her house after she attempted to get rid of her cat. Instead of backing her up, her husband-to-be decided to pick a side, and pretty quickly family drama ensued. OP also decided to share some follow-up with the internet, as the story began to take some twists and turns.
Picking between pets and family is not a choice anyone should be forced to make
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But one woman wondered if she was wrong for ordering her pregnant step-daughter to leave after she kicked out OP’s cat
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Throwing away someone’s pet is cruel, entitled, and downright horrible behavior
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While non-pet owners might see OP’s protectiveness of Whiskey as a bit extreme, pet-ownership brings with it emotions and feelings that are often as strong as when we interact with family. One 2020 study even found that grief levels over losing a beloved pet were similar to the ones a person feels when a loved-one passes. While, happily, Whiskey is alive and well, it’s pretty easy to imagine the panic and stress OP must have been feeling in those moments when he was gone. That panic, understandably, turned to anger when it became apparent that Kim attempted to harm him on purpose. Regardless, even if OP was not that attached to Whiskey, which seems untrue since she wrote the post from the vet’s office, it was unbelievably entitled of Kim to “dispose of” OP’s property, then lie to her, on top of all her past behavior.
It’s all too common to encounter people who just do not understand the attachment a person might have to a pet, particularly one that has been with them for a longer period of time. Whiskey was an elderly cat, so OP had no doubt spent a lot of time caring for it, particularly in his later years. Kim’s actions were beyond cruel, depriving her, at the time, future-mother-in-law of a loved companion. She did not seek a compromise and, realistically, was not entitled to anything as it wasn’t her house. Kim couldn’t even claim family ties, as her father and OP were not married yet. Even worse, her father somehow seemed ok with this behavior, which perhaps explains a lot of why she acts that way in the first place.
Cats, like any pets, bring their owners a host of benefits
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Owning a cat can be more than just a live, fuzzy thing that lives in your home. Certain studies indicate that just the presence of a cat helps with lowering stress and blood pressure, all pretty good benefits for anyone who wants to live a long life. Heart disease is still the number one killer in most places, after all. Supporting this study is supplementary data that owning a cat, beyond just being near one, is correlated with a lower risk of heart attacks and strokes. Cats are cute, helping us get little doses of dopamine from watching their antics. They also help with discipline, as the owner needs to keep track of food, vet appointments and other things they need to survive. And last but not least, they are companions, who help keep us sane, even if to an outsider we are talking with someone who basically can not understand us.
This is what Kim was willing to take away from future-family just for her own comfort. As horrible as the experience was, the silver lining is that she can avoid marrying into this family. Kim’s behavior was terrible, but one wonders if it’s just the result of an enabling father. The fact that he thought she deserved an apology after all OP did for her is a telling indictment. OP marrying a man with a moral compass and priorities this skewed would probably end unhappily anyway. Like ripping off a scab, sometimes quickly and soon is better than dragging the process out. Fortunately, Whiskey was found and is ok.
OP answered some reader questions as well
Commenters shared their shock at the step-daughter’s entitlement
OP gave an update later and detailed her plans
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My SO of 14 years passed last week after a long health battle. Been trying to think of the happy memories. 1 was when we first started dating he told me his cat Oreo was the most important female in his life. She was there for him when his wife left and was his support. Oreo was a skittish cat and didn't like me. Or honestly, anyone but him. Didn't phase me one bit. She finally got to understand I loved her and would let me pick her up for drinks from the sink if he was still asleep. Would let me pet her, occasionally, on her terms. I cried with him when he had to put her down when she developed cancer. Pets are a special kind of love. If I had tried to get rid of a cat who didn't like me I wouldn't have had 14 years of happiness.
So sorry Heather, I hope soon the pain subsides and you're only left with the good memories
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I am an animal lover so it's easy for me to say she was right in her decision of calling off the wedding. But, even if you're not an animal person, you still can understand how ville was their little plan to get rid of an elderly cat. Knowing how much the cat means to your partner and still go ahead to do something so so evil? Horrible betrayal! I'm sad for her, but happy she doged a bullet. You can't never trust someone who is cruel with animals.
Exactly, there’s a reason why when you report a domestic violence crime the police ask whether the partner or family member is cruel to the pets that are in the same household.
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And again it's not at all about the thing people claim triggering the situation but the behaviour behind it. This is not about a cat. This is about a person ignoring boundaries and trying to force another person to go along with their demands after being told no. And the demands were unreasonable as always in such situations. Fiancé and Kim are guests in OP's house. They enjoy free boarding and OP's hospitality. All they're asked for is accommodating OP having a cat. But that's not enough for them. They want to be catered to their liking. They want to decide how OP has to live in her own home. They go behind her back and secretly throw out something they know she. They try to present that as a neccessary choice. But there's more than enough room for them and the cat and there's no neccessity to get rid of the cat besides them having decided they want it gone. They're obviously entitled, ungrateful people. And that's the reason why OP cut them lose
Well said, I'm not normally one to jump to "kick their a*s out" on these sort of stories. But in this case it really seems like the best choice. There is no way the guy is going to side with her over his daughter, and there's no way to trust either of them around the house and cat anymore. And you just know the guy will be pushing for his daughter to move back in once they're married.
Load More Replies... My SO of 14 years passed last week after a long health battle. Been trying to think of the happy memories. 1 was when we first started dating he told me his cat Oreo was the most important female in his life. She was there for him when his wife left and was his support. Oreo was a skittish cat and didn't like me. Or honestly, anyone but him. Didn't phase me one bit. She finally got to understand I loved her and would let me pick her up for drinks from the sink if he was still asleep. Would let me pet her, occasionally, on her terms. I cried with him when he had to put her down when she developed cancer. Pets are a special kind of love. If I had tried to get rid of a cat who didn't like me I wouldn't have had 14 years of happiness.
So sorry Heather, I hope soon the pain subsides and you're only left with the good memories
Load More Replies... I am an animal lover so it's easy for me to say she was right in her decision of calling off the wedding. But, even if you're not an animal person, you still can understand how ville was their little plan to get rid of an elderly cat. Knowing how much the cat means to your partner and still go ahead to do something so so evil? Horrible betrayal! I'm sad for her, but happy she doged a bullet. You can't never trust someone who is cruel with animals.
Exactly, there’s a reason why when you report a domestic violence crime the police ask whether the partner or family member is cruel to the pets that are in the same household.
Load More Replies... And again it's not at all about the thing people claim triggering the situation but the behaviour behind it. This is not about a cat. This is about a person ignoring boundaries and trying to force another person to go along with their demands after being told no. And the demands were unreasonable as always in such situations. Fiancé and Kim are guests in OP's house. They enjoy free boarding and OP's hospitality. All they're asked for is accommodating OP having a cat. But that's not enough for them. They want to be catered to their liking. They want to decide how OP has to live in her own home. They go behind her back and secretly throw out something they know she. They try to present that as a neccessary choice. But there's more than enough room for them and the cat and there's no neccessity to get rid of the cat besides them having decided they want it gone. They're obviously entitled, ungrateful people. And that's the reason why OP cut them lose
Well said, I'm not normally one to jump to "kick their a*s out" on these sort of stories. But in this case it really seems like the best choice. There is no way the guy is going to side with her over his daughter, and there's no way to trust either of them around the house and cat anymore. And you just know the guy will be pushing for his daughter to move back in once they're married.
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