Bride Left In Tears After Friend Had The Audacity To Wear White Nails To Her Bridal Shower
You’d think 15 years is enough time to get to know a person. So when Reddit user Old_Budget_2834 was asked by her bestie to be her maid of honor, the woman was ecstatic.
She was helping with planning the wedding and everything seemed fine. Until the bridal shower.
The Redditor showed up to the event wearing white nails, and the bride-to-be took it so personally that she demanded her to rip them off.
The maid of honor refused and left after the two of them got into a heated argument. Lost and confused, she later made a post on the popular subreddit ‘Am I the [Jerk?]‘ asking its members to help her make sense of the ordeal.
This woman was excited to be her best friend’s maid of honor
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However, during the bridal shower, she witnessed a side of her bestie that she wasn’t aware of before
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Bridal showers are usually relaxed and fun
A bridal shower (also called a wedding shower) is a moment to celebrate the couple’s upcoming nuptials with close friends and family. Guests typically bring gifts, play games, and mingle.
The atmosphere is usually pretty relaxed, and the outfits depend on a few factors, including the venue, weather, and whether or not there’s a dress code.
New York City-based wardrobe stylist Morgan Bienvenue recommends reading the invitation closely for more clues. Ask yourself: is the bridal shower during the day or at night? Does the invite reflect the couple’s personalities and seem low-key? The answers to these and similar questions may further inform your decision about what to wear.
“Some of the activities … at a bridal shower might require you to wear something more comfortable and be easy to move in,” Bienvenue noted. “If you’re a close family member or friend to the couple, I might also anticipate the probability of sitting on the floor at some point to collect wrapping paper from opening gifts.”
If the bridal shower leans more traditional, attendees can opt for something sweet but a bit dramatic that gives off a hint of surprise or edge.
“An A-line dress or circle skirt with a knit top combination comes to mind, especially in a bold color or with interesting embellishments,” Bienvenue said. “Another route you can take is a sweater dress with kitten heels and cute accessories, like ’90s-style square frame sunglasses and campy hair clips.”
But if guests want to keep it simple, they can choose a timeless look; for example, a silk midi slip dress, complete with a black blazer and heels or knee-high boots.
Ultimately, it’s about celebrating love, friendship, and the excitement of the upcoming wedding, and the ultimatum the Redditor received might suggest that there are bigger issues between her and the bride-to-be.
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As her story went viral, the maid of honor provided more information in the comments
People unanimously said that she did nothing wrong
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What attention did the bride think OP was getting for her nails? Sheesh some people can be so exhausting
Clearly, the bride copyrighted and trademarked the color white, and NO ONE ELSE was allowed to have white anything on their bodies anywhere. If OP had been wearing white underwear, bride would have sensed it and told her to rip them off, Grandpa Simpson-style! XD Joking aside, this bride was EXTRA unhinged - she was demanding OP remove her white nails at the BRIDAL SHOWER, not even at the actual WEDDING itself.
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Oy, the entitlement of some people's kids! OP, in your place, I wouldn't consider dropping out of the wedding party. I would actually DO it, without a heads-up. Just not show up. Then block her on EVERYTHING, so she can't bully you anymore. Don't respond to any scuttlebutt she spews. If someone asks you directly why the no-show, then you can tell them the whole story. Eventually, the others will connect the dots and recall other things she's done. As for you, put that brat in the past and run free. She doesn't deserve you as a friend.
That's what I was thinking too. And after all that's said and done, anyone who is still supporting the bride gets blocked too.
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Was OP supposed to start chain-smoking as well so her teeth wouldn't steal attention from the bride?
Or wear contacts that color the whole eyeball to cover the whites of her eyes?
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Just tell her that white is reserved for virgin brides so she is not allowed to wear it either.
Dang right! I wore a green ball gown to my wedding. C'mon, who the f#ck was I fooling after living with the guy for 10 years??!
Load More Replies... Can we go back to a $2,000 Bachelorette trip??? Weddings have apparently become a big money pit for everybody involved
Thank you. This is insane. Drop that bag of sh1t.
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I'd die my hair orange and have black nails for the wedding 😆 then go full NC
I'd show up and play the part of MOH without the white nails and then block and end the friendship. She locked herself in a room while everyone else cleaned? That is horsehit.
What if they were acrylic nails instead of press on? Would bride expect you to savagely rip them off!!
Probably expect you to rip off your whole real nail too
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Did she demand that the old people at the wedding shave off their white hair? Did all the Caucasians have to come in black face? Did she arrange for it to rain so no white cloud could steal the spotlight from her?
...and don't get her started on white swans and polar bears!
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A Bridal Shower? I didn't know that existed. Is this the same as a hen Do (UK)? I only recall a 'Baby' Shower.
Bacherlorette party is same as Hen Do. Also engagement party and yes bridal shower. Similar to a baby shower with games gifts food family friends.
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There's a saying that you can tell a lot about a person when they don't get what they want. I suspect this bride knew full well what she was doing and deliberately ruined the evening over nothing. Even if the nails had come off, the bride might have taunted the friend all night with snide comments and hurtful sarcasm. Does the groom know what he's getting into?? The friend is NTA but a sensitive and thoughtful person who has been positioned as the lackey for way too long. Putting the bride in her place was overdue, needed and commendable.
That bride to be is not a real friend. She's walked all over you because you never stood up to her. Go look back over your friendship how many times you have caved to her. This is her grow the f up time. Drop out of that wedding. You don't need a person like that going off over nails and expecting you to have stumpy hands at a party just to make herself feel better. And white only for the bride? Ok well let me take my teeth an eyes out so their white doesn't offend her either. I think this is where Karen's are born. From bridezilla babies.
What about the OPs eyeball whites? What's she supposed to do about that? Tattoo them? Rip THEM OFF?
Some weddings are better attended with your eyes firmly shut.
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I'd bail on the MOH role immediately. To be treated so poorly after bending over backwards for the woman AND spending 2K on her party?? NOPE. Buh bye.
Had a friend exactly like this for same amt of time. Once i figured out what she was doing and saying behind my back she didnt like it when i stood up to her. Started icing her out and let her think she ended our friendship as i knew she was gonna talk c**p anyway! It still hurts to this day.
is she going to have a meltdown when male guests wear a white shirt with their suit, too?
That one comment about a grandma is exactly where my mind went, but this bridezilla is so obnoxious she'd probably flip her gourd about eyeballs because the sclerae are white.
guess she'd ask me to rip off my skin since white is only reserved for the bride and I'm pale as fck
This is one of the dumbest things I've ever read! That bride is completely unhinged. The OP needs to drop out of the wedding and find better friends! If she's like this at the bridal shower can you imagine how bad it's going to be at the wedding?
Like the mother in law that insisted that I drink alcohol and her daughter who berated me for being a complete downer and ruining her wedding experience because I wouldn't drink while pregnant to appease her.
"What - having a baby with fetal alcohol syndrome wasn't *your* dream??" They sound like judgmental alcoholics.
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Omg, some people is just... Well, I'm not wearing white anymore because somewhere someone is getting married and I can outshine the bride. Oh, just saying, I had red nail polish at my wedding. No regrets.
One- the general rule is that you don't wear a white dress to a wedding. Anything is fine. Women wear white shoes to weddings all the time. Two- a bridal shower is NOT a wedding. The bride has serious issues that have nothing to do with the OP.
Some people really do loose their common sense when it comes to a wedding. Absolutely crazy, I‘d tell OP to optout of that crazy show
I had a similar situation with my own ex best friend, just without the wedding. We were like sisters for 20 years. But years of mental issues plus PTSD and she went off the deep end after she had her son. I had to walk away, for the good of myself, and my own son. It's so hard to turn your back on someone you've felt so close to for so long. You know you can never have a history with someone like that again. I mean, you grew up together. But if things become toxic, and their behavior is hurting you or your loved ones, you have to. It's been 10 years since I've talked to my ex best friend, and I still miss her, to this day. And it hurts to know that she probably doesn't think she did anything wrong, and thinks I'm the bad guy-and that she's probably told her family, who was like a second family to me, just that. But I know I did the right thing. I didn't have any other choice. And if I had it to do all over again, I'd do the same damned thing. /1
If I was OP, I'd drop out of the wedding. In fact, I wouldn't even attend. And then I'd cut the bride out of my life. Block her on everything, and go NC. Those kind of people never change. They don't understand or believe that they could ever do anything wrong. You will always get the short straw. You will always get the blame, and even the punishment. As much as you might miss them, as much as it will hurt, the best thing you can do is break away. It's hard, but it's also worth it. Once you get away from the toxicity and the negativity, you really realize how much more happy and peaceful life can be. It's still bittersweet. But you realize it really was for the best. I hope OP is happy and at peace now. /2/End
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2 years old post, i wonder if she is still maried, or still plaining her wedding until noone around her wear white.... hope the OP found better friend
Why did I think this was an issue between "best friends"? I honestly don't recognize brides behavior as friendly or rational.
NTA and probably good to think about counseling if feel at all guilty about this. Your friends aren’t your friends
People need to get a grip. Who cares what color someone's nail polish is? Weddings are getting out of control already.
"Bride" DOSE NOT equal self-entitled tyrant! marriage is a religious sacrament - be gracious!
NTA. When you explained why you had them on and that her even had nothing to do with your decision, that should have been the end of it. Not that bridezilla should have cared in the first place. I pity the groom A really good friend of mine had a bridezilla, and while I liked them both, when I saw how the bride treated her maids of honor (she gave the groom's sister a migraine) I thought she might be too selfish for this to work. They were divorced within five years.
JFC, it's NAILS, FFS. And not that it would make it better, obviously, but it wasn't even her wedding day. It was at the bridal shower.
Another fudging bridezilla. It was a shower, NOT the actual wedding. The bride and ANYONE taking her side is an AH or suck-up. The bride should get ZERO say what happens at a party thrown by others. If she wants to control it, she can set it up how she wants and pay for everything herself. No man would ever be that pompous over a bachelor party. She should immediately abdicate the MOH role. If it were me (it can't be because I'm a man), I would go no contact immediately and let that bride squirm over whether she still has a MOH. I'd also cancel anything else I had planned or paid for and NOT tell her.
My recommendation at this point would be to go through with her responsibilities for the wedding-- no more than her responsibilities! -- and then go NC with the bride. She COULD just drop out of the wedding now, but that COULD possibly be construed as her being TA and just leaving the bride in the lurch. So I would say, fulfill required responsibilities and then ghost.
Oh this bridal control thing is out of hand! No-one ever outshines a bride, she is always centre of attention. It doesn’t matter what anyone else wears it IS always about the bride.
A guest's clothing distracts from the bride only when they aren't wearing any.
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Holy Moly! This kind of behavior is becoming more and more prevalent, especially with the "It's all about me," and the "I worked hard on this so I should make an A" generation. I've seen it for a number of years teaching because so many kids were coddled and got everything they wanted when they were children. People can't be "anything they want to be if they just work hard at it." No matter how hard I work, I've not found a sugar daddy nor become thin!
I hate to tell you, but that best friend you speak of, was never your best friend. You're nothing but a puppet to her... this whole article was cringe...
When people say to be frank it means they usually lie. There is nothing in this story to suggest the moh woudl wear White. In fact she said she wasn't. Smooth brain
Load More Replies... What attention did the bride think OP was getting for her nails? Sheesh some people can be so exhausting
Clearly, the bride copyrighted and trademarked the color white, and NO ONE ELSE was allowed to have white anything on their bodies anywhere. If OP had been wearing white underwear, bride would have sensed it and told her to rip them off, Grandpa Simpson-style! XD Joking aside, this bride was EXTRA unhinged - she was demanding OP remove her white nails at the BRIDAL SHOWER, not even at the actual WEDDING itself.
Load More Replies... Oy, the entitlement of some people's kids! OP, in your place, I wouldn't consider dropping out of the wedding party. I would actually DO it, without a heads-up. Just not show up. Then block her on EVERYTHING, so she can't bully you anymore. Don't respond to any scuttlebutt she spews. If someone asks you directly why the no-show, then you can tell them the whole story. Eventually, the others will connect the dots and recall other things she's done. As for you, put that brat in the past and run free. She doesn't deserve you as a friend.
That's what I was thinking too. And after all that's said and done, anyone who is still supporting the bride gets blocked too.
Load More Replies... Was OP supposed to start chain-smoking as well so her teeth wouldn't steal attention from the bride?
Or wear contacts that color the whole eyeball to cover the whites of her eyes?
Load More Replies... Just tell her that white is reserved for virgin brides so she is not allowed to wear it either.
Dang right! I wore a green ball gown to my wedding. C'mon, who the f#ck was I fooling after living with the guy for 10 years??!
Load More Replies... Can we go back to a $2,000 Bachelorette trip??? Weddings have apparently become a big money pit for everybody involved
Thank you. This is insane. Drop that bag of sh1t.
Load More Replies... I'd die my hair orange and have black nails for the wedding 😆 then go full NC
I'd show up and play the part of MOH without the white nails and then block and end the friendship. She locked herself in a room while everyone else cleaned? That is horsehit.
What if they were acrylic nails instead of press on? Would bride expect you to savagely rip them off!!
Probably expect you to rip off your whole real nail too
Load More Replies... Did she demand that the old people at the wedding shave off their white hair? Did all the Caucasians have to come in black face? Did she arrange for it to rain so no white cloud could steal the spotlight from her?
...and don't get her started on white swans and polar bears!
Load More Replies... A Bridal Shower? I didn't know that existed. Is this the same as a hen Do (UK)? I only recall a 'Baby' Shower.
Bacherlorette party is same as Hen Do. Also engagement party and yes bridal shower. Similar to a baby shower with games gifts food family friends.
Load More Replies... There's a saying that you can tell a lot about a person when they don't get what they want. I suspect this bride knew full well what she was doing and deliberately ruined the evening over nothing. Even if the nails had come off, the bride might have taunted the friend all night with snide comments and hurtful sarcasm. Does the groom know what he's getting into?? The friend is NTA but a sensitive and thoughtful person who has been positioned as the lackey for way too long. Putting the bride in her place was overdue, needed and commendable.
That bride to be is not a real friend. She's walked all over you because you never stood up to her. Go look back over your friendship how many times you have caved to her. This is her grow the f up time. Drop out of that wedding. You don't need a person like that going off over nails and expecting you to have stumpy hands at a party just to make herself feel better. And white only for the bride? Ok well let me take my teeth an eyes out so their white doesn't offend her either. I think this is where Karen's are born. From bridezilla babies.
What about the OPs eyeball whites? What's she supposed to do about that? Tattoo them? Rip THEM OFF?
Some weddings are better attended with your eyes firmly shut.
Load More Replies... I'd bail on the MOH role immediately. To be treated so poorly after bending over backwards for the woman AND spending 2K on her party?? NOPE. Buh bye.
Had a friend exactly like this for same amt of time. Once i figured out what she was doing and saying behind my back she didnt like it when i stood up to her. Started icing her out and let her think she ended our friendship as i knew she was gonna talk c**p anyway! It still hurts to this day.
is she going to have a meltdown when male guests wear a white shirt with their suit, too?
That one comment about a grandma is exactly where my mind went, but this bridezilla is so obnoxious she'd probably flip her gourd about eyeballs because the sclerae are white.
guess she'd ask me to rip off my skin since white is only reserved for the bride and I'm pale as fck
This is one of the dumbest things I've ever read! That bride is completely unhinged. The OP needs to drop out of the wedding and find better friends! If she's like this at the bridal shower can you imagine how bad it's going to be at the wedding?
Like the mother in law that insisted that I drink alcohol and her daughter who berated me for being a complete downer and ruining her wedding experience because I wouldn't drink while pregnant to appease her.
"What - having a baby with fetal alcohol syndrome wasn't *your* dream??" They sound like judgmental alcoholics.
Load More Replies... Omg, some people is just... Well, I'm not wearing white anymore because somewhere someone is getting married and I can outshine the bride. Oh, just saying, I had red nail polish at my wedding. No regrets.
One- the general rule is that you don't wear a white dress to a wedding. Anything is fine. Women wear white shoes to weddings all the time. Two- a bridal shower is NOT a wedding. The bride has serious issues that have nothing to do with the OP.
Some people really do loose their common sense when it comes to a wedding. Absolutely crazy, I‘d tell OP to optout of that crazy show
I had a similar situation with my own ex best friend, just without the wedding. We were like sisters for 20 years. But years of mental issues plus PTSD and she went off the deep end after she had her son. I had to walk away, for the good of myself, and my own son. It's so hard to turn your back on someone you've felt so close to for so long. You know you can never have a history with someone like that again. I mean, you grew up together. But if things become toxic, and their behavior is hurting you or your loved ones, you have to. It's been 10 years since I've talked to my ex best friend, and I still miss her, to this day. And it hurts to know that she probably doesn't think she did anything wrong, and thinks I'm the bad guy-and that she's probably told her family, who was like a second family to me, just that. But I know I did the right thing. I didn't have any other choice. And if I had it to do all over again, I'd do the same damned thing. /1
If I was OP, I'd drop out of the wedding. In fact, I wouldn't even attend. And then I'd cut the bride out of my life. Block her on everything, and go NC. Those kind of people never change. They don't understand or believe that they could ever do anything wrong. You will always get the short straw. You will always get the blame, and even the punishment. As much as you might miss them, as much as it will hurt, the best thing you can do is break away. It's hard, but it's also worth it. Once you get away from the toxicity and the negativity, you really realize how much more happy and peaceful life can be. It's still bittersweet. But you realize it really was for the best. I hope OP is happy and at peace now. /2/End
Load More Replies... 2 years old post, i wonder if she is still maried, or still plaining her wedding until noone around her wear white.... hope the OP found better friend
Why did I think this was an issue between "best friends"? I honestly don't recognize brides behavior as friendly or rational.
NTA and probably good to think about counseling if feel at all guilty about this. Your friends aren’t your friends
People need to get a grip. Who cares what color someone's nail polish is? Weddings are getting out of control already.
"Bride" DOSE NOT equal self-entitled tyrant! marriage is a religious sacrament - be gracious!
NTA. When you explained why you had them on and that her even had nothing to do with your decision, that should have been the end of it. Not that bridezilla should have cared in the first place. I pity the groom A really good friend of mine had a bridezilla, and while I liked them both, when I saw how the bride treated her maids of honor (she gave the groom's sister a migraine) I thought she might be too selfish for this to work. They were divorced within five years.
JFC, it's NAILS, FFS. And not that it would make it better, obviously, but it wasn't even her wedding day. It was at the bridal shower.
Another fudging bridezilla. It was a shower, NOT the actual wedding. The bride and ANYONE taking her side is an AH or suck-up. The bride should get ZERO say what happens at a party thrown by others. If she wants to control it, she can set it up how she wants and pay for everything herself. No man would ever be that pompous over a bachelor party. She should immediately abdicate the MOH role. If it were me (it can't be because I'm a man), I would go no contact immediately and let that bride squirm over whether she still has a MOH. I'd also cancel anything else I had planned or paid for and NOT tell her.
My recommendation at this point would be to go through with her responsibilities for the wedding-- no more than her responsibilities! -- and then go NC with the bride. She COULD just drop out of the wedding now, but that COULD possibly be construed as her being TA and just leaving the bride in the lurch. So I would say, fulfill required responsibilities and then ghost.
Oh this bridal control thing is out of hand! No-one ever outshines a bride, she is always centre of attention. It doesn’t matter what anyone else wears it IS always about the bride.
A guest's clothing distracts from the bride only when they aren't wearing any.
Load More Replies... Holy Moly! This kind of behavior is becoming more and more prevalent, especially with the "It's all about me," and the "I worked hard on this so I should make an A" generation. I've seen it for a number of years teaching because so many kids were coddled and got everything they wanted when they were children. People can't be "anything they want to be if they just work hard at it." No matter how hard I work, I've not found a sugar daddy nor become thin!
I hate to tell you, but that best friend you speak of, was never your best friend. You're nothing but a puppet to her... this whole article was cringe...
When people say to be frank it means they usually lie. There is nothing in this story to suggest the moh woudl wear White. In fact she said she wasn't. Smooth brain
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