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Husband Writes Down Every Time His Wife Refused Him Sex, Sends Her An Email After She Leaves For A Work Trip
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Husband Writes Down Every Time His Wife Refused Him Sex, Sends Her An Email After She Leaves For A Work Trip

Marriage isn’t easy and everyone one of us heard the saying ‘marriage is work’ at least once. And yes, once the honeymoon stage is over, it’s not so easy to maintain a fulfilling and wholesome relationship, but there must be certain red flags that obviously show that the relationship isn’t working the way it should be. If so, what are those red flags? Is lack of romance and intimacy a red flag? What about a passive-aggressive excel spreadsheet displaying all of the days you refused to sleep with your partner?

One wife took social media to share a letter she received from her husband before leaving on a work trip

Image credits: Sophia Louise (not the actual photo)

The excel sheet he attached displayed all the times he was trying to be intimate with her but she refused

This post quickly received a lot of attention online with people having all sorts of different reactions to it.

While some were not in the mood to support the husband

Other’s tried to find a solution to their problem

And some were in the complete support of the husband

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Person2638
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Neither of them owe each other sex and I think that was very immature on the husband's part.

Serbob
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Came here to say the same thing. Marriage does not mean you must put out when the other demands it. Getting a spreadsheet like this would not convince me to be intimate. It would achieve the exact opposite.

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Kate
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whew. I hope they get to a better place in their relationship (whatever that means). I would personally be pissed if my husband put all of that energy into a passive aggressive stunt like that. I would much rather he just tell me how he is feeling. A couple does not owe sex to one another and if one of the two feel like they would like to be having more sex, then that's a conversation to be had. That being said, the worst part of this imo is that he then ignored her calls/texts. Honestly, that would be a HUGE issue for me. I don't know them and I don't know what their relationship dynamic looks like is like - but I know that for me, communication is one of the most important things in maintaining a healthy marriage (or any relationship). Not only is ignoring a partner's attempts to reach you rude and immature (of course there are exceptions to this if a relationship is abusive/volatile) , but in the instance it seems like an intentional way to make the other person suffer. Not cool man

Birdgirl45
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah his behavior was not only super petty, but crossed the line in many places /:

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Jen
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember when this went viral a year ago; I'd be interested in any updates on the situation. My first thought was that this is a guy who keeps score, and you can't change a brain that works that way. He's quite literally punishing her by rejecting her attempts at communication, so keeping score + tit-for-tat = a petty, emotionally immature partner. They've both got a lot of work ahead in establishing common ground for effective communication.

Dean Rihari
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's with someone else now. She's still doing laundry, cooking etc

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Person2638
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Neither of them owe each other sex and I think that was very immature on the husband's part.

Serbob
Community Member
3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Came here to say the same thing. Marriage does not mean you must put out when the other demands it. Getting a spreadsheet like this would not convince me to be intimate. It would achieve the exact opposite.

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Kate
Community Member
3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whew. I hope they get to a better place in their relationship (whatever that means). I would personally be pissed if my husband put all of that energy into a passive aggressive stunt like that. I would much rather he just tell me how he is feeling. A couple does not owe sex to one another and if one of the two feel like they would like to be having more sex, then that's a conversation to be had. That being said, the worst part of this imo is that he then ignored her calls/texts. Honestly, that would be a HUGE issue for me. I don't know them and I don't know what their relationship dynamic looks like is like - but I know that for me, communication is one of the most important things in maintaining a healthy marriage (or any relationship). Not only is ignoring a partner's attempts to reach you rude and immature (of course there are exceptions to this if a relationship is abusive/volatile) , but in the instance it seems like an intentional way to make the other person suffer. Not cool man

Birdgirl45
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah his behavior was not only super petty, but crossed the line in many places /:

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Jen
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember when this went viral a year ago; I'd be interested in any updates on the situation. My first thought was that this is a guy who keeps score, and you can't change a brain that works that way. He's quite literally punishing her by rejecting her attempts at communication, so keeping score + tit-for-tat = a petty, emotionally immature partner. They've both got a lot of work ahead in establishing common ground for effective communication.

Dean Rihari
Community Member
3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's with someone else now. She's still doing laundry, cooking etc

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