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Wife’s Bestie Says She Would Also Like To Be Pregnant With Her Husband’s Baby – He Kicks Her Out
Booze has a habit of bringing out the worst in people. Inhibitions dissolve, and some folks say and do things they regret, sometimes in the moment, most times during the hangover.
One guy lost his cool after his pregnant wife’s best friend got tipsy at dinner and proceeded to make an off-color joke about having always loved him. Incensed, he gave her the boot, but now his wife is mad, so he’s gone online to ask if he’s the jerk.
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Alcohol can make people say and do things they end up regretting, and this guy was having none of it
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His pregnant wife’s bestie got tipsy at dinner and drunkenly joked about always having loved him
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The guy’s wife was obviously uncomfortable, and he didn’t see the funny side of the awkward situation either
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Fed up, he sent the bestie packing, but his wife says he overreacted and even got her family involved
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Now the guy’s wondering if he went too far and went online to ask if he’s the jerk in the whole mess
Everything was going great for OP, a soon-to-be dad. At 28, he and his wife are expecting their first baby and soaking up the joy of impending parenthood. That is, until a dinner party with his wife’s childhood best friend Lena took a wildly uncomfortable turn, instantly ruining the vibe.
Lena, who’s been like family for years, got a little tipsy and overly flirty. It wasn’t the first time she’d been weird, but this time she took it further. Looking at OP’s pregnant wife’s belly, she joked that she would’ve made a baby with him if they hadn’t been married. “One baby for her, one for me,” she laughed. Yikes.
While his wife awkwardly chuckled, OP wasn’t amused. He told Lena she was out of line and needed to leave. She brushed it off as “just messing,” but he stood firm – no one who crosses a line like that is welcome in their home, especially not with a child on the way. Totally fair, right?
Apparently not. OP’s wife got mad, saying Lena was joking and she didn’t want to lose her best friend over a “misunderstanding.” Even her family weighed in, calling OP dramatic. To him, however, it wasn’t funny – it was disrespectful and creepy, and he doesn’t want his kid around someone like that.
Now, the OP wonders if he’s overreacting to a joke gone wrong or if he’s right to draw a line now that a baby’s on the way. He turned to an online community for advice.
OP’s taking flak from all sides about his questionably drastic decision, but he could have a point – he’s only holding his relationship sacred. Is it his wife’s responsibility to chat to her bestie about some boundaries? After all, according to OP, she was visibly uncomfortable in the awkward moment.
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In her article for Brides, Léa Rose Emery writes that everyone has different boundaries in a relationship. For some people, even following an ex on social media is considered out of bounds, while others don’t mind that their partner still has drinks with someone they used to date. One area that’s still considered a bit gray, though, is flirting.
According to Emery, this can take all kinds of forms; one person’s “innocent” is another person’s “inappropriate.” Ultimately, some signs that a woman is interested in your husband are clearer than others. A few dead giveaways include wearing revealing clothing near your partner, complimenting your partner (a lot), and laughing at everything your partner says.
In his article for Marriage.com, Daniel Roberts reveals a few things you can do if a woman is flirting with your husband, including not panicking, analyzing the situation, talking to your husband, dropping her a hint, and not blaming him.
It’s natural for OP to be a bit overprotective of his wife – she is carrying his baby after all, and stress is no good for pregnancy. What this situation probably needs is an apology from the bestie and a promise to tone things down a notch.
What would you do if you were in OP’s shoes? Do you think he overreacted, or is it time his wife had a word with her flirtatious bestie? Let us know your opinion in the comments!
In the comments, readers concluded the original poster wasn’t the jerk in the whole drama and agreed that his wife’s bestie was being a creep
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Tabitha 9 months ago
Well, you know how they say that what a drunk person says is what that person thinks when sober. OP is right that Lena has the hots for him, and his wife has been gaslighted by her to think her outrageous statements are just her joking. Well, if Lena’s such a great comedian, then why isn’t she doing standup professionally?
Sue Ellen Bowen 9 months ago
I don't think the wife has been gaslighted into thinking Lena is just joking. I think she's either conflict avoidant or doesn't want to risk losing her friend group. OP should have asked his wife her opinion on how to handle Lena going forward.
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Heffalump 9 months ago
Bottom line is his wife's friend has been sexually harassing him and he's had enough. He has the right to insist that his wife back him on this, just as she would have that right if one of his friends behaved so inappropriately towards her.
Weltschmerz 9 months ago (edited)
I'd ay to her what if it was the other way around, then maybe she'd see how inappropriate it is. Just because she's a woman that doesn't excuse her inappropriate behaviour!
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Dusty's mom 9 months ago
If the genders were reversed you can bet everyone would be screaming about sexist behavior. What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander. And vice-versa.
Anxious&Bored Bear 9 months ago
If someone makes you uncomfortable, or makes a pass at you, you shut it down IMMEDIATELY. (Regardless of your or the other person's gender.) If it comes from your partner, especially later, your harrasser may not take it seriously because your partner is "just jealous" or it's "can't take a joke", which sounds like excuses to continue horrible behavior.
Lee Gilliland 9 months ago
I'm still scratching my head trying to figure out how anyone would see this as a joke. I don't see anybody laughing.
Daisy Duck 9 months ago
Would the girlfriend think he was overreacting if he liked the compliment..if he heard what Lena said as invitation & took her up on it? The girlfriend is totally taking for granted the fact the boyfriend has morals & boundaries. What a dummy.
Emilu 9 months ago
Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. The wife would have c*****d the shìts if OP had gone “lol yep, I’d give you my babies too if my wife wasn’t on the scene” but apparently OP still manages to be the a*****e? Leaning toward the wife being the main a*****e here (or at least clueless AF) as well as the friend.
Craig Reynolds 9 months ago
People need to understand that alcohol is a depressant. Not in the sense that it makes you depressed, but in the sense that it depresses/represses inhibitions, making it easy for people to speak their mind and the truth. Unless a person is at blackout d**g levels, believe what they tell you when it comes to their personal feelings. Historically, alcohol has been referred to as "The Great Truth Serum".
Delicate Fcuking Flower 9 months ago
No bish that was beyond the pale. You don't joke about something like that. Like everyone's been saying, if the genders were reversed, it would be addressed heckin quick
For Work 9 months ago
The wife doesn't want to deal with it- she's happily married, happily pregnant and thought her friend would be happy for her but instead she is jealous and/or a home wrecker wannabe. After years together it's difficult to cut ties with someone you think of as a friend- but things in life change and sometimes people should no longer be friends. The husband should insist she not be there when he is there because he thinks she is despicable. Why why why is it that people make excuses for other people's bad behaviors/ decisions? What is the psychology of that?
Chris the Bobcat 9 months ago
I would think the wife would be ecstatic that her husband shut down someone who blatantly said she wanted to sleep with him and be his woman. She needs to step back and see his response for what it is, a man who is loyal to the woman he loves.
zxj7rfyqqw 9 months ago
NTA. What you are is a true loyal husband. I applaud you. Your wife will come to understand. If a man was saying that to your wife it would be equally not ok. Plus I bet it made you feel really gross. If she really wants to keep her friend maybe meet up with her together and say why it upset you. Outline the boundaries clearly. But if never be alone with her or trust her. You did the right thing though. The friend sounds grim tbh.
FreeTheUnicorn 9 months ago
Lena was out of line, but I do think there's a lot of middle ground between just letting comments go and hoying her out of the house immediately and saying don't come back. Especially because of the close relationship between Lena and wife, a strong never say that again, or you can't say things like that and expect to be welcome should have gotten thenpoint across. Then OP and wife could discuss how to handle things. Not just what to do but how to say it. There will be major fall out in their friend group, I would imagine and being as dramatic as possible is going to be really stressful on OPs pregnant wife. So Lena is AH, but OP really flew off the handle and should be working on calm rational reactions because he''s immanently a dad.
Uncle Panda 9 months ago
What would you post if the name had been Leonard?
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Tabitha 9 months ago
Well, you know how they say that what a drunk person says is what that person thinks when sober. OP is right that Lena has the hots for him, and his wife has been gaslighted by her to think her outrageous statements are just her joking. Well, if Lena’s such a great comedian, then why isn’t she doing standup professionally?
Sue Ellen Bowen 9 months ago
I don't think the wife has been gaslighted into thinking Lena is just joking. I think she's either conflict avoidant or doesn't want to risk losing her friend group. OP should have asked his wife her opinion on how to handle Lena going forward.
Load More Replies... Heffalump 9 months ago
Bottom line is his wife's friend has been sexually harassing him and he's had enough. He has the right to insist that his wife back him on this, just as she would have that right if one of his friends behaved so inappropriately towards her.
Weltschmerz 9 months ago (edited)
I'd ay to her what if it was the other way around, then maybe she'd see how inappropriate it is. Just because she's a woman that doesn't excuse her inappropriate behaviour!
Load More Replies... Dusty's mom 9 months ago
If the genders were reversed you can bet everyone would be screaming about sexist behavior. What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander. And vice-versa.
Anxious&Bored Bear 9 months ago
If someone makes you uncomfortable, or makes a pass at you, you shut it down IMMEDIATELY. (Regardless of your or the other person's gender.) If it comes from your partner, especially later, your harrasser may not take it seriously because your partner is "just jealous" or it's "can't take a joke", which sounds like excuses to continue horrible behavior.
Lee Gilliland 9 months ago
I'm still scratching my head trying to figure out how anyone would see this as a joke. I don't see anybody laughing.
Daisy Duck 9 months ago
Would the girlfriend think he was overreacting if he liked the compliment..if he heard what Lena said as invitation & took her up on it? The girlfriend is totally taking for granted the fact the boyfriend has morals & boundaries. What a dummy.
Emilu 9 months ago
Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. The wife would have c*****d the shìts if OP had gone “lol yep, I’d give you my babies too if my wife wasn’t on the scene” but apparently OP still manages to be the a*****e? Leaning toward the wife being the main a*****e here (or at least clueless AF) as well as the friend.
Craig Reynolds 9 months ago
People need to understand that alcohol is a depressant. Not in the sense that it makes you depressed, but in the sense that it depresses/represses inhibitions, making it easy for people to speak their mind and the truth. Unless a person is at blackout d**g levels, believe what they tell you when it comes to their personal feelings. Historically, alcohol has been referred to as "The Great Truth Serum".
Delicate Fcuking Flower 9 months ago
No bish that was beyond the pale. You don't joke about something like that. Like everyone's been saying, if the genders were reversed, it would be addressed heckin quick
For Work 9 months ago
The wife doesn't want to deal with it- she's happily married, happily pregnant and thought her friend would be happy for her but instead she is jealous and/or a home wrecker wannabe. After years together it's difficult to cut ties with someone you think of as a friend- but things in life change and sometimes people should no longer be friends. The husband should insist she not be there when he is there because he thinks she is despicable. Why why why is it that people make excuses for other people's bad behaviors/ decisions? What is the psychology of that?
Chris the Bobcat 9 months ago
I would think the wife would be ecstatic that her husband shut down someone who blatantly said she wanted to sleep with him and be his woman. She needs to step back and see his response for what it is, a man who is loyal to the woman he loves.
zxj7rfyqqw 9 months ago
NTA. What you are is a true loyal husband. I applaud you. Your wife will come to understand. If a man was saying that to your wife it would be equally not ok. Plus I bet it made you feel really gross. If she really wants to keep her friend maybe meet up with her together and say why it upset you. Outline the boundaries clearly. But if never be alone with her or trust her. You did the right thing though. The friend sounds grim tbh.
FreeTheUnicorn 9 months ago
Lena was out of line, but I do think there's a lot of middle ground between just letting comments go and hoying her out of the house immediately and saying don't come back. Especially because of the close relationship between Lena and wife, a strong never say that again, or you can't say things like that and expect to be welcome should have gotten thenpoint across. Then OP and wife could discuss how to handle things. Not just what to do but how to say it. There will be major fall out in their friend group, I would imagine and being as dramatic as possible is going to be really stressful on OPs pregnant wife. So Lena is AH, but OP really flew off the handle and should be working on calm rational reactions because he''s immanently a dad.
Uncle Panda 9 months ago
What would you post if the name had been Leonard?
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