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Guy Sends His Twin Bro To In-Laws’ Family Gathering In Order To Prove They Don’t Care About Him
Some people can walk into any room and instantly feel welcome. Others could stand in the middle of a family photo and still somehow get cropped out emotionally. Being left out stings no matter where it happens, but it hits different when it comes from the people who are supposed to treat you like one of their own.
One man learned that lesson the hard way after realizing his place in his wife’s family was always somewhere on the outer edge. And instead of staying quiet about it, he came up with a plan no one saw coming.
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This man is proof of that – he always felt like an outsider with his in-laws
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Yet, anytime he brought this fact up to his wife, she tried denying it
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So, he sent his twin brother to one of the gatherings and when no one in the family noticed the impostor, he had his proof
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He decided to reveal the scheme to the family, making them feel bad and making his wife angry for humiliating them like that
For quite some time, the OP has been telling his wife that none of her family members care about him during Christmas Eve gatherings. In fact, they barely even notice him at all and still insist that he attends it every year.
The wife disagrees that her family ignores her husband, so the man decided to prove his point. He arranged that instead of him, his twin brother would go to the gathering and they’d see if anyone would notice the impostor.
To make matters “fairer”, he didn’t even prep his brother in any way; the man went in completely clueless about the people he was about to meet. After the gathering, the twin confirmed the OP’s suspicions – no one approached him all night, which made him feel excluded.
That made the man feel pretty petty, so he decided to put his in-laws in their place. He invited his twin to a Christmas gathering, where he revealed the switcheroo. This infuriated the wife – she was up for the switching, but not for revealing it to the family.
Well, we can’t really blame the OP for being rather petty – he was hurt by his in-laws. After all, feeling left out causes people to feel social pain. Interestingly, it’s been proven that when we experience social pain, similar brain parts are activated like they are in the case of physical pain.
So, when it comes to being socially excluded, there are different approaches to how a person can deal with such a situation. For example, they can try to find another group that accepts them instead of trying to slither their way back into the one that excluded them. So, in short words, making new, better friends.
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Yet, that’s not really applicable when it comes to family, is it? You can’t just find a new family – you’re simply stuck with one you’re given. On the other hand, there’s this term “chosen family“, which refers to people who have formed a deep bond, which offers them emotional safety and belonging they didn’t get from their “real” family.
This is most prevalent among LGBTQ+ folks, who are forced to distance themselves from the families they were given, so they create new ones. While we can’t be sure about the OP’s sexuality, we know that he’s married to a woman whose family is causing him trouble. That kind of spoils the possibility of a chosen family here too, doesn’t it?
So, the OP involved his twin brother in the equation just to prove a point about how invisible he is at the in-laws’ place. The family couldn’t tell the men apart. Granted, they are identical twins, but that doesn’t mean you can never tell them apart—especially when you know at least one of them well.
Even if they do indeed look identical, the twins can have different personalities, interests, and preferences that were shaped by individual experiences instead of genetic factors. And if the poster’s in-laws had taken the time to get to know him properly, they would have clocked in his scheme in a heartbeat.
Yet, some netizens thought that the OP’s plan was a jerk-ish one. In their eyes, he didn’t do it to make the situation better, but rather to make them look and feel bad. Do you think the same, or do you justify his scheme? Please, share your thoughts in the comments!
Netizens kind of agreed with the wife – to them it seemed like the man did all of this not to make the situation better, but just to embarrass the in-laws
What do you think ?
Emilu 5 hours ago
I'm going to go against the Redditors' grain here and say NTA. It's not hard to make a relative's partner feel welcome (in fact, I'd argue my mother bends over backward to make the partner of my cousin feel welcome more than she should, seeing as the ungrateful biatch doesn't seem to know how to say "thank you" for any of her gifts). I'd warrant the OP's wife feels bad because she was wrong, and the wife's family feels bad because they were jerks, and trying to make the OP feel bad as a result.
Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
It really isn’t , I make both my kids partners welcome , my daughters fiancée lives with us pretty much he’s awesome , defo one of the family , how it should be ,I’m a very chilled mother n mil defo not one of these monsters we read about on here x
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Rita OBrien 23 minutes ago
DTA for making your in laws feel bad. You didn't make it a joke. You made it salty.
Jan Kovář 27 minutes ago
I know some guys who think highly about themselves and they are adored by their wives. But they are actually dumb, aggressive, trying to push politics everywhere and so on. So they are absolutely unbearable for the rest of the family which is the cause why the rest of the family does not want to communicate with them. We have very little information to decide who is TA here.
Laura Clegg 38 minutes ago
Sorry internet nta. Hetoldhiswife how they treatedhimandhis wife dismissed him. She should have had a conversation with her family long ago on his behalf if they are embarrassed good maybe do better
Jus 1 hour ago
Yeah, it would be better to prove his point to his wife and maybe reveal his prank in a funny way, then stop coming to their parties. It seems like they don't click and it's ok. In many cases we don't even click with our own families... Happens. Friends are the family you choose.
Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂sod them idiot YTAs lol they don’t live in our world , ie the real one , This was hilarious , the more of these I read about in laws lol the more I m bloody glad I no longer have any ,or extended family , or husbands for that matter , op NTA perfectly played
Ace 4 hours ago
There are better ways to deal with that situation. Ultimately if you're feeling excluded it's because something does not click, and it's just as likely to be from one side as the other. Sounds like this guy's never really made much of an effort to get on with the in-laws and has excluded himself.
Emilu 5 hours ago
I'm going to go against the Redditors' grain here and say NTA. It's not hard to make a relative's partner feel welcome (in fact, I'd argue my mother bends over backward to make the partner of my cousin feel welcome more than she should, seeing as the ungrateful biatch doesn't seem to know how to say "thank you" for any of her gifts). I'd warrant the OP's wife feels bad because she was wrong, and the wife's family feels bad because they were jerks, and trying to make the OP feel bad as a result.
Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
It really isn’t , I make both my kids partners welcome , my daughters fiancée lives with us pretty much he’s awesome , defo one of the family , how it should be ,I’m a very chilled mother n mil defo not one of these monsters we read about on here x
Load More Replies... Rita OBrien 23 minutes ago
DTA for making your in laws feel bad. You didn't make it a joke. You made it salty.
Jan Kovář 27 minutes ago
I know some guys who think highly about themselves and they are adored by their wives. But they are actually dumb, aggressive, trying to push politics everywhere and so on. So they are absolutely unbearable for the rest of the family which is the cause why the rest of the family does not want to communicate with them. We have very little information to decide who is TA here.
Laura Clegg 38 minutes ago
Sorry internet nta. Hetoldhiswife how they treatedhimandhis wife dismissed him. She should have had a conversation with her family long ago on his behalf if they are embarrassed good maybe do better
Jus 1 hour ago
Yeah, it would be better to prove his point to his wife and maybe reveal his prank in a funny way, then stop coming to their parties. It seems like they don't click and it's ok. In many cases we don't even click with our own families... Happens. Friends are the family you choose.
Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂sod them idiot YTAs lol they don’t live in our world , ie the real one , This was hilarious , the more of these I read about in laws lol the more I m bloody glad I no longer have any ,or extended family , or husbands for that matter , op NTA perfectly played
Ace 4 hours ago
There are better ways to deal with that situation. Ultimately if you're feeling excluded it's because something does not click, and it's just as likely to be from one side as the other. Sounds like this guy's never really made much of an effort to get on with the in-laws and has excluded himself.
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