This Woman Shamed Moms Who Choose Career Over Staying At Home, Sparks Huge Debate
The decision of whether to be a stay-at-home or working mom should be entirely up to you, right? But no matter how personal this choice is, the amount of discussion it raises is sometimes hard to believe. People with different upbringings have different point of views on how a family should function and they can’t help but share it with others. So naturally, something that should be a decision between a father and a mother, has become yet another heated internet debate.
Recently a conservative blog shared a chart that shows the difference between working and stay-at-home moms
In the chart, the ‘Transformed Women’ blog owner states a rather debatable opinion on how women should choose to stay home over any type of career.
Image credits: U.S. National Archives and Records Administration (not the actual photo)
This isn’t the first controversial post the blog site has shared
Other texts spout ideas such as women should obey their husbands, that the women’s liberation movement is a myth and even that women should always be intimate with their husbands even if they don’t want to.
Even though some people agreed with the blog
The majority was shocked by the ultra-conservative blog
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Share on FacebookReplace "Mom" with "Dad". How does that sound: "Should fathers have careers?" Weird, right? How come it's always the women we shame for their decisions in this matter? BOTH partners (in a typical relationship) are the parent of their child. BOTH are responsible. How they divide up the work of child-raising is entirely up to them, and it's unfair to put all these demands on mothers while "allowing" dad a fulltime career or never even asking if perhaps HE would rather be a house-husband.
Agreed.. A colleague of mine who is a mother, works currently 3 days a week and her husband 5 (one child goes to school all day with the other going to a childminder) and in January she's changing to 4 days a week and her husband is going from 5 to 4 so he can stay at home with the youngest on Fridays. They're both happy and their kids are happy
Load More Replies...It's hard to believe that some people still have this sort of mindset! It's kind of sad, really (as in the pathetic kind of sad).
It's hard to believe that people think working parenthood is a choice and not a requirement for paying the bills. Must be nice to be so financially sound that she can afford this level of judgement.
Load More Replies...In the 40s and 50s was when the use of pills became pretty prevalent with house wives due to thier unhappiness with thier home life of kids, cleaning and cooking.. .. and not much else. Not that being a house wife isnt a job. It is. It's a tough one. Though there should be no reason a woman should HAVE to be one, or be shamed into being one.
Exactly! People should be free to decide which to do (no matter what they pick) and not get backlash because of it.
Load More Replies...Good parents can be found among people who work and people who stay home. S**t parents can be found among people who stay home and those who work. It's not about how you make your living but how you place priorities! Both of my parents worked and I was not neglected. My step-daughters mom still doesn't have a job, never has, yet I was the one at band concerts and bake sales contributing. This list is just complete and utter c**p. Someone should flush it down a drain.
Maybe Jesus gave it to her, along with the big gold medal for being such a good little wife!
Load More Replies...I like how the chart used a verse from the Proverbs passage about the ideal Christian woman ( called "The Proverbs 31 Woman" in Christian communites ).....even though the Proverbs 31 woman had a job. (Proverbs 31: 13-17 if you want proof.) Okay then.
Most christians gloss over their bibles. or interpret it differently.......or......well you get the picture.
Load More Replies...Anyone notice that's it the "honest to god" people that think that a woman has 2 rights? The right to keep silent and the right to serve the lord. For intimacy: "She should just close her eyes and think of the good lord." These people never made it to 2018. They stayed behind in the 1950's .
I hate how the second post LITERALLY says that they don't give a c**p about rights, fairness or equality. It's a ton of garbage.
Yes, aparently the dad does absolutly nothing in that family.... what a shame...
Load More Replies...The only question should be how much money the husband is making. If he is making enough to support the whole family than by all means stay at home and raise your kids. However, I'm from Eastern Europe and here the salaries are not very high, so mothers working is a necessity rather than a choice. You think working mothers wouldn't want to spend more time with their children and husbands? They're not trying to build careers or be workaholics or neglect their children, they are simply trying to make enough money to live comfortably and help their children.
I respect both: moms who decide to work, and moms who stay at home. As long as it makes you happy, and you take good care of your children... then do what you want to do! It doesn't make you less of a woman to be either kind of mom!
If these women believe that the way they live and have a family life is what's best FOR THEM, hey, c'est la vie. But I will never understand people who feel that they have the right to dictate to other fully-grown adults how they live their personal lives and arrange their own families. I could say a lot of stuff to them about how they lead their lives not by Jesus' word, anyway (he never said one word in that New Testament they like to quote so much about women having to stay home or be silent), but Paul of Tarsus' (anything after Acts is how evangelical American Christians claim to live, and that's mostly Paul's writings) and they should more accurately call themselves Paullists, but, eh. /raised Pentecostal but noped right out of that, thank you very much.
Thank you for saying this. I imagine if Jesus were to come back and see how misrepresented his teachings have become, he'd facepalm himself a bloody nose!
Load More Replies...Hey literally just find the balance that works best for your family, preferences, and life in general, and go with that instead of judging the decisions of others.
Yeah as soon as she mentioned the lord i stopped reading. Ultimately its whats best for your children and your ability to give them what they need, a single mother may needs to work for example to make ends meet. You have to balance both, some woman are happy being housewives, some aren't. None should be judged for wanting a career though. I wouldn't ever demand my wife do one or the other, she is a woman first and a wife second.
Has anyone seen a woman - or anyone, for that matter - do housework "joyfully"? Because I haven’t.
My mum loves to do the washing up. She has a little stereo nearby and she sings and dances along while she does the job
Load More Replies...I work part time and I study and I am an awesome wife and mother. So there.
Women (or men, for that matter) are not obliged to give their lives away for their children. Yes, it is a large responsibility and your kids are extremely important, but one stills deserves to have a life outside of home. Women do not HAVE to become stay at home mothers if they don't want to. They can be social, have a job in the outside world, and still take very good care of their family. Children do not always automatically become the #1 priority in a women's life. You still matter.
I always knew I wanted to be a full-time mom for my kids, not because "the bible tells me so," but because it was the best thing for their development and emotional security. The mom role of housework/cooking/errands that went along with it was a division of labor thing that both my husband and I grew up with. I never felt oppressed; I could have gotten a job at any time. I'm glad I waited till they were in high school to work even part-time. Again, all my choice, and we made sure we lived within our means instead of going crazy. Our kids are now in their mid-20s and considerably more well-adjusted than some of their peers.
You had that choice. If you were a single mother, or your partner was unemployed or working a minimum wage job you probably wouldn’t have that option.
Load More Replies...Thinkin about your kids is ALWAYS important. But like REALLY thinking about them. I've seen parents with fulltime jobs; when coming home, throwing the kids a pizza in the t.v.-room while they had a fancy dinner with the two of them in an other room. Leaving again and I had to bath and bed them. Really 0 interaction. I have also seen stay-at-home moms totally smothering their children. BOTH are cases where there is not looked at the child like an individual with needs. Both are bad. But for both cases; stay-at-home or working; 99 procent of both these situations there was a perfect combination of listening to childrens needs, ánd being able to listen because the parents also listen to their own needs. Since it is easier to take care for someone else when you are yourself in a good place. If your 'good place' means staying at home, working parttime or fulltime; please do. But don't make people go in a 'bad place' by posting this kind of negative stuff about their choices.
What about the fact that countries need women’s talemts in the public sphere? That it can’t just be left in the hands of one gender? Patriarchal societies are invariably poorer, more unstable, more crime-prone, more internationally violent, more unequal, more corrupt, more conservative, more superstitious, than countries where decisions are shared and perspectives are diverse between the genders.
These women are just trying to justify their own choices. I have no problem with stay at home mothers but women are more than mothers and wives. These women don't want us to be because they base their whole lives around being a wife and mother. The best way to respond to them is to ignore their judgemental insecurities and carry on doing what makes you happy and secure. Remember, this is about them, not anyone else.
My mom worked three jobs and cooked her kid breakfast and dinner every single day so screw that mom
I respect mothers who choose to stay at home. It´s a 24 hr job and it´s exhausted but rewarding. But what does she know about mothers who have to work? I´m a single mother and I have to. I get up early to prepare her for school and my mother helps me a lot taking care of her when she´s back. When I finally come home we spent time together, do homework if it´s not finished yet, have a made-at-home dinner, play games, and I read for her before bed. I´m tired af, but she is worth it. My life is not perfect, there are good days and bad days but it´s not falling apart. I have some friends who are moms 24/7 and let me tell you, intimacy at night is the last thing they want at the end of the day. They want a ducking beer and netflix. They love their kids but they want time for themselves too.
Should a woman have a life of her own or should she simply be a brood mare to raise the next generation of men and broodmares? Should children be exposed to the idea that their Mom is capable of doing anything more than being a housewife? Should a woman be prepared to earn a living for herself and her children just in case there is not a man in the picture? Should adults be allowed to make their own choices and deal with the consequences or should women have their choices made for them?
I completly agree. While I dont find bad that one or both of the parents take some leave to take care of the babies I find the idea of housewifes very damaging. You are teaching your kids that the man must provide (and do nothing in the house) while she must give up all her other aspects of her life to become a servant and a caregiver for free... You cant raise kids equally like this, they will grow up with very damaging sexist ideas...
Load More Replies...How is there any debate? Every woman has the right to choose which path she wants to take. The opinion of anyone other than the woman herself and perhaps her loved ones are irrelevant.
Who cares that mothers have jobs, is that of your business? Not surprisingly, this woman doesn't know how it's like to be a mother, father, or a parent in general! Even if she did, that is still no excuse to shame everyone else who's not doing so. Bottom line, she is either very inconsiderate and don't know the situation or the details, or she does and just trolling. People got to learn to "know the story and not sell the story".
"Who cares that mothers have jobs, is that of your business?" → technically, working moms pay taxes for non working moms, so yes, it is her business too. And she's being so ungrateful about it.... u_u
Load More Replies...wow - this concludes why people see stay at home moms mindless idiots. Want to be a Stepford wife? That's your choice I guess. We wonder why women 50+ years ago started popping pills and start drinking at noon every day (I guess you can call that a perk since you are not using brian otherwise).
What a load of c**p. I feel sorry for this woman, who believes she should be subservient to the wishes of her husband and children and have no ambition of her own. It's pathetic. Being a stay-at-home parent is fine, but please have some self-respect. As for me, both my parents work, they shared household /parenting responsibilities equally and they did a great job raising my brother and I. It's a personal choice and neither is better than the other.
It takes two to make those kids, it takes two to raise them. Nuff said.. Now can somebody find a time machine send this send this female back to the time she belongs in (lol).
I just love how some people know exactly what others should do and how should they live ... sigh.
I am glad that I will never be stay at home kind of girl. It's completely fruitless and dependent job. Nobody in their right mind would want that. I have seen a lot of women play housewife , and all they do is gossip and have no thoughts of their own. Having such weak minds is an insult to your human life. I have seen women work tooth and nail to got to the position where they are. I would have that over anything. All the women I came in contact with were tortured coz they r dependent on their husbands. It doesn't matter what they do they will never get recognisation. They didn't choose it . It's coz of these wrong notions that they r suffering. They never got any proper education. It's only a weak man threatened by his wife will ever say that stay at home is the way. It's 2018. This post is disgusting.
What. The. Actual. F**k. How is it that in 2018/going on 2019, that this backwards way of thinking is still a tthing? So basically women should aspire to be unprioritised slaves until the end of time ? I'd gladly swap my vagina for a d**k any day of the month to avoid such utter nonsense. What a nun!
Has anyone seen Pleasantville? It's a satiric comedy on exactly this kind of life, it stars Joan Allen, Reese Witherspoon and Tobey McGuire. It was a "perfect" 50's family. The wife did everything, and the Dad was completely clueless about what happened in his house. These days are so much better with fathers and mothers (hopefully)both sharing in the household chores and the raising of children.
What's the source? Does anyone know who the "conservative blogger" is?
Lol, nvm. I found it. I was hopping it was fake, this woman is just a sad, judmental b***h. https://thetransformedwife.com/my-flow-chart-went-viral/
Load More Replies...IKR there's no way that I'm going to give up my dreams of becoming a medical scientist to be a housewife.
Load More Replies...my mom who became a widow before I turned two. have always worked. always made home cook meals. (honestly, where we lived it was faster to make yourself then go a buy some fast food) yeah, there is something she did not do like teaching me how to ride a bike. but as an alone mother, she did amazing. all the thing I miss with my mother cause she worked. I would not have missed them if my dad had been alive
Well, not everyone is christian and not everyone should be. Also, i have met other non christian women that stay at home with the kids and i think to myself, what will happen to her if her husband dies? People dont seem to realize that the answer isnt so easy, because if you have no job skills, you and the kids become street fodder. Just my two cents, and what ever happened to Christian women should shut up? they dont seem to be doing that very well either.
Yep you are right. My sister in law faces the same risk right now. Kids are grown up and husbands business isnt doing so well. My husband and brother in law are trying to push her to work for this reason.
Load More Replies...Advice like this always make me think, if she is lying to the world as well as to herself - if there is a problem she tries to hide with these proclamations. I believe there are women happier just taking care of kids and there are women happier just working and then there are women happy balancing both, but this kind of judgement is just really unnecessary. Really.
It's really nobody else's business WHAT other mothers do. Stay in your own lane.
Um... some mothers have to work, you know, because not everyone is wealthy.
What about letting women do whatever they want? They wanna be a housewife - fine; wanna climb career ladder? - also fine. Wanna leave husband home and go yourself to work? - it is cool as well. Whatever works for you.
I'm still thinking about the fact that it was WOMEN shaming other women and agreeing with that shaming. Just when it seemed like men were far more likely to shame women on personal subjects, OTHER WOMEN join in? In the direction this is going, the world will be composed of many small factions fighting each other. On another note, I find it crazy that one shamer was like "how expensive is your house?" Especially in high-cost areas, you can't guarantee that it'll be cheap enough to not need a job. You can't assume everyone can cut enough costs that the mother doesn't need to work.
Wow you know Christian mom is lying through her teeth right? Not surprising really. SOP for these evangelist nut bags. Still sad.
"teaches about Jesus all day long...." Sorry, I' m out! Replace "Jesus" with "Allah" or "Mohammed" and you most of westerners would consider this woman as very dangerous :-)
Well... I do understand some of the points. But they depend on the parents and their jobs. You can be a bad stay at home mom/ dad as well as a good working mom/ dad. It all depends. On character, on workplace, on everything, really. On the kids as well and on schools. I am a stay at home mom and I do not habe the desire to "fullfill myself" with work. We had a tight spot this last two months and I went to work while my husband had to stay home. It was ok and most if it was fun but I will be glad to stay at home full time again. Its tough too, but I think its the best for me and my children (it doesn't have to be for others)
Goodness, to think that some people actually think this and then go online to condemn everyone who's doing the opposite...
I will take her husband and she will have to get a job or be the one who has to tell her children she can't give them a home since she has no skills or way to provide for them since she has no way of being independent. Yes I have done this before... Ladies: have skills and don't be completely financially responsible on someone else. It WILL blow up in your face. There are no guarantees in life from others. Your children also need to understand work ethic and role modeling education use and skill building that will provide them with employment and pride. House wife is not a job or a marketable skill.
Funny how she doesn't see that Jesus himself was pretty unconventional for his times. He ended up on a cross because of that...
Load More Replies...I can only assume this womans house looks like a f*****g battlefield. If she is resting when the kids are napping, and uses most of the time for discipline and other religious indoctrination (which is in and of itself child abuse), there is little to no time left to keep the house looking somewhat tidy. The only washing she is doing is brainwashing apparently. I have spent a lot of time at home for the first year with my daughter, as I am working 2 weeks on and 4 weeks off. The 1,5-2,5 hours she is sleeping around midday i would normally use for cleaning, vacuuming, laundry, dinner prep, lawnmowing etc .
Ugh as if some women have a choice? If these women want to criticize anyone they should criticize society for forcing us into working over family. But Nope, they have to be petty and narrowminded. I avoid people like this.
Read it, thought about it and laughed. Your opinions are yours, lady and it stays that way.
Kids are just part of life, they are not everything. Its futile to leave everything just for them.
Her pro's and con's are very short sided and writen from her perspective. I have not childerd but a bussy job and I don't get fast food everyday that is just an assumption. And what are assumptions? The Mother off all f*ck-ups. Enough said.
Republican pro creationism influencer-sneeze! GESUNDHEIT! *moves on*...
Teach about Jesus all day long ?! Lady, your KIDS are gonna beg you to get a carrier
Someone please tell me where I can find this hilarious blog online? I'd love to laugh some more!
Who can afford not to work?? Unless one spouse earns enough to support an entire family (good luck with that!), how is that an option? And don't you think the stay at home parent would be intellectually isolated with no adults to talk to?
My entire life from birth to 11 years old my mom stayed at home in her office and dad stayed at work and came home about 7:00 P.M. Then about mid may my mom and dad call me, my sis, and brother into the den. They said that they quit their jobs (my dad hated his, my mom worked for Marriot and they weren't paying her much on on time anymore) And then fast foward to today and they both have jobs away from home (im 12 now).
This is awful. Does anyone know this website? I want to see what other garbage they post.
This discussion has nothing to do with religion. It's about judging people for the choices they make in their lives. Some people think its' their job to criticize and comment on every little freaking thing they read on the internet. Get a life, and maybe think about being a little kinder? STOP JUDGING PEOPLE.
No, Christians are actually obligated to have sex within marriage. It is sex outside of that they have a problem with.
Load More Replies...It's ideal to have every member of the family spend as much time with the children as possible, regardless of gender! I for one am a very un-nurturing person, so if I ever had children, it would not be "better" for me to stay with them just because I am female.
Load More Replies...Women can do as they please! Women don't owe their lives to their husbands and their children. We are ourselves before we are anyone else's.
Load More Replies...You mean millions of years where our male mammal antecesors went to work while the females cooked and talked about jesus? Dont be ridiculus... Our antecesors, as most primates, were equalitarian in their roles.
Load More Replies...SEXISM ISNT EVOLUTIONARY AND A REPRESSIVE SOCIETY IS NOT A STABLE ONE.
Load More Replies...Replace "Mom" with "Dad". How does that sound: "Should fathers have careers?" Weird, right? How come it's always the women we shame for their decisions in this matter? BOTH partners (in a typical relationship) are the parent of their child. BOTH are responsible. How they divide up the work of child-raising is entirely up to them, and it's unfair to put all these demands on mothers while "allowing" dad a fulltime career or never even asking if perhaps HE would rather be a house-husband.
Agreed.. A colleague of mine who is a mother, works currently 3 days a week and her husband 5 (one child goes to school all day with the other going to a childminder) and in January she's changing to 4 days a week and her husband is going from 5 to 4 so he can stay at home with the youngest on Fridays. They're both happy and their kids are happy
Load More Replies...It's hard to believe that some people still have this sort of mindset! It's kind of sad, really (as in the pathetic kind of sad).
It's hard to believe that people think working parenthood is a choice and not a requirement for paying the bills. Must be nice to be so financially sound that she can afford this level of judgement.
Load More Replies...In the 40s and 50s was when the use of pills became pretty prevalent with house wives due to thier unhappiness with thier home life of kids, cleaning and cooking.. .. and not much else. Not that being a house wife isnt a job. It is. It's a tough one. Though there should be no reason a woman should HAVE to be one, or be shamed into being one.
Exactly! People should be free to decide which to do (no matter what they pick) and not get backlash because of it.
Load More Replies...Good parents can be found among people who work and people who stay home. S**t parents can be found among people who stay home and those who work. It's not about how you make your living but how you place priorities! Both of my parents worked and I was not neglected. My step-daughters mom still doesn't have a job, never has, yet I was the one at band concerts and bake sales contributing. This list is just complete and utter c**p. Someone should flush it down a drain.
Maybe Jesus gave it to her, along with the big gold medal for being such a good little wife!
Load More Replies...I like how the chart used a verse from the Proverbs passage about the ideal Christian woman ( called "The Proverbs 31 Woman" in Christian communites ).....even though the Proverbs 31 woman had a job. (Proverbs 31: 13-17 if you want proof.) Okay then.
Most christians gloss over their bibles. or interpret it differently.......or......well you get the picture.
Load More Replies...Anyone notice that's it the "honest to god" people that think that a woman has 2 rights? The right to keep silent and the right to serve the lord. For intimacy: "She should just close her eyes and think of the good lord." These people never made it to 2018. They stayed behind in the 1950's .
I hate how the second post LITERALLY says that they don't give a c**p about rights, fairness or equality. It's a ton of garbage.
Yes, aparently the dad does absolutly nothing in that family.... what a shame...
Load More Replies...The only question should be how much money the husband is making. If he is making enough to support the whole family than by all means stay at home and raise your kids. However, I'm from Eastern Europe and here the salaries are not very high, so mothers working is a necessity rather than a choice. You think working mothers wouldn't want to spend more time with their children and husbands? They're not trying to build careers or be workaholics or neglect their children, they are simply trying to make enough money to live comfortably and help their children.
I respect both: moms who decide to work, and moms who stay at home. As long as it makes you happy, and you take good care of your children... then do what you want to do! It doesn't make you less of a woman to be either kind of mom!
If these women believe that the way they live and have a family life is what's best FOR THEM, hey, c'est la vie. But I will never understand people who feel that they have the right to dictate to other fully-grown adults how they live their personal lives and arrange their own families. I could say a lot of stuff to them about how they lead their lives not by Jesus' word, anyway (he never said one word in that New Testament they like to quote so much about women having to stay home or be silent), but Paul of Tarsus' (anything after Acts is how evangelical American Christians claim to live, and that's mostly Paul's writings) and they should more accurately call themselves Paullists, but, eh. /raised Pentecostal but noped right out of that, thank you very much.
Thank you for saying this. I imagine if Jesus were to come back and see how misrepresented his teachings have become, he'd facepalm himself a bloody nose!
Load More Replies...Hey literally just find the balance that works best for your family, preferences, and life in general, and go with that instead of judging the decisions of others.
Yeah as soon as she mentioned the lord i stopped reading. Ultimately its whats best for your children and your ability to give them what they need, a single mother may needs to work for example to make ends meet. You have to balance both, some woman are happy being housewives, some aren't. None should be judged for wanting a career though. I wouldn't ever demand my wife do one or the other, she is a woman first and a wife second.
Has anyone seen a woman - or anyone, for that matter - do housework "joyfully"? Because I haven’t.
My mum loves to do the washing up. She has a little stereo nearby and she sings and dances along while she does the job
Load More Replies...I work part time and I study and I am an awesome wife and mother. So there.
Women (or men, for that matter) are not obliged to give their lives away for their children. Yes, it is a large responsibility and your kids are extremely important, but one stills deserves to have a life outside of home. Women do not HAVE to become stay at home mothers if they don't want to. They can be social, have a job in the outside world, and still take very good care of their family. Children do not always automatically become the #1 priority in a women's life. You still matter.
I always knew I wanted to be a full-time mom for my kids, not because "the bible tells me so," but because it was the best thing for their development and emotional security. The mom role of housework/cooking/errands that went along with it was a division of labor thing that both my husband and I grew up with. I never felt oppressed; I could have gotten a job at any time. I'm glad I waited till they were in high school to work even part-time. Again, all my choice, and we made sure we lived within our means instead of going crazy. Our kids are now in their mid-20s and considerably more well-adjusted than some of their peers.
You had that choice. If you were a single mother, or your partner was unemployed or working a minimum wage job you probably wouldn’t have that option.
Load More Replies...Thinkin about your kids is ALWAYS important. But like REALLY thinking about them. I've seen parents with fulltime jobs; when coming home, throwing the kids a pizza in the t.v.-room while they had a fancy dinner with the two of them in an other room. Leaving again and I had to bath and bed them. Really 0 interaction. I have also seen stay-at-home moms totally smothering their children. BOTH are cases where there is not looked at the child like an individual with needs. Both are bad. But for both cases; stay-at-home or working; 99 procent of both these situations there was a perfect combination of listening to childrens needs, ánd being able to listen because the parents also listen to their own needs. Since it is easier to take care for someone else when you are yourself in a good place. If your 'good place' means staying at home, working parttime or fulltime; please do. But don't make people go in a 'bad place' by posting this kind of negative stuff about their choices.
What about the fact that countries need women’s talemts in the public sphere? That it can’t just be left in the hands of one gender? Patriarchal societies are invariably poorer, more unstable, more crime-prone, more internationally violent, more unequal, more corrupt, more conservative, more superstitious, than countries where decisions are shared and perspectives are diverse between the genders.
These women are just trying to justify their own choices. I have no problem with stay at home mothers but women are more than mothers and wives. These women don't want us to be because they base their whole lives around being a wife and mother. The best way to respond to them is to ignore their judgemental insecurities and carry on doing what makes you happy and secure. Remember, this is about them, not anyone else.
My mom worked three jobs and cooked her kid breakfast and dinner every single day so screw that mom
I respect mothers who choose to stay at home. It´s a 24 hr job and it´s exhausted but rewarding. But what does she know about mothers who have to work? I´m a single mother and I have to. I get up early to prepare her for school and my mother helps me a lot taking care of her when she´s back. When I finally come home we spent time together, do homework if it´s not finished yet, have a made-at-home dinner, play games, and I read for her before bed. I´m tired af, but she is worth it. My life is not perfect, there are good days and bad days but it´s not falling apart. I have some friends who are moms 24/7 and let me tell you, intimacy at night is the last thing they want at the end of the day. They want a ducking beer and netflix. They love their kids but they want time for themselves too.
Should a woman have a life of her own or should she simply be a brood mare to raise the next generation of men and broodmares? Should children be exposed to the idea that their Mom is capable of doing anything more than being a housewife? Should a woman be prepared to earn a living for herself and her children just in case there is not a man in the picture? Should adults be allowed to make their own choices and deal with the consequences or should women have their choices made for them?
I completly agree. While I dont find bad that one or both of the parents take some leave to take care of the babies I find the idea of housewifes very damaging. You are teaching your kids that the man must provide (and do nothing in the house) while she must give up all her other aspects of her life to become a servant and a caregiver for free... You cant raise kids equally like this, they will grow up with very damaging sexist ideas...
Load More Replies...How is there any debate? Every woman has the right to choose which path she wants to take. The opinion of anyone other than the woman herself and perhaps her loved ones are irrelevant.
Who cares that mothers have jobs, is that of your business? Not surprisingly, this woman doesn't know how it's like to be a mother, father, or a parent in general! Even if she did, that is still no excuse to shame everyone else who's not doing so. Bottom line, she is either very inconsiderate and don't know the situation or the details, or she does and just trolling. People got to learn to "know the story and not sell the story".
"Who cares that mothers have jobs, is that of your business?" → technically, working moms pay taxes for non working moms, so yes, it is her business too. And she's being so ungrateful about it.... u_u
Load More Replies...wow - this concludes why people see stay at home moms mindless idiots. Want to be a Stepford wife? That's your choice I guess. We wonder why women 50+ years ago started popping pills and start drinking at noon every day (I guess you can call that a perk since you are not using brian otherwise).
What a load of c**p. I feel sorry for this woman, who believes she should be subservient to the wishes of her husband and children and have no ambition of her own. It's pathetic. Being a stay-at-home parent is fine, but please have some self-respect. As for me, both my parents work, they shared household /parenting responsibilities equally and they did a great job raising my brother and I. It's a personal choice and neither is better than the other.
It takes two to make those kids, it takes two to raise them. Nuff said.. Now can somebody find a time machine send this send this female back to the time she belongs in (lol).
I just love how some people know exactly what others should do and how should they live ... sigh.
I am glad that I will never be stay at home kind of girl. It's completely fruitless and dependent job. Nobody in their right mind would want that. I have seen a lot of women play housewife , and all they do is gossip and have no thoughts of their own. Having such weak minds is an insult to your human life. I have seen women work tooth and nail to got to the position where they are. I would have that over anything. All the women I came in contact with were tortured coz they r dependent on their husbands. It doesn't matter what they do they will never get recognisation. They didn't choose it . It's coz of these wrong notions that they r suffering. They never got any proper education. It's only a weak man threatened by his wife will ever say that stay at home is the way. It's 2018. This post is disgusting.
What. The. Actual. F**k. How is it that in 2018/going on 2019, that this backwards way of thinking is still a tthing? So basically women should aspire to be unprioritised slaves until the end of time ? I'd gladly swap my vagina for a d**k any day of the month to avoid such utter nonsense. What a nun!
Has anyone seen Pleasantville? It's a satiric comedy on exactly this kind of life, it stars Joan Allen, Reese Witherspoon and Tobey McGuire. It was a "perfect" 50's family. The wife did everything, and the Dad was completely clueless about what happened in his house. These days are so much better with fathers and mothers (hopefully)both sharing in the household chores and the raising of children.
What's the source? Does anyone know who the "conservative blogger" is?
Lol, nvm. I found it. I was hopping it was fake, this woman is just a sad, judmental b***h. https://thetransformedwife.com/my-flow-chart-went-viral/
Load More Replies...IKR there's no way that I'm going to give up my dreams of becoming a medical scientist to be a housewife.
Load More Replies...my mom who became a widow before I turned two. have always worked. always made home cook meals. (honestly, where we lived it was faster to make yourself then go a buy some fast food) yeah, there is something she did not do like teaching me how to ride a bike. but as an alone mother, she did amazing. all the thing I miss with my mother cause she worked. I would not have missed them if my dad had been alive
Well, not everyone is christian and not everyone should be. Also, i have met other non christian women that stay at home with the kids and i think to myself, what will happen to her if her husband dies? People dont seem to realize that the answer isnt so easy, because if you have no job skills, you and the kids become street fodder. Just my two cents, and what ever happened to Christian women should shut up? they dont seem to be doing that very well either.
Yep you are right. My sister in law faces the same risk right now. Kids are grown up and husbands business isnt doing so well. My husband and brother in law are trying to push her to work for this reason.
Load More Replies...Advice like this always make me think, if she is lying to the world as well as to herself - if there is a problem she tries to hide with these proclamations. I believe there are women happier just taking care of kids and there are women happier just working and then there are women happy balancing both, but this kind of judgement is just really unnecessary. Really.
It's really nobody else's business WHAT other mothers do. Stay in your own lane.
Um... some mothers have to work, you know, because not everyone is wealthy.
What about letting women do whatever they want? They wanna be a housewife - fine; wanna climb career ladder? - also fine. Wanna leave husband home and go yourself to work? - it is cool as well. Whatever works for you.
I'm still thinking about the fact that it was WOMEN shaming other women and agreeing with that shaming. Just when it seemed like men were far more likely to shame women on personal subjects, OTHER WOMEN join in? In the direction this is going, the world will be composed of many small factions fighting each other. On another note, I find it crazy that one shamer was like "how expensive is your house?" Especially in high-cost areas, you can't guarantee that it'll be cheap enough to not need a job. You can't assume everyone can cut enough costs that the mother doesn't need to work.
Wow you know Christian mom is lying through her teeth right? Not surprising really. SOP for these evangelist nut bags. Still sad.
"teaches about Jesus all day long...." Sorry, I' m out! Replace "Jesus" with "Allah" or "Mohammed" and you most of westerners would consider this woman as very dangerous :-)
Well... I do understand some of the points. But they depend on the parents and their jobs. You can be a bad stay at home mom/ dad as well as a good working mom/ dad. It all depends. On character, on workplace, on everything, really. On the kids as well and on schools. I am a stay at home mom and I do not habe the desire to "fullfill myself" with work. We had a tight spot this last two months and I went to work while my husband had to stay home. It was ok and most if it was fun but I will be glad to stay at home full time again. Its tough too, but I think its the best for me and my children (it doesn't have to be for others)
Goodness, to think that some people actually think this and then go online to condemn everyone who's doing the opposite...
I will take her husband and she will have to get a job or be the one who has to tell her children she can't give them a home since she has no skills or way to provide for them since she has no way of being independent. Yes I have done this before... Ladies: have skills and don't be completely financially responsible on someone else. It WILL blow up in your face. There are no guarantees in life from others. Your children also need to understand work ethic and role modeling education use and skill building that will provide them with employment and pride. House wife is not a job or a marketable skill.
Funny how she doesn't see that Jesus himself was pretty unconventional for his times. He ended up on a cross because of that...
Load More Replies...I can only assume this womans house looks like a f*****g battlefield. If she is resting when the kids are napping, and uses most of the time for discipline and other religious indoctrination (which is in and of itself child abuse), there is little to no time left to keep the house looking somewhat tidy. The only washing she is doing is brainwashing apparently. I have spent a lot of time at home for the first year with my daughter, as I am working 2 weeks on and 4 weeks off. The 1,5-2,5 hours she is sleeping around midday i would normally use for cleaning, vacuuming, laundry, dinner prep, lawnmowing etc .
Ugh as if some women have a choice? If these women want to criticize anyone they should criticize society for forcing us into working over family. But Nope, they have to be petty and narrowminded. I avoid people like this.
Read it, thought about it and laughed. Your opinions are yours, lady and it stays that way.
Kids are just part of life, they are not everything. Its futile to leave everything just for them.
Her pro's and con's are very short sided and writen from her perspective. I have not childerd but a bussy job and I don't get fast food everyday that is just an assumption. And what are assumptions? The Mother off all f*ck-ups. Enough said.
Republican pro creationism influencer-sneeze! GESUNDHEIT! *moves on*...
Teach about Jesus all day long ?! Lady, your KIDS are gonna beg you to get a carrier
Someone please tell me where I can find this hilarious blog online? I'd love to laugh some more!
Who can afford not to work?? Unless one spouse earns enough to support an entire family (good luck with that!), how is that an option? And don't you think the stay at home parent would be intellectually isolated with no adults to talk to?
My entire life from birth to 11 years old my mom stayed at home in her office and dad stayed at work and came home about 7:00 P.M. Then about mid may my mom and dad call me, my sis, and brother into the den. They said that they quit their jobs (my dad hated his, my mom worked for Marriot and they weren't paying her much on on time anymore) And then fast foward to today and they both have jobs away from home (im 12 now).
This is awful. Does anyone know this website? I want to see what other garbage they post.
This discussion has nothing to do with religion. It's about judging people for the choices they make in their lives. Some people think its' their job to criticize and comment on every little freaking thing they read on the internet. Get a life, and maybe think about being a little kinder? STOP JUDGING PEOPLE.
No, Christians are actually obligated to have sex within marriage. It is sex outside of that they have a problem with.
Load More Replies...It's ideal to have every member of the family spend as much time with the children as possible, regardless of gender! I for one am a very un-nurturing person, so if I ever had children, it would not be "better" for me to stay with them just because I am female.
Load More Replies...Women can do as they please! Women don't owe their lives to their husbands and their children. We are ourselves before we are anyone else's.
Load More Replies...You mean millions of years where our male mammal antecesors went to work while the females cooked and talked about jesus? Dont be ridiculus... Our antecesors, as most primates, were equalitarian in their roles.
Load More Replies...SEXISM ISNT EVOLUTIONARY AND A REPRESSIVE SOCIETY IS NOT A STABLE ONE.
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