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Oh, the pressure to be a 'real' man... You can't carry an umbrella, lunchboxes are a no-go, owning a cat is gay, and don't even dare think about crying! Of course that's all a bunch of rubbish but it doesn't stop certain grown men from believing (and spewing) the hype.
Some fight so hard to protect their flawless image of manhood that they end up shooting themselves in the foot with their embarrassing public comments. But we see your chests out. And we'll raise you a confident compilation of the most fragile toxic masculinity posts to shatter your ego into tiny shards.
Bored Panda has collected them from the r/toxicmasculinity community, a corner of the internet where people of all genders gather to discuss the dangers of this social disease.
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#2
The Truth
#3
Remember Not To Use Lunchboxes
About 4 in 10 American men see themselves as "highly masculine." That's according to a 2024 Pew Research poll, in which more than 6,000 adults participated. But what does it even mean to be masculine? It would seem the answer depends on who you ask.
For example, the Webster's New World College Dictionary defines masculine as "having qualities regarded as characteristic of men and boys, as strength, vigor, boldness, etc.; manly; virile."
But does that mean women and girls can't be strong bold? Or that boys and men can't be vulnerable?
#4
“I Am Jack’s Complete Lack Of Surprise.”
Luke || Kira (he/she) 8 hours ago
Also: those who use "redpill" are quoting a movie made by two trans women written as an allegory of trans experience. The red pill symbolizes estrogen (live your truth at the cost of the world becoming uncomfortable and hostile towards you) while the blue pill symbolizes prozac (your life becomes comfortable, but you become complacent and will never know the truth meant for you).
#5
Getting Rid Of The Shackles Of The Masculine Role
#6
Very Cool
"Rather than defining boys or men as 'good' or 'bad,' or 'tough' or 'weak,' it's important to recognize that men, like women, have many facets that extend far beyond the traditional expectations of their gender," cautions Dr. Carly Snyder, a reproductive and perinatal psychiatrist.
Snyder adds that society often pressures men to "be men" in the traditional sense, rather than simply be human.
"For men, vulnerability is often neglected, dismissed, or combated," warns the expert. "When men push down emotions, ignore feelings, or dismiss their feminine traits, their mental health will suffer."
#7
The Kind Of Healthy Outlet That Every Child Needs
Luke || Kira (he/she) 8 hours ago
Should be mandatory for all parents. When problems arise, parents should be the biggest support, not the biggest threat.
#8
Watch Out How You Gesticulate Boys
Luke || Kira (he/she) 8 hours ago
"Progressive males are not men!!!" Me: "Okay, I'm no longer a man, you can refer to me as she/her." "NOT LIKE THAT!!!!!"
#9
Was On Instagram And I Found This Persons Instagram Account. Looked Through Some Of The Posts. I Just Don’t Know What To Say
Social justice activist and public speaker Ron Blake agrees.
Blake once swallowed a bunch of pills, in the hopes that they would end his life. His mental health struggles began in 2015 after three men broke into his apartment, held him down, had their way with him and beat him.
Blake says society, and the police, failed him in his quest for justice. Purely because he's a man.
“A former FBI agent was brought in and did a detailed investigation on my case, and his report stated that the police treated me differently that night. He said it was because I was a male, and it became clear to many people that, because I’m a gay man, they just didn’t take it seriously,” revealed Blake.
#11
Cats Are Gay Now
#12
Nonewnormal Isnt Just For Idiots, Its Also For Fragile Men
Blake believes that toxic masculinity took more from him than justice. He struggled to speak openly about the trauma in a world where men are encouraged to remain silent, and “tough it out.”
Today, he encourages boys and men to communicate their feelings and emotions more freely. “Once we remove those barriers, it will allow people to truly be themselves, a human being, without hiding their emotions and who they are,” he says.
#13
Don’t Read Books, Guys 🙃
#14
What’s The Quote? “You Think It’s Degrading For A Man To Act Like A Woman, Because You Think Being A Woman Is Degrading”?
#15
This Guys Comment On My Poem 🤭
Society often dictates that men and boys should suppress their emotions but this can lead to them handling pain alone. Another case in point is that of student Ayaan Maker.
“My friend’s dog passed away during school, while I was with him. Instead of letting us comfort him, he walked away because he didn’t want anyone to see him crying,” Maker told Scot Scoop, Carlmont High School's student news site.
#16
I’m So Tired Man
#17
You Can't Be Beautiful And A Man Simultaneously
Seedy Vine 19 hours ago
So somewhere there's a suuuper straight guy going around calling other men handsome?
#18
Men Can't Enjoy Seafood
Blake believes that men need to be more empathetic so that they can process their feelings openly rather than internalizing them.
"We need men to be role models for the new generation. It all starts with teaching boys to not be men, but to be humans," he says. "This should not be a gender issue. Once we make this a human issue, toxic masculinity will fade."
#19
Now You Can Finally Be A Manly Man And Stop Going To Beta Barbers!
#20
Oh, So When It Hits Close To Home It’s Different?🤔
Michael Largey 5 hours ago
One of my high school students was allowed to date, but her parents forbade her to date any guy twice. and, yeah, when she got out of college, she got married super-fast. (Fortunately, the marriage seems to be working out fine.)
#21
This Youtube Channel Is Just Astrology For Men
"The truth is being a man can mean whatever you want it to mean," says Britt East, author of A Gay Man's Guide to Life. "You get to decide." This also means that society as a whole needs to stop putting people into boxes.
"Our society needs to remember that being a man doesn’t mean you have to like sports or women. Being a strong man doesn’t mean you can’t show weakness or cry. Being a successful man doesn’t mean you have to marry or become a C-suite executive," adds Snyder. "Gender identities, just like career choices and lifestyle choices, don’t make you any less of a man."
#22
Jeff Feels So Threatened By A Cartoon That He Had To Write An Entire Article About It
#23
This Is Why We Can't Have Nice Things
#24
Twitter Is Such A Lovely Place Isn’t It
In an essay titled, Why Calling It 'Toxic Masculinity' Isn't Helping, Mark Greene argues that "masculinity is not toxic; our culture’s narrow, conformist, violent, bullying, man-box version of it is." He says that words matter, and that "language that critiques men’s culture (toxic culture of masculinity) is received differently than language that critiques men’s personal sense of self (toxic masculinity)."
One blames and shames, explains Greene, while the other invites men to understand how they are victims of man-box culture.
#25
More “Rules For Thee But Not For Me” Nonsense
#26
Iwil Have A Fwapachino Pwease
JulieGellert 20 hours ago
Hey, when I first went to college, I drank black, unsweetened coffee and felt so tough. I was a 16 year old girl. Guess we're the same, bro.
#27
Dude Thinks He’s Eren Jaeger
#28
Fatherhood Is Not Safe Either Apparently
Luke || Kira (he/she) 7 hours ago
Idk... as long as it makes them care about their kids, let them have some fun with it. This looks more like a tongue-in-cheek mocking of the "alpha male" approach.
#29
Do I Need To Write Anything?
Luke || Kira (he/she) 7 hours ago
Sad how many people see casual alcoholism as a haha laughing matter, and that applies to both this and the "wine moms"
#30
Toxic Masculinity Has Entered The Chat 🙄
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:|
#32
Real Men Can't Get Cold
#33
Seen In A Bar In Bozeman, MT
#34
Seen At A Local Candy Shop
#35
Whatever Shall We Do!?
#36
Putting All Your Self Worth On Your Perceived Fuckability. It’s So Sad To See Men Brush Off Positivity, Especially When They’re Being Told They Are Worth More Than The Things They Can’t Change About Themselves
Luke || Kira (he/she) 7 hours ago
I know women whose s3xual fantasy is to be dominated by a Xenomorph. If a woman doesn't want to have s3x with you, it's NOT because of your look.
#37
Manly Color
Spellflinger 20 hours ago
Pink used to be considered too strong a color for girls. IT'S A COLOR FOLKS NO GENDER HERE TO SEE!
#38
On A Video Where A Guy Happened To Have Painted Nails Lmfao
Luke || Kira (he/she) 7 hours ago
If it offends "alpha males", it just makes me want to paint my nails more
#39
I Found This In The Q&a For An Air Purifier On Amazon
#40
The Entitlement And Lack Of Self Awareness Is Overwhelming
#41
Local Bro Ashamed To Give Positive Feedback To Women’s Clothing...as Part Of His Job
#42
Whew! So Glad They Were Only “Bro-Hugging”. Otherwise It’d Mean They Were Gay Or Something
#44
Til That Men Wearing Bright Colours Is Juvenile. And Not Age Appropriate?
Doctor Strange 4 hours ago
Maturity is knowing when it is ok to be immature. When I'm work, I dress and act professionally. But on my time? I'm going to do what makes me happy. If that means wearing a stupid shirt, or dancing with an inannimate object at a ball, who am I hurting?
#45
Heres Something Replied To Me On A Youtube Video
General Anaesthesia 10 hours ago
That's why they like manly sports, so they can celebrate scoring like a troop of hórny monkies.
#46
Found This On A Xbox Post About Minecraft
#47
Why Just Why
Michael Largey 5 hours ago
Men are the group that should be labeled ruthless. I don't know a single man named Ruth.
#49
As A Rider, I'm Part Of A Few Motorcycle Groups So I Know When There Are Group/Charity Rides I Can Join But Most Of The Time It's Just Stuff Like This
Luke || Kira (he/she) 7 hours ago
That's not TOO bad tho, IMO relationships with lots of common interests are healthy and long-lasting
#50
Idk If It Fits Here But Anyway, I Saw A Guy Sharing His "Opinion" On Abuse So I Texted His GF To Make Sure She's Safe. Feel Free To Msg His GF And Show Her That This Is Abuse
#51
This Feels Like Pure Toxic Masculinity This Boot *reviewer*
#52
“Emasculated” For Carrying A Bag?
Luke || Kira (he/she) 7 hours ago
I've been told a few times that I'm carrying a "handbag" (it's a crossbody bag actually) but it's practical as hell and fits SO many pins so the joke's on them.
#54
Run-Jumps Gaily
#56
#9 Is My Favorite!
#57
Caring About Animals Lives, The Environment Or Human Lives Is Now Pansy Shit
#58
Men Are Not Allowed To Cry, According To Twitter Intellectuals
#59
This Guy Is A Goldmine Of Cringe
#60
Real Men Don't Post Anything Apparently
#61
Ugh, Saying Sorry Is Nonexistent Cause ‘We’re Guys’ Apparently
Gavin Johnson 12 hours ago
He’s got issues with his keyboard, it keeps inserting … at random points … it’s like his … keyboard needs … time to process or think … about what it’s being forced to write. ‘Keyboard, if you are OK blink twice’.
#62
I Guess Basic Safety Is Also Not Masculine Enough
nottheactualphoto 13 hours ago
I saw that sticker on an old (1960s) VW beetle, but it read as tongue-in-cheek.
#63
Will Take Down If I Did Something Wrong
Doctor Strange 4 hours ago
This is why so many men can't or won't show emotion or weakness. Too many times I've opened up and gotten the 'man up' speech.
#64
Little Bit Toxic?
#65
Men These Days Aren’t Fucking Up Their Teeth With Pliers Like They Used To. Fucking Pussies
Beak Hookage 13 hours ago
You can literally di.e from poorly kept teeth, but dying is manly so go right ahead.
#67
Finally You Can Wash Without Putting Your Masculinity In Danger
#68
Okay Freud Calm Tf Down
#70
Spotted In The Wild
#71
“Women Fear Men They Respect”
Michael Largey 5 hours ago
Well, you can't really argue with implied conclusion that a woman would be loyal to OP only out of fear.
Luke || Kira (he/she) 7 hours ago
I've heard one girl talking about her man like "He told me that he's gonna have a phone call, he'll be angry, he'll be shouting, but nothing of it is aimed at me. Then he went into his car to have the call without upsetting me." Anyone man-attracted can tell me which option is better?
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FluffyDreg 10 hours ago
Because some people lack the ability to understand words. Toxic Masculinity =/= Masculinity is toxic. In FACT it literally means the OPPOSITE. The fact toxic has to be SPECIFIED means that by DEFAULT Masculinity ISN'T toxic. It proves that there is another form of Masculinity that is healthy. Toxic Masculinity only refers to when masculine ideals are taken to such an extreme they hurt everyone. Like telling men they arent allowed to have any emotions, that they are lesser than if they show feelings.
Doctor Strange 4 hours ago
I've posted this before, but just a reminder: the person who coined the phrases 'alpha' 'beta' etc DISPROVED HIS OWN STUDY. Those terms don't exist. In reality, a wolf pack is just a family. The 'alphas' are just mom and dad. So the guy at the amusement park with the fany pack full snacks making sure his family is happy, healthy and wel fed is the truest alpha male you will ever meet.
FluffyDreg 10 hours ago
Because some people lack the ability to understand words. Toxic Masculinity =/= Masculinity is toxic. In FACT it literally means the OPPOSITE. The fact toxic has to be SPECIFIED means that by DEFAULT Masculinity ISN'T toxic. It proves that there is another form of Masculinity that is healthy. Toxic Masculinity only refers to when masculine ideals are taken to such an extreme they hurt everyone. Like telling men they arent allowed to have any emotions, that they are lesser than if they show feelings.
Doctor Strange 4 hours ago
I've posted this before, but just a reminder: the person who coined the phrases 'alpha' 'beta' etc DISPROVED HIS OWN STUDY. Those terms don't exist. In reality, a wolf pack is just a family. The 'alphas' are just mom and dad. So the guy at the amusement park with the fany pack full snacks making sure his family is happy, healthy and wel fed is the truest alpha male you will ever meet.
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