Maid Of Honor Gets Demoted To A Bridesmaid Because She Won’t Go On A Diet, Decides To Take Revenge By Publicly Exposing The Horrible Bride
Lia, 27, who is known as @liainlouisiana on TikTok, shared a video of herself eating Chick-fil-A in front of a screenshot of a chat with the bride. In a series of videos, the TikToker exposed cruel messages she received from the bride who invited her to be a bridesmaid, but wanted to control everything, from the shoes Lia will wear to the size she is.
Turns out, Lia was told to go on a diet and even got demoted from being the maid of honor because she was told she was fat. Then tension seemed to escalate, with each video Lia shared on her channel showing what craziness she’s been going through until the wedding drama reached a boiling point.
“I’ve cried all afternoon. I’m uninvited,” Lia revealed in the following video. Scroll down to hear the full story and make sure to share your thoughts in the comments below.
This TikToker bridesmaid was uninvited from the wedding after she exposed the controlling bridezilla for fat-shaming in a series of videos that went viral
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@liainlouisiana#greenscreen #weddingtok #bodypositivity #fyp #louisiana #lsu #ootd♬ original sound – Brandan Surdyk
The bride also tried to control what shoes Lia would be wearing on the day, demanding her to be “decent”
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@liainlouisianaPart 2. It’s the “whore shoes” for me #greenscreen #fyp #bodypositivity #weddingtok #hispanictiktok #millennialsoftiktok♬ good soup – MARVEL FANS
In part 3 of her video, Lia announced that she’s been crying all afternoon as she was uninvited from the wedding
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This is what she told her viewers in a heartfelt video, explaining how this whole wedding drama made her feel
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@liainlouisianaI’m really upset about this our trauma bond runs deep #fyp #weddingtok #hispanictiktok #millennialsoftiktok #ChimeHasYourBack #CandyCrushAllStars♬ original sound – Lia
Controlling Bridezillas are nothing new. In fact, we previously wrote about some of the craziest bridezillas that wedding planners, family members, and guests have endured. Often they shock people with irrational demands and very harsh comments towards their bridesmaids.
Previously, the wedding planner Rhiann Janak Gouabeche, the CEO of Lucy Till French Wedding planners, told us that “A bridezilla is someone who loses her cool when it comes to wedding planning, usually snapping at friends, family, and suppliers when these people are only trying to help.” However, a bridezilla should not be confused with a demanding bride since “it’s a most important day, and it’s entirely NORMAL to have particular and important desires.”
Rhiann continued that “a bridezilla, though, is a DIFFICULT bride because of the way she expresses those desires and treats those involved in the wedding plans with hostility, belittlement, or lack of appreciation.”
And it’s not the first time that a bride has requested that her bridesmaids lose weight for their wedding. Here at Bored Panda, we wrote about a bridezilla who similarly demanded her bridesmaid drop from size 12 to 8 and got her toxicity exposed online. Another story was about a bride who assigned wedding attire to people by weight categories. As you can imagine, the backlash was tremendous.
But many people showed their support for Lia and this is what they commented
Neverminding the bride being just an awful person in the first place, and a person's weight and habits being their own business, but I'm curious: in what twisted reality is this woman considered "fat"? Seriously, how does someone (the bride) get their perception of reality so f'd up?
I had a look at her account - she shared that according to her BMI she is obese!! I was really surprised at that. Didn't the joke used to be that brides wanted to not have attractive bridesmaids so that they didn't detract from them? It is weird to me that these kinds of things matter, rather than just wanting to surround yourself with people you care about. Shallow, awful person I agree.
Load More Replies...Totally agree. Horrible when you realise though. Took me a while to twig when I kept coming away from some friends upset all the time and rationalising what one person had said at the end of the evening. Then the light bulb went on. Belittling me to make herself feel better. That's not a friend. You don't hurt others or reduce the compliments they get because you are jealous. Mourned the loss of who I thought they were for a while and still miss the fun we had.
Load More Replies...Whenever I read stories like this I always ask myself what type of friendship people had until that very moment.... I mean, you get along well until you decide they are too fat to attend your wedding? What is this?!
Too many Bridezillas out there. How are all these girls conning men into marrying them? Demanding expensive weddings and big engagement rings. If I was a guy and my bride started treating her friends this way, I'd tell her an easy way to solve her issues with the bridesmaids or maid of honor is to cancel the wedding...because that's still an option...because she's making the wedding all about the pomp and not about the union between two people. Regardless as to what these women dreamed of for the perfect wedding...they key to the perfect wedding is being there, with the partner you are vowing to stay true to for the rest of your life and professing your love for them. Who GAF how fat the wedding party is or how expensive the ceremony is? Get over it!
How are they convincing their parents to pay for these monstrous wastes of money? How are they convincing other women to sign up for the months of expense and abuse that is the lot of the modern bridesmaid?
Load More Replies...I don't understand caring what your bride's maid look like. Like caring about their hair, makeup, body type. I don't even care what they wear really. Something nice is all I would ask for.
Me either, and I'm American. This is crazy to me.
Load More Replies...Well, that is a very valid reason to say "Go f**k yourself." That terribly hurts, I lost my best friend (or more like dumped her) because I realised (waaay too late) that she only used me for her entertainment or money issues. I really liked her, we were close (I thought), but nope. Best day of my life was me throwing her out of it.
Sorry that happened to you - I had to do the same thing for slightly different reasons. It's extremely painful isn't it? Your friends are supposed to be the people in your corner, supporting you and cheering you on. Hope you have better now.
Load More Replies...They were all superficial friends and toxic for each other IMO bc no one would tell their friends to lose weight like that or say they have no self control and no one would put someone's attitudes or problems for public eye like she did either. It's a good thing they are cutting this "friendship" now so they don't waste years in a fake group and instead can find real friends.
I can't believe how some of these brides are so demanding. They think because it's their special day they can treat people like crap. I look at my pictures from my first marriage and was glad I had people who supported me and I didn't care what they looked like. This bride couldn't really be a true friend. It's time for her to stand up for herself and kick this bridezilla to the curb.
Wow! How horrible. I feel so bad for this girl being shamed. What an entitled b**** this bride must be. I hope she falls on her face.
This is sad. My best friend has joked about what her wedding would look like with myself and another friend she would have in it. She's tall and average weight. I'm shorter and fat. Her other friend is about my height but very slender. We talk about what dresses we could fine for us. What I love about it is that she's not thinking any of us should change to look good in the pics. She wants us there as we are because she loves us. Now just need to find a guy for her.
What a f*cking HUGE C.u.n.t. Who the hell wants to marry that fake bitch anyways? That poor poor bastard, have fun being chained to that asshat buddy
If you want a group of "models" to strut the runway with you, then you need to hire some. Most friends do not have model bodies. They come as they are and are gladly welcomed. They are there to support the bride on her day. This bride is toxic and needs to be avoided at all costs. You really must respect yourself a little more. You need friends who will love you for who you are, not how you look.
I wish I could tell this young lady that even if It doesn’t feel like it now, she dodged a bullet and doesn’t need this kind of person in her life. This girl is a Bride bully. Karma will come for her. Don’t you worry.
The whole thing is nuts. Deciding what bridesmaids should wear, the very concept of bridesmaids etc. Must be a hell of a stress on the bride too (I mean even a reasonable bride). I'm so happy we still don't have this kind of protocol for weddings in Italy. You just choose your best friend as the legal witness (meaning they have to sign to confirm the legal value of the wedding), but then they dress as they please and that's it.
Maid of Honor is usually your best friend, right? How is this bride going to treat her husband? WOW
I have never understood women who tie their entire sense of self-worth to a single day. Like this day is the only day that will matter or will ever matter in their lives. It isn’t. Life is very very long, and this is just one day of it.
I got married at the same time as a work colleague. She went for the full works. Big, posh wedding costing a fortune. Mine was small, simple and cheaper. She described it as 'the best day of her life' and they all turned to me and I said 'yes, it's up there with a few'. I did enjoy my wedding you see, but I've had other events that mattered. Anyway, she separated within a year and is now divorced. So much for the best day of your life. Is it still that or forever tainted? If they marry again will that be the best day now? I completely agree the focus is all wrong. The marriage is what matters, the wedding can be lovely but you don't need to go mad!
Load More Replies...Marriage is about US not about ME. No wonder many of these bridezillas end up alone in the end
My requirements for a bride's maid. Be well groomed for the occasion. Wear whatever dress we picked out in the sized that fits you. Wear comfortable, clean schools. Help keep me sane in the chaos of getting ready that day and make sure I drink water and eat a little something too. Have some fun but don't disrupt the ceremony. Reception is fine but not the ceremony. That's pretty much it.
Good lord, these "it's MY day" bridezillas, yes it is YOUR day but YOU aren't the center of the universe. What a false friend. I hope the bride looks at the pictures in the future and realizes her best friend wasn't there.
Mean girls should be left behind in Junior High, not be allowed to dictate the appearance of a bridesmaid/MOH just because it's" her special day". It's clear that the aesthetic of her wedding day is more important than the well-being of any of the participants. This bride is selfish and probably narcissistic,too. Her groom is probably just as shallow as she is, for tolerating her nonsense.
She doesn't deserve any friends. Let her get married and see how long it lasts. How will she treat her husband, if she can't get her own way? You don't need her in your life.
That young woman who got disinvited is NOT FAT! She's a perfectly healthy weight, and only the bridezilla's distorted worldview would call her fat! If she's even a size 12, I'd be shocked!
Kudos to you for NOT going to her wedding and I would not even be her friend anymore either!!!
"Tell her you'll make it to her next wedding." *Snorted out my coffee!*
Bride monster is Also a good name for her! I think the bridesmaid.is better off Not going to That Wedding! !!!
You do deserve respect in being the most helpful person in a wedding as the maid of honor. As you were picked for who you are an not your looks at that moment. But then it became about your looks and you were demoted. Doing your part to be tactful in many ways, bride didn't get how hurt you are. So taking yourself out of that environment, returning that dress, and taking deep breaths because yes, you will miss a friends special day, it's acceptable. Standing up for your body and respect as a person is hard. It might be the first true time you put your foot down with her. But in the end maybe that friendship will rekindle, or if she has done this before you will realize it's worth your sanity to move on an make better friends. Love an hugs.
Maid of Honor is usually your best friend, right? Wonder how she'll treat her husband.....
How disgusting that society has taught her to just take the abuse and end with "goodnight, love you". I hope the bride gets hit by a bus.
That really sucks, the bride and your so-called friend is swine, but I don't get the public revenge thing. You're tearing yourself down to her level and deserve to respect yourself more.
Another contribution to the general idea that the US has more than its fair share of entitled morons and idiots. I'll leave it at that.
This is not a "trivial issue" though. This is the kind of emotional abuse that drives thousands of people to potentially fatal eating disorders. Props to the OP for standing up for herself.
Load More Replies...ah yes, because we all know brown people can never be mean to their bridesmaids or be bridezilla
Load More Replies...hey now, if people want to eat bland styrofoam tasting chicken sandwiches, they should be able to eat bland styrofoam tasting chicken sandwiches.
Load More Replies...Neverminding the bride being just an awful person in the first place, and a person's weight and habits being their own business, but I'm curious: in what twisted reality is this woman considered "fat"? Seriously, how does someone (the bride) get their perception of reality so f'd up?
I had a look at her account - she shared that according to her BMI she is obese!! I was really surprised at that. Didn't the joke used to be that brides wanted to not have attractive bridesmaids so that they didn't detract from them? It is weird to me that these kinds of things matter, rather than just wanting to surround yourself with people you care about. Shallow, awful person I agree.
Load More Replies...Totally agree. Horrible when you realise though. Took me a while to twig when I kept coming away from some friends upset all the time and rationalising what one person had said at the end of the evening. Then the light bulb went on. Belittling me to make herself feel better. That's not a friend. You don't hurt others or reduce the compliments they get because you are jealous. Mourned the loss of who I thought they were for a while and still miss the fun we had.
Load More Replies...Whenever I read stories like this I always ask myself what type of friendship people had until that very moment.... I mean, you get along well until you decide they are too fat to attend your wedding? What is this?!
Too many Bridezillas out there. How are all these girls conning men into marrying them? Demanding expensive weddings and big engagement rings. If I was a guy and my bride started treating her friends this way, I'd tell her an easy way to solve her issues with the bridesmaids or maid of honor is to cancel the wedding...because that's still an option...because she's making the wedding all about the pomp and not about the union between two people. Regardless as to what these women dreamed of for the perfect wedding...they key to the perfect wedding is being there, with the partner you are vowing to stay true to for the rest of your life and professing your love for them. Who GAF how fat the wedding party is or how expensive the ceremony is? Get over it!
How are they convincing their parents to pay for these monstrous wastes of money? How are they convincing other women to sign up for the months of expense and abuse that is the lot of the modern bridesmaid?
Load More Replies...I don't understand caring what your bride's maid look like. Like caring about their hair, makeup, body type. I don't even care what they wear really. Something nice is all I would ask for.
Me either, and I'm American. This is crazy to me.
Load More Replies...Well, that is a very valid reason to say "Go f**k yourself." That terribly hurts, I lost my best friend (or more like dumped her) because I realised (waaay too late) that she only used me for her entertainment or money issues. I really liked her, we were close (I thought), but nope. Best day of my life was me throwing her out of it.
Sorry that happened to you - I had to do the same thing for slightly different reasons. It's extremely painful isn't it? Your friends are supposed to be the people in your corner, supporting you and cheering you on. Hope you have better now.
Load More Replies...They were all superficial friends and toxic for each other IMO bc no one would tell their friends to lose weight like that or say they have no self control and no one would put someone's attitudes or problems for public eye like she did either. It's a good thing they are cutting this "friendship" now so they don't waste years in a fake group and instead can find real friends.
I can't believe how some of these brides are so demanding. They think because it's their special day they can treat people like crap. I look at my pictures from my first marriage and was glad I had people who supported me and I didn't care what they looked like. This bride couldn't really be a true friend. It's time for her to stand up for herself and kick this bridezilla to the curb.
Wow! How horrible. I feel so bad for this girl being shamed. What an entitled b**** this bride must be. I hope she falls on her face.
This is sad. My best friend has joked about what her wedding would look like with myself and another friend she would have in it. She's tall and average weight. I'm shorter and fat. Her other friend is about my height but very slender. We talk about what dresses we could fine for us. What I love about it is that she's not thinking any of us should change to look good in the pics. She wants us there as we are because she loves us. Now just need to find a guy for her.
What a f*cking HUGE C.u.n.t. Who the hell wants to marry that fake bitch anyways? That poor poor bastard, have fun being chained to that asshat buddy
If you want a group of "models" to strut the runway with you, then you need to hire some. Most friends do not have model bodies. They come as they are and are gladly welcomed. They are there to support the bride on her day. This bride is toxic and needs to be avoided at all costs. You really must respect yourself a little more. You need friends who will love you for who you are, not how you look.
I wish I could tell this young lady that even if It doesn’t feel like it now, she dodged a bullet and doesn’t need this kind of person in her life. This girl is a Bride bully. Karma will come for her. Don’t you worry.
The whole thing is nuts. Deciding what bridesmaids should wear, the very concept of bridesmaids etc. Must be a hell of a stress on the bride too (I mean even a reasonable bride). I'm so happy we still don't have this kind of protocol for weddings in Italy. You just choose your best friend as the legal witness (meaning they have to sign to confirm the legal value of the wedding), but then they dress as they please and that's it.
Maid of Honor is usually your best friend, right? How is this bride going to treat her husband? WOW
I have never understood women who tie their entire sense of self-worth to a single day. Like this day is the only day that will matter or will ever matter in their lives. It isn’t. Life is very very long, and this is just one day of it.
I got married at the same time as a work colleague. She went for the full works. Big, posh wedding costing a fortune. Mine was small, simple and cheaper. She described it as 'the best day of her life' and they all turned to me and I said 'yes, it's up there with a few'. I did enjoy my wedding you see, but I've had other events that mattered. Anyway, she separated within a year and is now divorced. So much for the best day of your life. Is it still that or forever tainted? If they marry again will that be the best day now? I completely agree the focus is all wrong. The marriage is what matters, the wedding can be lovely but you don't need to go mad!
Load More Replies...Marriage is about US not about ME. No wonder many of these bridezillas end up alone in the end
My requirements for a bride's maid. Be well groomed for the occasion. Wear whatever dress we picked out in the sized that fits you. Wear comfortable, clean schools. Help keep me sane in the chaos of getting ready that day and make sure I drink water and eat a little something too. Have some fun but don't disrupt the ceremony. Reception is fine but not the ceremony. That's pretty much it.
Good lord, these "it's MY day" bridezillas, yes it is YOUR day but YOU aren't the center of the universe. What a false friend. I hope the bride looks at the pictures in the future and realizes her best friend wasn't there.
Mean girls should be left behind in Junior High, not be allowed to dictate the appearance of a bridesmaid/MOH just because it's" her special day". It's clear that the aesthetic of her wedding day is more important than the well-being of any of the participants. This bride is selfish and probably narcissistic,too. Her groom is probably just as shallow as she is, for tolerating her nonsense.
She doesn't deserve any friends. Let her get married and see how long it lasts. How will she treat her husband, if she can't get her own way? You don't need her in your life.
That young woman who got disinvited is NOT FAT! She's a perfectly healthy weight, and only the bridezilla's distorted worldview would call her fat! If she's even a size 12, I'd be shocked!
Kudos to you for NOT going to her wedding and I would not even be her friend anymore either!!!
"Tell her you'll make it to her next wedding." *Snorted out my coffee!*
Bride monster is Also a good name for her! I think the bridesmaid.is better off Not going to That Wedding! !!!
You do deserve respect in being the most helpful person in a wedding as the maid of honor. As you were picked for who you are an not your looks at that moment. But then it became about your looks and you were demoted. Doing your part to be tactful in many ways, bride didn't get how hurt you are. So taking yourself out of that environment, returning that dress, and taking deep breaths because yes, you will miss a friends special day, it's acceptable. Standing up for your body and respect as a person is hard. It might be the first true time you put your foot down with her. But in the end maybe that friendship will rekindle, or if she has done this before you will realize it's worth your sanity to move on an make better friends. Love an hugs.
Maid of Honor is usually your best friend, right? Wonder how she'll treat her husband.....
How disgusting that society has taught her to just take the abuse and end with "goodnight, love you". I hope the bride gets hit by a bus.
That really sucks, the bride and your so-called friend is swine, but I don't get the public revenge thing. You're tearing yourself down to her level and deserve to respect yourself more.
Another contribution to the general idea that the US has more than its fair share of entitled morons and idiots. I'll leave it at that.
This is not a "trivial issue" though. This is the kind of emotional abuse that drives thousands of people to potentially fatal eating disorders. Props to the OP for standing up for herself.
Load More Replies...ah yes, because we all know brown people can never be mean to their bridesmaids or be bridezilla
Load More Replies...hey now, if people want to eat bland styrofoam tasting chicken sandwiches, they should be able to eat bland styrofoam tasting chicken sandwiches.
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