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60 Men Get Brutally Honest About Things Women Do To Seem Attractive That Men Can’t Stand
There are a lot of things men get wrong about women. In turn, there are loads of misconceptions women have about men. It's an argument as old as time; it's where legends like "Men are from Mars and women are from Venus" were born.
In reality, both men and women tend to make assumptions about the opposite gender. According to a 2024 international survey by the dating app Tinder, this "assumptions epidemic" is ruining the dating vibe. For example, 65% of women think that men only want casual flings. In reality, only 29% of men really do.
However, women get a lot of things wrong, too. Things that they think attract men might actually be repelling them. At least that's what we learned from these two online threads where someone asked: "What's something women think impresses men but actually doesn't?" If you're currently a single lady, you might want to check some of these out!
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#1
Being "high maintenance."
I want a relationship not a monthly subscription.
DennyS (denzoren) 9 minutes ago (edited)
I would like to say, being high maintenance and saying they're high maintenance is different. Maybe she's rich and used to a certain lifestyle (so I know that's not for me, I'm poor lol) or maybe she likes to say that....totally different.
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#2
Lip fillers are hideous. I've no idea why so many women willingly keep doing this to themselves.
Charlotte Ingle 7 hours ago
So many? I imagine it's a pretty tiny fraction of a percentage, overall
#3
Socials. I don't care about followers count or anything of that nature. If they brag about that, it's my cue to leave.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 hour ago
I'm terrible with social media. I don't understand the obsession with it. I do *have* an Instagram, but it's 80% pictures of my (many) pets, 10% my artwork, and 10% pictures of me holding a giant potato or me wearing a horrible St. Paddy's Day hat or something XD
#4
Implants, too much makeup, acrylic claw like nails.
Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
Ie plastic Barbie dolls , 🤮be yourself end off so much better that fake plastic surgery looks , that is ligit just for apsay burn victims n the like ! being vane is just pathetic !
#5
Acting hard to get only makes you hard to want.
anon:
To me it always just looks like a lack of interest, and if there’s no interest I’ll stop trying.
UDPviper:
This is coming from a gay man, but I've seen it fail for my girl friends a ton.
Playing 'hard to get.'
Most guys eventually just take it as a lack of interest and move on. Clear communication and showing genuine interest is way more impressive than a guessing game.
Charlotte Ingle 7 hours ago
Is anyone idiotic enough to play games like this? Or is it a genuine lack of interest all along?
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liam newton-harding 43 minutes ago
If I wanted to play games, I'll stay home, and start up Cyberpunk 2077.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 26 minutes ago
Dammit, Liam, thanks for reminding me that I STILL haven't managed to finish a playthrough even though I've had the game for 5 years XD
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TotallyNOTAFox 1 hour ago (edited)
No means no so it's time to move on if a woman doesn't show interest
Crystalwitch60 2 hours ago
Mind games are pathetic and not in the least bit s e x y ! n that’s from a woman lol works both ways ,
#6
Testing men to see how much they care.
0110110111:
My buddy dated a girl for a couple of months and one day out of the blue she broke up with him. It was quickly discovered that it was a test because when hit with that news he felt a bit of relief and responded that he understood and wished her well. No hard feelings…on his part. She lost her mind and borderline stalked him for months.
Charlotte Ingle 7 hours ago
This is straightforward emotional a***e a d manipulation. No one should put up with it
Crystalwitch60 2 hours ago
Again with the mind games m grow up ladies ,this really is not a good look , !,
#7
Mar-a-lago face makes me want to throw up.
Smasa224:
I haven't met any humans of any gender who thinks that looks good. Its like the Amazon guy's wife, any time her photo pops up, whoever i am near comments how terrible she looks...
Ive heard.. "all the money in the world, and she chooses to look this terrifying "... but never "i wish I could afford to look like that."
Skara Brae 3 hours ago
It's sad to see so many women, like Kristi Noem's trowelled-on makeup in the picture above, and 'influencers' with hideous beauty filters, toothpick legs under hippo butts and protruding suction-cup lips. Is this the behavior of well-balanced people? Who decided ideal women should look this way, a circus? How can they expect anybody to respect or trust them when they look and act so fake? Also, take a hard look at that picture. If a man looked at you like that and followed you, wouldn't you call the police?
Crystalwitch60 2 hours ago
It’s something to do with a trump house thing , I had to look it up just lol , Personally I don’t see the issue with the woman on this pic , she’s a natural beauty , so don’t really need that make up ,but it’s defo not put in with a plasterer’s trowel either
Load More Replies... LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 hour ago
No, she isn't. That face is a shallow mask of plastic surgery and cosmetic procedures that is hung over her demonic heart. She is a monster.
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Lip fillers, ditto. They look fake and horrible.
Fake eyelashes: look like caterpillars
Overly long fake nails.
"Designer" anything.
Daisydaisy 8 hours ago
I don't know why anyone thinks false eyelashes look attractive. Maybe on a drag queen for a laugh, but in real life they just look terrifying
Lil be lil 6 hours ago (edited)
I don't understand the women in the suburbs where I live, they dress like blue collar workers just off the job but must carry $1000.+ designer purse. I'm not a purse lady myself and would rather have some decent shoes or boots to wear.
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Speaking in a childlike voice to appear cute. I guess some guys like it but to me it’s creepy.
TotallyNOTAFox 58 minutes ago
That's only okay for speaking to children or pets (dogs really love that for some reason)
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 hour ago
I admit I did this for years when I was still dating my now-ex. I didn't realize it at the time, but it was basically a "fawn" reaction to his emotional, verbal, and mental ábuse - for some reason I thought if I seemed helpless and cute, he wouldn't be so ábusive to me (ha ha, joke's on me, he still was.) I HATED myself even more than usual when I heard myself talking in that voice. It disgusted me and I felt like I was debasing myself. I can't imagine purposefully doing it in an attempt to attract someone, though - if you're talking/acting childlike and you ATTRACT someone that way, what does that imply about what they're attracted TO? D:
#10
Lots of make up. Although, as I get older I become more and more convinced that women aren’t actually bothered about impressing men, it’s really other women they want to impress/make jealous!
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 hour ago
I remember being in my 20s and desperately wishing I was "better" at applying makeup. I wanted to look "pretty". But I have a lot of negative associations with makeup - my mom was born in 1944 and is of the generation/mindset that a woman MUST apply a FULL FACE of makeup EVERY DAY, even if she is literally not leaving the house (I wish I was being facetious.) She used to scream at me and slap me for NOT wearing makeup every day. That aside, it takes SO much time to apply properly (if you're doing a lot of makeup) and then later on your have to remove it/use special cleansers XD No thanks, too much work for me. I shall remain my hideous un-makeuped self XD
Pittsburgh rare 1 hour ago
That's such an old and misogynistic take 🙄 most women are either old enough to not care or grew up with make up as a way of expression/ a little pick me up for themselves. My coworkers don't bat an eye whatever make up I wear, and I don't care whoever looks because I do it for me, like the rest of my appearance.
#11
Those hideous painted eyebrows.
Lil be lil 6 hours ago
They are tattooed some of them and looks like drawn and filled in using a pattern cutout.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 hour ago
Yep! My mom spent so many years waxing and plucking her eyebrows that they stopped growing back in, and then they were too thin/narrow XD So she eventually had that "permanent makeup" tattooing done - but even that doesn't last forever.
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Being difficult. The whole “if you can’t handle me at my worst” nonsense just screams the “best” ain’t worth it. Why would anyone want that?
Norfolk and good 2 hours ago
That phase has been completely misunderstood and wrongly attributed to Marilyn Monroe.
Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
100% misunderstood , even men have their bad days to , n us women are meant to put up with that , it light just means on our bad days m ie ill pmt , n the likes , if people can’t handle that n only wanna know u on the brilliant days then they don’t deserve us !
Load More Replies... Pittsburgh rare 1 hour ago
That's a waving red flag on dating sites and guys should be thankful for the warning
#13
There’s a difference between being an independent individual vs simply not taking others into account. I’m glad you’re your own person, absolutely! I don’t want to be responsible for somebody’s sense of self. But, if there’s no room for others in your narrative it’s probably going to be a lonely one.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 hour ago
You missed the point entirely. OP isn't saying that being ALONE is lonely. OP is saying that if you're a narcissist and you don't take other people into account because there's only room for you in your own narrative, your existence will be a lonely one. You really, really whooshed on this one - OP doesn't sound like a "sad bloke" in "mummies basement" who "can't get a girl" (good lord, you're judgmental and nasty sometimes) - OP sounds like someone who was raised by a narcissist and knows the type.
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Game playing. Instead, just say what you want. That would be a godsend to men everywhere.
Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
Actually most of us normal ones do not , I loath mind games, oh n it works both ways men also play em to , it’s wrong either way !
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Telling us about how many other dudes are interested in you or what they did for you.
Rachel_Silver:
I dated someone who did that. I think she believed that was how you got a man to spoil you. I also came to the conclusion that she had "traded up" to me from the last guy, because she would compare me to him a lot if she felt I was slacking.
We lasted less than a week.
Lil be lil 6 hours ago
Yea but I don't like cheap guys or guys that are always tallying in their heads how much they're spending on you and as if you don't reciprocate by making a nice dinner or something p. I had a guy who treated me as if every date was a transactional event called him out on that and broke up!
TotallyNOTAFox 53 minutes ago
Oh please, who doesn't love to be constantly compared to ex-partners? /s
#16
Putting other women down.
TotallyNOTAFox 55 minutes ago (edited)
From my personal experience, that seems sadly very common for women to do
#17
Being "sassy" or a "brat" .... it's just being annoying and/or obnoxious.
TotallyNOTAFox 54 minutes ago
A Brat is the wurst! (I know, german humour is no laughing matter)
#18
Heavily edited or overly posed photos.
#19
When they say they can’t get along with other women. I always think man there’s no way you’re a stable, honest and interesting person. If you can’t maintain friendships with your own gender I know a few women who think it’s a flex when talking to guys but I just don’t think it’s impressive at all.
Norfolk and good 2 hours ago
When a woman says she doesn't have female friends because "women cause too much drama" you can almost guarantee that she's the cause of the drama.
Charlotte Ingle 7 hours ago
I genuinely find most men easier to get along with because there's typically less ritualized conversations (aside from the sports blabber)
Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
For once I totally agree with you , n I’ve got very used to not hearing the sports shite lmao I switch that part off unless it’s horse racing or rugby ,
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Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
Actually I don’t get on with other women , tbh I’ve always got on with men better n I’m 60 still the same , women are b i t c h y , which given im also bi is erm 😂 women are bloody hard work lol only female I get along with is my 24 yr old daughter ! I do not see how it equates to us being dramatic unstable or dishonest ffs that’s a full on nasty lot of insults , from a highly insecure MAN ,
#20
Acting disinterested to seem to be COOL.
Pingu-was-a-penguin:
I remember bumping into a girl I liked from school a good 10 years after we left and she was talking about how she used to have a crush on me yet she very strongly rejected any flirting I tried or even general conversation. I straight up thought she was disgusted by me so idk what on earth her plan was lol
Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
Erm in school neither males or females had a clue about how to approach each other relationship wise , so tended to go on the attack , it’s called growing up n learning , op of this clearly still hasn’t learnt !
#21
Claiming to be an influencer or model. The delusional need for social media acceptance.
Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
Toxic the lot of em ! Living life for poxy likes is not LIVING ! it’s the lazy way to beg money of people end off , full on toxic and also pretentious to .
Ace 3 hours ago
Because the majority of self-defined "influencers" are female. 70-80% seems to be an acceptable best-guess.
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Had a girl on the first date that kept bringing up making money and wanting to be super rich out of context to the point where it got weird. Wanting to be rich is fine, but like it shouldn’t be 75% of your personality.
Norfolk and good 2 hours ago (edited)
The problem with being motivated purely by money is that no amount of money will ever be enough. The more money somebody has, the more expensive their lifestyle becomes with big houses, new cars, designer clothes, exotic holidays, children in private school etc then they have to keep working themselves to death in order keep themselves in the lifestyle they have become accustomed to. Obviously, money is important, and you can't do much without it, but if chasing money is your main motivation in life, then you're probably going to end up alone.
#23
Not eating when on a date, like if he sees you consuming food you’ll immediately become obese and he will be disgusted, so all you order is a side salad and then steal his fries.
Just get the steak. Men tend to like women with a healthy appetite especially when it carries over to other activities.
Pittsburgh rare 1 hour ago
Dunno, I've had men commenting on my appetite, because apparently it was bigger than theirs/ not feminine. Dude, I work two jobs, I go to the gym and carry a household. I watch what I eat but I want big volume meals.
#24
Maybe it's just me, But non-stop traveling and endless party pictures don't impress me at all.
Pittsburgh rare 1 hour ago
As a woman, I really don't get how the #of countries you've been to defines your value as a human being. Yeah, travelling expands your views, but at some point it becomes a ridiculous competition without any added value.
#25
Pretending to be dumb.
2ManyMonitors:
I remember watching my sister, who is extremely intelligent, play dumb for a boy when she was 14 or 15 and I was shocked. He said some dumb fact about Europe, and she said some ditzy comment like, "So Europe is a continent, hehe?" I don't know why it bothered me so much in the moment, but I laughed at her and called her out, something to the effect of, "Aren't you in the Geography club and spent last summer in Rome!?"
We all try different approaches when we're figuring out how to talk to the opposite sex, and she definitely grew up to be an assertive woman who leads with her intelligence.
Skara Brae 4 hours ago
Why would any intelligent woman subject herself to being with a dullard? It must be soul-crushing.
Lil be lil 6 hours ago
Yay! But also, some men (really?) don't like intelligent women. They might outshine them?
pandamonium 4 hours ago
True. Did my thesis on desired partner characteristics for a long and short term relationships. Not insignificant number of men preferred unintelligent women for short term flings. Couldn't relate to that, though.
Load More Replies... Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
Well at 14 lol neither lads n lasses are Mature so u can’t really go by that !
#26
Being intentionally rude or sarcastic to seem confident.
#27
Women seem to think men are impressed by how much money they spend on clothes or bags, but most men either don't notice or don't care.
Giraffe Sitter 6 hours ago
To me, it’s a turnoff. $1,000 for a purse? It screams vanity and misplaced priorities. Unless you’re filthy rich, then I’m turned off for different reasons.
TotallyNOTAFox 39 minutes ago
Those designer clothes usually look ugly too in comparison to band- or checked shirts anyways in my opinion
#28
Idk but a lot of women seem to post up their dating profiles like they are ads for a job application. Tell me about YOU, don't tell me what I should be.
Paul C 52 minutes ago
I think this is actually a good thing and stops both sides wasting their time. There has to be something about the person themselves, to interest me, but also something about what they are looking for, so I don't bother anyone who wouldn't want to be with me. Though I hasten to add it was a long time ago I was single and thought about such things.
Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
Mean while the sensible ones of us don’t go near those cattle markets ! we meet people for real in real life. !
#29
Taking 2 hours to get ready...
#30
Everything excessive so it shows. Make-up, cosmetic stuff, especially the ugly lip thing they do. Excessively high heels, small purses. I like my women sort of natural and not fake. I must recognize her without make-up, in jeans and t-shirt as well.
#31
Once the makeup doesn’t match the skin tone of your neck/shoulders it looks way worse than your natural face ever could.
Chris the Bobcat 8 hours ago
Just like a certain orange-painted traitor my uneducated countrymen elected and worship.
Snazzy Smurf 7 hours ago (edited)
But they could try harder and use a more natural shade of orange.
Load More Replies... Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
Gotta learn to blend it in , I loath that to looks so fake n stupid , the way to blend it , is to put some moisturiser on palm of hand then add the concealer,etc mix in and there you go it all perfectly matches your natural skin tone beautifully , no awful orange lines around your chin sorted 👍
#33
Boasting about being promiscuous.
Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
Hypocrite much !, men always do this , strange how women sleeping around makes em S l a g s or w h or es but if men sleeping around makes around they are king !, pot kettle much !
#34
“I know my worth” post. Having a healthy self esteem is good and necessary but it doesn’t work that way.
Saying you see yourself as a “Queen” doesn’t means people must treat you as one.
Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
We all end up d e a d. Fact of being born ! Some at the hands of men ! I’m only alive by sheer chance , I,ll still never know how but I am , n I’m def no queen , all I’ve ever asked is I’m treated with respect, as everyone should be , not beaten and mentally A b u s ed , I’m still fighting ptsd from it , so I DO KNOW MY WORTH !! n if men don’t like that then good , I’m safe still !
Load More Replies... Pittsburgh rare 1 hour ago
But you can also ditch people who doesn't treat you with the same respect you treat them. So yes, I know my worth.
#35
As a woman I would say acting super jealous or trying to test him with some drama to check if he "cares enough" or is "boyfriend/hubby material".
In reality, most men won't only be unimpressed, they will see it as a huge red flag and rightfully so.
#36
I went on a date with a girl who told me like 5 different stories of her getting into fights. Did not take her yp on a 2nd date.
#37
Im sure it’s not gender exclusive but I can’t stand a woman who really brags herself up, acts like she’s a take charge type “alpha” or something then literally approaches every situation with what seems like 2 brain cells.
#38
Talking about how much they don't need a man. Like, I can respect that they can take care of themselves, but why are you advertising yourself if you'd rather just be alone?
TotallyNOTAFox 36 minutes ago (edited)
The partner being a bonus on top of the independence - Honestly, I think I would actually prefer being the bonus on top and not the necessity to have as it's an active choice to be around me
#39
It's not gender specific, but I hate it when women are purposely dishonest with you in order to impress you. I want to know the real you so I can know what I'm getting into.
#40
BBL.
Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
🤮🤮🤮🤮defo a turn OFF I’m bi lol n I do not get the attraction or why women do this to themselves eww
#41
I have had several instances where women have pretended to be interested in my nerdy hobbies only to later be annoyed by them and refuse to participate in them in a relationship.
Charlotte Ingle 7 hours ago
I might find it interesting to hear you talk about your hobbies; doesn't mean I want to participate. Same as telling you about the interesting part of my book doesn't mean I expect you to read the whole thing
#42
Boasting about themselves and how they're important.
Ego
Arrogant
Not being respectful of others.
#46
Talking [trash] about other women - especially their girl friends.
Also family. I get it if you don’t have the greatest relationship with them, but you don’t have to always bag on them; it’s not a good look.
#47
Posting luxury flex pics. Most guys just assume it’s debt or daddy’s money and keep scrolling..
TotallyNOTAFox 38 minutes ago
Or that there is constant pressure in the relationship to provide such things in the future
#49
Refusing to answer Yes or No.
Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
Pretty sure this is a man’s problem cos u can’t get a straight answer outta them either , POT MEET KETTLE !
#50
Being a girlboss. So we will constantly be in a competition against your career when it comes to your priorities?
The girlboss trope have…”influenced”… our favorite fandoms during the last 10 years, while proudly shouting that ”men arnt needed”. We are looking for a partner to build with, not a rival to compete against. We against the world, not you verses me.
Charlotte Ingle 7 hours ago
Wanted and needed are different things. Two people cannot be partners when one is dependent n the other
Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
JEALOUS MUCH ! so basically you don’t like women smarter than u , oh dear , hey ho dude that’s life deal with it !
LakotaWolf (she/her) 12 minutes ago
OP did not mention intelligence levels at all.
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I've seen some interviews with women who, when asked to rate themselves, automatically say they are a 10. And they think that answer will impress men, because, in their words, 'men want confident women.'
Nope. Being *blatantly* deluded isn't impressive or a sign of confidence. Men want a woman who understands reality.
#52
Bragging about being able to drink as much as men….i don’t think I’ve ever seen it turn out well.
Boris Long-Johnson 3 hours ago
My mates wife used to be able to drink most men (including me) under the table - turns out she was cheating and using the tactical chunder method.
Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
Ah I never did that , was never sick either , I just made sure no one saw me when I had to do the walk around the pub everyone playing the how much can you drink and not be drunk , which tbh I haven’t been since my 18 th b day , ( light can’t recall the entire week after that , I even worked , I only know that cos I got my wages rest blank ) fresh air n drinking fast bad mix 😱😂but I’d also come back in totally sober to , (or so they thought ) no tactical Childers involved
Load More Replies... Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
I have lmao me in my mid teens drinking hell angels under the able , I’ve got a high tolerance for alcohol, still do , tbh also for pain ,Ed’s and a high pain threshold , anyone got issues with that’s is freaking jealous !
#54
Long stories about exes.
Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
It’s why I am staying single now , cos to be honest with someone in a relationship, they have to understand why I have severe ptsd , why I’m terrified of being shouted at , why I will fight back if they raise a hand to me , some of us have had hard lives in marriages , or with others ,it’s actually exhausting from our side , but it can’t be hidden , so in those cases ,they have to hear i5 , n if they don’t want to then red flag , n run , but that said , that also works both ways , cos men can be put thru a b u s e to , only diff is they refuse to talk about it , which they should cos it does help
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Acting bored is cringe.
Crystalwitch60 1 hour ago
No idea why u got two downvotes on this one , cos your spot on m we don’t act bored , it means we ACTUALLY ARE ,
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I'll probably get downvoted but your money, career, & education don't impress us I'm legit happy for you achieving your goals but it's about as relevant to us as our interests are to you.
Charlotte Ingle 7 hours ago
If your career, education and interests are of no interest to her, what the heck are you going to talk about?
#57
Stating your positive attributes, but listing things women find desirable in men, i.e. good job, independent, earns lots of money etc. Some guys will appreciate this but most guys would prefer someone trustworthy, loyal, respectable, who won't nag them and likes frequent intimacy - with women like this becoming exceedingly rare.
Separately, telling a guy he is stable and secure with all your past partners not being that way. It doesn't impress us and lets us know you're settling and aren't that attracted, that we are only a stable wallet.
Charlotte Ingle 7 hours ago
Who describesthemselvesas "loyal" or "dependable"? I mean, compared to who? Maybe, just hear me out, maybe these are women looking for a grown up life partner as opposed to someone who is actually looking for a long term escort but is hoping to avoid the invoice.
#58
Being strong and independent. In the sense of being adult. Not the feminist meaning.
It doesn’t impress me if you say „I work and take care of myself“ yet a lot of women think it is special.
#60
“I can do anything a man can do”. So can all men, but I don’t want a man, I want a lady.
Pittsburgh rare 1 hour ago
You don't want a lady, you want a delicate damsel to feel more manly
What do you think ?
Boris Long-Johnson 3 hours ago
The post is gendered so fair enough but I suspect the majority of these are behaviours that just makes a person unattractive.
David Paterson 4 hours ago (edited)
Perfume. The stronger it is the more of a red flag it is. It's not s*xy, stop it.
Boris Long-Johnson 3 hours ago
The post is gendered so fair enough but I suspect the majority of these are behaviours that just makes a person unattractive.
David Paterson 4 hours ago (edited)
Perfume. The stronger it is the more of a red flag it is. It's not s*xy, stop it.
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