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“Times Have Changed”: 40 Examples Of Things That Were Once Unacceptable But Are Now Accepted As Shared By The Bored Panda Community
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There are many things that were once considered taboo or socially unacceptable, but have since become more accepted by society. As time goes on, people's attitudes and beliefs can change, and what was once considered unacceptable may become widely accepted. This can be seen in a variety of areas, such as relationships, fashion, and even language. While some may view these changes as positive, others may resist them, leading to ongoing debates and discussions about what is and is not socially acceptable.
Ultimately, what is considered acceptable can vary greatly depending on the time and place, and what may be accepted in one society may not be in another. I asked Pandas from our community to share things that weren't socially acceptable until now, and there were a lot of interesting answers to say the least.
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Interracial marriages.
As a child of an interracial marriage, people still give me and my family strange looks. A hospital once locked me and my white mother in a room because they thought I was kidnapped. It is still weirdly taboo unfortunately -mixed 13 year old
Omg same. I spent years with people thinking my mum was my nanny but also that my dad had adopted me.
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Our children are Filipino (spouse) and white (me), thankfully our families didn't care at all!! His culture always looked at me as though I was this evil person, to the point while at the hospital for our son, a nurse (male Filipino) was staring at us. Our daughter loudly out of the blue, "what are you looking at us for"?!?! It was then that we realized she me things will NEVER change! My daughter is my hero!
Back in the 70s and 80s the Jehovah Witnesses were completely against interracial marriages.(I don't know how they are now but I suspect not much has changed since they still cover up child abuse) As a white child raised not to be prejudiced and one of my best friends had a Black mom and white dad this was very confusing. Now I understand that most religions aren't as tolerant as they proclaim.
Living in the south, interracial couples don't even get a second glance, in or out of churches, they're literally probably 1/3rd of my old congregation... No one cares here, it's pretty normal occurrence. Why would I or anyone here be outraged... We'd be outraged at nearly every stoplight.
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Our daughter used to call me by my first name when she was a toddler, which didn't help people that thought I was babysitting her.... But made people look at me less judgmentally if she was having a tantrum so it was a half win 🤣
Back when my husband and I were dating (22 years ago) we'd get stared at...now we either don't notice or we don't care
Hopefully they don't notice... I had an office mate a couple of decades ago who is married to a white man. I am a white guy who grew up in small town Texas which came with it's own set of learned racism. By the time I met them I didn't really think anything about them being married. One of my best friends is married to a Black woman and I realized I didn't even think about it when writing this. And, stretching that a lot of couples I know are mixed. Never really thought about it. Also, mixed kids tend to be so cute.
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Children from wide-spread interracial marriages won't eliminate the racists. But it will make them feel surrounded. Yes, they will be "replaced". (Evolution is like that.)
Ha! Good luck...the largest population in the world is racist. Chinese are racist against Japanese, other Asians and also prejudice against religions and such.
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I remember when Idina Menzel and Taye Diggs got married there was a lot of push back and I thought it was so strange that in the 2000s that could happen.
Cats don't care what color fur they have. Dogs don't refuse to play with a dog that's got the wrong color fur. Why can't we be as smart as our pets?
Because hair color isn't the same as skin color. Or do you think a white dog is Caucasian and black dog African?
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I'm black and my hubby is white. My family, especially my great aunt wasn't thrilled. She's kinda like my grandma. She'd had some terrible experiences with racism so I can understand why, but she eventually came around. Anyway, his family is multicultural with all but one of his siblings marrying outside their race.
That is insanely sad. Some of the worlds most beautiful people are products of interracial marriage. Just let people live their lives.
me too, my mom is white and my dad black. I'm black and my brother's white. whenever my mom and i go out in public we get strange looks.
I am white. My mother married a Black man in 1974 when I was 4 years old. I thought step-fathers were all Black until I was 8 years old (despite the fact that my biological father has been a step-father since I was 6).
As people, we should look at one another with our hearts, not our eyes. The heart is colorblind.
Or look at the black mother who adopted the white boy and has been harassed every since.... It's sad this world still isn't accepting... We all have the same body parts and blood color😓😓 Sorry corrected past tense for oncoming.
I'm a white woman in my 30s. I recently started dating a black man in his 40s. We're already pretty serious. When we go out in public people look at us like we're doing something wrong. They stare at us like they think they need to help me or something. I'm a grown woman. I'm not a child. It doesn't really bother me too much except that I'm sad it still happens. I think we can do better. You love who you love right? As long as you're both consenting adults it shouldn't matter to anyone else.
My daughter did twice. I married a Hispanic which I never considered a man of color but he would be today.
As well as same sex marriages (becoming legal in areas like Cuba [this year/ 2022] and USA [2016] and areas of Europe)
I'm half Puerto Rican. Just half. Some members of my husband's family have a problem with that. They didn't want him to marry me.
I’m mixed race. My parents would have gotten together in the late 60’s. It was probably harder back then. By the time I came along and lived in a progressive state it wasn’t much to worry about. Thankfully it’s getting better all the time.
My mom is balck amd my dad is white. I have siblings that are mixed so im glad thst thus is a thing now
My niece is white, but has dark hair and brown eyes. Her husband is 1/2 Korean 1/2 white, so also dark hair and brown eyes. Their son is blonde with blue eyes because genetics. They get stared at a lot, and were once accused of kidnapping by a random stranger. Which just amazes me in a society where multiracial children are commonplace.
Two of my cousins (we're all boring white South Africans) are married to Black women and I've told them numerous time I will scratch out the eyes of anyone who says *one* bad word about them or my new cousins!
I also have interracial parents but my dad is Indian and my mom is white people still find it weird
Bored Panda reached out to Arizona Professor of Sociology, Dr. Mia Crawford. We asked her to explain to us what are some of the factors that contribute to changes in social norms and attitudes.
"Well, that's a good question," She started. "As you can guess there are a number of factors that can contribute to changes in social norms and attitudes. For example, demographic shifts. So imagine that changes in the composition of a population can lead to changes in attitudes and norms. An example of that would be, that when a population becomes more diverse, attitudes towards minorities or marginalized groups may shift." Dr. Crawford said.
Women being financially independent. Being able to have their own bank account, their own credit cards, and take out their own loans without having to have a man co-sign for them.
When my dad left my mom in the 70s, she could not have her name alone on the house, nor a bank account nor credit cards, without her dad co-signing. Women still have few options for being financially independent by comparison. I can't f*****g believe we're not only still begging and fighting for equal wages, but are being dragged back to the dark ages instead. This is the world Conservatives want, after all.
Being openly gay. It used to be taboo and sometimes downright dangerous to be open about it. Now it’s no big deal and I think that’s awesome.
"Things like economic and technological change can also impact the shift in social norms. For example, advancements in technology may lead to changes in the way people communicate and interact with one another, which in turn can affect social norms.
It's also worth noting that social movements and activism are a big part of this whole thing as well! Social movements, such as the Civil Rights Movement or the LGBTQ rights movement, can also play a significant role in changing social norms and attitudes. These movements bring attention to issues and injustices, and through sustained activism and mobilization of people, bring about changes in the laws and social norms."
Tattoos. My parents cried and said I would never find a job.
I went from an office job where I had to cover all my tattoos and my boss tried to publicly shame me fore getting another one (I say tried because I have no shame) to a blue collar job where the rest of the shop is emotionally invested as I design my sleeve.
Being accepted and treated like a normal person despite having disabilities and disorders.
It wasn't that long ago people with any form of mental, learning, physical and cognitive disabilities or mental disorders were put in mental hospitals and cruel asylums when all they needed was some extra help from an Aide or counseling. People would be mean and call slower kids the 'R-word', bully them and teachers would outcast them to a "special ed" program.
Some kids never even get an assessment or diagnosis because their parents would be more concerned about the social impact, or refused to cater to the thought bad marks were not the fault of their child.
Now, kids who need extra support or be somewhere quiet to do their work go to the resource rooms, which sounds more inclusive.
"Lastly, we cannot exclude psychological and cultural factors: Social norms and attitudes can be influenced by psychological factors like cognitive biases and cultural factors like tradition, religion, and beliefs." Dr. Mia shared.
We also asked Dr. Crawford to explain some of the key factors that influence the acceptance or rejection of something in society. She broke down the complex dynamics behind social norms and attitudes, and provided some insights and examples that shed light on the subject.
"A variety of key elements can play a role in determining the level of acceptance or rejection of something within a society. One must first take a look at social norms and expectations. People tend to conform to the norms and expectations of their social groups. When something is seen as acceptable or normal within a particular group, it is more likely to be accepted by the individuals within that group." Dr. Crawford told Bored Panda.
Cosplay. Especially cosplay for people with disabilities or less-than-ideal bodies. I'm a cosplayer, I'm partially disabled and overweight, and no one bats an eye at the con when I dress up.
Crying for men.
"Another thing that could be counted equally as important is the fact that familiarity breeds acceptance." The sociologist shared. "When people are exposed to something and given the chance to become familiar with it, they are more likely to accept it. Initially, new or unfamiliar things may be met with rejection, but as people become more accustomed to them, their attitudes can shift."
According to an Emily Post Etiquette book published in 1984, it was not socially acceptable to ask a guest NOT to smoke in your home.
You could not ask someone to not smoke, esp if you were a kid. I now have severe asthma thanks to being stuck in closed spaces with smokers for my entire childhood. If you asked to move or roll down a window, you'd get in trouble.
Bi-racial relationships & Bi-racial children
I love seeing bi racial families, it's a big FU to all these racist d@&ks. Plus mixed raced people are really very striking to look at, things like black skin with blue eyes, the model with the darkest skin in the world, there are so many beautiful people out there, see what happens when love has no barriers. Screw the racists, I was raised in a very racist and homophobic home. I was a child I did not understand why we did not like people with different colour skin, I'm now in my 30s and feel so guilty for believing that was the norm until my late teens. I still feel so bad for not being a better person and connecting the dots, like why is this persons skin colour an issue? I have other family huge homophobes, they have no place in my life or my kids.
"Though there are a lot more factors to this, and I only named a few, these are one of the most important ones. These factors play a crucial role in shaping societal acceptance or rejection of something, however, it's important to note that their interplay and importance can change depending on the specific context and society." The sociologist lastly stated.
Maybe someone has already said this, I don't know. Back when I was growing up it was considered bad manners to make an incoming phone call more important than the person that you were talking to, right there, in person. I am still appalled at how many people answer their cell phones even if you're sitting right there in person talking to them. Seems like bad manners to me.
Women exposing their ankles.
Although at my school, my skirt must be no higher than 2 inches above my knee.
Well not entirely acceptable by everyone yet, but it's starting to be: men who aren't cross-dressers or even gay wearing skirts/nail polish/makeup.
And I fully support being you and expressing yourself. I think it's awesome that this is happening and becoming more acceptable to society. An article of clothing or accessory shouldn't be genderized.
K-12 girls being allowed to wear pants to school. I know it's still no tube tops or short shorts, etc., but when I was in school, girls wore dresses and skirts, and if you knelt and the skirt didn't touch the floor, it was deemed to be too short. In high school, there were about 2 designated days per year when we could wear pants.
Pants are so much more practical & safe for females to wear to school.
Protesting whaling.
Females in revealing clothes. I'm grateful that I can wear pants/shorts. I hate dresses.
Actually I don't hate dresses. I just hate that I can't find one that fits my body type and looks cute.
Cannabis use, especially (where it’s legal for recreation,) is much more acceptable than it was years ago.
Discussing private issues.
Depression. Sexual abuse. Queer identities. Harassment. Bad parenting. Not wanting to have kids/marry. We literally could not even breathe hints that some of these things existed for most of our lives.
Being LGBTQ+ and supporting it. Also, someone said being openly gay and I’m not trying to copy them.
A related one would be HIV no longer being a death sentence. In the 80s-90s, when someone said they were positive, you knew you only had a year or two left with them, and it was going to be agony for them. Not anymore.
Having babies out of wedlock.
My now-husband was concerned when our first was born because we weren't married and he thought being a bastard was still a stigma. Not gonna lie, I laughed.
not liking religion. if you didn't like church the church would not like you existing
Even if I was religious l, I wouldn't be able to sit still at a place of worship. I get cold if I sit still for 2-5 minutes or more while awake. I have to use a blanket when I watch TV
1. Looking like you're talking to yourself.
The in past you've been taken away to the crazy hospital. These days you're most likely on your phone so you can feel free to talk to yourself all you want and just blame it on that, lol.
2. Being an actual crazy person.
It used to be if you were crazy they'd give you tin foil to play with and cart you off to a mental hospital because you shouldn't be allowed in regular society. Now you can say things like believing the earth is flat. Or that school shootings where children have died and it can be proven are just 'false flags' and never happened. Or that the government is a conspiracy of snake people from another planet. And instead of a tin foil hat, you get elected to the house of representatives or a radio show making millions of dollars.
Mental hospitals "back in the day" did FAR worse things than give you tinfoil to play with
Black people going to the same school as white people (but I guess that’s racism) but it was still socially unacceptable.
Being friends with an African American person.
Not answering your phone. It used to be expected that if you were home and the phone rang, you picked it up. Then there were answering machines so we could screen. Then voicemail, and now we have a call display so you can just decline. I honestly never expect people to pick up if I call. Text is way easier anyway.
I still get people pissed off when I don't answer my home phone. My mom will call my cellphone, text me and then try my home phone. If I don't answer, then I did a terrible, horrible thing. Then I get interrogated where I've been, why I didn't answer or reply to her texts. Like geezus. I miss not having all these communication avenues.
Not dressing to the 9s when on an airplane. You used to essentially have to wear business suits/business formal when flying. Now comfy clothes are fine.
It's a giant, dirty bus, in the air. I'd wear a plastic bubble if I could.
Expressing pro-LGBTQ opinions without first saying "I'm not gay, but..."
Telling your parents they're wrong.
Just did this the other day, it was so awesome. She called me a b*tch in front of my coworkers this morning, but it was worth it. No one calls me a liar for having sleep problems and then gets mad at me for them later! Have fun with that "mom"
Being a minority, whether it be religious or ethnic. Luckily, it is legal to not be a white Christain now, but you used to be mobbed or persecuted over what you believe in or what you look like.
Accomodating neurodivergent people. Don't get me wrong, it's still awful. But it's a hell of a lot better than it was maybe 5 years ago. Whether it's "autism hours" in supermarkets to lower risk of overstimulation or just not commenting on stims being "weird", it's definitely progress. It's less taboo and less ignored now than it's been in the past
I am a high functioning autistic so I'm not overly sensitive to noise or bright lights, but I still appreciate people understanding my DIFFERENCE! Not disability, not fault, not defect, DIFFERENCE!
The stigma surrounding mental illness has dissipated. We can now talk openly about mental health struggles and even take a mental health day off work. Mental Health struggles are being seen as legitimate and debilitating illnesses that used to be brushed off and people told to "Brighten up" or "Just get over it"
In my own personal experience, this is true. I have bad anxiety and sometimes have panic attacks. My current employer and coworkers are so understanding about it, whereas in the past I've been penalized or even mocked for having anxiety.
Not knowing how to write in cursive.
I'm sorry cursive is no longer being taught. We are losing a great art.
Swearing (to an extent).
Especially for women. I still have people policing my wording when I use profanity. My favorite thing is when some Conservative Christian unleashes all of their usual rhetoric about how I'm a murderer sinner brainwasher who's going to burn in hell for all eternity and LGBTQ+ is a sin, and when I respond with "f**k off," they then complain about my "bad language" and it's "unladylike" and "rude." Sorry, but I think telling a kid that they're going to burn in hell for being bi is far more offensive than a four-letter word, but I'm just so wacky and sinful that way. But really, f**k ALL the way off.
Being a witch/pagan although I did discover that in some countries it is still best to keep your pentacle tucked away,
disrespect and rudeness. it happens all the time and no one speaks up because they're afraid of the confrontation and i don't blame them. rage is on the rise.
Honestly, disrespect and rudeness have always existed. I feel like people romanticize the past in a way that's not realistic. Every single generation thinks the next generation coming up is so much worse than theirs. It's really not any different. I think the opposite - people speak up about rudeness and disrespect so much that they're labelled "snowflakes."
Mylar balloons aren't good for the environment. They can short-circuit power equipment and lead to outages and fires. They can float for days and miles and return to earth as ugly litter that pollutes pristine places. They end up in the stomachs of countless land animals and sea creatures that eat them and die. They waste helium which is a finite resource. They are synthetic products that will never biodegrade. They're pretty to look at but releasing them to ride the winds is irresponsible.
So, I read this prompt backward. This answer works if the question was worded opposite, "What is something that ISN'T socially acceptable now, that used to be okay?" I'd delete it, but I don't know how.
Now I actually think about it... anything. You can carry a lightsaber in public and nobody blinks, everybody has an opinion but nobody is accountable, and now I've said all of that, I'll let you know that it was what ruined the Star wars franchise years ago.
Being a Catholic Christian. The KKK tried to wipe us out. One Catholic priest was killed because a White Protestant man's daughter married someone outside of her own race.
Yes, Black people were not the only target. Jews, Catholics, gays, and other groups that were not WASP
Wearing colours at Wimbledon
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It entirely depends on where you live. Here being gay is "legal" but people are still killed for it, even more so being trans. And try to get a job being trans or disabled or worse, being both, no one wants to employ you.
Employers will absolutely jump thru hoops to get rid of Trans employees, I've seen it happen. It's ridiculous. If they do their job well and don't eff things up for the company, that should be all that matters.
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They totally left out not having kids if you don't want them. A lot of people are tossing aside the "Life-Script" expectations and not putting up with the "...a woman's purpose in life..." b******t that's been shoved down our throats since childhood.
It's not acceptable to all people. My married sister is still hounded to reproduce all the time even though she and her husband don't want any. And there are so many articles and discussions about it. If anything I feel like people should give reason to why they want kids.
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I feel like society has come a long way, but we still have a long way to go...
Heck, auto correct is such a bummer... Sometimes I read what I think I wrote to see that it's all written wrong but still all correct English words, only it doesn't make any sense at all XD
I feel like "Going to the hospital" used to not be socially acceptable. I vaguely remember my great grandmother fighting against going to the hospital because in her time, going to the hospital meant you were so sick that you would surely die.
Depending on when your grandmother was young, it may have involved a lot more guess work then it does now. Things like MRI have taken a lot of the mystery out of why the body does what it does.
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Honestly, this whole list still happens now. But it IMPROVED. So please stop commenting ‘ but it still happens’ honestly there will always be that one person who’s gonna be annoying lol
That made me laugh. I'm old school but even l had to think about it for a few. Tin foil to stop the aliens from reading their minds.
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Not wanting to have a family or kids! I think that should have been one of the 40. Not all of us want a family or kids. I hate children! I love my niece but I have no intention of having kids of my own!
Or a member of the Satanic Temple - I always tell people to read the faq if they think its like the Church of Satan.
Load More Replies... I love how this was supposed to be a list of 40 things but once you cut all the repeats it ended up being eight things.
From the posts, people being allowed to be who they are. You do you.
I appreciate that it's more acceptable to consider a pet a family member, and that their death is sometimes just as emotional as a person's death. Also, I believe that many things are more acceptable in general, and that there will always be people who still think of it as unacceptable.
Wow. So many people posting as if their little area of the world is the only one. It being acceptable for men to cry is not a new thing for goodness sakes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Just a new thing after not being acceptable in very specific societies in this little tiny slice of time.
Ya typically when people post they write what they know. Usually that means from the perspective of where they live and when they live (which would be the present).
Load More Replies... It entirely depends on where you live. Here being gay is "legal" but people are still killed for it, even more so being trans. And try to get a job being trans or disabled or worse, being both, no one wants to employ you.
Employers will absolutely jump thru hoops to get rid of Trans employees, I've seen it happen. It's ridiculous. If they do their job well and don't eff things up for the company, that should be all that matters.
Load More Replies... They totally left out not having kids if you don't want them. A lot of people are tossing aside the "Life-Script" expectations and not putting up with the "...a woman's purpose in life..." b******t that's been shoved down our throats since childhood.
It's not acceptable to all people. My married sister is still hounded to reproduce all the time even though she and her husband don't want any. And there are so many articles and discussions about it. If anything I feel like people should give reason to why they want kids.
Load More Replies... I feel like society has come a long way, but we still have a long way to go...
Heck, auto correct is such a bummer... Sometimes I read what I think I wrote to see that it's all written wrong but still all correct English words, only it doesn't make any sense at all XD
I feel like "Going to the hospital" used to not be socially acceptable. I vaguely remember my great grandmother fighting against going to the hospital because in her time, going to the hospital meant you were so sick that you would surely die.
Depending on when your grandmother was young, it may have involved a lot more guess work then it does now. Things like MRI have taken a lot of the mystery out of why the body does what it does.
Load More Replies... Honestly, this whole list still happens now. But it IMPROVED. So please stop commenting ‘ but it still happens’ honestly there will always be that one person who’s gonna be annoying lol
That made me laugh. I'm old school but even l had to think about it for a few. Tin foil to stop the aliens from reading their minds.
Load More Replies... Not wanting to have a family or kids! I think that should have been one of the 40. Not all of us want a family or kids. I hate children! I love my niece but I have no intention of having kids of my own!
Or a member of the Satanic Temple - I always tell people to read the faq if they think its like the Church of Satan.
Load More Replies... I love how this was supposed to be a list of 40 things but once you cut all the repeats it ended up being eight things.
From the posts, people being allowed to be who they are. You do you.
I appreciate that it's more acceptable to consider a pet a family member, and that their death is sometimes just as emotional as a person's death. Also, I believe that many things are more acceptable in general, and that there will always be people who still think of it as unacceptable.
Wow. So many people posting as if their little area of the world is the only one. It being acceptable for men to cry is not a new thing for goodness sakes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Just a new thing after not being acceptable in very specific societies in this little tiny slice of time.
Ya typically when people post they write what they know. Usually that means from the perspective of where they live and when they live (which would be the present).
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