30 Hard Truths People Only Realized Later In Life, But Wish They Had Known Sooner

Best one yet. Many people get stuck in their own views and echo chambers. Sometimes it's good to do more research and look at arguments from the other side. Maybe you will stick with your views but maybe you see there is more than you first thought.

Same goes for the reverse: Don't set others on fire to warm yourself.

Also always remember that children can’t save an unhappy marriage

Don’t hang on to toxicity. Period. Be it freinds , siblings, parents, partner, employer etc

I didn't do well in school, and I still don't do well. Where does that leave me?

I try to assume nothing when it comes to other people.

some people fall in love with the wrong people sometimes,it’s alright Listen to this song

There are literally 8 billion people in the world and none of them act or think the same whatsoever , don’t try to mimic any of them

Dentist appointments are damn costly in us so make sure you don’t need them

No one deserves a pedestal until they prove it.

I dislike going to doctors. Thats one category of professionals I hate. Almost all doctors I have met are arrogant and judgmental people who behave like Gods. But thats my sample.

Just remember a doctor could have graduated last in his class.

Not just doctors. Teachers, professors, lawyers, politicians....

50% of Drs are below average...

I called someone "Sir" the other day, and he got that s****y "Excuse me, you need to address me as Doctor" attitude, 🙄 so I gave it right back and required that he address me as Doctor as well. I never understood this, and find the behavior in my colleagues ridiculous. TBH, it just means we have a different skillset than someone who did not get their doctorate. No better or worse, just different knowledge 🤷‍♀️

This! I had to fire my endocrinologist because he wouldn’t listen. I told him some life-changing painful side effects I was having from the drug he prescribed and he was completely dismissive saying, that’s not a side-effect of this drug. Well, I stopped taking it and then the pain went away. The good thing that came from his incompetence is I educated myself and learned that I have to take charge of my own health because I live with this body. They think the 15 minutes they spend with you each visit is enough. Well, if they don’t listen to you then they are less than worthless.

Look at all the malpractice suits! No duh. Some doctors don't want to cure you. Just patch you up enough to keep you coming back! They love money. If you don't believe me just take another look at your Dr.'s bill!!!

I feel this is a bad advice. it can be said about everyone at any profession, but I've seen more people ignores doctors advice claiming "they don't know everything" "but I feel it's something else" then taking bad doctor ones.

"Bias" is a noun. People cannot be "bias". Biased is the verb.

This is so beyond true!

I get soooooo tired of every conversation with a doctor being about my weight and them pushing me to get weight loss surgery.I mean, I am overweight but I'm only in the low 200s. I have so many otherr issues. Can we focus on something else for a while?

In my field, where we have to get credentialed, they make it clear that your MA, 1500 supervision hours and passing the exam means that yes, you get your credential and that means you met MINIMUM standards (which are still challenging to meet) to be able to practice in the field. I wonder if it's the same for MDs.

All my days seem to be "good old" now that they are in the past. Wish I could say this has taught me something...

*Cough in auto immune betrayal*

This happens a lot- people cancelling themselves.

People can be extremely unpredictable

Buttercup?

Blood or not

My most hated term "good enough". But yeah, designers are never finished, we tend to abandon work because otherwise we would go insane.

Yup. My grandmother who witnessed 3 wars died at the age of 105 in a "poor area" by western standards, just by living in a village up in the mountains which requires lots of exercise, and eating nothing but a bit of meat and vegetables from her garden (no processed food)

Those types of people are insufferable. They're everywhere.

Please yourself, and that's enough.

I've got to say; those 28 years must have been hard. Look at all those grey hairs!

...and we never quite get there, do we?

I got a lot of this from my mom when I was in school. She did a lot to try and sabotage what I was working toward and tried to keep me from anything I was passionate about. Missed out on a lot of opportunities because of her. My grandmother stepped in and had my back when she could but was only able to do so much.

You can afford to save?

Easier saiid than done :(

Correction- people are going to hate you for it but thats alright.

We may not be big, but we are all pandas :)

As someone who has been "toxic" or at least not not cool, I can relate. It's more being very very self-centered. It took me time (and people not cutting ties with me) to realise my behaviour was not justified, but during the whole ordeal I was convinced I was in my right

As one of of the 90% women with endometriosis who were diagnosed too late, to the point where I might never be able to have kids: if periods hurt a lot, if bleeding is consequent to the point it prevents from doing usual tasks --> go see a doctor, insist and ask for an echography to be performed. It is not normal to endure significant pain when having your periods.

you are assuming we are all trust fund beneficiaries or multimillionaires. Travel is expensive. For an South African (richest people in african mainland) to travel to the nearby african island of Mauritius, costs about R 30k/person excluding flights, so add another 8k or so. Say a family of four. That's R 184k. Many if not most families in South Africa earn that amount in an entire year. In effect, the cheapest overseas holiday in our country is a full year's salary for a typical earner. You will see stats online that the average salary is 24000 zar/month. That's not true. It's true for the middle class. Most people (about 80%) of our country are borderline poverty line. The reason the average is high is that we have economic apartheid: the middle class earn about 24k/mo but the cleaners, street sweepers etc., are between 4k and 16k./mo. Yes, 4k as in USD $200 per month. Exploitation of the workers!!!

Also don't argue with people who are not willing to listen and have already made their mind up. They will not change and it's a waste of time for both of you. On that note, don't be the person who doesn't listen even if you (think you) are right.

Some people are straight up INVESTED in you being a "bad person".

Not true, I find that most people are interested in how much others make. Certainly in my country. It's one of the first questions but it appears as the form "what do you do" and "what do you drive"

Sorry, but to me this is really "US start-up InSpIRaTiONal self-entrepreuneur" BS. In so many cases you will start a position or project with a "Good mindset" but the odds (people, situation) are against you and you cannot do anything about it. That's why people do burn outs, they believe until the end that it's only up to them when it's not. They mean well, but it's not enough. Stop blaming yourself if you have done your best and it doesn't work out, you are not the one blame. "Self fulfilling prophecy" is a joke when you do a corporate job.

After all, it is said that nothing in life is as certain as uncertainty. I myself spend way too much time and resources on "what if?" thinking. Days are wasted if you don't know how to focus on the moment because your mind lives in the future. Life is nice in the sense that you never have to stop learning new things. I'm trying to teach myself to live more in the moment and even be present in it.

I finally learned that you don't always have to be right. If the other person's viewpoint is different and it isn't vital, let it go. Even say "you may be right" or just "okay" and go your way.

I had a lot of responsibility placed on me. The only difference between now and then is that now I get to decide what I spend my money on and what I do on my free time and when I get to do my chores.

Can you go back to doing what you love?