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Woman Mocks Her Sister’s Custody Arrangement, Instantly Regrets It When Free Babysitting Stops
Some folks just can’t appreciate a good thing, even when it’s handed to them on a silver platter. Whether it’s borrowing your favorite sweater and never returning it (yes, sis, I’m talking about you) or getting help with something they couldn’t manage on their own, ungrateful people have a way of making your kindness feel like a mistake.
And that’s exactly what one Redditor felt when she found out her sister had been badmouthing her behind her back, despite all the free babysitting she was helping her out with. Isn’t family fun?
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One woman stops babysitting for her sister after she finds out she’s been calling her a “deadbeat mom” behind her back
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The woman agrees to babysit for her sister a few times a week, after her husband leaves her, so she can go back to work
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The woman sees a message her sister sent, calling her a “deadbeat mom” because she has a one-month-on, one-month-off style of co-parenting with her ex
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The woman refuses to babysit for her sister again, gets bombarded with messages, and is called a jerk by her family for it
The OP (original poster) has a pretty sweet setup with her ex – a one-month-on, one-month-off parenting schedule. I have to admit, I haven’t heard of that one before, but apparently, it works well. During her “off” month, the OP still stays connected with her kids through FaceTime, sleepovers, and outings. If co-parenting was a sport, she’d probably have a trophy.
But not everyone’s clapping for her, especially her sister, a newly single mom who’s juggling a new job and the chaos of single parenting. When the OP stepped in to help babysit a few times a week, you’d think there would have been a parade in her honor. Instead, her sis called her a “deadbeat mom” in some private chats that the OP accidentally stumbled upon.
Sis didn’t exactly handle getting caught with grace, trying the old “it’s out of context” excuse but refusing to show the entire conversation. So, the OP did what any self-respecting person would do: she pulled the plug on her free babysitting services. Suddenly, her sister remembered how to say sorry, begging the OP to reconsider, because, well, childcare costs aren’t exactly cheap.
Turns out, losing her babysitter meant potentially losing her new job. Of course, the family group chat started lighting up, and everyone was calling the OP the bad guy. But is she, though? Calling someone a deadbeat mom because they figured out a parenting system that works for them? That’s like shaming someone for being on vacation while you’re stuck at work. Jealousy can make people say some wild stuff, can’t it?
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It’s easy to understand why the OP’s sister felt some type of way—being a single mom is tough, and watching someone else live their best life can sting. But here’s the thing: jealousy doesn’t give you a free pass to treat people badly. Instead of tearing others down, wouldn’t it be better to focus on improving your own situation? Seriously, why do moms get judged for every single thing?
Whether it’s how they split parenting time or what snacks they pack for their kids, it’s like there’s a competition to win the title of “Best Mom Ever.” But here’s the thing: nobody’s giving out trophies. Mom-shaming says way more about the person doing it than the one being judged. It’s usually rooted in insecurity, frustration, or jealousy.
Because jealousy is a sneaky little relationship saboteur, isn’t it? When life gets tough, it’s easy to look at someone else’s situation and think, “Why do they have it so easy?” Ungrateful and jealous people can suck the joy out of your good deeds faster than a vacuum on turbo mode. The first rule of dealing with ungrateful people? Stop bending over backward for someone who doesn’t appreciate it.
Establish boundaries, whether it’s saying “no” to constant favors or refusing to tolerate disrespect. Next, communicate. Sometimes, people don’t realize they’re being ungrateful (or maybe they do and need to hear it anyway). Finally, learn to let go. Helping others is noble, but you’re not obligated to drain yourself for someone who can’t even muster a simple “thank you.”
At the end of the day, gratitude and respect aren’t optional—they’re the bare minimum in any relationship. If her sister can’t manage that, it’s not OP’s job to swoop in and save the day. Sometimes, tough love is the best love.
So, what’s your take on this story? Got any wild sibling tales or ungrateful moments to share? Drop them in the comments below!
Netizens side with the woman, saying she is not a jerk for canceling her free babysitting for her ungrateful sister
The complexities of balancing work and childcare are evident, especially when expectations from family members come into play. This scenario highlights the challenges faced when siblings look to each other for babysitting duties. Discovering how one individual’s work commitments made it difficult to manage childcare reveals insights similar to the story of a Redditor who refused babysitting due to her own work demands.
It’s critical to understand the nuances and demands of someone who is working from home and the importance of respecting their boundaries.
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Suzie 9 months ago
This child has a dad. It's mother should make him pay for childcare or actually take care of their child. Calling her sister worse than a deadbeat dad when her sister is providing more help than the dad is beyond insulting.
TribbleThinking 9 months ago
As usual, the many voices telling her that she's so horrible can step up and volunteer a day or two every fortnight with precious sister's babysitting needs.
Captive 9 months ago
She has a deadbeat man and thinks her sister is worse? Wow. Instead of showing gratitude she backbites. Op should stay away for a while, maybe sister will then realize
Makenzie McNeal 9 months ago
Definitely a "Deadbeat? I can show you deadbeat.😊" situation.
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ToGo 9 months ago
I'm seeing a few sayings here so I'll add one - Don't bite the hand that feeds you. I can't stand people that don't really like you or how you live yet will ask of you and accept all the favours. I also hate disloyal people and bitching about your family in a group chat is a snake move. The sister here is clearly envious of OP and her co-parenting situation. I'm not saying it'd be the ideal arrangement for everyone, but both parents are involved and OP isn't struggling. Instead of being happy for OP, sis has allowed jealousy to take over.
zims 9 months ago
A woman with a 9-year-old and a 6-year-old who has a healthy, balanced life with her parenting partner: "Barely a mom." Coming from a woman with one child less than a year old, this is jealousy, plain and simple. She's stressed and overwhelmed and doesn't have the same support network her sister has, so she's lashing out. It's just as much about her ex as her sister. He walks away scott-free and she's trapped in the nightmare of supporting a baby AND a career solo. She sees her sister enjoying her life and her youth, and she knows she'll never have that freedom now. It's sad, but her vilifying her sister WHILE she's providing free childcare is the height of stupidity.
Romy Rösli 9 months ago
But sister did have a support network. Her MIL and OP took her kid while she was at work. Many parents don’t have that much support. But then she talked sh?t about one part of this network and now she’s f&cked, through her own fault.
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WonderWoman 9 months ago
OP's custody agreement isn't something I would want, but it works for her, her ex, and the children -and that is absolutely amazing and wonderful for them. OP was being very generous, kind and loving when she helped her sister out, and her sister pissed all over that by talking smack about her with her 'friends'. Good for OP for telling her sister to get bent. Shame on all the people who got involved in the aftermath, it is none of their business and they should be keeping their opinions to themselves.
Michelle C 9 months ago
Those who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I don't like how people are telling her it will be her fault if the sister loses her job. It would actual be the sisters own fault as well as the fathers. It's nobody else responsibility to watch her child.
Cecilia Matthews 9 months ago
Citizens which dwell in crystal edifices, ought not hurl granite fragments.
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Janelle Collard 9 months ago (edited)
Ah yes - the "be a doormat for an ungrateful person" rant. All those people berating OP for not helping sis can STFU. OP *helped* sis + where were *those* people? 🤔
Romy Rösli 9 months ago
NTA of course! The cousins can step up if they feel so sorry for the bully sister. Or the only real deadbeat in this story, the sister‘s ex, could finally be a father. I myself like to help others out but as soon as someone shows me they’re ungrateful I will stop.
Melissa Harris 9 months ago (edited)
Yeah. I don't need a parade just some respect. The OPs sister doesn't respect her. Probably looks down on her for having her children as a teen mom. But jokes on sis as she's the one that chose the dud. She doesn't even have the excuse of being young and stupid.
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BrownEyedPanda 9 months ago
NTA. If my sisters had said something like that about me, you can bet that I would have been just as unavailable. When someone's lending you a helping hand, don't s**t in it.
Mark Alexander 9 months ago
Speaking of a deadbeat dad, where is he and where's his child support? Maybe put the blame where the responsibility is missing?
Faramir10 9 months ago
Exactly what was thinking. I hope she 's going after him for child support.
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ZombieMommy 9 months ago
So she's jealous. Cousins and Grandma should step up to babysit then. I've dealt with the same kind of thing but I didn't have kids so I "didn't understand". I took care of them morning to night but yeah, I don't understand.
Lee Gilliland 9 months ago
Not going into the sister's circumstances here, but you don't bite the hand that feeds you, period. And the sister isn't sorry about what she say, she's sort sister caught it, which means she needs to grow up.
Tyke 9 months ago
OP is not the AH, OP is also not a deadbeat Mum, and I really hope she realises that. Sister is burnt out already. I bet when OP has her kids she gives them a better version of her because of her and the exes custody agreement. It works for them and their children and that's what matters.
Crystalwitch60 9 months ago
Your sister is a jealous b***h ! for someone so young op I am proud of you for co parenting so well it might sound strange to some people but it works perfectly your two kids have secure stable lives which is all that matters it’s not your fault she’s so jealous it’s hers ! blessed be op n do not back down x
Offbeat Quinoa 9 months ago
People are so excited to judge others. “I’m a better mom than her because of this little thing that makes me feel superior and I’m just going to smugly bask in that feeling.” It’s so exhausting. We all do it.
JayWantsACat 9 months ago
"Since I'm such a deadbeat mom, I'm going to have to only focus on my own kids and can no longer babysit yours for free."
Lola July 9 months ago (edited)
This is truly heartbreaking. What a jealous ungrateful sister. She should tell her sister to go to the group chat and apologize for being a jealous ungrateful twat. Then tell the chat that her sister is such a blessing to her and her child, for caring so much more than his dead beat dad. That not only does she spend a lot of time with her own children on her off months but she has stepped up and saved her thousands of dollars. Then Dear Auntie you could babysit so your nephew doesn't become homeless and you've humbled your haughty ungrateful sister.
Steïcy Gya 9 months ago
I think that the arrangements OP has with her children's father is a very nice one, rather than alternate weeks. It allows more stability for the children, instead of having to move each week. She gets to see her kids during that month and gets to focus on her own life and career especially since she is still young. I got divorced quite young too, and had started a Masters degree back around the same time while working a full time job and being a single mother since the dad did not make an effort to be involved with our child. If my parents/family were not around, I don't think I could have made it and would probably drop out. My classes were at night and during week ends, when I was back I had not more than an hour to spend with my kid. But I knew that it was a sacrifice which would have helped us in the long run and it did. Im sure OP's arrangements will pay for both parents and Happy Parents= Happy kids.
V 9 months ago
As a petty b*tch I would make her add me to that group chat and make her make a public apology in it and make her tell the true details of the custody agreement and how much OP is saving the her in childcare. And say about how she has a deadbeat dad for an ex who is not helping her at all. Then I would consider maybe babysitting again.
FreeTheUnicorn 9 months ago
I can't stress enough how important it is to vote for and support politicians that will improve your lot. Scotland has a year of mat leave, working towards general paid family leave, and 1140 hours per year if state funded childcare, many other countries have even more support available. Vote for what you need, as DIGE dismantles WIC, I can't recommend moving to a place that matches your values and needs highly enough. Yes there are issues with not enough places available at daycares, but it's getting better and single parents get to the head of the line. Don't just accept a bad situation, go find. Better one. Doesn't even sound like she's trying to get child support or limony. But really consider rising kids somewhere that supports families. It's much easier than you think to move.
The Starsong Princess 9 months ago
You should be concerned about your own job. Virtually all WFH jobs will fire you if they find you are looking after small children while working. They might have some compassion if it is your own child and you are in a bind but not for someone else’s kid. This is your sister’s problem to solve.
Emilu 7 months ago
15 is potentially deadbeat-y to have a baby depending on the person (and I know there are people out there thinking it who aren't game enough to say it) but it sounds like OP's done a fab job, all things considered. And yeah, if you want help, don't insult your potential help-giver. That's just common sense (though I'm aware common sense isn't as common as it used to be).
Melissa anderson 8 months ago
Apparently, her sister’s ex is a deadbeat father and her sister is jealous. People who lie about you and insult you should never expect favors from you.
Shedia G 8 months ago
I would have replied to the text with the truth identifying myself as her sister and how she’s never babysat my kids but she’s dropping hers off with me right now. Now her sister should take that deadbeat dad husband of hers to court and have his wages garnished for child support.
Ruth Watry 9 months ago
With you and ex doing a great job on coparenting, it is probably easier on the kids to not have to move every week, since they still see their other parent during the month. Sister needs to be held accountable for how she feels about you as a mom. Her only apology is because you heard it, not because she thinks it.
Jeanette Means 9 months ago
Well...if she is so desperate to have OP continue to babysit despite stabbing her in the back and the OP feels bad about withdrawing her assistance, may I suggest that OP turn it into a business arrangement. Agree to watch her son only because OP doesn't want SIL to lose her job, but charge her for doing so. OP can keep the amount she charges low but equitable. Maybe the SIL will at least stop taking the OP for granted if she has to pay the OP for her assistance, the child will be safely looked after and keep a roof over his head, OP will not feel bad about not continuing to babysit and will at least get some recompense for her efforts. The SIL is a je** and doesn't deserve the OPs help but the child does. The SIL is absolutely jealous of the OP and needs to be strongly reprimanded or her nasty behavior!! If SIL doesn't show any remorse then OP should not feel bad about withdrawing her assistance!! Old adage: Don't bite the hand that feeds you!
Lululoohoo 9 months ago
OP is NTA. she is in fact, a total saint that was helping her sister FOR FREE. Her sister can take her insults & shove them. Too bad so sad for her...she bit the hand that fed her & found out. Now she can deal with the repercussions. I just feel sorry for the nephew. Its not his fault his mom is a total Ahole.
Lululoohoo 9 months ago
also to add: OP's arrangement with the ex sounds amazing & like it works for the 2 parents + the kids! There is no disruption in schooling, and a month is great on off esp since they still hang out & do things with the kids during the other parents "time". All coparenting parents should be so lucky to have such a great arrangement. OP's sister is mad jealous.
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Craig Reynolds 9 months ago
She played FAFO and found out that it leads to stupid getting what stupid deserves.
Just stopping by 9 months ago
I wonder if the other family members feel the same way that the older sister does and that’s why they’re trying to be so hard on OP. NTA though I'd forgive and go no contact with all of them🤷🏽♀️
Mark Childers 9 months ago
Wow, I actually love my sister. I appreciate anything she does for me, which isn't very much actually. I do more for her, but I'm happy to do it and don't hold it against her. Her life is busier than mine, so if I can make her life a little easier, then I want to do it. I would never compare our lives to see who has it worse.
Melissa Harris 9 months ago (edited)
As many have pointed out the issue here is envy. The OP might have had children at a very young age but she and her ex seem to have an amicable co-parenting relationship and he seems like a good and very involved father. Their romantic relationship might not worked out but he appears to be a good man. On the other hand the OPs sister made a poor choice in men/father of her child. She's displacing all her anger at her ex husband and herself onto the OP. The sis needs therapy and a lawyer to get child support worked out. She also needs to get a different job as the one she has doesn't have enough flexibility or pay for childcare. She can't look for work in the same way she would have before becoming a mother. It's not the OPs job to be her sister's childcare. Her sister isn't a teen mom. She's a woman In her 30s.
Lauren Wilder 9 months ago
The younger sister is entitled. She needs to figure it out without her older sisters help for a while. Maybe then she will learn not to badmouth and look down on somone else's relationship because she's jealous.
I_imagine_even_worse_w***s 9 months ago
I think you mean the older sister?! Op is actually a lot younger than her sister!
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Sara Shamsabadi 9 months ago
I'd watch the nephew as he's still her family but that sister would be dead to me in all honesty, we can be civil but once you hurt my trust like that, there's no going back
Suzie 9 months ago
This child has a dad. It's mother should make him pay for childcare or actually take care of their child. Calling her sister worse than a deadbeat dad when her sister is providing more help than the dad is beyond insulting.
TribbleThinking 9 months ago
As usual, the many voices telling her that she's so horrible can step up and volunteer a day or two every fortnight with precious sister's babysitting needs.
Captive 9 months ago
She has a deadbeat man and thinks her sister is worse? Wow. Instead of showing gratitude she backbites. Op should stay away for a while, maybe sister will then realize
Makenzie McNeal 9 months ago
Definitely a "Deadbeat? I can show you deadbeat.😊" situation.
Load More Replies... ToGo 9 months ago
I'm seeing a few sayings here so I'll add one - Don't bite the hand that feeds you. I can't stand people that don't really like you or how you live yet will ask of you and accept all the favours. I also hate disloyal people and bitching about your family in a group chat is a snake move. The sister here is clearly envious of OP and her co-parenting situation. I'm not saying it'd be the ideal arrangement for everyone, but both parents are involved and OP isn't struggling. Instead of being happy for OP, sis has allowed jealousy to take over.
zims 9 months ago
A woman with a 9-year-old and a 6-year-old who has a healthy, balanced life with her parenting partner: "Barely a mom." Coming from a woman with one child less than a year old, this is jealousy, plain and simple. She's stressed and overwhelmed and doesn't have the same support network her sister has, so she's lashing out. It's just as much about her ex as her sister. He walks away scott-free and she's trapped in the nightmare of supporting a baby AND a career solo. She sees her sister enjoying her life and her youth, and she knows she'll never have that freedom now. It's sad, but her vilifying her sister WHILE she's providing free childcare is the height of stupidity.
Romy Rösli 9 months ago
But sister did have a support network. Her MIL and OP took her kid while she was at work. Many parents don’t have that much support. But then she talked sh?t about one part of this network and now she’s f&cked, through her own fault.
Load More Replies... WonderWoman 9 months ago
OP's custody agreement isn't something I would want, but it works for her, her ex, and the children -and that is absolutely amazing and wonderful for them. OP was being very generous, kind and loving when she helped her sister out, and her sister pissed all over that by talking smack about her with her 'friends'. Good for OP for telling her sister to get bent. Shame on all the people who got involved in the aftermath, it is none of their business and they should be keeping their opinions to themselves.
Michelle C 9 months ago
Those who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I don't like how people are telling her it will be her fault if the sister loses her job. It would actual be the sisters own fault as well as the fathers. It's nobody else responsibility to watch her child.
Cecilia Matthews 9 months ago
Citizens which dwell in crystal edifices, ought not hurl granite fragments.
Load More Replies... Janelle Collard 9 months ago (edited)
Ah yes - the "be a doormat for an ungrateful person" rant. All those people berating OP for not helping sis can STFU. OP *helped* sis + where were *those* people? 🤔
Romy Rösli 9 months ago
NTA of course! The cousins can step up if they feel so sorry for the bully sister. Or the only real deadbeat in this story, the sister‘s ex, could finally be a father. I myself like to help others out but as soon as someone shows me they’re ungrateful I will stop.
Melissa Harris 9 months ago (edited)
Yeah. I don't need a parade just some respect. The OPs sister doesn't respect her. Probably looks down on her for having her children as a teen mom. But jokes on sis as she's the one that chose the dud. She doesn't even have the excuse of being young and stupid.
Load More Replies... BrownEyedPanda 9 months ago
NTA. If my sisters had said something like that about me, you can bet that I would have been just as unavailable. When someone's lending you a helping hand, don't s**t in it.
Mark Alexander 9 months ago
Speaking of a deadbeat dad, where is he and where's his child support? Maybe put the blame where the responsibility is missing?
Faramir10 9 months ago
Exactly what was thinking. I hope she 's going after him for child support.
Load More Replies... ZombieMommy 9 months ago
So she's jealous. Cousins and Grandma should step up to babysit then. I've dealt with the same kind of thing but I didn't have kids so I "didn't understand". I took care of them morning to night but yeah, I don't understand.
Lee Gilliland 9 months ago
Not going into the sister's circumstances here, but you don't bite the hand that feeds you, period. And the sister isn't sorry about what she say, she's sort sister caught it, which means she needs to grow up.
Tyke 9 months ago
OP is not the AH, OP is also not a deadbeat Mum, and I really hope she realises that. Sister is burnt out already. I bet when OP has her kids she gives them a better version of her because of her and the exes custody agreement. It works for them and their children and that's what matters.
Crystalwitch60 9 months ago
Your sister is a jealous b***h ! for someone so young op I am proud of you for co parenting so well it might sound strange to some people but it works perfectly your two kids have secure stable lives which is all that matters it’s not your fault she’s so jealous it’s hers ! blessed be op n do not back down x
Offbeat Quinoa 9 months ago
People are so excited to judge others. “I’m a better mom than her because of this little thing that makes me feel superior and I’m just going to smugly bask in that feeling.” It’s so exhausting. We all do it.
JayWantsACat 9 months ago
"Since I'm such a deadbeat mom, I'm going to have to only focus on my own kids and can no longer babysit yours for free."
Lola July 9 months ago (edited)
This is truly heartbreaking. What a jealous ungrateful sister. She should tell her sister to go to the group chat and apologize for being a jealous ungrateful twat. Then tell the chat that her sister is such a blessing to her and her child, for caring so much more than his dead beat dad. That not only does she spend a lot of time with her own children on her off months but she has stepped up and saved her thousands of dollars. Then Dear Auntie you could babysit so your nephew doesn't become homeless and you've humbled your haughty ungrateful sister.
Steïcy Gya 9 months ago
I think that the arrangements OP has with her children's father is a very nice one, rather than alternate weeks. It allows more stability for the children, instead of having to move each week. She gets to see her kids during that month and gets to focus on her own life and career especially since she is still young. I got divorced quite young too, and had started a Masters degree back around the same time while working a full time job and being a single mother since the dad did not make an effort to be involved with our child. If my parents/family were not around, I don't think I could have made it and would probably drop out. My classes were at night and during week ends, when I was back I had not more than an hour to spend with my kid. But I knew that it was a sacrifice which would have helped us in the long run and it did. Im sure OP's arrangements will pay for both parents and Happy Parents= Happy kids.
V 9 months ago
As a petty b*tch I would make her add me to that group chat and make her make a public apology in it and make her tell the true details of the custody agreement and how much OP is saving the her in childcare. And say about how she has a deadbeat dad for an ex who is not helping her at all. Then I would consider maybe babysitting again.
FreeTheUnicorn 9 months ago
I can't stress enough how important it is to vote for and support politicians that will improve your lot. Scotland has a year of mat leave, working towards general paid family leave, and 1140 hours per year if state funded childcare, many other countries have even more support available. Vote for what you need, as DIGE dismantles WIC, I can't recommend moving to a place that matches your values and needs highly enough. Yes there are issues with not enough places available at daycares, but it's getting better and single parents get to the head of the line. Don't just accept a bad situation, go find. Better one. Doesn't even sound like she's trying to get child support or limony. But really consider rising kids somewhere that supports families. It's much easier than you think to move.
The Starsong Princess 9 months ago
You should be concerned about your own job. Virtually all WFH jobs will fire you if they find you are looking after small children while working. They might have some compassion if it is your own child and you are in a bind but not for someone else’s kid. This is your sister’s problem to solve.
Emilu 7 months ago
15 is potentially deadbeat-y to have a baby depending on the person (and I know there are people out there thinking it who aren't game enough to say it) but it sounds like OP's done a fab job, all things considered. And yeah, if you want help, don't insult your potential help-giver. That's just common sense (though I'm aware common sense isn't as common as it used to be).
Melissa anderson 8 months ago
Apparently, her sister’s ex is a deadbeat father and her sister is jealous. People who lie about you and insult you should never expect favors from you.
Shedia G 8 months ago
I would have replied to the text with the truth identifying myself as her sister and how she’s never babysat my kids but she’s dropping hers off with me right now. Now her sister should take that deadbeat dad husband of hers to court and have his wages garnished for child support.
Ruth Watry 9 months ago
With you and ex doing a great job on coparenting, it is probably easier on the kids to not have to move every week, since they still see their other parent during the month. Sister needs to be held accountable for how she feels about you as a mom. Her only apology is because you heard it, not because she thinks it.
Jeanette Means 9 months ago
Well...if she is so desperate to have OP continue to babysit despite stabbing her in the back and the OP feels bad about withdrawing her assistance, may I suggest that OP turn it into a business arrangement. Agree to watch her son only because OP doesn't want SIL to lose her job, but charge her for doing so. OP can keep the amount she charges low but equitable. Maybe the SIL will at least stop taking the OP for granted if she has to pay the OP for her assistance, the child will be safely looked after and keep a roof over his head, OP will not feel bad about not continuing to babysit and will at least get some recompense for her efforts. The SIL is a je** and doesn't deserve the OPs help but the child does. The SIL is absolutely jealous of the OP and needs to be strongly reprimanded or her nasty behavior!! If SIL doesn't show any remorse then OP should not feel bad about withdrawing her assistance!! Old adage: Don't bite the hand that feeds you!
Lululoohoo 9 months ago
OP is NTA. she is in fact, a total saint that was helping her sister FOR FREE. Her sister can take her insults & shove them. Too bad so sad for her...she bit the hand that fed her & found out. Now she can deal with the repercussions. I just feel sorry for the nephew. Its not his fault his mom is a total Ahole.
Lululoohoo 9 months ago
also to add: OP's arrangement with the ex sounds amazing & like it works for the 2 parents + the kids! There is no disruption in schooling, and a month is great on off esp since they still hang out & do things with the kids during the other parents "time". All coparenting parents should be so lucky to have such a great arrangement. OP's sister is mad jealous.
Load More Replies... Craig Reynolds 9 months ago
She played FAFO and found out that it leads to stupid getting what stupid deserves.
Just stopping by 9 months ago
I wonder if the other family members feel the same way that the older sister does and that’s why they’re trying to be so hard on OP. NTA though I'd forgive and go no contact with all of them🤷🏽♀️
Mark Childers 9 months ago
Wow, I actually love my sister. I appreciate anything she does for me, which isn't very much actually. I do more for her, but I'm happy to do it and don't hold it against her. Her life is busier than mine, so if I can make her life a little easier, then I want to do it. I would never compare our lives to see who has it worse.
Melissa Harris 9 months ago (edited)
As many have pointed out the issue here is envy. The OP might have had children at a very young age but she and her ex seem to have an amicable co-parenting relationship and he seems like a good and very involved father. Their romantic relationship might not worked out but he appears to be a good man. On the other hand the OPs sister made a poor choice in men/father of her child. She's displacing all her anger at her ex husband and herself onto the OP. The sis needs therapy and a lawyer to get child support worked out. She also needs to get a different job as the one she has doesn't have enough flexibility or pay for childcare. She can't look for work in the same way she would have before becoming a mother. It's not the OPs job to be her sister's childcare. Her sister isn't a teen mom. She's a woman In her 30s.
Lauren Wilder 9 months ago
The younger sister is entitled. She needs to figure it out without her older sisters help for a while. Maybe then she will learn not to badmouth and look down on somone else's relationship because she's jealous.
I_imagine_even_worse_w***s 9 months ago
I think you mean the older sister?! Op is actually a lot younger than her sister!
Load More Replies... Sara Shamsabadi 9 months ago
I'd watch the nephew as he's still her family but that sister would be dead to me in all honesty, we can be civil but once you hurt my trust like that, there's no going back
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