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Bride Refuses To Let Mom’s Hubby Walk Her Down The Aisle, Bratty Sister Gives Her Hell For It
People often say, “out of sight, out of mind”, but sometimes, I don’t think it’s true. Especially when it comes to the people that we truly love, even before we know what love is. For instance, a parent doesn’t really just disappear from our thoughts when they pass away.
Even this bride still thinks about her late dad, but her younger sister doesn’t really care for him much. In fact, she also tried to force her to let their stepdad walk her down the aisle, and threw a huge fit when she refused. Read on to find out all the wedding drama that followed!
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When the poster and her sister were kids, their dad passed away, and 2 years later, their mom got married to another guy
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Image credits: Curated Lifestyle / Unsplash (not the actual photo)
Her sister immediately accepted him as “dad”, but she couldn’t really do that since the couple kept forcing it on her
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Image credits: Curated Lifestyle / Unsplash (not the actual photo)
She even had a major fight with her sister about it, and even now, her sister wants her to let him walk her down the aisle, but she doesn’t want that
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Her sister threw a massive fit over it, so she’s contemplating uninviting her from the wedding, just like she did with mom and her husband
In today’s story, we see a family drama unfold as the original poster (OP) tells us how she clashed with her sibling. It all started when she was 11 years old and her sister was 9 years old, and it had been 2 years since their father’s passing. Their mom married another person, and the younger one quickly accepted him as “dad”, but OP just couldn’t do that.
In fact, the poster even had a huge fight with her over this, as she got mad when their late father’s grandparents referred to them as his daughters. Apparently, she didn’t really care about him much, as her mom’s husband was the “father of the year”. However, OP couldn’t erase all traces of their real dad just because he was no longer with them.
Fast forward to the present, and the poster is about to get married, but her little sister couldn’t just let her enjoy the moment. She kept pushing her to let their stepdad walk her down the aisle and get him involved in the wedding. Well, OP flat out refused, and because of her, she even argued with her mom and her husband over this. How frustrating for the bride!
The poor woman got so sick of her sister throwing a tantrum over this that she just snapped and threatened to uninvite her from the wedding. Ever since, the woman has been trying to emotionally blackmail her about how much she loves her, and blah, blah, blah. However, it looks like the poster might not budge, as she really doesn’t want her sister around during the wedding.
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After everything the lady put her through, can you really blame the bride for her decision? Experts emphasize that wedding planning can be incredibly stressful. It involves a lot of time, energy, and money. Additionally, the sheer number of decisions people have to make can be overwhelming.
My heart really goes out to the poster who might already be distraught because of this, and then she had to deal with all the family drama, too. Even her sister’s indifference to their real father must also be bothering her for so many years. Moreover, I think the real problem began when her mom and the new husband started forcing a relationship between him and OP.
Experts warn that a stepparent should never attempt to take the stepchild’s parents’ position. They also claim that they shouldn’t force the child to call them “mom” or “dad”, and respect the kid’s need to love their real parent. In this case, however, the exact opposite happened, which actually created more distance between OP and the stepdad, and even her mom.
Netizens felt that her sister was being unreasonable in this situation, and her negative attitude towards their late father was shocking to them. The thing is, grieving is different for everyone. Besides, parental loss can have a great impact on the behavior and emotions of kids. Well, no wonder the younger sister almost sounds like she’s angry with their dad for passing away.
However, that doesn’t give her the right to make the bride do something she doesn’t want to do. After all, it’s her special day, and she can ask whoever she wants to walk her down the aisle. She probably just wants a drama-free wedding, so OP’s considering uninviting her sister, and I hope she gets what she wants. Don’t you agree? Let us know your thoughts in the comments!
Folks were alarmed by the sister’s zero respect for boundaries, and they also claimed that she was just trying to control the wedding
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Apatheist Account2 3 months ago (edited)
It's the bride's choice. No-one else gets a say, nor should they feel upset if they're not chosen, and certainly not upset on behalf of someone else. So many people are bad at conflict resolution.
Rick Murray 3 months ago
My biological father was...let's just say he's not somebody I have any actual memories of. After he died, mom met somebody and he was a presence for most of the latter half of my childhood, but eventually they went their separate ways. I still keep in touch with him all these years later and I feel that he was a perfectly good dad to me, but I have never actually called him that as, well, there was never a right time to start and it's way too late now. But he knows I like him. A big part of it was that he's easy going. He never marched in to replace my father or insisted I should refer to him as such. He just got to know me, and me him, and we went from there. If he'd said "I'm your dad" I'm likely to have replied "no, you aren't" and that would have been it between us. You can't force these things.
Vinnie 3 months ago (edited)
I don't understand the little sister (she is acting little and small-minded). My sisters and I respect each other's views of our late parents because our relationships to them were not the same. It actually came in handy when our very elderly father became extremely difficult to handle. His favourite daughter (not me, LOL) took on the role of "Daddy whisperer" and did a pretty good job of it.
Lee Gilliland 3 months ago
Little sister has drunk the kool-aid. Step-dad is almighty, and big sis is the Antichrist. It's a not-unknown pattern.
Load More Replies... Lee Gilliland 3 months ago (edited)
Little sis didn't try to get sis to ask dad, little sis tried to MAKE big sis ask dad. That's the difference, and the reason little sis is TA here. Also, there is a narcissist here, because of the patterns of thought and language. I think it may be step-dad, notice everything is about him. That's usually a giveaway.
Upstaged75 3 months ago
Imagine causing this much drama over a wedding that ISN'T EVEN HERS! OP needs to cut off her sis and mom/husband completely and forever. That's just not normal.
Kate Johnson 3 months ago
I'd go low/no contact with sister. She sounds unhinged. I certainly wouldn't want any of them at my wedding. This would be enough to make me want to elope.
Crystalwitch60 3 months ago
I’d go nc totally , which I did with my father from 16 , he killed my mother , when I was 8 mths old , blamed me all my life till I was 46 n learned the truth , my stepsisters never saw his cruel side as I didnt live with him , but as they got older they did ! Only one outta 4 of us was there on his death bed n same at funneral ,im no hypocrite,so I was going no where near him , but I loved my little sister I was 15 when she was born n I bought her up for first yr of her life. Lost contact with her over the years but Other two eugh ,n so with you on the unhinged sister , ,I had none at my weddings bar the youngest at first one , in this case ,I’d defo cut all contact to the lot of em x
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Harry Gondalf 3 months ago
Nothing like cat fights—neither one will simply STFU. The OP could have just shut up and stood her ground, but no, she has to defend, counter-atack, defend again. And again, and again. (I suspect this reaction will be downvoted to oblivion.)
Alexandra 3 months ago
Just because your sister and your stepfather 'love' you it doesn't mean you have to love them back. If you don't love them, you simply don't. That's it. OP doesn't owe her sister any explanation at all. OP just doesn't want her stepfather there and that's her prerogative as a bride. I sincerely doubt that sister loves OP because she obviously doesn't respect OP's. What's more, she's trying to force the issue and went behind OP's back. A clear boundary is needed: respect my opinioin or else you're uninvited. Your choice. No hiding behind 'love' and 'family' or anything: let's see who you really are.
Emilu 3 months ago
You *cannot* force feelings about how someone else feels about their parent/step-parent/adopted parent/biological parent etc -- unless you want to make things worse. Then knock yourself out! My situation is different in that I was adopted, but if someone told me I should value my bio parents more than my "adopted parents", they'd be kicked to the curb. Sister does not get to decide how OP should feel about the step-dad, nor who OP gets to walk down the aisle. I'd be uninviting her at this point unless she can keep her trap shut, personally.
Sarah Léon 3 months ago
I share a father with my older half-sister. He raised me but not her. When she got married, she invited him but as a guest and everybody understood and let her take her own decision. It was logical and simple and nobody was hurt. Why some people always want to force their opinions on others ?
Apatheist Account2 3 months ago (edited)
It's the bride's choice. No-one else gets a say, nor should they feel upset if they're not chosen, and certainly not upset on behalf of someone else. So many people are bad at conflict resolution.
Rick Murray 3 months ago
My biological father was...let's just say he's not somebody I have any actual memories of. After he died, mom met somebody and he was a presence for most of the latter half of my childhood, but eventually they went their separate ways. I still keep in touch with him all these years later and I feel that he was a perfectly good dad to me, but I have never actually called him that as, well, there was never a right time to start and it's way too late now. But he knows I like him. A big part of it was that he's easy going. He never marched in to replace my father or insisted I should refer to him as such. He just got to know me, and me him, and we went from there. If he'd said "I'm your dad" I'm likely to have replied "no, you aren't" and that would have been it between us. You can't force these things.
Vinnie 3 months ago (edited)
I don't understand the little sister (she is acting little and small-minded). My sisters and I respect each other's views of our late parents because our relationships to them were not the same. It actually came in handy when our very elderly father became extremely difficult to handle. His favourite daughter (not me, LOL) took on the role of "Daddy whisperer" and did a pretty good job of it.
Lee Gilliland 3 months ago
Little sister has drunk the kool-aid. Step-dad is almighty, and big sis is the Antichrist. It's a not-unknown pattern.
Load More Replies... Lee Gilliland 3 months ago (edited)
Little sis didn't try to get sis to ask dad, little sis tried to MAKE big sis ask dad. That's the difference, and the reason little sis is TA here. Also, there is a narcissist here, because of the patterns of thought and language. I think it may be step-dad, notice everything is about him. That's usually a giveaway.
Upstaged75 3 months ago
Imagine causing this much drama over a wedding that ISN'T EVEN HERS! OP needs to cut off her sis and mom/husband completely and forever. That's just not normal.
Kate Johnson 3 months ago
I'd go low/no contact with sister. She sounds unhinged. I certainly wouldn't want any of them at my wedding. This would be enough to make me want to elope.
Crystalwitch60 3 months ago
I’d go nc totally , which I did with my father from 16 , he killed my mother , when I was 8 mths old , blamed me all my life till I was 46 n learned the truth , my stepsisters never saw his cruel side as I didnt live with him , but as they got older they did ! Only one outta 4 of us was there on his death bed n same at funneral ,im no hypocrite,so I was going no where near him , but I loved my little sister I was 15 when she was born n I bought her up for first yr of her life. Lost contact with her over the years but Other two eugh ,n so with you on the unhinged sister , ,I had none at my weddings bar the youngest at first one , in this case ,I’d defo cut all contact to the lot of em x
Load More Replies... Harry Gondalf 3 months ago
Nothing like cat fights—neither one will simply STFU. The OP could have just shut up and stood her ground, but no, she has to defend, counter-atack, defend again. And again, and again. (I suspect this reaction will be downvoted to oblivion.)
Alexandra 3 months ago
Just because your sister and your stepfather 'love' you it doesn't mean you have to love them back. If you don't love them, you simply don't. That's it. OP doesn't owe her sister any explanation at all. OP just doesn't want her stepfather there and that's her prerogative as a bride. I sincerely doubt that sister loves OP because she obviously doesn't respect OP's. What's more, she's trying to force the issue and went behind OP's back. A clear boundary is needed: respect my opinioin or else you're uninvited. Your choice. No hiding behind 'love' and 'family' or anything: let's see who you really are.
Emilu 3 months ago
You *cannot* force feelings about how someone else feels about their parent/step-parent/adopted parent/biological parent etc -- unless you want to make things worse. Then knock yourself out! My situation is different in that I was adopted, but if someone told me I should value my bio parents more than my "adopted parents", they'd be kicked to the curb. Sister does not get to decide how OP should feel about the step-dad, nor who OP gets to walk down the aisle. I'd be uninviting her at this point unless she can keep her trap shut, personally.
Sarah Léon 3 months ago
I share a father with my older half-sister. He raised me but not her. When she got married, she invited him but as a guest and everybody understood and let her take her own decision. It was logical and simple and nobody was hurt. Why some people always want to force their opinions on others ?
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