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Aunt Stumped By Couple’s Cruelty Towards Grieving Niblings, Slams SIL With The Truth
As kids, parents are literally the anchors that tie us to this world; otherwise, we would be so lost. That’s probably why losing a parent sparks insurmountable grief. Can you imagine being forced to bond with a stepparent during such a situation?
As awful as it sounds, that’s what this man is trying to do to his kids after his wife passed away. His new wife is upset that they won’t take to her, and pins the blame on her sister-in-law, who’s the original poster (OP). Here’s how she smartly clapped back at the woman!
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Losing a parent is tough, but immediately being forced to accept a new family is just brutal
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The poster’s brother was married to her close friend, Elle, and they have 2 kids, but she passed away due to cancer
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However, her brother tried to erase Elle from the kids’ lives after he started dating Dani, and wanted her to be their new mom
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Dani gets jealous over the smallest of things and blames the poster for the kids being close to Elle’s family
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The poster finally snapped and told her to stop being so jealous and controlling, which just enraged the couple
Today’s story is quite sad as OP tells us that she feels bad for her siblings and how she got caught in a conflict with her family. It all started when her brother married her childhood friend, Elle, and then her nephew, Milo, and niece, Piper, were born. Sadly, Elle was diagnosed with cancer and passed away a few years back.
The main problem in the story arose when the poster’s brother started dating Dani, a few months after Elle passed. Apparently, he wanted his kids to “erase” their real mom and accept Dani as their new mom. That sounds awful, doesn’t it? He even wanted to stop the kids from contacting Elle’s family, but they sued him, and thankfully, the judge agreed to the grandparents’ visits.
Unfortunately, things just escalated after OP’s brother married Dani, who is absolutely bitter when it comes to Elle. She gets jealous over the smallest of things and even pins the blame on the poster. She believes it’s our main lady’s fault that the kids don’t accept her and are close with Elle’s family.
One day, she confronted OP and said that she was sick of being second best to Elle. She also claimed that the poster’s bond with Elle’s family sent the wrong message to the kids. Our lady had heard enough and snapped back that Dani should stop being so jealous and controlling. Well, the woman got furious, and even the poster’s brother got angry with her.
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However, netizens were quick to point out that the poster was not at fault even slightly. Folks felt that the couple was pretty harsh for asking little kids to completely erase their late mom. Research suggests that early parental loss can have negative effects on the kids. On top of this, forcing them to let go of their mom’s memories is just brutal.
It has been observed that although one in three people live in blended families, it can be very tough for kids to accept the new family. It’s only natural that Milo and Piper won’t accept a new mom so quickly. Besides, experts warn that the new parent should never take the other parent’s place, or it can further strain the blended family bonding.
It has also been observed that it’s natural for stepmoms to get jealous, but Dani just has no control over herself. Many people applauded the poster for standing up to her and bluntly telling her the truth. People were also irked by how her brother was behaving, and even OP mentioned that their relationship is strained because of his actions.
She also assured netizens that she would make sure the kids didn’t forget the memory of their real mom, no matter what. She truly sounds like an amazing aunt and Elle’s true best friend, doesn’t she? If you were in her shoes, how would you handle the situation? We would love to hear your thoughts, so leave them in the comments below!
Folks online were enraged by the cruel couple and applauded the poster for standing up for Elle’s kids
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arthbach 3 months ago
What on earth makes people think that throwing a tantrum and shouting 'Love me! Love me' will make them more appealing and loveable?! The best way to win their love is by loving their mother. With regards to Mother's Day, speak to the children, and ask them what their mother loved. If the answer was animals, suggest they buy some toys for the local animal shelter and donate them them in memory of their mam. If she loved going to the theatre, ask the children if they'd like to go to the theatre. If she loved visiting the zoo, then sponsor a favourite animal, and take the children to see the animal. Get out the photograph album and talk about her. There is never going to be a competition between the two women. But their step mam can become something they love and trust, as long as she doesn't force herself on the children, or try to erase their mam.
Ge Po 3 months ago
Allow the children to lean in to you while you help them remember the good times, so you can carry that tiny bit of their pain for them, a little bit every day, until it starts to get bearable. That is how you also get a chance to bond with them and maybe, if they start to trust you, they will over time come to see you as a second mother.
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Sunny Day 3 months ago
Bro just wanted a "new mom" - aka "raise the kids because I don't want to". He was probably not involved with the kids when Elle was ali e and wants to keep it that way.
Janelle Collard 3 months ago
Absolutely. He sure brought Dani into his life very soon after his wife died.
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Ge Po 3 months ago
So, besides loosing their mom, they now also loose their grandparents, uncles, aunts, and cousins from mom's side? And have to play nice with some lady they barely know and who not will acknowledge their grieve?
Nitka Tsar 3 months ago
They practically lost the support of their Dad too. I wonder if he was ever really involved with them to begin with.
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arthbach 3 months ago
What on earth makes people think that throwing a tantrum and shouting 'Love me! Love me' will make them more appealing and loveable?! The best way to win their love is by loving their mother. With regards to Mother's Day, speak to the children, and ask them what their mother loved. If the answer was animals, suggest they buy some toys for the local animal shelter and donate them them in memory of their mam. If she loved going to the theatre, ask the children if they'd like to go to the theatre. If she loved visiting the zoo, then sponsor a favourite animal, and take the children to see the animal. Get out the photograph album and talk about her. There is never going to be a competition between the two women. But their step mam can become something they love and trust, as long as she doesn't force herself on the children, or try to erase their mam.
Ge Po 3 months ago
Allow the children to lean in to you while you help them remember the good times, so you can carry that tiny bit of their pain for them, a little bit every day, until it starts to get bearable. That is how you also get a chance to bond with them and maybe, if they start to trust you, they will over time come to see you as a second mother.
Load More Replies... Sunny Day 3 months ago
Bro just wanted a "new mom" - aka "raise the kids because I don't want to". He was probably not involved with the kids when Elle was ali e and wants to keep it that way.
Janelle Collard 3 months ago
Absolutely. He sure brought Dani into his life very soon after his wife died.
Load More Replies... Ge Po 3 months ago
So, besides loosing their mom, they now also loose their grandparents, uncles, aunts, and cousins from mom's side? And have to play nice with some lady they barely know and who not will acknowledge their grieve?
Nitka Tsar 3 months ago
They practically lost the support of their Dad too. I wonder if he was ever really involved with them to begin with.
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