Bar Puts Up A Brilliant Sign To Stop Female Workers From Being Harassed
When a female bartender is being nice to you, it’s because that’s what she’s being paid to do. It’s not because she’s uncontrollably attracted to you. But some customers at The Beer Cellar in Devon, UK, don’t quite understand this (because, you know, it’s so damn complicated), and so the bar has decided to put up a helpful sign to literally spell it out for them.
“We basically just printed it out after we had a very sex-pest heavy weekend about three months ago,” bartender Lauren Dew told Mashable. When asked about how the clientele have reacted to it, she said “people really laugh, people support it. One percent think it’s a bit offensive, which is funny to me because those are the people it’s aimed at.” The sign was created by Illustrator Charlotte Mullin, who said “I wanted to make it clear that female staff are nice to you because they have to be! And, of course, most of us are decent human beings and would be nice to you anyway, but in no way does this mean we’re dying for your dick.” Got the message yet guys? We sure hope so.
A bar in Devon, UK, found an interesting way to stop their female bartenders from being sexually harassed
“We…printed it out after we had a very sex-pest heavy weekend about 3 months ago,” said bartender Lauren
“People support it. 1% think it’s a bit offensive, which is funny because those are the people it’s aimed at”
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Share on FacebookAlthough I absolutely support the message, I think it's bound to fall on deaf ears in the profession she's in. Men + Alcohol = Inappropriate. There's a reason that bartending is a lucrative profession for women, and that whole "being nice because it's my job thing" has a lot to do with recognizing that a lot of money can be had from men who think there's gold at the end of the rainbow, even if every right-thinking person in the world understands that's not reality. Just being real here -- if avoiding creepy men is your objective, bartending's probably not for you. Just sayin'.
It kinda happens in every job. When taking orders over the phone i hear everyday how beautiful i sound and can't i give my number/deliver the order myself (and sometimes more pervy stuff) by perfectly sober husbands and fathers and all i can do i laugh and be polite. Perhaps us women shouldn't leave the house at all and just get jobs where we work on computers where our sexual orientation is unknown so we don't get harassed by 'creepy men', and if we do it's our own fault for leaving the house right?
Load More Replies...Why the f**k would you kiss a random chicks hand? I mean. If you're wearing a bloody tuxedo and a top hat and the chick is your date to a Ball then sure, but a random bartender. No thanks, I'll stick to my beer.
Guys that act like creeps and then start venting about good girls only wanting bad boys when you reject them 😍😩👅💦💦💯💯💯🔥 Screen-Sho...25-png.jpg
So this article goes both ways, if you are a customer and you are being nice and courteous. Most assume you are flirting.
Flirting is fine. Harassing is not. If you don't know the difference then you're doing it wrong (not you personally, Shortcut Panda; "you" in general).
Load More Replies...I honestly think, there shouldn't be so much shouting and crying about it, in my country it is just showing u are well behaved, its a way men are showing their respect to a woman. Well it were so, these days almost nobody does that, just old people, but you know, if u are working where you interact with people, mostly men and one of them want's to kiss your hand, you just can say no, without cursing or offending anyone, just be nice and polite and just say no. Is it so hard? Remember you still can be nice and draw some line that people can't cross.
Hand-kissing? Weird. We... we don't really do that anymore. Maybe if you're at a fancy party meeting high-class people, but not just random ladies.
Maybe in your part of the world you don't be I'm amazed the amount of men who try this...
Load More Replies...There are all these paragraph-to-essay length comments, so I'ma just add my single-sentence comment to try and help balance it out. Derp.
I feel sorry for those girls, some guys got too drunk and act creepy. flirting, asking for their #s. not all of them give good tips, some are cheap as hell. customers comes first, of course it's their job to be polite and chatty with them.
It's not just the guys that get drunk though. There are plenty that think a girl being friendly is an invitation to start getting a little too schmoozy. Guys that think a girl being friendly means she wants him to ask her out. It's a thing, trust me. It's a thing.
Load More Replies...Kudos for the courage to post this sign. Sometimes just a pleasant good morning and friendly smile (good manners) are construed as a declaration of undying love. It makes you be rude to the next guy who might be a really nice person!
Why the hand kissing!?!? You don't know where it's been or if it's been washed! The back of the hand gets dirty too!
Yeah, that's usually what people wipe their noses with. Yuck!
Load More Replies...1what u thoguth at all what the hell its her job u pervand what ther wrong brian do u have like srsly who tf sexually like thisbad u shook un hooked u b***h lie no hoe u f****d up no b***h like dat
Got a neighbour like this. Was, note was, friends with the pair, but husband started hitting on me, then blamed me to wifey. Told lies to to try to save marriage. His fault. I am the bad one. So this message is whole heartedly appropriate. Let girls talk to you but do not take it as anything else but work or friendship.
Many employers employ well-endowed females for THAT very reason - to get the man to the bar plus some females lap it up !
It is what it is. Doubt most are bad men. Just drunk makes you stupid. Stupid makes you inappropriate. The 1% are the a******s who need jail
That tiny sign is a poor way to alert customers, and largely ineffective. The cure for all this it to hire women who are self-assured and know how to take care of themselves. Veteran waitresses know this and can handle males coming on to them. And many of them love the flattery, as long as it doesn't get carried away. As a former restaurant manager I saw different waitresses come and go. And the best ones knew how to ratchet up the warning signals, up to and including how to twist fingers that could leave the offender in pain. But usually the correct "look" and tone of voice was more than enough to let others know that they meant business. If "Gender feminists" actually think they can eliminate sexual attraction, they are in the wrong profession.
So you're saying it's ok for men to behave that way? And the actual problem is that women don't know how to handle/react to them? Wow! I'm pretty sure all the waitresses that worked for you, hated you.
Load More Replies...This is pretty funny, and in light of the situation I'm sure it's true that 99.99999% of the time the cashier/bartender/what-have-you is being polite to a guy, it just means she is doing her job. What I take issue with is that more and more and more of these social experiments and articles are popping up targeting men who are just doing what men do: being the pursuer (and rational feminists see this as a gender role issue as well). While it successfully ostracizes the creepy guys from the masses and deters them from exhibiting such social incompetence in the future (hopefully), it's also deterring truly sensible men who know better for fear that they may end up on the internet or some click bait article (guilty as charged). Slippery slope fallacy coming: it's going to reach a point where men in general will be afraid of even approaching women at all, even genuinely decent ones. Brush up on your ice breaking skills, girls: it's your time to shine. It's what you wanted, right?
I disagree. Men who don't do this know this message is not for them. Signs like this show solidarity with female employees, and they are a cue to the customers about behaviours that will not be tolerated. This fosters a positive environment. At a bar I go to reads: no violence tolerated--can you slippery slope that?
Load More Replies...nothing to do with wanting someones d**k some women are so sick. with out women sexual harassing men like women bar tenders that are half naked to get men to buy alchohol
If you look like Brad Pitt, nothing you do is sexual harassment... if you look like me, everything you do is sexual harassment.
No, attractive people can harass waitresses and bartenders as well as anybody else.
Load More Replies...Although I absolutely support the message, I think it's bound to fall on deaf ears in the profession she's in. Men + Alcohol = Inappropriate. There's a reason that bartending is a lucrative profession for women, and that whole "being nice because it's my job thing" has a lot to do with recognizing that a lot of money can be had from men who think there's gold at the end of the rainbow, even if every right-thinking person in the world understands that's not reality. Just being real here -- if avoiding creepy men is your objective, bartending's probably not for you. Just sayin'.
It kinda happens in every job. When taking orders over the phone i hear everyday how beautiful i sound and can't i give my number/deliver the order myself (and sometimes more pervy stuff) by perfectly sober husbands and fathers and all i can do i laugh and be polite. Perhaps us women shouldn't leave the house at all and just get jobs where we work on computers where our sexual orientation is unknown so we don't get harassed by 'creepy men', and if we do it's our own fault for leaving the house right?
Load More Replies...Why the f**k would you kiss a random chicks hand? I mean. If you're wearing a bloody tuxedo and a top hat and the chick is your date to a Ball then sure, but a random bartender. No thanks, I'll stick to my beer.
Guys that act like creeps and then start venting about good girls only wanting bad boys when you reject them 😍😩👅💦💦💯💯💯🔥 Screen-Sho...25-png.jpg
So this article goes both ways, if you are a customer and you are being nice and courteous. Most assume you are flirting.
Flirting is fine. Harassing is not. If you don't know the difference then you're doing it wrong (not you personally, Shortcut Panda; "you" in general).
Load More Replies...I honestly think, there shouldn't be so much shouting and crying about it, in my country it is just showing u are well behaved, its a way men are showing their respect to a woman. Well it were so, these days almost nobody does that, just old people, but you know, if u are working where you interact with people, mostly men and one of them want's to kiss your hand, you just can say no, without cursing or offending anyone, just be nice and polite and just say no. Is it so hard? Remember you still can be nice and draw some line that people can't cross.
Hand-kissing? Weird. We... we don't really do that anymore. Maybe if you're at a fancy party meeting high-class people, but not just random ladies.
Maybe in your part of the world you don't be I'm amazed the amount of men who try this...
Load More Replies...There are all these paragraph-to-essay length comments, so I'ma just add my single-sentence comment to try and help balance it out. Derp.
I feel sorry for those girls, some guys got too drunk and act creepy. flirting, asking for their #s. not all of them give good tips, some are cheap as hell. customers comes first, of course it's their job to be polite and chatty with them.
It's not just the guys that get drunk though. There are plenty that think a girl being friendly is an invitation to start getting a little too schmoozy. Guys that think a girl being friendly means she wants him to ask her out. It's a thing, trust me. It's a thing.
Load More Replies...Kudos for the courage to post this sign. Sometimes just a pleasant good morning and friendly smile (good manners) are construed as a declaration of undying love. It makes you be rude to the next guy who might be a really nice person!
Why the hand kissing!?!? You don't know where it's been or if it's been washed! The back of the hand gets dirty too!
Yeah, that's usually what people wipe their noses with. Yuck!
Load More Replies...1what u thoguth at all what the hell its her job u pervand what ther wrong brian do u have like srsly who tf sexually like thisbad u shook un hooked u b***h lie no hoe u f****d up no b***h like dat
Got a neighbour like this. Was, note was, friends with the pair, but husband started hitting on me, then blamed me to wifey. Told lies to to try to save marriage. His fault. I am the bad one. So this message is whole heartedly appropriate. Let girls talk to you but do not take it as anything else but work or friendship.
Many employers employ well-endowed females for THAT very reason - to get the man to the bar plus some females lap it up !
It is what it is. Doubt most are bad men. Just drunk makes you stupid. Stupid makes you inappropriate. The 1% are the a******s who need jail
That tiny sign is a poor way to alert customers, and largely ineffective. The cure for all this it to hire women who are self-assured and know how to take care of themselves. Veteran waitresses know this and can handle males coming on to them. And many of them love the flattery, as long as it doesn't get carried away. As a former restaurant manager I saw different waitresses come and go. And the best ones knew how to ratchet up the warning signals, up to and including how to twist fingers that could leave the offender in pain. But usually the correct "look" and tone of voice was more than enough to let others know that they meant business. If "Gender feminists" actually think they can eliminate sexual attraction, they are in the wrong profession.
So you're saying it's ok for men to behave that way? And the actual problem is that women don't know how to handle/react to them? Wow! I'm pretty sure all the waitresses that worked for you, hated you.
Load More Replies...This is pretty funny, and in light of the situation I'm sure it's true that 99.99999% of the time the cashier/bartender/what-have-you is being polite to a guy, it just means she is doing her job. What I take issue with is that more and more and more of these social experiments and articles are popping up targeting men who are just doing what men do: being the pursuer (and rational feminists see this as a gender role issue as well). While it successfully ostracizes the creepy guys from the masses and deters them from exhibiting such social incompetence in the future (hopefully), it's also deterring truly sensible men who know better for fear that they may end up on the internet or some click bait article (guilty as charged). Slippery slope fallacy coming: it's going to reach a point where men in general will be afraid of even approaching women at all, even genuinely decent ones. Brush up on your ice breaking skills, girls: it's your time to shine. It's what you wanted, right?
I disagree. Men who don't do this know this message is not for them. Signs like this show solidarity with female employees, and they are a cue to the customers about behaviours that will not be tolerated. This fosters a positive environment. At a bar I go to reads: no violence tolerated--can you slippery slope that?
Load More Replies...nothing to do with wanting someones d**k some women are so sick. with out women sexual harassing men like women bar tenders that are half naked to get men to buy alchohol
If you look like Brad Pitt, nothing you do is sexual harassment... if you look like me, everything you do is sexual harassment.
No, attractive people can harass waitresses and bartenders as well as anybody else.
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