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Society has normalized a lot of things that are blatantly sexist—that’s what the ‘Power To Her’ channel shared in a viral TikTok video that caught the attention of many women on the platform. According to the ‘Power to Her’ project’s video, one of the most mind-blowingly sexist things that are still prevalent in modern society is the fact that women are pressured to change their last names once they get married.

Meanwhile, other TikTokers pitched in with their own examples of what kinds of sexist behaviors have been normalized. From brides wearing white dresses that symbolize purity, innocence, and virginity, and fathers ‘giving away’ their daughters after they walk them down the aisle to other sexist behaviors that you can find in everyday life. Have a look at some of the most insightful responses to ‘Power To Her’s’ video and upvote the ones that you’ve noticed in society, too, dear Pandas.

More info: TikTok | PowerToHer.org

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist I've tried numerous times and asked numerous doctors if I can have my tubes tied because I don't want to have children, nor does my husband. They want to have a meeting with both me and my husband, they tell me I'll probably change my mind, that I'm too young or that I need to wait until I have at least one child. Even though I don't want any. But my husband can make a phone call and set up an appointment, just like that.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS. Even if the laws are on your side, most doctors won't do it and give you all kinds of illegal and irrelevant excuses, and there's nothing you can do about it, except for going from doctor to doctor until you luck out. Had a huge fight with my former OBG/YN because he wouldn't tie my tubes because "I was too young (23) and eventually *my husband* could want kids. I literally kicked him in the nuts while cursing at him. Would do it again.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist School dress codes. This logic about girls needing to "cover up" is so problematic and flawed, because we're teaching girls that they are responsible for how men act when they show any part of their body.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist The prefix for men is Mr. and the prefix for women is Miss, Ms. and Mrs. A prefix for women is directly dependent on if she is single or married. It stays Mr. for men all their lives.

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The ‘Power To Her’ organization aims to empower women in their communities. “We hope to encourage social change through promoting, educating and providing the necessary tools and services for progress,” the project explains on its website.

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The founder of ‘Power To Her,’ Sachreet Chahal and Shuchi Jain, seek to end gender-based inequalities on a global level. Having met at the Schulich School of Business, the two women eventually grew closer together, shared the things they faced as women, and decided to form the organization.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Back in 2017 I bought a house as a single woman, this year I sold it. My and my partner decided to buy a new house together. With the money I made from selling my old house, I put the entire down payment on the new one. The mortgage company, the insurance, home warranty addresses him as the owner of this house and I'm the "co-borrower".

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist A woman with boundaries is selfish, rude, mean, harsh. A man with boundaries is confident, powerful, successful, ambitious.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A woman is 'bossy' a man 'has good leadership skills'. In same vein though women are sensitive & men are soft.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist When people come up to me and tell me my daughter's really beautiful and that I better watch our for her when she gets older. Like, they're actually expecting our daughters to be sexually assaulted.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Okay. So where I live. We have arranged marriages. I don’t mind. What I do mind is that I’m 17 and our weird neighbour hinted my mom that she thought I was pretty and her son was at marrying age. Ewgh. Creepy old ladies. Edit: Yes my parents shoed her away.

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“Power To Her means giving the power back to each and every single woman and providing them with the help and resources to live their most authentic life,” they explain.

Founder Shuchi, a professional dancer and choreographer with a penchant for traveling and content creation, hopes to raise awareness about the issues that women face through the project. Meanwhile, Sachreet, an aspiring writer and a philanthropist, has always had a passion for social activism and always dreamed about starting a non-profit organization.

#7

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Women are forced to take sole responsibility for contraception, when women are only fertile 3-5 days of the year. Men are fertile every single day of the year. The biggest gimmick of all was that it was sold to us as a way of independence.

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Celeste Grant
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That must mean 3-5 days a month, not a year! Most women have a fertile period every cycle.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist How male actors like Ryan Gosling or Leonardo DiCaprio can play the main character their entire careers but each time their female co-star/love interest gets younger.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't forget the actresses for the 'mums' are often only a few years older than the actors playing their 'son'

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#9

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist It's not only normalized but viewed as "cute" when a man can't do the basic parts of parenting. "Oh my husband can't even be with the kids for two hours without calling me haha". "That's nothing, mine won't even touch the dirty diapers." What's funny about only women being expected to know how to take care of their children?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have to say where I come from, that's not true (anymore). When I go on a 3 day trip with my girlfriends, the dads stay with the kids and it's perfectly normal. No problems whatsoever.

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‘Power To Her’ bases its activities on three main pillars in order to empower “a large network of women from different backgrounds and ethnicities.”

The first pillar that the project is founded on is all about mutual support and growth. The second is about educating society about women’s issues, gender stereotypes, toxic beauty standards, access to education, inequality in the workplace, and the lack of women in positions of power. The final pillar is providing people with the necessary tools and services to empower them to give back to marginalized communities.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Whenever a girl has an attitude or is in a bad mood, she gets asked if it's her "time of the month".

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist It's so normalized for women to change their last name after getting married. This is the name you got your degree with, the name associated with all your accomplishments. Yet society just expects you to pack it up and change it the second you get married.
The fact that so many men expect their S/O to change their last name for them is a red flag.
I understand all the arguments for why you would want to change your last name. To be part of the family and it's easier for the kids and all that. BUT the fact is that the pressure is solely put on women.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never changed my name. I love my husband, but I'm his wife/partner, not his sister. And I'm quite pissed that my children MUST have my husbands name, why not both surnames?

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist When anything happens to a woman, be a crime or an accident, they're almost always referred to as a wife/mother first on a news broadcast. The fact that she's not reffered by her name first but by her relationship to others is messed up. There's always a difference when men are mentioned. It's always "local man", and then they later mention that he's a husband or a father.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In the netherlands they recently referred to the royal couple as "The queen and her husband" in a newspaper, fun fact: in this case the husband is actually the monarch of the country i.e. he is the king

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Literally everything about traditional weddings. Your dad gives you away so that you can be passed from one man to another man. You have to wear a white dress, because if you're not a virgin, you're [useless]. It's bad luck for the man to see the bride on the day of the wedding because back when marriages were all arranged, if the guy saw the bride before, sometimes he would want to call it off because he didn't fancy her, and that would bring shame on...the bride. That's also why the veil is a thing. Traditionally, the bride's family pays for the wedding.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This depends on where you live, most of these don't apply to my culture. In my country the bride and groom make their entrance together for both the civil and church marriage ceremonies. There is no giving away of the bride as part of the marriage ceremony itself.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Shaving. If a woman doesn't shave, it's considered "manly" and "nasty". Makeup is targeted specifically towards women, and when a man uses it, he's considered less of a man.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I personally like how my legs look when I shave them, which is why I shave them. If someone doesn't like that on themselves or just doesn't want to, they shouldn't be forced to. Same thing for makeup.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Giving the mothers the custody on Monday-Friday, and giving the dads the weekends where they get to be the fun parent, no school, no pickups, no homework.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Could be avoided if parents behaved like grown ups when splitting up and work things out fairly for them and their children, though... But it seems a lot of people forget their children come first, not their mutual hatred.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist The way society expects girls to be polite vs the way women expect men to be polite. Women are raised to be overly polite from childhood. This is a huge disservice to women — their conditioning to be polite can be so strong that it can lead to situations that put their safety in danger.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I once saw a experiment on TV, where the girl stopped saying "thank you" for a whole day. She wasn't being rude at all, was smiling when she felt like it and talking in a normal tone. Whenever her boyfriend gave her a compliment or something, or did something normal like passing the remote control or just normal relationship stuff, she answered him but didn't thank him. and by the end of the day he was absolutely mad at her, for no "real" reason. I think about this sometimes, because I say "thank you"all the time, even when it's not "my turn" to say it but men don't say "thank you" half as much, and it's totally okay.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist I carried my baby for 9 months and birthed her, and yet she has my husband's last name.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Why do we say "grow a pair" or "get some balls" when referring to a situation where someone needs to be strong or tough?

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist If you're a woman and you're walking anywhere, and there's a man coming at you, they'll expect you to move to accommodate them, they won't do it for you. I started playing a little game where I don't move for the man, and the amount of times they've run into me, because they expected me to move, is actually insane.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I call bs. I'm a woman and I've noticed that it's usually the women who won't move

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist It's normalized to ask a woman "when are you expecting to have kids?". Would you ask that if I was a man? When corportations hire women, they usually anticipate that they're going to take a maternity leave and this is considered a due cost for them, and this is something that people use to justify the pay gap.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Illegal to ask in Germany - but from a natural perspective logical. Men can work while their partners are pregnant, a woman needs time before birth for savety reasons and recovery time after giving birth.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Drinking. Everytime I order a whiskey on the rocks, men look at me like "really, you like whiskey?" Where does it say that girls are only allowed to drink wine or sangrias, and if she likes stronger drinks, she's trying to be something that she's not. And even with roles reversed, why are guys not allowed to order fruity drinks, how does that make him less of a man?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who the fck gives this much thought to other people's opinions, anyway? I drink whisky and the one time someone pointed it out, I replied "are we making a list of all the drinks we orderdered?' and that was it.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist I'd have to say gift giving. Presents from "mom and dad", but the dad has no idea what's in them because mom bought them.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's not sexist- your partner is lazy ass if they can't be bothered to shop for their own kids.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Our fathers walking us down the aisle whenever we get married, because that comes from a time when women were considered property. The father is giving his property away to a new man, because now the woman is supposed to be the husband's property. I feel like that should've been done with when women got rights, it's not cute. I'm not doing that.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have no issue with the idea of my dad walking down the aisle with me. However, I would not include the line "who gives this woman to this man".

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Monika Rhodes
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I absolutely loved when my dad walked me from the car. And that had nothing to do with changing 'ownership'. It was nice to have him by my side and walk with me. My mum died earlier that year but I'd have both of them in the car if she was alive.

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Ray Heap
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I gave my daughter away, she herself chose me, and it was the proudest moment of my life. Why on earth would you want to change that?

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Stille20
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's just a tradition. Yes, it is old and from another time.... as most traditions are. Most people see it as the support of a parent and I would have had my mother there too but she passed away before my wedding.

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Andrew Thompson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was at one wedding where the groom came came down the aisle at the beginning of the processional with his mother and father. The bride came down the aisle at the end of the processional with her parents. The parents on both sides gave their child to the other. This showed both support and equality in my mind.

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Carrie DeHaven
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's how my husband and I did it. I loved having all our parents be a part of the ceremony.

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Penny Kemper
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's just a tradition if you don't like it don't do it. Plus there are a lot of girls without dads.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s not what it means to people now. My father has been a big part of my life and I want to share that moment with him.

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Dillon Hughes
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Head of house, to protect. It was his responsibility, now the husbands. If she is in a burning building he now has to go get her.

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Robert Thompson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is fine. Don't swap your dad's name for your husband's either. Also, don't do the $5,000 dress. If a $75 rented tux is good enough for your equal partner, then a dress (cough,... sexist) of equal value is good enough for you.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

bride should be able to choose , if she wants that at all

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Steve Ramaekers
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Misunderstood. It’s not about property. See my explanation and on above item.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

hmmm if I can find my father I dont think he would hand me off to my gf

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Allan Breum
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Another outdated tradition, when it commes to the marriage ceremony: The best man. His job, orginally, was to literally fight off anyone trying to kidnap her to marry her themselves...

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do want my dad to walk me down the aisle. Not to give me away but because I just want that moment with my dad. To me it's more about accepting my man into our family 😊 when my ex asked my dad if he could propose to me he just told him ''you have to ask her, that's her choice not mine.'' 😄 but I know that with this one my dad would hug him at the alter and say she's you problem now, good luck 😆

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was talking to my grandma about wedding vows (idk why but I was) and I said that when I get married I’m not gonna have “obey” in my wedding vows. She got all mad at me. I asked why she’s mad and she said “the Bible says you are to obey your husband so you should have obey in your vows!” Like first of all, I’m bisexual, so it’s not guaranteed that I will marry a man. Second, if I do marry a man, he doesn’t own me, he doesn’t control me and I don’t have to “obey him” I’m not a piece of property. And third, why does she think she has the right to tell me what my wedding vows should be? Sorry for ranting I just needed to vent bc I’m angry.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I have a Christian wedding, I'm moonwalking down the aisle in a hoodie and leggings. My groom or bride will be wearing a onesie. Dress code for the reception will be bunny slippers.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was getting married, my father had already died. My brother offered to take my down the aisle and was offended when I told him my husband and I wished to walk in holding hands.

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Lulu Lemons
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I want dad to walk me down the aisle despite this tradition, but I want mum to walk me down at the same time

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Mark Howell
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my wife and I got married, I had my sister as best-woman, bad idea when I heard the speech ;o)

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You know what’s outdated BS? Asking my PARENTS for permission to ask ME if I want to marry him. Somebody tried it once; they just stared at him and said “why are you asking US?” Obviously, that relationship was a non-starter.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And guess what it appears that numerous woman like this tradition

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm soooo glad we don't have that tradition in Sweden.

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Rukkia
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had my father walk me down the aisle, but not to give me away. I wanted my father to be a part of the ceremony and be by my side. My husband had his mother walk him down the aisle as well. Then our mother were the ones to sign our marriage license. Everyone should do what makes them happy.

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Kirt Carson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The courts still see women as property that must be maintained after divorce. Do away with this. Men should not have to pay alimony if things don't work out. Child support, co-parenting and such, but no property maintenance payments.

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TheartfulDutchGinger
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Its not common to do that here. Walk with your dad down the aisle. We also don't ask '' who gives this woman to this man''. Though I would have loved to have my dad walk with me. Or dance with me when I got married. Unfortunately he died when i was 18.

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Jeanne Hobbie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had both my parents do this (as did my husband.) They loved being included this way (and it was very poignant for me, as my did was well into his Alzheimer's , but still was very present for the wedding)....I was married at, shall we say, an advanced age, and in no way did I feel they were giving me away; it was just a wonderful way to include them in the ceremony.

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Adriaan Verhelle
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To balance this, in Belgium, it is also the mother who walks the groom down the aisle in a classical wedding. So I've never experienced this tradition as sexist since it goes both ways. It is just a symbol of the parent now handing over the care to the partner-to-be.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I want my mother to walk me down the aisle one day. Will it upset my stepdad? Probably. But my mom has been the one constant throughout all of my life, where my father figure at any given time was inconstant. It’s less about the parent giving me away and more about them walking me down the road into the next chapter of my life. That’s just my opinion

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The Dave
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or maybe your dad was your protector and he's handing you off to someone else to be your protector. It's all about perception. If you wanna be Negative Nancy, go right ahead.

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Katarina Stojic
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my country bride and groom enter the church together. I guess its a western/catholic thing, which I personally find cute but if that would be a thing in my country I think it would be nice to have both parents to walk with the bride not just one.

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Leila Orozco Francis
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The minister at my wedding asked and my father's response was "Her mother and I"

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Tammy Ralph
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even though that is how it started out I think now it's just more of a tradition, a lot of brides want their father to walk them down the aisle.

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Leslie Burleson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It was more a symbol to me of leaving my parents' homes and creating one of my own with my husband. Both parents walked me down the aisle and "gave me away". To me it's more symbolic of leaving childhood with my family entrusting the love and care of me to this person

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GaeFrog
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also why do you have to ask the father for her hand in marriage? When usually they don't do any of the parenting and the moms usually love their kids more anyway

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Suzanne Haigh
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tradition at wedding time, that is all. Most women would be upset if this did not happen

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Guido Pisano
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Now you can wait your bride outside and get in church with her without her dad. Me and wifevdid that way

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Marianne
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is not a tradition where I come from. However, as with all traditions, it depends on what meaning you give to it.

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M O'Connell
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At least there isn't anymore haggling over how many cattle and good blankets come with her.

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Xottel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why not choose both parents to walk you down the aisle? That way you could keep the tradition but without the symbolism.

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Thorfin Wolfsbane
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I got to say - weddings exist solely because women. If it were up to men, weddings would be 3 minutes, CHEAP, and there'd be about 4 people in attendance with everyone wearing jeans and t-shirts. Women are the adamant ones for their "perfect wedding".

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Melvin Dragvelk
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Then don't. If you hate your Dad that much don't even invite him to the wedding. It isn't giving away his property, it is saying goodbye to his daughter and trusting you with your husband that he will treat you right.

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Yes. Either changing the owner if the property or setting her free to join the family of the broom, you decide

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Absolutely dumb, like most wedding rituals and whichever idiotic religion they come from... But it doesn't affect me at all, since I will never do any of that crap anyway

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witchling
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gotta say I never cooked a damn thing for thanksgiving dinner. Group of 30. Husband did all of it. I did clean up. We had a house rule. One cooks the other cleans.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because female gamers are non-existant? How sheltered are these people?

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Eslamala
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In what century were you raised?? This hasn't been the norm for a lot of women in a lot of different countries for at least a few decades...

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's unusual for sure, but are women who do this actually looked down on? I've never met anyone who'd think that.

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