Everyone is entitled to their dietary preferences. But it becomes a problem when other people must go too much out of their way to accommodate these preferences and feel that their effort is taken for granted.
Just like this woman, whose vegan niece constantly demands that her aunt cook her vegan food, even though the aunt’s whole household is full of dairy lovers.
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How to accept a vegan into your family, which cannot live without animal-based products?
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The woman lets her niece live in her home but draws a line at becoming her vegan chef against her will
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Aunt loses it and tells niece to cook her own food, niece gets extremely upset and tells her mother that she’s expected to fend for herself
A woman, the OP, as well as her husband and children live in a different city from the rest of her family. And so, the woman was asked to shelter her niece for a while, who has started college in that city. She agreed.
There weren’t many problems with the niece, whom the OP in the post called Kate. Except for one – food. More specifically, her being vegan. The OP’s family is obsessed with dairy. And so, usually, their meals in one way or another include it or any other non-vegan food. That meant that Kate needed separate dishes anytime they wanted to cook anything non-vegan.
Since vegan products are much more expensive, the OP asked Kate’s mother (the sister of the OP) to give her money so Kate could buy them. But Kate’s mother refused to do so. Kate started buying all the products from her pocket money. But the cooking was still done by the aunt.
And she didn’t like that she had to make two versions of every meal: vegan and non-vegan. So, she snapped and told Kate she could cook for herself.
Then, when the aunt had a barbeque dinner with friends, the niece ate salad. The salad was meant to have chicken added to it. So, without chicken, it was very basic. And the niece got upset over the fact that she had nothing else to eat but the basic salad. The OP repeated that she could cook for herself, which made her niece even more upset.
Kate called her mom and complained about how the aunt didn’t give her any good meals. And that she’s expected to fend for herself. The mother called the OP to yell about how her daughter is not loved enough and is intentionally excluded. This prompted the woman to write on Reddit to ask who was in the wrong here.
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And while we don’t know why the girl from the story turned vegan, we do know the most common reasons why people turn vegan.
First, plant-based diets have a lot of health benefits. For example, doctors recommend starting such diets for people who struggle with heart disease, high blood pressure, or diabetes. Also, some protein from animal-based products, like red meat, have questionable effects on health. So some people tend to avoid it by basing their diet on plants. Others don’t believe humans need animal sources of food to survive at all.
Then, others just worry about animal welfare or even are disgusted by the idea of eating living things. Or they worry about the environment and what effect a non-vegan diet has on it. While some just have a preference for not eating meat or dairy products.
While, as we said, the reason for the girl’s diet is not clear, what is clear is that netizens think of her as a jerk. Most people online decided that the girl was quite spoiled. After all, her aunt is not her private chef. Plus, she’s an adult and can cook for herself. Some even wondered what she would do if she had to live in the dorm.
What would you do if you were in the OP’s place?
“What would she do in the dorm?”: folks online fully support the aunt’s reaction to her niece’s behavior
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Guess it’s time for the niece to move out of her aunt’s house and into the dorms. No free rent, as her parents will have to pay for her dorm room, plus her special meals—-she’ll have to find out if the cafeteria even serves them. Sister pawning off all her kid’s expenses on OP, while saving on dorm and cafeteria fees at the college. OP should send the kid home 10 minutes go. F**k around and find out—-both the sister and her entitled brat.
Exactly. If you’re going to adopt an expensive, difficult and time-consuming diet, you shouldn’t expect anyone else to shop/cook for you for free on their limited time off, especially if they’re already housing you for free. I could never, I’d be so ashamed. Some people are so entitled, I get second-hand-embarrassment from stories like this.
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As the wife of a vegan (our kids and I are meat eaters) I will say this as well, 1) she is definitely old enough to cook for herself and 2) she is also absolutely able to shop for herself. My husband decided to go vegan AFTER marriage and I told him that I absolutely supported him and absolutely REFUSED to cook 2 separate meals. I do cook some vegan things, chili, soups and such. Even prepare huge salads for all of us to enjoy but he definitely doesn't expect it of me daily. Also, when we eat at others homes, we provide food for him and DO NOT expect the host family to do ANYTHING for us! Op's entire family is out of line, imo, and need to have a reality check!
I'm a fairly strict vegetarian (except I don't check the sources of cheese to see if they use animal or veggie rennet as that just got overwhelming when I was younger) and also allergic to tofu or most soy-based meat substitutes. As such, meat eaters usually find it hard to accommodate me. All I ask is like, if they're making loaded potatoes, please keep one aside for me. If they're making salad, please keep one bowl without meat. Beyond that? I'll handle myself!! I can't fathom all of this. It blows my mind that my in-laws work really hard to accommodate me, but they're used to having varied and sundry food restrictions in the family.
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Guess it’s time for the niece to move out of her aunt’s house and into the dorms. No free rent, as her parents will have to pay for her dorm room, plus her special meals—-she’ll have to find out if the cafeteria even serves them. Sister pawning off all her kid’s expenses on OP, while saving on dorm and cafeteria fees at the college. OP should send the kid home 10 minutes go. F**k around and find out—-both the sister and her entitled brat.
Exactly. If you’re going to adopt an expensive, difficult and time-consuming diet, you shouldn’t expect anyone else to shop/cook for you for free on their limited time off, especially if they’re already housing you for free. I could never, I’d be so ashamed. Some people are so entitled, I get second-hand-embarrassment from stories like this.
Load More Replies... As the wife of a vegan (our kids and I are meat eaters) I will say this as well, 1) she is definitely old enough to cook for herself and 2) she is also absolutely able to shop for herself. My husband decided to go vegan AFTER marriage and I told him that I absolutely supported him and absolutely REFUSED to cook 2 separate meals. I do cook some vegan things, chili, soups and such. Even prepare huge salads for all of us to enjoy but he definitely doesn't expect it of me daily. Also, when we eat at others homes, we provide food for him and DO NOT expect the host family to do ANYTHING for us! Op's entire family is out of line, imo, and need to have a reality check!
I'm a fairly strict vegetarian (except I don't check the sources of cheese to see if they use animal or veggie rennet as that just got overwhelming when I was younger) and also allergic to tofu or most soy-based meat substitutes. As such, meat eaters usually find it hard to accommodate me. All I ask is like, if they're making loaded potatoes, please keep one aside for me. If they're making salad, please keep one bowl without meat. Beyond that? I'll handle myself!! I can't fathom all of this. It blows my mind that my in-laws work really hard to accommodate me, but they're used to having varied and sundry food restrictions in the family.
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